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Military Money Lessons That Civilians Can't Afford to Miss | Spencer Reese - E117

October 01, 2025 / 01:05:37

This episode of Personal Finance for Long-Term Investors covers retirement planning, financial independence for military veterans, and the importance of adapting to life transitions. Host Jesse Kramer is joined by Spencer Ree, an Air Force veteran and financial educator, who shares insights on managing finances during and after military service.

Jesse discusses the constant changes in retirement, emphasizing that retirement is not a fixed point but an evolving journey. He highlights the importance of understanding your future income sources, managing healthcare costs, and developing a tax-efficient strategy.

Spencer shares his experiences transitioning from military to civilian life, discussing unique financial challenges faced by service members. He emphasizes the significance of communication in financial planning, especially for couples, and the need for military families to utilize available resources for financial education.

The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of retirement, including finding purpose and meaning after leaving the military. Jesse and Spencer encourage listeners to prepare for these transitions by setting up systems and seeking support.

Listeners are invited to explore Spencer's work at Military Money Manual and Jesse's blog, Best Interest, for more resources on personal finance and retirement planning.

TL;DR

Jesse and Spencer discuss retirement planning, military financial challenges, and adapting to life transitions post-service.

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Welcome to personal finance for
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simple terms. Now, here's your host,
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Jesse Kramer. Welcome to Personal
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Finance for Long-Term Investors, episode
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117. I'm Jesse Kramer. By day, I work at
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a fiduciary wealth management firm
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helping clients nationwide. You can
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learn more at bestinterest.blog.
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blog/work. The link is in the show
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notes. And by night, I write the best
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interest blog and I host this podcast. I
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help busy professionals and retirees
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avoid mistakes and grow their wealth by
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simplifying their investing, their
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taxes, and their retirement. Later
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today, I'll be joined by Spencer Ree.
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Spencer is an Air Force veteran who
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reached financial independence and now
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shares advice mainly for other military
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vets. But it is really interesting how
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retiring from the military shares so
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much in common with a more traditional
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9-to-five retirement, especially when it
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comes to some of the non-financial
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aspects of life transitions. You know,
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life transitions like retirement can be
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so much harder than they appear on the
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outside. And we made sure, Spencer and I
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made sure that even if you're not a
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military service member or a veteran,
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you're still going to find a lot of
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value in Spencer's story and in some of
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his lessons learned. But first, we have
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a review of the week. This one is from
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uh Hemo Mojo Filter who said,
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"Meaningful content delivered concisely.
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Jesse is one of my favorite content
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creators in the personal finance space.
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His style is matterof-act and
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straightforward, and he explains complex
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financial concepts in easy to understand
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language. Jesse helps build confidence
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through improving financial literacy,
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and he focuses on data and facts, not
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personal opinions." Well, Mojo, thank
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you for the kind words, and I'll be
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happy to send you a Supersoft podcast
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t-shirt. Just drop me an email to
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And listeners, if you have a question, a
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concern, or feedback that I can answer,
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especially for a future ask me anything
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AMA episode, you can send those
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questions to my email,
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Before we get to Spencer today, I want
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to share two bigger thoughts with you.
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The first one is about the only constant
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in retirement, and the second one is
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about something that I'm calling the
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retirees financial decathlon. Your only
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retirement constant will be change. It's
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like that Pete Seager song or the bird
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song, you know, to everything there's a
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season. Turn, turn, turn. A time to
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weep, a time to laugh, a time to mourn,
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and a time to dance.
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>> Some of us retire at 70, others retire
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at 40. But no matter your retirement
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age, your retirement will change over
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time. It evolves. It's not just a point
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in time. It's not just one age. It's
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decades long and it's going to change.
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At times, it's literally seasonal. I
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think of my parents. My parents love to
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garden. So spring through late summer,
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it's their number one retirement pastime
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is out in the gardens. But their daily
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schedule undergoes a change, a big
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change in winter. You know, turn turn
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like the bird said. Now, what else
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changes? Well, you get older pretty
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obviously. I was speaking to a client
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recently about the go- go, the slowgo,
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and the no-go phases of a typical
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retirement. They took a trip to Europe
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together. And after they got back in
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Italy, I think they were on their feet
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for 5 or 6 hours a day, putting in 6, 8,
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10 miles of walking a day. And they felt
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a little less go- go and a little more
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slowgo than before. And that trip kind
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of brought it into focus. Uh, what else
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changes? Well, everyone else gets older,
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too. I think this is a really
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interesting one. You know, your
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grandkids, I I've seen this in my own
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life with my parents and their
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grandchildren. My my daughter are my
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nieces and nephews. The grandkids go
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from diapers to kindergarten and next
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thing you know, they're kind of too cool
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for you and then they're off to college
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and beyond. All in the span of your
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retirement. Your own children are
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probably going to go from young
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professionals to married with kids and
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eventually they'll become empty nesters.
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All within your retirement. So these
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people, these other people in your life,
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they are changing too. Your health
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rhythms will change. Even if you start
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retirement feeling great, your body
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changes. A bum knee will alter those
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daily walks will alter those golf
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habits. A doctor's order will shift your
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diet or exercise. For some retirees, the
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biggest health change is simply more
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doctor's appointments in the first
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place, filling your calendar.
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Friendships and social circles will
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change. Friends will move away, chasing
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their grandkids. Other friends are going
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to pass away. Other people might
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actually surprise you and get closer.
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Your people will change over time. And
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with that comes new rhythms of
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connection or loneliness, especially if
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you don't adapt. From the Stacking
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Benjamin show, Joe Saul Seigh frequently
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shares a story about his friend whose
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main goal was to retire to the
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mountains, which I think a lot of us can
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relate to. The mountains are beautiful.
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I'm going to retire to the mountains.
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So, he had decades of hard work, years
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of planning, and he made it happen. He
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retired to a beautiful home in the
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remote mountains. And then within months
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of doing so, he realized he had
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completely isolated himself, physically
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isolated himself from all his previous
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social circles. And he couldn't wait to
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undo his choice of moving to the
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mountains and move back to civilization.
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So that's a pretty interesting uh
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anecdote. Finances and markets change,
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too. You know, the 4% rule, it's only a
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guidepost. Your retirement withdrawal
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strategy will change over time. It has
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to. It has to be dynamic. Markets don't
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move in a straight line. Inflation, tax
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laws change, even just your own spending
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patterns will shift and will change how
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you approach your money. Your community
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and environment will change, too. Your
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neighborhood, your town, your city will
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change. A coffee shop closes, a new park
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opens, neighbors will come and go. Or
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maybe you move yourself, downsizing,
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moving closer to family, chasing warmer
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winters, becoming a snowbird. Our
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neighbors moved just last month. They're
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probably 70 years old and they they're
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still in our town, but they just wanted
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to downsize out of the family home where
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they raised their kids, you know, the
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2500 foot home into a smaller 1,300 ft²
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onele ranch style home. Very common. And
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then what's kind of funny, the new
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neighbors who moved in after them are
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also retirees. They're also about 70
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years old. They're moving 6 hours north
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from New Jersey. Why? well, to chase
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after three of their adult kids who
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happen to settle in greater Rochester
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and their multiple grandkids, all of
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whom are close by. So anyway, different
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reasons for moving all for retirees in
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this particular case. Uh your energy,
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your priorities will change. Your
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mileage may vary. At 60, you'll be up
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for adventure. At 70, a slower routine
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starts to feel better. And at 80, you're
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only focusing on simplicity. You know,
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again, your mileage may vary on that.
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But the point is, the things that you
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want from retirement will evolve, and
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that's not a bad thing. the the juice
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you squeeze from daily life will also eb
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and flow and it will it'll eb more than
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flow as time goes on. Technology
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certainly changes. I know it sounds like
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a small thing, but it's pretty huge and
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it's probably bigger than it's ever been
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before. I mean, just look at this
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example. How long do you want your
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retirement to be? I think would a fair
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number fall between 20 years and 40
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years. Let's use that range. The
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worldwide web is 35 years old. Wi-Fi is
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25 years old. It became commonplace, at
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least here in the USA, starting about 20
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years ago. iPhones are 18 years old.
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Simple stuff like GPS, maps, FaceTime,
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video calls, streaming TV shows, even
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text message. These weren't like
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proliferated, ubiquitous, popular
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technologies until the last 10 to 15
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years. So technology will keep changing
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by leaps and bounds all within the time
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frame of your single retirement. So
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adapting to that technology can either
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expand or limit your personal world.
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Purpose and meaning can change a lot too
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for retirees. Some retirees discover
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purpose in volunteering, in mentoring,
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in a faith community. Others lose steam
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after the honeymoon period of their
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retirement, and they need to reinvent
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some way to find fulfillment. And again,
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20 or 30 or 40 years is a really long
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time. That fulfillment cycle can turn
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and turn and turn over and again. We all
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know people who have reinvented
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themselves throughout their 20s and 30s
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and 40s. And I don't think that ceases
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just because we're in our 50s and 60s
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and beyond. It might slow down for some
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people, but it speeds up for others. It
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rarely halts altogether. So no matter
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your age, no matter your retirement
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plans, I believe the only constant in
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retirement will be change. And now for
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this other idea I alluded to before, the
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retirees financial decathlon. While that
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first little stanza, the first little
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topic focused more on the softer side of
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retirement. This is going to focus on
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some of the nuts and bolts finances of
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retirement. If you're not familiar with
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Peter Aia, that's how I'm going to start
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this little uh story. Peter Tia is a
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doctor, a scientist, an author, an
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all-around health advocate. And he came
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up with this concept that he calls the
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centinarian decathlon. And it's a
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framework that asks, "What 10 physical
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tasks do I want to be able to do at age
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100?" Centinarian 100. So very lofty.
