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Mitch James back again! || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey

April 09, 202301:37:34
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hey Runners only with dime Harley
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Runners only with dom Harvey and for the
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second time Mitch James thank you for
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having me back brother brother thanks
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for coming back I thought the time was
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right because
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um uh you were the very first guest on
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the podcast when it launched um just
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over a year ago so I thought we'd do
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like um an update like since so much has
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happened in both your life and my life
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since we met a year ago for the podcast
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and uh I thought it's a good time to
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check in not so for anyone that um has
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been one of the day ones and listen to
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the first episode with Mitch James or
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maybe you've gone back and listened to
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it I overshared a lot but this the idea
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of this chat's not for it to be like uh
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the same interview again
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um this is like a different updated
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conversation we might touch upon some of
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the same stuff
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um but yeah I just want to see what's
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been going on in your life
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first of all um welcome what do you
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think to myself
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and uh so your life um since we met last
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time your second album's been released
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yes it's called patience why is that a
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fairly self-explanatory title or why the
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I'd like to think so yeah it's um I had
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a big uh a lot of delays in the whole
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process to get the album out and ended
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up taking four years and many iterations
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and lots of record label drama and and
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all of that fun stuff so uh I wanted to
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name it patience after one year and then
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it just became ironic after four so I
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felt like I had to keep it
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I I feel like um I feel like I can
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relate with this podcast uni I'm on
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because I know where I am and I know
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where I want to be and unfortunately
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there are some things where there's just
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no way of accelerating that process you
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just you do need that patience but [ __ ]
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it's difficult right yes yeah it is it's
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um it's funny like I was talking to my
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mom the other day on the phone about
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something going on in my personal life
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and I actually said to her I was like
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man like I wish that just because I
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released an album called patience I wish
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that I'd like mastered and didn't have
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to ever have to address it again but
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it's something that definitely pops up
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and all areas of life and when you're
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energetic people like we are and I guess
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you know as a Runners podcast I'm pretty
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sure a lot of people will uh will vouch
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for the fact that you know the energy
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never stops yeah do you think do you
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think um
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you think it's like an ADHD thing or
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just like a like a drive thing like
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you're never quite happy where you are
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you always like searching for happiness
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what do you think it is I think
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yeah I think
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there's definitely uh some ADHD traits
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that have helped me on the way but I
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think yeah it's it's definitely like a
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mixture of uh of all the all of the
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above I think drive and perseverance and
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resilience something I keep coming back
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to as well though so they definitely
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helped me on on the Journey of uh trying
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to navigate this there's patience I
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guess for the last four years so it's
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yeah it's been a hell of a journey and
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very frustrating but um
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finally got some clear Runway so it's
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it's an exciting new chapter on the
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horizon that's a good it's a good album
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too we're going to go through it um
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track my track
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um there is a saying in the music
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business they call it the difficult
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second album have you heard that saying
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oh yeah
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oh I'll tell you what yesterday's
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sitting in the sitting in the chair
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where you are with some Rachel Hunter uh
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you know New Zealand supermodel he put
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on
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a massive humping show for her they put
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his biggest toy for like 10 minutes had
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a boy and a boy so um yeah why do they
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why do they you've heard that saying
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difficult second album and what is it
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yeah yeah well I mean so I guess the
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whole the whole yarn that of the
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difficult second album is especially if
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you not many people make it to their
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second album I I think it's something
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like 90 95 of people don't make it and
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the record label game so if you make it
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to your second album firstly that's an
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achievement and a sorry to your second
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album that's an achievement in itself
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um actually getting your first one out
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as an achievement too but there's so
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much pressure on it because the there's
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more budgets there's more expectation
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you've gotta you know especially if
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you've had a great first album like I
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did there's lots of expectations to
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um you know surpass your numbers that
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you got on your last one or to for this
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one to go gold or platinum yeah and
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stuff like that because you're expected
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to because the uh the last one went
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there so it's um yeah it's there's a lot
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of expectation there and I definitely
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felt it especially you know I tried to
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get different iterations of the album
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out which didn't get accepted and and so
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on and so forth and
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pardon me that really uh that really
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tested my patience and and basically it
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got the put the bar so high for the
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second album the magical second album
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that everyone talks about that you can
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almost uh you almost never reach it well
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I certainly feel that that I didn't
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reach it but if I'm being honest but I
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feel like you'll be that uh you I feel
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like whatever album you put out
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um it's your best book at that given
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moment in time but I feel like you're
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never going to be totally happy with it
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maybe I'm projecting here no no I I feel
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the same and I think definitely with
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with my uh my last album that I just did
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There's again that that so much
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expectation that was put on it that you
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know I'm just happy to have it out and
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it definitely was the my best uh work at
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that point in time but yeah it's just
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man it's just [ __ ] frustrating that
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this business sometimes and I'm just
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happy to have it out and and be free of
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that whole process and that record label
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and and everything so yeah you mentioned
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before something about um you you handed
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it in and it got rejected like because
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of the quality of the song is that from
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the label is that from your management
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is it people saying there's no radio
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hits on there or what what's the yeah
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that's basically all the uh all the
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record label
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um I would have had the my last album
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out literally
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um probably six months after the first
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one if I had it my way so they um yeah
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that's it's all a
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and the deal that I was in it was all
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about them having the power and the
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control as to when they wanted to
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release it so
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um so they definitely exercised that and
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and tested my patience so are you still
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with Sony that's your record label no uh
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no no no no no as of uh as a very
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recently no wow so who are you with
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anyone or are you independent I'm a free
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agent right right now so what what is
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what does that mean exactly like from um
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yeah what do you lose from that what do
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you gain from it
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um
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I uh
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uh so basically I have I have freedom
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now to release whenever I want which is
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the main thing like I'm not going to sit
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here and and slag people off but like I
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um I basically just have the opportunity
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now to if I have music and I um want to
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release it I can release it and so
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that's that's been the most important
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thing for me going forward is like now I
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can um yeah I can just release whenever
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I want which has been
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it's been frustrating for me because I'm
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such a prolific songwriter I write so
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much songs that I have a massive backlog
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that I've wanted to keep people up to
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date with over the last few years and I
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haven't been able to so now I just get
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to give people a snapshot of where I'm
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at maybe two maybe three times a year
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and and that's really exciting for me
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and if if another label deal pops up
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that and the shoe fits I'll definitely
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look into it but at the moment it's you
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know I've had such a
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difficult run with the whole uh the
