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Sarah Silverman | Full Episode | Fly on the Wall with Dana Carvey and David Spade

October 07, 2022 / 01:11:28

This episode features comedians Dana Carvey and David Spade discussing various topics with guest Sarah Silverman, including their experiences in comedy, relationships, and the entertainment industry.

Carvey and Spade open the episode by inviting listeners to submit questions for future episodes. They share humorous anecdotes about physical exams and interactions with fans, showcasing their comedic styles.

Sarah Silverman joins the conversation, discussing her basketball skills and experiences with SNL. She reflects on her early career, the challenges of being a woman in comedy, and her relationships.

The trio talks about the pressures of fame, the role of paparazzi, and the dynamics of their personal lives. Silverman shares insights about her current relationship and the importance of communication in partnerships.

Throughout the episode, they exchange jokes and stories, highlighting their camaraderie and shared history in comedy.

TL;DR

Dana Carvey and David Spade chat with Sarah Silverman about comedy, relationships, and their experiences in the entertainment industry.

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hey guys it's Spade half of me and

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Carvey and just want to let you know at

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the end of this episode after the

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credits we are going to answer some of

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the questions we asked you to ask us so

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if you stick around you're going to hear

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them and if you want to ask us a

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question you go to fly on the wall

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at cadence13.com that's an email address

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people get with the program you can

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email us at fly on the wall at

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cadence13.com ask anything to Dana and

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ask me like really good ones all right

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so get your questions listen to the

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questions and ask your questions now

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here's the show

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hey chill I'll be there in a second I

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can talk to my friend here that's a

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little bird number one it's a Tony Bird

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come on

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ah scare me you can't you can't

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I'm young I'm strong

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come on here's a deal you're a little

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bird you're a little bird Jill I'll be

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there in a second come on oh he fluffed

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what should I do with the food no he

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flew away that was him all right there

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you go that one and how about this scene

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no here's this for Sarah uh okay I went

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to the uh Sarah sometimes does you know

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dirtier stuff she's hysterical by the

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way Sarah Silverman were old friends

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from SNL was when I first met her so

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here's one so I went to the

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to actually get my physical and he goes

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you know at the end it's sort of in the

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air that he's going to go up your behind

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you know I mean like at a yearly

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physical they're going up your butt so

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right I asked the guy to do it when he

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first walks in can we get that out of

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the way and goes no I like to save it

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and I go really I mean save it he goes

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give me something look forward to it

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this guy this guy as soon as that is

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done and I don't like gross humor he

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takes the glove off he starts walking

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away throws in the trash can and then

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Sprints out of the office like as if

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it's some weird what if he goes I just

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want to get this over with so he goes

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let's just do it right now and he

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doesn't I I'm not even putting the glove

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on let's just do this and you're like

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well wait a second wait a second all

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right well these are the worst jokes in

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the world but this one always made me

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last the last thing you want to hear

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during that type of exam look ma no

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hands oh yeah I'm sorry that's just

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because his wieners

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Greg is having gyrations our producer

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Greg Holtzman at Greg holtzman.com

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Heather you laugh at my stuff he'll

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laugh at Dana's well look ma no hands

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I'm sorry so here's mine This is

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actually a true story

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I'm going to start with putting and then

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we'll say here Sarah the he says I have

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to put a finger up here buttocks and I

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said feel free I know it's part of the

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drill so he goes he goes he got one in

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there and he goes I go actually try one

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more and he does two and then I go just

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for fun try to put your whole hand in

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there and he goes okay it's in there and

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I go now put the other one he puts the

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other one I go now clap and he goes I

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can't I go tight right

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that's a great one tight right well when

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I my last exam the guy tries to make

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jokes around that he goes did you hear

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about the guy who had five penises his

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pants fit him like a glove

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anyway drop them

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I know my guy works in bits I go just do

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doctor stuff just do doctor so I don't

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do proctologists we love Sarah because

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uh she's a hilarious comic she I see her

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out and she always has parties on a roof

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we'll talk about that and Sarah

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Silverman is uh has a great voice

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because I do voices I do like her voice

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she has a sort of

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it's all it's almost like it's a

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sneakily seductive uh

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uh Cadence when she does stand up you

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know how she kind of moves her shoulders

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and her arms I want to do jokes I

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remember verse two her and see if how

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close I get him try one oh oh you don't

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have one no when she goes when she comes

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out and there's a song on and she goes

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this is such a good song she goes this

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song is so good I remember I got gang

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raped for this song in an alley yeah and

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I still love the song that's a testament

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to how great that is

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she's canceled and now we're canceled oh

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she oh we have to ask her because some

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guy in a porn was whacking off and when

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he [ __ ] he goes Sarah Silverman she's

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had a lot of stuff about she's got a lot

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of fans so we'll talk about that Sarah

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Silverman has a great sense of humor I

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hung out with her at the 40th at the

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party the 40th anniversary of SNL

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and my running gag that night was just

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checking my phone and saying you're

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trending right now so that was that was

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my runner back then it was a while back

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that's pretty good especially back then

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at the 40th because things were just

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beginning to Trend it was just full of

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stars I have a picture with her from

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that

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um all right let's hear what she has to

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say

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action Sarah

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[Music]

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hello hello

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would you hey I know it wasn't official

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but would you be on our podcast

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sure oh great thank you come on when you

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want to do it now is that her she's a

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black screen where am I how come you

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can't see me are you Baby Jessica in the

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world oh [ __ ] wait let me put it I have

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to put it on uh videos I spent 10

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minutes fluffing my hair around so you'd

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be impressed you know it's so good I

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thank you look it's seriously look at

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Sarah's Hometown why am I so loved I

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don't know it's fun but I I find it

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quite disturbing oh Sarah

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Silverman is on our podcast yeah it's

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not

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video so I'm not going to describe your

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Mansion

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um Sarah we we were just talking about

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just quickly about Ben Simmons and I

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forgot you play ball

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Ben Simmons is a basketball player and

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uh we were saying that I was gonna tell

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Dana that Sarah's a baller and he used

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to play at shanlings oh yes and I had

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played a few times but I think you're

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better than me and that yeah okay don't

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question it just say oh did you I just

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didn't know you please you guys I'm a

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[ __ ] athlete I know so I'm a

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professional cheerleader

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they would throw him up and then he

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would catch him right remember in high

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school I was the uh

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yeah

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so Sarah walk us through uh let's go

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through Dana and I are this is your life

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no I've got a lot of questions no first

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let me answer she played basketball and

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she was good at it and it was with

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Shannon and all these comedians it was

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kind of fun

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yeah I haven't played basketball since

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the pandemic and I am I and now I'm like

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um

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I think I'm should be done because uh in

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general is just not good for you when

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you're older I had switched from I said

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I can only play inside

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because of my news so I did that for a

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long time but then I now I just I don't

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know I feel like I'm gonna really hurt

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myself do your knees know the difference

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yeah because when you play outside like

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on a playground or something it's

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there's it's um you know it's not um

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it's just pavement like oh okay you

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wouldn't understand it's an athletic

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thing but

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so you guys are always part of the cool

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group David you guys are part you're

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cool celebrities both of you I just put

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it together listen Sarah I have a

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question I get two in a row Dana by the

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way me and Dan do not know David is fine

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I love your show and it's so interesting

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and now the pressure's on because I feel

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like oh God I don't but um but I was

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talking to I don't know if either of you

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remember

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um Jonathan Katz the great Jonathan Katz

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yes oh comedian yeah yeah Dr Katz

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professional therapist yeah yeah yeah of

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course 100 yeah I was talking to him

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yesterday and um he was like have you

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heard the fly on the wall podcast with

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Dana Carvey and David Spade and was like

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I'm gonna be on it tomorrow oh geez now

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I'm feeling the pressure what is

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Jonathan hearing that we're not because

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we usually kind of take a nap after this

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and sort of reassess life and

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interesting

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well you know Dana I had some lady in

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front of uh Jersey Mike's yesterday say

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she saw it you know what's funny or she

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heard it but you know what's funny Sarah

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have you ever done this someone goes

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like uh

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hey weren't you on SNL I go thank you

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and she and there was no compliment I

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just get nervous and say thanks

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and then silence I saw I saw you on

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David Letterman and then nothing

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that's the most [ __ ] up I saw you do

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stand up and then silence my uh waiter

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at this place I eat he's German and he

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goes hey there was a there's a picture

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of me of making about the IHOP on

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Holloway no I wish that's where I used

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to go every single day for two years uh

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this is another one and again the waiter

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goes because I was kissing a girl in a

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pool and I don't know something I took a

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picture a couple years ago and he goes

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hey and it was in all these websites

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because she was

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marginally attractive and I'm sickening

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so that's always a story so they go uh

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we gotta get him to a therapist I see

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him he's talking about my friend David

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like that no I like me so I said uh I

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could understand anyway so the joke was

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he came up and he goes hey little pool

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party this weekend and I go and he goes

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a little fun in the sun huh a little uh

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splashing around and I go right and he

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goes I saw pictures of you and I go yeah

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I know I know is this your German accent

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yeah maybe it's not Germany okay

