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Are You Living a Regret Free Life? | Jordan Grumet aka Doc G - E61

January 29, 2024 / 54:26

This episode features Jordan Grummet, also known as Doc G, a hospice doctor and personal finance podcaster. Key topics include living a regret-free life, the relationship between money and purpose, and the importance of connections.

Doc G discusses his experiences as a hospice doctor, emphasizing that patients rarely regret not achieving financial milestones. Instead, they often wish they had spent more time on meaningful activities and relationships.

The conversation touches on the concept of purpose and identity, with Doc G sharing techniques for identifying what truly matters in life. He highlights the significance of community and connections that arise naturally when pursuing one's passions.

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their lives and consider how to avoid regrets by focusing on what brings them joy and fulfillment. The episode concludes with insights on how money serves as a tool to support a purposeful life.

For more information, visit Jordan Grummet's website, where listeners can find links to his book and podcast.

TL;DR

Jordan Grummet discusses living a regret-free life, the role of money, and the importance of purpose and connections in achieving fulfillment.

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welcome to the best interest podcast
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where we believe Benjamin Franklin's
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advice that an investment in knowledge
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pays the best interest both in finances
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and in your life every episode teaches
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you personal finance and investing in
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simple terms now here's your host Jesse
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Kramer hello everybody and welcome to
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episode 61 of the best interest podcast
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my name is Jesse Kramer cool episode for
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you today the featured guests is a man
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named Jordan grummet otherwise known as
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doc G he's a personal finance podcaster
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mainly that's how a lot of people know
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him through his awesome podcast earn and
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invest he's also a doctor he's a hospice
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doctor and we'll get into exactly what
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that means being a hospice doctor but
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long story short Jordan has a really
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interesting set of experiences and he's
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got interesting viewpoints when it comes
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to life and death and then you add in
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his personal finance expertise and he's
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got some really cool thoughts when it
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comes to life death and money living a
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fulfilled life planning for the end and
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how money should act as a tool to get
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you where you want to go in
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between and before we really get into
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Jordan and Jordan's interview today I
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want to talk about something that I
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wrote a couple summers ago I wrote it
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June of 2021 which interestingly for me
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at least was before my career transition
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it was certainly something I was
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thinking about actively but I hadn't yet
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switched careers and I wrote this
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article in June of 2021 we will throw a
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link into the show notes and the article
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is called this is where life happens
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you're going about your life maintaining
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the status quo you're in what I call the
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pit of ignorance now don't worry we'll
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Define what that means but then one day
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when you're down in the pit of ignorance
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you learn about something called the big
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idea and the big idea it blows your mind
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you feel like the world is your oyster
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you're filled with this motivation and
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it makes you want to achieve a new goal
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and in that moment of excitement you're
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at the peak of Enlightenment but
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unfortunately you're only there
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momentarily because you then realize
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that the goal is harder than you thought
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it's going to take a lot of time to get
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there there's no substitute for that
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time and the hard work that is entailed
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to get you to your goal and so a long
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period of relative monotony ensues you
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have to slog through what I call the
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valley of drudgery and it is a long slog
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days months and years can go by and
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eventually you do start making progress
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and the excitement returns to you you
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start slowly ascending the slopes of
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soon as I call them and the closer you
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get to the goal the more excited you get
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and eventually yes you hit your goal you
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have mounted goal Summit now I encourage
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you guys to look at this article because
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in my nerdy Excel engineer way I I
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plotted this landscape out using
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Microsoft Excel using a spreadsheet
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using a graph from a spreadsheet and you
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can kind of see what I mean how your
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excitement varies over time when you
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think of some really cool goal and then
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eventually reach that goal you do get
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this short burst of excitement early on
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but then any goal worth pursuing takes a
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long time takes a lot of hard work and
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there often isn't that much excitement
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during that stretch of time until
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eventually you kind of get closer to the
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goal and a lot of your excitement
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returns to you now most people have
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lived this experience at some point in
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their life but the question that I ask
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myself and I think the question that you
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should ask yourself is how do we avoid
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that long slow boring Valley of drudgery
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as I call it how do we avoid that that
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long period of monotonous day after day
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doing the same thing how do we fill that
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time period with some sort of Joy now I
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think that little landscape it applies
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to many goals that the big idea the big
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exciting idea that you have it could be
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anything it might be a new weight loss
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plan you know Fitness losing weight
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that's exciting but the execution as we
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all probably know can be painful there's
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a long slog through that Valley of
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drudgery one pound at a time before the
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results really start getting exciting
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for you another example entrepreneur
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they get big ideas for new businesses
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but then actual entrepreneurship
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involves years of grinding away little