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whole process coming up to this point
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that it's it's got to be the perfect fit
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so in fact but you you are just um
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putting myself in the position of your
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record label for a second you'd be um
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you'd be a nightmare artist in that
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you're you're so eager so enthusiastic
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so hungry well it must be like calm down
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we've got to work we've got a we've got
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a model there's a way we do this you
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need to wait another year album cycle
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whatever and you'll be like no well yeah
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I mean I would have thought that those
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those characteristics were something
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that they would have enjoyed but it
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turns out that uh I don't know maybe uh
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maybe they don't but um but yeah I'm
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if that's being a nightmare to work with
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then [ __ ] guilty as charged brother
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guilt of his child yeah yeah well you
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know you know I'm a fan I'm just playing
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Devils of course of course
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um
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well that seems like this seems like
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there's a lot of Pros there what are the
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cons like is it is it a scary thing
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being out on your own without the
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backing of a label what are the cons I
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mean money money's hard to come by at
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the at this at this point in time for
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anyone in this current world and uh
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basically the labels you know they they
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front all the money and that's how they
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they kind of run their business and so
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let's [ __ ] all day from them isn't it
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don't you get most of your money from
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touring and oh like none of my money
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that goes in into my pocket would have
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been from them but they pay for all the
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the production of them I can use it
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which is [ __ ] expensive and
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yeah exactly at dumplings earlier
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um yeah so it's it's it's a very uh it's
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an interesting sort of business but I
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think there's just a lot more risk and a
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lot more it's just scary having to go
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out on your own and
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um you know I've never been like a
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social media person and the truth of the
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matter is you if you want to be an
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independent artist and you want to
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succeed you have to Market yourself on
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the social media
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um
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how old did I just sound the social
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media the YouTube
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70 years old
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um but yeah like I mean I've hired
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someone to take care of my social media
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and it's an exciting new chapter you
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know like I've got a lot of music that
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I'm really proud of that I'm about to
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release and it just feels like you know
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I was the uh I was the project of of the
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label for a while and it worked and but
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I feel like there's a new chapter for me
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just sort of like as a man you know what
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I mean like I don't really want to be
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the the yes sir how high do I jump to to
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someone when you know I want to have
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that balance in my life I spend so much
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time you know jumping through heaps of
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of doing everything that uh the the
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industry asked me to that it's I'm just
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kind of tired of that and want to just
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release music and and make my own music
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on my own terms and I could really give
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a [ __ ] about the the rest of the hooplar
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if it comes it comes if it doesn't it
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doesn't it's just yeah a new chapter and
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time for me to just you know do my thing
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but on my terms I think good for you I
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feel like you and me um are in the same
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sort of position in a way like I've gone
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from the comfort of having a like a
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radio salary where there's a marketing
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team that promotes you to having to like
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pimp myself out on and on the Instagram
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the Instagram yeah
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it's different and I think as new
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zealanders it's a it's a very
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interesting thing because we're always
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taught to you know ourselves and not
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just ourselves and it's very it's very
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unnatural I feel to like be like hey
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everybody look at my photos for the
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fourth time from this weekend and but
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it's just the nature of the Beast
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unfortunately now and you've got to go
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to adapt or you're [ __ ] so yeah we I
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mean we gotta help ourselves out of it I
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guess don't and we're recording this on
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a a Tuesday just after you did the um a
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Dunedin slot opening for 660 and um so
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the social media content you're talking
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about I've seen that online it looks
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[ __ ] great yeah you've got like a
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social media person yeah
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um Mr Logan Dodds so I'm sure people
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know ridiculously handsome oh God isn't
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he just
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um yeah he's uh he's an absolute weapon
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um and really knows what he's doing um
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with the whole social game and he's just
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he's one of my mates you know so it's he
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understands me and I trust that he can
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portray me accurately on it so um yeah
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it's it's definitely a change and I feel
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kind of even just [ __ ] weird talking
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about it to be honest because it's it's
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something that I may actively try and
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like not make a part of my life but now
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I got to make it a part of my life and
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[ __ ] I don't know I just just trying to
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get a [ __ ] enough bread to eat this
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big dog
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like an interesting relationship with uh
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social media in that
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um you I feel like you've got a healthy
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relationship with it like uh you you'll
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disappear you'll go to ground completely
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for three months six months whatever and
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there'll be no posts no stories no
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nothing and then when you've got
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something to promote you'll come back is
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that is that a fair way of like
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summarizing your relationship with
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social media yeah I think it is I think
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that's fair to say do you disable the
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account completely when that happens or
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I tend to delete it off my phone uh but
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not delete the account
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um yeah it's it's definitely a love hate
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thing oh it's it's necessary evil yeah
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so that's probably a better way of
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describing it for me uh yeah social
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media is like
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I don't want to [ __ ] post my
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breakfast and be like hey guys it's
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stuck in bacon and eggs today look at me
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um with the you know the blue eyes
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filter on and [ __ ] I just I don't know I
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thought that [ __ ] just rubs me the wrong
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way and I feel but I understand that
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people want to like get an insight to
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you but I I don't know I I draw the line
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at like my personal life like I I'm
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totally okay with you know Logan
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following me around with the camera when
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I'm on tour and when I'm off stage on
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tour or whatever but you know when I'm
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uh when I'm sitting at home
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um trying to mind my own business I I
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have to draw the line there and I but
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you know I suppose in a way
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um I know I might be if I'm completely
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wrong about this tell me that I don't
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know [ __ ] but I feel like uh there's oh
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you don't know [ __ ]
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but I feel I feel like um everyone that
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is on stage is to a degree a character
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like I saw Lord perform the other day
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and it's I I know to Ella reasonably
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well and she's very different when you
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see her in the supermarket to how she is
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on stage and you're exactly the same
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like oh yeah totally totally I mean if
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you saw me on stage in Dunedin I my mum
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called me earlier and she she describes
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my energy as like flee from the Red Hot
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Chili Peppers and I was like [ __ ] Mom I
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don't know if that's [ __ ] a good
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thing or if that's sort of like a
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crackhead sort of energy I'm giving off
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but you know like I'm if you catch me on
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my couch on a on a Monday morning after
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my run
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that's very different human being to the
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guy who's bouncing around on stage is
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it's definitely like a character if you
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will of so it's like I
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I do before I go on stage on channel I
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know exactly what energy I'm trying to
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channel and [ __ ] it takes it out of you
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bro like after I was done the last tour
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that I was on last year after four
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months like I barely talked to anyone
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for for a whole month when I got home I
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just had to sit down and [ __ ]
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smoke a lot of comments
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um and and just relax you know because
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there was there's so much energy that
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you're taking from everyone every night
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and you've got to deliver for them and
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you've got to give them your best self
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and you know I if I'm not if people
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aren't leaving my show going [ __ ] that
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was some of the most intense like energy
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that someone's ever given for a show
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then as far as I'm concerned I've I've
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failed my audience so yeah it's it's
