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Retirees' Mistakes and Wake-Up Calls: Expectations vs. Reality - E106

May 07, 2025 / 28:14

This episode covers the 2023 survey on retirement perspectives, featuring discussions on the differences between pre-retirees and post-retirees, social connections, and maintaining health in retirement.

Host Jesse Kramer reviews a survey conducted with about 1,700 participants, half of whom are retired. The survey reveals insights into their perspectives, preparedness, and concerns regarding retirement planning.

Key findings include that pre-retirees worry more about financial aspects, while post-retirees focus on non-financial aspects like social connections and identity. Jesse emphasizes the importance of maintaining social interactions and health for a fulfilling retirement.

Jesse also introduces exercises like the perfect day exercise and the icky guy map to help listeners envision their ideal retirement. He stresses the need for intentional planning and the importance of nurturing relationships and health.

The episode concludes with a reminder that retirement is not just about financial readiness but also about crafting a meaningful and fulfilling life.

TL;DR

The episode discusses a survey on retirement perspectives, highlighting differences between pre-retirees and post-retirees regarding concerns and social connections.

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Welcome to personal finance for
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life. Every episode teaches you personal
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finance and long-term investing in
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simple terms. Now, here's your host,
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Jesse Kramer. Hello and welcome to
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episode 106 of Personal Finance for
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Long-Term Investors. My name is Jesse
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Kramer. Today, we're going to take a
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deep dive on a cool 2023 survey called
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retirement perspectives and attitudes.
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It shines an an awesome light in the
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minds of about 1,700 people who
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participated in the study, about half of
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whom are retired and the other half are
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planning on retiring soon. And we're
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going to learn some lessons and compare
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and contrast. and I think come away what
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you know no matter what stage of your
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financial life you're in whether
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retirement is still decades in the
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future or you've been retired already
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for a number of years I still think
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there's some really interesting things
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we can learn from this study before we
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dive into it we'll do our customary
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review of the week thank you so much
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on Apple Podcast or Spotify this one's
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from CD Stewart who wrote in and said
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fantastic podcast I've been listening to
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Jesse for the last year or so and I
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absolutely love this podcast Jesse is
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fantastic at breaking down complex
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topics into easily digestible pieces
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along with the use of great metaphors. I
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like that he discusses the mindset and
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emotional side of finance while also
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providing practical nuts andbolts
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information that I can act on. I
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recommend this podcast to beginners and
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money nerds alike. Well, CD Stewart,
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thank you very much for the kind words.
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Drop me an email to
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[email protected] and I will get
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you set up with a super soft bestinest
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t-shirt. As I was alluding to you
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before, today we're going to dive deep
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on this retirements and perspectives
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study. About half of the people who
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responded to the study have already been
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retired and the other half are planning
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on retiring soon. Of the retirees, about
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half have been retired for two or fewer
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years. So, we're talking about retirees
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who are just dipping their toe into
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retirement for the first few months or
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for the first year. And then of the
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pre-retirees, about half of them are
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planning on retiring in the next two
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years. So in other words, there are a
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lot of people in the study who can speak
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to that final glide path into retirement
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and then what the initial touchdown and
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again up for the study 90% of the
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respondents were between ages 50 and 75.
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So again a lot of pre-retirees and a lot
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of post-retirees. The survey uncovers
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their perspectives, their preparedness,
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their expectations and their major
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concerns when it comes to retirement
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planning. Another fantastic takeaway is
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to see how these two major cohorts of
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pre and postretirees how they tend to
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either change their minds over time or
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how they thought one thing and then they
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realized retirement actually had a
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different a different way about it. You
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know, in other words, that the major
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concerns of some of the pre-retirees end
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up being different than the major
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concerns for that of the post-retirees.
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The people who are retired, the retirees
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have a benefit of been there, done that,
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while the pre-retirees can only imagine
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what the future holds in store for them.