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wins along the way they certainly help
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but it takes a lot of time and effort to
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reach the eventual entrepreneurship goal
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and there's a lot of failure just
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outright failure along the way too and
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yes this plot certainly applies this
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idea applies to personal finance to
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retirement planning to saving money the
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fire Community Financial Independence
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and retiring early that is a perfect
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example they should know all about this
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landscape learning about fire the idea
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that you might be able to retire at age
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40 or 45 or 50 it's a really cool
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mindblowing idea that excites you when
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you learn about it and for a few weeks
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maybe even a few months it might consume
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you and you start thinking about all the
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ways that you can reach fire sooner it's
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really cool but that excitement wears
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off after a few months and what remains
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in absence of that excitement is a
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simple truth it's hard to rush fire you
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can only save so much money and you you
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can't really choose how the investment
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markets will make your money grow it's
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going to take years and years and years
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before you reach your fire goal the
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important details and the important
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knowledge you can learn all of that in a
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few weeks and then maybe it takes
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another week for you to create your
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master plan and and you're really there
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at the peak of Enlightenment early on
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but then it might take 15 years of
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repetitive plotting to execute that plan
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it really is a valley of
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drudgery so maybe by now you've caught
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my drift peaks of Enlightenment are
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short-lived goal Summits at the end
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they're rewarding but fleeting and
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instead most of life is spent down in
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the valley of drudgery that right there
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that is where life
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happens and we might think that's kind
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of depressing our life happens down at
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the bottom of the valley of drudgery but
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I think we need to wait we shouldn't cry
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a river just yet because I have good
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news or at least good news that's helped
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me in my life because we each have a
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choice the drudgery can be boring if we
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allow it to be we can get stuck in the
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dolrs there or to continue our watery
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puns we can flood the valley of drudgery
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with the Simple Pleasures of life and
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set sail we can take our life's boat
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across on a higher plane the daily
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mundaneness it fades Into Obscurity it
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disappears and a sea of Simple Pleasures
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keeps life fun and and fresh now full
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disclosure flooding your Valley it it
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certainly can be a struggle I wish
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personally that I was this ever-flowing
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Fountain of of flowers and butterflies
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and happiness we actually talked about
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this recently on episode 59 of the
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podcast about the power of positivity
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but but also the limits of positivity
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and the fact that we can't all be
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positive people all the time that's just
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not realistic it's also probably not
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even healthy we all have bad days I
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certainly suffer days of sluggish
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boredom but most of the time I'm able to
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make drudgery fun as oxymoronic as that
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sounds you know everyone I know has to
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Traverse this landscape in some way
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shape or form you probably do too and
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that means that dayto day that tedium is
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either going to grind you down or you're
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going to have to find a way to let it
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fill your sales you know to quote Andy
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duin from the Sha Shank Redemption
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I guess it comes down to a simple Choice
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really you're busy
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living get busy
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die one of the earliest posts I wrote
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here on the best interest features my
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really good friend Tyler soash such a
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good friend in fact that Tyler was the
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efficient in my wedding last September
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Tyler hiked 7,000 mi in 13 months Once
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Upon a Time he covered the Pacific Crest
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Trail that goes from Canada down to
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Mexico then he did T aroa that's the
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north the South Continental Trail across
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New Zealand and then he flew back to
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Atlanta and did the Appalachian Trail
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from Georgia to Maine he did that all in
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13 months again 7,000 miles now I'm sure
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that planning the trip was super
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exciting for Tyler I mean who doesn't
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like planning a big trip he I'm sure was
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flying high on the peak of Enlightenment
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and we know that finishing a good hike
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you know that the final steps along that
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long Trail the the last few steps up to
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the summit of a mountain that's really
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exhilarating it's such a good feeling
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it's truly summiting your goal but then
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I think about the other 7,000 miles did
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Tyler spend most of that 7,000 miles
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deep down in the the depressing Valley
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of drudgery no way there's no way he was
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floating on a sea of Simple Pleasures he
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was exploring new worlds and sleeping
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under the stars and yes he was eating
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bowls of oatmeal to fend off hiker
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hunger meeting new friends along the way
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and and so-called Trail angels that
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Journey the journey itself the 7,000
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miles that's where life happens and if
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each step is a chore you're probably
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never going to make it the final mile is
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really nice but that's just this
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fleeting book end to what otherwise was