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slightly slightly maybe it's the valley

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so then he goes uh he goes hey and then

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he goes but then they showed you getting

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on the water and you look fat why do you

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want them to have pictures like that I

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go why do I want the paparazzi do

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[ __ ] get out Works he goes you look

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bad and some of the pictures I was like

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well I can't believe it I go do not you

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are from somewhere else because you

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think I picked they take 100 pictures

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and they have a Jeweler's Loop and they

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find the grossest one and go this is the

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one we're going with run with it

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so this is a random fan saying this too

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it's like a friend fan but he's just

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he's very I think he was half being

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funny but he half didn't know that I

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don't sit with the uh editorial at Daily

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Mail and go I think I look better in

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this one they're like you know what

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great if you look better and you like it

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the Daily Mail fills so many pages with

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so much minutiae yeah

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it's crack cocaine you you go you're on

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that thing and man the little pictures

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on the side and that guy's in a bathing

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suit and they're over there it's so

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exciting there's people in there that I

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don't even know and I go why am I and

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they're there every day and I go are

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they paying to be on here because

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there's no reason we should be knowing

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anything it's so I you know I really

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it's not like I'm Britney Spears or

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something it already beats I was like I

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don't know if they're around I never

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seen them pop up unless I want to like

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Google myself like I was you know like

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like Sasha baronco and we were meeting

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for dinner in New York and he's like

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well if we go here will there be

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Paparazzi I go I don't know do you read

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US Weekly

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like how is that a part of your life but

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um yeah it's something scandalous we're

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just getting some noshed

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more photographed right if you're at a

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beach in a bikini or you're on a yacht

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off Italy you know that it got

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telephotos on you right

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I mean I have friends from New Hampshire

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like do you call them and tell them

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where you'll be and like why would I

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call them when I'm walking uphill in

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sweat

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walking my dog looking like 18 zits on

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my I was wearing a hat and sunglasses

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stuff for a while I don't know I was

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allergic to fame and I think at one

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point my wife said I don't think

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anyone's paying attention

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Okay it is true it is true nor should

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they but yeah but there are the dirty

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secret Dana is that there are probably

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50 percent of that is called in now

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it's places that you never see Paparazzi

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there's a couple places you kind of know

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and then it's like they're coming out of

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the Rite Aid and uh you know Topanga and

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it's like we got them and I'm like let's

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see how to call someone have them drive

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out there get them and then either they

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split the money if they're a bigger star

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but if they're not a big star they just

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hope they sell it somewhere they just

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hope they get it out there well I

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remember one time I picked my mom up

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years ago at the airport she was coming

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to visit and

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you know I was just and you know at the

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airport you just get like sloppy thirds

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or what like there's there for someone

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big and then they just see and then the

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airlines you know like

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so I pick up my mom and there's and

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there's like TMZ or Paparazzi just

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walking the whole way to the car and I'm

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just you know you know you're it's like

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stuff with your mom when you're a

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daughter it's there's so much you know

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and she's just loving it and talking to

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them and stopping and talking to them

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and I'm like Mom let's you know and if I

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you know you can't like be upset in

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front of yourself let's just get in the

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car you know you know and she's driving

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me insane for because she loves it so

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much

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and we get in the car and she goes well

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I don't know why you're in such a rush I

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mean they're just doing their job I said

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Mom

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the greatest thing that could happen to

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them is that we but we get into a car

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accident and die right now and they have

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the last pictures of you know like that

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yeah that's true it's not beautiful like

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it's yeah that's so cute yeah if it's

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outrageous you know I don't care but

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it's just like Dana one time I walk in a

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restaurant and there's all these like

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super famous people and it's you know

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obviously they told me later women sell

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better you know because they get in all

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the magazines and what they're wearing a

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lot so I walk in and I go nothing guys

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and then he does it from the waist he he

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has his camera and just from his waist

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goes

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yes

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that's two flashes and I go you don't

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even lift it up to your eye and look

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through it he goes now I know what I'm

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doing I go

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well I better see that somewhere oh

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we're sad little celebrities I remember

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Jimmy Kimmel um he he said

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he's actually overheard like his show

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had just started and but he was

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he was talk so it just started and he

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got like Paparazzi and then he walked

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Pat around the corner and walked past

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the same guy that took his picture and

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he was on the phone and he overheard him

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go like man that's really slow day

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it's so it's such a they always check

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you to remind you what level you are in

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the business so sickening do your

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feelings get hurt easily in Show

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Business Sarah you feel you're tougher

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than you should be I think so really

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anymore I still you know like I get

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fired from things or unhired from things

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and I I don't think it's you personally

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I get I got hired the the this writer

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director wrote this series that's coming

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out on a streaming platform and nights

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in general right her you know he emailed

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me said will you play this role it's a

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rabbi and it's like a drama you know and

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I was like yeah that's cool you know

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it's like this you know there's like

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scenes under a water and it's it's like

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this futuristic whatever nice and it has

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a whole she's in other episodes but then

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she has like one whole episode and I was

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like great and I'm you know I have the

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script and I'm there's dates and

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everything and then he emails me back

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and he said Sarah I'm

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so horrified the

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something plus people

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um

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said no and I I didn't know that was

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even a thing like I thought I could hire

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anyone I wanted but they said no then I

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go

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don't worry you know for in a way it

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like feels like relief like you know

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when people cancel plans and you're like

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ah you know like oh yeah it's relief

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because I you know of course I stress

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about it because I want to do a good job

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but I mean part of me is like

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I I don't understand why I'm a part of

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me does understand why so I just you

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know what do you like so do you get when

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you get hired for corporate gigs or

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anything do you have to tell them ahead

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of time does does your do they know what

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they're getting sometimes or do you

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adapt to a situation because with me

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sometimes they oh yeah they know what

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they're getting right so they go they

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think they know what they want yeah yeah

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I mean there's definitely a time where I

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would have my manager like when I did

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the Ted Talk that they then wouldn't

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post

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um what that's right manager called back

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three different times and say she just

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wants to make sure you because she loves

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TED talks and she you know I always

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watch them with my mom and

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she just wants to make sure you know

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what she is and what she does and I

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really in Earnest like planned the whole

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18 minutes I was so excited and it did

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well and the crowd loved it but

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yeah they wouldn't post it for many

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years and you can I ask why I mean they

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why why did they not want to post it I

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don't know but it was a whole long drama

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where the the head of the TED Talks Ted

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surrender who had called and like

00:17:51

reassured me we want you it's about all

00:17:55

different voices oh my gosh like that

00:17:59

was awful

00:18:01

and I was just like covering their ass

00:18:05

yeah it was so shitty he's apologized

00:18:08

many times since over the years because

00:18:10

uh

00:18:11

you know I but I you know you when you

00:18:14

mess with the comedian it's hard because

00:18:16

then I was like talked about it on like

00:18:19

Real Time with Bill Martin this was like

00:18:20

yeah

00:18:21

you know it like it murdered him and and

00:18:25

um

00:18:25

he called my managers like could we have

00:18:27

a truce you know

00:18:29

sure of course yeah you know I

00:18:32

I did it in such Earnest and then like

00:18:35

yeah I mean I yeah sometimes someone

00:18:37

will tell you out of corporate data CEO

00:18:39

or something oh yeah you go Blue Man Go

00:18:43

kid you know say [ __ ] whatever you want

00:18:45

you're like well okay I don't even use

00:18:46

[ __ ] that much but I dropped a few and

00:18:48

then the booker is kind of like not good

00:18:51

man not good you know I go but the CEO

00:18:53

told me to do it

00:18:54

they're like that guy didn't even work

00:18:56

there I've had people come backstage and

00:18:58

go just [ __ ] around and I go what do you

00:18:59

do here he goes oh I'm friends with the

00:19:01

guy that booked you I'm like oh well I

00:19:03

don't know if I'm going to be going by

00:19:04

you because you're leaving right after

00:19:06

and then I have to deal with they don't

00:19:07

want to pay you I mean yeah I don't want

00:19:09

to disrespect anyone like those

00:19:10

corporate gigs are like you know they

00:19:13

suck and I appreciate them so much

00:19:16

because they're just like it's like how

00:19:19

famous people used to do commercials in

00:19:21

Japan like it's just this hidden thing

00:19:23

where you make money you know you make

00:19:26

more than a regular gig like three times

00:19:28

you could do is like a c plus then you

00:19:31

walk out of there so happy yeah and they

00:19:33

go oh we want you to be crazy and then

00:19:35

they're like you know that when you talk

00:19:37

about coming in God's mouth or something

00:19:39

I know you know a bit on that too I got

00:19:42

one of those coming

00:19:48

[Music]

