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New Zealand journalism legend Guyon Espiner || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey

March 12, 202359:40
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welcome oh thank you very much great
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setup here it's good to be here hey
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thank you very much this is probably um
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this is just in a spare room in my
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apartment but um I was thinking it's
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probably flashier than the radio New
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Zealand it was well flash
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we don't have ceiling fans for a start
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let alone mics that look like this yeah
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um now a lot of people will be like I've
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never heard of Guyana East spinner
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before there's a lot of people have to
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be listening that'll be like fizzing to
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get to see another side of you I'd
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imagine
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um but for anyone that doesn't know guy
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and he's been a like a journalism Legend
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in New Zealand worked for Sunday start
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times for a number of years q a
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breakfast 60 Minutes Radio New Zealand
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host of morning report for a number of
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years and a reputation has a tough
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interviewer oh there's a bit of that and
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I'm on the receiving end today though
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how do you I wanted to ask how do you
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how do you find that because I'm um you
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and I are very similar in in the
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respects of our age
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um our love of running and we both have
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a radio background a lot of very very
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different arms of radio I'm from music
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radio where it was basically a career
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built on fart jokes and you're from a
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more serious side where you were holding
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politicians to task but how do you I I
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hate being on the receiving end I feel
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incredibly uncomfortable and uh exposed
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and vulnerable yeah I um I don't mind
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being being interviewed
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um and you know we're talking about some
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of my favorite subjects today running
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and myself
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so you know I'm feeling pretty good mate
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no no no but I suppose like what I mean
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is um
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um like I suppose the the side of radio
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I came from
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um in order to make a connection with
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the audience it was important that you
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gave more of yourself away so they felt
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like they know you whereas yours is
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almost completely different to the point
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where you put a tweet out if you a tweet
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or a Facebook status update a few years
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ago talking about your type 1 diabetes
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diagnosis and it was it was very very um
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stoic it was sort of like I don't want
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to make a big deal about this and I just
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want to move on but I'm away because
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I've got diabetes it was almost felt
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like that was overshearing for you yeah
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that's an interesting thing I've
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forgotten about um putting that out back
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in the day it's been about four years
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since I was diagnosed with type 1
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diabetes
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um yeah I guess um at rnz there is a a
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tendency to be a bit more sort of
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austere about those things I used to
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sort of joke that you weren't allowed to
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give your opinion about whether you're a
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Vegemite or a Marmite fan and you can go
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over the top with the sort of
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objectivity stuff and I think that
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that's um that's loosening away I think
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in in the in the modern area there is
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just more and more that you you have to
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share people it's speak to and should
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get a sense of who you are and where
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you're coming from I think this idea
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that you are somehow above everything is
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you know is is old-fashioned and just
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wrong so yeah no I'm I'm I'm happy to
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talk about most most elements of my life
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yeah I I almost elements interesting
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yeah well any of them really I'll throw
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that throw that Gauntlet down I'm I'm
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pretty much happy to talk about
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everything although I did qualify that
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again didn't I I must have been talking
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to those politicians too long I always
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leaving myself a bit of a door open a
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little Outlaws so um the podcast is
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called Runners only with dom Harvey and
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um I know that you've got a relationship
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with running and it's been there you're
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a non-drinker now you gave up drinking a
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few years ago you've got a book about
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that called the drinking game which
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we'll get into
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um but running's always been a part of
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even when you were drinking was always
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part of your life oh yeah yeah that's
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right where did it start about 03 2003 I
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um in the early 30s yeah I've broken up
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from a long-term relationship I had been
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with this girl for like 12 years and my
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mother had just recently died and so I
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was living a line I had a lot of time on
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my hands Karen Dan who you might know
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from Morning Report on xtv NZ said oh
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why don't you run around the Bays um in
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in Wellington's about seven K's and I
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thought I could give this a shot and
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really enjoyed it and then I got into
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running half marathons and then four
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marathons Rotorua 05 I think was my
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first marathon and I did 19 full
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competitive marathons including some
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Ultras and stuff uh over the years and
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I'm still running half marathons today
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it's it's half the distance but um I I
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run five times a week just 10ks I shot
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you know so I run most days and um yeah
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got the Waterfront marathon coming up in
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April so oh amazing is it the half
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marathon yeah yeah right all flat and
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fast apparently are you are you like um
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goal fixated when it comes to times and
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things or not I've sort of reset the
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clock a bit after getting type 1
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diabetes because it's a bit of a bit of
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a chemistry experiment every day with
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with this condition and running is both
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a really good means to help control it
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but also uh presents its own challenges
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so I'm sort of allowing myself a
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personal best post-diabetes time because
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I've reset the clock on what was what
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were your um I don't really like getting
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into times with people on this because I
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find it's intense
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and I never forget them I I manage 129
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twice before
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um type one I did the Auckland half last
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year yeah it was last year wasn't it
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like October was it
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um in 145 which I was pretty happy with
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at uh 51. five minute k-pace yeah it's
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all right it's you know it's uh not
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gonna challenge the Olympic sports
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that's right um so the uh so the type 1
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diabetes what does that mean exactly
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yeah so we're insulin dependent
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diabetics so you got two types of
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diabetes type two is the most common one
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and that's really it's really a disease
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of obesity right it's and we've got an
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epidemic of it New Zealand type one is
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an autoimmune disease and you wake up
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one day and you realize that your
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pancreas isn't producing any insulin so
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we need to inject insulin to stay alive
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we need to do that about five times a
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day and we need to keep our blood sugars
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within a certain sort of range otherwise
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you're going to get complications so
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look it's completely manageable in that
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you can do every other aspect of your
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life you're not allowed to fly
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commercially you're not allowed to dive
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you're not allowed to join the military
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none of which I want to do none of which
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I'll be any good at so it hasn't really
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interfered too much with my life if I
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still run I still enjoy enjoy my life
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and as I say if you manage it well
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um you can live a good life but it is a
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bit of a challenge yeah five times a day
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that's that's intense yeah yeah it is I
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suppose it's like you're in a you I mean
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you're a grown man when you got it so
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you're more like emotionally equipped to
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deal with it I guess I think that's a
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very good point I mean most commonly
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they used to call it juvenile onset
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diabetes and most common age of onset's
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about seven years old it is mainly um
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comes on and childhood for most people
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um and should that be hard you know
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because you want to eat melee pus and
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eat jelly beans and stuff and sugar high
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sugar diets pretty much out so I'm
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pretty much a keto diet guy now pretty
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much sugar-free
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um along with alcohol-free so there's a
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few things I've given up in recent years
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well actually I sent you a text just
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earlier saying do you want a coffee on
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arrival and um use your exact wording
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was something like um a long black is my
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poison which is a interesting phrasing
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because um you know poison alcohol is a
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poison and it's the same well yeah
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that's right and that's what you used to
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say it's not a what's your poison and um
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yeah it is a poison
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um but um yeah we've learned to process
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it over the years and I did get into
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some of that in in the book yeah so so
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your
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um decision to give up alcohol was there
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anything to do with like the sugar
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quantity and wine and the diabetes no I
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wasn't I kept drinking for about a year
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pretty pretty hard out after I had uh
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diagnosed with type 1 and um so it
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there's a weird connection though in
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that quite early when I got the type 1
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diagnosis I decided to go down the
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sugar-free uh path which is effectively
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people know it as a keto diet but it
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means avoiding all sorts of breads
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um rice most processed foods right so I
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cut out sugar completely so when about a
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year later I wake up with another
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hangover on a Sunday morning and said to
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myself this is it I'm stopping drinking
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right now
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I felt I knew that I had the power to do
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that because I'd given up sugar which is
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no easy feat it's not just talking about
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sugar as we associate it and we're
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talking about all carbohydrates so it's
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quite doable but quite a big change and
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so knowing that I had the discipline to
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do that and to make a decision decision
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and stick to it I think helped me and I
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just did decide that Sunday morning to
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stop drinking and didn't go to any you
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know AAA or anything like that not that
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I'm um dissing those those things no I
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mean that's that's all cool and people
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have heaps of different types of issues
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with alcohol you know it's pretty rich
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tapestry in terms of um what issues
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people face but I did know in my head
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that I had the power and discipline to
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stop doing that and I think the
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adjustments to diet after diabetes were
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yeah it gave me the feeling that I had
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the strength to do it
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so what was um what was the moment like
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you said you wake up on a Sunday morning
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with a hangover and just decided that
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that was um that was enough
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um so there was there was no Rock Bottom
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moment there was no incident was it
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boredom no it was more the fact that I
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never had the off switch with alcohol
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and I never did from the age of about 14
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or 15.