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And that difference is vital. We're all
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naturally uncomfortable with the
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prospect of an unknown future, but it's
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so helpful to hear from such a large
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cohort of people actually living that
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future already. So, first a little bit
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about the authors themselves because
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they deserve all the credit for putting
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this study together. Fritz Gilbert, who
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some of you might recognize from episode
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62 of Personal Finance for Long-Term
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Investors. Fritz is the founder of the
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Retirement Manifesto, a personal finance
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blog dedicated to helping individuals
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achieve a fulfilling retirement. His
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writing emphasizes both the financial
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and the personal aspects of retirement
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planning. Fritz spent 30 years in
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corporate America, primarily in the
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aluminum industry before retiring at age
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55. And now postretirement, he and his
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wife moved to a cabin in the Georgia
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mountains where they enjoy community
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involvement and charity work. The other
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co-author of the study, Eric Wigel, is
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the founder of Retire with
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Possibilities, a retirement coaching
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firm aimed at helping individuals design
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their journey into retirement. He holds
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an MBA from the University of Chicago
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and has extensive experience in
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investment management. And the way I
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want to go through this particular
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podcast episode is to present a certain
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finding from the study, discuss the
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differences, if they exist, between the
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pre and the post retirees, and then add
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some of my own color based on my
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opinions or based on the clients I work
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with. the stories I've heard from them.
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So, I'm not going to cover every single
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question from the study, but instead I'm
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kind of handpicking or cherrypicking the
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ones that I found to be the most
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interesting to dive into. The first
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topic to dive into, I think, is uh the
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question that the survey asked, which
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is, how would you rate yourself in terms
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of finding the perfect home and
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environment to spend your retirement
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years? 75% of the results of the study
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were positive, 20% were neutral, and 5%
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were negative. So, in general, people
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are happy with their home choices or the
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places they choose to live, their
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environments. But that said, there was a
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big difference in how the two major
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cohorts of pre and post-retirees, how
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they responded. The pre-retirees make up
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fewer of the happy respondents and make
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up more of the negative respondents. And
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I think this makes sense. If you're
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still a few years out from retirement,
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you might be a little anxious about
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where you'll end up and if you'll like
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it there. You know, will you downsize
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your home? How stressful is that process
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going to be? The the process of moving
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and finding a new place. Are you going
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to move to where your grandkids are, to
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where your kids are, where they're
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living? Is that going to be what you
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want? And is it also going to be what
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what they want, what your kids and
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grandkids want? Are you going to
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snowbird to somewhere warmer? Can you
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afford to do that? There are all these
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questions and it's really hard to figure
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out what the ideal answers are. And it's
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hard to know for sure if you're going to
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enjoy those choices once you're actually
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in retirement. But that's the thing.
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Once you're in retirement, you have at
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least some of your answers. And if you
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don't like your answers, you have the
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time and the flexibility to move or to
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plan or to think about it and to
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ultimately do something about the fact
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that you aren't enjoying where you're
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living. So my takeaway from this is if
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you're concerned about your perfect home
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or your perfect environment where you're
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going to spend your retirement years, I
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think you can relax a little bit because
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even if your situation isn't perfect on
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day one of retirement, you will still
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have time to figure out your plan from
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there. Again, I'm going to skip around
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the survey a little bit here. And the
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next question I want to tackle is the
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question of how would you rate yourself
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in terms of continuing to work on new
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meaningful goals. Now, interestingly,
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people who were more than 2 years before
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retirement, they rated themselves the
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highest in this dimension. Conversely,
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people who have been retired for more
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than 2 years, they had the lowest
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self-ratings. And another finding from
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this study is simply that many retirees
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struggle to find a purpose and meaning,
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especially in the first couple years
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after retirement. So what can we do to
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ensure that we have purpose and meaning
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throughout our life especially in
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retirement? The big thing is to stay
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connected. Loneliness really is the
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silent killer of retirement and it's not
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just uh loneliness isn't just a
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psychological or a mental thing. It
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really has physical ramifications too on
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our physical health. So that's brings us
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actually I mean I don't want to cut this
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question off too soon this part of the
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study but it does bring me to the next
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question worth pondering in the study
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and the question was how would you rate
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yourself in terms of the closeness and
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the quality of your relationships? 25%
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of the study's respondents self-reported
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that they longed for deeper social
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connections. So, what do we do about
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this? Especially, what do we do about
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this in retirement? Well, I think of
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routine social habits. I think we need
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to make socializing part of our bakedin
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routine. I think of I have a friend here
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in Rochester who's uh despite being I
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think he's 80 or 81 right now. He's
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still sharp as attack. He's still very
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active. He plays squash four or five
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mornings a week. And you know, I'm
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usually joining in one or two mornings a
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week on the double squash court. And
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he's just extremely active, whether it's
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volunteering, networking, going out to
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breakfast for lunch with friends who
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he's trying to keep in touch with,
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physically, playing squash, going for
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walks. He's just he's always doing
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something. And it's routine, right? He
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his social interactions really are baked
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into his lifestyle routine. I think of a
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relative of mine who is very active in
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knitting and quilting groups in her
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retirement. It's one or two days a week
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and it's the same groups of people, but
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everybody gets together and they're
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sitting there knitting or quilting or
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whatever it may be and they're sharing
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stories and they're asking each other
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how they are. It's a weekly thing,
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right? It's built into the routine. I
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also think of a cafe here in Pittsver, a
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local cafe that I've, you know, will go
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to sometimes for my morning coffee
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meetings. And there's this rotating
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group of like 10 older men and you know,
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sometimes it's these seven guys are here
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one day and those eight guys are here
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the next day, but kind of get used to
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the same characters. But they're in
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there every morning or at least every
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morning that I'm there. There's always a
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group of these older men, retired men,
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getting coffee together, hanging out,
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chatting. Another a client of mine, she
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talks to me about going on these regular
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walks. You know, she tries to go on a
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walk every single day. And as much as
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she can, she tries to invite different
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people to join her on a walk. So, you
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know, sometimes it's routine where it'll
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be every Friday she walks with Nancy.