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a long challenging Journey back in that
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article I wrote I said summoning Mount
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Kaden at Trail's End will feel great for
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about an hour hour but the glory will
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wear off you'll be left with either the
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memories of wildf flower prairies and
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wild horses or with the regret of Sword
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legs and grimy
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discomfort so back to today do you want
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to get rich do you want to retire early
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maybe you just want to get out of debt
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that's awesome you should get after
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those goals take them one step at a time
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and make sure you enjoy the sites along
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the way now it's funny again I have to
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go back to episode 59 of the podcast cuz
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I'm about to talk about 5 a.m. Jo I've
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learned a ton from 5 a.m. Joel who was
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on episode 59 and then we also spoke
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Once Upon a Time on episode 7 of the
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best interest podcast if you don't know
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him Joel's an Aussie he's living in Los
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Angeles he he's run his own personal
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blogs in the past and now he he does a
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lot of writing for the very well done
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how to money newsletter and the how to
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money podcast and I bring up Joel here
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because of his boundless optimism Joel
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for many many years sent an email to his
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readers every single day at 5:00 a.m. it
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was short and sweet it usually only took
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30 seconds to read and each day he had
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some sort of inspiring message or just a
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little drop from Joel's personal sea of
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Simple Pleasures a story about Cooper
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his dog a picture of a Blooming Garden
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some quick anecdote just about bringing
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some simple joy into the world and the
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best part at least I found was that his
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emails filled my C as well and at at
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zero cost to Joel optimism is freely
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shared and a rising tide raises All
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Ships Joel was clearly enjoying his
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journey high above the valley of
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drudgery he shared that with us and he
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helped us all out as well you know Joel
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it turns out is a everyday normal Joe
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personal finance Superstar with savings
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somewhere between you know Barista fire
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and actual early retirement but he
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barely ever mentions that he's too busy
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surfing he's too busy walking Cooper
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it's the Simple Pleasures in life and I
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know I've been bleeding dry these water
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references maybe I'm just thirsty but
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here's one more and this one comes from
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one of my favorite speeches that you've
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heard before here on the best interest
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podcast David Foster Wallace's this is
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water he says there are these two fish
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swimming along and they happen to meet
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an older fish swimming the other way who
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nods at them and says morning boys how's
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the water and the two young fish they
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swim on for a bit and then eventually
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one of them looks over at the other and
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goes what the hell is water the message
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from the speech is exactly what we're
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discussing today it's all too easy to
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swim through life while forgetting that
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we're surrounded by life itself this is
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life the journey itself is everything in
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his speech David Foster Wallace
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explained to the graduating seniors at
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Kenyan college that life will eventually
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drag them down into the valley of
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drudgery unless they realized they had a
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choice that choice is how to think how
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to view the world how to see their their
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fellow men and women will they see The
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Simple Pleasures hiding in plain sight
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our quote unquote default setting as
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Wallace says is to view ourselves as the
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protagonist of the world think about it
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there is no experience you have had that
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you were not at the absolute center of
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the world as you experience it is there
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in front of you or behind you to the
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left or right of you on your TV or your
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monitor and so on but the world doesn't
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have happen to us we're not the main
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characters in some TV show even though
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it's hard to fight that feeling it
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happens with us it happens around us
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we're each just a minor character in
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someone else's play so try as you might
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you should turn off that default setting
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and tune into the simple experiences
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occurring around you you might be upset
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at me mounted here high on my seahorse
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so I'm going to steal another one of
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David Foster Wallace's lines right here
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again please don't think I'm giving you
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moral advice or that I'm saying you're
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supposed to think this way or that
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anyone expects you to just automatically
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do it because it's hard it takes will
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and effort and if you were like me some
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days you won't be able to do it or you
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just flat out won't want to sees rise
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sees fall and the Sea of Simple
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Pleasures is no different I've had
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plenty of bad days especially at the
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time when I was writing this over the
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last year of covid covid was really hard
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on a lot of people including me but when
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my cup runs dry I've found reprieve in
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the simple things the end of the journey
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will eventually come I'm working hard to
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Summit my goals but if I don't quite
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make it work I'll be okay why because
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this is water this is where life happens
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and life itself is our
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buoy now speaking of finding purpose in
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life one of my favorite things about Dr