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um and I like a lot of kiwi guys you
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know so I was born in 1970 so the mid
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80s we started drinking at 14 15 and we
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get drunk every weekend and I did that
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till my late 40s you know and every
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every weekend some people sort of grow
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out of it after University I
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um I'd always get drunk in the weekend
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that's what you did unless I had a
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marathon the next day they were the and
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you know so two times a year I wouldn't
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get drunk on a weekend you know and yeah
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the the the the price of the wine
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um went up over the years you know and
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you thought you were more sophisticated
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possibly but um the patterns that had
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been set and trained in those mid
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teenage years didn't change and and and
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when I say I woke up with a hangover
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probably a little more than that I woke
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up again having forgotten what happened
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the night before and man I did that so
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many times you know so I I never did
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anything crazy like oh you know I
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crashed a car or you know had that sort
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of movie style Rock Bottom moment I just
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had
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probably hundreds of times in my
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drinking career where I couldn't tell
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you what happened after nine o'clock at
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night and and it was and that Sunday
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morning was the same it was a dinner
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party a few people over
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um my wife at the time said that I
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didn't hadn't done anything too silly or
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said anything too bad but I was just
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like again I I had blackouts which
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sounds scary but a lot of people have
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them a lot of drinkers you talk to go oh
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no I don't have blackouts but they they
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don't remember what they told you the
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night before so they they have got parts
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of the parts of it missing and I just
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think I just thought man I I I I I've
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given up
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um
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excuses for myself and strategies to to
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mitigate it I went to all these oh look
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I'll just try drinking lower alcohol
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beer till nine o'clock and then I'll go
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on the beers or I'll cut out red wine
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because that's none of these strategies
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worked for 35 years and so I just had
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had to realize that I'm someone who
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alcohol doesn't suit me you know and I
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had
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um and I had some great times with and
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this is the thing in the book this is
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not a preachy book about not about don't
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drink alcohol and the evils of alcohol
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that's why it's hard because it's so
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great too right I had some amazing
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moments with alcohol it's so entrenched
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and ingrained in just about everything
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we do this is why I wanted to have a
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look at it because it's so woven into
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the fabric of Our Lives of course it's
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not if it was just evil you know if it
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had the reputation of pee it'd be very
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different be black and white but it's
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not it doesn't have that stigma it
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doesn't and that's why I thought and
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people do think oh look I can keep going
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all my mates do it oh I walk outside and
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I see the ad for it oh it's time it's
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wine o'clock now do you want to catch up
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for a beer hey nice to meet you mate um
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it's all in that culture so you kind of
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feel [ __ ] I'm an outlier I'm I'm weird
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if I don't drink and you do get made to
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feel like that when you don't drink and
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this is why I wanted to have a look at
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it not because it's evil in fact almost
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the opposite because it's so entrenched
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in our lives that I thought it's really
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worth put you you almost do need to pull
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back and that's what you do when you
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don't drink you realize [ __ ] this is
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this is really full of yeah this is a
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big part of our Lives yeah actually it's
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it's a really good book so you
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intertwine some of your personal stories
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and experiences along with um just
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laying out the facts and uh
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um the liquor industry it really does
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get an alarming free pass doesn't it oh
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it amazingly does you know I mean it's
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the only industry that doesn't have to
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tell you what's in the in their product
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apart from apart from the alcohol like
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there's no calorie warnings there's no
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well there are warnings coming in for
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for drinking while pregnant there's no
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cancer warning imagine the tobacco
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companies getting away with that I mean
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the evidence that's emerging now is that
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there is pretty strong links with
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different types of cancer not for not
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for small amounts of alcohol but there
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is a real link there and so the
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regulation on the Alcohol industry is
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they must be laughing all the way to the
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back your journey sounds um sounds very
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very similar to mine so I'm a few years
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um younger than you um I'm still
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drinking but I feel like I'm almost at
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that Crossroads in life where I'm you
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know I've been reading a lot about it
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listening to some Dr Andrew huberman and
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reading your book and some other
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literature and I'm almost ready to
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why don't I break up with it but I'm
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still experimenting with that thing that
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you talked about before that doesn't
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work like not drinking Monday to
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Thursday or not drinking when I'm home
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alone just when I'm with other people
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um but and also like you I'm a very very
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good Drinker like I don't turn obnoxious
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I don't make it make an absolute ass of
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myself I'm not violent so can I ask you
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a question yeah absolutely so why would
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you stop drinking then
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what worries you about I'm worried about
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the health effects yeah okay yeah yeah
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like I can easily get through like a
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bottle of wine like no trouble I'd never
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drive after it I'm still
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um I still yeah I I would yeah I just
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never drive or do anything foolish like
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that but I don't feel like drunk after
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it do you know what I mean I do yeah
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because you build up the tolerance over
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the years
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um you know I was going to say like if
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you enjoy if you enjoy it and you are
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able to moderate it I'd still be
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drinking if I could do that I would be
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um and I don't certainly make any
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judgments about people who do continue
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to do so I will say I I wanted to know
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people to know though that you can live
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a good life without alcohol because it
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seems such a major thing to do in in
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this country
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um but I think we are changing to some
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to some degree but I don't know like to
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we are similar ages I mean if you go
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back to your high school sort of years I
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mean
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pretty weird for someone not to drink
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hey oh completely weird and and could
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you even have made it through I I don't
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think so I think it's easy actually I
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had David Seymour on the podcast a
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couple of weeks ago and he had a couple
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of years of um sobriety just before the
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recent election and so this is like four
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or five years ago whatever and he said
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he'd go to a bar and ask for a
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non-alcoholic drink and they said the
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bartender would look at you like he's
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got a penis like growing out of his ear
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the same thing happens to me at times
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you know the way it's a bit better now
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but sometimes you can go into a place
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and uh roll their eyes when you ask for
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a diet cake
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um which is really really weird or I
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have friends who say yeah I've had that
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and and I'm just like well you're
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wasting your time why are you in a bar
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see I love going to bars still I love