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What 10 things do I want to be able to
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do at age 100? And from there, Peter Aia
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works backward identifying the strength
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and mobility and endurance that we need
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today at our current age in order for us
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to kind of age gracefully into those
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goals in the future at age 100. So this
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decathlon, it reframes fitness as
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preparation for longevity and for
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independence, not necessarily for pure
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performance or aesthetics. The idea is
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is kind of simple. We train today for
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the functional life that we want decades
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from now. And my thought was, well, can
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we do the same thing for retirement,
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retirement finances? What are the 10
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most important aspects of a financially
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sound retirement? And how do we start
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preparing for that future today? So, the
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10 items in my retiree decathlon. What
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matters in retirement? It's crucial to
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focus on yes, family, lifestyle,
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purpose, all those other soft aspects of
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retirement. If you haven't listened to
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episode 106 of this podcast that it's a
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really good one to listen to that
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focuses heavily on that side of
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retirement. In fact, most postretirees
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actually end up realizing that the soft
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stuff of retirement is much more
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important than the financial nuts and
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bolts. But nevertheless, I'm going to
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focus on the finances for today for this
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retirey decathlon. The 10 nuts and bolts
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tasks that we should start today and
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work on throughout retirement. The first
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one is to understand your future
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paycheck or you know in quotes paycheck.
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Your cash inflow during your career is
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really easy to understand. It's mostly
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your paycheck. It's really simple. But
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obviously there's a significant change
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in retirement. No more paycheck. All
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pre-retirees need to understand where
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their future retirement paycheck will be
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coming from. Some people assume it's
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100% from social security. Other people
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assume it'll come 100% from their 401k
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savings. The truth is usually more
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nuanced. Your retirement paycheck will
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likely have multiple sources. It will
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change over time. It'll be unique to
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you. It should be optimized for your
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lifestyle, for your long-term
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sustainability, for tax minimization,
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other things like that. And even if
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you're years away from pulling the
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retirement trigger, it's not too early
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to consider uh where your retirement
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paycheck will come from. On that note,
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if you're interested, I wrote a a free
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PDF white paper. It's called the
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step-by-step guide to building your
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retirement paycheck. And if you sign up
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for my email list, you can get a free
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copy of that PDF sent straight to your
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inbox. You can sign up at
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bestinterest.blog at the homepage or you
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can follow the link in the show notes to
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this uh article, the retirees financial
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tool. And there are multiple places in
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the article where you can sign up. You
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can download your free copy of the
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step-by-step guide to building your
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retirement paycheck. But now on to event
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number two of our decathlon. Allocate
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and build your portfolio. It's fine
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advice to say just save more money, but
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we all need to dig a little bit deeper.
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How much should we save? How do we
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allocate those dollars into different
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asset classes, stocks, bonds, etc. And
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then why do we make those allocation
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decisions? Uh what assumptions should we
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make for future returns on investment?
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Like how will our money grow? And then
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how do those allocation and growth
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assumptions change over time? Your
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portfolio will be a significant part of
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your retirement lifestyle, your
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retirement finances. It might be the
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only part of your retirement paycheck
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for a few years if you plan on retiring
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early, right? You won't be able to turn
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on social security yet. So, your
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portfolio is going to be the only
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probably one of the only inputs into
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your retirement paycheck. So, we need to
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focus on the allocation and and the
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structure of our portfolio. Event number
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three in this decathlon is to understand
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your social security strategy. On its
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face, you have to decide when and how to
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claim social security for a maximum
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lifetime benefit. But yes, it's more
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nuanced than that. So, I suggest asking
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a lot of different questions. Uh, I
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wrote an article I'll link in the show
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notes. It's called when should I take
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social security? And I suggest asking
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questions like, uh, what's your family
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health history? Should you delay social
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security in order to make it into more
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of a longevity insurance for your plan?
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Do you plan on part-time work during
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retirement? How might spousal benefits
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and/or survivor benefits impact your
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family and your specific social security
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strategy? How how risky, how threatening
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is the sequence of returns risk for you
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and will early social security claiming
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actually alleviate that risk? Maybe just
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one of the basic ones, one of the more
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basic ones is is social security like
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this fundamental pillar of your
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retirement or if it disappeared, do you
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have enough money saved up that you you
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don't really need social security in the
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first place? It's not that important.
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All those kind of questions can help us
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provide more color in determining when
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you should take social security and what
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your family social security strategy
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needs to be. So that's the third event
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of this decathlon. The fourth event is
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to develop a taxefficient saving and
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draw down strategy. There is a generally
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accepted retirement withdrawal order of
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operations to minimize retirement
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taxation. Uh, if you're curious what
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that generally accepted order of
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operations is, I suggest reading the
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article that I linked in the show notes
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called your retirement withdrawal order
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of operations. But it begs the question,
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is there a taxefficient accumulation
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strategy? Yes, but involves forecasting
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some uncertain futures, especially
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around tax rates and investment returns,
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and then acting now on that limited
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information. That's why the best
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strategies are kind of a it's a dynamic
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year-by-year evaluation. It's a decision
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tree rooted in what we know now, but
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then branching out to evolve based on
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how today's facts might change. So, you
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should ask yourself these kind of
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questions every year. What's my income
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and what's my marginal tax rate this
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year? What tax advantage accounts are
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available to me this year? What does my
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current tax diversification look like?
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Meaning, do I have monies in traditional
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pre-tax buckets, in Roth post tax
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buckets, and in in taxable buckets? So,
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that's that tax diversification. what do
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I expect future tax rates to be for me
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personally based on my income future
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income but also for the broader tax
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system and then last what non-ax
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considerations might impact these
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decisions things like liquidity
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simplicity employer matching getting an
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inheritance etc so all of those play
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into developing a taxefficient saving
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and a tax efficient draw down strategy
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the fifth event in this decathlon is to
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plan for healthcare costs in episode 108
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of personal finance for long-term
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investors I answered a listener's AMA
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question by diving deep into health care
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costs before, during, and then after
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retirement, I mean, you know, Medicare,
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kind of the long-term play of retirement
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healthcare, because yes, retirement
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healthcare can be a scary proposition.
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But I would urge you to consider this.
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Millions of people have walked this
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retirement path before you, and their
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lessons, good, bad, or ugly lessons are
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out there for you to learn from. More
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specifically, we do know, you know, it's
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been figured out how health care costs
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fit into a broader retirement financial
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plan. That information is readily
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available. So, the the work that remains
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for you is to consider how you'll tackle
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that question in your specific life. The
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answers are out there. We just need to
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put in the work to consider how they
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apply to our lives. Event number six in
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the decathlon is to make an estate plan.
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And I'd ask you is preparing for
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retirement and preparing for death. Are
00:15:38
those two separate tasks? Ultimately, I
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see them both as thinking ahead and
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doing so quite prudently. So, as you
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age, as your family grows, as your
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balance sheet becomes more complicated,
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it becomes increasingly essential to
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review and revise your estate plan. Are
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your loved ones protected from the
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vicissitudes of fate? Who will receive
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assets upon your death and in what
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amounts and with what stipulations? Are
00:16:01
those gifts tax optimized? those kind of
00:16:03
questions. Do your loved ones know about
00:16:05
your plans? Have you communicated with
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them? And if not, why not? All those
00:16:09
questions are really important and I I
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can't uh emphasize enough the importance
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of making and editing, reviewing, and
00:16:16
revising your estate plan. Event number
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seven is to change or alter your
00:16:21
portfolio over time. So again, one of my
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foundational financial planning and
00:16:25
investment management principles is to
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think about goals first and then
00:16:29
timelines to those goals and then the
00:16:31
appropriate risk for those timelines and
00:16:33
then the appropriate assets based on
00:16:35
that risk level. So what are the goals
00:16:36
for your money? What are your preferred
00:16:38
or required timelines to reach those
00:16:40
goals? How much risk can you afford to
00:16:43
take across those timelines? And then
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what assets can you invest in based on
00:16:47
that amount of risk? As you age, your
00:16:50
goals might change. Your timelines will
00:16:52
undoubtedly change. I mean, time is
00:16:53
going by. It's the only constant, right?
00:16:55
And your portfolio should adjust in
00:16:57
concert with those facts. Surprisingly,
00:16:59
you might even reach a point where your
00:17:01
timelines are no longer actually your
00:17:03
timelines. Instead, you'll invest based
00:17:05
on your estate plan, based on the
00:17:07
timelines of your descendants, of your
00:17:08
heirs, or of charities that you plan on
00:17:10
bequesting money to. It's not uncommon
00:17:12
to see a person's uh recommended risk
00:17:14
start high in their younger years, glide
00:17:17
lower into retirement, but then
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eventually increase again toward the end
00:17:20
of their life. Event number eight is to
00:17:23
stress test your plan. Will your
00:17:25
financial plan survive market
00:17:27
volatility, inflation, longevity, or the
00:17:29
other curveballs that life can throw
00:17:31
your way. It's worth asking those kind
00:17:33
of whatif questions. There are various
00:17:35
software packages and various
00:17:37
professional experts who can help you
00:17:38
stress test your plan. Event number nine
00:17:41
is to consolidate and simplify. What's
00:17:43
the point of compounding wealth if it
00:17:45
also comes with compounding stress? Most
00:17:47
retirees see a big psychic benefit from
00:17:50
simplifying their financial lives. It's
00:17:51
a bit like cleaning your house. Now,
00:17:53
what's the best way to do it? Probably
00:17:55
by keeping it clean in the first place.