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Jordan grummet is his three words saying
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purpose identity and connections it's a
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quick easy way to remember that which is
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important life or at least that which we
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should try to prioritize in life and we
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do dive into that in this conversation
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that you're about to hear but first a
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little bit about Dr Jordan grummet or
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doc G he's a medical doctor who loves
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his family loves side hustles
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contemplating retiring early and the
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philosophy of financial Independence he
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hosts the popular earn and invest
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podcast which has won a plutus award as
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the best in-class podcast that's kind of
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like the Oscars for personal finance
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content I'm pretty honored that the best
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interest the blog my writing was
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nominated for a plutus award on the
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writing side last year and back to
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Jordan ulyses press recently published a
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book that Jordan wrote called taking
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stock a hospice doctor's advice on
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financial Independence Building Wealth
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and living a regret-free life a book
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that incorporates doc G's experience as
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a hospice doctor working with dying
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patients and his expertise in personal
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finance doc she shares a unique and
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Powerful perspective on personal finance
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and investment
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and how you should think about it in
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your
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[Music]
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life all right Jordan doc G thanks for
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being here I I'd love to start the
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conversation with the end of your book's
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subtitle living a regret-free
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life what exactly does that mean to you
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it's a great question and and part of
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the reason is it's going to mean
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something different to everybody but
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what I found both in my financial career
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and as a hospice doctor is that when
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people get to the end of life it's
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incredibly clarifying and they look back
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at their life and they say well what did
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I do what didn't I do what are some of
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those things I didn't accomplish or what
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dreams didn't I live up to and so living
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a regret free life is actually trying to
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address those things before you get
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terminally ill start thinking about them
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today as opposed to putting them off to
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some other time which may or may not
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come we don't know how many days we have
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left on this Earth hopefully we have
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many many but you could be like my
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father who died suddenly when he was 40
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and so the idea is to start thinking
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about what are those things that are
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deeply important to you now and maybe
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pursuing them sooner than later that's
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interesting that that okay the idea of
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how many days do I have left something I
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was thinking about over the last couple
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days Jordan preparing for this
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conversation one of my struggles that
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you made me realize as I listen to some
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of your other podcasts I struggle with
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what I call zero days or or maybe near
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zero days in short some days I feel
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inspired and motivated and efficient and
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I just I squeeze the marrow out of life
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but then once in a while and it might
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even be like once a month usually on a
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weekend I'll have some sort of slow Lazy
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Day that just feels like a complete
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waste and I bet a hospice patient
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someone that you might be seeing on a
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regular basis would see me living that
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day and they'd grab me and shake me for
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the opportunity that I'm wasting and so
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I'm just curious from your experience as
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a hospice doctor do you have any advice
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or lessons when it comes to seizing this
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this one and only life we have I think
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sometimes we get too CAU up on the
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should ofes like I should have spent
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that day doing something I think when it
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comes down to it when I talk to these
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dying patients it's not that they did or
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didn't do on what day it was more these
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large swaths of things that they didn't
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do it's actually my same problem with
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bucketless items people are like boy I
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really dream of going to Australia and
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living in Melbourne for for a week and
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and that sounds great it's like a bucket
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list item those aren't those things that
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people regret like not taking the time
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to do that one thing or that one trip
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it's more these big swats of I wish I
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spent more of my time traveling or
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seeing the world or doing these things
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that felt very purposeful and the truth
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of the matter is part of our purpose is
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rest too so I don't think you're missing
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out because of one day or even one week
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now if you spend years and years putting
00:19:05
things off and doing nothing then it's a
00:19:07
problem but we're really talking
00:19:10
about these larger ideas these larger
00:19:14
activities it's not what we do today or
00:19:16
tomorrow but it's what really fills our
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time over long periods that I think is
00:19:21
more important so then what are some
00:19:25
thoughts or
00:19:26
exercises that you found successful that
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you might recommend someone who is
00:19:31
younger and healthier some exercise that
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they start doing right now to identify
00:19:36
those big large swats in life that are
00:19:40
going to bring them long-term Joy
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prevent some sort of regret on their
00:19:43
deathbed are there any tactics you
00:19:45
recommend so what we're really talking
00:19:47
about is is finding a sense of purpose
00:19:49
and identity and that is a long-term
00:19:52
thing right you don't just say tomorrow
00:19:53
I have the day off I'm going to figure
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out who I am and what I want in life but
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there are most most definitely some
00:19:59
techniques that can be used I talk about
00:20:01
this in my book taking stock one of them
00:20:03
is the Life review so we do a Life
00:20:04
review with dying patients and what that
00:20:06