00:19:50

okay go ahead ask her something good

00:19:53

Dana

00:19:54

um

00:19:56

I look at your stuff today I saw you on

00:20:00

Conan in 93

00:20:02

. oh my God one thing that hit me is

00:20:05

like you're like this

00:20:07

you were so cute and so sweet and

00:20:10

innocent it was like it really was

00:20:12

Charming but you were like 21 or two you

00:20:16

started stand up at 17. So within four

00:20:18

years you're on television that's pretty

00:20:21

good

00:20:22

how did you like what how did how did

00:20:25

you get that good that fast a lot of

00:20:27

people takes 10 years were you

00:20:29

headlining clubs when you went on Conan

00:20:30

or no no you they just saw you at the

00:20:34

Improv and set spots around town okay

00:20:38

but I yeah I got you know I'm from New

00:20:41

Hampshire so but like I went to this

00:20:43

High School where they had assemblies

00:20:45

and they'd let me do like three minutes

00:20:47

you know at assemblies and stuff or like

00:20:50

my math teacher would let me tell like

00:20:53

one joke at the beginning of class and

00:20:55

then I had to be quiet and that was our

00:20:58

deal but

00:20:59

um and then I but when I moved to New

00:21:02

York I I went to NYU and I just went for

00:21:05

one year because I

00:21:06

I've always been a very good student

00:21:09

I've never not done my homework you know

00:21:11

but then I was working at a comedy club

00:21:13

passing out flyers from like 4 P.M to uh

00:21:17

2 A.M every day and then going to

00:21:19

classes and I was sleeping through my

00:21:23

classes and it I'm not like that student

00:21:25

like I was like pinching myself trying

00:21:27

to stay awake I couldn't keep my eyes

00:21:29

open and I so I my dad said if you

00:21:33

quit college I'll pay your like rent and

00:21:37

utilities like 300 450 for the next

00:21:42

three years like it's your sophomore

00:21:43

junior senior year and then you're on

00:21:45

your own

00:21:46

so it was a great deal because I did

00:21:50

steal classes because I had all these

00:21:51

like numbnuts friends that were like

00:21:53

rich and going to NYU and didn't even

00:21:56

want to go to classes you know so but um

00:21:59

then I could just really focus on stand

00:22:01

up and then by the time I would have

00:22:03

been us would have graduated I was

00:22:05

working with you on Saturday Night Live

00:22:07

but you know I mean I was only there one

00:22:09

year and then I got fired and then for a

00:22:10

while I didn't know if I was in show

00:22:12

business anymore

00:22:13

were you kind of like Woody Allen Woody

00:22:16

Allen Steven Wright sort of influenced

00:22:18

in the early days or who was who were

00:22:20

you kind of looking up to as a stand-up

00:22:22

when you started I mean Steve Martin was

00:22:25

my or Steve Martin well I don't you know

00:22:27

like I yeah it's funny because in my the

00:22:30

house I grew up in my room was like the

00:22:34

attic and uh on the ceiling and pencil I

00:22:37

wrote I love Steve Martin with the heart

00:22:39

around it and uh it always was there and

00:22:42

now then my mom died and my we my sister

00:22:45

sold the house

00:22:47

and they the Realtors uh came to one of

00:22:50

my shows in Boston and brought me a

00:22:52

picture they redid the whole house but

00:22:55

they saved that one square ceiling so

00:22:58

it's still there wow he was a big one

00:23:00

for me too I knew all the albums it was

00:23:03

the first thing I was memorizing oh my

00:23:05

God I I just love them so much and but I

00:23:10

bet who I was I imitated so all the

00:23:13

people influenced around me at the

00:23:15

beginning before dice you remind me of

00:23:17

dice when I see my early stuff like they

00:23:21

talked like this today I'm just really

00:23:23

earliest

00:23:24

and you know the great one-liners

00:23:28

great one-liners though which I can't

00:23:30

write so when someone writes a great

00:23:32

one-liner you know like Woody Allen or

00:23:35

Steven Wright those two and you could

00:23:37

yeah that skill set so yeah my mom had a

00:23:39

Woody Allen double album that where he's

00:23:42

at like a nightclub you know it's just

00:23:43

like this watch is very special to me my

00:23:46

uncle on his deathbed sold me this one

00:23:50

yeah it's all that misdirection yeah

00:23:53

sure you know oh so they saw you have

00:23:56

you done any gigs like when I was doing

00:23:58

stand-up I had only been I only got to

00:24:00

New York once at my friend hired me to

00:24:03

open for her company at something open

00:24:06

for Ray Charles at their it was a

00:24:07

corporate gig I actually I got 1500

00:24:10

bucks I bought miserably but I had never

00:24:12

even been to New York and then I went

00:24:14

back and then by the time I got SNL I'd

00:24:16

really maybe only been there twice were

00:24:19

you ever going out west and doing gigs

00:24:21

or everything's pretty much back east in

00:24:23

stand up right

00:24:24

no I had done

00:24:26

um no I had done two things in Los

00:24:29

Angeles I did

00:24:31

comic strip live and evening Club so

00:24:34

they wanted that tape you know

00:24:37

yeah you saw that and it was it Marcy or

00:24:39

who brought you in to see Lauren or did

00:24:42

they just call you

00:24:43

um Marcy Klein or Marcy Klein I'm but I

00:24:48

met with Lauren and Jim Downey in uh in

00:24:52

L.A I've met with Lauren in LA because

00:24:54

he was at Paramount and

00:24:57

and uh I remember I just read like

00:25:00

Saturday night so I just like I went

00:25:03

into the meeting with Lauren and just

00:25:04

asked him a million questions you know

00:25:06

and I feel like that was like a good

00:25:09

move because he's a rock Contour you

00:25:11

know yeah sure and um oh you read the

00:25:14

book Chevy was always like that you know

00:25:17

I I remember I asked to keep I go like

00:25:19

why are you you're a performer like why

00:25:21

didn't you don't like you oh but um

00:25:25

you know like so but and then they

00:25:28

invited me to the Coneheads Premiere

00:25:31

nice and that's when they found out I

00:25:34

got I know hired as a writer oh I was

00:25:37

there I was there and you know there

00:25:40

weren't phones or anything so I was like

00:25:41

I just went to the bathroom and sat in a

00:25:43

stall and was like oh I just wouldn't

00:25:45

call my mom you know

00:25:47

yeah and you uh got so they told you at

00:25:50

the corners Premiere and then you didn't

00:25:51

know what to do with that you're like I

00:25:52

can't focus on this stupid movie

00:25:57

wow so what did you so your first week

00:25:59

there I mean who did you hook up with I

00:26:01

mean did you have friends right away or

00:26:03

someone you knew from stand up or were

00:26:05

you like alone with David

00:26:07

and Jay Moore

00:26:09

too and stand up

00:26:12

I was hired too who I loved but I know

00:26:14

him well and we you know I got to know

00:26:17

him there so you came in with three

00:26:19

other newbies right so four of you that

00:26:21

were coming in yeah but I was the first

00:26:24

day Lauren like matched me up with these

00:26:26

three writers who were also my age and

00:26:30

new Dave Mandel yeah Lou Morton

00:26:34

Steve luckner who's become like a

00:26:37

right-wing he found his little niche and

00:26:40

uh you know look you're right your

00:26:43

business doesn't give you what you feel

00:26:45

you have earned because you went to the

00:26:47

Harper Lampoon it can make you bitter

00:26:49

and then you go oh right she finds me

00:26:52

real funny but

00:26:54

um you know where the love is I'm

00:26:57

fascinated how do you spell that Steve

00:26:58

oh I know but anyway they he said no you

00:27:02

all hanging out you're all you're all 22

00:27:04

and you know and they're all from

00:27:05

Harvard

00:27:06

and we spent the whole day together we

00:27:09

went to like a cat the cafeteria which I

00:27:11

don't think I ever went to again and and

00:27:13

at the end of the whole day of hanging

00:27:15

out I remember one of the most like so

00:27:18

you're what are you like a typist

00:27:21

they thought I was one of the typists

00:27:23

and I was just like no I'm a writer like

00:27:25

you you [ __ ] [ __ ]