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pretty hard to balance at the best of
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times absolutely I mean you you watch
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you on stage and there's something
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Primal and something very sexual about
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it so there's a lot of Sexual Energy
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yeah I you know like I think so a little
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bit a little bit and I'm um I would uh
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Define myself as a hundred percent
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um heterosexual but it's like I suppose
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the women in the audience they they want
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to be with you and the guys there they
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want to be you
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if you are doing your job right yeah
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absolutely it's and again like you know
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that inner kiwi in me wants to come out
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and be like oh no you know like I'm just
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no no thanks but as I guess it is true
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you know it's um
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and I don't know where it comes from to
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be honest I'm like bro I know Steve's
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growing up I had no game got with no
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girls I was the the last in line but
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it's yeah I don't know it's just it's
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something
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knowing that no sorry yeah sorry for
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interrupting but knowing that background
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having no game no no checks into you
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when you're at school was that may even
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subliminally part of the motivation for
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getting into music you thought okay this
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is it this is a game about it brother
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them about it
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open as can be well otherwise you may
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have picked up the cello or something
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yeah a concert [ __ ] violinist or
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something yeah no no it's definitely um
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that was definitely part of part of it
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and I don't know if I'm like consciously
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trying I don't think I'm consciously
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trying to channel that but I think you
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know when you are like sort of like
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trying to muster up your character of
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what you want to be on stage and what
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you want to want to um you know the vibe
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you want to give off that is what you
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want to be doing as but yeah like you
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want to be the dude that the ladies want
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to be within [ __ ] if the fellas may you
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can stay and watch you can [ __ ] off man
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yeah I fully get that okay
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um I want to get into the urban patience
00:17:10
and run through it um track my track
00:17:12
because it's um man it's uh
00:17:15
it feels like a personal diary
00:17:18
you're listening to it when I was
00:17:21
listening to it I I there were some
00:17:23
things I wanted like it feels like it's
00:17:24
a form of therapy for you like getting
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these words on a page I wondered how
00:17:28
like your family reacted to it when they
00:17:30
when they heard it because you know it
00:17:33
does feel very very intensely personal
00:17:36
um we'll get to that first of all one
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other thing that's happened since we
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last caught up like a year ago I think
00:17:40
when we caught up last time there was
00:17:41
still like miq managed isolation
00:17:44
quarantine and you couldn't travel
00:17:46
anywhere but since then you've been you
00:17:48
went over to Europe with Callum Scott
00:17:49
yes yeah yeah so calum's got big song um
00:17:52
he does the Robin song Dancing On My Own
00:17:54
it's probably as big as that he had yeah
00:17:55
I mean he's to be fair to Calum he's had
00:17:58
quite a quite a number of effects now
00:17:59
but um yeah Dancing On My Own was
00:18:02
definitely uh I mean there's it's got
00:18:04
billions and billions of strains and
00:18:06
yeah you were the reason bloody where
00:18:08
are you now if he's he's got plenty I
00:18:11
think he's got the number one song in
00:18:12
the UK at the moment too but but Callum
00:18:14
just an absolute gym and and that tour
00:18:17
came up with I think
00:18:20
I don't know if this is the the full
00:18:22
truth but there's something like the the
00:18:25
support act before that was on the tour
00:18:27
for the first leg I think there was some
00:18:29
compatibility issues if we want to put
00:18:32
it that way oh spill the tea what does
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that mean well I I don't know I don't
00:18:37
wanna I don't want to be like a
00:18:38
personality clash with Kellum Scott or
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um no I I think yeah
00:18:45
yeah it was um
00:18:48
you were like a last minute ringing I
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was a last minute ringing but no I
00:18:52
didn't know Callum at this stage and
00:18:53
right I said you'd never met no you just
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like my music and um and so I got the
00:18:59
last minute call up and yeah went from
00:19:01
Estonia started in Estonia finished off
00:19:03
in South Africa it was the mo it was the
00:19:06
maddest [ __ ] experience I could have
00:19:08
ever imagined it was so full on and uh
00:19:10
but yeah I mean Callum is now I consider
00:19:13
him a close friend and his team and his
00:19:15
band and his crew are just the most
00:19:17
amazing people and I've got a couple
00:19:19
more weeks with them coming up before
00:19:20
that tour ends um soon but yeah that was
00:19:23
that was an amazing little way to finish
00:19:25
the year after you know covert being so
00:19:28
[ __ ] for all musicians to have a little
00:19:31
uh World Tour in there was pretty cool
00:19:33
but yeah so that was that was while you
00:19:35
were sort of treating water I guess
00:19:36
waiting for your new album patience to
00:19:38
come out yeah this is free patience so
00:19:41
yeah
00:19:42
so the show that we talked about before
00:19:44
in Dunedin I'm guessing for that
00:19:46
you know you're opening for 660. you're
00:19:49
a New Zealander it's a New Zealand
00:19:50
Stadium people are first to see you
00:19:51
everyone knows who you are you're
00:19:53
opening for Calum Scott and [ __ ]
00:19:55
Berlin no one knows who you are is it a
00:19:58
different sort of show yeah you have to
00:20:00
try harder or do it's a different vibe
00:20:03
yeah sure
00:20:04
um and it's not for everyone to be
00:20:06
honest bro it's uh it's [ __ ] hard
00:20:08
work you're trying to win people over
00:20:10
that don't know you exactly you've got
00:20:12
to win them over and we had man that dog
00:20:15
humps
00:20:16
um
00:20:17
it's because you're all the Sexual
00:20:19
Energy you're bringing
00:20:23
um
00:20:24
um
00:20:26
it's a different sort of show like I say
00:20:29
if you um yeah you walk on stage in
00:20:31
Dunedin yeah everyone knows who you are
00:20:33
everyone knows your songs everyone knows
00:20:35
the words you will walk on stage in
00:20:37
Estonia opening for a room full of
00:20:39
people that are there to see Calum Scott
00:20:40
I feel like is it a different sort of
00:20:42
show that you have to do yeah
00:20:49
36 shows and I think I was confident
00:20:53
that I completely won over the crowd and
00:20:54
33 of them and the other wow yeah and
00:20:58
that's it's hard work and I I really did
00:21:00
get a kick out of of
00:21:02
the process because
00:21:05
I'm just a dude with a guitar in front
00:21:07
of a couple thousand people it's Friday
00:21:09
night
00:21:10
they've got a drink in their hand
00:21:12
they're not here for me like how am I
00:21:14
going to make them shut up and listen to
00:21:16
me because it's it's [ __ ] it's hard I
00:21:19
just got my guitar so
00:21:21
um it's it's a pretty it's a very like
00:21:23
uh
00:21:24
yeah I would kind of describe it as like
00:21:26
almost Primal in a way it's like I'm I'm
00:21:28
I'm gonna have you [ __ ] like
00:21:30
whether I I whether you like it or not
00:21:33
I'm going to win you over one way or
00:21:35
another and yeah I guess I mean the only
00:21:38
way I can describe it is I just [ __ ] it
00:21:40
and rip it you know I just get up there
00:21:41
and I just you know say a little prayer
00:21:44
beforehand and you know just ask for
00:21:46
some good energy to to bring out there
00:21:48
and just go [ __ ] it and let's not forget
00:21:51
any lyrics and not [ __ ] up any chords
00:21:53
and just give it hell
00:21:55
um so the three or four shows that um
00:21:58
you didn't feel like you nailed it what
00:21:59
happened
00:22:00
um so there was uh there's one in
00:22:02
Johannesburg which is the last show of
00:22:04
the the tour that was like I don't know
00:22:07
why but I was playing like [ __ ]
00:22:09
midday I was show number a billion out
00:22:13
of rebellion I'd flown to Africa I spent
00:22:16
longer flying to Africa and back than I
00:22:18
did in Africa
00:22:20
um and it was the last one and I was
00:22:21
just over in the crowd was it's all
00:22:24
sitting down on lawn chairs and they
00:22:27
didn't give a flying [ __ ] about a New
00:22:29
Zealander
00:22:30
Edinburgh was
00:22:32
um I mean lovely place but it was just a
00:22:35
bit of a an old folks home and was a bit
00:22:38
vibrous and in that show but I loved the
00:22:41
city it was just a tough crowd and then
00:22:43
what else there was one other one I
00:22:45
think which uh the fact that you can
00:22:47
remember them is alarming yeah I mean
00:22:49
especially knowing my brain
00:22:51
um yeah and yeah there's one other which
00:22:54
was a bit tough
00:22:55
um but otherwise yeah it was just like a
00:22:58
those are just a hard graph to win these
00:23:01
these fans over with you with just your
00:23:03
guitar but it's it's it's quite
00:23:05
self-assuring because if when you know
00:23:07
that you can do this like night after
00:23:09
night after night it kind of reassures
00:23:11
you that you are in the right place and
00:23:12
you're doing the right thing and and
00:23:14
you're on the right path making music
00:23:16
rather than you know
00:23:17
doubting yourself I guess and how do you
00:23:20
how do you like tours like this I know
00:23:21
they can be quite stressful and it's not
00:23:23
not all Glitz and glamor so you do you
00:23:25
do the show and then yeah especially
00:23:27
around Europe I suppose at 3am or 4am
00:23:29
wake up call and then you're traveling
00:23:30
to the next place how do you like how do
00:23:32
you wind down after a show like that you
00:23:34
can't get on it really can you I've
00:23:36
found ways
00:23:38
but yeah I mean now nowadays I'm a bit
00:23:42
better
00:23:43
um but yeah like on a proper tour like
00:23:46
this you just don't have the time like I
00:23:49
mean a typical day for me like there's
00:23:51
this one day in in Asia on this tour
00:23:54
that just went by went like this so uh I
00:23:57
had to wake up at five to go to the
00:23:59
airport catch a flight to a different
00:24:01
city uh catch the flight go straight
00:24:05
straight to the venue from the airport
00:24:07
sound check uh stay at the venue get
00:24:10
dinner play the show Callum plays the
00:24:12
show a couple drinks afterwards that
00:24:15
takes us to about 11 12
00:24:18
um I go back to the hotel wake up uh 3
00:24:20
30 a.m wake up call another flight at
00:24:23
five awake rinse and repeat so it's
00:24:26
really not it's not a sustainable thing
00:24:29
and it's I mean even after that one tour
00:24:31
I I I'm not gonna lie like I I had some
00:24:35
serious thought it's about like you know
00:24:36
[ __ ] is is this really what you want to
00:24:39
do because this is the reality of the
00:24:40
situation it's I think people think you
00:24:43
know when they hear about you know Mitch
00:24:45
James going on a world tour he's you
00:24:47
know having seven Sims every night doing
00:24:49
[ __ ] eight bags of cocaine it's it's
00:24:51
and it's very affordable in Europe it is
00:24:53
Affordable in Europe but I don't have
00:24:55
the time unfortunately right but it's
00:24:57
it's yeah I mean you know there's
00:24:59
definitely a couple dates where you'll
00:25:01
circle on the calendar and you'll have a
00:25:02
good time with your friends and oh you
00:25:04
gotta pack and choose the dates yes yeah
00:25:06
but I mean you know I reckon on this
00:25:09
last tour
00:25:11
um out of you know 30 40 shows there
00:25:14
would have been three four years we've
00:25:17
got really got to push play but um yeah
00:25:20
it's just it's certainly not what they
00:25:22
they make it out to be but I mean I love
00:25:23
it you know there's there's no better
00:25:25
feeling for me than like I said you know
00:25:28
obviously it's rewarding winning over a
00:25:30
crowd when you're opening but man it's
00:25:33
just different gravy when you're playing
00:25:34
in front of your fans and they're there
00:25:36
for your music and they've showed up
00:25:38
paid their hard-earned money and want to
00:25:40
share that energy with you you it's it's
00:25:43
impossible for me to not give it 110 and
00:25:46
the way that I was looking at I was you
00:25:49
know on the phone to my mum during the
00:25:51
tour and I was like [ __ ] it just feels
00:25:52
like a energy mortgage like I'm just I'm
00:25:56
just getting deeper and deeper and
00:25:57
deeper into this debt of energy just to
00:26:00
muster it up for one more show I'm going
00:26:03
you know I'm compounding [ __ ] dead on
00:26:07
top of itself and and so once you're
00:26:09
done
00:26:10
it's it's been tough for me bro because
00:26:12
it's you have this uh
00:26:15
non-existent balance in your life oh I
00:26:17
know Kanye I wish I could something like
00:26:20
that too
00:26:21
um but you'd have this non-existent
00:26:22
balance you know because
00:26:24
by the time that my next tour which you
00:26:26
know probably by the time we're now we
00:26:28
release this it'll be announced and
00:26:30
stuff like I I would have had 10 of the
00:26:33
last 12 months just on the road so when
00:26:36
you're at home and you're trying to like
00:26:38
rest up and recover you spend so much
00:26:40
time resting that you know you can't
00:26:41
maintain friendships or like start new
00:26:43
relationships or whatever and then
00:26:45
you're back on the road again and it's
00:26:46
it's it's definitely it's not for
00:26:49
everyone but that feeling I get when I
00:26:51
when I play in front of people and you
00:26:52
really like feel that energy and you
00:26:54
truly connect on it when they're your
00:26:56
fans and they're there for your music
00:26:58
and you're sharing that moment as
00:27:00
I mean yeah it's nothing like it for me
00:27:03
it's going to be humbling and it's
00:27:04
something that so few people get to
00:27:06
experience yeah it's such a blessing bro
00:27:08
like it really is I know it sounds
00:27:09
cliche but no no no but [ __ ] I'm I'm
00:27:12
eternally grateful for it every single
00:27:14
time I get to experience that feeling
00:27:15
like even on the weekend you know it
00:27:17
wasn't my show but getting to play in
00:27:19
dunners which is a special crowd for me
00:27:21
and they always turn up [ __ ] really like
00:27:23
gave me just an extra tank of gas what
00:27:27
happened after Dunedin
00:27:31
no I'm just thinking so home home game
00:27:34
home crowd day off the next day so so
00:27:37
this is a good a good little story so
00:27:39
and it's not it's probably not ending
00:27:41
the way that you think it is
00:27:43
sorry sorry yeah
00:27:47
um yeah so so after Dunedin
00:27:50
um I was talking to my manager and my
00:27:54
managers he's a smart bloke and uh I was
00:27:57
like oh I'm getting like quite a number
00:27:59
of like DMS from uh like from girls to
00:28:03
go over to their flats and like kind of
00:28:05
like do little concert things and then
00:28:07
when I had like you know 20 different
00:28:09
flats that are messaging me just saying
00:28:12
and I was like you know what bro like I
00:28:13
think I might like just go and grab my
00:28:17
guitar like you guys like piss up and
00:28:19
whatever but I think I might just go and
00:28:21
kind of like give a little back to
00:28:22
Dunedin you know awesome almost like an
00:28:24
Ed Sheeran style thing but you know very
00:28:26
in my flavor though
00:28:29
primary schools are doing hot female
00:28:33
plants
00:28:42
with the guitar and played some songs
00:28:45
and I I was just [ __ ] real cool
00:28:48
because you know I'm I'm not getting any
00:28:50
younger and like to go back to to