is is a structured series of questions
00:20:08
in which people can look back at their
00:20:10
life and digest it right what was
00:20:12
important to me what wasn't important to
00:20:13
me who are the important people what
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were my greatest moments what were my
00:20:17
worst moments what did I accomplish what
00:20:19
do I wish I had accomplished so doing a
00:20:21
Life review is actually a fantastic way
00:20:23
for a young person to start thinking
00:20:25
about what is purposeful for them to day
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there are all sorts of Life reviews you
00:20:30
can find them if you go searching online
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the one sentencer that I say people can
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always start with is if I found out I
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was going to die in the next few months
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what would I really regret never having
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the energy courage or time to do and so
00:20:44
really meditating on that I think is a
00:20:47
very very good start there are a bunch
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of different other techniques everything
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from starting to look back at your
00:20:52
childhood right often we have these huge
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dreams in childhood and we eventually
00:21:00
start ignoring them as Society tells us
00:21:02
what we're supposed to do who we're
00:21:04
supposed to be and specifically what we
00:21:05
can't do like that's not something
00:21:07
grown-ups do how many kids hear that
00:21:09
right and so they let go of these
00:21:11
childhood dreams so some of it is
00:21:13
actually going back to your childhood
00:21:14
and say well what lit me up what were my
00:21:16
happiest moments I love to ask people
00:21:18
when was the last time you woke up in
00:21:19
the middle of the night excited by an
00:21:20
idea and you couldn't go back to sleep
00:21:22
what happens for most people when that
00:21:24
occurs usually they wake up the next day
00:21:26
they're groggy they're tired have work
00:21:28
they have the kids they have everything
00:21:30
on their schedule and they forget about
00:21:32
it and they move on and that thing that
00:21:34
had them so enthralled in the middle of
00:21:35
the night is gone my goal is to get
00:21:38
people to start thinking about these
00:21:40
things again and I've even evolved as
00:21:42
I've been talking about these things
00:21:43
even after I wrote the book you start
00:21:45
realizing that purpose isn't something
00:21:47
you per se find it's something you
00:21:49
create so what you're really looking for
00:21:51
what are these threads of things that
00:21:53
seem important to me and then how can I
00:21:54
start creating a life or a sense of
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purpose around them
00:21:58
if none of that works there's the Old
00:22:00
Spaghetti method which is you take the
00:22:02
spaghetti through it against the wall
00:22:03
and see what sticks which means you put
00:22:05
yourself up for all sorts of new
00:22:07
activities experiences that you've never
00:22:09
done before and see what gratifies you
00:22:13
so let's dive into that I've heard a few
00:22:15
times now Jordan you have some wonderful
00:22:18
I call them three-word phrases one of
00:22:21
yours is purpose identity and
00:22:23
connections another one that you just
00:22:24
mentioned was energy courage and time so
00:22:27
let's dive into really quickly to
00:22:28
purpose identity and connections I think
00:22:30
if I slow down and think about them one
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not one by one I know exactly what
00:22:34
you're talking about but right there you
00:22:36
you just mentioned purpose and you
00:22:38
mentioned I think slowing down to really
00:22:40
try to identify your specific purpose
00:22:43
over the long run and you even started
00:22:44
to to say that recently or maybe over
00:22:46
the past few years you've done a better
00:22:48
job with that maybe do you mind sharing
00:22:50
your story of kind of honing in further
00:22:53
and further on your purpose and then if
00:22:55
we have time we can expand to Identity
00:22:57
and connections from there there yeah
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and and I like to start the conversation
00:23:00
by saying that purpose doesn't have to
00:23:01
be a big thing it can be a small thing
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and your purpose can change from time to
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time and you can have many purposes so
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when I was little seven years old my
00:23:08
father died and he was a doctor and I
00:23:10
decided that cosmically I could make the
00:23:12
world right by becoming a doctor like
00:23:14
him it could somehow make up for the
00:23:15
fact that he died way too young and it
00:23:16
made no sense and so for a very
00:23:19
beginning of my life becoming a doctor
00:23:21
was very purposeful for me and it
00:23:23
actually filled me up it brought me lots
00:23:25
of Joy it pushed me to study really hard
00:23:27
and really for the first 20 30 years of
00:23:29
life that was my singular purpose
00:23:32
because it was my purpose it became also
00:23:34
my identity the sense of who are you
00:23:36
well I'm the guy who's going to become a
00:23:37
doctor and eventually I was the guy who
00:23:39
did become a doctor as time went on
00:23:42
though and I started practicing medicine
00:23:44
I realized that that purpose wasn't
00:23:46
serving me I was getting burned out I
00:23:48
wasn't enjoying it as much as I wanted
00:23:51
to and I started realizing that the
00:23:53
sense of purpose and identity wasn't
00:23:54
fitting because I wasn't really
00:23:56
identifying as a doctor like I would
00:23:58
feel uncomfortable in the hospital
00:24:01
cafeteria hanging out with the other
00:24:02
doctors when I went to parties I
00:24:04
wouldn't want to tell other people what
00:24:05
I did for a living it was only later on
00:24:08
that I realized that that outward shell
00:24:10
of a purpose and an identity that I had
00:24:12
around me didn't fit how I felt
00:24:15
internally internally I was a lot more
00:24:17
creative and I was a lot more interested
00:24:19
in communication I loved writing I loved
00:24:22
public speaking all these things that I
00:24:23
never gave myself permission to do
00:24:25
because I somehow told myself that isn't
00:24:27
something you do for a living so I had
00:24:30
been writing on the side i' had been
00:24:31
writing a medical blog for years and I
00:24:33
would do it during like weekends and
00:24:35
nights and lunch hours I mean I was so
00:24:37
busy with my life that I often didn't
00:24:39
edit it so I would get all these
00:24:40
comments about how bad my grammar was
00:24:43
but the point was it was so important to
00:24:45
me to fit that in but I never thought
00:24:47
maybe that those things identify me are
00:24:50
more purposeful for me than being a
00:24:52
doctor only when I realized the Boon of
00:24:55
financial Independence and that I had
00:24:56
enough money to do whatever I wanted did
00:24:58
I give myself permission to put that
00:25:00
identity of being a doctor down because
00:25:02
it wasn't serving me and start thinking
00:25:05
well if I'm going to start identifying
00:25:07
myself different a big part of that is
00:25:09
what is purposeful to me and I had to
00:25:11
really look at myself and I started
00:25:13
going back to Childhood and these things
00:25:16
that I was doing that I was squirreling
00:25:17
into these little moments I'd been
00:25:19
writing poetry since I was in high
00:25:20
school or middle school I had been
00:25:23
spending my time writing a medical blog
00:25:26
whenever I could fit in the little bit
00:25:28
of extra time these were the things that
00:25:30
were speaking to me and so I started
00:25:32
exploring those and actually found what
00:25:35
I would call a much more durable sense
00:25:36
of purpose in creating these
00:25:40
conversations delving deeply into why we
00:25:42
do what we do forming a podcast writing
00:25:46
a Blog doing a bunch of public speaking
00:25:47
eventually writing taking stock that was
00:25:50
a purpose that fit me better and because
00:25:52
it fit me better it felt better and I
00:25:56
often talk about purpose ident identity
00:25:57
and connections but they're really very
00:26:00
connected right because we end up
00:26:03
identifying who we are based on what is
00:26:05
important to us what our sense of
00:26:07
purpose is and purpose and identity
00:26:09
eventually if you find what fits you
00:26:11
leads to connections so I had talked
00:26:14
about this fact that I didn't feel
00:26:15
comfortable around other doctors I
00:26:17
hadn't really built a community or built
00:26:19
some of those deeper connections but
00:26:21
when I discovered that what I really
00:26:22
wanted to be was a communicator and I
00:26:24
loved podcasting and blogging and
00:26:26
writing I found myself going to
00:26:28
conferences and meeting other people who
00:26:30
felt that same sense of purpose and
00:26:32
identity and I automatically connected
00:26:34
with them I mean in a way that I had
00:26:36
never connected with doctors I had spent
00:26:38
a decade or two around doctors and and
00:26:40
had almost no doctor friends I went to
00:26:42
some of these Financial conferences met
00:26:44
other bloggers and podcasters and I have
00:26:47
more deep friendships and connections
00:26:49
over the last few years than I've ever
00:26:51
had in my life that's amazing and I can
00:26:54
relate to some extent Jordan now I think
00:26:57
many listeners probably know this you
00:26:59
you might not know this I spent six
00:27:01
years of my late teens early 20s
00:27:03
preparing to be an engineer then spent
00:27:06
seven years the first seven years of my
00:27:07
career focused on engineering but then
00:27:11
in my brain I always had a love for
00:27:12
Education my parents are both teachers I
00:27:15
spent a lot of time in college being a a
00:27:17
teaching assistant teaching some courses
00:27:19
also had this passion for personal
00:27:21
finance and investing and so I pivoted a
00:27:24
year and a half ago I pivoted well
00:27:26
really four and a half years ago is when
00:27:27
I started this blog started the podcast
00:27:29
like you I just love communicating I
00:27:31
really love educating and then a year
00:27:34
and a half ago professionally I pivoted
00:27:36
so now I'm working at a fiduciary you
00:27:38
know wealth management firm helping
00:27:41
clients educating clients on how better
00:27:44
to invest how to do their long-term
00:27:46
Financial plans and I feel much more
00:27:48
fulfilled I feel like my my daily
00:27:51
purpose is much more aligned with
00:27:53
something deep inside that that I've
00:27:54
been seeking out so can totally relate
00:27:57
to how good that feels and you know
00:28:00
let's add in another layer to this you
00:28:02
and I like talking about money but
00:28:04