00:27:27

wow what

00:27:30

they don't realize there was like a

00:27:32

madman room where there was four girls

00:27:34

typing the sketches for you yeah I mean

00:27:36

computers existed but not there it was

00:27:40

like we you rode in longhand on yeah and

00:27:43

it looked crazy and I can't believe

00:27:45

anyone can follow it and then these like

00:27:46

genius typists in a real typist Claire

00:27:49

like an army yeah they go through Ellie

00:27:53

Claire uh I remember writing on those uh

00:27:55

legal pads because you just had like a

00:27:57

wooden desk and a legal pad and they're

00:27:58

like okay see it read through and you go

00:28:00

what am I doing here I don't even know

00:28:02

how to write a sketch I don't know

00:28:04

anything and you gotta figure as you go

00:28:05

I guess Dana was gone when you got there

00:28:07

yeah he had just left and I remember you

00:28:10

I saw you you came back

00:28:12

one day and you came down like an

00:28:15

elevator I had never seen before and got

00:28:17

off the Vietnam I saw you walk with a

00:28:19

few people and I was like really

00:28:22

I can't secret elevator he came back for

00:28:24

a victory I was I still no one tells you

00:28:26

your way around no one tells you how

00:28:28

things work no like I remember I got my

00:28:31

first

00:28:32

sketch that I had written by myself on

00:28:34

and I was so excited John Malkovich was

00:28:36

the host

00:28:37

and it went great in dress rehearsal and

00:28:40

then this was my first time like having

00:28:43

something so then we're all sitting like

00:28:45

on the floor in Lauren's office after

00:28:47

dress

00:28:48

and I remember I was on the floor and

00:28:51

Malkovich was sitting in a chair like

00:28:53

next to me high up and he looks down he

00:28:55

goes I'm so sorry I I really messed up a

00:28:58

line and dress and I go don't worry

00:28:59

about it you'll you'll get it on the air

00:29:01

it'll be great and Mike Myers goes it's

00:29:04

got look it's on the left side about the

00:29:07

line it's like shut up it's cut you know

00:29:10

I have a show idea like I I just no one

00:29:12

tells you you just you're thrown in you

00:29:15

know like right you walk in after dress

00:29:17

and they'd pick the for the audience

00:29:19

they picked the sketches while you sweat

00:29:21

it out outside the door and then they

00:29:23

finally open and go you can go in and

00:29:25

then you walk in and you immediately

00:29:27

look at the wall and like three sketches

00:29:29

are moved out like they got caught maybe

00:29:31

an updated piece I know what I'm saying

00:29:33

that's how I learned that right so you

00:29:35

sit down and then and then you go oh

00:29:37

look behind you Sarah it's cut no one

00:29:39

ever goes here's how it works you walk

00:29:41

in you look and then you still try to

00:29:44

put on a brave face even though you're

00:29:45

not gonna be in the show

00:29:46

and so you just sit on the floor while

00:29:48

they do a whole meeting and all you can

00:29:50

think of is I'm not even in this one you

00:29:53

know I

00:29:54

I was like I

00:29:55

enjoy being

00:29:58

oh I was not coming back so I'm ready

00:30:01

for the next season I'm thinking like

00:30:02

this is gonna be my idea

00:30:07

you know what I never

00:30:09

I'm getting fired like even still and I

00:30:12

still do you know I do all the time you

00:30:14

know I get tired a lot but I still get

00:30:16

fired from this you know and uh like

00:30:18

before anything that happens but yeah I

00:30:20

was I was

00:30:22

yeah I had never occurred to me you know

00:30:25

you're not a big compromiser it doesn't

00:30:26

seem so you do your act and I've seen

00:30:28

you recently even go on and I always

00:30:31

just like to sit back and watch and see

00:30:33

what you're coming up with

00:30:35

um and it's always fun to see that

00:30:37

you're still you still try you still

00:30:39

work hard I do the same thing when I do

00:30:41

stand up I still like it I still try

00:30:42

it's fine let me get it back up there

00:30:44

and I like when you crawl on the piano I

00:30:46

like when you uh you just have your own

00:30:48

unique thing and then your jokes are

00:30:51

always so clever I go goddamn but at

00:30:53

least it's not like oh this is this type

00:30:58

of comedian that everyone's doing you're

00:31:00

always got your angle and that's why

00:31:02

when people might fire you it's it's in

00:31:05

a weird way a compliment maybe one

00:31:07

percent a comma but um that they go this

00:31:11

she's just thinking out of the box which

00:31:13

is what you want from someone but they

00:31:15

don't really handle it well they go no

00:31:16

no we want the regular stuff you come

00:31:18

off so confident Sarah I just wonder if

00:31:21

do you have situations coming up or in

00:31:23

stand up sometimes like me I just go

00:31:25

mayday mayday I must kill desperate eyes

00:31:28

you know not gonna do it you know but

00:31:31

you always seem you know what I mean

00:31:33

just like well that's better but you

00:31:35

seem Serene and confident it's very

00:31:37

pleasant to watch and I think part of

00:31:39

the reason your specials were so

00:31:42

well received is because that you're not

00:31:45

pushing ever you're letting the audience

00:31:47

come to you I mean is that intentional

00:31:49

it's just your nature or because you do

00:31:51

seem so calm and confident

00:31:53

doing I don't really think about I don't

00:31:56

feel that way you know but I definitely

00:31:58

have learned

00:32:00

from so many people like when you said

00:32:02

that it makes me think of I remember

00:32:04

seeing Chris Rock at the comic strip

00:32:09

years ago and it was before he was who

00:32:13

he is now like pacing and louder and

00:32:15

like you know he hadn't everyone changes

00:32:18

and grows and you know but he was quiet

00:32:21

on stage and he'd go on and like the

00:32:24

comic strip was like it's like a zoo

00:32:26

like people are the audiences are crazy

00:32:28

you know yeah and he he would just

00:32:33

um just start and and not be loud to get

00:32:38

the audience to hear him so it was like

00:32:41

there was no desperation and if they if

00:32:45

the audience missed the first two or

00:32:46

three jokes that's their problem and so

00:32:48

they all got quiet and leaned in and I

00:32:51

go I noticed it you know I was like

00:32:53

oh wow he's so much more powerful being

00:32:56

quiet than going like you know I would

00:32:58

be like hey everyone

00:32:59

um um dogs are funny

00:33:03

and that's like what a teacher would do

00:33:05

like it and it's it's it you can it's

00:33:08

sweaty like there's you an audience can

00:33:11

they don't no they couldn't probably

00:33:13

articulate this but like an audience can

00:33:16

smell desperation you know right it

00:33:19

doesn't help you to like you've got to

00:33:21

get yourself in a place where you're

00:33:22

like all right enough for everyone but

00:33:24

uh the last thing I always say right

00:33:27

before I got if I remember to remember

00:33:30

it is have fun and I remember telling

00:33:32

John lovitzack he credits me with

00:33:34

coaching him but I only gave him a

00:33:35

couple tips but it's very sweet about

00:33:36

him I said John remember you got to have

00:33:38

fun right before you go out thank you

00:33:40

for saying that it saved me so much time

00:33:43

you know and the other thing was there's

00:33:45

a huge difference to remember that

00:33:47

massive you can forget in a second and

00:33:49

then you're five minutes in and you

00:33:51

realize I'm not having fun right now

00:33:52

what what happen you know because you

00:33:55

got it they pick it up but

00:33:57

um John also they're honest they also

00:34:00

like

00:34:01

appreciate that like I I've got I feel

00:34:05

like there have been a few times where

00:34:07

I'm like for some reason or whatever's

00:34:08

going on in my life and I'm not a big

00:34:10

crier I was like sobbing that day and

00:34:13

thinking like and then like thinking

00:34:15

about how of a spot that night just

00:34:16

being like I don't feel funny you know

00:34:19

like nothing's funny and those are all

00:34:22

these nights I have good do you you know

00:34:24

what I mean like you're always surprised

00:34:25

that you have a good set that night

00:34:27

because there's something like cathartic

00:34:29

comes out or I don't know it's like when

00:34:31

you're sick and you got to do a set and

00:34:34

then you have a great set because you go

00:34:35

I just got to do the set I don't have to

00:34:37

kill or not kill there's no pressure I'm

00:34:39

just lucky I'm here I have bronchitis

00:34:41

you know so yes but oh Sarah I got a

00:34:44

question when you go up sometimes Dana

00:34:46

she brings a.m that might be an issue

00:34:48

for you too later what did I do hmm you

00:34:51

did interrupt Dana I did but I thought

00:34:54

he was finished with his where we like

00:34:56

to interrupt each other we feel it's a

00:34:58

good good energy

00:35:00

David okay David go ahead my question is

00:35:03

David Spade because he just made me

00:35:04

think of this but we we do it all the

00:35:06

time

00:35:07

um you have sometimes a notebook when

00:35:09

you go up or a pad you know and and do

00:35:13

you think sometimes it puts less

00:35:16

pressure on jokes because I sometimes

00:35:18

rarely but because I want to read it I

00:35:21

want to get it right like I'll just go

00:35:22

hey I'm going to do this and it it's

00:35:24

almost funnier to them

00:35:26

that I have no belief in it sort of and

00:35:29

then later I do without it it doesn't

00:35:30

work as well

00:35:37

brain damage from

00:35:40

uh so much like marijuana use or I don't

00:35:43

know like I feel like I'm getting like

00:35:45

early I'm so terrified of getting

00:35:47

dementia but I so I you know and I want

00:35:50

to just be able to be loose but I I

00:35:54

can't be loose if I'm like reaching for

00:35:56

like you know what I mean at a certain

00:35:57

point when you're on the road you

00:35:59

remember everything but but I do concede

00:36:02

that having a notebook

00:36:06

gets you a lot of

00:36:09

um

00:36:10

because they feel like you're working on

00:36:12

stuff that it has if they have a it's

00:36:16

the jokes have a feeling of immediacy

00:36:18

that give them a lot more credit for the

00:36:20

audience

00:36:22

when it's something like oh yeah I'm

00:36:24

looking at my notebook but I do know

00:36:25

this works you know yeah so it sometimes

00:36:29

I don't know but like you know but when

00:36:31

but when you're trying new things they

00:36:33

always give you like 10 times more

00:36:35

leeway you know well I think wasn't it

00:36:38

called the alt comedy you know in Largo

00:36:41

where you would comment on your at

00:36:43

comment you know be very open you know

00:36:45

the first time I played in the first

00:36:47

couple times I felt very uncomfortable

00:36:48

because I was like a road comic from the

00:36:50

80s and then then I finally I just had

00:36:54

Nick Kroll interview me or anything

00:36:55

where I'd be tipped off just doing bits

00:36:59

and so I think that you're kind of one

00:37:01

of the you know the the leaders of that

00:37:04

movement in a way that authenticity or

00:37:06

at least that's a Vibe I get you know

00:37:08

the audience feels like you're being

00:37:10

very very real with them and not just

00:37:12

doing bits well I always think like it's

00:37:14

funny when either of you guys are like

00:37:16

nervous at Largo because like you kill

00:37:19

that Largo they love comedy they're like

00:37:21

the great thing about the audience there

00:37:23

is they're they're just huge comedy fans

00:37:26

they just want to like drink you up

00:37:28

however you want to serve it you know

00:37:30

but it's like just because like what you

00:37:32

do works on the road doesn't mean it

00:37:34

won't kill at Largo like it has to be

00:37:36

some experimental like anti-comedy thing

00:37:39

or it not at all like you know sometimes

00:37:42

sometimes your heroes are in the wings

00:37:44

like Martin Short is there or Bill Hader

00:37:46

is going to watch me do stand up people

00:37:48

I really admire and they kind of see how

00:37:51

they know how the rabbit gets out of the

00:37:52

Hat because you're sort of working so I

00:37:54

feel like in that situation it's better

00:37:56

to have loose notes here's what happened

00:37:58

to me today and go with it but um I like

00:38:01

that style so that's what I do now but

00:38:04

not at a corporate date

00:38:08

[Music]