00:28:53
Donna's and just like see the spirit
00:28:57
still alive and you know they're all
00:28:58
they're all passing me bottles of vodka
00:29:01
and [ __ ] making me scale all these
00:29:02
drinks doing chewies and [ __ ] and
00:29:05
um I was just bouncing around a few of
00:29:07
these Flats just kind of I wish you know
00:29:09
I was thinking like you know how cool
00:29:11
would it have been when if I was back in
00:29:14
Donna's their age you know like flatting
00:29:16
if you know some of my like musical
00:29:18
Idols came through and like started you
00:29:21
know doing shillies and [ __ ] and it's
00:29:23
such a random story yeah you win them
00:29:25
over fans for life yeah I mean it was it
00:29:28
was a lot of fun that was a lot of fun I
00:29:30
had a shout out to all the gals yeah do
00:29:33
you remember the names of any of the
00:29:34
flats they usually have names don't land
00:29:35
up yeah
00:29:37
yeah uh what's the name of the plant we
00:29:39
just end up staying in the night
00:29:41
uh this advice I stayed at my hotel I
00:29:43
was I was a I I was a good boy I was a
00:29:47
good boy
00:29:48
um and I just struck out I think to be
00:29:50
honest
00:29:51
but yeah it was it was heaps of fun and
00:29:55
I feel like
00:29:57
um yeah I feel like Dana's needs a bit
00:29:59
of that energy so it's just fun to give
00:30:01
back after that but I I can't be doing
00:30:03
that every night in Europe and [ __ ]
00:30:05
though that's for sure yeah
00:30:07
um yeah what is your are you single at
00:30:09
the moment what's your relationship
00:30:10
status yeah you know I'm I'm single
00:30:13
um not for a lack of trying
00:30:16
you're quite a romantic hey like I feel
00:30:19
like I feel like you you deeply want uh
00:30:22
to find that one true love Yeah like
00:30:23
actually this any parallels with you and
00:30:25
Ed Sheeran
00:30:26
hey yeah musically wise and also I think
00:30:29
you know personality wise and personal
00:30:30
life-wise as well yeah for sure I mean
00:30:33
yeah it's it's been an interesting sort
00:30:36
of Journey with me for that especially
00:30:38
over the last few years there's been um
00:30:40
yeah like I I've I've been really
00:30:43
working on myself first and foremost and
00:30:45
and just making sure that I'm I'm all
00:30:47
good but [ __ ] me do I have some [ __ ]
00:30:49
luck do you how do you how do you mean
00:30:52
you can get them but you can't make them
00:30:54
stay or oh no I think it's just uh what
00:30:57
I've really struggled with is just
00:30:59
finding genuine people I think
00:31:01
um you know there's there's been so many
00:31:03
uh people that are coming to my life and
00:31:06
they just end up you know showing that
00:31:08
they're there for the wrong reasons or
00:31:09
they're fake or or flaky um but you know
00:31:13
I I'm I'm not too phased about it to be
00:31:15
honest you know like like life's pretty
00:31:17
good and um you know there's going to be
00:31:19
plenty of opportunities for me to to
00:31:21
find the right woman but I back it's
00:31:23
pretty annoying sometimes I'm not gonna
00:31:25
lie because you know it's like I was
00:31:27
saying before you know with the when you
00:31:29
don't have that balance in life it's
00:31:31
it's always nice to have a rock or
00:31:33
someone that can can Center you and
00:31:35
ground you but you know you don't want
00:31:37
to be doing that with the wrong people
00:31:38
either so it's been um yeah it's been an
00:31:41
interesting Journey
00:31:42
um and I I I've been striking out a bit
00:31:45
but you know I keep showing up to the
00:31:46
Batters box I I suppose um yeah I mean
00:31:50
it's okay if it's transactional so
00:31:52
you're getting a route and they're
00:31:54
getting a story by Sleeping with someone
00:31:56
that's got a little bit of Celebrity
00:31:57
Status yeah that's that's
00:32:00
that stuff that's what what has happened
00:32:02
in the past a lot and I just
00:32:05
you know it's it's fun every now and
00:32:07
then like I can't lie to you but
00:32:10
um you know it's it's not that that a
00:32:13
grounding thing or that uh that Soul
00:32:15
fulfilling thing is which is really at
00:32:17
the end of the day is what I'm after but
00:32:19
you know it seems like all girls want to
00:32:21
be treated like [ __ ] these days I don't
00:32:23
know but they you know they say they say
00:32:26
they want a good boy yeah but then yeah
00:32:31
um how many times how many times have
00:32:33
you been in love now I would say I've
00:32:35
been in love
00:32:37
properly I'd say I've been in love twice
00:32:40
right yeah I've I've had uh so long-term
00:32:44
girlfriends that I I would say I was
00:32:46
definitely in love with
00:32:48
um but the first one
00:32:50
um absolute Angel and that was that was
00:32:53
my fault I [ __ ] that up and that was
00:32:55
you know a long time ago oh yeah we
00:32:56
taught rather than the first podcast you
00:32:58
don't speak anymore there's no
00:32:59
relationship there no no but I always
00:33:01
wish her the bear she's awesome yeah
00:33:04
um and then yeah I I fell in love again
00:33:06
probably a couple years ago now like
00:33:09
2020 well the girl that I was with for
00:33:12
yeah about a year or so and then you
00:33:13
know the aftermath went on for a while
00:33:15
too but
00:33:16
um what happened there oh it's I think
00:33:19
just honest and in all honesty
00:33:22
um just very different
00:33:24
personalities and sort of uh
00:33:27
and and sort of just life paths yeah so
00:33:31
but you know it it didn't mean nicely
00:33:34
for me but you know she's she's in a
00:33:36
very nice girl generally speaking so you
00:33:39
know nothing but nothing with good
00:33:41
things to say without getting into you
00:33:43
know personal stuff yeah yeah fair
00:33:45
enough so what what are you what are you
00:33:47
looking for exactly is is what is your
00:33:49
girl
00:33:50
I think it's interesting because I I
00:33:54
went on a date with a girl not too long
00:33:56
ago and it went amazing and I was like
00:33:59
oh there's a lot that I like about this
00:34:01
girl and I I didn't work out for for
00:34:04
whatever reason but
00:34:06
um I think it's what I realized that I I
00:34:09
you know we're talking about the stage
00:34:11
character and whatever like you might
00:34:13
think that I'm a very extroverted person
00:34:15
by seeing me up on stage but the truth
00:34:17
is is that I'm actually quite the
00:34:19
opposite when it comes to like everyday
00:34:21
life I'm very introverted and chilled
00:34:24
and I like to you know spend a lot of
00:34:26
time alone and and all of that so I
00:34:28
think someone that brings out like that
00:34:30
other side of me someone who's like
00:34:32
extroverted and you know just kind of
00:34:34
like sunshine energy is is what I like
00:34:37
I'm really attracted to but I've I've
00:34:40
found that it's quite rare
00:34:43
um and I've I've yeah I've sort of
00:34:45
struggled to find people that um that
00:34:48
have that energy genuinely speaking but
00:34:50
I think that's the thing I'm most
00:34:52
attracted to is just someone who's just
00:34:54
like fills up a room so I don't have to
00:34:57
you say do you not have much of a social
00:35:00
battery or it doesn't take much to
00:35:02
it's a funny social battery it's like a
00:35:06
um if I don't know someone like I'll be
00:35:09
very quiet and reserved but as soon as
00:35:13
you get to know me like you probably
00:35:14
know this and the weirdest [ __ ]
00:35:16
you'll ever meet I'm the best possible
00:35:18
way though I like your weirdness yeah
00:35:19
exactly you know so it's it's yeah I
00:35:22
feel like someone yeah well for me
00:35:25
personally I
00:35:26
I can do like social things but like
00:35:29
it's like my once a week like as soon as
00:35:31
I get home I'm like
00:35:33
I did it like I socialized I was a
00:35:36
normal person now I get to smoke weed
00:35:38
and chill out for the rest of the week
00:35:40
oh my God I am just the same I'll go out
00:35:42
I'll go out to a thing and I'll put a
00:35:44
shirt on and I'll go out and then as
00:35:46
soon as it's polite to leave I'll leave
00:35:47
come home
00:35:49
put a t-shirt on and some um like
00:35:52
running shorts and just relax yeah and
00:35:54
just feel at peace like completely at
00:35:56
peace and relaxed yeah yeah it's
00:35:58
definitely what I I tend to do and
00:36:00
um you know if I I think it's the
00:36:03
personality type is a infp which is like
00:36:06
a it's an introverted uh
00:36:09
whatever the rest is
00:36:13
intuitive feeling perceiver right where
00:36:16
did you get that from is that from a
00:36:17
podcast like uh um there's like a thing
00:36:21
called 16 personalities which is like a
00:36:23
um
00:36:24
basically all of us fall under one of
00:36:27
one of the other personalities and it's
00:36:28
uh I think there's a lot of science
00:36:30
behind it apparently but I don't know it
00:36:31
might be a bit wishy-washy who knows
00:36:33
yeah no not at all all right so your
00:36:35
second album patience it was out um
00:36:37
November 2022 yes yeah are you happy
00:36:40
with how it went uh how it's gone so far
00:36:43
um if if I'm honest I'm I'm really happy
00:36:45
about the music I was really proud about
00:36:48
the music
00:36:49
um and where it came from why I did it
00:36:52
and and the finished result I wasn't so
00:36:55
happy with um with the results I guess
00:36:58
um but in terms of like streaming
00:37:00
numbers yeah but it's that's stuff you
00:37:02
can't control right so I I've learned to
00:37:05
be able to switch that off tangibly and
00:37:09
and sort of understand that my value
00:37:11
doesn't lie within those numbers but you
00:37:14
know I did struggle with that a lot like
00:37:16
in the last five six years about like
00:37:18
trying to separate my value from as a
00:37:21
person from my career but I I'd be lying
00:37:23
if I said wasn't a little bit upset with
00:37:26
how the numbers went but I know that you
00:37:29
know I know that I believe in the music
00:37:31
so yeah it's you know where it's got to
00:37:34
count for something right yeah
00:37:36
um okay so let's run through a track
00:37:37
there's ten songs on the album yeah
00:37:40
um first how many songs did you you're a
00:37:42
prolific writer how many songs did you
00:37:43
write uh to whittle down to that ten I
00:37:46
mean over that four year period there'd
00:37:48
definitely be over a hundred songs for
00:37:49
sure
00:37:51
um [ __ ] yeah wow yeah so 100 the the ten
00:37:55
best ones make the cut I mean
00:38:03
was more like what felt right in the
00:38:05
moment where when I was in the studio
00:38:06
last year
00:38:08
um like there's definitely some songs
00:38:09
that I've written
00:38:11
in that process that'll be good enough
00:38:14
to release but just didn't really fit
00:38:16
that narrative or felt like that's what
00:38:18
I was trying to do at that time so yeah
00:38:21
so so the 90 that don't make the cut
00:38:24
um do they go in like a folder like to
00:38:27
be continued or to be worked on or they
00:38:29
just get scrapped completely I mean they
00:38:31
basically just get scrapped I can send
00:38:33
them to my publisher who can try send
00:38:34
them out to you know if like a Sean
00:38:36
Mendes is looking for a song or whatever
00:38:38
but that's kind of there's a whole
00:38:40
industry of people that do that in La so
00:38:43
the chances of that [ __ ] sticking on the
00:38:44
wall is
00:38:46
not very high yeah but so I've got a big
00:38:48
backlogging catalog that
00:38:51
no one will probably ever hear
00:38:53
um which is probably you know seems like
00:38:54
a terrible waste yeah well I mean I love
00:38:57
some of these songs but I feel like
00:38:58
songs to me are just like a moment you
00:39:00
know like if I wrote a song like four
00:39:03
years ago about like I don't know how I
00:39:04
was feeling about probably crying about
00:39:07
a girl or something
00:39:09
on a Tuesday shock horror
00:39:12
um on a Tuesday that definitely wrecks
00:39:14
of a come down yeah oh yeah yes it does
00:39:16
the the famous case of the Tuesdays
00:39:19
um yeah yeah but um they basically just
00:39:22
uh yeah they get stored in the Dropbox
00:39:24
folder somewhere forever for no one to
00:39:26
hear them I suppose even if they're not
00:39:28
commercially successful or they never
00:39:29
see the light of day it's still
00:39:30
cathartic for you to write them at the
00:39:32
time definitely yeah definitely that's
00:39:34
the best thing about songwriting for me
00:39:36
is is the therapy aspect of it because
00:39:39
[ __ ] if I had it my God on a mess
00:39:41
already Dom could you imagine yeah I was
00:39:44
going to ask you have you been to
00:39:46
therapy or do you find songwritings
00:39:47
enough for you to get what you need no
00:39:49
no I got a therapy I'm a massive
00:39:51
believer and unashamedly it's I've found
00:39:54
an amazing
00:39:55
um therapist Dr Isabel who's yeah just
00:39:58
helped me through so much [ __ ] and
00:40:01
um yeah it just helps me
00:40:02
compartmentalize [ __ ] and when I figure
00:40:04
when I can compartmentalize [ __ ] I can
00:40:07
definitely just approach my life in a
00:40:09
more Freer way and with with a lot less
00:40:11
stress so I haven't been able to afford
00:40:13
her for the last couple months but I
00:40:16
have an appointment book for next week
00:40:17
and my God is she gonna hear it from me
00:40:20
Dr Roosevelt we might need 90 minutes
00:40:23
yeah yeah we're gonna need an extra
00:40:24
session that day um I mean we and we can
00:40:27
joke about it but Jokes Aside that is
00:40:29
the um that's the [ __ ] up thing about
00:40:31
therapy like there's a lot of people
00:40:33
that could probably do uh really do with
00:40:35
it and get a lot out of it but the
00:40:37
money's the prohibitive aspect which is
00:40:39
terrible yeah it sucks so how long how
00:40:42
long you been saying is she the only one
00:40:44
you've seen or did you say what I've
00:40:46
really stuck with to be honest I've seen
00:40:48
a couple over my time but I'm sure some
00:40:50
people are listening vouch for me and
00:40:52
saying [ __ ] you know yeah it took me
00:40:54
like four or five
00:40:56
different people over a long period of
00:40:58
time to like be like oh this is this is
00:41:01
the person that I need to be talking to
00:41:03
yeah and yeah and I was like yeah it's
00:41:07
as she calls herself my coach rather
00:41:10
than like a therapist because you know
00:41:12
we've ended up getting through so much
00:41:13
[ __ ] together she basically just coaches
00:41:16
me on what to say to girls
00:41:19
oh no
00:41:23
I'm joking now what I don't know if you
00:41:27
even want to share this because it is an
00:41:29
intensely personal but yeah what are
00:41:30
there any like real good memorable
00:41:32
takeaways you've gotten from here that
00:41:34
you implement in your day-to-day life
00:41:36
yeah
00:41:37
it's it's a lot of it's been situational
00:41:40
stuff
00:41:42
to deal
00:41:45
a deal mostly for me it's just been the
00:41:47
just having someone to talk to as cliche
00:41:51
as that is like this because you know
00:41:54
with my friends
00:41:55
um
00:41:56
I feel like I don't really want to
00:41:59
burden them with my personal [ __ ] when
00:42:03
it's just I need someone to talk to
00:42:04
rather than like I need a solution for
00:42:06
something so like you know with my last
00:42:09
breakup I I remember like I kept calling
00:42:12
to all my best friends and I kept I kept
00:42:16
falling into the same hole and I kept
00:42:18
over months and months and months I was
00:42:19
saying the same [ __ ] over and over to
00:42:22
them when they must have just been
00:42:23
thinking Jesus [ __ ] Christ like can't
00:42:26
you just can't you see the way out
00:42:27
whereas get over here yeah whatever it
00:42:30
happens to be yeah
00:42:32
I mean they don't need to need to think
00:42:34
about that when I could just be saying
00:42:36
it to my therapist the whole time and I
00:42:37
can save my time with my mates to talk
00:42:40
about
00:42:41
[ __ ] what we usually talk about then
00:42:43
rather than stuff that's you know
00:42:45
intensely burdensome and personal so
00:42:47
it's it's just I find it's just the the
00:42:50
best tool that you could have for just
00:42:52
trying to get it clear here though
00:42:54
because I mean I can only speak for
00:42:57
myself and I'm [ __ ] singer and I'm
00:43:00
crazy and it's always going up upstairs
00:43:02
but it just definitely helps to have
00:43:05
someone who can compartmentalize things
00:43:07
for you I understand it come out come it
00:43:09
up from a different angle that's not
00:43:11
biased or personal especially when you
00:43:13
need advice for certain things that are
00:43:15
going on in your life like you know you
00:43:17
don't want to be asking your best friend
00:43:19
about like seven tensely like intense
00:43:22
work question because they obviously
00:43:24
have biases and stuff like that
00:43:27
um but yeah it's it's the best thing I
00:43:29
think I've honestly as an adult it's the
00:43:31
best money I've ever spent even though
00:43:33
it is you know this [ __ ] expensive
00:43:35
and times are tough yeah it's an
00:43:36
investment but talking to your friends
00:43:38
I'm in sort of two minds about that
00:43:39
because it's um you now we all say it's
00:43:42
not weak to speak and it is good to talk
00:43:43
to your friends but on the flip side of
00:43:45
that your friends aren't professionally
00:43:47
trained so they don't necessarily know
00:43:48
the right thing to say and and you're
00:43:50
right like if you are
00:43:53
um if you're on like a negative Loop
00:43:54
cycle and you're talking you're bitching
00:43:55
about the same stuff over and over again
00:43:57
sometimes it's not necessarily to put
00:43:59
that on your friends it's just it's it's
00:44:03
I feel like you know there's a time and
00:44:06
a place yeah and I I probably just I
00:44:09
overdid it you know I went to the well
00:44:10
one too many times yeah it's dry down
00:44:13
there but yeah no it's it's definitely
00:44:15
something that I would I would highly
00:44:17
highly recommend day and it's um yeah it
00:44:20
needs to be done more and uh like like I
00:44:23
said coming from a dude who you know uh
00:44:26
anyone who knows me I'm I'm just about
00:44:28
as as laddy as you could get in in a lot
00:44:31
of ways but [ __ ] me I feel like so many
00:44:34
new zealanders could benefit from it
00:44:35