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pubs I've worked in pubs I love pubs and
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and and some people say oh do you still
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go out what do you mean you know what am
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I supposed to stay at home now that I
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don't drink alcohol you wouldn't stay
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out as late would you I go out to gigs I
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love it I love going to music and going
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out to gigs yeah yeah you don't you
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don't do the 4 a.m nights no you don't
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but but easily nothing good happens
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after no no that's the thing um and so
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yeah I mean I I'm really enjoying going
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out and and I love socializing
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um and the idea that you you have to
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have alcohol to do that just isn't true
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um and and that's a big part of where
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the advertising and the culture of it
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comes into it
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um which is so ingrained and and I get
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into that stuff too yeah it's it's hard
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for um I think men are actually just
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people our age because we were swimming
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in the same sort of waters in the 1990s
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and that's when it was a badge of honor
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if someone could hold their purse
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absolutely and it's amazing the free the
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free pass and what what people would
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would just write off to alcohol hey I
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mean I I I never talk about other
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people's drinking because I think that's
00:15:53
their story but Jesus you should have
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seen some of the some of the nights at
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Parliament some of those parties some of
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the peoples that you would know well the
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the states that they ended up in and the
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things that people said I mean just
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unbelievable you get away with it
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because it's just oh well you know it's
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it's you know it happens on tour stays
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on to us sort of stuff I mean it's quite
00:16:11
amazing you say you never talk about any
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one of those parliamentary circles but
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you're working the same time as Petra
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Gower I guess who's um now alcohol free
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surely you can share stories about him
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yeah um I mean being petty we're in the
00:16:23
gallery together I've probably got to
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know Patty a bit better over the over
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the years after the gallery and it was
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more me and Duncan Garner who was his
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boss at the time and that we we do I do
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tell a story about drinking with John
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Key Duncan and I are going out for a
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night with John Key just before he
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became prime minister and having a big
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night with him and and I'll get into
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that in the book because a lot of the
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socializing a lot of the content
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building a lot of the relationships were
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built around alcohol we we had 3.2 which
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was the third floor of the Beehive that
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was the the pub
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um and yeah you'd go in there it'd be
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you know Winston to be at the bar you
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know people would be smoking cigars and
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drinking lots of alcohol and those were
00:17:02
how relationships were formed that's how
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how business was done and it would have
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been we were talking just before about
00:17:07
could you have made it through high
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school and I don't reckon you could have
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been a popular kid
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um not in my day no way you know
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basically there were two excuses for not
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drinking one was being pregnant
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um I can't remember what the other one
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was but but
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um you know it's certainly none of them
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applied to me
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um and it would have been seriously held
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back um in terms of relationship
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building when I was at Parliament
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without the drinking so yeah you've had
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nights on the bus with Winston Winston's
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notorious right loves it loves it what
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does he drink is his Scotch whiskey yeah
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everything what yeah he doesn't drink
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beer not a beer man no he doesn't drink
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beer wine and whiskey yeah wine and
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whiskey does he still smoke uh he's been
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photographed with the odd diary every
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now and again
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um the last campaign eh
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um so but he's one of those guys who
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just seems to keep rolling I don't know
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I think I think your 50s is sort of like
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sniper Ali-A where stuff can go wrong if
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you get out the other side of that and
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he'd be 75 now I mean I I wouldn't be
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surprised to see him and triple figures
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he'll run a few more times here I don't
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think you'll get him to I don't think
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you'll get him to read my book we've had
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our moments me and Winston and I don't
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think you'll get them to um to give up
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drinking but it seems like everyone's
00:18:21
had their everyone that works and that
00:18:23
sort of environment has had their
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moments with Winston Peters so there's
00:18:26
no love loss between you oh look you
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know it's one of those
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um I think they call it symbiosis and
00:18:31
biology don't they it's one of those
00:18:32
relationships for him and the media he
00:18:34
pretends he hates the media but loves it
00:18:36
and couldn't live without it and the
00:18:38
media pretends they hate Winston and
00:18:40
couldn't live without him right but he's
00:18:41
quite a likable guy generally oh yeah I
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mean his Smiles pretty pretty
00:18:45
unparalleled doesn't it like he can give
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you a full blast and then then give you
00:18:49
that a little wink at the end yeah
00:18:50
that's right and uh he's a master
00:18:52
politician let's let's face it so you
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you did morning radio for five years
00:18:56
yeah so you how did you how did you
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manage that and you're drinking were you
00:19:01
were you not drinking the night before
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almost all the time yes I wasn't
00:19:04
drinking the night before I call myself
00:19:06
in the book of disciplined alcoholic and
00:19:08
it's quite funny because you kind of can
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do that and you were talking a bit about
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your drinking pens even in my biggest
00:19:13
drinking days in the gallery Sunday
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Monday Tuesday night would be
00:19:17
alcohol-free nights Wednesday morning uh
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Wednesday not Wednesday morning never in
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the morning uh Wednesday after work
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you'd be into it you know it'd be a six
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pints half a bottle of wine sort of
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night and then it would escalate there
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Thursday Friday Saturday and then you
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start the thing again so yeah it's
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interesting the signals
00:19:36
um and mindset around this because
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there's a perception that oh look I'm
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not addicted to alcohol I just went
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three days without it well I I went
00:19:44
three days every week just about every
00:19:47
week of my drinking career without
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without it but to do a week without it
00:19:51
or a Friday night and Saturday night and
00:19:54
I would never do that so but yeah I mean
00:19:57
with with morning radio I yeah almost
00:19:59
always we're off the grill but that
00:20:00
would just mean that on the weekends
00:20:02
we're we're bigger and bigger
00:20:04
yeah so you yeah so you did a show
00:20:06
called um Morning Report on um Radio New
00:20:09
Zealand which is uh it's not the
00:20:11
government
00:20:12
so you play no way it's the government
00:20:13
station right yeah it's publicly it's
00:20:15
publicly I I I do bristle a little bit
00:20:17
the government station but um I know
00:20:19
what you mean yeah but you're right in
00:20:21
the sense that it's yeah it's owned by
00:20:22
The public's own by by you and I and and
00:20:24
we and we paid the Texas side but yeah
00:20:26
but it's uh um yes commercial free you
00:20:29
know fairly sort of Fairly sort of
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serious
00:20:32
um sort of show and um yeah when there's
00:20:34
not a lot of fart jokes on it
00:20:37
although some of the responses from
00:20:38
politicians sound a little similar yeah
00:20:40
right so you replaced a guy called Jeff
00:20:42
Robinson had been doing that role for 39
00:20:44
years yeah that's right so what year was
00:20:46
that that you started 2014. okay so
00:20:48
social media was the thing it wasn't
00:20:49
what it is now but it was still a thing
00:20:51
how was that you must have been um oh
00:20:53
you get smashed
00:20:54
on Twitter yeah yeah every time you
00:20:57
every time you attack someone especially
00:20:58
from the left because I'm pretty equal
00:21:00
opportunities Basher you know I'd bash
00:21:03
the right best left you know I'm pretty
00:21:05
you know I don't have any any qualms
00:21:07
either way but um did find that if you
00:21:09
got stuck into a politician from the
00:21:11
left side of the train tracks and
00:21:12
Twitter would come down on you like a
00:21:14
like a ton of bricks uh because it's it
00:21:16
is pretty slanted in that sense
00:21:18
um it was pretty much sworn off Twitter
00:21:20
nowadays I don't know about you but the
00:21:21
social very negative yeah social media
00:21:23
says so negative yeah yeah Instagram's a
00:21:25
bit more positive but it's um it's
00:21:28
mainly sort of women telling other women
00:21:30
how beautiful they are so it doesn't
00:21:31
really help a lot of appeal many of whom
00:21:35
are but um yeah I've sort of sworn off
00:21:39
the um sworn off the social media so was
00:21:41
that hard for you like replacing the sky
00:21:43
that was doing the job for 39 years well
00:21:46
we were you
00:21:49
um you know able to sort of see it for
00:21:50
what it is and laugh it off yeah I mean
00:21:52
I think when in there trying to shake
00:21:54
things up a bit
00:21:55
um and I think we did do that
00:21:57
um yeah he had a um a massive Legacy and
00:22:00
following so they were big shoes to fill
00:22:02
in that respect but everyone takes their
00:22:04
own thing into a new job
00:22:06
um and you know the media landscape was
00:22:09
changing quickly then it's changing
00:22:10
quickly now but um you know I know and
00:22:12
said needs needs to move and and has has
00:22:14
moved
00:22:16
um but um yeah that was quite strange
00:22:19
coming in after someone had been there
00:22:21
so long yeah absolutely so also the um
00:22:24
that merger thing with iron seven tvnz
00:22:25
is that off the table that's gone now
00:22:27
yeah that's gone what were your thoughts
00:22:29
I was quite Keen to get up my admits on
00:22:31
their kit you know like I'm on my doco
00:22:33
maker too I've made uh what what brings
00:22:35
us here today really is a documentary
00:22:37
called proof that I made a couple of
00:22:39
years ago which was about the the