00:38:10

Flanagan's coming over at 12 30. that's

00:38:13

the guy from Largo he runs Largo yeah

00:38:16

flanny I heard you guys talking about

00:38:17

him yeah

00:38:19

he's he's as good as they come on SNL

00:38:22

would you change anything when you were

00:38:25

there because you only did a year you

00:38:26

didn't have a prep because you remember

00:38:27

I think I thought I was coming back too

00:38:29

uh was there a thing you could have done

00:38:33

while you were there or is it just the

00:38:34

way it was going to be I mean I

00:38:36

yeah I think it's just the way it was

00:38:38

going to be I did the best I could for

00:38:39

my age and my experience you know like I

00:38:42

know you're so young very young did you

00:38:45

do any update features because it seems

00:38:46

like if you're coming in there and

00:38:48

you're not acclimating because that's

00:38:50

like stand up in a way I did one update

00:38:55

and but it was an update that like I had

00:38:58

to submit and submit like first it was

00:39:01

in dress and then it got cut and then

00:39:03

like you know people said like you can

00:39:06

resubmit it or whatever and then I

00:39:07

remember Rob Schneider going like I

00:39:09

can't believe you're shoving that update

00:39:10

because she's on our boots again and I

00:39:12

was like my heart just like went in my

00:39:15

stomach you know like what are you doing

00:39:17

they don't want that come on gotta be

00:39:20

original it's got a stink on it it's

00:39:22

true and I wasn't I was a kid and I felt

00:39:26

like I was working with grown-ups and

00:39:28

then I felt like these grown-ups can be

00:39:31

still me like I didn't know grown-ups

00:39:35

were that way you know because I had

00:39:36

only been known grown-ups to be like

00:39:38

friends parents

00:39:40

like like um colleagues you know if I

00:39:45

got on that show at age 22 I would I

00:39:47

never would have lasted I I would not

00:39:49

have had the confidence or the

00:39:51

experience to do it at that age you know

00:39:54

Eddie Murphy did it he was amazing at

00:39:56

19. that's still like a shooting star

00:39:58

there's never been anyone that confident

00:40:00

at 19. but yeah but for you I think it

00:40:03

was just your age because I think you

00:40:06

I think you should go back to that show

00:40:07

I'm so Earnest and I remember I wrote

00:40:09

this sketch that like had some like

00:40:13

like um said something like you know

00:40:16

you're like I can't remember what it was

00:40:17

but it was like had like

00:40:20

um it was about like racism or something

00:40:23

I was trying to like earnestly like use

00:40:25

comedy to say something and it was just

00:40:27

not and then and I remember at one point

00:40:31

I had Farley said like or something like

00:40:34

that like Rio H and he just went at the

00:40:37

table where he just went

00:40:39

Doh no was it a door do you think he

00:40:43

took a dive or did he do it on purpose

00:40:46

so

00:40:52

whatever but I I think I my best there

00:40:56

was um like on punch-up nights because I

00:40:59

could I contributed well and and like

00:41:01

pawn shops and I was so in love with Jim

00:41:04

Downey it's like

00:41:06

heartbreakingly in love with him but you

00:41:08

know he was like a you know and does he

00:41:11

know about this or is he hearing this

00:41:12

from this oh no I'm sure

00:41:15

I'm sure I came on very strong in my own

00:41:18

way but I was like he was like a

00:41:20

grown-up you know and but I remember

00:41:23

writing a sketch and saying like can you

00:41:25

help me with it and he said yeah

00:41:27

and I think it was when Martin Lawrence

00:41:30

was hosting

00:41:32

because his friend wrote there and was

00:41:35

like came

00:41:37

um Bowman or I don't know I can't

00:41:39

remember John Martin's friends maybe no

00:41:42

one of Jim Downey's friends so then they

00:41:45

were hanging out in his office and he

00:41:46

said just wait outside my office until

00:41:48

I'm done here and I fell asleep and then

00:41:51

it I woke up and it was the morning

00:41:54

and he was just coming out and I go are

00:41:57

you ready for me and he's like

00:41:59

For What and I go I gave you my skit

00:42:02

script script and he's like I don't I

00:42:04

don't know I don't have it

00:42:07

down but I mean you know I love him

00:42:10

though I mean of course I still love him

00:42:12

it's like a teacher it's like you being

00:42:14

like a college girl and that's your

00:42:15

professor right yeah yeah Jim is

00:42:19

definitely one of the smartest people

00:42:20

I've ever met I've met a lot I love them

00:42:23

so much

00:42:25

but it was a different time for sure

00:42:28

when you say David a different time a

00:42:31

thousand percent I remember didn't you

00:42:33

stab Franken for some reason

00:42:35

yeah I did accidentally

00:42:38

stabbed out Frankie

00:42:41

okay so for some reason at

00:42:46

um table at um pawn shop and you know

00:42:48

they had this really sharp pencils and a

00:42:50

big thing yeah yeah you know and I was

00:42:52

like leaning back and like I had my

00:42:54

pencils all sharp and he had like a

00:42:56

really big like fro you know Jewish hair

00:43:01

and um I remember just like my brain was

00:43:04

drifting and I just thought like oh I

00:43:07

could like stab this pencil through his

00:43:09

hair

00:43:10

but what people saw was I just turned

00:43:12

and stabbed them and I hit his Temple

00:43:15

and it looked insane not him in the

00:43:19

temple and I remember him just going

00:43:21

like

00:43:24

sorry that's what he said why

00:43:28

why

00:43:30

and I couldn't answer because I was

00:43:33

laughing so hard and tears were pouring

00:43:36

down my face and I looked like a crazy

00:43:38

person that just stabbed out Frank and

00:43:39

then laughed

00:43:42

oh man like put into words like oh in my

00:43:45

head it would go through your hair you

00:43:47

know there's no I'm not crazy way to

00:43:50

explain that I wish I was overlapped

00:43:53

with you for a year because yeah we

00:43:55

could I would have had you on Church

00:43:57

chat we would have had you in Wayne's

00:43:59

World we would have had you a Hans and

00:44:00

Franz you think that now but it feels

00:44:04

like such your ways because you're such

00:44:05

a smart writer that it just wasn't the

00:44:08

time for you to hatch all these things

00:44:09

because later in your life I think your

00:44:11

stand-up is also known for being very

00:44:12

personal and you say so many things

00:44:15

about your life and anything you're

00:44:16

thinking you pretty much say it seems so

00:44:19

or a lot of it that's something you need

00:44:21

to remember like I wasn't me now then no

00:44:23

I'm saying it's kind of

00:44:30

SNL now like you're saying about racism

00:44:31

stuff SNL now does do a lot of

00:44:34

personalized things and they do do a lot

00:44:36

of

00:44:37

political things or what people are

00:44:38

thinking or people take a stand on stuff

00:44:40

but back then like you're saying it was

00:44:42

a different time of course on every

00:44:43

front it was sort of different you know

00:44:46

but I'm so exhausted with like things

00:44:48

that have something to say which I do

00:44:49

like I love being just aggressively dumb

00:44:53

and silly right more than anything I

00:44:55

told someone I was like my comedy is not

00:44:58

important and in this day and age it

00:45:00

feels like it's got to be important and