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And then, you know, Wednesdays it's
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every other Wednesday it's Lucy or Betty
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and blah blah blah. You you guys get
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what I'm saying? The whole idea is it's
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there's a routine. So maybe it's a book
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club, a church group, gardening,
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whatever. And a bonus thought here
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because it can be hard, especially if
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we're not particularly outgoing or you
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know the idea of of reaching out and
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what if they say no. And and one thought
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and this is a cool piece of advice I I
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recently heard is to don't try to find a
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best friend, right? You don't have to go
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out and try to find a best friend, but
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just try to be a friend. I think
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relationships really do blossom from
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that simple place. And I was listening
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to Vanessa Van Edwards recently who's a
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a very cool public speaker when it comes
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to kind of social interactions and
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relationship building and and a few
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different things that I personally find
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interesting. And she cited a study and
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the study was about basically why are
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likable people likable? Like what is
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that trait that makes people likable? Is
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it that they're funny? Is it that
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they're good-looking? Is it some form of
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like physical subconscious athleticism
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that we notice in them? And the number
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one thing that all likable people have
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in common is that their list of people
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who they like is long. In other words,
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right, the most likable people in our
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lives, they tend to be the people who
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they see the world and they just find
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lots of people who they like. They just,
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you know, I almost say it as they see
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humanity through rosy colored glasses.
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They see people who maybe are a little
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boring or a little quiet or a little
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plain and they're like, you know what, I
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I I like that person. There's something
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I like them. The more you like other
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people, the more those other people will
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like you back. So, my takeaway there is
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to, you know, we have to be pretty
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intentional about baking socialization
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into our routine. If we're seeking out
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new relationships or if we're trying to
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forge new friendships because maybe we
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left a lot of friendships behind when we
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retired, when you go out and meet
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someone, it's find something to
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genuinely like about them because if you
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can convince yourself that you like
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people, a lot of those people are going
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to like you back. Now, the next question
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from the study that I want to dive into
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is, "How would you rate yourself in
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terms of adhering to a healthy
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lifestyle?" 22% of the study's
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respondents had a negative answer to
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this question, but the study does point
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out that where we fall along the work to
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retirement spectrum is probably
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immaterial to the healthy lifestyle
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choices we have in our life. Lifestyle
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habits, they really are habits. They're
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sticky and they're ingrained somewhere
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into our subconscious. And there's
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probably not a huge difference between
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people who are working and people who
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are retired in terms of adhering to a
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healthy lifestyle. But it does kind of
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beget a a bigger question we need to ask
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ourselves, which is what's the point of
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retirement at all if you're not healthy
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enough to enjoy it? I've had this
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conversation through the blog, through
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the podcast, here through work with
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clients before. People who spent decades
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saving diligently, they've built their
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wealth, they've planned wisely, and now
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great, they've crossed the retirement
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finish line. Like good for them, but
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something's missing. And what's missing
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is certainly not money. They have plenty
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of money. They have plenty of time
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freedom. The thing that's missing really
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is vitality. And it's not because they
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didn't care about their health per se. I
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mean, in some cases, maybe it is. But
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it's mainly because maintaining your
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health just gets harder and harder as
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you age. It's just biology. Dr. Peter
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Aia, who some of you might have heard
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of, the author of the book Outlive, he's
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like the go-to voice on longevity and
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aging. And he has a couple interesting
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concepts. One's called Healthspan. One's
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called the centinarian decathlon. And
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and the idea there is it's not just
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about living longer. It's not just
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about, you know, instead of dying at 75,
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I want to die at 90. It's about living
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better for longer, right? It's about
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being strong enough and mobile enough
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and sharp enough to do the things that
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bring you joy into your 70s, into your
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80s, even into your 90s. In other words,
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retirement shouldn't be about not
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working. It should really be about
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living. Living to the fullest. playing
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on the floor with your grandkids, hiking
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the trails that you always wanted to
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hike, dancing at your grandchildren's
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weddings, those kind of things. But what
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Dr. Aia points out is that those things
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don't happen by accident. They take
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work, hard physical work a lot of the
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times, just like saving for retirement
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took work. Dr. Aia points out that by
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the time you're 60, you're 65, you're
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already in a race against the clock.