because they're so in our culture to
00:44:37
just be like oh no like you know I can't
00:44:40
be talking about that or or like you
00:44:44
know we we just
00:44:45
we just hired so much [ __ ] and I feel
00:44:48
that if I can be a light for for people
00:44:51
like that and without you know trying to
00:44:53
be too much of a Debbie Downer [ __ ] me
00:44:56
it's that's the best thing you'll ever
00:44:57
do yeah I couldn't agree more I I was a
00:45:01
lot older than you before I went for the
00:45:02
first time and I was nervous as hell and
00:45:04
then when I walked out of the first
00:45:05
session I was like I don't even know why
00:45:07
that was so dumb to be nervous yeah and
00:45:09
to put this thing off for years because
00:45:11
it's fantastic yeah it's great yeah and
00:45:14
I think the best thing is as well about
00:45:17
it is my therapist always is like she's
00:45:20
not there to like give me the answers
00:45:22
she's there to show
00:45:23
shown myself the answers and like it's
00:45:27
always within you and they just kind of
00:45:29
lead you to the to the thought processes
00:45:31
that you need to get to and then you
00:45:33
deal with it yourself yeah did you like
00:45:36
print out the lyrics to the songs in
00:45:37
your new album motions and show them to
00:45:39
her or anything because I feel like it
00:45:40
said the the the way that you've written
00:45:43
this album it feels like a journal in a
00:45:44
way yeah do you show me the lyrics or no
00:45:47
is that it's like no but she uh she
00:45:49
actually showed up to
00:45:51
mine surprise me which was really lovely
00:45:53
ever
00:45:54
um but she hears she hears all the words
00:45:56
but not in the lyrical way right just me
00:45:59
having a [ __ ] winch when you're
00:46:02
talking here it doesn't necessarily
00:46:03
rhyme exactly okay let's run through
00:46:06
this album so it's called patience it's
00:46:08
been out about five months now track one
00:46:10
is five months [ __ ] man is it yeah four
00:46:13
months five months yeah I guess so so
00:46:15
the first track is motions which are
00:46:16
some a big radio song got a bit of TV
00:46:19
play
00:46:20
um one of the lyrics in there on my
00:46:21
phone everybody's just a highlight
00:46:23
showing off but they're broken on the
00:46:24
inside I know I used to be that guy yeah
00:46:27
yeah we touched upon your relationship
00:46:29
with social media before yeah yeah yeah
00:46:32
I mean yeah basically that is exactly
00:46:34
what I was talking about before it's
00:46:36
just that yeah I um there was a period
00:46:39
in my life where you know I just
00:46:41
released my first album and everything
00:46:43
was going well and I I was very immature
00:46:47
in in the industry and as a man and I
00:46:50
just started reading my own hype and
00:46:52
started being a terrible you know
00:46:55
terrible boyfriend [ __ ] friend and just
00:46:58
thought special rules applied to me and
00:47:00
it sort of yeah it sort of came to this
00:47:03
Crossroads with that on social media as
00:47:05
well just like you know trying to be the
00:47:07
man and [ __ ] and it's just not who I am
00:47:09
at the soul level and I just got a bit
00:47:11
lost for a while in in that sense and
00:47:14
yeah just I was trying to be someone
00:47:17
that I wasn't and I think this song was
00:47:19
just basically about the Journey of
00:47:21
coming back to my my soul if you will
00:47:25
and and being me rather than trying to
00:47:28
be what Society tells you a pop star or
00:47:31
a rock star or whatever should be
00:47:33
that's good though I I suppose it's
00:47:35
something that'll continually happen
00:47:36
right through your life just correcting
00:47:37
the course like you know the course that
00:47:39
you should be on and uh I think we all
00:47:41
deviate from it at some point yeah think
00:47:44
you've got to deviate from it to realize
00:47:46
what your real purpose is yeah yeah like
00:47:49
I I just [ __ ] I just felt so lost but I
00:47:52
felt that like if if I was going to be a
00:47:55
quote unquote pop star this is what you
00:47:57
had to do because growing up you know
00:47:59
like me and my me and my mates growing
00:48:01
up you know you listen to Wiz Khalifa
00:48:04
and all you gotta do you know you gotta
00:48:06
[ __ ] [ __ ] smoke weed and get [ __ ]
00:48:08
up and all this [ __ ] and that's what I
00:48:10
thought you had to do yeah so I I yeah I
00:48:13
I sort of went down that path and and
00:48:16
[ __ ] up some things that that were
00:48:18
that meant a lot to me and yeah you can
00:48:20
either when you get to that crossroads
00:48:22
you can either go oh well I'm gonna
00:48:24
turn into 10 times more of a [ __ ]
00:48:27
[ __ ] [ __ ] or I'm gonna turn it
00:48:29
around and I feel like the turning
00:48:31
around process is [ __ ] long you know
00:48:34
what I mean I only really got to a place
00:48:35
where I'm truly like happy with myself
00:48:37
as a man probably like you know in the
00:48:40
last year or so and it's it's it's
00:48:42
there's no blueprint on how to be
00:48:45
a successful pop star or like this
00:48:49
especially when you know you haven't had
00:48:50
much mates growing up or you've got a
00:48:51
hard time and and whatever like like I
00:48:54
did it's there's no there's no blueprint
00:48:56
hey so yeah that's that song was was all
00:48:59
about just all the [ __ ] that life had
00:49:02
hit me in the in the last four years and
00:49:04
just trying to make sense of it yeah
00:49:07
that's the thing so if you if you do
00:49:09
things that don't sit comfortably with
00:49:11
the core of who you are as a person and
00:49:13
it has a negative impact on other people
00:49:15
I think you feel really bad about it a
00:49:17
more guilt and shame perhaps yeah
00:49:19
absolutely absolutely and
00:49:22
uh yeah I think that's just like a full
00:49:24
circle song motions of sort of realizing
00:49:27
you know I was really proud of who I was
00:49:29
before even though I was very young like
00:49:31
before I saw my deal I was very
00:49:33
idealistic and did these things for all
00:49:35
the right reason and then to completely
00:49:37
lose it and go to the completely
00:49:39
opposite way and then yeah to sort of
00:49:42
just reverse the cycle and it's like
00:49:44
walking up an escalator that's going the
00:49:47
other way you know it's it's [ __ ]
00:49:49
tough work but if you keep out of you
00:49:50
slowly get there yeah I see kids do it
00:49:52
all the time yeah Westfield yeah I think
00:49:56
I still do it as a grown ass adult
00:49:57
sometimes okay the second track is
00:50:00
called stuck in denial
00:50:01
um which is a
00:50:03
if you're one of those people that just
00:50:04
listens to songs but not necessarily the
00:50:06
lyrics you think it's a happy song right
00:50:08
it's a happy Up Tempo song
00:50:10
um but it's got lyrics like this some
00:50:12
days I wake up blue could probably maybe
00:50:14
use some help I'm still the same as you
00:50:17
lonely and broken too yeah it's um It's
00:50:20
A Hard wrench mate yeah it's a funny
00:50:22
song that one because like you said it's
00:50:24
very up
00:50:26
positive musically
00:50:28
um but I I actually got inspired by
00:50:32
um I don't know if you've heard of
00:50:34
Nietzsche like the philosopher but he
00:50:37
had this like uh concept called Amor
00:50:40
Fati which is like translates from Latin
00:50:42
to love of Fate which is basically
00:50:44
saying like no matter what happens in
00:50:47
your life uh it's you know it's sort of
00:50:49
like a follow-on from motions in a way
00:50:51
that like no matter what happens because
00:50:53
there's been so much [ __ ] that's
00:50:54
happened from album one to album two in
00:50:56
my life that I didn't really share with
00:50:58
anyone that was just consistent blow
00:51:00
after blow after blow after blow and it
00:51:03
just felt like I couldn't buy a trick
00:51:04
but you know I always
00:51:06
I think this is I sound like a weird
00:51:09
segue but this is why I like smoking
00:51:12
weed so much is because it can allow me
00:51:14
in those moments to get this perspective
00:51:16
on life of like actually
00:51:19
everything's [ __ ] all good I got a
00:51:22
roof over my head I've got food my mum
00:51:25
and dad are still lucky enough to be
00:51:27
alive I've got two great sisters I've
00:51:29
got some great friends life's [ __ ]
00:51:31
good you know so I made this song
00:51:34
really about no matter what happens in
00:51:37
life like I'll be quote unquote stuck in
00:51:40
denial because I'm gonna find the
00:51:43
happiness and no matter what [ __ ] gets
00:51:46
thrown at me and it's quite it sounds
00:51:49
like quite deep for when you listen to
00:51:51
the song it sounds like a basic kind of
00:51:53
mindless song on the surface but it
00:51:55
really is to me like a song that is just
00:51:58
about like grit and finding that yeah
00:52:01
the Amor Fati the love of of whatever
00:52:03
happens and comes across your plate is
00:52:05
and treating it as a good and positive
00:52:07
experience so how does the songwriting
00:52:10
process work with a song like that like
00:52:11
why is it why is it not like a a slow
00:52:14
Melancholy sort of track
00:52:16
I mean that particular one
00:52:19
um it was a funny day because I I hadn't
00:52:22
this is the first day I'd met for Kyle
00:52:23
or her injured up producing this album
00:52:26
and the whole next album that I've been
00:52:28
doing and he's like a musical soul mate
00:52:30
to me but I hadn't met him that's the
00:52:31
first day I met him and
00:52:33
um I opened the door to this flat in LA
00:52:35
in the six foot four moldy dudes like
00:52:37
killed it bro and I was like [ __ ] like
00:52:40
we [ __ ] this feels like we could be on
00:52:43
to something and so we just had a couple
00:52:45
beers and we started talking about you
00:52:48
know
00:52:49
you know what we were feeling in life
00:52:51
and I told him what was going on in my
00:52:53
life at the time there was a lot of [ __ ]
00:52:54
going on and but I said to him I because
00:52:58
I wrote motions the day before and so I
00:53:02
said to him I I don't really really want
00:53:04
to write right [ __ ] yeah like a lot
00:53:07
of shit's been going on but I'm just not
00:53:08
in that mood today like I want to write
00:53:10
something that makes me want to get up
00:53:12
and and [ __ ] get after it not like uh
00:53:15
I feel so [ __ ] right now well that's a
00:53:19
joke
00:53:22
yeah so we just it was just really good
00:53:25
vibes and so we started writing this
00:53:27
chorus and
00:53:29
um you know we had the chords playing
00:53:30
and stuff and we just started writing
00:53:31
the chorus and
00:53:33
um it just felt really right
00:53:36
um
00:53:36
writing the chorus first and then I just
00:53:39
kind of said what was going on you know
00:53:42
and
00:53:43
um yeah all the lyrics are very
00:53:47
um I guess quite vulnerable in the sense
00:53:49
yeah very much it's just saying like man
00:53:52
yeah you can pile on a
00:53:54
[ __ ] off the [ __ ] after [ __ ] on onto my
00:53:57
back but um I'm gonna find a way to to
00:53:59
smile through it because as far as we
00:54:01
know we only get one-shotted and some I
00:54:03
may as well have a [ __ ] good time a
00:54:05
hundred percent where does that um
00:54:07
strength and resilience come from I know
00:54:08
we touched upon this on the first um
00:54:10
chat that we had like a year ago and
00:54:12
your mum's big saying that she drummed
00:54:14
into you was um this too shall pass yeah
00:54:16
um but [ __ ] man you've been through some
00:54:18
setbacks hey it's like yeah like growing
00:54:21
up feels like sit back after sit back
00:54:22
after sit back and you keep bouncing
00:54:24
back
00:54:25
I mean honestly I I think you know I
00:54:29
didn't get along with my parents for the
00:54:30
longest time but I think I have to to
00:54:32
probably genetically give them that
00:54:35
credit of I I it's just
00:54:38
it's just in my blood I like my mum it
00:54:42
used to make me cringe like her job what
00:54:44
she would do she ran this charity
00:54:47
um which is basically like make a wish
00:54:48
for for adults with um you know that are
00:54:51
dying and she's will not [ __ ] stop
00:54:54
calling up company after company just
00:54:57
asking for free [ __ ] for these dying
00:54:59
people and I used to just cringe and die
00:55:02
inside hearing it just getting rejected
00:55:03
rejected rejected rejected should keep
00:55:06
just picking up the phone picking up the
00:55:08
phone and because she just had this goal
00:55:09
in mind of like I'm going to make this
00:55:11
experience for this person and their
00:55:13
family so special that I'm not [ __ ]
00:55:15
giving up and so cool and
00:55:18
I personally could never do that on the
00:55:20
phone I would [ __ ] that but but I guess
00:55:24
it's like just that sense of resilience
00:55:26
and
00:55:27
um and my mum's like a very loud and
00:55:30
extroverted energetic human but I think
00:55:33
also from my dad's side my dad's uh uh
00:55:36
hard-nosed Greymouth dude and he's he's
00:55:39
got a soft inside but [ __ ] he's tough as
00:55:42
nails and like is a quiet hard worker
00:55:45
and so I'd like to think that I I kind
00:55:47
of just got the best of both worlds from
00:55:49
them in terms of mums
00:55:51
[ __ ] stick ability and and never give
00:55:54
up attitude and and Dad's you know
00:55:56
stomach stoic humility yeah and and I
00:56:00
those are the sort of things that I try
00:56:02
and and channel mostly from them and I'm
00:56:07
I'm grateful that I have them because I
00:56:09
wouldn't I wouldn't be here without
00:56:10
those characteristics for sure yeah
00:56:12
because you look at your you look at
00:56:13
your life so um we talked about this on
00:56:15
the first podcast so
00:56:17
um your parents kind of [ __ ] up your
00:56:18
schooling experience by uh so you you
00:56:21
you were in a circle with some weed and
00:56:24
you went home and told your mum and then
00:56:26
your mum went and told the school so you
00:56:27
were sort of an outcast after that so
00:56:29
you got no mates at school you're mad at
00:56:31
your parents so you feel all alone and
00:56:34
then
00:56:35
um yeah there was like um an attempt at
00:56:37
suicide where you barricaded yourself in
00:56:39
your room yeah and then after that it's
00:56:41
not like um it's not like the light at
00:56:44
the end of the tunnel at that point it's
00:56:45
like there's just things get get sort of
00:56:48
get further and further down like you're
00:56:50
over you're overseas you're sleeping
00:56:52
rough yeah you know and it's like
00:56:55
there is sayings like this too shall
00:56:57
pass and just put one foot in front of
00:56:59
the other and it doesn't say stay stormy
00:57:00
forever but [ __ ] it felt like a long
00:57:03
storm you were traveling through yeah it
00:57:05
did I mean and that's just you know that
00:57:07
sort of felt like the first album
00:57:08
Journey it was was those sort of
00:57:11
um mirrors but then I mean since then
00:57:14
you know I've just the behind the scenes
00:57:16
battles that I've had to face it also
00:57:19
kind of feels like that non-stop
00:57:20
challenges and you know I don't want to
00:57:23
get sued by anyone but you know there's
00:57:25
um there's been what what have what have
00:57:28
you got that they can take [ __ ] off the
00:57:30
shirt on your bed oh yeah [ __ ] off
00:57:33
um yeah only 18 of that apparently but
00:57:38
um yeah so yeah but it's been just it's
00:57:41
been Non-Stop and I I don't know why you
00:57:45
know they this that's kind of how my
00:57:47
path goes is I tend to take the hard
00:57:50
option or I make a decision that sort of
00:57:53
leads me down a road of a lot the
00:57:55
treacherous [ __ ] but
00:57:57
I don't know it's just it's
00:58:00
it's I feel like I should be in a
00:58:02
different place right now with how much
00:58:03
work I've put in but the the mentality
00:58:06
still stays the same for me as as long
00:58:08
as I'm I'm in this game I'm I'm not
00:58:12
going to
00:58:13
I'm not going to give this up without a
00:58:15
fear crack like my manager called me the
00:58:17
other day and said you know again
00:58:18
without trying to get sued or say too
00:58:21
much stuff about what was going on he
00:58:23
said you know like the your project
00:58:25
hasn't had
00:58:27
a a proper run like there's there hasn't
00:58:31
been the situation where everyone who's
00:58:33
worked on your projects has said we've
00:58:35
given the Mitch James thing a full Vlog
00:58:38
and it just hasn't worked so until I
00:58:41
have that feeling of man I really have
00:58:45
given it all I had a clean run
00:58:46
everything finally lined up and I gave
00:58:48
it a crack and it didn't work until that
00:58:51
moment I'm gonna be a psycho like my mum
00:58:54
I love it I'm pleased you're a psycho
00:58:56
yeah I think it's a good way to be okay
00:58:58
track three on the oven patients
00:59:00
Armageddon
00:59:01
hey yeah it's a different vibe this one
00:59:04
there's a line in there to sex real
00:59:06
quick there's a line a line in there
00:59:08
which I love it's very clever
00:59:10
um I feel like it's something you could
00:59:12
buy from from a t-shirt a t-shirt on
00:59:14
wish or something
00:59:15
it's just you and I and Baby I'ma
00:59:19
getting you tonight yeah yeah I love it
00:59:21
it's just like a happy what is that yes
00:59:24
I mean I wrote the song about my my ex
00:59:26
and
00:59:27
um you know all of her friends you know
00:59:29
they're they're all [ __ ] stunning
00:59:31
girls and they're you know they all they
00:59:34
all love it and they
00:59:36
they all love the fact that the the
00:59:37
songs about them but um you know I was
00:59:40
writing this song with with Machu from
00:59:42
from 660 and we um I was just uh it was
00:59:48
a joke first that line I was because
00:59:50
it's a great line it was it was covered
00:59:52
times and lockdown times and we had the
00:59:54
idea of like you know
00:59:56
feels like Armageddon and then I was
00:59:58
like what about you know I'm getting you
01:00:01
tonight and he's like oh [ __ ] and so
01:00:04
yeah we just kind of ran with it and um
01:00:07
yeah it's just a real fun song I I
01:00:09
really enjoyed it because
01:00:12
um it's just it's it's just a laugh you
01:00:14
know yeah it's a cheesy pickup line and
01:00:16
a song and it's great yeah but you know
01:00:18
I love the lyrics in the in the verse
01:00:19
that are about you know it's it's