00:45:01

then you go you know I'm just trying to

00:45:03

get it it's important because your

00:45:05

comedy is important because it's it's

00:45:08

not that it's it's not the lowest common

00:45:11

scenario it's genuinely both of you so

00:45:13

belly laugh funny and everyone can enjoy

00:45:16

it like it doesn't divide anyone which

00:45:19

is massively important

00:45:22

um I I yeah I mean you I I appreciate it

00:45:25

more and more all the time because if

00:45:26

life beats the [ __ ] out of you and you

00:45:28

have people come up to you and maybe if

00:45:30

you're 35 or something they say I really

00:45:32

needed that tonight but now it resonates

00:45:34

with me so if you can get someone to

00:45:36

belly laugh because you can't worry and

00:45:39

Billy laugh at the same time I mean it's

00:45:41

brain brain candy like watching a great

00:45:43

show or watching the movie marry me

00:45:45

which my wife and I loved you in that

00:45:48

movie well you know what's funny about

00:45:49

that it's so good that they held it for

00:45:51

so long because by the time it came out

00:45:53

you know even like cynical [ __ ] like us

00:45:56

are like yeah I just want to feel good

00:45:58

for an hour like really ready to watch

00:46:01

that movie yes because of the pandemic

00:46:04

in Ukraine or whatever it was just like

00:46:05

and then you were just the perfect

00:46:07

sidekick in the movie like didn't every

00:46:10

line just land perfectly but anyway

00:46:12

um

00:46:13

you want to talk therapy for a little

00:46:15

bit yeah only fans I'll give you I'll

00:46:19

give you top picks I used to wet the bed

00:46:21

too for your book you did yeah yeah I

00:46:24

was a champ

00:46:25

for how when did you stop uh you know

00:46:29

probably

00:46:30

somewhere around 12 to 14 I think

00:46:35

um the story I remember the most is

00:46:37

there were five kids two parents and

00:46:39

we're in a Cadillac going driving

00:46:41

through Montana old-fashioned Cadillac

00:46:43

and we couldn't find a hotel so we had

00:46:45

to sleep in the car that night it was a

00:46:47

three-seater of 1958 Cadillac so I got

00:46:50

the spot where the transmission goes you

00:46:52

know behind the seat the hump I'm in a

00:46:54

sleeping bag in the hump and then the

00:46:56

next thing I know waking up is I hear my

00:46:58

brother and my mom looking down at me

00:47:00

and talking about this giant wet spot on

00:47:03

the sleeping bag so like yeah I guess

00:47:05

he's well should we wake him up I don't

00:47:06

know I went to bed I'd heard that and

00:47:09

there there was just no dignified way to

00:47:12

get out of that wet bag you unzip it you

00:47:16

stand up okay you gotta own it but and

00:47:19

you know I I never felt that bad about

00:47:21

it though because I just thought I was

00:47:23

just a heavy sleeper I didn't feel shame

00:47:26

like sleepovers were terrifying I just

00:47:28

like pinched myself awake all night you

00:47:31

know like and I yeah friends that were

00:47:35

twins Lori and Amy Martin they were my

00:47:37

best friends and they knew I was a bed

00:47:39

worker so you know and but I would

00:47:41

really try and like their mom would wake

00:47:43

me up before she went to bed and like

00:47:45

take me to Pizza but so one night I

00:47:47

remember waking up in Amy's room on my

00:47:49

sleeping bag and I had wet and my heart

00:47:52

was pounding I didn't know what to do so

00:47:54

I flipped it yeah so the circle was up

00:47:58

and I so then when Amy came in I go I

00:48:03

wet the bed but it went up so you don't

00:48:05

have to tell your parents you know like

00:48:07

it didn't get on the floor yeah but um

00:48:11

sometimes you would just move over and

00:48:13

sleep sleep on the dry side yeah and

00:48:15

just let it feeling when you wake up and

00:48:18

you're like you feel warm and you're

00:48:20

like did I wet the bed and then you'd

00:48:23

have to move just a little bit and if

00:48:25

you felt that whoosh of cold and air you

00:48:27

knew that you peed you know it was like

00:48:29

so awful I remember I my first sleepover

00:48:32

party was at this girl's house and the

00:48:35

mother was like [ __ ] [ __ ] and the

00:48:39

worst thing was this is actually my

00:48:41

music

00:48:42

um they have a musical opening April

00:48:45

30th in New York and it's called the bed

00:48:48

weather it's I'm not in it it's a year

00:48:50

I'm tense little girl and it has this

00:48:53

scene in it where I I didn't know it was

00:48:56

a sleepover and then they're like oh you

00:48:58

have to sleep over you know and then I

00:49:00

tried to like tell my mom and and

00:49:02

they're all listening and she's like are

00:49:04

you sure you want to sleep over and I

00:49:06

have to say yes because they're on the

00:49:07

other line like listening

00:49:10

and then I have to borrow pajamas her

00:49:12

mother made her daughter she was like a

00:49:14

pageant mom so I'm in these like I'm

00:49:17

seven and wearing these sexy Harem

00:49:19

pajamas sleeping in their sleeping bag

00:49:22

and I wake up drenched and I'm sorry

00:49:26

excited and I just am like from having

00:49:29

to go to a sleepover Camp every year I I

00:49:32

had just had this mechanism of

00:49:34

disassociation where I just like got

00:49:37

changed with all the other girls and it

00:49:40

was wet but I just it probably stank I

00:49:42

just didn't acknowledge it and then

00:49:44

Heather's mom walks in and she steps

00:49:47

right in my wet clothes and this is what

00:49:50

a mother of seven-year-olds does she

00:49:52

picks up the wet clothes and she goes

00:49:57

and I'm just standing there like out of

00:50:00

body and I swear to God it's

00:50:03

1978 or I don't know when it was and the

00:50:06

just as I'm thinking like am I supposed

00:50:09

to say something or can I just I'm not

00:50:11

gonna and then the father came in and

00:50:13

went oh this side

00:50:16

like Elvis Presley dying saved my life

00:50:19

because I was able to just like get

00:50:21

picked up and get out of there while

00:50:22

they were like so upset the King died

00:50:26

it's one of those non-sequitors that

00:50:28

Elvis saved that humiliation did you wet

00:50:31

the bed every night then because mine

00:50:32

was more interstitial but it was fairly

00:50:34

consistent it was a lot of the time and

00:50:38

uh hmm and it was until I was like 15.

00:50:42

and then a couple of times as an adult

00:50:44

like when I got fired from Saturday

00:50:46

Night Live I remember I wet the bed like

00:50:48

three times in that week and it was with

00:50:51

three different in three different men's

00:50:53

beds oh wow

00:50:56

what yeah because I you know I liked

00:50:59

um sex I it was so new to me I lost my

00:51:01

virginity as a as a comedian I was 19.

00:51:05

so I was just like after that I loved it

00:51:07

and I was like what do his balls look

00:51:09

like what do his balls look like what do

00:51:10

his balls look like

00:51:11

now did you

00:51:13

um were your friends like that as well

00:51:15

at 19 like would you call yourself

00:51:18

promiscuous at that point

00:51:20

uh or once when I lost my virginity at

00:51:23

19 like through the year of being 20

00:51:26

yeah yes I like kept Noxzema in my

00:51:29

backpack so I can wash my face wherever

00:51:31

I landed

00:51:33

but um I didn't regret it I got a

00:51:35

terrible reputation I was a [ __ ]

00:51:37

meanwhile all the guys are [ __ ]