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Your muscle mass is declining pretty
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quickly. Your balance gets worse.
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Chronic disease risk increases. So the
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time to prepare isn't really when you
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retire. It is the kind of thing where
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this you got to start preparing today.
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I'm not a doctor, right? This is not
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medical advice. I'm certainly not here
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to hand out your workout plan or go to
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tell you to uh drink some kale smoothies
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or whatever that is. But I will say
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this, I've never heard a retiree or an
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older person say that they regret taking
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care of their body. Retirement is a a
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season of life that's supposed to be
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full of joy and purpose and connection,
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but without your health, it's almost
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like you've been given this front row
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seat to the concert of your dreams and
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you forget your hearing aids. And
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actually, I don't know. I don't know how
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hearing fits into this, but that that's
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a separate conversation. The whole point
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is to take care of yourself now so that
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your future self can live life to the
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fullest. Here's a quick ad and then
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next question I want to dive into from
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the study is, how would you rate
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yourself in terms of having a clear
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vision and a plan for your life in
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retirement? a clear vision and a plan
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for your life and retirement. This
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question, it got the lowest proportion
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of self-reported strong or good
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responses of all the questions in the
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study. And that was specifically true
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for people who are yet to retire. So on
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the one hand, I hear that and I think
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well maybe the future is just too foggy
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for all of us to say we have a clear
00:14:16
vision for retirement or perhaps many
00:14:18
people do they don't want a rigid vision
00:14:20
and a plan for retirement. But we don't
00:14:22
want to wing it. We don't want to go
00:14:23
into retirement with no vision at all.
00:14:25
And it's a good reminder that retirement
00:14:27
again, it's not a financial event. Yes,
00:14:30
finances are part of it, but retirement
00:14:32
really is a life transition. And so, if
00:14:35
you are struggling with a vision or
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struggling with a plan or simply if you
00:14:38
want to start putting your vision and
00:14:40
plan together, I think that's probably
00:14:41
the best place to start. If you're
00:14:43
already retired, hopefully that's
00:14:44
something you've been doing or you've
00:14:45
been working on it. I still think these
00:14:47
exercises I'm about to go through will
00:14:48
be helpful for you, but especially if
00:14:50
you're a pre-retiree and you feel like
00:14:53
you don't really have good vibes when it
00:14:55
comes to having a clear vision or having
00:14:57
a clear plan for your life in
00:14:58
retirement. Here are three really
00:15:00
interesting exercises that I think will
00:15:02
help you. The first one is called the
00:15:03
perfect day exercise. The goal of this
00:15:06
exercise, as the name probably implies,
00:15:08
right, is to create some sort of vivid
00:15:10
picture of what your ideal retirement
00:15:12
day will look like. And then you can
00:15:14
work backward to build a life that
00:15:15
supports that idea. Prompt would be
00:15:17
imagine you wake up in your ideal
00:15:19
retirement life. What time are you
00:15:21
waking up? Where are you? Who are you
00:15:23
with? And then what do you do next? And
00:15:25
then what do you do next? And then what
00:15:26
do you do next? And who are you with for
00:15:27
that? And who are you meeting up? And
00:15:29
what's the weather like? What kind of
00:15:30
activities are you doing? What are you
00:15:31
eating? What are you drinking? How are
00:15:33
you spending your time? So, it's
00:15:35
answering all those important, you know,
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who, what, when, where, why, and how
00:15:38
questions to build yourself an ideal
00:15:41
day, soup to nuts of the entire schedule
00:15:44
from your morning coffee to your
00:15:45
bedtime, including as much detail as you
00:15:48
can possibly muster, sights and smells
00:15:50
and people and activity, your dog, this
00:15:53
walk, whatever it may be, playing this
00:15:55
instrument, going to see this concert,
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going to play pickup basketball,
00:15:58
whatever it may be. Every single thing,
00:15:59
as much detail as possible. And the
00:16:01
whole idea is that we want to move the
00:16:03
idea of retirement from vague to vivid.