notice how money didn't really income
00:28:05
into this conversation maybe you could
00:28:06
have made a lot more as an
00:28:08
engineer but you're finding yourself
00:28:10
more fulfilled and what I learned in
00:28:12
medicine is even though I could make a
00:28:13
lot of money doing it I was less
00:28:15
fulfilled and that led to burnout and
00:28:18
burnout actually led to a very short
00:28:20
career when I listen to stories like
00:28:22
yours you realize that you may get to
00:28:25
that Financial place you want to get a
00:28:27
touch slower M but your career
00:28:30
trajectory will be much longer because
00:28:31
you're actually finding a sense of
00:28:32
purpose and identity now in the work
00:28:34
you're doing and you're creating a life
00:28:36
for yourself you don't want to escape
00:28:38
from so this idea of I I have to retire
00:28:40
really quick so I can live the life I
00:28:42
want to live that disappears and you're
00:28:44
like wait I'm living the life I want to
00:28:46
live regardless if I'm retired or not
00:28:48
but in the meantime you can build this
00:28:50
beautiful Financial framework around
00:28:52
that to support freedom and retirement
00:28:54
and all those things when you're ready
00:28:56
for them and I think that's the ultimate
00:28:59
goal I completely agree with you Jordan
00:29:02
the way that I got involved in the whole
00:29:04
personal finance investing fire movement
00:29:07
part of it had to do with I'm working as
00:29:09
an engineer not really loving my dayto
00:29:11
day I want to look for a different way
00:29:13
to do things fire financial Independence
00:29:16
retiring early was one of those paths
00:29:18
that clicked with me it made sense to my
00:29:20
mathematical mind I'm going for it it
00:29:23
didn't necessarily make me any happier
00:29:25
to see my fire day get closer and closer
00:29:28
nothing like that and eventually I
00:29:30
realized I just don't enjoy my
00:29:33
day-to-day work it's not that I really
00:29:35
want to retire I just want to do
00:29:37
something else other than sit in a cube
00:29:39
and working as an engineer I haven't
00:29:42
really thought about fire over the past
00:29:44
year Financial Independence I still
00:29:46
think will happen I still have good
00:29:48
personal finance habits that will bring
00:29:50
fi into my life sooner than maybe the
00:29:53
average person the re portion not really
00:29:56
thinking about it at all and I think
00:29:58
that's again going back to you know
00:30:01
purpose and identity I think that's a
00:30:03
really big reason why our money is
00:30:06
supposed to support the life we want to
00:30:08
live what we're starting to realize now
00:30:10
is that the life we want to live can
00:30:13
support our financial needs so it can go
00:30:15
the other way around and I think those
00:30:18
of us who started in that really
00:30:20
traditional fire
00:30:22
movement didn't see that we just saw
00:30:25
work really hard make as much money as
00:30:27
you can and buy your freedom I don't
00:30:30
think we realized a lot of us that we
00:30:32
could actually start creating our
00:30:35
freedom and our purpose
00:30:37
now and have our money serve us on that
00:30:40
pathway as opposed to waiting until we
00:30:42
got to some net worth number and I think
00:30:44
it's fine if you want to do things that
00:30:46
way but all of us know someone who hit
00:30:49
the retirement date and a week later got
00:30:52
diagnosed with a cancer or something
00:30:53
else you just don't know how long you
00:30:55
have I think it's sad had this idea of
00:30:58
if you keep on putting off happiness or
00:31:00
keep on putting off the things that are
00:31:02
purposeful for you at some point you may
00:31:05
miss the boat and that's in fact what we
00:31:07
often talk to hospice patients dying
00:31:10
patients about and my goal is to keep us
00:31:12
all from getting to that right that's
00:31:14
what we really mean by no regrets is
00:31:15
living the life you want to live today
00:31:18
so that whenever death comes you can
00:31:20
feel like you did those important things
00:31:23
I had a former cooworker of mine Jordan
00:31:25
who was one of if not the most respected
00:31:27
engineers in our facility of you know
00:31:30
three or 400 Engineers this guy you know
00:31:32
top 1% 30-year career scientist
00:31:36
extremely smart very kind individual
00:31:39
retired a little bit early I think he
00:31:41
retired around 55 or
00:31:43
57 and within six months of retiring
00:31:46
after a hike had a catastrophic heart
00:31:49
attack and died you know died before he
00:31:51
hit the ground that kind of thing and it
00:31:54
really just brought into Focus that
00:31:57
tomorrow isn't promised and I I do think
00:31:59
he got a lot of joy out of his work but
00:32:02
still the fact that retirement was
00:32:05
probably a goal of his and he reached
00:32:07
that goal and six months later it was
00:32:09
done was a really impactful moment for
00:32:12
me yeah I I have a funny not funny but I
00:32:16
have actually the best role model for
00:32:17
this my father who died at 40 yeah he
00:32:20
loved his job he loved photography he
00:32:23
loved
00:32:24
travel that guy pursued his pth passions
00:32:27
all the way up to the moment he died in
00:32:29
fact when he got done with his
00:32:30
Fellowship he got offered a very
00:32:32
prestigious high-paying job he was a
00:32:34
cancer doctor oncologist in a private
00:32:36
practice and he turned it down to work
00:32:38
at the Veterans Affairs Hospital
00:32:40
connected to the university which paid
00:32:43
almost
00:32:44
half but he had a lot more time to
00:32:46
himself he got to teach other students
00:32:48
and residents it was his dream job and
00:32:51
he gave up the money to do that looking
00:32:54
back knowing that he died at 40 he lived
00:32:56
his life to the fullest he enjoyed every
00:32:59
moment he felt purpose in his activities
00:33:02
and as I got older and realized that I
00:33:04
was not nearly as passionate about being
00:33:05
a doctor as he was it really kind of
00:33:08
clicked that maybe I should be spending
00:33:11
my time doing some other
00:33:13
things this is a a personal and
00:33:15
unplanned question Jordan and and if you
00:33:18
don't want to answer it or or by all
00:33:20
means we can edit it out I'm just
00:33:21
curious are you are you older now than
00:33:24
your your father was when he passed I
00:33:26
assume you are yeah so I turned 52 days
00:33:29
ago and my father died when he was 40
00:33:31
well happy recent birthday to you I'm
00:33:34
just curious I mean either around the
00:33:36
time you were approaching your father's
00:33:39
age when he passed or when you passed
00:33:41
that date or that birthday or now that
00:33:43
you're older than he was did that have
00:33:46
some sort of concentrated effect on
00:33:50
these topics that we're talking about
00:33:51
today and your mentality towards them
00:33:55
interestingly enough it didn't and the
00:33:57
reason why is I've spent a lot of time
00:34:00
thinking about my own mortality one of
00:34:02
the stories I tell about my father is he
00:34:04
actually had a premonition he was going
00:34:05
to die early and he told my mom this
00:34:07
when he got married to he said you know
00:34:08
what I'm going to die young it just is
00:34:10
what it is I think it's part of the
00:34:11
reason that he actually lived life to
00:34:14
its fullest while it was happening
00:34:15
because I think he kind of knew that he
00:34:17
didn't have a long trajectory I felt
00:34:19
exactly the opposite I always thought
00:34:22
that I was going to live a longer life
00:34:25
and so I believe it or not wasn't is
00:34:27
worried about grinding it out young in
00:34:28
age cuz I figured I had a pretty long
00:34:31
trajectory so I looked at things a
00:34:33
little different so yes it's strange
00:34:37
knowing my internal feelings and saying
00:34:39
I'm 50 years old my dad died at 40
00:34:41
because I only have the picture of him
00:34:43
of a seven-year-old like my picture of
00:34:45
my father is this person who is much
00:34:47
older than me and they were very adult
00:34:49
and I was very little and so as a
00:34:51
50-year-old now to look back and come to
00:34:53
terms with the fact that I'm older than
00:34:56
he was and I've accomplished some of the
00:34:58
things he did and and so that that's
00:35:00
what's kind of the disconnect for me but
00:35:03
I kind of lived with a much different
00:35:05
feeling about mortality and so it didn't
00:35:08
affect me I think as profoundly as it
00:35:09
might have affected someone else got it
00:35:11
that that makes sense that makes sense I
00:35:13
want to Pivot back a little bit to some
00:35:15
of your experiences as a hospice doctor
00:35:18
and now my my kind of segue into this
00:35:20
question so at work for me or through my
00:35:23
blog or through the podcast even at like
00:35:25
you know the family Barbecue the friends
00:35:27
barbecues now people know kind of what I
00:35:29
do where my passions are I hear people
00:35:32
talking or people come up to me and say
00:35:33
things like I want to earn $200,000
00:35:37
that's my goal or I want to retire with
00:35:39
$3 million that's my goal you know money
00:35:42
is the goal they're measuring in terms
00:35:44
of dollars but I'm curious could you
00:35:46
share some of your experiences as a
00:35:48
hospice doctor and and maybe first just
00:35:51
in 20 seconds explain what a hospice
00:35:53
doctor does in case some of our
00:35:54
listeners aren't aren't familiar but
00:35:56
then how many many of your patients
00:35:57
share their Joy or regret of life in
00:36:01
terms of dollars by hitting monetary
00:36:04
goals right so hospice doctor is a
00:36:06
doctor who takes care of patients in the
00:36:08
last six months of their life the care
00:36:10
is not oriented to cure or fixing the
00:36:13
problem it's really oriented to making
00:36:16
people comfortable and helping them
00:36:17
prepare for this idea that they're dying
00:36:20
and so I deal with a lot of people at
00:36:23
the end of life and almost no one says I
00:36:26
wish I had hit a higher net worth almost
00:36:29
no one says I wish I worked more nights
00:36:30
and weekends when people do talk about
00:36:34
money it's usually a regret that they
00:36:37
didn't have enough just to cover some of
00:36:38
the basic things they needed or a wish
00:36:42
that they could have left more to their
00:36:44
children which is more about I wish I
00:36:45
could leave more of a legacy to my
00:36:47
children and not necessarily about money
00:36:49
itself and so usually money is not
00:36:53
something people specifically talk about
00:36:55
and if you think about it it makes sense
00:36:58
you know I've said in my book and I've
00:37:00
written about this extensively on my
00:37:01
blog you know money is really a mirage
00:37:04
we give it all sorts of characteristics
00:37:06
as if it's this big important thing and
00:37:10
that thing unto itself has meaning or
00:37:12
value but we all really kind of know
00:37:14
money is a construct it's something that
00:37:17
helps us do other things and it's those
00:37:19
other things which are important not the
00:37:21
money itself money is a tool and people
00:37:24
forget it's just one of many tools it's
00:37:26