00:22:42
drinking story in the liquor industry
00:22:44
and then after that screen on tvnz in
00:22:46
November 2021 Ellen and Unwin rang up
00:22:49
and said hey would you do a book on this
00:22:50
and and so here we are now
00:22:53
um so I've made a couple of
00:22:55
documentaries that have screen on tvnz
00:22:56
but we've made them on very limited
00:22:58
resources and Ireland so I was I was
00:23:00
pretty Keen to to migrate across the
00:23:02
road and into uh and and more pleasant
00:23:06
surroundings and get my mitts on there
00:23:08
um on their kit so that's a bit
00:23:09
disappointing in terms of um you know
00:23:11
the opportunities it it presents but um
00:23:14
yeah it's off the table for now yeah so
00:23:16
you you would have got the chance to
00:23:17
make documentaries with cameras rather
00:23:19
than just shooting on your phone that's
00:23:20
right yeah that's to throw out the old
00:23:21
iPhone 6 hey by the way that's a great
00:23:24
documentary and it's still available on
00:23:25
YouTube if anyone wants to watch it
00:23:28
um so and you also you sort of
00:23:29
introduced our Maori to Radio New
00:23:31
Zealand well that's probably it's it's
00:23:33
funny you say that because um I I kind
00:23:35
of um and you touched on it before about
00:23:37
how yeah I kind of considered myself
00:23:40
this heavy-hitting political interviewer
00:23:42
and stuff and I thought when I went in
00:23:43
to do morning I thought that that's what
00:23:45
I'd be remembered for and I'm gonna give
00:23:46
this death for five years and then see
00:23:47
how we go and the only thing that people
00:23:49
not the only thing but one of the major
00:23:52
thing that people talk to me about is
00:23:54
Maori on on the radio and it had it had
00:23:57
a big impact it's kind of weird looking
00:23:58
back on it now because it was 2017 and
00:24:01
um I married a Maori woman we've got our
00:24:04
daughters Martin she's at a full Rumaki
00:24:06
school so she speaks Maori at school and
00:24:09
I've decided wanted to give her her
00:24:10
language so I better learn it and then
00:24:12
take it from there and as I was learning
00:24:13
I thought well I'll fling this out on
00:24:15
the radio too you know it's an official
00:24:17
language of New Zealand it's a beautiful
00:24:18
language I'm learning it let's flick it
00:24:20
around and it was all kind of there
00:24:23
wasn't a program like people think oh as
00:24:25
rnz social engineering or something it
00:24:27
wasn't that at all it's just me flinging
00:24:29
around others were doing it I took it a
00:24:31
bit further and thought Oh this is cool
00:24:33
I'm going to run with this
00:24:35
um so you're just doing like a couple of
00:24:37
extra words here and there which is um
00:24:38
which just which is everywhere initially
00:24:40
yeah and then we went um as I learned
00:24:43
more and more by the time I'd finished
00:24:45
we did you know full interviews in Maori
00:24:47
but we'd translate the same time so
00:24:49
you'd flung a line out and then you'd
00:24:50
translate it um and use both the
00:24:52
languages so yeah as I got beta at it
00:24:55
and I'm still no expert by any means
00:24:57
some intermediate sort of speaker but um
00:25:00
as I got better I'd try and share what I
00:25:02
was what I was learning but listening
00:25:04
now yeah it's um it's everywhere which
00:25:07
is really cool yeah it's a six o'clock
00:25:08
news at the beginning of the sports well
00:25:10
at home yeah I suppose you you um not
00:25:13
that you're going to give yourself a pat
00:25:14
on the back but um you deserve some of
00:25:16
the credit for that I guess being a
00:25:18
Trailblazer in a way we did we were
00:25:19
early Runners on it I think this had to
00:25:21
deny that yeah so no one in management
00:25:23
tried to stop you you just said there
00:25:26
was a few um I think there was a few uh
00:25:29
knee wobbling moments when because you
00:25:32
got you got a lot of feedback piling and
00:25:34
at one point Don Brash got really upset
00:25:36
about it as he does I respect on on the
00:25:39
economy I don't respect his views a lot
00:25:41
on Maori issues but you know that's his
00:25:44
thing
00:25:45
um and and he's entitled to his opinion
00:25:46
I'm a big believer in in free speech he
00:25:49
he smashed into me
00:25:51
um and people were starting to put
00:25:52
police releases out and there were lots
00:25:54
of op-eds and stuff people there was
00:25:56
quite a reaction you know and it wasn't
00:25:57
overwhelmingly positive it's only you
00:25:59
know only 2017 but it's not long ago but
00:26:02
there was a lot of
00:26:03
um
00:26:04
a lot of negative reaction too and I
00:26:06
think there were some um who were
00:26:09
starting to waver a little bit but they
00:26:11
never said they never said look stop
00:26:12
doing it or anything like that and then
00:26:14
after a while
00:26:16
um they started to to encourage it and
00:26:18
nowadays we've got you know training
00:26:20
there's training sessions there's all
00:26:22
that sort of stuff all behind it now and
00:26:24
there's a bit more of an organized
00:26:25
program whereas I was just sort of kind
00:26:26
of flinging it around quite a lot it's
00:26:28
not a bad Legacy though is it
00:26:30
no it's not and I'm actually quite proud
00:26:32
of it you know I am yeah that's cool
00:26:35
um you mentioned before something about
00:26:36
your mum you lost your mum at a
00:26:38
relatively early age I guess like 30-ish
00:26:40
yeah that's right early 30s um she died
00:26:42
at 68
00:26:44
um of cancer effectively she had a bad
00:26:46
cancer and then she had had heart issues
00:26:49
as well and so she died in 2001 so yeah
00:26:52
more than 30 years ago now well how was
00:26:55
that how was that at that age and stage
00:26:57
of Life yeah pretty still quite still
00:26:58
quite even though you're a man it's
00:26:59
still quite a young age to lose your
00:27:01
mother it's a good point and I think
00:27:02
that's right and um that's where the
00:27:04
running started in man yeah and I'd be
00:27:07
running I remember you know you and it's
00:27:09
a funny thing with running I don't know
00:27:10
whether you get this I mean but like you
00:27:13
know sometimes I'd run you know 40ks
00:27:15
plus and I'd be CR I'd just start crying
00:27:18
after in in the 30s mid-30s case and
00:27:21
it's just like you just start crying and
00:27:23
and it's like where did it come from it
00:27:25
must be something chemical in your brain
00:27:27
which starts to release stuff like that
00:27:28
and it's not because you thinking of
00:27:31
anything in particular it's just like
00:27:33
here it was just um break your walls
00:27:35
down yeah and um it's great thinking
00:27:37
time and and I got quite seen like about
00:27:39
running in that still wire run a run for
00:27:42
um I ran for my head rather than my hat
00:27:44
you know and um still do that and I find
00:27:47
it's my um I find I work through a lot
00:27:49
of problems you know even like
00:27:53
um you know barriers to a story I'm
00:27:55
writing or like oh I could do it this
00:27:56
way
00:27:58
um and you know and emotional stuff so
00:28:00
you know
00:28:01
um yeah I think it's a really good thing
00:28:03
for mental health but that was yeah that
00:28:04
was um it was a big part of why I
00:28:07
started running long distance big part
00:28:08
of it yeah so she missed most of your
00:28:11
career like yeah you never saw me on
00:28:13
telly yeah which Mum would have loved
00:28:14
you know yeah I was still a newspaper
00:28:17
guy when she died and she would have
00:28:18
yeah she would have been um pretty
00:28:20
stoked about that because I I joined uh
00:28:22
tvnz in 2003 late A3 so she never saw
00:28:25
that she never saw that your dad's still
00:28:27
around my dad is he's 89 this year and
00:28:30
he's still working and he's still
00:28:32
tramping and he's still cycling uh I
00:28:35
think he's finally sort of given up
00:28:36
drinking he does a little bit of
00:28:37
drinking he's always been a been a um
00:28:40
you know a guy of real discipline um
00:28:42
over the years but hey yeah he's still
00:28:44
going strong so I had to hopefully get
00:28:45
some of those jeans yeah absolutely
00:28:48
um
00:28:48
now I don't know if you want to talk
00:28:50
about this
00:28:51
um but there's something uh when I
00:28:52
Googled you yesterday there was like a
00:28:54
story online about you being on bumble
00:28:56
yeah and I'm happy happy to talk about
00:28:58
happy to talk about it what happened
00:28:59
have you recently gone through a
00:29:00
relationship yeah that's right yeah no
00:29:02
um I did I separated with my wife in
00:29:05
October of of last year so October of
00:29:08
2020 uh sorry 2022. I had a couple of
00:29:12
years how did you not end up um how did
00:29:13
you get through that without um falling
00:29:15
back on alcohol I think I think that's
00:29:16
is a lot about well I think that's a
00:29:18
that's a really good question we were
00:29:19
married 10 years and we were together 12
00:29:21
years so it was a big relationship I've
00:29:23
got um a daughter together and on the
00:29:26
critical afternoon
00:29:28
um which I which will never forget I was
00:29:30
just about to go out for a run and then
00:29:32
you know we we'd finally sort of decided
00:29:35
and the first thought was I'm gonna go
00:29:38
to the pub and smoke Diaries as well
00:29:40
because I used to I used to be I used to
00:29:43
I used to the cigarettes used to come
00:29:44
out after about the fifth or sixth point
00:29:46
I don't know what you're like but I've
00:29:47
like a non-smoker until the fifth social
00:29:50
social smoke are they call it yeah
00:29:52
social smoker the thing is if you only
00:29:53
do that when you're drinking and you
00:29:54
drink a lot the ineffective
00:29:56
and um that was just a first thought
00:29:58
that went through my head because that
00:30:00
was always that the Escape 2 place I
00:30:02
always thought I'll be all right as long
00:30:03
as I can go to the pub
00:30:05
um and then about 10 minutes later I
00:30:09
laced up my running shoes and went for a
00:30:11
10k run instead and um and then I I knew
00:30:15
that I would I would never go back there
00:30:17
I always thought when I gave up drinking
00:30:19
gee if a big crisis happens and I'd put
00:30:22
divorce is a big crisis absolutely it's
00:30:23
one of the biggest life crisis that you
00:30:25
can go through yeah and it's uh still
00:30:27
you know I feel like fairly relatively
00:30:28
raw here today uh because it's only been
00:30:30
a few months um but I haven't and I
00:30:34
haven't needed to and haven't felt like
00:30:37
doing that
00:30:39
um apart from that first flash of gee I
00:30:41
know where this my brain's gonna go it's
00:30:43
going to go to the bottle but it did it
00:30:44
didn't and um I feel that's a pretty
00:30:47
good stress test and uh something to be
00:30:49
proud of and I don't miss it
00:30:52
it's not an option it's
00:30:53
you don't miss it I I love being around
00:30:55
people drinking I buy wine for people I
00:30:57
always have wine in the house and and
00:30:59
beer in the fridge for mates when they
00:31:01
come around
00:31:02
um so it's not like um yeah that's good
00:31:05
that's good and I don't want to like
00:31:07
Mark anyone but I think that'll be the
00:31:08
worst of non-drinkets like oh guyan's
00:31:10
coming over we better hide all the
00:31:12
alcohol no one else can drink because
00:31:14
he's not it's funny you say that because
00:31:15
that's the hardest thing mate the
00:31:18
hardest thing about giving up drinking
00:31:19
in my experience is not the fact that
00:31:21
you can't have it at five o'clock in the
00:31:23
afternoon or whatever your ritual is
00:31:24
it's the expectations of other people is
00:31:28
the hardest thing because they care so
00:31:30
much about what you're doing it's kind
00:31:32
of weird you think well why don't you
00:31:33
just do your thing and I'm just doing my
00:31:35
thing but no it's this hey there's a
00:31:38
kind of science around what we're doing
00:31:40
and especially when I first gave up It
00:31:43
really used to bug me like um people
00:31:45
would get really quite affronted and
00:31:48
then when you told them that you would
00:31:49
had not only not drinking tonight that
00:31:51
you were never drinking again you could
00:31:52
see the fear in your eyes
00:31:54
because they were like what does it say
00:31:56
about me am I gonna have to give up too
00:31:58
so it's quite interesting
00:32:00
um the social expectations stuff
00:32:03
um that people carry with them about
00:32:05
your drinking yeah and I I that's one of
00:32:09
the main reasons for the book and I
00:32:10
think it's great that people like Patty
00:32:12
Gower who's got a massive reach and is
00:32:14
basically a pop culture hero in New
00:32:16
Zealand at way above what I've I mean we
00:32:18
did similar jobs but he he's got this
00:32:20
massive reach and appeal I think it's
00:32:22
really cool that someone like that has
00:32:24
come out and gone oh I'm off the booze
00:32:26
mate because I I what we need is a
00:32:28
license to say hey it's okay you know I
00:32:31
can get to you guys you know three of us
00:32:33
are drinking I'm not drinking who cares
00:32:35
what's in your glass and what's in your
00:32:37
glass it's the it's the conversation
00:32:39
it's it's what we're doing it's not
00:32:41
about what you're drinking so I think
00:32:43
it's really cool that if we can give
00:32:45
people a license to think hey it's okay
00:32:47
you don't have to drink to be normal and
00:32:49
to have a good time and to have a good
00:32:50
life in New Zealand yeah no absolutely
00:32:52
absolutely I wonder if part of it is
00:32:54
some fear from
00:32:56
I don't know if he's the right word but
00:32:58
the your friends that are still drinking
00:33:00
it's like oh my God he's doing so much
00:33:01
better than me and I'm stuck here on
00:33:04
this um hamster wheel still drinking and
00:33:07
you wonder if um you know you you have
00:33:09
this fear that you can't necessarily do
00:33:11
it yourself yeah I think it is there and
00:33:13
I think it's also
00:33:14
um sort of equate it with a moral thing
00:33:17
and it isn't a moral thing I'm not
00:33:20
judging you by saying I don't drink I'm
00:33:22
a better person than you I don't feel
00:33:23
like that at all it's not a sanctimonial
00:33:25
no it's not and I'm not I'm not
00:33:27
anti-alcohol or anti-any other drugs I'm
00:33:29
not
00:33:30
um that's it's not a moral thing it's
00:33:33
this isn't the temperance Union you know
00:33:35
it's not that's not the early 20th
00:33:36
century in the temperance movement which
00:33:38
we do talk about because the history of
00:33:39
alcohol in New Zealand is amazing and
00:33:41
the morality thing has played a big part
00:33:43
but this isn't about morality it's it's
00:33:45
about me saying alcohol didn't work
00:33:48
didn't work for me and I didn't want to
00:33:50
do it anymore and you don't need it to
00:33:54
um to have fun and you don't need it to
00:33:56
have a good life it's not but it's not
00:33:58
saying well I don't do this it makes me
00:34:00
a better person than you in fact I want
00:34:01
to take that out of the equation at all
00:34:03
and say don't judge people on that at
00:34:05
all right you had some um so we're
00:34:08
bouncing all over the place here but
00:34:09
yeah there's some great Yarns in the
00:34:11
book which I just remembered now like
00:34:12
the um Antarctica story 2009 which
00:34:15
sounds like the big at the beginning of
00:34:16
a joke you know uh Edmund Hillary and
00:34:18
Helen Clark walk into a bar do you want
00:34:21
to tell the story yeah they said and I'm
00:34:23
cringing now talking to you about it it
00:34:25
was unbelievable yeah I mean we went
00:34:27
down with it Hillary it was uh
00:34:30
2006 so it's the 50th anniversary of
00:34:33
Scott bass credible to go down they went
00:34:35
down there on the staff starlifter or
00:34:37
something ahead of Ed Hillary it was um
00:34:39
horizontal for most of the flight
00:34:40
because he's on oxygen he's 86.