00:16:06
We want as much vivid detail as we
00:16:08
possibly can. And the idea is once you
00:16:10
can see that vivid image of your ideal
00:16:12
day, you will be more motivated to build
00:16:14
it. You will start to go through piece
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by piece. And I I recommend writing this
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down because it is the kind of thing
00:16:19
where for at least maybe it's way my
00:16:20
brain works is I want to write it down
00:16:22
and I want to break it up into chunks
00:16:23
and I want to say well for this part of
00:16:25
my day, how do I build a life that gets
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me that? For that part of my day, how do
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I build a life that gets me there? You
00:16:29
know, going back to a couple other
00:16:31
previous questions, where do I need to
00:16:32
live to be able to execute this perfect
00:16:34
day? How healthy do I need to be to
00:16:36
execute this perfect day? What's the
00:16:38
financial component involved of
00:16:39
executing this perfect day? But again,
00:16:42
if we can go from vague images of
00:16:44
retirement to this vivid image of an
00:16:46
ideal day, you will be motivated to go
00:16:49
out and build it. The second cool
00:16:51
exercise is called the icky guy map. And
00:16:53
now icky guy, it's one of those things
00:16:55
where if you've heard of it, I feel like
00:16:56
you probably think it's way overused. If
00:16:58
you haven't heard of it, okay, I'll
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define it for you. It's a Japanese word
00:17:01
loosely translates to reason for being.
00:17:04
And it's often shown and drawn using
00:17:07
these four overlapping circles in a ven
00:17:09
diagram. And the four overlapping
00:17:11
circles are labeled what I love, what
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I'm good at, what the world needs, and
00:17:16
what I can be useful for. Again, this
00:17:18
what I love, what I'm good at, what the
00:17:21
world needs, and what I can be useful
00:17:23
for. And the goal of this exercise is to
00:17:25
try to align your retirement activities
00:17:28
with some sort of deeper sense of
00:17:30
purpose and fulfillment. Again, what I
00:17:32
would do is I would take a 8 by11 sheet
00:17:34
of paper. I would make these four
00:17:35
circles, make this ven diagram. Or you
00:17:37
can just Google it. You can Google the
00:17:38
word icky guy and find this ven diagram
00:17:41
in about 2 seconds. And then start
00:17:42
filling in each circle. And especially
00:17:44
think about the intersections, right?
00:17:46
Think about that intersection in the
00:17:47
middle. Are there activities that you
00:17:49
love and you're good at, but also that
00:17:51
the world needs and that you can be
00:17:52
useful for? Now, that last one, what I
00:17:54
can be useful for, I will say I think
00:17:56
there are versions of this icky guy map
00:17:58
where they say what you can be paid for.
00:17:59
I mean, now that you're retired, you
00:18:00
probably don't need to be paid for it,
00:18:02
but it is the kind of thing where it's
00:18:03
hopefully someone else in the world
00:18:05
appreciates the fact that you're doing
00:18:06
it. And depending on which circles are
00:18:09
overlapping with water, I really I guess
00:18:10
the way I should say it is depending on
00:18:12
where your activities fall in this ven
00:18:14
diagram, you'll see, you know, the
00:18:15
combination of what you're good at and
00:18:17
what you love is a passion. The
00:18:19
combination of what you love and what
00:18:21
the world needs, well, that might be a
00:18:22
mission. The combination of say what
00:18:24
you're good at and what you can be paid
00:18:25
for or what what you can be useful for,
00:18:27
that might just be a profession or
00:18:28
something like that. But if all four of
00:18:31
these things get fulfilled at once, that
00:18:32
would be your icky guy as they say. And
00:18:35
that's something to really focus on
00:18:36
because we want to think beyond just
00:18:38
keeping busy and we definitely want to
00:18:39
move toward feeling useful and feeling
00:18:41
alive. And then the last exercise of
00:18:44
these three exercises is the rocking
00:18:46
chair test. And the goal here is to
00:18:47
clarify what really matters in the long
00:18:49
run. And I always find these things
00:18:51
challenging. I'm I'm curious if you guys
00:18:52
find them easier where someone says, you
00:18:54
know, picture yourself in 20 years.