01:00:21
basically just saying like [ __ ] there
01:00:23
could be a volcano exploding right in
01:00:25
front of us and in the midst of a 9.6
01:00:27
Richter Scale earthquake but like you're
01:00:30
all that I see and it's just a fun way
01:00:33
of delivering it and a bit tongue and
01:00:35
shake and I'd never [ __ ] ever say
01:00:37
that to a girl in real life it's cheesy
01:00:39
it's [ __ ] awful I love it so how does
01:00:43
it work when you write a song with um
01:00:45
say Machu from 660 who's who's holding
01:00:48
the pen who's holding a guitar we just
01:00:50
go back and forth yeah
01:00:52
um is
01:00:53
insanely insanely gifted with Melody he
01:00:57
can just he can just [ __ ] out something
01:00:59
like you know with Melody and I I when
01:01:03
I'm working with him like you kind of
01:01:05
just pick your strengths like I I
01:01:07
believe I'm strong with Melody but when
01:01:09
I'm
01:01:10
if I'm going to chat with Melody with
01:01:12
with Machi Walters I'm not winning that
01:01:14
battle so
01:01:15
if and if I'm riding with my you know
01:01:18
he'll hum some Melodies and or play some
01:01:21
chords and hum some stuff and I'll be
01:01:22
like oh that [ __ ] Melody sounds great
01:01:24
write a write some lyrics to it and then
01:01:27
we sort of just build it up slowly
01:01:30
um but yeah and a lot of songwriting
01:01:32
sessions I I know my crew now and who I
01:01:35
work with so I know all of their
01:01:37
strengths and what sort of role I need
01:01:39
to play in the room and I'm just a bit
01:01:41
of a chameleon at the moment with
01:01:43
songwriting like with this last project
01:01:46
that I did that'll be coming out next
01:01:47
that there's a guy called Ricky Manning
01:01:49
who I work with who's just the most
01:01:51
insane sad songwriter ever and you just
01:01:55
let him do the lyrics and you let him
01:01:57
you know take charge of that where I
01:02:00
just go into like a quality control sort
01:02:02
of role
01:02:03
um because you know he's so good but
01:02:05
then you know if you're working with
01:02:06
people you've never worked before I will
01:02:08
take complete control yeah of everything
01:02:10
but yeah I mean I've I've worked with
01:02:13
some pretty some pretty crazy
01:02:14
songwriters and it's just yeah you just
01:02:16
gotta know their strengths and sort of
01:02:19
work around them and you get some pretty
01:02:21
incredible results can you drop any
01:02:23
names who have you worked that with that
01:02:24
people would go oh [ __ ]
01:02:26
um uh there's been a few Grammy winners
01:02:28
um uh there's Emily Warren who's written
01:02:32
some of The Chainsmokers songs she's
01:02:33
incredible Chelsea Grimes who's done Dua
01:02:36
Lipa stuff and blackpink and she's
01:02:38
incredible
01:02:39
um man the list goes on really honestly
01:02:41
there's been some amazing ones I work
01:02:43
with Sophie Simmons um who's Gene
01:02:45
Simmons's daughter
01:02:47
um right I was just in LA and she is
01:02:49
incredible
01:02:51
um yeah like there's there's so many
01:02:53
amazing writers that I'm I'm lucky that
01:02:56
[ __ ] with me and I'm very grateful for
01:02:59
that because it took seven years to find
01:03:01
the right crew yeah amazing uh next song
01:03:04
on patience it's called Japan yes uh it
01:03:06
has lyrics like every night I end up on
01:03:08
Instagram looking at pictures of you and
01:03:10
that picture of you in Japan it feels
01:03:12
like it's a song about uh and I could be
01:03:14
wrong about this I don't know you're the
01:03:15
songwriter um unrequited love someone
01:03:18
someone's overseas or you're looking at
01:03:21
her wondering if she's thinking about
01:03:22
you so I'll give you the story though
01:03:25
I'll give you the full story so
01:03:27
um my first girlfriend who I've you know
01:03:29
touched on if he's touched on Jesus
01:03:32
Christ
01:03:33
um
01:03:36
yeah so
01:03:39
um I I've talked about her a little bit
01:03:41
and so basically um we were planning to
01:03:44
go on a holiday to Japan and um
01:03:48
and so Kim Jong-un was sending nukes
01:03:51
over over Japan at the time to to test
01:03:55
like for some [ __ ] nuclear [ __ ] I
01:03:57
don't know and I was kind of freaking
01:03:59
out about it
01:04:00
um and so we didn't end up going to
01:04:03
Japan we just stayed local
01:04:05
um and then we were going to go to Japan
01:04:07
later on that year and then um and then
01:04:10
she ended things with me and I um was at
01:04:14
band practice like a month or so later
01:04:16
and uh went on Instagram and she was in
01:04:21
Japan and there's this photo of her and
01:04:24
you know someone's taking the photo of
01:04:26
her and she's looking all pretty and I'm
01:04:28
all upset about it and so uh I went over
01:04:32
to uh Melbourne that weekend with um
01:04:34
with my mate Mike Waters who I wrote a
01:04:36
lot of the first album with and um I
01:04:39
just told him what was going on and we
01:04:41
we just wrote this song and it was it's
01:04:43
just so hard to write for me at the time
01:04:45
because I was so in love but I knew that
01:04:47
I'd [ __ ] it up so it was this you know
01:04:50
helpless feeling and
01:04:52
um just wanting to you know just knowing
01:04:54
how much you'd [ __ ] it up with someone
01:04:56
you really loved and then seeing them do
01:04:59
what you plan together and knowing
01:05:01
there's going to be a life for them
01:05:03
without you it was it was all pretty
01:05:05
intense at the time it was a long time
01:05:06
ago now yes I suppose this party that
01:05:08
feels like you should have been taking
01:05:09
the photo exactly yeah yeah and um yeah
01:05:13
it was I love the song it's it's a it's
01:05:16
a sad song and it's you know it is yeah
01:05:18
unrequited love and everything but it's
01:05:21
it was a very important song I think
01:05:22
just for me as a man and I think it
01:05:24
would have been a shame if I didn't put
01:05:27
it on there but um yeah yeah it's
01:05:29
another very real one I feel like
01:05:31
they're all real
01:05:32
they really are as I said earlier it's
01:05:34
like reading your diary or your journal
01:05:36
or something
01:05:37
um so that's your very first girlfriend
01:05:39
the one that has nothing to do with you
01:05:40
anymore yes right you're not friends on
01:05:43
Instagram she's blocked you so you can
01:05:45
yeah yeah yeah yeah so you can't see
01:05:48
them
01:05:54
I'm very well blocked that is have you
01:05:57
have you talked to your therapist about
01:05:59
that like do you need to write her a
01:06:00
letter or oh yeah
01:06:02
we I think we just we just leave yeah
01:06:06
okay yeah okay yeah but no she's a
01:06:08
lovely girl she's a lovely girl you're
01:06:10
not still beating yourself up about you
01:06:12
you need to forgive yourself right oh
01:06:13
I've forgiven myself a long time ago
01:06:15
yeah but um
01:06:17
took a while yeah okay next track Fade
01:06:21
to Black
01:06:22
um lyrics if the mirror is a stranger
01:06:24
and you're sinking like a ship in the
01:06:26
sea well maybe soon or maybe later
01:06:28
you'll be exactly where you're supposed
01:06:29
to be
01:06:31
oh it's
01:06:34
it's again another important one to me
01:06:35
is uh
01:06:37
I talked about Ricky earlier this is the
01:06:39
first song we wrote together and we just
01:06:42
we both started this weird how
01:06:45
songwriters were just so over emotional
01:06:47
as overshi everything I've just met
01:06:49
Ricky and we're good friends now but
01:06:51
we're just basically sit in a room and
01:06:53
I'm like
01:06:54
uh I just made this dude no I don't
01:06:57
spend enough time with my mom and then
01:07:00
he's like bro like neither I haven't
01:07:01
seen my mom in like two years and then
01:07:04
so like oh I know what song we're
01:07:06
writing and so we basically we just we
01:07:09
we head off on on the fact that we we
01:07:12
both really missed our mums and it sort
01:07:14
of molded into this song about how short
01:07:17
life is you know because Ricky felt like
01:07:20
he'd seen his mum yesterday but it had
01:07:21
been two years and then um you know I
01:07:25
I've my mum lives down in in Bannockburn
01:07:28
so I barely get to see her and
01:07:31
um you know
01:07:32
click your fingers and covered three
01:07:35
years has gone your mum's three years
01:07:37
old and she's been sick and all of this
01:07:39
it just really hit home to me that life
01:07:42
is is so precious and and so short that
01:07:45
it fades to Black just
01:07:47
just like that so it was yeah I wanted
01:07:50
to just have like a an acknowledgment of
01:07:52
of my existential
01:07:55
dread I guess
01:07:57
I think um I think every every person
01:08:01
has that guilt about not doing enough or
01:08:03
not seeing their appearance enough yeah
01:08:05
you know what I mean yeah like you talk
01:08:07
about yourself in rookie I feel exactly
01:08:09
the same way yeah it's like yeah yeah
01:08:11
yeah I feel like most people yeah it's a
01:08:13
very relatable song yeah um are you so
01:08:16
your relationship's good with your
01:08:17
parents now because uh you know your
01:08:19
your mum's decision which came from a
01:08:22
good place really [ __ ] you up at um a
01:08:24
key time in your life like when you're
01:08:26
at school
01:08:27
um has she apologized for that oh yeah
01:08:30
me and my me and my parents have never
01:08:32
been better which is which is amazing
01:08:33
you know they've been through so much
01:08:35
with their own Journeys and their health
01:08:38
and and just their lives the last you
01:08:41
know since since we sell to rekindled
01:08:43
our relationship that I've got you know
01:08:46
nothing but just love and admiration for
01:08:48
them and you just get to a point in life
01:08:50
where you just you just realize that all
01:08:52
the [ __ ] that you were holding is so
01:08:55
stupid you know like when my mum told me
01:08:59
that she was sick it was it was almost
01:09:01
like a light immediately just went off
01:09:03
of like what the [ __ ] have I been being
01:09:07
salty about it you know like if if my
01:09:10
mum were to to be gone like I would I
01:09:12
would be completely regretful and
01:09:15
devastated for the rest of my life so
01:09:17
yeah it's um no it's never been better
01:09:20
and it you know it was more honestly
01:09:23
challenging with me and my old man like
01:09:25
me and my I'm my mom always had a soft
01:09:28
spot for me no matter how [ __ ] things
01:09:30
were like all mothers probably do yeah
01:09:33
but you know it's it's been really nice
01:09:34
to to get to know my old man like a on a
01:09:38
man-to-man level the last few years
01:09:39
which I never really had I always sort
01:09:41
of despised them growing up for for you
01:09:44
know immature and and young person
01:09:46
reasons but it's it's [ __ ] awesome to
01:09:49
you know he was down at the gig on
01:09:50
Saturday and I got to sit next to him
01:09:52
and give him a hug and you know get him
01:09:55
to see me rock estate do your thing yeah
01:09:57
why did you despise him growing up uh I
01:10:00
I think I was just a very
01:10:03
I was a very
01:10:06
how do I put a
01:10:08
I was a private school kid you know what
01:10:10
I mean I I didn't have my head screwed
01:10:13
on the right way I didn't have a right I
01:10:15
think I had too much expectation of the
01:10:18
world
01:10:19
um and expected [ __ ] to be given to me
01:10:22
when in this world you yeah nothing
01:10:24
comes for free yeah absolutely nothing
01:10:26
and I think that's what I learned from
01:10:27
the most at the end of the day is is
01:10:29
that I just had to learn it in sort of
01:10:32
the reverse Way by being a little
01:10:34
[ __ ] Auckland wanker
01:10:37
okay next track we'll talk about your
01:10:39
parents more there's a song coming up
01:10:41
called clouds uh where they they get a
01:10:43
shout out but the next track on the
01:10:45
album those were the days it felt like
01:10:47
we were lost but we were working it out
01:10:49
those were the days would be nothing
01:10:50
about no nothing without is this a love
01:10:52
song when you're falling in love again
01:10:54
no this one this one was uh
01:10:58
this was about my last girlfriend
01:11:00
um and you know again like I alluded to
01:11:04
earlier like with any breakup you know
01:11:06
there's personal things between you two
01:11:08
that you you'll like disagree on or you
01:11:11
felt your hard done by or whatever and
01:11:13
you know I could have ridden a thousand
01:11:15
songs about you know what went wrong or
01:11:19
um or you know me trying to Taylor Swift
01:11:22
her or [ __ ] on her or whatever but I I
01:11:25
felt like I didn't want to have like
01:11:27
that on my album you know I didn't want
01:11:29
to have like negativity and like even if
01:11:32
it wasn't all positive at the end like I
01:11:34
just wanted to have a song where it was
01:11:37
you know like not many people in my life
01:11:39
will give this person love but like I
01:11:42
feel like it's my duty to just it was
01:11:45
just like a little tribute to that that
01:11:46
part of my life and you know like oh
01:11:49
there's you know lyrics about laying
01:11:51
down by the couch and like you know we
01:11:53
always used to do that yeah by the fire
01:11:54
yeah with a dog and [ __ ] like that and
01:11:57
you know it's like stuff like that is
01:11:59
you know even though you know I've I've
01:12:01
well moved past that it's it's still
01:12:03
like a special thing to me and I didn't
01:12:05
want to just like [ __ ] on her and just
01:12:07
because I I could you know yeah so yeah
01:12:10
I I just thought it would be nice to be
01:12:12
nice and has has she heard it does she
01:12:15
know it's about it yeah I'm sure she has
01:12:18
um and I I don't I haven't talked to her
01:12:20
in a year but it's it's all love I'm
01:12:23
sure she knows it's about her well now
01:12:25
she does
01:12:27
how do you how do you have a song that's
01:12:29
written about you were you the you're
01:12:30
the Muse or the subject or whatever you
01:12:32
call it and like do you not you don't
01:12:35
tell let these people know you don't
01:12:36
give them a message saying hey no it
01:12:39
depends it depends like there's been
01:12:42
there's been times where I've been like
01:12:43
you know working on a girl if you will
01:12:46
and I've written a song and I'm trying
01:12:47
to get myself in the good books but I I
01:12:50
think like definitely like the the
01:12:53
thereafters I I just
01:12:56
yeah I leave it yeah yeah it's more it's
01:12:59
more for me is anyone ever that you've
01:13:01
written a song but ever reached out to
01:13:02
you afterwards and said hey I heard that
01:13:04
song I appreciate it or I forgive you or
01:13:07
no no no no no I mean as much as I would
01:13:10
have loved those moments to happen that
01:13:11
they definitely haven't but I funnily
01:13:14
enough I've had
01:13:15
so I've heard so many [ __ ] stories
01:13:19
about girls claiming Sunday morning is
01:13:21
about them and it is there's been a lot
01:13:24
of Saturday night girls for Mitch James
01:13:26
yeah they're all that I'm I'm serious
01:13:28
like there's been about like five or six
01:13:30
like ran random people that I've never
01:13:33
met that have claimed that this song is
01:13:35
about them
01:13:36
and the truth be told it's not even
01:13:39
really about anyone it's just we we I
01:13:43
was in a songwriting session and we just
01:13:45
kind of went on this Vibe which is like
01:13:47
one of the only real songs of mine
01:13:49
that's not actually about a real story
01:13:51
but there's plenty of girls that are
01:13:54
claiming it unbelievable yeah
01:13:56
um okay the next song is called Cloud
01:13:58
it's um it's a dark song but it's
01:14:00
another one that's very happy sounding
01:14:02
um some of the lyrics mum and dad are
01:14:03
sick the cancer got them both my
01:14:06
sister's slipping in and out it's hard
01:14:08
to keep her close
01:14:10
um so you so your parents both had
01:14:11
cancer they're both all right now though
01:14:13
yeah I mean uh they uh it's not really
01:14:18
my place to say they kind of like got
01:14:20
all they've been a bit upset about how
01:14:22
I've been open about in the past but I
01:14:25
mean they they uh I think I think
01:14:28
they're going okay at the moment they
01:14:29
they don't share too much and
01:14:32
um but yeah okay we don't have to talk
01:14:34
about that but they do you like a song
01:14:36
like that where you mention it do you do
01:14:39
they know or do they hear it when it
01:14:41
comes out no I didn't I didn't I didn't
01:14:43
really talk to um them about it because
01:14:45
I was scared I was gonna get a serving
01:14:48
um oh yeah the song's really good and I
01:14:50
don't want to take it off the album so
01:14:51
what do they say are they mad about it
01:14:53
when they hear us or what no we haven't
01:14:55
really talked about it I think they
01:14:56
understand that it's just part of my art
01:14:58
and part of what I have to do to express
01:15:00
myself and I think they've come a long
01:15:02
way with that because you know it's an
01:15:04
adjustment for them to like I've been
01:15:06
click baited about my parents and [ __ ]
01:15:08
before and
01:15:10
um it really [ __ ] me off to a deep
01:15:12
core level and you know having to like
01:15:14
call them and explain this it's not I
01:15:16
was trying to say and blah blah blah um
01:15:17
but you know that I think they're sort
01:15:19
of just learning on the job too and it's
01:15:22
um it's it's novel for for everyone you
01:15:24
know it's uh yeah it's it's certainly
01:15:27
not every day that this happens so we're
01:15:30
all kind of just learning on the job oh
01:15:32
100 100 it's a surreal situation to be
01:15:35
in and when you suddenly you realize
01:15:37
that oh okay everything that you read
01:15:38
about is not necessarily true and yeah
01:15:41
yeah it's tough um there's another line
01:15:43
in Cloud I've been getting faded since
01:15:44
the day I turned 11 what's faded like
01:15:46
wasted no um what's faded faded well
01:15:49
faded can have many minis for me and my
01:15:51
friends it's like getting high like um
01:15:53
have you not have you been getting faded
01:15:56
since 11 you smoke weed at 11.
01:15:59
this is nearly sound bad
01:16:02
but tender tendon rhyme as well all
01:16:06
right yeah so it's
01:16:08
also oh my God again
01:16:12
with who so I the first of all so the
01:16:17
first time I got drunk was I I was in
01:16:20
New Years when I was 10.