00:51:39

different waitresses every single night

00:51:41

you know well yeah there's a difference

00:51:43

these guys I know all of them still

00:51:46

let's see I well no they don't it's not

00:51:49

like something from my past because

00:51:51

they're comedians yeah yeah they're your

00:51:53

friends now wow that's cool I like that

00:51:56

I I always thought it was a double

00:51:57

standard why why do women they have a

00:52:00

one-night stand they're a [ __ ] oh yeah

00:52:01

but all these guys that [ __ ] every

00:52:04

waitress on the road are were just like

00:52:06

cool no no problem and they [ __ ] all

00:52:09

the same girls and wow so when did you

00:52:12

what what are you looking for because

00:52:14

just casually we as a public are fans of

00:52:17

yours we sort of know your different

00:52:19

relationships and do you has it evolved

00:52:22

who you look for or is it Whimsical or

00:52:24

are you out there or are you currently

00:52:26

in a relationship I'm just oh no I'm

00:52:27

yeah I'm I have a living love okay so

00:52:32

how many how uh well how's it going good

00:52:36

I love him he's great I you know I

00:52:38

really felt like I was at a you know

00:52:40

after my 20th year I was just in like

00:52:42

back to back long-term relationship

00:52:45

right so it was that one crazy year of

00:52:47

just wanting to experiment and then

00:52:48

we'll continue I should have I did

00:52:51

everything right in my opinion but you

00:52:53

know

00:52:55

um

00:52:56

yeah he's great he's he's a writer

00:52:59

producer he's so funny and

00:53:03

um I really was at a place where I was

00:53:05

really felt done like I I just feel like

00:53:08

I don't wanna I love love but I kind of

00:53:10

want to share my bed anymore I really

00:53:12

you know I I got to a place in the past

00:53:15

few years before meeting him like where

00:53:18

I really became my own best friend and I

00:53:20

love being alone I love coming home and

00:53:23

I love doing anything I want at all

00:53:26

times and not disappointing anyone you

00:53:29

know I really didn't do it

00:53:30

and then we met over the like at the

00:53:33

beginning of quarantine like in the

00:53:35

March 2020 over

00:53:38

um playing video games like

00:53:40

um playing online Duty online Call of

00:53:43

Duty online cool yeah so every night at

00:53:46

705 we would meet online and kill Nazis

00:53:49

together

00:53:51

and um you know I knew him a little bit

00:53:53

we had mutual friends he's you know he's

00:53:55

a comedian and a writer he was the he

00:53:58

ran The Daily Show with John Stewart for

00:54:00

a long time okay

00:54:01

and do you feel like you've matured or

00:54:05

have more confidence in a relationship

00:54:06

or how have you evolved you know because

00:54:09

going into this one it was really good

00:54:11

because I had I know what I want and

00:54:14

don't want

00:54:15

and I could be very clear from the

00:54:18

beginning in him too we both you know

00:54:21

like I

00:54:22

I've had a I love my exes I have good

00:54:25

taste in men I I you know I I met

00:54:28

several of them that you do have great

00:54:30

taste in men I do and and I'm I love

00:54:33

they're like they become like brothers

00:54:35

you know as you you know and and um

00:54:40

and and uh

00:54:43

but but with the reason why they didn't

00:54:46

work out I don't know specifically each

00:54:49

thing I'm you know whatever but I always

00:54:51

felt like I was disappointing I I tried

00:54:54

it's always my goal to be the best

00:54:56

possible girlfriend and yet I still felt

00:55:00

like I was had that feeling like I'm

00:55:01

disappointing this person in some way

00:55:04

and I just I don't want I'm not I would

00:55:07

never cheat I'm I have total

00:55:10

uh blinders you know not blind I mean in

00:55:13

a good way you know if I'm with someone

00:55:15

I don't see men other men in a sexual

00:55:17

way at all you know I'm very devoted but

00:55:21

I

00:55:22

yes somehow I would feel like oh I'm

00:55:24

disappointing there was always something

00:55:26

so it's nice to be with someone that I'm

00:55:28

not I can just say like this is I'm at a

00:55:31

point where this is how I want things

00:55:33

and he can say the same and we we talk

00:55:36

about stuff it is Spade not on where

00:55:39

were you where were you David did you

00:55:41

have to make a [ __ ]

00:55:43

did you have to make a BM

00:55:45

we see him do you hear us we were just

00:55:48

talking about relationships and love and

00:55:50

I think I do sorry Sarah

00:55:53

whatever it happens

00:55:58

you sound like you're drunk so it's like

00:56:01

Sarah I'm so sorry that happened no I'm

00:56:04

kidding no I we had a situation here I

00:56:08

don't want the people in room 29 there

00:56:11

was a oh

00:56:13

um we're just talking about

00:56:14

relationships and uh how Sarah's evolved

00:56:17

and has a a live-in lover and what how's

00:56:21

that going uh you know I've been married

00:56:23

for 40 years you know yeah to six

00:56:25

different women but my point is this no

00:56:28

I say that every week my only joke I

00:56:29

ever wrote but I I do think with mine it

00:56:32

was uh conflict you know afraid of

00:56:35

conflict and then you bury the

00:56:37

resentment you're starting to carry

00:56:39

anger around it you don't even know

00:56:41

because you don't is this the Ant Hill I

00:56:43

die on right now or should I let it go

00:56:45

by so um both my wife and I had five

00:56:48

years of therapy so we're we're great

00:56:50

we're always good but we're better yeah

00:56:52

I mean that's what Rory and I we'd

00:56:54

always go like face value I don't want

00:56:57

to meet a relationship where I have to

00:56:58

decipher what you mean by what you say

00:57:01

or like sure no that's fine oh no no if

00:57:05

I say it's fine it's fine and you know

00:57:08

it's my responsibility to say like

00:57:12

I have a problem or with that if you

00:57:14

know and not go like okay you know I

00:57:17

mean then I just can't with that stuff

00:57:19

like so we just go face value like

00:57:22

you know what I say is what I mean and

00:57:25

that's how I would only expect you to

00:57:27

take it you know and it cuts out a lot

00:57:29

of [ __ ] if you get into a place

00:57:31

where you're actually both trying to

00:57:32

open the door for the person and it's

00:57:34

really organic like I just really want

00:57:36

to help my wife and she really wants to

00:57:38

help me and we're codependent in a

00:57:40

positive way if you have a narcissist

00:57:42

and an empath and they get together all

00:57:45

hell breaks loose because the narcissist

00:57:46

can't help but they don't know they are

00:57:48

and they start to harvest and use and

00:57:50

abuse the empath so would you how are

00:57:53

where are you on that gradient scale in

00:57:54

your mind you seem like an empath well

00:57:56

the narcissist would say I'm the empath

00:57:58

right okay

00:58:00

funny maybe it's destructive though too

00:58:02

but go ahead you know that book by Alice

00:58:05

Miller I think it's called Drama of the

00:58:07

gifted child it's big yes so I remember

00:58:10

reading it and I met with a friend for

00:58:12

lunch and I go oh I just read this book

00:58:14

it's called Drama of the gifted child

00:58:15

and she goes oh I heard a really

00:58:17

interesting story about that it's

00:58:20

originally titled drama of the

00:58:22

narcissistic child but they realized the

00:58:25

people that would need to read it

00:58:26

wouldn't so they they named a drama of

00:58:29

the gifted child and then I was like a

00:58:32

little deflated and also like it really

00:58:33

made me go like wow yeah but but I would

00:58:36

say just for myself uh empathetic people

00:58:39

can be dysfunctional and passive

00:58:41

aggressive and people pleasing like I

00:58:43

didn't even think that as

00:58:44

self-congratulatory and we all have a

00:58:46

combo but I did learn in therapy that um

00:58:50

you know it's very very good to try to

00:58:53

get in touch with saying no on your

00:58:55

inner narcissist if you're you want some

00:58:57

of that going in other words you draw

00:58:59

boundaries this is it I won't take any

00:59:02

more of this and so that really helped

00:59:03

me with that that was kind of patterns

00:59:05

from my childhood crazy parents crazy

00:59:07

everything so

00:59:11

[Music]