it's a very effective tool if you have
00:37:28
lots of money it can provide space and
00:37:31
time for you to explore those other
00:37:34
things that are purposeful to you but
00:37:36
it's just one of many tools and so it's
00:37:38
really hard for a person at their
00:37:41
deathbed to look at money and that be
00:37:43
the regret because money signifies other
00:37:46
things and so the real question is what
00:37:49
does money signify in your life and how
00:37:51
can we start working to those towards
00:37:53
those other things whether you have the
00:37:55
money today or not because again A lot
00:37:57
of times we have other tools at our
00:37:59
disposal that can help us get there you
00:38:02
might not have had enough money to fire
00:38:04
the day that you realized that you'd
00:38:05
rather be doing what you're doing today
00:38:07
as opposed to being an engineer but you
00:38:09
had your knowledge your skills your
00:38:11
knowhow and your passion and those were
00:38:12
some other tools that you could use to
00:38:15
start living a more purposeful life that
00:38:18
day as opposed to waiting till you had
00:38:20
enough money to bail you out to do it
00:38:22
and so people make the mistake they
00:38:24
think oh boy we need lots of money and
00:38:26
money is going to solve all our problems
00:38:29
it solves some problems but not all and
00:38:31
a lot of people find themselves quite
00:38:33
depressed and disconcerted when they
00:38:35
actually get to their goal Financial
00:38:36
number and realize that all their life
00:38:38
problems still exist they just don't
00:38:41
have any financial problems anymore but
00:38:42
they still maybe don't know who they are
00:38:44
or what's important to them or they're
00:38:46
still chasing after this concept of
00:38:47
happiness and they haven't quite figured
00:38:49
out what that is yeah you're you're
00:38:51
exactly right I think the day I decided
00:38:53
to switch jobs and then the day I
00:38:55
eventually did switch jobs my financial
00:38:58
metrics took a hit my salary decreased
00:39:02
my eventual you know retire early date
00:39:05
if I wanted to do that got pushed out to
00:39:06
the Future just across the board the
00:39:08
financial numbers took a hit but from a
00:39:12
life enjoyment point of view or just
00:39:14
from a efficacy of my time point of view
00:39:17
what used to be this 9h hour block a day
00:39:19
of essentially negative space time that
00:39:22
I either felt was completely committed
00:39:24
to my corporate employer time that I
00:39:26
didn't feel like I owned time that I
00:39:28
really didn't enjoy got replaced with
00:39:31
you know maybe 10 hours a day at the new
00:39:33
job but where I'm enjoying what I'm
00:39:35
doing I'm getting to have conversations
00:39:37
like this one and many other
00:39:39
conversations with people that are
00:39:41
really helping them in their life and
00:39:43
therefore giving me meaning in in my
00:39:45
life more meaning so finances took a hit
00:39:49
you know you could objectively say
00:39:50
negative yet somehow overall a huge
00:39:54
positive impact on my life and that's
00:39:56
because I I need to measure change in
00:39:58
something other than just the financial
00:40:00
aspect and this is a perfect example of
00:40:03
how I think we should be thinking about
00:40:04
money so what you did is you Ed the art
00:40:07
of subtraction you took what you loathe
00:40:08
in your life and you subtracted it out
00:40:10
but then you Ed the art of addition
00:40:12
which is then taking things that were
00:40:14
joyful and purposeful and started adding
00:40:16
them into that open space that was now
00:40:20
available what was the role of money
00:40:22
well money is a tool so if you were
00:40:24
moderately successful as an engineer and
00:40:25
you had enough money to take that
00:40:27
Financial hit it definitely allowed you
00:40:30
to move to that next step but the money
00:40:33
itself didn't solve any real problems it
00:40:35
just gave you a touch of margin so that
00:40:37
you could subtract out what was bad and
00:40:39
add in what was good but you needed a
00:40:41
lot more than money you needed other
00:40:43
tools you needed something you were
00:40:44
passionate about you might have needed
00:40:46
some connections in the community to get
00:40:47
a new job or just to learn how to do the
00:40:50
things you now wanted to do you might
00:40:52
have needed energy right and passion and
00:40:55
all these other types of tools that you
00:40:57
had at your disposal money was just one
00:40:59
of them but the money really again
00:41:01
wasn't the important thing and this is
00:41:03
the mistake we make when we think that
00:41:05
net worth is what our true goal is money
00:41:08
was a tool along the way living the life
00:41:10
full of
00:41:11
purpose that's the real
00:41:14
goal totally agree and and the
00:41:16
connections part we haven't really
00:41:17
touched on the connections too much yet
00:41:20
that was a really big part of my
00:41:21
transition and it was something I think
00:41:23
I undervalued as an engineer but now I
00:41:26
see more and more every day the value of
00:41:28
connections and that can be family and
00:41:30
friendly connections on the personal
00:41:32
side it could be you know more of like a
00:41:35
business connection and or or you know
00:41:36
I'm thinking of what you and I are doing
00:41:38
here Jordan right podcasting blogging
00:41:40
the people that we've met here in this
00:41:41
personal finance content community and
00:41:44
the amazing opportunities that have come
00:41:46
out of those connections it is something
00:41:48
that depending on who I'm talking to
00:41:51
when someone's kind of explaining some
00:41:52
of their struggles in life that's now
00:41:54
one of the things that I spend a lot of
00:41:55
time think about is is this person
00:41:58
struggling at all on the connections
00:42:00
side so do you have any thoughts advice
00:42:03
regrets of the dying that you can share
00:42:05
with us when it comes to Connections in
00:42:07
life let me State something that I've
00:42:10
probably never stated in this way before
00:42:13
but nonetheless is exceedingly true
00:42:15
connections is the most part of this
00:42:17
journey and it's all the so the one you
00:42:19
should spend almost no time thinking
00:42:21
about and this is why purpose and
00:42:25
identity if you pursue them
00:42:28
avidly and find what is your purpose and
00:42:32
get in touch with your own identity the
00:42:34
connections will naturally flow without
00:42:37
you thinking much about them the goal of
00:42:40
all of this is not purpose the goal of
00:42:42
all of this is not identity the goal of
00:42:44
all this is community and connections I
00:42:46
actually believe that that's what makes
00:42:47
us feel good in life and probably leads
00:42:50
to our greatest Legacy after we're gone
00:42:52
or the people we've touched who continue
00:42:56
that's how we live on after we die
00:42:58
that's our True
00:43:00
Legacy but I think you should spend not
00:43:03
a moment worrying about that I think if
00:43:04
you develop your sense of purpose and
00:43:06
identity the connections naturally will
00:43:08
follow they certainly did with me when I
00:43:10
started being a person more in touch
00:43:13
with my own sense of identity and
00:43:15
started doing things that I was
00:43:16
purposeful about I couldn't help but
00:43:18
forming a community when I started
00:43:20
podcasting I had all these people on my
00:43:22
podcast and they became my friends and
00:43:26
they also helped and pushed me and said
00:43:28
one of my friends who I had on the
00:43:29
podcast a few times said hey you really
00:43:32
need to write a book and that was
00:43:33
actually a big portion of purpose for me
00:43:35
but I was afraid to do it before I had
00:43:37
all these worries about failing and I
00:43:40
had no idea how to really get it done
00:43:42
and how to get it professionally
00:43:43
published but because I had built a
00:43:45
community this Community member not only
00:43:48
gave me the courage to do something I
00:43:49
really wanted to do but then also had
00:43:51
the KN how because he had published a
00:43:53
book
00:43:54
before and so it's cyclical it all
00:43:56
Builds on itself so if you work on
00:43:58
purpose and identity the rest I truly
00:44:00
believe will take care of itself that's
00:44:02
the Nugget of gold that that not not
00:44:05
that the rest of this conversation
00:44:06
hasn't been
00:44:07
terrific really no it really has been
00:44:09
it's been an awesome conversation but
00:44:11
that's something that I I don't think
00:44:13
I've ever really thought about that or
00:44:15
heard it put in that way Jordan phrased
00:44:17
in that way but I can see it making
00:44:20
sense like pursue your unique identity
00:44:24
find your unique identity pursue your
00:44:27
specific passions and you'll find the
00:44:30
right Community to fall into or a
00:44:32
community will form around you or you'll
00:44:34
meet new people who have those same
00:44:35
passions and purpose as you do and and
00:44:38
that will end up being your community
00:44:40
essentially you don't have to try for it
00:44:42
is what you're saying it'll it's a
00:44:44
function it naturally flows from
00:44:46
pursuing your purpose and identity I
00:44:48
love it and it will lead and this is the
00:44:52
other part of it it will lead to a
00:44:54
greater Legacy and so let me tell
00:44:56
another story I've been telling a lot
00:44:58
lately about when I was in elementary
00:45:01
and middle school I was a pretty dorky
00:45:04
kid I didn't have a lot of friends I
00:45:06
didn't feel like I got along I always
00:45:07
felt different my dad had died all these
00:45:09
things I had a learning disability when
00:45:10
I was little I didn't feel like I fit in
00:45:12
at all but I loved baseball and I loved
00:45:16
collecting baseball
00:45:18
cards down the street from me about a
00:45:20
mile right by my middle school was an
00:45:22
antique stealer and that antique stealer
00:45:27
one day bought a bunch of antiques and
00:45:29
one of the things that was part of this
00:45:31
a lot of antiques was a bunch of
00:45:32
baseball cards he knew nothing about
00:45:34
baseball cards he was selling off the
00:45:36
Antiques in his store a snarky high
00:45:38
school kid came in and said hey how much
00:45:40
you want for those baseball cards he was
00:45:41
like 10 bucks guy said sure 10 bucks
00:45:44
gave him 10 bucks spread the cards out
00:45:46
on the counter and said this one this
00:45:48
one and this one are worth $100 total
00:45:51
and the rest of them are worth about
00:45:52
another 50 this antique stealer wasn't
00:45:55
pissed off off he was actually
00:45:57
enthralled he started buying and selling
00:45:59
baseball cards he loved it it actually
00:46:01
made his time in the antique store much
00:46:03
more enjoyable he had been finishing off
00:46:05
furniture stuff he liked but the
00:46:07
Antiques really spoke to him he was
00:46:09
living a life of purpose he actually
00:46:11
started making more money but the reason
00:46:15
why I'm bringing this up is this guy was
00:46:16
living his purpose he had figured out
00:46:18
his identity he knew what he liked but
00:46:20
he also created a space where the dorky
00:46:22