01:16:22
and um yeah that's that's shocking it's
01:16:27
bad yeah yeah
01:16:28
um and then well to be honest like me
01:16:31
and my mates were
01:16:32
we were we were drinking most weekends
01:16:34
from when we were 13. it's not like
01:16:36
something I'd obviously [ __ ] when I have
01:16:38
kids I'll definitely be
01:16:40
on to that but you know I've been a I've
01:16:43
been a little rascal for a long time
01:16:45
yeah yes I've always been a been a weed
01:16:49
smoker always been a bit of a drinker
01:16:52
but you know the drinking now is
01:16:55
nowhere near what it used to be it's
01:16:57
just like a you know when we're on we're
01:16:59
on sort of thing but it's um yeah like I
01:17:02
think that song is basically it's kind
01:17:05
of just like
01:17:06
uh in a way it's like stuck in denial
01:17:08
and saying like you know you might think
01:17:10
that this life is perfect it's it's it's
01:17:12
far from it
01:17:14
um and you know so it's essentially the
01:17:17
song is saying like sometimes I just
01:17:18
can't be [ __ ] being alive and dealing
01:17:20
with all the stress that that comes with
01:17:22
it sometimes I just want to be a cloud
01:17:23
and float up there and you know just
01:17:26
just [ __ ] relax for a bit
01:17:29
um there was it was one that I was
01:17:30
actually very
01:17:31
very iffy to put on the album because I
01:17:34
just felt like [ __ ] like I know it was
01:17:36
such a personal song yeah I was like I
01:17:38
know I do personal [ __ ] but this is like
01:17:40
kind of by far the most personal like
01:17:43
you know I open the song by saying mum
01:17:45
and dad are sick cancer got them both my
01:17:47
sister's slipping in and out it's hard
01:17:48
to keep her close you want a girlfriend
01:17:50
I don't know if I could call it out she
01:17:52
won't call me back yeah and then I talk
01:17:54
about my friend who who killed himself
01:17:55
and and all of that it's it's a pretty
01:17:58
intense song yeah if anyone wants to
01:18:01
look look it up um you can pause the
01:18:02
podcast and it's called Cloud yeah since
01:18:04
my homie went to heaven I've been in a
01:18:06
Great Depression looking back at every
01:18:07
message what was that that wasn't a
01:18:09
suicide wasn't it yeah it was yeah yeah
01:18:11
I'm sorry how old uh I think tea was uh
01:18:15
28 at the time 28 29 maybe
01:18:19
um but yeah no I was it was it was very
01:18:21
sad I've got his initials tattooed on me
01:18:24
and he's always always close to me but
01:18:26
it's um yeah you know it's like I said
01:18:29
you know it's just been so much uh
01:18:30
behind the scenes uh consistent
01:18:33
challenges personal life career
01:18:37
that you know I've popped up in in the
01:18:40
last four years and I feel like you know
01:18:42
it's got to be my duty to to be honest
01:18:44
about it and sing about it put some
01:18:46
light on my issues so hopefully you know
01:18:48
it's a bit easier for other people to
01:18:49
deal with theirs and think that you know
01:18:51
they're not just gonna listen to my
01:18:53
music and think like I'm some uh
01:18:55
detached [ __ ] Rich dude who's in you
01:18:59
know the Rolex store all day laughing at
01:19:01
all the peasants listening to his music
01:19:03
yeah it's yeah that's yeah I think I
01:19:06
just really wanted to shine a light on
01:19:07
on the fact that man it's odd for
01:19:10
everyone out here it is it is but that's
01:19:13
on cloud ends with um staring at the
01:19:15
bright blue skies which I feel like is a
01:19:17
nod to one of your older songs which is
01:19:19
great staring at the bright blue skies I
01:19:22
got a brand new lease on life can
01:19:23
finally fall asleep at night I'll be
01:19:25
okay I'll be fine so it's kind of like a
01:19:26
happy ending yeah I think
01:19:29
that's like that um
01:19:33
septum whatever fate you have and
01:19:35
treating it with as a positive
01:19:36
experiences I think that's probably the
01:19:39
main theme that I that's been drilled
01:19:41
Into Me by the universe the last four
01:19:43
years it's like it's like you know when
01:19:46
are you gonna pick this up we keep
01:19:47
[ __ ] throwing [ __ ] at you like you
01:19:50
either yeah it's I don't think there's a
01:19:51
I'm paraphrasing here but there's like a
01:19:53
great stoic quote that says you know
01:19:55
basically the only thing you can control
01:19:57
in any situation is your attitude
01:20:00
towards it and that's what I'm just
01:20:02
trying to learn it's I'm not preaching
01:20:04
like I've mastered it but it's
01:20:06
definitely something that keeps popping
01:20:08
up and that I have to keep trying oh
01:20:09
yeah this is an amazing book too called
01:20:11
man search for meaning by a guy called
01:20:13
Victor Frankel uh said in the constant
01:20:15
one of the concentration camps of the
01:20:16
second world war and that's the that's
01:20:18
the main sort of three door message in
01:20:19
that one as well yeah bloody good yeah
01:20:21
for sure
01:20:23
um second to last track home is lonely
01:20:26
um I feel like this is and I could be
01:20:28
again completely wrong this is about
01:20:29
friends turning on you because they're
01:20:30
jealous of your success yeah yeah
01:20:34
um man this is a [ __ ] Deep album
01:20:35
isn't it no it's good though I feel like
01:20:38
I'm like a lot of people probably just
01:20:39
listen to the songs and not really pay
01:20:40
attention to the lyrics but when you
01:20:42
when you deep dive into it there's a
01:20:43
there's a lot going you're sharing a lot
01:20:45
uh it [ __ ] kills me to say it I had
01:20:48
to lose you to change me I feel so lost
01:20:51
and I hate it I hate to lose you to
01:20:53
change me yeah it's well at the story
01:20:56
behind this is I had
01:20:59
um you know I had like four really close
01:21:01
mates growing up and um and basically uh
01:21:06
you know two of them I'm I'm still very
01:21:09
close with
01:21:10
um one of them where we're very
01:21:12
different people and we just hang out
01:21:13
every now and then but we're very close
01:21:15
and the others like my best mate and um
01:21:17
the other two basically you know we we
01:21:20
will ride or die and we we're you know
01:21:23
every day after school and you know get
01:21:25
in the car you know by 50 smoke some
01:21:28
weed chill out and sort of forget the
01:21:30
rest of our problems of the world and
01:21:31
we'll you know a little Band of Brothers
01:21:33
and then um
01:21:35
uh basically
01:21:37
um when when I got uh one of the stories
01:21:40
I can't tell because I'll probably get
01:21:42
arrested but but um so one of my friends
01:21:46
uh the story that I won't get into too
01:21:49
much basically uh I had some stuff that
01:21:52
I was uh going to
01:21:55
pass on to other people which he uh
01:21:57
stole
01:21:59
um and decided to do which which this
01:22:01
song is mostly about is um
01:22:04
uh you know my
01:22:06
he was trying to get with My First
01:22:08
Girlfriend by telling her that I'd been
01:22:10
cheating on her
01:22:12
um and basically was talking a bunch of
01:22:15
[ __ ] about me while I was away chasing
01:22:17
my dreams
01:22:18
um then I forgave him and then he um he
01:22:21
tried to do the same thing to my
01:22:23
girlfriend again
01:22:24
um and basically you know the my two of
01:22:28
my best friends who I had grown up with
01:22:30
had just completely betrayed me
01:22:33
um and you know thrown me under the bus
01:22:35
and you know insinuating that I'd you
01:22:38
know turn into a wanker and changed and
01:22:41
and left them when all I needed was sort
01:22:44
of you know some friends to confide in
01:22:46
and and you know hear me out for how
01:22:48
much my life is changing and and how
01:22:50
hectic it's been and but instead you
01:22:52
know that um they got jealous and and
01:22:55
went the other way and sort of acted
01:22:57
immaturely and out of pocket
01:23:00
um and it just uh yeah it took me years
01:23:03
and years to write the song write the
01:23:05
song about it um because in my mind it
01:23:07
was just like well [ __ ] them you know
01:23:10
like uh so I didn't really give it much
01:23:12
thought and
01:23:13
um until yeah we we wrote this song
01:23:16
about yeah it would have been about a
01:23:18
year ago now and it just it just felt
01:23:21
like cathartic because you know I'd
01:23:23
moved on and I was ready to just
01:23:26
you know leave this in the past but I
01:23:28
knew that so many people would be able
01:23:29
to relate to you know as you as you
01:23:32
charge on to the next phase of your life
01:23:34
there's gonna be
01:23:35
there's going to be collateral damage
01:23:37
and there's going to be people that have
01:23:39
to be left behind and you can't take
01:23:41
everyone with you because their
01:23:43
evolution is going to go at a different
01:23:45
pace and my dream was to you know again
01:23:48
like we were watching Wiz Khalifa videos
01:23:49
all the way growing up my dream was to
01:23:52
take the take these boys with me
01:23:54
wherever I went and you know roll like
01:23:55
Entourage [ __ ] yeah yeah
01:23:58
exactly and um you know it wasn't it
01:24:01
wasn't meant to be and I've pieced it
01:24:03
with the um with uh with one of the
01:24:06
dudes and we're we're friends again but
01:24:08
um you know the dude who was trying to
01:24:10
get with my girlfriend and stuff and uh
01:24:13
telling everyone I I've [ __ ] changed
01:24:16
without getting into too much detail
01:24:18
he's uh he's on the uh the punch on site
01:24:21
list
01:24:22
really wow oh no he's not right oh you
01:24:26
know what I mean it just dear to you
01:24:28
though like there's nothing there yeah
01:24:30
nothing yeah yeah and that that happens
01:24:32
I feel like there's um you know
01:24:34
everyone's changing all the time and uh
01:24:36
you take some people with you and then
01:24:38
some people your life is just going in a
01:24:40
different path or different Destiny and
01:24:42
and it happens and it's it's it's weird
01:24:44
I think in your teens or 20s but as you
01:24:45
get older you realize it's just um part
01:24:47
of the even flow of life exactly yeah I
01:24:49
think I'm as I get on I'm starting to
01:24:51
understand that a bit more is that yeah
01:24:53
everyone's just on their different
01:24:54
journey and it's um yeah yeah I'm I'm
01:24:58
quite happy with with where I'm at with
01:25:00
with friends and family at the moment
01:25:02
and I I feel like you know the smaller
01:25:04
the circle almost the better really and
01:25:07
you can really trust those people then
01:25:09
that's been massive for me over the last
01:25:11
few years you know there's a lot of
01:25:13
people that try to be a new friend and
01:25:15
um I'm not much of a believer in that
01:25:18
unless you can really show and back it
01:25:20
up yeah yeah there's a quote I saw that
01:25:22
I really like it says um people come
01:25:24
into your life for a reason a season or
01:25:25
a lifetime so it's family's lifetime
01:25:27
yeah and then maybe this guy that um
01:25:29
that's on your punch on site list
01:25:31
there's a reason for that maybe you've
01:25:33
got a valuable listen out of it well
01:25:35
yeah I am where I am today because of a
01:25:37
lot of that stuff and yeah I wouldn't
01:25:39
rather be anywhere else and you know of
01:25:41
course you'd love to be playing Wembley
01:25:43
Stadium but I'm a big believer you were
01:25:45
exactly where you meant to be so yeah
01:25:47
there's a lot of a lot of exciting
01:25:49
challenges coming up and I'm excited for
01:25:52
it and but yeah I mean in terms of this
01:25:54
song I just I just felt like it was
01:25:56
something that needed to be said and you
01:25:59
know I I had to lose you to change me as
01:26:02
a very sort of powerful statement that
01:26:05
can be applied in a lot of people's
01:26:07
lives you know again it's that Amor Fati
01:26:10
thing you know when when you gotta
01:26:12
approach everything that comes across
01:26:14
your plate and view it with positive
01:26:16
eyes so yeah it's a a tough one a very
01:26:19
emotional one but yeah glad that it's
01:26:23
out in the world and I don't have to
01:26:24
deal with that [ __ ] anymore
01:26:26
and the last song on the album Patience
01:26:29
Stone Cold Sober this is another one
01:26:30
written with um much who Walters From
01:26:32
Success yeah and you wrote it real quick
01:26:34
like 15 minutes 20 minutes yeah there is
01:26:37
one more of the song on the album that's
01:26:39
there yeah bullet holes but um but oh
01:26:42
yeah oh there is too yeah yeah yeah you
01:26:44
mean yeah we'll get to okay bullet holes
01:26:46
here yeah so Stone Cold Sober though is
01:26:49
um yeah we were in LA and um
01:26:51
we're actually writing another song and
01:26:54
um
01:26:55
we uh we had a little midday doobie
01:26:58
break and we we thought you know we'll
01:27:01
just switch up The Vibes a little bit
01:27:02
and and much you came back in and just
01:27:05
started um multi-strumming these chords
01:27:07
and it just sounded [ __ ] beautiful
01:27:10
and
01:27:11
um he started humming and he says
01:27:15
leave Clover and I was like whoa bro
01:27:19
hold the [ __ ] phone like what are you
01:27:21
doing there bro
01:27:23
um and so we just he just kept playing
01:27:25
these chords and we just eked it out in
01:27:29
20 minutes and it just felt really right
01:27:30
and really special to me at the time and
01:27:32
yeah it was Machu is incredibly talented
01:27:36
he he really is he's
01:27:38
like when it comes to Raw Talent and
01:27:41
like when I write songs I really have to
01:27:43
[ __ ] slave for them but Martin is
01:27:46
just his gift today and yeah we got that
01:27:49
done in in 20 minutes and yeah it's
01:27:52
still probably one of my favorites yeah
01:27:54
what's it about there's a lyric I feel I
01:27:56
feel like in a past life you and I had
01:27:58
something golden yeah I think I have a
01:28:00
song about a girl yeah it is yeah I I
01:28:03
think if I'm honest that that song was
01:28:05
inspired by my uh the first girl
01:28:08
really yeah yeah
01:28:12
you see nothing we can do with that
01:28:13
relationship no she's long gone
01:28:17
I'm all good I'm I'm a happy man right
01:28:19
now Don right but you see you just sort
01:28:22
of use her as do you just like like draw
01:28:24
energy from that relationship and use
01:28:26
her as like a muse even though you know
01:28:28
there's nothing there or you know you
01:28:29
can never be with her I
01:28:31
I think it's like
01:28:35
changed in terms of my mentality like
01:28:38
when that ended it was the biggest
01:28:40