00:34:43
um me and the tvnz cameraman hop off the
00:34:46
the style after first to get the shots
00:34:48
of Ed coming back to the ice you know
00:34:49
his eyebrows at sort of three feet thick
00:34:52
you know he's he's a legend and he's
00:34:54
amazing his eyes light up when he sees
00:34:56
the ice it's great we smashed out the
00:34:59
work for sort of three or four nights at
00:35:00
live crosses from Antarctica it was just
00:35:02
a big deal in those days it does it
00:35:04
satellite out and all that stuff and
00:35:05
really hit it and then hit the bar
00:35:08
um on the last night at uh Scott base
00:35:11
really hard and in my defense it was
00:35:13
January so it was 24 hours light
00:35:22
and sort of Hit the booze really hard
00:35:24
and then
00:35:26
um sort of ended up my last steps were
00:35:28
like um in this common living area where
00:35:30
it had an utter skin fill and I was
00:35:32
still holding a glass of sort of red
00:35:33
wine and so and when I came it out and
00:35:36
the next morning in walks Helen Clark Ed
00:35:40
Hillary Jerry matapurai you know the
00:35:42
good and great New Zealand chief of
00:35:44
Defense Force alleged and the prime
00:35:46
minister to see this guy comb it out
00:35:48
um you know absolutely wreaking of
00:35:50
alcohol
00:35:51
um you know and I can laugh about it now
00:35:53
but um yeah yeah I got closest to losing
00:35:57
my job well they were Subterranean
00:36:00
efforts and emails and reputation
00:36:02
managers flying around and there's a
00:36:04
little bit of heat that never got there
00:36:06
was a kind of force field around shield
00:36:08
around me never really got to that
00:36:11
um I think you would nowadays
00:36:14
myself I don't think you'd survive at
00:36:16
night no you didn't survive now but you
00:36:18
see yeah now you know um and people do
00:36:21
it um people did and far worse things
00:36:25
um you know MPS as well and that's what
00:36:27
we're talking about before the license
00:36:28
that you're given I don't know that that
00:36:30
extends to that now but but interesting
00:36:32
what was my reaction to that it wasn't
00:36:34
like [ __ ] I've nearly lost my job as
00:36:36
political edit I was like 35 this was my
00:36:38
career like just coming you know taking
00:36:41
off really massive job one of the
00:36:43
biggest jobs in New Zealand journalism
00:36:44
you know still is a big job
00:36:46
um I didn't go [ __ ] you know um I better
00:36:49
knocked us on the head I just kept going
00:36:51
just kept doing it and tried to blame
00:36:53
someone else
00:36:55
yeah I blamed a guy who took a photo of
00:36:57
me and put it on the gallery why'd you
00:36:59
do that you know you know
00:37:01
um or there was an excuse there's always
00:37:02
an excuse as a drinker you know and I'm
00:37:05
a relatively smart person I had 35 years
00:37:08
of excuses oh it's the spear I won't
00:37:10
drink coffee
00:37:14
it's the Kebab at there on the way home
00:37:16
that did you
00:37:17
um yeah
00:37:22
um what um what what sort of uh physical
00:37:24
changes have you noticed I'm guessing it
00:37:26
wasn't long before you started noticing
00:37:27
a bit of sleep sleep habits
00:37:30
that's that's step one you cannot I
00:37:33
challenge anyone who's a drinker to say
00:37:34
they have good sleeps more than two
00:37:36
drinks and I'd be always waking up so
00:37:38
sleep is is the art of first one one of
00:37:41
the only other massive ones is weight it
00:37:43
just um I felt
00:37:46
you lose quite a lot of weight and you
00:37:48
find it easy heaps easier to keep off
00:37:50
and when you're not drinking because not
00:37:52
only because of all the calories in the
00:37:53
alcohol but also it changes the way you
00:37:56
eat quite a lot did with me and not only
00:37:58
at the time I don't always eat more oh
00:38:00
it'll be quite nice with this glass of
00:38:01
wine oh I try this with this beer you
00:38:04
know and but then the next day your body
00:38:06
would well I would think it would crave
00:38:08
the fat and you would like go after
00:38:09
those sorts of um meals when you when
00:38:12
you were head drunk the night before
00:38:15
um but the immune system too
00:38:18
um I've found myself getting far less
00:38:21
um without drinking absolutely and
00:38:24
actually you know and I researched this
00:38:25
in in the book and it's not just my
00:38:27
theory you know Mayo Clinic and others
00:38:29
uh we Source all that stuff in the book
00:38:30
that that alcohol has serious impact on
00:38:33
the immune system and I found that
00:38:36
from getting ice get sick quite a bit
00:38:38
you know like once a month get a bad
00:38:40
cold or you know
00:38:41
um you get the flu or something and it's
00:38:45
almost never happened to me in in these
00:38:47
years now yeah look some of that will be
00:38:49
the covert lockdowns and all that stuff
00:38:51
um but massive impact on on my immune
00:38:55
system and and felt and just not getting
00:38:57
sick nearly as much oh yeah the
00:38:59
lockdowns weren't you bored everyone
00:39:01
drank more on the lockdown
00:39:03
yeah they they did they did
00:39:05
um but now again again that was like I
00:39:08
think I might have had a flash of a
00:39:10
moment where I thought would this be the
00:39:12
trigger but again it hasn't been and so
00:39:15
having gone through a pandemic and a
00:39:16
divorce and a cyclone
00:39:19
um
00:39:20
but I'm kind of thinking yeah nah I'm
00:39:24
clear of this now and I was thinking
00:39:25
it's interesting because you have these
00:39:26
little things in your head don't you
00:39:27
what what say someone gave you a year to
00:39:29
live or a week to live would you get
00:39:31
drunk and I wouldn't it's gone mate it's
00:39:34
wasting some good hours it's just gone
00:39:36
it's just gone as a Temptation and it's
00:39:37
funny the way the brain works how long
00:39:39
did they take
00:39:40
immediately that's the weird thing I
00:39:43
just I just knew that morning's just
00:39:45
gone
00:39:46
so which sounds impressive to you think
00:39:48
[ __ ] you overdrank for 35 years what a
00:39:50
[ __ ]
00:39:52
so you know it depends which way you
00:39:53
want to take it hey
00:39:55
um
00:39:57
but it's amazing how something that has
00:40:00
been such a massive part of your life
00:40:03
you know
00:40:04
um can disappear so quickly and um you
00:40:07
can just move on how are you how are you
00:40:10
coping now with the um relatively recent
00:40:12
relationship breakup I I've been through
00:40:13
like a break me and my wife we broke up
00:40:15
about five years is that right we're
00:40:16
still we're still particularly close now
00:40:18
but um I still have um like moments when
00:40:20
I'm running where I um you know I feel
00:40:22
like regret or guilt and shame that you
00:40:25
know I took it for granted or I
00:40:27
prioritize my work over here and uh you
00:40:30
know I I look back and I think
00:40:32
you know I could have worked harder and
00:40:34
made that relationship work and it still
00:40:35
plays on my mind but you do you you
00:40:37
think are you are you with relationships
00:40:39
like hell with alcohol where are you
00:40:40
good at like drawing a Line in the Sand
00:40:41
saying that's it and moving on I don't
00:40:44
think you can from something like that
00:40:45
eh
00:40:46
um and you know there's no there's no uh
00:40:49
there's no poison or toxic stuff there
00:40:52
um you know we've got a good
00:40:53
relationship too but uh just run its
00:40:56
course it'll run its course
00:40:58
um but I'd be lying if I'd said that I
00:41:01
was completely uh fine with it um it's
00:41:04
it's really it's really tough and it
00:41:06
makes you feel quite vulnerable and you
00:41:07
you know it's a massive ShakeOut man
00:41:10
um and Yeah you sort of have to rebuild
00:41:13
your life and I'm still as we're talking
00:41:15
now you know in in late February I'm
00:41:19
still
00:41:20
bit shell-shocked by it like thinking
00:41:22
should how do I how do I rebuild and how
00:41:24
how's this going to look like because I
00:41:26
never thought that it would happen
00:41:28
to me and I thought that that's how I
00:41:30
was going to live out my life with a
00:41:32
family like I I was quite simple in
00:41:34
those terms I had my job and my family
00:41:36
that was pretty much it that was what I
00:41:38
kind of felt that's how I you know that
00:41:40
was how I was going to play out my job
00:41:42
my family in a Netflix account you know
00:41:43
that's kind of what I that's kind of
00:41:45
that's kind of you're a happy man yeah
00:41:47
yeah yeah and and now look there are
00:41:50
exciting bits about that too like in the
00:41:52
in that there's there's unknown stuff
00:41:54
out there and there's Adventure out
00:41:55
there but it's hard too isn't it getting
00:41:57
off to off the couch and out of that
00:41:58
comfort zone so it's a little bit
00:42:00
frightening to be honest with you yeah
00:42:02
thanks for sharing that was it was it
00:42:03