00:17:57
But if you've come to the point where
00:17:58
your uh financial plan, your retirement
00:18:00
plan, your financial picture is a little
00:18:02
bit out of control, there are many ways
00:18:04
to consolidate, simplify, and just end
00:18:06
up with a uh a less stressful, a more
00:18:08
simple plan going forward. And then
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event number 10 of our decathlon, it's a
00:18:13
one-word event. I'll pause and let you
00:18:15
take a little guess at what this one
00:18:17
word is. The word is spend. The last
00:18:21
event on the retirey decathlon is to
00:18:23
spend your money. Spending and saving
00:18:25
are these two separate muscles. And too
00:18:27
often a frugal retiree will enter their
00:18:30
golden years with a a massive savings
00:18:32
muscle, but with atrophied spending
00:18:34
muscles. So an important thing to do
00:18:37
even before retirement is to start
00:18:39
flexing, start exercising your spending
00:18:41
muscle. If you feel like a habitual
00:18:43
saver, if spending money gives you
00:18:45
anxiety, if your only pair of pants is
00:18:48
17 years old and fraying at the seams,
00:18:50
spend. Start now. You don't have to go
00:18:52
crazy, but you shouldn't wait until
00:18:54
retirement. You can go out and buy a new
00:18:57
pair of pants. So, thank you for
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listening to that retirees financial
00:19:01
decathlon. I hope it was interesting and
00:19:03
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separated from the US Air Force in 2022
00:20:16
after 12 years of active duty. And he
00:20:19
helps military service members mainly
00:20:21
and their families through his book, his
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podcast, his course and website, which
00:20:25
all fall under the the branding umbrella
00:20:27
of the military money manual. So if you
00:20:30
hear us stay military money manual, that
00:20:32
is really Spencer's brand. His book, his
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podcast, his course, and his website all
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fall under that brand. And again, all
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those media channels are dedicated to
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enriching military families, helping
00:20:41
them reach financial independence as
00:20:43
quickly as possible. I know most my
00:20:45
audience, you're probably not in the
00:20:47
military. You're not a military veteran.
00:20:48
There are so many parallels, especially
00:20:51
when it comes to the life transitions,
00:20:52
and you'll hear Spencer and I dig into
00:20:54
that today. So, without further ado,
00:20:55
here is Spencer Ree from the Military
00:20:57
Money Manual.
00:21:00
[Music]
00:21:04
>> Spencer, I'm glad we're able to do this,
00:21:05
man. and and something that I was
00:21:07
thinking about one one potential place
00:21:08
to start this conversation is that you
00:21:10
know my listeners are used to me hearing
00:21:12
hearing me say that financial planning
00:21:14
is a function of specifics right it's
00:21:16
your life your family your income
00:21:18
whatever is unique and specific to you
00:21:20
but to that end I'm thinking about your
00:21:23
expertise and the world that you're
00:21:24
coming from some of the military world
00:21:26
where there are some like it's kind of
00:21:29
funny to think about as like unique
00:21:30
generalities so it's like a generality
00:21:33
to military service members but it's
00:21:35
this very unique thing that separates
00:21:37
military service members and their
00:21:39
finances from say the civilians, the
00:21:41
general populace. So, at some point, and
00:21:43
maybe we can do it right off the start,
00:21:44
I mean, what are some stories that you
00:21:46
have when it just comes to some of those
00:21:48
unique financial aspects of military
00:21:51
service? Is that is that too broad a
00:21:52
place to start?
00:21:53
>> No, that's a great place to start, I
00:21:54
think. Jesse, thanks for the softball uh
00:21:57
softball start there. We were talking
00:21:58
about this just before we hit record,
00:22:00
but there is a universality between
00:22:03
civilian money and military money. The
00:22:05
name of your podcast, you know,
00:22:06
long-term investing, and that's that's
00:22:08
what I've been talking about over at my
00:22:11
website and my podcast for years now,
00:22:13
but the vehicles that we use to do that
00:22:16
might be a little bit different. You
00:22:17
know, we might say TSP, thrift savings
00:22:19
plan, instead of 401k, but the basics of
00:22:22
it, the fundamentals of it are exactly
00:22:23
the same as a civilian 401k. But so what
00:22:26
are the big fundamental differences that
00:22:28
you'll see on the military side? Well,
00:22:29
one thing is that you might have on the
00:22:33
enlisted side, you might have lower
00:22:34
income for a longer period of time. So
00:22:37
that so you might have to adjust
00:22:40
basically your expectations if you're
00:22:42
going to stay enlisted for a full
00:22:44
20-year career, especially compared to
00:22:47
an officer in the same branch. You're
00:22:49
just going to be making a lot less
00:22:50
money. And probably towards the end of
00:22:52
your career, it might the difference
00:22:53
might be as much as half. you might be
00:22:55
only making 50% as an officer. So,
00:22:57
that's one thing there is just you have
00:22:59
to kind of cage your expectations of of
00:23:01
your income potential while you're on
00:23:02
the enlisted side. But that being said,
00:23:04
there's still tremendous opportunity to
00:23:07
live below your means and save and
00:23:09
invest and build wealth while you're on
00:23:13
active duty to set yourself up for a
00:23:17
very nice transition to the civilian
00:23:19
sector. I think the one of the other
00:23:20
things that that really comes up with
00:23:22
military service members is a lot of
00:23:24
times it's all they know, right? They
00:23:26
they join right out of high school,
00:23:27
right out of college. It's their first
00:23:29
and their only real adult job for maybe
00:23:32
just one enlistment, right? Two to four
00:23:34
years or maybe even longer. Like pilots
00:23:37
have a 10-year commitment and that
00:23:39
starts after the training's done. So now
00:23:41
you're at looking at 12 years and that's
00:23:43
after you graduate university. So,
00:23:45
you're in your mid30s before you ever
00:23:47
have an opportunity to really think
00:23:48
about what you're doing and what you
00:23:50
want to do next.
00:23:51
>> What kind of day-to-day stuff is covered
00:23:53
in the military, Spencer? I mean,
00:23:55
shelter, right? I mean, am I living in
00:23:56
the barracks and is that covered? Food.
00:23:58
Like, so for the enlisted, for the
00:24:00
officers, they might be getting maybe
00:24:03
lower pay than maybe some of their
00:24:04
corporate civilian counterparts. I don't
00:24:06
know. But then what parts of the
00:24:08
lifestyle are actually covered by the
00:24:10
government, by the military?
00:24:11
>> Yeah. So you're always going to have
00:24:12
your housing covered in some way. So if
00:24:15
you're provided government housing,
00:24:16
whether that's the barracks or housing
00:24:19
on base, you're going to have your
00:24:21
housing covered by the government. And
00:24:23
if there isn't housing available on base
00:24:25
or if you're high enough rank or you
00:24:28
have or you're married, this is that's
00:24:31
another interesting factor of military
00:24:33
service is especially on the younger
00:24:34
enlisted side, there's a big push to get
00:24:37
married because as soon as you get
00:24:38
married, you get to move out of the
00:24:39
barracks and you get to go live in your
00:24:42
own house and and live your own life. So
00:24:44
that creates this financial incentive
00:24:46
and your pay goes up too because you'll
00:24:49
start collecting BAH basic allowance for
00:24:52
housing with a dependent which is higher
00:24:54
than the basic allowance for housing
00:24:56
without a dependent. There's this
00:24:57
financial incentive to get married which
00:25:00
is probably much more intense than the
00:25:03
pressure a civilian might feel where you
00:25:06
might get a there's a tax advantage,
00:25:08
right? married filing jointly versus uh
00:25:10
single, but most people aren't really
00:25:12
thinking about the income tax
00:25:14
implications of of getting married.
00:25:16
Although listeners of our show, our two
00:25:19
shows might might be thinking about
00:25:20
that. So your your housing is always
00:25:22
covered. On the enlisted side, a lot of
00:25:24
times you have access to a chow hall or,
00:25:27
you know, some kind of food usually
00:25:28
discounted and you either get you know a
00:25:31
card, a meal card. Everybody receives a
00:25:34
basic allowance for sustenance, a BAS,
00:25:37
and that's only like a couple hundred
00:25:38
dollars a month though. But for, you
00:25:40
know, for most, this is another
00:25:42
interesting thing is even though
00:25:43
unlisted pay might be quite low compared
00:25:46
to their civilian counterparts, it can
00:25:49
be quite good to someone who comes in
00:25:52
with only a high school education.
00:25:55
And you get to learn a skill, you get to
00:25:58
learn a trade, and all that's paid for.
00:26:00
And then, oh, by the way, you're going
00:26:02
to get a GI bill as well. So now, if you
00:26:04
want to go to college, you can do that.
00:26:05
But you can also just go to college
00:26:06
while you're on active duty. There's a
00:26:08
thing called tuition assistance, and
00:26:10
that will pay for, the numbers change,
00:26:11
but let's say up to like $4,000 a year
00:26:13
of college tuition. So, so there's an
00:26:15
opportunity, there's a tremendous
00:26:16
opportunity to
00:26:19
essentially upskill yourself and make
00:26:21
yourself more valuable. And you can use
00:26:23
those skills while you're on active duty
00:26:26
or you can transition to the civilian
00:26:27
world eventually. you know, apply those
00:26:29
skills, especially, you know, if you're
00:26:31
in IT or any kind of computer connected
00:26:34
cyber field that you can get all your
00:26:37
certificates and then you can come out
00:26:38
and you can go, you know, walk straight
00:26:39
into Microsoft or Apple or any, you
00:26:42
know, any of Google, any of the big IT
00:26:44
companies in the world. They'll be glad
00:26:46
to have you because you're qualified and
00:26:48
you you've been doing it for real while
00:26:50
you've been on active duty. So, yeah.
00:26:52
Yeah. So, there's a lot of things that
00:26:53
the government covers and then there's a
00:26:54
lot of things that because like on the
00:26:57
enlisted side, what the classic mistake
00:27:00
that a lot of people make is they buy
00:27:01
too much car because they say, "Well,
00:27:03
I've got my I've got my housing covered.
00:27:06
I've got a I got a steady paycheck and I
00:27:08
want to go get the 2026 Camaro that's,
00:27:11
you know, $80,000 and it's right out the
00:27:13
lot and oh, the guy gave me a great
00:27:15
deal. 96-month loan only at, you know,
00:27:18
19% interest." And you're like, "Oh,
00:27:20
boy. You just paid $200,000 for an
00:27:23
$80,000 car.
00:27:25
>> No.