00:18:56
Picture yourself in 30 years. But that
00:18:57
is the nature of this exercise is to
00:18:59
picture yourself 20 or 30 years from now
00:19:01
sitting down on your porch in your
00:19:02
favorite chair looking back on your
00:19:04
retirement or again if you're not
00:19:06
retired yet again it's picture yourself
00:19:08
at age 80 or age 85 looking backward on
00:19:11
what your retirement has been and what
00:19:13
do you want to be proud of if you're
00:19:15
sitting in that chair 30 years from now
00:19:17
what do you want to be proud of what do
00:19:19
you want to have experienced what do you
00:19:21
want to have contributed or learned how
00:19:23
do you want to spend your time again so
00:19:25
this exercise works because it flips the
00:19:27
script from the short-term wants of
00:19:29
right now, of this week, of this month,
00:19:31
and it zooms out to longer term meaning.
00:19:33
It encourages intentionality, not just
00:19:35
activity. It reminds me of some of the
00:19:37
exercises we talked before with Doc G on
00:19:39
this podcast when it comes to some of
00:19:41
the lessons that he learned when people
00:19:43
are at end of life. Some of the lessons
00:19:44
when when people are right, they're in
00:19:46
hospice, they're on their deathbed, and
00:19:48
what are their biggest regrets or what
00:19:50
are the things that they cared most
00:19:51
about in life. And what you often find
00:19:53
is like it's basically a version of
00:19:55
don't sweat the small stuff and that
00:19:57
there are certain big factors in life
00:19:59
that matter a lot more. And so I think
00:20:01
if we use this rocking chair test and we
00:20:03
think about ourselves in 20 or 30 years
00:20:04
or we think about ourselves as this old
00:20:06
person sitting contentedly in their
00:20:08
rocking chair, what do you want to be
00:20:10
proud of in that moment or what do you
00:20:12
want to have experienced in that moment?
00:20:14
And that exercise, this rocking chair
00:20:16
test exercise, I think can help us shape
00:20:18
exactly what we want our vision and plan
00:20:20
for retirement to be. Here's a quick ad
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00:21:13
pivot a bit to the the last section of
00:21:14
the study where the authors Fritz and
00:21:16
Eric, they specifically call out the
00:21:18
biggest differences between the pre and
00:21:20
the postretirees. I think a huge part of
00:21:22
this section, a huge takeaway is
00:21:24
essentially is that people think
00:21:26
retirement is this particular way, but
00:21:28
it turns out that it's actually that
00:21:30
particular way. And having those
00:21:32
preconceived notions kind of turned on
00:21:34
their head is a really big takeaway that
00:21:36
we can all take from the study. Now, for
00:21:38
starters, the study found that
00:21:39
pre-retirees are less worried than
00:21:42
post-retirees about their health, about
00:21:44
family crises, about economic and
00:21:47
political turmoil. Instead, pre-retirees
00:21:49
are much more worried about outliving
00:21:51
their savings and rising health care
00:21:53
costs. The post-retirees aren't nearly
00:21:55
as worried about those things. So, in
00:21:57
other words, pre-retirees are worried
00:21:59
most about the financial aspect of
00:22:01
retirement. Post-retirees, those who
00:22:03
have actually walked the walk, those who
00:22:05
have actually been there and done that,
00:22:06
post-retirees are much more likely to
00:22:08
worry about the non-financial aspects of
00:22:10
retirement. I think that's a huge
00:22:12
takeaway. If you're a pre-retiree and
00:22:14
you're really worried about your
00:22:15
finances, I mean, listen, get those
00:22:17
finances in order. That's kind of why
00:22:18
we're here in the first place. That's a
00:22:19
big thing that we talk about here. But
00:22:21
you also have to realize that most of
00:22:23
the people who have walked this path
00:22:24
before you, maybe they were worried
00:22:26
about finances too when they were your
00:22:28
age. But now that they're actually in
00:22:29
retirement, they are much more likely to
00:22:31
worry about non-financial aspects of
00:22:33
retirement. Okay. Hey, I want to hone in
00:22:35
on the work and career section of this
00:22:38
part of the study because when it comes
00:22:40
to your workplace, most pre-retirees
00:22:42
still working, when they think about
00:22:44
retirement, they don't feel like they're
00:22:46
going to be very concerned about their
00:22:48
social interactions from work and the
00:22:50
fact that they really won't have those
00:22:51
anymore in retirement. They're not
00:22:53
really concerned about the mental
00:22:54
stimulation they get from work and the
00:22:56
fact that that might disappear in
00:22:57
retirement. And they're not really
00:22:58
concerned about the sense of identity
00:23:00
that they get from their career and
00:23:02
their from their work. they figure out,
00:23:03
you know, they think something's going
00:23:04
to replace that once they get to
00:23:06
retirement. But most
00:23:09
postretirees reported all three of those
00:23:11
concerns much more severely. In other
00:23:14
words, it's not until your career ends
00:23:16
and you actually retire that you realize
00:23:18
how much you will miss your social
00:23:20
interactions at work. That's when you'll
00:23:22
realize how much you'll miss the mental
00:23:24
stimulation of work. And retirement is
00:23:26
also when you'll realize that you've
00:23:28
lost your sense of identity or some
00:23:30
sense of identity that you had tied to
00:23:32
being a professional. In other words,
00:23:34
there's a decent chance that many of you
00:23:36
listening right now might think to
00:23:38
yourself, eh, I'll be good without work.