did it come as like a shock to you or
00:42:05
was it sort of building
00:42:06
it's one of those things that in
00:42:08
retrospect you you piece it all together
00:42:10
and you know if you piece it all
00:42:12
together for someone they'll be like
00:42:13
yeah bro this is you know what which why
00:42:17
can't you understand this but I don't
00:42:19
know I suppose you you well I do you
00:42:21
keep thinking well it's gonna get it's
00:42:23
going to get better here or it's going
00:42:24
to get stronger here or this is just a
00:42:26
rough patch and we had had um you know
00:42:28
tough times that we'd both had careers
00:42:30
that we were putting a hell of a lot
00:42:31
into and then we had the pandemic and
00:42:33
everything so you kind of go
00:42:35
you do I think you look for excuses or
00:42:38
not even excuses just reasons why things
00:42:40
aren't firing at the moment and that
00:42:42
it'll be okay
00:42:44
um so yeah there was a there was an
00:42:45
element where it was a bit of a rupture
00:42:47
for me it's had the right because yeah
00:42:48
people people change like people are
00:42:50
changing all the time and I think that's
00:42:51
a good thing
00:42:53
um but it's hard to change as an
00:42:55
individual and then sort of stay
00:42:56
together in the same direction as a
00:42:58
couple I think that's bloody tough I
00:42:59
think that's right and when you when you
00:43:01
look back on it you know when when you
00:43:03
look back and and in history for example
00:43:05
like let's say you know Jane marries
00:43:08
John in 1943 he goes off to war if he
00:43:10
survives there and I married a rugby
00:43:12
club and they've got kids and and he
00:43:14
dies at 46 or something you know that
00:43:16
that's back in the day right nowadays
00:43:19
you might live to a hundred you've got
00:43:20
four different careers you know she's
00:43:22
got six different careers and has
00:43:24
changed her personality utterly you know
00:43:26
three times it's just and the pressure
00:43:30
on people to be everything to each other
00:43:32
is massive you know you've got to be a
00:43:35
soul mate you you know a a great
00:43:37
co-parent uh have you know be entwined
00:43:42
in someone else's career and all of that
00:43:43
pressure
00:43:45
um I think a lot of a lot of times it it
00:43:47
falls over so yeah and your point about
00:43:51
um personal change I think while it's
00:43:53
really cool that we all have not all of
00:43:56
us but a lot of us have have great
00:43:57
opportunities to change and grow in our
00:43:59
careers and as people
00:44:00
that that puts its own pressure on eh
00:44:03
yeah I reckon absolutely it's funny the
00:44:04
the couple you uh the fictional couple
00:44:06
that you described before it does sound
00:44:08
a lot like my parents were they it was
00:44:09
basically an arranged marriage they're
00:44:10
from the same church congregation and
00:44:12
live in so this was in the 1960s where
00:44:14
you know you basically lived in your
00:44:16
your town and that was that was your lot
00:44:17
in life and now the world's like a one
00:44:19
big Global community so yeah and there's
00:44:21
so much so many more options and you
00:44:23
expect you you were happy with that
00:44:25
right well it wasn't really an
00:44:27
opportunity outside those walls now
00:44:29
we're told to pursue everything for
00:44:31
ourselves right and um yeah that that
00:44:35
can Splinter stuff apart yeah see so you
00:44:37
went on Bumble last year I read about
00:44:39
this in the paper was that mortifying
00:44:40
yeah it was it was humiliating yeah it
00:44:43
was humiliating so I mean I mean so so
00:44:45
you know single guy joins dating app is
00:44:48
not a story that's the way people meet
00:44:50
nowadays in the 2020s yeah you had no
00:44:53
part in that it was in um no no pardon
00:44:55
their story no you seem like you've been
00:44:58
very open with me today and I really
00:44:59
appreciate it but I mean you're a real
00:45:00
private guide it's not about not a lot
00:45:02
about you online and I read this Bumble
00:45:03
story and no I felt for you it was
00:45:05
humiliating
00:45:07
um I mean there is nothing to me no he's
00:45:11
not and I'm happy to to to to to talk to
00:45:14
you about it and there's nothing wrong
00:45:16
at all with being on a dating app and
00:45:19
I've I've found that
00:45:20
um in my experience people have using
00:45:22
them had a lot of integrity and it did
00:45:25
you know for people who are still
00:45:26
scornful about it do you think was
00:45:28
better what we did which was you go to a
00:45:30
pub get pissed and pass someone in the
00:45:31
car park that that was the that's how
00:45:34
you met people in New Zealand I mean
00:45:36
actually it isn't meeting people for
00:45:39
coffee dates
00:45:41
um which is uh I don't know how you
00:45:44
conduct yourself I ain't got too far
00:45:45
into that but
00:45:46
um but yeah no certainly I'm certainly
00:45:48
not ashamed of that but when someone
00:45:50
points it out it's in the newspaper it
00:45:53
takes on a different Hue doesn't it and
00:45:55
it's like oh this guy's in the news and
00:45:56
then of course a headlining a Looking
00:45:58
For Love or something and it's just like
00:45:59
as you say I'm mean I've never done the
00:46:02
woman's weekly stories and all that not
00:46:03
that there's anything wrong with it but
00:46:04
that's just my thing I haven't done that
00:46:06
I've conducted myself in a certain way
00:46:08
and I'm not a hypocrite I've not done
00:46:11
stories about other people's
00:46:13
relationships or personal stuff I
00:46:15
haven't I've never conducted myself in
00:46:17
that way you know I've done something
00:46:18
once you dip your toes in those Waters
00:46:20
you sort of open yourself right or wrong
00:46:21
to that sort of screen and look at look
00:46:23
at look at my career you know politics q
00:46:25
a you went through some of them uh
00:46:27
Morning Report you know I'm not I
00:46:29
haven't gone after people's personal
00:46:31
lives and so I would you know it was a
00:46:34
bit confronting for me to to to to to to
00:46:36
have that but you know it is what it is
00:46:39
they are it's you know it is what it is
00:46:41
bro yeah when my marriage broke up I I
00:46:45
was on um Tinder for I think about 30
00:46:47
minutes and um I deleted my account
00:46:50
because first of all it felt like a very
00:46:51
shallow existence I'm flipping through
00:46:53
photos judging people based on a like a
00:46:56
two second glance and then it occurred
00:46:57
to me that they're doing exactly the
00:46:59
same thing which is awful but then
00:47:01
another thing that occurred to me is if
00:47:02
someone gets a screen cap of this and it
00:47:04
ends up being a story on stuff I'll be
00:47:06
mortified so I deleted the account for
00:47:08
that reason which is probably like a
00:47:09
it's a it's a it's a terrible way to
00:47:12
live your life
00:47:13
you should have messaged me earlier
00:47:18
hey bro get it get off this yeah
00:47:21
um are you um are you dating now are you
00:47:24
still on any of the apps how do you find
00:47:26
dating as a sober man well that's
00:47:28
interesting isn't it because
00:47:30
um again you know from a very young age
00:47:32
alcohol was a massive part of meeting
00:47:35
anyone and um it is harder socially
00:47:38
harder
00:47:39
um in just about all of those
00:47:41
circumstances
00:47:43
um you get better at it as as you go on
00:47:46
but
00:47:47
um in an in a society which
00:47:51
structures a lot of social time around
00:47:54
alcohol it is harder as a non-drinker
00:47:56
and again you know and I've said it a
00:47:58
few times in this interview
00:47:59
um that's a big reason why I wanted to
00:48:01
write this book to look at why we link
00:48:04
those two things so so closely and what
00:48:08
it's like to live and socialize without
00:48:10
alcohol but I tell you what it's pretty
00:48:12
real man without it you know all the
00:48:15
feelings are yours
00:48:17
you know you think about so oh Dutch
00:48:19
courage you talk about that and you're
00:48:20
talking about having a few drinks and
00:48:22
all that well so it's interesting isn't
00:48:24
it also what are you running away from
00:48:26
and what what is what are the negative
00:48:28
bits about your feelings yeah so you get
00:48:30
a bit more fear and a bit more anxiety
00:48:32
but they're your feelings and so there's
00:48:34
a bit of courage in there and um you
00:48:37
know the relationships you do Forge are
00:48:39
pretty real and the feelings you have
00:48:41
are real and they're not you know
00:48:43
they're not brought to you by Brewery
00:48:44
yeah I can imagine um it's terrifying in
00:48:46
a lot of ways it's like um you know you
00:48:49
go out with someone for the first time
00:48:50
you have three wines and you're probably
00:48:52
more likely to think yeah now's the
00:48:53
moment to go in for a kiss yeah um
00:48:55
because you've got their Dutch courage
00:48:56
with without any of that it's like