00:27:25
>> Uh yeah, you're in trouble. So that's
00:27:28
the interesting thing is but it happens
00:27:29
on the officer side too. You know, we
00:27:31
call it the lieutenant mobile where as
00:27:33
soon as people graduate the Air Force
00:27:35
Academy or any of the militarymies or or
00:27:37
RTC, they think, "Oh, I got to, you
00:27:39
know, an officer drives a nice car. I
00:27:41
got to go buy the BMW or I think right
00:27:44
now it's the um Toyota Tacoma. they're
00:27:46
just snapping them up and they there's
00:27:47
there goes another $80,000 on a vehicle
00:27:50
and it's like okay I mean if that's what
00:27:53
you want to do but can I interest you in
00:27:55
something that's a little bit cheaper
00:27:56
and you know explain to you the value of
00:27:58
compounding interest and all of a sudden
00:27:59
it's like as an officer like you could
00:28:01
easily be a millionaire in 10 years but
00:28:04
a lot of people don't they don't think
00:28:05
about that.
00:28:06
>> I mean it sounds like you're you're kind
00:28:07
of pointing it out but I I never really
00:28:08
thought about it before. There is such a
00:28:10
natural hierarchy of rank in the
00:28:12
military. I mean, is there some sort of
00:28:14
like keeping up with the lieutenants,
00:28:16
keeping up with the colonels? Like,
00:28:17
especially as you move up in the ranks,
00:28:19
you kind of start to look around. Do you
00:28:20
feel like you need to spend more money
00:28:22
to keep up with the equally ranked uh uh
00:28:24
officers?
00:28:25
>> It goes both ways. I think some people
00:28:29
see that as the game to play and they
00:28:32
keep, you know, up upskilling or or
00:28:34
upranking the the vehicle or, you know,
00:28:36
the kids go to the Monasuri school
00:28:38
instead of the the school on base. And,
00:28:40
you know, the lifestyle creep is real.
00:28:42
Whether it's because they're comparing
00:28:43
themselves to their peers. I mean, the
00:28:45
crazy thing is is it's the most
00:28:47
transparent organization in the world.
00:28:49
Everybody knows how much everybody is
00:28:51
paid. Now, if there's a civilian spouse,
00:28:54
right, you don't know how much they're
00:28:55
getting paid. But the the pay scale is
00:28:57
set by Congress and is publicly
00:28:59
available. So, you know how much you as
00:29:02
a captain is making, you know how much
00:29:03
your colonel boss is making. You know
00:29:05
how much the airman that's working for
00:29:06
you is making. And what I find is that
00:29:09
it usually splits around on the officer
00:29:12
side around the captain rank where you
00:29:14
have some people realize like this is a
00:29:17
stupid status game that I don't need to
00:29:19
play and I can play a different game.
00:29:21
And those are the people who become who
00:29:23
rank up and eventually they're colonels
00:29:25
who are driving the 20-year-old Honda
00:29:26
Civic and they're like, I I got nothing
00:29:29
to prove. like I get all my status and
00:29:31
recognition from from my job, right, and
00:29:33
from my rank or from what I do for the
00:29:35
organization and I don't need a Porsche
00:29:38
or a BMW 7 series to to show off. Like a
00:29:42
lot of times the cheapest, rattiest
00:29:44
looking car in the parking lot is the
00:29:45
Commander car.
00:29:47
>> Yeah.
00:29:47
>> They're just like, "This isn't a game I
00:29:48
want to play." But like I said, it does
00:29:50
split. And so you have some people who
00:29:52
say, "Okay, now I'm starting to make
00:29:53
it's about captain where you're starting
00:29:55
to make six figures as an officer over
00:29:57
$100,000 a year." And there are some
00:30:00
people who are like, "Okay, now I'm
00:30:01
making the real money and I can really
00:30:02
start upgrading my lifestyle."
00:30:05
And you know, it's crazy, but we've had
00:30:08
people, we've talked to people who have
00:30:09
listened to the podcast and they're
00:30:12
they've been in as officers for 10 years
00:30:15
or 15 years or almost even 20 years and
00:30:17
they're still living paycheck to
00:30:19
paycheck and you just want to like grab
00:30:20
them and be like, "What what are you
00:30:22
doing?" Like if they're not stressed
00:30:23
about it, okay, fine, whatever. But
00:30:25
they're always stressed about it, right?
00:30:26
Like there's there's never someone who's
00:30:28
living paycheck to paycheck that is
00:30:30
enjoying that situation when the car
00:30:32
repair bill comes in and you're like, I
00:30:34
have negative $10 in my checking
00:30:35
account. How am I supposed to pay for
00:30:37
this?
00:30:37
>> Where do you find in those cases? Where
00:30:38
is the money going? Cuz I mean, we
00:30:40
talked about the cars, but from the the
00:30:43
lay person right here, I am the the
00:30:45
ignorant lay person looking in. I think
00:30:47
to myself, well, most of the, you know,
00:30:49
if we think of the big three is
00:30:50
transportation, food, and housing. Well,
00:30:53
two of those three are covered or at
00:30:54
least covered in large part. So then I
00:30:57
mean is there just a lot of like
00:30:58
spending on toys for lack of a better
00:31:00
term or or where do you see that money
00:31:01
is usually going?
00:31:02
>> Yeah, toys, lifestyle, alcohol maybe.
00:31:06
Yeah,
00:31:06
>> vacations possibly um you know spending
00:31:09
on the kids or the family. But like you
00:31:11
said earlier, you know, with financial
00:31:13
planning it being a very individualized
00:31:14
sport, the reasons people get into
00:31:16
trouble is always individualized, right?
00:31:18
And most of the time it's just because
00:31:21
there's a lack of communication with the
00:31:23
spouse and or there's there's a lack of
00:31:25
vision for what I say spouse but it
00:31:28
could be a single person as well where
00:31:30
they just don't have a vision for their
00:31:31
life or they never had a role model.
00:31:33
Usually that's what it is. You know,
00:31:35
it's usually money was not a topic that
00:31:37
you talked about at home and then you
00:31:40
just you don't know any different and so
00:31:42
you just keep doing it. And people tend
00:31:44
to treat money as something that comes
00:31:47
and then something that goes and they
00:31:48
don't realize that all you need to do is
00:31:50
carve off 5 10 15% of that stream and
00:31:55
invest it in the long term and let
00:31:58
compounding interest go to work. And
00:32:00
nobody's ever sat down and and taught
00:32:02
them that. if you could. That's why I
00:32:04
started the podcast and started the
00:32:06
website and wrote the book was because I
00:32:08
wanted to be that resource of look like
00:32:12
here's what to do and also here's why
00:32:14
you do it
00:32:15
>> because I think a lot of times people
00:32:17
are like why, you know, why would I save
00:32:19
more than 5% on my TSP? It's only
00:32:20
matched up to 5%. you just want to like
00:32:23
you just want to show them and be like
00:32:25
look like living paycheck to paycheck is
00:32:27
painful and like not having money in the
00:32:30
bank means that you don't have options
00:32:32
and so when you have more options you
00:32:34
have more freedom in general you're
00:32:36
you're happier and if that's not the
00:32:39
game we're playing then that's fine we
00:32:40
can play a different game but for most
00:32:41
people I mean that's that's really what
00:32:43
they want right they want freedom they
00:32:44
want choices they want happiness
00:32:45
>> and so do their spouses and thinking
00:32:47
back you you mentioned something in that
00:32:48
answer Spencer about about communication
00:32:50
with spouses and and And again, forgive
00:32:52
my lack of nomenclature, but whether
00:32:54
it's a deployment or active duty, I if
00:32:56
those are not synonyms, you you can
00:32:58
probably inform me and my audience on
00:33:00
exactly what those mean. But I think to
00:33:02
myself, well, boy, if someone is
00:33:03
spending, it's one thing if they're
00:33:04
living on base with their spouse, but
00:33:06
what if two spouses are a world apart
00:33:09
because one of them is deployed. And now
00:33:12
all of a sudden you you still have I
00:33:14
mean obviously they they have bigger
00:33:15
fish to fry at the moment than thinking
00:33:16
probably about their household fi
00:33:18
finances if they're deployed but someone
00:33:20
has to be thinking about it and now you
00:33:22
have this challenge in communication. I
00:33:24
mean did you live through that yourself
00:33:25
or or you have stories to share from
00:33:27
that angle? The story I would share is
00:33:32
from my personal experience, it became
00:33:34
positive, but initially when my wife and
00:33:36
I got married, I'd only been in on
00:33:38
active duty for a year and I was still
00:33:41
in pilot training. So, I was still going
00:33:44
through my initial training course. So,
00:33:46
I wasn't even a real I didn't have my
00:33:47
wings. I wasn't a real pilot yet. And I
00:33:50
I kind of showed her like how I was
00:33:51
budgeting and like how much money we had
00:33:53
coming in and how much money we had
00:33:54
going out. I I was living paycheck to
00:33:57
paycheck because she would be like,
00:33:58
"Okay, well, we just got paid $1,000."
00:34:01
And I'm like, "Right, but I have to pay
00:34:03
off the credit card bill from last
00:34:04
month, which was $1,000." And she's
00:34:05
like, "So, we have no money." I was
00:34:07
like, "No, no, like we're going to get
00:34:08
another $1,000 in two weeks." My phrase
00:34:10
was always, "Just wait till next
00:34:11
paycheck." And she was like, "I can't I
00:34:15
can't live that like that. That is not
00:34:17
going to that is not going to work for
00:34:18
us."
00:34:18
>> Good for her.
00:34:19
>> Well, and it's funny because, you know,
00:34:21
I became the face and the voice behind
00:34:23
the military money manual. If if I'm
00:34:25
being honest, a lot of the ideas and the
00:34:29
motivation came from her. And really,
00:34:31
I'm I'll give her a lot of credit for
00:34:35
fixing my personal financial situation
00:34:37
because I was living paycheck to
00:34:39
paycheck. And it was it was painful. It
00:34:41
sucked. And initially, we had I mean,
00:34:44
every dollar was allocated to a job,
00:34:46
which is good, but we each got $20 every
00:34:51
two weeks and that was our spending
00:34:53
money. like that was our the money that
00:34:56
you could decide whatever you wanted to
00:34:57
do with it. $20 and this was like this
00:34:59
was not 100 years ago, right? This was
00:35:01
this was 15 years ago. So, it didn't go
00:35:04
very far and it and it sucked and it was
00:35:05
painful. And a lot of that was because I
00:35:09
was obsessed with paying off my student
00:35:11
loans. We were putting a lot of like a
00:35:14
third of my income essentially towards
00:35:15
paying off my student loans. And we did.