kids could come kids who didn't have
00:46:24
Community kids who needed mentorship and
00:46:28
people like me would show up and he
00:46:30
became kind of our Mentor we would open
00:46:32
up packs of baseball cards I spent
00:46:34
countless afternoons in that
00:46:37
store looking back that was the
00:46:39
beginning of building confidence that
00:46:41
was the beginning of where I learned how
00:46:43
to
00:46:44
socialize this guy had a profound impact
00:46:47
on me and I don't think he was meaning
00:46:49
to do that I think he was enthralled
00:46:51
just as much as we were in the baseball
00:46:53
cards he had started Living a life of
00:46:56
purpose he got in touch with his
00:46:58
identity but by doing that he changed a
00:47:02
generation of young kids who lived in
00:47:04
the area he actually got testicular
00:47:06
cancer and the store had to close and I
00:47:09
assume it was you know spread and who
00:47:12
knows I don't know if he lived or died I
00:47:13
hav't I I don't know but let's say God
00:47:15
forbid that he had become one of like
00:47:17
one of my hospice patients yeah after he
00:47:20
was long gone there was this generation
00:47:23
of kids who felt more confident
00:47:26
who had learned how to socialize who had
00:47:28
the positive effects of a mentor and
00:47:31
they probably eventually became
00:47:32
professionals and had kids and maybe
00:47:34
they introduced baseball cards to their
00:47:36
kids and so if we think about
00:47:39
Legacy purpose and identity lead to
00:47:41
Connections in community connections and
00:47:43
Community lead to changing the people
00:47:45
around you and those changes last long
00:47:49
after you're gone maybe for Generations
00:47:52
as generations and generations of
00:47:54
fathers and mother mothers teach their
00:47:56
kids about baseball cards and that
00:47:58
creates Community for them and changes
00:48:00
the world and so ultimately I think this
00:48:03
is how we create our biggest Legacy and
00:48:06
it has nothing and I'll say it one more
00:48:08
time it has nothing to do with
00:48:11
money a rising tide lifts All Ships I
00:48:14
mean that gentleman was a rising tide in
00:48:16
in your life Jordan and and and the the
00:48:18
community of you know young men around
00:48:20
you and you're acting as a rising tide
00:48:23
in many ways for for your listeners for
00:48:25
your readers
00:48:26
so interesting actually now with this
00:48:29
antique store owner his community was
00:48:32
very much iners and known to him and and
00:48:35
known to you it was right there in front
00:48:37
of you it was tangible your community
00:48:39
and maybe to some extent my community I
00:48:42
don't know all my readers and listeners
00:48:44
and it's very interesting that
00:48:46
especially you I think with the earn and
00:48:47
invest podcast with your book taking
00:48:49
stock you're likely having an impact in
00:48:52
some ways that you're not even fully
00:48:54
aware of it on a a day-to-day
00:48:57
basis it's funny the difference between
00:49:00
local and Global impact my theory is
00:49:03
actually if you have local impact it
00:49:05
eventually spreads so you're talking
00:49:06
about a rising wave I love the the ocean
00:49:10
metaphor but for me it's more like a
00:49:12
pebble dropped in the middle of the
00:49:13
ocean creates a displacement a ripple
00:49:16
that can carry on for huge distances and
00:49:19
so that's how I think about how we
00:49:20
impact people locally now in the world
00:49:23
we live in today that's much more
00:49:25
virtual we have the internet I can make
00:49:27
a podcast in my home isolated with just
00:49:30
talking to a few people but that can go
00:49:31
out to thousands and thousands more I
00:49:34
think we can have that same ripple
00:49:37
effect that we used to only think Could
00:49:38
Happen locally but now it has a little
00:49:41
bit more of a global impact but I don't
00:49:43
think the theory is any different yes I
00:49:47
locally create Community with people I
00:49:49
know for instance when I was collecting
00:49:51
baseball cards as a podcaster I create
00:49:54
communities of other
00:49:56
podcasters and people I have on my show
00:49:58
and people I meet through it but you're
00:50:00
also correct in the sense that there is
00:50:02
a more hidden or invisible Community to
00:50:04
me of people listening and feeling a
00:50:06
part of the podcast that I don't
00:50:08
necessarily interact with every day but
00:50:11
I don't know if that necessarily lessens
00:50:12
the impact I think if I didn't have any
00:50:15
local community if I didn't interact
00:50:18
with people and meet through people
00:50:19
through the podcast and go to
00:50:21
conferences and get to be in the same
00:50:22
room with them something would be
00:50:24
definitely less
00:50:25
but that doesn't take away from the
00:50:27
impact of those hidden communities that
00:50:29
we're forming that maybe we're not as
00:50:31
aware of I think as a content creator
00:50:33
we're in a different bucket in a sense
00:50:35
than lots of people because most people
00:50:37
aren't content creators so they do all
00:50:39
these things but usually they're impact
00:50:41
as much more local I think those of us
00:50:44
who create content sometimes have a
00:50:47
little bit farther of a reach but I
00:50:48
don't think it changes anything per se
00:50:50
no I I don't think so either I agree
00:50:52
with you and if anything I think it's an
00:50:54
important thing for you and I to remind
00:50:56
ourselves that there probably are a lot
00:50:58
of relatively silent but still impacted
00:51:02
listeners and readers out there who
00:51:04
maybe we only hear from them maybe we
00:51:06
only hear from one in 100 or one in 10
00:51:08
or one in 50 but then there's another 49
00:51:11
in 50 that are getting a great impact
00:51:14
and we're helping them out in some
00:51:15
little or big way we might not never
00:51:17
know and and that's interesting in its
00:51:19
own way yeah what I always tell people
00:51:21
is like when you try to sell something
00:51:23
on your podcast or you offer course or
00:51:25
you offer something even if you have a
00:51:27
pretty engaged audience you suspect that
00:51:31
3 to 5% of people might actually take
00:51:34
action and do something about it right
00:51:36
so if you're getting an email here or
00:51:39
there imagine that you could multiply
00:51:41
that by 20 is the true impact right so
00:51:44
every time I get an email and someone
00:51:45
says hey your book really spoke to me or
00:51:47
I love this episode you just did I kind
00:51:49
of in my mind multiply that by 20
00:51:51
because a very small number of people
00:51:53
and this is this is Insider talk for
00:51:55
Content creators as opposed to everyone
00:51:57
else but a very small percentage of
00:51:59
people
00:52:01
actually take action based on what you
00:52:04
say and let you know about it maybe they
00:52:06
take action based on what you say but
00:52:07
very few people will actually go and
00:52:08
write you an email so if you an avid
00:52:10
listener of a content creator or reader
00:52:13
of a content creator this is the message
00:52:15
to you your messages back to us mean
00:52:18
something and it's nice to hear that
00:52:21
kind of we're not just sending this
00:52:23
stuff out in The Ether because sometimes
00:52:24
it feels like it exactly right this is
00:52:27
this is our plea for you guys to send
00:52:29
Jordan a message send me a message let
00:52:31
us know that you just heard us speaking
00:52:33
and we would greatly appreciate it well
00:52:36
Jordan I mean terrific conversation I've
00:52:38
enjoyed it I know our listeners will
00:52:40
enjoy it I've mentioned a couple times
00:52:42
your podcast and your book and I want to
00:52:44
make sure that listeners know where they
00:52:45
can listen and where they can check that
00:52:47
out so where where can people find you
00:52:50
so the easiest way to find me is to go
00:52:52
to Jordan grommet.com that's J R
00:52:56
dgme.com the reason why is you can find
00:53:00
links to everywhere I create content
00:53:02
there so number one the book taking
00:53:04
stock a hospice doctor's advice on
00:53:06
financial Independence Building Wealth
00:53:08
and living a regret-free life the links
00:53:10
are there to Amazon or wherever you want
00:53:12
to buy it there's also links to my
00:53:14
medical blog called in my humble opinion
00:53:16
which I wrote from about 2004 to
00:53:19
2018 my financial blog diversify dcom
00:53:22
and the earn and invest podcast I spend
00:53:24
most of my time on earn and invest and
00:53:26
so you can find that all at Jordan
00:53:28
grommet.com
00:53:29
excellent all those links will be in the
00:53:31
show notes everybody Jordan grummet dog
00:53:34
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00:53:35
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Episode Highlights

  • The Valley of Drudgery
    Jesse Kramer explores the challenges of maintaining motivation during long-term goals.
    “Most of life is spent down in the valley of drudgery.”
    @ 06m 17s
    January 29, 2024
  • Living a Regret-Free Life
    Dr. Jordan Grummet discusses the importance of addressing regrets before it's too late.
    “Start thinking about what are those things that are deeply important to you now.”
    @ 16m 50s
    January 29, 2024
  • Finding Purpose in Life
    Dr. Grummet shares techniques for identifying what brings long-term joy and purpose.
    “Finding a sense of purpose and identity is a long-term thing.”
    @ 19m 49s
    January 29, 2024
  • The Life Review
    A structured series of questions that helps individuals reflect on their lives and what truly matters to them.
    “Doing a Life review is actually a fantastic way to start thinking about purpose.”
    @ 20m 21s
    January 29, 2024
  • Creating Purpose
    Purpose is not found; it is created through exploration and reflection on what matters to you.
    “What you’re really looking for are threads of things that seem important to you.”
    @ 21m 49s
    January 29, 2024
  • Money's True Value
    At the end of life, few people wish they had earned more money; instead, they reflect on legacy and relationships.
    “Almost no one says I wish I had hit a higher net worth.”
    @ 36m 26s
    January 29, 2024
  • The Role of Money
    Money is a tool that can provide margin but doesn't solve deeper life problems.
    “Money itself didn’t solve any real problems; it just gave you a touch of margin.”
    @ 40m 33s
    January 29, 2024
  • Finding Purpose
    Pursuing your identity naturally leads to forming connections and community.
    “If you develop your sense of purpose and identity, the connections will naturally follow.”
    @ 42m 34s
    January 29, 2024
  • The Impact of Community
    Building connections can change lives and create lasting legacies beyond financial success.
    “Purpose and identity lead to connections in community, which change the people around you.”
    @ 47m 41s
    January 29, 2024

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Key Moments

  • Meet Doc G00:31
  • Valley of Drudgery02:34
  • Purpose and Identity19:49
  • Creating Purpose21:49
  • Living Fully31:15
  • Money Regrets36:26
  • Money as a Tool41:01
  • Pursuing Purpose42:34

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