00:48:58
you're making a sound decision based on
00:49:01
what you've experienced and what's in
00:49:03
front of you yeah I think that's that's
00:49:05
right
00:49:06
um and yeah socially especially when you
00:49:09
first stop drinking you it's the when
00:49:12
you go into say a party it's the first
00:49:14
10 or 15 minutes that's really really
00:49:16
difficult because people really want you
00:49:20
to drink you know and the host always
00:49:22
that out of a good place right they want
00:49:24
to be a good host and so you get that
00:49:27
real pressure and if you're standing
00:49:28
around a small group of people say for
00:49:30
example in a Social Circle and I've got
00:49:32
everyone else to drink what are you
00:49:34
gonna have and you go oh you know if
00:49:36
you've got some sparkling water you know
00:49:38
and it's and it's hard so you've got to
00:49:40
come up you
00:49:41
you work it out in the end you work out
00:49:43
what your lines are you know some some
00:49:45
some non-drinkers that I know
00:49:48
um get into the uh the no lows you know
00:49:50
the no and low alcohol drinks or they'll
00:49:54
have basically a disguise disguised
00:49:56
drink I haven't really gone down that
00:49:58
line but you do need to sort your story
00:50:00
out so that you've got a bit of a bit of
00:50:02
a comeback because it's pretty full-on
00:50:05
that I mean the first the first gig and
00:50:07
it's in the book was the 2019 radio
00:50:09
awards now do you mean the ray Awards
00:50:11
man I mean
00:50:13
yeah and you know and everyone comes up
00:50:15
from regions and everyone's right out
00:50:17
for it and you know that night was beer
00:50:21
and wine were the only choices of drinks
00:50:23
that stinking heart you're sweating like
00:50:25
a pig
00:50:27
um and that was my first night without
00:50:28
drinking and everyone was just telling
00:50:30
War Stories in my face and it was I
00:50:32
thought man this is gonna be these are
00:50:34
going to be long years but you get
00:50:36
better at it you get better at it I
00:50:38
suppose with each challenge like you're
00:50:39
a New Year's Eve baby as well so New
00:50:41
Year's Eve is probably always a big
00:50:42
night night for you so I suppose you get
00:50:44
through these little milestones and you
00:50:45
survive them and yeah I suppose the most
00:50:48
recent one for you has been you know you
00:50:49
let your relationship breakdown and you
00:50:51
get through that and uh they I suppose
00:50:52
they just build that resilience and
00:50:54
that's absolutely right you do you go
00:50:55
okay well so here's a Christmas without
00:50:57
this part of the family or here's a
00:50:58
Christmas without alcohol and
00:51:01
um you learn you build and you adapt now
00:51:05
how's your mental health been over the
00:51:06
years has it has it been good it has
00:51:08
been you've been through some challenges
00:51:09
though you've been through a lot of
00:51:10
stuff yeah I have yeah I have
00:51:12
um
00:51:13
and look you know to Circle it back to
00:51:16
running
00:51:17
um it's a big part of it and I run most
00:51:20
I try to have two days off a week
00:51:22
um just to preserve the you know yeah
00:51:27
um but a big part of my mental health I
00:51:29
put down to my running yeah big part of
00:51:31
it but also alcohol you know it
00:51:34
they call it anxiety now because it's a
00:51:37
it's a it's a jewel thing of the of the
00:51:39
chemistry and I don't understand enough
00:51:40
about the the chemistry to go into it
00:51:42
but basically you know there is a
00:51:44
chemical reason it increases the anxiety
00:51:46
and then you hook that up with the what
00:51:48
exactly did I say last night and you get
00:51:51
that feeling of anxiety and I I used to
00:51:54
have that a lot oh I used to have that a
00:51:56
lot you know the greatest thing about
00:51:58
not drinking
00:51:59
is the likeness of being
00:52:01
you never have that shame like we talked
00:52:04
before about years but harder you're on
00:52:06
a day till you you know hang out with
00:52:08
mates and it's a bit harder because you
00:52:09
don't have that you know
00:52:12
um that freeing up of the alcohol but
00:52:14
the reward is you never feel ashamed I
00:52:17
hate shame it's a it's a massive burden
00:52:20
that was that's that's the biggest thing
00:52:22
it's just that likeness of being like
00:52:24
never going
00:52:25
you know I might have stuffed up at work
00:52:27
or I might have said the wrong thing but
00:52:29
I own it now like it's neither someone
00:52:31
else's fault or I never like that Gray
00:52:33
Zone what exactly did happen there you
00:52:36
know and I used to get that I don't know
00:52:37
about you I used to get that all the
00:52:39
time just that um just that big weight
00:52:41
of of Shame and the lightness of being
00:52:44
from not drinking is just bloody great
00:52:46
right it's funny you should say that
00:52:47
because
00:52:48
um I I get that as well and it's never a
00:52:50
um like fear of anything I've said or
00:52:53
done because I'll go through my phone in
00:52:54
the morning and all my interactions on
00:52:56
social media when I've been drank are
00:52:58
all positive and nice
00:52:59
um but I'll just wake up at three or
00:53:01
four in the morning after a big night
00:53:02
and lie awake for a couple of hours with
00:53:04
I don't know if it's a sugar Spike or
00:53:05
what it is what the Sciences behind it
00:53:06
but although they're awake and I'll just
00:53:08
be ashamed of myself yeah I know it was
00:53:11
exactly the same well yeah maybe it was
00:53:12
letting myself down yeah in that yeah
00:53:14
there were no you know stories about oh
00:53:17
and then you know and then he smashed a
00:53:19
window and did something crazy again
00:53:21
yeah
00:53:22
um although in the teenage years it
00:53:24
might have been a bit of that but but um
00:53:26
oh yeah we can touch upon that if you
00:53:27
want you spend a night in jail I did
00:53:29
yeah you read the book closely I did
00:53:30
yeah I did yeah I did I was banned for
00:53:33
life from Warner's Pub and uh I don't I
00:53:36
don't think it's still standing after
00:53:37
the earthquakes but
00:53:38
um yeah it truly was a lifetime Bear
00:53:40
yeah yeah that's right and I woke up in
00:53:42
the police cells um so yeah I Had My
00:53:44
Moments um especially in my late teens
00:53:46
and early 20s but but most of it was
00:53:49
like you
00:53:50
um hadn't actually done anything really
00:53:52
wrong but just that yeah you have let
00:53:54
myself down I didn't think she thought
00:53:56
about it like that I think that's what
00:53:58
it probably maybe a lot of it was but
00:54:00
yeah it's it's an awful feeling eh yeah
00:54:02
it is it is it's just yeah yeah I
00:54:05
suppose you have higher standards or
00:54:07
revision of your life and it feels like
00:54:09
you're letting yourself down a little
00:54:09
bit but anyway I'm I'm speaking
00:54:12
as this from a perspective of where I am
00:54:14
now which is still as a drinker
00:54:17
um so it seems like we've got some work
00:54:18
to do but your book has definitely made
00:54:19
me think about things that's cool it
00:54:21
really is that's cool I really enjoy it
00:54:23
so um it's called the drinking game who
00:54:25
would it give us the elevator patch who
00:54:27
would it appeal to I think it appealed
00:54:29
to just about everyone
00:54:32
um in that just about everyone drinks
00:54:34
and has relationships with people who do
00:54:37
and it's such a massive part of our life
00:54:40
and you know this isn't a book about how
00:54:43
to stop drinking alcohol it isn't a book
00:54:45
about
00:54:46
the evils of alcohol it's a book about
00:54:49
the place of alcohol in our lives and
00:54:52
how we got to where we are now and I
00:54:56
hope that people do think about what is
00:54:59
my relationship with alcohol and why do
00:55:01
I do what I do and if you're good with
00:55:04
it keep going but if it's something that
00:55:07
you want to revisit after reading it
00:55:10
then that's cool too so I've just wanted
00:55:13
to take a good look at something that is
00:55:15
so woven really deeply into our lives
00:55:18
and go how did we get here
00:55:21
are you proud of it I am I'm really
00:55:23
proud of it actually I'm really proud of
00:55:25
it it's um you know you were showing me
00:55:27
a copy before and it'll still take fried
00:55:29
a bit because it's something and I know
00:55:30
that you know you've had two or three
00:55:32
boxes three or three books but again the
00:55:34
books um with a lot of fat jokes and
00:55:36
basically
00:55:37
not going to change the fabric of
00:55:38
society like your book no I don't know
00:55:40
that it'll do that either but um but
00:55:42
it's kind of weird isn't it because it
00:55:43
exists in your head and then in your
00:55:44
computer files for quite a while and
00:55:45
then you're like oh my God I'm gonna
00:55:47
read it what are you doing with that
00:55:48
copy of my book yeah
00:55:50