00:35:18
We paid them off very early. It caused a
00:35:20
lot of friction, but it also forced us
00:35:22
to learn to communicate really
00:35:23
efficiently. And so when I was on
00:35:25
deployment, so I I deployed three times
00:35:28
supporting operations in Iraq and
00:35:29
Afghanistan. We were always checking in
00:35:32
with each other. You know, we knew how
00:35:33
much money, you know, we both had access
00:35:35
to our checking account. You know, she
00:35:37
was home, so she was in charge of the
00:35:39
bills, but like almost all of our bills
00:35:41
were on autopay and all of our
00:35:43
investments were on automatic transfer.
00:35:46
And so there was really other than her
00:35:49
just making sure that she didn't spend
00:35:51
too much on groceries or going out to
00:35:53
eat. You know, her hobbies are are are
00:35:56
relatively cheap. There really wasn't
00:35:58
anything for us to talk about. We had
00:35:59
set up a system. And I think that's the
00:36:01
critical thing that I would I would want
00:36:03
someone who's listening to this podcast,
00:36:05
whether they're civilian or military, is
00:36:07
create systems. And yes, you do need to
00:36:09
check in with your partner. And you do
00:36:10
need to communicate. And you especially
00:36:12
when you're setting up the system, you
00:36:14
need to have that communication and
00:36:16
decide like what are your values? What
00:36:18
is important to you? What do you want to
00:36:19
spend your money on together? And how
00:36:22
much money do you want to for yourself
00:36:24
so that you can spend on whatever you
00:36:26
want. But when you're setting up those
00:36:28
systems, it's it's extremely important
00:36:30
to communicate with each other. And when
00:36:33
you go, we used to say going out the
00:36:35
door, right? That's the phrase that we
00:36:36
would use when we were going on
00:36:37
deployment. You want to have it set up
00:36:40
such that if you don't have
00:36:42
communication, right, you don't have
00:36:44
internet for a couple days or or a
00:36:47
couple weeks. You know, during the Iraq
00:36:50
war, there was guys and gals out, you
00:36:52
know, in Iraq and Afghanistan who didn't
00:36:54
have contact, didn't have internet for
00:36:55
months, like literally just
00:36:57
communicating by by letters. That can be
00:36:59
pretty tough. And you know, today we've
00:37:00
got Starlink and all these other
00:37:03
services where you'd have to be pretty
00:37:05
remote to not have internet contact for
00:37:08
like a month, let's say. Even a month,
00:37:10
like could your plan survive for a
00:37:11
month, right? Like if you went off the
00:37:14
grid for 30 days, would your bills be
00:37:16
paid? Would your investments happen
00:37:18
automatically? Would the rent be paid?
00:37:21
And if the answer to that is no, then
00:37:23
it's like, all right, let's talk. Let's
00:37:25
make a plan. Let's figure this out.
00:37:26
That's I mean it's a great test that
00:37:28
that month away that weeks away that
00:37:30
quarter away test like I I can think
00:37:32
about myself or I can think about people
00:37:34
I work with and depending on that length
00:37:36
of time I think it's understandable that
00:37:38
maybe a few things start to fall through
00:37:40
the cracks but at the very least it's
00:37:41
you know can you go for the civilians
00:37:43
like can you go take that two week
00:37:45
vacation with nothing falling through
00:37:46
the cracks exactly right could you go
00:37:48
away for a month could you take a summer
00:37:50
off without anything falling through the
00:37:52
cracks those are questions worth
00:37:53
considering and I think the closer you
00:37:55
get to perfection
00:37:57
on that axis. I think more people would
00:37:59
be better served if if they moved in
00:38:01
that direction for sure. But you kind of
00:38:03
struck at something there, whether it
00:38:04
was early in your relationship your
00:38:06
behavioral differences with your wife or
00:38:09
whether it was later on where you said
00:38:10
like, okay, we need to systematize this
00:38:12
and try to take some of our behavioral
00:38:14
shortcomings just out of the equation
00:38:16
altogether. I I'd love to dive down that
00:38:18
that rabbit hole a little bit more,
00:38:20
Spencer, with are there any kind of
00:38:22
repeated behavioral traps that you just
00:38:26
found like yes, they're general behavior
00:38:28
traps that affect all of us in personal
00:38:29
finance and we can all learn a lessons
00:38:31
from it, but you see them as just being
00:38:33
especially common for military families.
00:38:36
>> I think for military families, the most
00:38:39
common traits I see are those of
00:38:44
avoiders. So by that I mean it's usually
00:38:47
not a will problem, right? They usually
00:38:49
want to be better with money, but it's a
00:38:52
skills problem. They never they they
00:38:54
never got the training. They never saw
00:38:57
it modeled by their family or their
00:38:58
parents. And then they they marry
00:39:01
someone who also doesn't have those
00:39:04
skills and probably also has the will,
00:39:08
but they just can't bridge the gap
00:39:10
because they don't know who to turn to.
00:39:11
And I mean the great thing is is the
00:39:13
military does offer a lot of free
00:39:17
resources to service members. So I'll
00:39:20
just throw out a couple. Military one
00:39:21
source. So that's sponsored by the
00:39:23
Department of Defense. You can go to
00:39:25
military1source.com
00:39:26
I think it is. But just Google it.
00:39:28
Military one source. Free financial
00:39:30
counseling there specific to your
00:39:32
situation. So you'll tell them, you
00:39:33
know, hey, this is what we're struggling
00:39:35
with or this is what we want to know
00:39:36
about. like they're not going to give
00:39:38
you great investment advice other than
00:39:41
you should contribute to your TSP and
00:39:42
they're not going to tell you like which
00:39:43
funds to select inside your TSP. If you
00:39:46
want to see stuff about that, you know,
00:39:47
check out my website. But they will be
00:39:50
able to just like have that budget,
00:39:52
paycheck, that communication and that,
00:39:55
you know, just kind of that initial like
00:39:57
rip the band-aid off moment where you go
00:40:00
to your spouse and you say, "Look, like
00:40:01
I I don't know about this money stuff. I
00:40:03
don't think you know about this money
00:40:04
stuff either." Maybe maybe skip that
00:40:06
part, but you can just talk about
00:40:07
yourself and be like, I want to be more
00:40:08
confident with money. In the Air Force,
00:40:11
we call it the family service member and
00:40:12
family readiness center. And you can go
00:40:15
there and you can sit down with a with a
00:40:16
real person face to face and they'll
00:40:18
have you build a budget. They'll have
00:40:20
you, you know, talk about, okay, like
00:40:21
what are the three big expenses of most
00:40:23
American households? Housing,
00:40:25
transportation, and food. And like you
00:40:28
said, for the military, well, food's
00:40:30
mostly covered. Housing's mostly covered
00:40:33
unless you're renting something that's
00:40:35
way above your housing allowance. And so
00:40:37
then your only factor that you really
00:40:39
should worry about there is
00:40:40
transportation. And so many times
00:40:42
military service members make the
00:40:43
mistake of buying too much
00:40:45
transportation for their rank, for their
00:40:47
paycheck. And if they could just not
00:40:50
make that one single error, they'd be so
00:40:53
much better off. They'd just have so
00:40:54
much more room to maneuver with their
00:40:57
money, with their paycheck. That's the
00:40:59
kind of the overarching theme I see for
00:41:02
military families is it's usually two
00:41:04
avoiders who just don't have the skills.
00:41:08
And because they're avoiding addressing
00:41:11
the money issues, they don't ever get
00:41:14
the will really either. So, I think the
00:41:16
best thing to do would be to go to your
00:41:19
partner and say, "Look, I want to I want
00:41:20
to get a handle on this money thing and
00:41:22
I want to I want us to stop living
00:41:24
paycheck to paycheck or I want us to get
00:41:25
out of debt." Right? There's probably
00:41:26
some part of your money story that
00:41:29
you're like, man, like that. Why do I
00:41:32
have to send a,000 bucks a month to my
00:41:34
student loans? Like, can there's got to
00:41:36
be a way to fix this? And just go to
00:41:38
your spouse and be like, imagine if we
00:41:39
had $1,000 more a month. I mean, for
00:41:40
some couples, it might be a matter if we
00:41:42
had $100 more a month. Wouldn't it be
00:41:44
nice if we could like go out to Olive
00:41:46
Garden and and not worry about it? or,
00:41:48
you know, go like have buy some beers
00:41:50
and and drinks and and invite people
00:41:52
over on the weekends and just kind of
00:41:54
like starting the conversation with a
00:41:56
positive and then them being like,
00:41:58
"Yeah, that sounds great. How are we
00:42:00
going to do that?" And like I said,
00:42:02
Military One Source, Airmen and Family
00:42:04
Readiness Center, the Navy, the Army,
00:42:06
they all have their own places on post
00:42:09
or on base. And if you don't know who to
00:42:12
start with, just go to Military One
00:42:14
Source and they'll find like the
00:42:15
resources and they'll point you exactly
00:42:16
where to go. But you can even chat with
00:42:18
them. I mean, you don't have to you
00:42:19
don't have to sit on the phone and talk
00:42:20
to them. I know everybody these days
00:42:22
just likes to go through the chat
00:42:24
window. And you can do that. Like they
00:42:26
they even have they have email, so you
00:42:28
can exchange emails if you want to. But
00:42:30
there's so many free resources out
00:42:31
there. And it's such a shame to to watch
00:42:35
military families continue to avoid the
00:42:37
problem when they're given so many
00:42:38
opportunities and so many resources. I
00:42:41
have, you know, success stories of
00:42:43
enlisted millionaires, you know, who are
00:42:45
becoming millionaires like well before
00:42:47
they reach military retirement of 20
00:42:49
years of service. Airmen who have saved
00:42:51
over $100,000 after just a 4-year
00:42:54
enlistment term. And I mean, are these
00:42:56
extreme examples? Are these outliers?