Catalyst for change that I've ever had
01:28:42
in my life I was like [ __ ] I need to
01:28:44
like become a man I can't I can't keep
01:28:47
drinking three or four times a week and
01:28:50
going out and partying and like getting
01:28:52
with girls and being a [ __ ] [ __ ]
01:28:54
boyfriend like I can't do that so every
01:28:58
time I think about that moment it's more
01:29:01
like the challenge and the inspiration
01:29:03
to be the best version of myself because
01:29:05
I slept into the worst version of myself
01:29:07
and from that moment I had to turn it
01:29:09
around and go [ __ ] like the onus is on
01:29:12
You No One's Gonna Save you no special
01:29:14
rules apply to you you're getting fat
01:29:19
um yeah you know like I just had to turn
01:29:21
it around and so I think it's not it's
01:29:23
not this it's although like there's
01:29:25
always love for that person it's more
01:29:27
actually just what the situation
01:29:28
represents to me and and how the person
01:29:31
that she fell in love with initially
01:29:33
yeah and then I and and that obviously
01:29:35
slipped away it's not that I'm trying to
01:29:37
get back to that person it's just like
01:29:39
an inspiration of trying to be like man
01:29:42
I always need to be pushing every single
01:29:44
day to be better and that's again that's
01:29:46
why like running is so important to me
01:29:48
as well to show up every day and just
01:29:50
try and get that little bit better than
01:29:52
yesterday it's yeah it sort of just
01:29:54
applies in a general sense yeah with her
01:29:57
as
01:29:57
yeah I guess it still shows through a
01:30:00
lot of the music even though it's been
01:30:01
years and and the last time bullet holes
01:30:04
is that about her as well yeah I still
01:30:07
think about it all the time you never
01:30:08
really left my mind
01:30:11
it's been years and I just wish you'd
01:30:14
call [ __ ] maybe I just lied to you
01:30:16
through my teeth now yeah I I do
01:30:20
remember that day when I wrote that song
01:30:21
though I um I was I was I was feeling
01:30:25
very lonely
01:30:26
um and uh 660 were playing and I was on
01:30:29
that tour but I wasn't on that gig and I
01:30:31
wanted to be on that gig that day so I
01:30:33
just sat down on the edge of my bed and
01:30:35
just just wrote a song and it was
01:30:37
probably just yeah it was another quick
01:30:38
one it was about an hour and wow yeah
01:30:41
it's the only song on the album I wrote
01:30:43
totally by myself which um I don't know
01:30:46
if people listening you know you'd
01:30:49
actually be surprised to find that it's
01:30:51
probably only like 0.5 of the songs that
01:30:53
ever get released they're written by one
01:30:55
person and so as a songwriter I also
01:30:57
felt like it was a
01:30:58
a Judy of mine to like
01:31:01
show yeah I can [ __ ] write a good
01:31:03
song just by myself and just prove that
01:31:04
to myself but but also you know I
01:31:07
started the album with motions and
01:31:09
saying I'm lost I'm going through the
01:31:10
motions and I don't know what to do but
01:31:13
the last song of bullet holes is this
01:31:15
like acceptance of saying well now I've
01:31:18
got to move on like and I think it
01:31:20
summarizes the album perfectly of you
01:31:23
know basically what this album is is
01:31:25
like my last four years that have been a
01:31:27
complete mess and me trying to make
01:31:29
sense of it and so at the start I'm like
01:31:31
[ __ ] I'm lost and by the end I'm saying
01:31:34
like yeah I'm still lost but I've found
01:31:38
a way through it in my mind where I can
01:31:40
I can attack the next thing and leave
01:31:43
all of these stories and leave all of
01:31:44
these emotions and and all of that in
01:31:47
the past and uh what the the next album
01:31:51
looks like is as a complete transition
01:31:53
from that just sort of dark period which
01:31:56
is all a bit of a mumble in my head to
01:31:59
to something a bit more clear and and
01:32:01
look there's a lot of clarity and you
01:32:04
know there's a lot more fun on this on
01:32:05
this next album there's a song called
01:32:07
day for it which is
01:32:09
um you know I'll let you do the math
01:32:11
yeah yeah so it's yeah it was just a
01:32:14
very cathartic period and I'm I'm glad
01:32:16
that it's I'm glad that it's over I'm
01:32:18
glad that you know that's the last
01:32:20
record that I would would be with my old
01:32:23
record label with it and it just feels
01:32:25
like now I've I've got a clear path and
01:32:28
what's starting to clear up it's been
01:32:30
been very muddy and very hard and
01:32:32
[ __ ] frustrating and challenging but
01:32:34
you know I think if I could give one
01:32:37
message out I guess is just that's what
01:32:39
we're talking about before about the
01:32:40
resiliency and the perseverance and just
01:32:43
the that dogged fight to to no matter
01:32:46
what just keep the [ __ ] goal in mind
01:32:49
and no matter how much [ __ ] gets in your
01:32:50
way you just have to keep going and and
01:32:52
I I guess that's where I'm at now is
01:32:54
yeah just um making sure that this next
01:32:58
album and this next chapter is is
01:33:01
representative of me fully and and where
01:33:03
I'm at and no [ __ ] No Labels trying
01:33:06
to dress me up or or make me someone I'm
01:33:09
not and it's it's just been a crazy old
01:33:11
journey and a crazy old game and I got
01:33:13
into it very young I didn't think I was
01:33:16
young you know being 20 21 but in
01:33:17
reality
01:33:18
you know this from being in the game for
01:33:20
for so long as well it's pretty [ __ ]
01:33:22
young the older you get you realize the
01:33:25
less you know yeah and the exciting
01:33:27
thing about life is that continues as
01:33:28
well
01:33:30
um I just turned 50 the other week and I
01:33:32
still realize I Know Jack actually like
01:33:33
a day over 51 I'm a kid [ __ ] get back
01:33:37
it's a great album though mate patience
01:33:40
um it's really good and it's um it is
01:33:42
very very honest so it'll be interesting
01:33:44
to see your perspective in you know 10
01:33:45
15 years from now like whether you're
01:33:47
like super proud of it as a snapshot of
01:33:50
your life as a guy in his mid-20s or if
01:33:52
you'd like embarrassed about it or you
01:33:53
cringe I expect there'll be a
01:33:54
combination of both yeah well I mean
01:33:56
you're always going to cringe a little
01:33:58
bit about [ __ ]
01:33:59
you know it's where you were at at one
01:34:01
point in time when you're not
01:34:03
you're not so there's songs on the first
01:34:05
album I'm like [ __ ] did I even why did I
01:34:08
release that well it but you know it's
01:34:11
all part of the artist's journey and
01:34:13
yeah it's
01:34:15
it's all good I I feel like I'm gonna
01:34:17
it's taken me up until really about this
01:34:20
point which I'm when you think about I'm
01:34:22
like six seven years deep in in the game
01:34:24
which is kind of crazy to think about
01:34:27
um makes me feel [ __ ] old um but it's
01:34:30
yeah it's it's I feel I finally feel at
01:34:32
that place now where I I just have an
01:34:34
understanding of of who I am as a man
01:34:36
firstly and like can separate that from
01:34:39
an artist and and I just know that how
01:34:42
to do it on my terms and that I am going
01:34:44
to do it on my terms so it's exciting
01:34:46
but it's um you know it's it's a very
01:34:48
challenging game and it's certainly not
01:34:51
all [ __ ] uh cocaine and hookers for
01:34:53
sure
01:34:55
well that's the thing even if it's old
01:34:57
cocaine and hook is after a while that
01:34:58
becomes it becomes boring doesn't it
01:35:00
because that certainly does yeah it's
01:35:01
all about balance so certainly does like
01:35:03
I've got sick of cocaine
01:35:07
just can't afford either of them either
01:35:10
all right trust me I cannot
01:35:12
um James I bloody love you and I love
01:35:15
your work and I'm really really proud of
01:35:17
what you've done and it's been great to
01:35:18
sit down with you and uh you're going on
01:35:20
tour soon so uh we're gonna get to hear
01:35:22
these songs live which is a real treat
01:35:24
yeah you know I'm excited it's always
01:35:26
amazing to get back out and play live
01:35:28
and played a headline show of mine
01:35:30
owning three [ __ ] four years coming up
01:35:33
now so
01:35:35
um thank you covered but it's um yeah
01:35:37
I'm really excited to just feel that
01:35:39
energy again and and get out with with
01:35:41
the people who have um you know are the
01:35:43
reason why I get to sit here and talk to
01:35:45
you and instead of you know working in a
01:35:48
normal job so I'm I'm extremely grateful
01:35:50
and just yeah can't wait to feel that
01:35:53
connection again and and just give my
01:35:55
all on stage and yeah lots of new music
01:35:58
coming out which is which is you know
01:36:00
again very honest but in a more sort of
01:36:04
I guess uh I guess you'd call it happier
01:36:06
and more open way but
01:36:09
um yeah it's I think the the artist's
01:36:12
job is to always be as open and as
01:36:14
vulnerable as possible even if that
01:36:16
means it's a little bit ugly so I think
01:36:18
I've Got My Cry album out the way and
01:36:21
next time we got the day for it party oh
01:36:24
yeah it's nice nice well as someone who
01:36:27
um feels like they're quite similar to
01:36:29
you personality wise but with a few more
01:36:30
miles a lot more miles on the clock
01:36:33
um just be kind to yourself okay thank
01:36:35
you brother and likewise likewise you're
01:36:37
a good dude you've got a good heart
01:36:39
um yeah I don't want you I don't want to
01:36:41
feel like you're beating yourself up
01:36:42
about things that you've done no yeah
01:36:44
absolutely it's it's it's it's a fun job
01:36:47
because you get to reflect you know
01:36:49
um then you get to see
01:36:51
um all of the amazing things that you've
01:36:54
worked for out in front of you so I'm
01:36:56
very excited about the future and not
01:36:58
too much dwelling on the past so we're
01:37:00
we're all good you leave that poor X
01:37:02
alone yeah
01:37:15
I love you mate
01:37:18
[Music]
01:37:28
thank you
01:37:30
[Music]

Podspun Insights

In this episode of "Runners Only," Dom Harvey welcomes back Mitch James for a lively and introspective chat that dives deep into the tumultuous journey of his music career since their last conversation. The duo reflects on the release of Mitch's second album, "Patience," which took four years to create amidst record label drama and personal challenges. Mitch shares candid insights about the pressures of following up a successful debut album, the struggles of navigating the music industry, and the emotional toll it has taken on him.

As they explore the themes of resilience and self-discovery, Mitch opens up about his experiences with ADHD, the importance of patience, and the lessons learned from both triumphs and setbacks. The conversation flows effortlessly, touching on everything from the chaos of touring to the complexities of relationships and the impact of social media on mental health.

Listeners are treated to a behind-the-scenes look at the songwriting process, with Mitch revealing the personal stories behind tracks like "Motions," "Japan," and "Cloud." The episode is a heartfelt exploration of vulnerability, creativity, and the relentless pursuit of authenticity in a world that often demands conformity. With laughter and genuine camaraderie, Mitch and Dom remind us that while the journey may be fraught with challenges, it is also filled with moments of joy and connection.

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Episode Highlights

  • Mitch James' Journey to Patience
    Mitch shares the story behind his album title, reflecting on the irony of its creation.
    “I wanted to name it patience after one year, but it became ironic after four.”
    @ 01m 27s
    April 09, 2023
  • A New Chapter Begins
    Mitch expresses his desire to create music freely and authentically.
    “It's just a new chapter and time for me to just do my thing.”
    @ 10m 24s
    April 09, 2023
  • Winning Over Crowds
    Performing in front of unfamiliar audiences is challenging but rewarding.
    “It's hard work and I really did get a kick out of the process.”
    @ 21m 00s
    April 09, 2023
  • Finding Genuine Connections
    Navigating relationships can be tough, especially in the music industry.
    “I've struggled with finding genuine people.”
    @ 31m 01s
    April 09, 2023
  • The Therapy of Songwriting
    Songwriting serves as a cathartic outlet, providing emotional release and clarity.
    “The best thing about songwriting for me is the therapy aspect.”
    @ 39m 36s
    April 09, 2023
  • The Journey of Self-Discovery
    Navigating the pressures of fame and personal identity is a continuous journey.
    “I was trying to be someone that I wasn’t.”
    @ 47m 17s
    April 09, 2023
  • Finding Resilience
    Resilience is a blend of lessons from family and personal experiences.
    “I’d like to think that I got the best of both worlds from them.”
    @ 55m 47s
    April 09, 2023
  • The Journey of Songwriting
    Mitch shares insights on his songwriting process and collaborations with talented artists.
    “I just go into like a quality control sort of role.”
    @ 01h 02m 02s
    April 09, 2023
  • A Tribute to Parents
    Mitch reflects on his relationship with his parents and the impact of their health struggles.
    “Me and my parents have never been better.”
    @ 01h 08m 32s
    April 09, 2023
  • Cloud: A Personal Journey
    The song 'Cloud' explores deep personal struggles and the impact of loss. "Sometimes I just want to be a cloud and float up there and just relax for a bit."
    “Sometimes I just want to be a cloud and float up there and just relax for a bit.”
    @ 01h 17m 23s
    April 09, 2023
  • The Cost of Success
    Reflecting on friendships lost due to jealousy, the artist shares a powerful narrative. "I had to lose you to change me."
    “I had to lose you to change me.”
    @ 01h 20m 51s
    April 09, 2023
  • Reflecting on Growth
    An artist contemplates their journey and the evolution of their work over the years.
    “It's all part of the artist's journey.”
    @ 01h 34m 11s
    April 09, 2023

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  • New Chapter10:24
  • Genuine Connections31:01
  • Gratitude56:07
  • Emotional Battles57:16
  • Friendship Betrayal1:22:33
  • Cathartic Release1:23:26
  • Transition and Clarity1:32:25
  • Gratitude for Fans1:35:50

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