um so but it's exciting as well so yeah
00:55:52
I'm proud of it and I'm proud to see it
00:55:53
out in the world yeah so how's the
00:55:55
future looking for you well what's
00:55:56
what's the next five years ten years
00:55:57
like career look wise personal life
00:55:59
you're hoping to marry again it's one
00:56:00
day or too early to say
00:56:03
I I yeah it's um yeah probably you know
00:56:06
I mean you're romantic I am actually I
00:56:11
am actually your first relationship that
00:56:12
you talked about the 10 years 11 years
00:56:14
ago you didn't marry no we didn't yeah
00:56:16
yeah so you've only been married once
00:56:18
yes that's right yeah yeah and yeah I'm
00:56:21
someone who I'm I'm pretty good on my
00:56:24
own but um yeah I think it's nice to
00:56:26
share stuff with people so yeah yeah and
00:56:28
journalism-wise I've made a decision a
00:56:31
number of years ago that I would never
00:56:32
go down the management track that I'm a
00:56:34
Storyteller and a content provider and
00:56:36
so I'll be telling stories for whoever
00:56:39
whoever has me you know whether it's
00:56:40
merging with tvnz and that stuff
00:56:43
um or or whatever
00:56:45
um and whether it's writing or
00:56:47
broadcasting doing radio like I like the
00:56:49
setup actually mate I might have a
00:56:51
chatty after we get off here and see it
00:56:52
see how you set this up I've been going
00:56:55
a year and at this day just about as
00:56:56
lucrative as writing a book
00:56:59
don't quit your day job just yet but um
00:57:02
but I like it I like it after after
00:57:03
having a uh very long and very
00:57:05
successful career in music radio we're
00:57:07
um it was very restrictive who I could
00:57:09
speak to
00:57:10
um mainly just like pop singers to being
00:57:11
able to speak to whoever I want and have
00:57:13
long form conversations with them I'm
00:57:14
thoroughly enjoying it's very cool and I
00:57:16
like your branding too it's very cool
00:57:18
thanks very much hey um wonderful to
00:57:20
meet you you too man you've enjoyed it
00:57:21
it's been a good uh yeah I appreciate
00:57:24
you being so um honest and open as well
00:57:25
and oh one last thing who's gonna win
00:57:27
the election this year
00:57:34
it's gonna be a really really close call
00:57:37
I mean I would have thought it was
00:57:38
Nationals to lose before this uh Cyclone
00:57:40
before the the leadership transition
00:57:42
which has handled pretty well you'd have
00:57:44
to you you'd say that the odds are with
00:57:46
labor probably at the moment but I would
00:57:48
say it's going to be a a knife edge 05
00:57:50
style election where it's really really
00:57:52
close and you might get a third party
00:57:53
deciding uh who who's going to govern so
00:57:56
yeah look it's 50 50 mate it's too close
00:57:58
to cool because I don't really follow
00:58:00
politics closely enough to have an
00:58:02
informed opinion on it but people I
00:58:03
speak to say luxons um like a bit
00:58:05
underwhelming is that right he's
00:58:08
flailing a bit but I think you have to
00:58:09
realize he was only 18 months in
00:58:11
Parliament before he took over as leader
00:58:13
you know and there is not much of a an
00:58:16
apprenticeship at all and you know he
00:58:18
he's doing a lot better than Collins did
00:58:20
and um you know that and they had Muller
00:58:23
and in between that
00:58:25
um and so they've been a real schmuzzle
00:58:27
for a while so he stabilized it but yeah
00:58:30
he he he's plateaued a bit hey I mean it
00:58:33
was an Air New Zealand plane he's he's
00:58:35
sort of plateaued at 30 30 000 feet
00:58:40
for a while
00:58:42
did you use um share who you vote for or
00:58:45
do you keep that firmly to your chest I
00:58:48
I'll say this much um I'll say a few
00:58:50
things because we have been very open in
00:58:52
ours today
00:58:53
um I didn't vote at all when I was in
00:58:54
the Press Gallery because I thought that
00:58:56
when I did 14 15 years in the Press
00:58:57
Gallery because I thought that was the
00:58:58
easiest way to handle it I'll just you
00:58:59
know but I have since then and I'll say
00:59:02
I've voted both sides of the track left
00:59:04
and right uh in the in those days you're
00:59:07
a swinger yeah
00:59:10
don't Circle back to the Daily don't
00:59:13
Circle back to the dating X mate we're
00:59:15
done with it all right hey guy and he's
00:59:17
been a wonderful to meet you and um best
00:59:19
of luck with your new book the drinking
00:59:20
game and best look for the future as
00:59:22
well thanks very much
00:59:23
[Music]
00:59:33
thank you
00:59:36
[Music]

Podspun Insights

In this episode, the conversation takes a deep dive into the life and experiences of a seasoned journalist, exploring the intersections of running, sobriety, and personal growth. The guest, a well-known figure in New Zealand media, opens up about his journey with type 1 diabetes and how it reshaped his relationship with running and alcohol. He candidly shares the challenges of managing diabetes while maintaining an active lifestyle, emphasizing the importance of running as a mental health outlet.

The discussion shifts to the guest's decision to give up alcohol, revealing the emotional and social complexities surrounding that choice. He reflects on the pressures of societal expectations regarding drinking, particularly in New Zealand's culture, and how he navigates social situations as a non-drinker. The conversation is peppered with humor and relatable anecdotes, including a memorable story about a night in Antarctica with Sir Edmund Hillary and Helen Clark that nearly cost him his job.

As the episode unfolds, listeners are treated to insights into the guest's personal life, including the impact of his mother's passing on his mental health and the challenges of navigating relationships post-divorce. The episode is not just a recounting of experiences but also a thoughtful examination of how personal choices can lead to profound changes in one's life. It’s a blend of humor, vulnerability, and inspiration that resonates on multiple levels.

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Episode Highlights

  • The Challenge of Interviewing
    Discussing the discomfort of being on the receiving end of interviews.
    “I feel incredibly uncomfortable and exposed.”
    @ 01m 08s
    March 12, 2023
  • Living with Type 1 Diabetes
    Sharing insights on managing life with Type 1 diabetes and its challenges.
    “I’ve got diabetes, it was almost felt like that was oversharing for you.”
    @ 01m 51s
    March 12, 2023
  • The Power of Discipline
    Reflecting on the discipline gained from giving up sugar and alcohol.
    “I had the power to do that because I’d given up sugar.”
    @ 07m 37s
    March 12, 2023
  • A Life Without Alcohol
    Encouraging the idea that one can live well without alcohol.
    “You can live a good life without alcohol.”
    @ 13m 56s
    March 12, 2023
  • Impact of Alcohol on Relationships
    Alcohol played a significant role in building relationships and doing business in the past.
    “That's how relationships were formed; that's how business was done.”
    @ 17m 02s
    March 12, 2023
  • Trailblazing Maori Language on Radio
    Introduced Maori language into Radio New Zealand, impacting listeners and promoting cultural appreciation.
    “I thought, 'Oh, this is cool, I’m going to run with this.'”
    @ 24m 33s
    March 12, 2023
  • Navigating Divorce Without Alcohol
    Faced with divorce, he chose running over drinking, showcasing personal growth and resilience.
    “I laced up my running shoes and went for a 10k run instead.”
    @ 30m 11s
    March 12, 2023
  • The Impact of Alcohol
    Alcohol has serious impacts on sleep, weight, and the immune system. 'You cannot challenge anyone who’s a drinker to say they have good sleeps more than two drinks.'
    @ 37m 33s
    March 12, 2023
  • Rebuilding After a Breakup
    Navigating life after a relationship can be tough and vulnerable. 'It’s really tough and it makes you feel quite vulnerable.'
    @ 41m 06s
    March 12, 2023
  • Dating as a Sober Man
    Dating without alcohol presents unique challenges. 'It is harder socially in just about all of those circumstances.'
    @ 47m 38s
    March 12, 2023
  • The Lightness of Being
    Exploring the emotional freedom that comes with sobriety and overcoming shame.
    “The greatest thing about not drinking is the lightness of being.”
    @ 51m 58s
    March 12, 2023
  • A New Perspective on Alcohol
    Discussing the book's aim to examine our relationship with alcohol, not just to quit.
    “It’s a book about the place of alcohol in our lives.”
    @ 54m 49s
    March 12, 2023

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Key Moments

  • Alcohol Reflection08:39
  • Maori Language Initiative24:33
  • Antarctica Story34:12
  • Personal Reflection40:10
  • Dating Apps44:40
  • Sober Dating47:28
  • Resilience Through Challenges50:49
  • Sobriety Benefits51:58

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