00:42:58
Yeah, they are. But they're also proving
00:43:01
the point that, okay, maybe you can't
00:43:02
have $100,000 in four years, but I bet
00:43:05
you could have $40,000.
00:43:07
And if that sounds crazy to you, like
00:43:10
the the data is out there and you are
00:43:12
getting paid enough to make that happen.
00:43:14
It's just a lot of it is look at your
00:43:16
lifestyle, cut out the fat, and you
00:43:20
know, focus on your opportunities to
00:43:21
make additional income, which like you
00:43:23
were saying, deployments. Not only is it
00:43:26
an opportune time to have those
00:43:28
communication questions and discussions
00:43:29
with your partner, but you have the
00:43:32
opportunity where now when you're
00:43:34
deployed, all your food is free, all
00:43:36
your housing is free. You're going to
00:43:38
continue to collect housing allowance
00:43:41
for the station. If you have a dependent
00:43:44
back at your duty station, you're going
00:43:45
to continue to get housing allowance for
00:43:46
them, but there's nothing to say that
00:43:48
they can't downsize, right? like they
00:43:49
can move all their stuff into storage
00:43:50
and move back home with their family,
00:43:52
which depending on your family might not
00:43:53
situation might not be ideal. So, don't
00:43:56
do that. But they're still going to have
00:43:57
expenses, but when you're deployed, you
00:43:58
know, you don't have any expenses. Your
00:44:01
income goes up and you're making
00:44:02
tax-free pay. Usually, if you're
00:44:04
deployed to a combat zone, there's
00:44:07
tremendous opportunity there to get way
00:44:09
ahead. And I just saw a post on Reddit
00:44:11
the other day. I think a guy's on a
00:44:13
ninemonth or 12-month deployment. And
00:44:15
the first three months, he paid off all
00:44:16
his auto loans. you paid off. Oh,
00:44:18
student loans. And he's like, "Okay,
00:44:19
what do I do next?" And it's like, "All
00:44:20
right, man. Let's like back out your
00:44:22
TSP, Roth TSP, Roth IRA. Okay, what
00:44:24
about what's next? Tackable taxable
00:44:26
brokerage, you know, let's go like in
00:44:28
the like you can literally change your
00:44:29
life around in a single deployment." And
00:44:32
I think so many service members just let
00:44:34
that just they just let it go to waste
00:44:36
and they don't stay and it doesn't like
00:44:38
you don't have to stay focused on the
00:44:40
goal. You just have to set up a system
00:44:42
when you first get out there and then
00:44:44
you can worry about, you know, what
00:44:45
you're actually doing on that
00:44:46
deployment. but and let your money take
00:44:47
care of itself.
00:44:49
>> Yeah, it's interesting that you point
00:44:50
out that because especially maybe the
00:44:52
earlier career service members like you
00:44:55
alluded to, I think you said Spencer,
00:44:56
that like once you reach captain, that's
00:44:58
when you first hit maybe six figures
00:44:59
worth of income. So before that, you're
00:45:01
on five figures of income. And if you do
00:45:04
make that really common mistake that you
00:45:06
pointed out, which is just like buying
00:45:07
too much car, you've got the money, so
00:45:08
you decide to spend it on a car. Like we
00:45:10
all know that Camaro example that you
00:45:12
pointed out that buying too much car and
00:45:15
getting too bad of a loan on that car is
00:45:17
easily a five figure mistake. It might
00:45:19
even sneak into a six figure mistake
00:45:21
over many years. And when you're quote
00:45:24
unquote only making five figures,
00:45:26
>> you can't afford five and six figure
00:45:28
mistakes like that. And if instead you
00:45:30
could if people could make the better
00:45:32
choice up front,
00:45:34
>> prevent that mistake, save that money,
00:45:36
put it in their TSP. It really is the
00:45:38
difference between kind of like
00:45:40
floundering throughout your military
00:45:41
career and maybe pivoting postc career
00:45:44
and being like, "Yeah, I don't have too
00:45:45
much to show for my military career. I
00:45:47
didn't save that much." Versus pivoting
00:45:50
postmilitary career and being that
00:45:52
millionaire or having that flexibility
00:45:54
to do whatever you want after the
00:45:56
military. Here's a quick ad and then
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the the nitty-gritty details of social
00:46:48
security and withdrawal planning and
00:46:49
retirement math. The point being, if
00:46:52
you're interested in inviting me to come
00:46:54
talk money to you, to your colleagues,
00:46:55
where you work, that is absolutely
00:46:57
something I'm interested in talking to
00:46:59
you about. Simply drop me an email to
00:47:01
jesseb bestinest.blog and let's start a
00:47:03
conversation. And let's actually pivot
00:47:06
and talk about that a little bit. Let's
00:47:07
talk about what postservice life looks
00:47:09
like because I can just see all these
00:47:12
parallels between the transition to
00:47:14
retirement for all civilians, which is
00:47:16
something I talk a lot about, against
00:47:18
the transition to postservice life for
00:47:21
military members, whether that means
00:47:23
actual retirement for them or simply a
00:47:25
transition to a different career. But
00:47:27
I'm I'm really curious like what are
00:47:28
some of the biggest sticking points
00:47:30
financial or otherwise that that you've
00:47:32
seen when it comes to transitioning from
00:47:34
active duty to post service life?
00:47:37
>> Well, I'm actually I'm going to I'm
00:47:39
going to flip the question back on you,
00:47:40
Jesse, because I want to hear what you
00:47:41
have to say, but I'm going to I'm going
00:47:43
to frame it. I transitioned out of the
00:47:45
service before I was eligible for a
00:47:47
military retirement, but I did all the
00:47:50
classic
00:47:51
veteran mistakes, right? So, I didn't
00:47:53
have a job lined up when I got out
00:47:55
because I thought my side business was
00:47:57
going to be enough. And on the income
00:47:59
side, yes, it was enough. But on the
00:48:01
purpose and meaning side, no way. It It
00:48:04
just didn't fill that cup that didn't it
00:48:07
didn't fill that need that I didn't
00:48:09
realize was being met by my military
00:48:12
service. I got really depressed after
00:48:14
leaving active duty for a couple months.
00:48:18
And it wasn't until I started that first
00:48:20
job that I was flying for a a major US
00:48:24
airline that that kind of that like that
00:48:26
will for life just came back and I was
00:48:29
like, "Okay, like I I'm back in it. You
00:48:31
know, I've got a team again. I'm doing
00:48:33
it." But then I made the other veteran,
00:48:35
not mistake, but common thing that
00:48:38
happens where 6 months later I quit. I
00:48:40
very quickly after a couple months
00:48:42
flying, I was like, "This isn't it. This
00:48:45
doesn't it doesn't check that box. it
00:48:47
doesn't fill that purpose and meaning
00:48:48
need. So my flip back to you is when
00:48:51
you're talking to retirees who are
00:48:53
transitioning, you know, from the active
00:48:56
workforce to whatever they're going to
00:48:58
do in retirement besides the financial
00:49:01
stuff and we can get to that, but I'm
00:49:03
more curious in the purpose and meaning
00:49:04
stuff like how and is that something
00:49:07
that a conversation that you have with
00:49:09
your clients? Yeah, that's a that's a
00:49:11
big part of the ongoing conversation and
00:49:14
it varies client by client or if it's a
00:49:16
reader of the blog or listener of the
00:49:18
podcast. It varies person by person
00:49:20
because I will say, yeah, there are some
00:49:21
people who engage with me and they're
00:49:23
like, Jesse, I just want you to run the
00:49:25
math. I just want you to focus on the
00:49:26
numbers. I come to you for financial
00:49:28
advice. You're not my therapist. You're
00:49:29
not my psychologist. Which I get. But in
00:49:32
most cases over time, I can build enough
00:49:34
trust to build enough of a relationship
00:49:36
with someone to say like, "Hey, here's
00:49:38
something we found with a lot of
00:49:39
pre-retirees transitioning into
00:49:41
retirement." What we found is, and
00:49:43
there's some awesome data to to back
00:49:45
this up, what we found is most
00:49:47
pre-retirees put their finances as one
00:49:50
of, if not the top priority. But then
00:49:52
when you talk to people who are two or
00:49:54
four or 10 years into retirement, very
00:49:57
few people still rank finances as their
00:50:00
top priority. And almost all of them
00:50:02
rank lifestyle lifestyle issues is maybe
00:50:05
what I'll say. It's a broad term, but
00:50:06
lifestyle issues is your top priority.
00:50:08
And it could be right. What am I doing
00:50:10
just to fill up my days? How am I
00:50:13
maintaining my relationships? You know,
00:50:15
a huge one, a really good example. So
00:50:16
you think about the workplace. The
00:50:18
workplace, okay, yeah, it gave you that
00:50:20
paycheck and we can find a way to
00:50:21
replace that paycheck. But you might not
00:50:23
be thinking about the fact that it also
00:50:26
just gave you this purpose, this drive
00:50:28
to get out of bed every morning and to
00:50:29
fulfill someone's need out there in the
00:50:31
world. Like you enjoyed doing that. That
00:50:33
gave you purpose. Now you need to
00:50:34
replace it. And the workplace probably
00:50:36
also gave you a lot of socialization.
00:50:39
Whether they're your best friends or
00:50:40
even sometimes if you're like, "Yeah,
00:50:42
you know, I don't love all my
00:50:43
co-workers, but it's still nice to go
00:50:45
chat with someone at the coffee machine
00:50:46
in the morning." Well, you have to find
00:50:48
a way to replace that in retirement. And
00:50:51
news flash, your wife or your husband
00:50:54
might get sick of spending 12 hours a
00:50:56
day with you at some point. So like
00:50:57
shameless plug, episode 106, I I took
00:51:00
some of this data from Fritz Gilbert of
00:51:02
the Retirement Manifesto. Shout out
00:51:04
Fritz. It's called Retirees Mistakes and
00:51:06
Wakeup Calls: Expectations Versus
00:51:08
Reality. It was a deep dive on just this
00:51:10
topic. It's a little varied, Spencer,
00:51:13
but still there's a through line. Like
00:51:14
there are some consistencies that you
00:51:16
find over time having these
00:51:17
conversations and it's really big. It's
00:51:19
so much more than just the the finances.