00:23:40
I'll replace the social interactions. I
00:23:42
don't need work to define my identity.
00:23:43
And some of you might be right. But many
00:23:45
of you will end up being wrong. So my
00:23:48
takeaway is to not underestimate those
00:23:50
things. The social interactions you get
00:23:51
from work are huge and most likely
00:23:53
you'll need to replace them in some way
00:23:55
in retirement. The mental stimulation
00:23:57
you get from work, right? It's 40 hours
00:23:59
plus every single week. You'll need to
00:24:01
replace that somehow in retirement. And
00:24:03
then the sense of identity that we get
00:24:04
from work. A lot of people out there are
00:24:06
proud to have been an engineer, a
00:24:08
teacher, a firefighter. I get great
00:24:10
sense of identity from sitting here
00:24:12
thinking to myself, I'm a financial
00:24:13
planner. I write a blog. I produce a
00:24:15
podcast. I like that as part of my sense
00:24:17
of identity. And for that just to
00:24:19
disappear overnight, I'm probably gonna
00:24:21
need to replace it somehow. I mean, I
00:24:23
can't even really picture that myself.
00:24:25
So anyway, that's something huge and and
00:24:27
it's again a big lesson that we can take
00:24:29
away where the pre-retireye assumptions
00:24:31
do not line up well with the reality of
00:24:34
retirement. But perhaps there's no
00:24:36
better overall takeaway than this final
00:24:38
question that I'll review today. The
00:24:40
question posed in the study is the
00:24:43
transition to retirement was or will be
00:24:45
smooth. So again the question is the
00:24:47
transition to retirement either was or
00:24:50
will be smooth. 75% of the pre-retirees
00:24:53
still working they responded in a
00:24:55
positive manner to this question and 20%
00:24:57
responded in a neutral manner. Only 5%
00:25:00
of the people still working believed
00:25:02
that their transition to retirement
00:25:04
would not be smooth and responded in a
00:25:06
negative manner. But for the
00:25:08
postretirees about half respond
00:25:10
positively 25% respond negatively and
00:25:13
25% respond in a neutral manner. So, my
00:25:15
simple takeaway is that many people
00:25:17
assume their transition to retirement
00:25:19
will be smooth and they end up being
00:25:21
wrong. I suppose this entire podcast
00:25:24
episode can be boiled down into that.
00:25:26
Many people assume their transition to
00:25:28
retirement will be smooth and they end
00:25:30
up being wrong. So, my my advice to you
00:25:32
is to do your best and to do what you
00:25:34
can to make sure that that is not you.
00:25:36
We want a smooth transition into
00:25:38
retirement. I think one of the most
00:25:40
powerful things we can do, especially as
00:25:41
planners, as DIYers, as people who care
00:25:44
about our own future financial plan, our
00:25:46
own retirement, is to listen. If we
00:25:48
really try to hear from folks who have
00:25:50
already crossed that retirement
00:25:51
threshold, what will they tell us? It's
00:25:53
very often different, as we've seen
00:25:55
today, it's different from what we would
00:25:56
expect as pre-retirees. It's different
00:25:58
from what we might assume as
00:26:00
pre-retirees. Before retirement, we
00:26:02
imagine freedom and flexibility. No more
00:26:04
meetings, no more alarm clocks. That's a
00:26:06
nice one. And hey, some of that is true.