00:51:21
>> I mean, the people who are listening to
00:51:23
my podcast, right, they tend to be the
00:51:25
optimizer in the relationship. They tend
00:51:27
to be the spreadsheet nerd, the one who
00:51:30
is like, "Oh, you know, like, oh, we got
00:51:31
to save $20 on Netflix cuz like run that
00:51:33
compounding interest graph. Look how
00:51:36
much it grows into."
00:51:37
>> And my plea to them is you're going to
00:51:41
be fine. The numbers are going to work.
00:51:43
You have run a thousand 10,000 Monte
00:51:47
Carlos simulations. not over, you know,
00:51:50
20, 30, 40, 50 year time horizons. As
00:51:53
long as as the United States continues
00:51:56
to exist in some form and capitalism
00:51:59
continues to exist in some form and
00:52:02
companies continue to pay their
00:52:04
shareholders dividends, you will be
00:52:05
fine. Set it all aside. You know, buy
00:52:07
your beans and bullets and your gold
00:52:08
bars if you need to, but like you're
00:52:10
going to be fine. Now, what are you
00:52:12
going to do? And people are just like,
00:52:14
well, you know, I'll figure it out. I'm
00:52:15
like, no, you're not going to figure it
00:52:16
out. I mean you you will because
00:52:18
everybody figures it out. But this is
00:52:20
the hard question. The the money stuff
00:52:22
for most people, the people who are
00:52:24
usually who are hiring financial
00:52:26
adviserss or who are the DIY super DIY
00:52:29
types that understand compounding
00:52:31
interest and understand the point of
00:52:34
tracking your dollars and making sure
00:52:35
that every every dollar has a job. It's
00:52:38
great. Every dollar has a job, but
00:52:39
what's your job? Like what are you going
00:52:40
to do when you've reached that financial
00:52:42
independence or that financial freedom?
00:52:44
And it's often ignored both by the
00:52:47
military service member who's
00:52:48
transitioning to the civilian world,
00:52:50
whether it's separation, medical
00:52:53
retirement, 20-year retirement, or
00:52:56
someone who's going from active duty to
00:52:57
the guard reserves, which again, I'll
00:53:00
I'll throw that out as as a great option
00:53:02
as just kind of easing your transition
00:53:05
is when you're done with active duty,
00:53:07
but if you if you enjoyed it, if you
00:53:09
liked it, and you want to be around
00:53:10
those people, take a look at the Garden
00:53:12
Reserve. usually their commitments are
00:53:13
not that ownorous and you're still going
00:53:17
to get to put on a uniform. You're still
00:53:18
going to get a lot of that community.
00:53:20
You're still going to be able to, you
00:53:22
know, it like if your civilian job
00:53:24
sucks, you just take active orders and
00:53:25
go full-time with the guarder reserve
00:53:28
and come back later to your civilian
00:53:30
job. Or you might get to the garden
00:53:32
reserve and be like, you know what, no,
00:53:33
like I'm good. I did it. This is a nice
00:53:36
transition, but I'm going to give these
00:53:37
guys a year and then I'm I'm fully I'm
00:53:39
going to be fully civilian. But at least
00:53:40
you're kind of like taking a slow,
00:53:43
measured approach to it and you're
00:53:44
giving yourself time. And I think that's
00:53:46
the thing that I want anybody who's
00:53:49
retiring from the military or
00:53:51
transitioning out of the military to the
00:53:53
civilian world or a civilian who's
00:53:56
retiring, I just want to say you're
00:53:59
going to be fine, but it's going to take
00:54:01
some time. And for some people, it's no
00:54:04
time at all, right? like they're like,
00:54:06
"No, I'm golfing every day and I'm so
00:54:08
excited and and my wife, you know, is
00:54:10
going to go do whatever she's going to
00:54:12
do and we've got the grandkids nearby
00:54:14
and like, you know, I talk to retirees
00:54:16
all the time who are like or people who
00:54:18
are financially independent. You look at
00:54:20
like Mr. Money Mustache or someone and
00:54:21
they always say like, "I don't have time
00:54:23
to work. Like, my life is so full. I
00:54:26
have so much going on. Like, I don't
00:54:29
know how I had time for a job before
00:54:30
this." And that's great. If that if
00:54:32
that's your situation, that's great. And
00:54:34
if that's not your situation and you've
00:54:35
you've separated from the military or
00:54:37
you're retiring from 40-year career in
00:54:40
your 60s and you're going into a more
00:54:42
traditional retirement as a civilian, it
00:54:45
might take a couple years and there
00:54:47
might be some dark moments in there of
00:54:49
you staring at the ceiling at 3:00 in
00:54:51
the morning thinking what did I do like
00:54:53
why like what and what am I doing here?
00:54:55
And it's a tough question, but it's okay
00:54:59
if you don't get an answer immediately.
00:55:01
And when you in 2 years, 3 years, 5
00:55:04
years, you might say, you know, I still
00:55:06
don't have an answer, but that's okay.
00:55:08
I'm working on it. You might have an
00:55:09
answer. You might say in uh the book,
00:55:12
The Second Mountain, David Brooks talks
00:55:14
about the four callings, and it's a
00:55:17
vocation. And so like not just a job but
00:55:20
like you know a passion the work that
00:55:22
you were meant to do in this world or
00:55:24
the Japanese icky guy.
00:55:26
>> The icky guy. There you go. What you
00:55:28
were meant to do. And then the other one
00:55:30
is um there there's four of them.
00:55:32
Religion, philosophy, community and
00:55:35
marriage. He kind of focuses on on on
00:55:37
those. For a lot of people, maybe
00:55:40
they've neglected their marriage because
00:55:42
of their work. Or maybe they've not been
00:55:46
involved as involved in their religious
00:55:48
community because they were busy doing
00:55:50
other things and raising kids. And you
00:55:52
know, life's busy. And you know, I see a
00:55:54
lot of retirees, my uh my wife's
00:55:58
grandmother, for instance, turning 90
00:56:00
years old and she's still in the church
00:56:02
choir, right? Like she still goes and
00:56:04
sings every every Sunday. and like her
00:56:08
friends are there and she knows she
00:56:10
talks to the pastor and or the priest
00:56:13
and it's such a you know joy for her to
00:56:16
have that part of her social calendar
00:56:18
and have that part of her week and
00:56:21
that's something you know the fact that
00:56:23
she has the time to do that and go
00:56:24
practice with them and be there on every
00:56:26
Sunday. Maybe that's something that
00:56:29
you're interested in doing and you just
00:56:30
didn't have the time when you were
00:56:32
working full-time and here you go.
00:56:34
Here's this opportunity. Here's this
00:56:35
gift. Don't squander it. A few different
00:56:37
things that you were saying there,
00:56:38
Spencer, just made me think of these two
00:56:39
two different metaphors that both oddly
00:56:41
coincidentally have to do with our
00:56:42
teenage years because, you know, I can
00:56:44
picture back to like being a high school
00:56:46
freshman and heading into the summers
00:56:47
off. You know, right now we're recording
00:56:49
in early July. It's summer off for high
00:56:51
school kids. And a lot of my friends and
00:56:53
I had this mindset where it's like, "Oh,
00:56:54
what are you going to do this summer?"
00:56:56
And it's like, "I don't really know.
00:56:57
Just not school." That's the answer.
00:56:59
Just not school. And that's a good
00:57:01
enough answer for that time in your life
00:57:03
because summer's two months long. And
00:57:05
okay, if you don't have the most
00:57:06
productive summer off kind of like who
00:57:08
cares? But I feel like that is the
00:57:10
mindset that some retirees go into
00:57:12
retirement with like what are you gonna
00:57:13
do? I don't know. Not work. That's it.
00:57:16
I'll figure it out. And not work is good
00:57:17
enough because I didn't like work. And
00:57:20
the answer of not work means I'm
00:57:21
therefore going to like it. And that's
00:57:23
just not the case. Because the second
00:57:25
metaphor is many of us can think back to
00:57:28
this time in life where maybe we're 17,
00:57:30
18. Maybe we're debating like do I go to
00:57:32
college? Do I go to the military? Do I
00:57:33
get a job? Or maybe it happened right
00:57:35
after college where it's like, do I go
00:57:37
to grad school? Or for me, like I got
00:57:39
this four-year degree in engineering. Do
00:57:40
I even like being an engineer? And the
00:57:42
point is like you don't quite feel
00:57:44
settled in life and you don't quite feel
00:57:46
like you have this defined path in front
00:57:47
of you and you're just trying to figure
00:57:49
it out.
00:57:50
>> There's a parallel between that and the
00:57:51
early years of retirement. Like you're
00:57:53
trying something new. It's a big life
00:57:55
transition. And for the first time in
00:57:57
decades, you've got nothing but time.
00:58:00
It's a big deal. And it might take, just
00:58:02
as you alluded to, it might take you
00:58:04
some time to figure out where your path
00:58:07
will take you and what feels good and
00:58:08
what feels comfortable. But if you can
00:58:10
do some of that work beforehand, that's
00:58:12
where I think people tend to have some
00:58:14
more retirement success rather than just
00:58:16
getting thrown into the deep end and
00:58:18
hoping they can tread enough water to
00:58:20
keep their head above above water. If
00:58:22
they ease their way into it by doing
00:58:24
some work beforehand, usually there's a
00:58:26
better result. I don't know if the same
00:58:28
applied to military transitioning out of
00:58:29
the military, but I got to think a
00:58:31
little bit of uh preparation can go a
00:58:33
long way.
00:58:34
>> You just triggered a couple ideas there
00:58:36
for the transitioning military service
00:58:38
member. And the first one, the the most
00:58:40
practical and tactical advice I can give
00:58:42
is there's a program called TAP,
00:58:44
transition assistance program. And when
00:58:47
you're within a year of separation, so
00:58:49
you've set a separation date or
00:58:51
retirement, you can start going to TAP
00:58:54
classes. And usually it's 2 or 3 days
00:58:56
and they have like an entrepreneurship
00:58:58
track and a civilian career track and
00:59:00
they'll give you a year free of LinkedIn
00:59:02
premium which I hate LinkedIn but there
00:59:04
you go. I guess some people some people
00:59:07
have leveraged it to succeed in life.
00:59:09
But the tap program I went to I went to
00:59:12
one and you have to go to one before you
00:59:14
can separate. But that was a mistake. I
00:59:16
think I should have gone probably as
00:59:19
soon as I was eligible. So as soon as I
00:59:20
was at one year out, just gone to like
00:59:22
the one or two day course and use that
00:59:25
as an opportunity to get the brain
00:59:27
juices flowing and thinking, okay, like
00:59:30
what is this going to look like? And I
00:59:31
thought I was well prepared for my my
00:59:34
transition. I mean, we had a very large
00:59:35
nest egg, we were essentially, if we
00:59:38
weren't lean, we were coast fire. I
00:59:40
mean, we were we were well on the path
00:59:42
to to just being straight straight up
00:59:44
fire and possibly even fat fire in the
00:59:46
next couple years. And so financially I
00:59:49
was we were very well prepared. You
00:59:51
know, I had a little bit of work to do
00:59:52
with the the podcast and the blog and
00:59:54
the book, but there was there was still
00:59:56
a lot of things that I I hadn't quite
00:59:58
figured out. And I don't know if I would
01:00:00
have figured them out because I'd gone
01:00:02
to a tap class earlier, but at least I
01:00:05
would have started kind of the process
01:00:06
and maybe instead of couple months of
01:00:09
wallowing in existential and we I I
01:00:13
could have I could have shortened that a
01:00:14
little bit. And so that that's that
01:00:16
would be my my advice for someone
01:00:17
separating from the military is go to
01:00:18
the TAP program more than once. Just go
01:00:20
twice and do it as soon as you are
01:00:22
eligible for and then do it a little bit
01:00:24
closer to separation because the other
01:00:26
thing is that they dump so much
01:00:27
information on you while you're in there
01:00:30
that it's very hard to absorb it in one
01:00:33
goound and you're going to pick up like
01:00:35
you know just like listening to one of
01:00:37
Jesse's podcast or my podcast the second
01:00:39
time you listen to the episode you're
01:00:40
going to glean even more information and
01:00:43
different information. So, I highly
01:00:45
recommend that for transitioning
01:00:47
military service members, you you look
01:00:49
at using the TAP program to your
01:00:51
advantage.
01:00:52
>> And you know, there are similar versions
01:00:54
uh here in civilian life, whether it's
01:00:56
just like something as simple as a class
01:00:58
at your community center or something
01:00:59
from AP or I mean, the really nice thing
01:01:02
is so much financial content on the
01:01:04
internet is written for the general
01:01:06
audience. A lot of it is just free and
01:01:09
out there and you just have to go find
01:01:10
it. But it is out there. But anyway,
01:01:13
Spencer, you you've mentioned a few
01:01:14
times now, your book, your blog, and of
01:01:16
course your podcast, which I know my I'm
01:01:19
sure my military listeners are want to
01:01:21
go find it, and maybe even some folks
01:01:22
who are listening who just they have
01:01:24
friends in the military, they have
01:01:25
children in the military, they're going
01:01:26
to want to forward it on to the people
01:01:28
they know. How can our listeners go out
01:01:30
and and find your work?
01:01:31
>> You could start at
01:01:32
militarymoneymanual.com.
01:01:34
That's the hub of the uh the content
01:01:37
universe of of uh all my my ramblings
01:01:40
and rantings for the last oh shoot I
01:01:43
think I started in 2012 so almost 13
01:01:45
years now at the time of this recording.
01:01:47
And then if you uh enjoyed listening to
01:01:50
my uh my snifferous voice then you can
01:01:53
go to the military money manual podcast
01:01:55
Spotify and Apple. Finally, you can find
01:01:58
the book which is creatively titled The
01:02:00
MilitaryMoney Manual and that's on
01:02:02
Amazon and also at
01:02:04
shop.mmillitarymoneymanual.com.
01:02:07
Check out all the versions there,
01:02:09
audiobook and ebook and hardcover and
01:02:11
everything. The podcast uh I do with my
01:02:13
uh my buddy uh Jamie. He's still active
01:02:15
duty officer. We started it to promote
01:02:18
the book and it's just grown and we're
01:02:20
almost up to 200 episodes. So, we're
01:02:22
having too much fun doing it. We've had
01:02:23
some great guests on there and we'll be
01:02:25
publishing this episode on there as
01:02:27
well. And so, where can people find what
01:02:30
you're working on?
01:02:31
>> Ooh, thank you for that. I wanted to
01:02:32
give you accommodation. That's a
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branding consistency, Spencer.
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anywhere you're listening. If you're
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listening to it right now, you're at a
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good spot considering it is this
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podcast. Personal finance for long-term
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investors is the name. And right, we do
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deep dives on uh financial planning
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topics, tax planning topics, a little
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bit of the psychology that goes into
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long-term investing and retirement. So,
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if you're looking to to deep dive and
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learn more, it's it's a pretty good
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>> I love it when Money Podcast barely
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touch like we didn't I don't think we
01:03:28
use any percentages or or dollar amounts
01:03:30
on the show, but then the dollar amounts
01:03:33
and and the math and really there's so
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much more that goes into these
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questions. And the last thing I I wanted
01:03:39
to leave your your listeners with,
01:03:41
especially because we tend to be
01:03:42
optimizers, but the five types of wealth
01:03:44
by Sahil Bloom, I just read it. And for
01:03:48
an optimizer, it's great because it
01:03:50
gives you a different framework to
01:03:52
measure yourself against rather than
01:03:54
just what's the net worth, what's the
01:03:56
net worth, what's my income, you know,
01:03:58
what's the tax rate. And for retirees
01:04:01
especially, you know, you're going to be
01:04:03
gifted this opportunity of you're going
01:04:05
to have more control. Hopefully, you're
01:04:06
going to have more control of your time.
01:04:08
And that's one of the, you know, the
01:04:10
five types of wealth that he talks about
01:04:11
in there. I think it can give the person
01:04:15
transitioning from a civilian job to
01:04:17
civilian retirement or a military job to
01:04:20
a military retirement. It can give you
01:04:22
that framework of if you're rich in one
01:04:25
area, if you're listening to this
01:04:26
podcast, you might be rich in the
01:04:30
financial wealth, but you might be
01:04:32
impoverished in another category. And
01:04:34
that just gives you as an optimizer. Now
01:04:36
it's your job to increase your your net
01:04:39
worth, so to speak, in that other wealth
01:04:42
category. So, five types of wealth to
01:04:44
heal bloom. I really enjoyed it. Highly
01:04:46
recommend it to all your listeners.
01:04:48
>> Awesome. That's a great recommendation.
01:04:50
Thank you, Spencer. Good to talk to you,
01:04:51
man.
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Episode Highlights

  • The Importance of Change in Retirement
    Jesse discusses how retirement is not a fixed point but a dynamic journey of change.
    “Your retirement will change over time. It evolves.”
    @ 02m 24s
    October 01, 2025
  • The Retiree's Financial Decathlon
    Jesse introduces a framework for preparing financially for retirement, focusing on ten key tasks.
    @ 08m 01s
    October 01, 2025
  • Stress Test Your Plan
    Will your financial plan survive market volatility and other curveballs?
    “It's worth asking those kind of what-if questions.”
    @ 17m 31s
    October 01, 2025
  • Consolidate and Simplify
    Most retirees see a big psychic benefit from simplifying their financial lives.
    “What's the point of compounding wealth if it also comes with compounding stress?”
    @ 17m 47s
    October 01, 2025
  • Flex Your Spending Muscle
    Frugal retirees often neglect their spending muscle, leading to anxiety.
    “Spending and saving are these two separate muscles.”
    @ 18m 21s
    October 01, 2025
  • Communication Challenges
    Deployed spouses face unique financial communication challenges while managing household finances.
    “Living paycheck to paycheck is painful.”
    @ 32m 27s
    October 01, 2025
  • The Importance of Communication
    Effective communication is crucial for financial management in relationships.
    “Create systems.”
    @ 36m 03s
    October 01, 2025
  • Financial Opportunities During Deployment
    Deployment can provide unique opportunities to improve financial situations.
    “You can literally change your life around in a single deployment.”
    @ 44m 29s
    October 01, 2025
  • The Shift in Retirement Priorities
    Pre-retirees prioritize finances, but retirees often shift focus to lifestyle issues.
    “Lifestyle issues is your top priority.”
    @ 50m 06s
    October 01, 2025
  • Finding Purpose After Work
    Retirement can leave a void; finding new purpose is essential for fulfillment.
    “The workplace gave you purpose, now you need to replace it.”
    @ 50m 29s
    October 01, 2025
  • Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life
    Preparation is key for military members transitioning to civilian life; utilize TAP programs.
    “Go to the TAP program more than once.”
    @ 01h 00m 17s
    October 01, 2025
  • Exploring Five Types of Wealth
    Sahil Bloom's framework helps retirees assess their wealth beyond finances.
    “You might be rich in financial wealth, but impoverished in another category.”
    @ 01h 04m 34s
    October 01, 2025

Episode Quotes

Key Moments

  • Investment in Knowledge00:04
  • Retirement Change02:07
  • Stress Test17:23
  • Simplify Finances17:41
  • Spend Wisely18:21
  • Paycheck Struggles33:57
  • Finding Purpose50:29
  • Military Transition1:00:17

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