00:26:08
But the retirees that I talk to at work,
00:26:11
the retirees in this study, they share
00:26:13
something deeper, something more honest.
00:26:14
They say, "You know what? I
00:26:16
underestimated how much of my identity
00:26:17
came from work. I didn't realize how
00:26:19
quickly I'd have a reason to get up in
00:26:21
the morning. No one warned me how lonely
00:26:23
this could feel over and over again. I
00:26:25
wish I had taken my health more
00:26:26
seriously and earlier in my life because
00:26:29
it's not just about the time when you
00:26:30
retire. It's not just about the money.
00:26:32
It's about having the energy, the
00:26:33
vitality to enjoy the life that you
00:26:35
built. Social connections too, right?
00:26:37
They fade faster than we expect. The
00:26:39
casual relationships of the office,
00:26:41
maybe it's the banter, the camaraderie,
00:26:43
they matter more than we give them
00:26:44
credit for. Without a plan to replace
00:26:46
those relationships, retirement can feel
00:26:48
and often does feel surprisingly
00:26:50
isolating. So, the takeaway is not just
00:26:52
to prepare your portfolio or your tax
00:26:55
planning, but to prepare your life, to
00:26:57
craft a vision, to build good habits, to
00:26:59
nurture friendships, to prioritize your
00:27:01
body and your brain. Because the people
00:27:03
who tend to thrive in retirement, they
00:27:05
aren't just lucky. It didn't just
00:27:06
happen. They're intentional about it.
00:27:09
They didn't just retire from something,
00:27:11
their career. They retired to something.
00:27:14
And that makes all the difference. So,
00:27:16
thank you again to Fritz Gilbert and
00:27:17
Eric Wigel and the couple thousand
00:27:19
people in their audiences who
00:27:21
participated in the study. Listeners, if
00:27:23
you want to go check out that study for
00:27:24
yourself, we are going to throw a link
00:27:25
for you in the show notes. Thank you
00:27:27
again for listening and we will talk to
00:27:29
you next episode. Thanks for tuning in
00:27:31
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00:27:33
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00:27:35
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00:27:37
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00:27:43
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Episode Highlights

  • The Importance of Knowledge
    Investing in knowledge yields the best returns, both financially and personally.
    “An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”
    @ 00m 04s
    May 07, 2025
  • Understanding Retirement Perspectives
    A survey reveals insights from 1,700 individuals about their retirement expectations and concerns.
    @ 00m 28s
    May 07, 2025
  • Navigating Social Connections in Retirement
    25% of retirees long for deeper social connections, highlighting the need for routine social habits.
    @ 06m 53s
    May 07, 2025
  • Health and Retirement
    Maintaining health is crucial for enjoying retirement; it requires intentional effort throughout life.
    “Take care of yourself now so that your future self can live life to the fullest.”
    @ 13m 17s
    May 07, 2025
  • Visualizing Your Ideal Day
    Transform vague retirement dreams into a vivid, detailed ideal day to boost motivation.
    “We want as much vivid detail as we possibly can.”
    @ 16m 08s
    May 07, 2025
  • The Icky Guy Map
    Align retirement activities with purpose using the Icky Guy map's four circles.
    “It’s a Japanese word loosely translates to reason for being.”
    @ 17m 01s
    May 07, 2025
  • The Rocking Chair Test
    Imagine your future self reflecting on retirement to clarify what truly matters.
    “What do you want to be proud of in that moment?”
    @ 19m 19s
    May 07, 2025
  • Pre-retiree vs. Post-retiree Concerns
    Pre-retirees worry about finances; post-retirees focus on non-financial aspects of life.
    “Post-retirees are much more likely to worry about the non-financial aspects of retirement.”
    @ 22m 06s
    May 07, 2025
  • Intentionality in Retirement
    Thriving in retirement requires intentional planning beyond finances and crafting a vision.
    “The people who tend to thrive in retirement, they’re intentional about it.”
    @ 27m 05s
    May 07, 2025

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Key Moments

  • Investment in Knowledge00:04
  • Retirement Perspectives00:28
  • Social Connections06:53
  • Health Maintenance13:17
  • Vivid Retirement16:01
  • Rocking Chair Test18:46
  • Pre vs Post-retiree21:38
  • Intentional Living27:03

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