00:59:14

it's funny somebody called into my

00:59:15

podcast yesterday about sex workers like

00:59:18

just saying like um you know I I don't

00:59:21

know how to feel about like porn and sex

00:59:23

workers like they should you know do

00:59:26

what they want but aren't a lot of them

00:59:28

have like really traumatic

00:59:31

pasts and you know and I you know I

00:59:33

don't know the answer to this but I was

00:59:35

talking about I go like it's so funny

00:59:36

because yes they probably have common

00:59:38

trauma but so do comedians so do actors

00:59:42

so do uh politicians they have common

00:59:45

traumas that drive them to want to do

00:59:47

the X Y or Z you know yeah

00:59:51

all right guys so well I want to mention

00:59:53

Sarah Silverman's podcast which I watch

00:59:57

and that's really fun on YouTube you

00:59:59

know oh my gosh so you've been doing

01:00:01

that like for during the pandemic couple

01:00:04

hundred shows or that's when I started I

01:00:06

was like

01:00:07

I couldn't do stand up I couldn't fathom

01:00:09

doing stand-up on Zoom like you know and

01:00:12

then I was like I I I'm gonna have to do

01:00:15

a podcast because I you know I know

01:00:18

where to put this or like to generate

01:00:21

even to like make a living just stand up

01:00:24

you know yeah and keep your mind sharp

01:00:26

by you know improvising and stuff like

01:00:28

that yeah I really I like it I mean it

01:00:31

just the only thing about it is that

01:00:32

it's never ending

01:00:35

you know like yeah I think I just you

01:00:37

don't get a bunch of episodes and then

01:00:38

take a month off or you're just

01:00:40

consistently churning them kind of um

01:00:43

like I just shot this show and I had to

01:00:46

take

01:00:48

two or three weeks off so but what I do

01:00:50

is I talk forever and then they take

01:00:54

anything that can be Evergreen and save

01:00:57

it so I do like stockpile stuff that

01:01:00

isn't um like from this moment and then

01:01:04

like I'm when I go to New York to do the

01:01:07

musical The bedwetter which opens April

01:01:10

30th at the Atlantic theater based on

01:01:13

your book yeah yeah it's a little bit

01:01:16

yeah one year

01:01:17

and uh BB new Earth is playing my Nana

01:01:21

oh she's incredible I was thinking she's

01:01:24

too old to play 10. yeah no she's like a

01:01:27

young sexy Nana from like with a Boston

01:01:29

accent and Sarah you get calls on

01:01:31

voicemail and then you listen to them

01:01:33

and answer them right yeah so so so we

01:01:36

so will bank I like banked some when I

01:01:39

did my last one I did like a lot a ton

01:01:41

of ads the ads are a little soul killing

01:01:44

but like I do look through them and like

01:01:46

if they really have a bad like Better

01:01:49

Business Bureau grade or something I say

01:01:51

no but I do a lot you know a lot of them

01:01:53

I kind of like to own them I don't know

01:01:55

why it doesn't it's funny broadcaster

01:01:59

yeah they seem fun Remember When Johnny

01:02:01

Carson would hold up Alpo and stuff like

01:02:03

that you know just to go right at it but

01:02:06

it's really fun to fun to watch that

01:02:08

show and your clothes change a lot I

01:02:10

guess because they do edits because like

01:02:12

you have a blue shirt on and then they

01:02:13

do a cut and then you have a yellow

01:02:15

sweater on stuff yeah because it doesn't

01:02:17

matter with podcasts nobody cares mostly

01:02:19

people hear it audio if they watch it on

01:02:21

YouTube yeah you'll see me in different

01:02:24

outfits because it will be like stuff

01:02:25

from this week that week this week you

01:02:28

know like more Evergreen things will

01:02:30

just be from other weeks where I just go

01:02:33

and go and go you know but um yeah yeah

01:02:35

the calls are like sometimes they're so

01:02:38

sad and I you know and I have to

01:02:40

remember like I have to try to be funny

01:02:42

at some point in this

01:02:43

episode this is like but I also like I'm

01:02:46

so sorry you're you know Grandma

01:02:48

sometimes you're just giving girls

01:02:49

serious advice which is kind of kind of

01:02:52

cool

01:02:53

you know yeah you're actually it's funny

01:02:55

because I like I did like this more

01:02:57

political show on Hulu and then I did a

01:03:00

pilot for a political show on HBO and

01:03:02

like you know again I'm like shocked

01:03:05

when they don't pick it up I'm like what

01:03:07

I always think I'm putting gold in their

01:03:09

lap because I like it you know and but

01:03:12

now I have no desire to do a play I just

01:03:15

want to do dumb silly stuff because I've

01:03:16

got the podcast to talk about whatever I

01:03:18

want to talk about and

01:03:20

you know I just want to laugh big silly

01:03:23

stuff that's just uh you know why

01:03:26

watched uh the second Pink Panther

01:03:28

because my mother-in-law was in town

01:03:30

love slapstick with Peter Sellers uh

01:03:32

revenge of the Pink Panther and it was

01:03:34

just seeing her laugh at 91 from Dublin

01:03:37

belly laughing crazy and and then I

01:03:40

started to do it you know it's such a

01:03:43

joy you know those kinds of

01:03:44

old-fashioned movies just silly big set

01:03:47

pieces that are relentlessly everything

01:03:49

that could go wrong does go wrong and

01:03:52

Peter Sellers with this whole thing

01:03:53

anyway that's like super Dave like he

01:03:56

was like the yeah he was for me like I

01:03:59

never was really into physical comedy

01:04:01

but super Dave is Total Physical comedy

01:04:05

and I

01:04:06

he made me laugh so hard yeah he was he

01:04:10

knew it was coming but it didn't it

01:04:12

didn't matter there's something Primal

01:04:14

about it you know falling down and stuff

01:04:17

you know yeah my niece sent me a video

01:04:20

that she took of my dad she showed him

01:04:22

like a a Triumph the insult dog like

01:04:26

special and he was I thought he was

01:04:28

gonna die he was laughing so hard the

01:04:30

Star Wars one or the dog show I love the

01:04:33

Star Wars one but it was like a

01:04:35

political special he had done yeah

01:04:37

Robert smile strikes again oh my God

01:04:40

yeah those are funny they're just so

01:04:42

yeah man he's talking to the guy in the

01:04:44

Darth Vader thing and he's like what

01:04:46

does this button do call your mom to

01:04:48

pick you up

01:04:50

that's the best one

01:04:52

oh uh all right we should let Sarah go

01:04:55

she's been a good sport she's got a big

01:04:58

night tonight I do no no I don't know

01:05:01

I'm just asking what are you gonna do

01:05:03

after we finish this podcast Danny's

01:05:06

coming over to see my house because I I

01:05:08

just bought my first ever house woo

01:05:13

yeah so he's coming over we're getting a

01:05:15

little lunchy and then and then walk the

01:05:18

dogs whatever let's sound on ended

01:05:20

earlier when it was better

01:05:22

you know when I talked to Jonathan Katz

01:05:24

he told me a joke he had just made up

01:05:26

and it was so funny he said um you know

01:05:30

Sarah

01:05:31

I think we can all agree the worst

01:05:34

people in the world are child

01:05:35

pornographers

01:05:37

like oh yeah and he goes I think they

01:05:39

should be prosecuted as adults

01:05:43

it's not like that's such a perfect joke

01:05:45

yes all right well Sarah David Spade you

01:05:50

got a joke David

01:05:52

no um I don't think so okay ready here's

01:05:56

a joke he's always got some I said

01:05:59

there's a it's an it's the 90th

01:06:01

anniversary no it's a 90 year old couple

01:06:04

oh no you know what that means there's

01:06:08

six 60th anniversary and the wife wants

01:06:10

to do something special so she tells the

01:06:12

guy to get in bed and she's got a

01:06:14

surprise from so a nine-year-old woman

01:06:17

she goes in the in the bathroom and gets

01:06:19

naked except for a cake she puts on a

01:06:21

cape and then she pops out of the

01:06:24

bathroom and gets the foot of the bed

01:06:25

and goes Super [ __ ] and he goes I'll

01:06:28

take the soup

01:06:32

[Laughter]

01:06:36

[Applause]

01:06:41

just take that to your I was nervous to

01:06:44

come on the show and I was listening and

01:06:46

I wrote down something in case I didn't

01:06:48

think of anything because I was

01:06:50

listening you're all talking about

01:06:51

Saturday Night Live and everything and I

01:06:53

I had written one thing down which is

01:06:55

not that but it's

01:06:57

you know when I worked there I was

01:06:58

always like on the fourth row in

01:07:00

read-throughs like way in the back and

01:07:03

then I hosted one time and I you know

01:07:05

you get to sit right next to Lauren and

01:07:08

uh I have like a terrible Sound

01:07:11

Sensitivity misophonia like mouth sounds

01:07:14

and stuff that like make me insane

01:07:17

the whole read through Lauren is eating

01:07:19

baby carrots

01:07:23

I was like Out of Body Experience like

01:07:26

it makes me like I can't even hear

01:07:28

concentrate on anything I tried to like

01:07:31

Slide the the platter away like without

01:07:34

anyone noticing he pulls it background

01:07:38

and I remember he would do that and

01:07:40

occasionally I'd say what are you doing

01:07:41

he goes he goes uh oh what's up doc

01:07:44

sorry Bugs Bunny

01:07:47

Bugs Bunny Lauren doing Bugs Bunny

01:07:50

there's that thing of like you're

01:07:52

chewing that's funny audio sensory

01:07:54

bedwetting tactile uh new uh live-in

01:07:59

boyfriend having fun said it all we kind

01:08:02

of we kind of did it all too

01:08:04

all right well thank you Sarah see we'll

01:08:07

end it on one of these all right thank

01:08:09

you Sarah we have five endings bye bye

01:08:12

Sarah

01:08:13

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Johnny Byrne this is your question was

01:08:51

not about Adele but you say hi David and

01:08:53

Dana I'm a 29 year old comic from Salt

01:08:56

Lake not Mormon uh who has been in

01:08:59

Chicago for five years and just moved to

01:09:00

L.A I'm sure you get this question a lot

01:09:02

but what advice would you have for

01:09:04

someone who inspires Ben SNL you know

01:09:07

that is a common question but

01:09:08

the only answer is and I get the

01:09:10

question a lot about most about being

01:09:12

comic is they have to find you I think

01:09:16

it's there's no secret advice from Me

01:09:19

Maybe Dan has more he's he knows more

01:09:21

than me but if you're good

01:09:23

even other Comics will help you get on

01:09:25

other shows even people go you're good

01:09:27

it's kind of a weird thing but

01:09:30

someone will say you're good and someone

01:09:32

will say to their agent maybe you should

01:09:33

check this guy out and just getting

01:09:35

stage time is probably my best advice as

01:09:37

much as you can yeah first of all make

01:09:39

sure it's a passion because show

01:09:40

business will break your heart they used

01:09:42

to have people come to our College San

01:09:44

Francisco State wasn't a real college

01:09:45

and they'd be like a regional actress or

01:09:48

did a couple commercials the first thing

01:09:50

they'd always say is if you can do

01:09:52

anything else in your life besides Show

01:09:54

Business do that only do that if you

01:09:56

can't live without doing it so first of

01:09:58

all you've got to have the passion

01:09:59

secondarily you just got to live on

01:10:01

stage you got to either be a stand-up

01:10:03

living on stage work under material or

01:10:05

go to the ground leads or second City do

01:10:07

all the classes keep going networking

01:10:09

but the main thing is the passion and

01:10:12

always look at your feet don't look at

01:10:14

I'm making it or while make it forget

01:10:17

future tripping just like how good am I

01:10:19

today am I a little bit better today

01:10:21

than it was I yesterday people say I'm

01:10:24

gonna do this is free I'm not going to

01:10:26

charge anyone for this people say I I'm

01:10:28

gonna try it for six months I'm gonna

01:10:29

try it for you if I don't make it what

01:10:32

you do in that six months or a year

01:10:33

you're probably going to be a lifer just

01:10:35

so you know are you really going to go

01:10:36

back no so you go am I doing one percent

01:10:39

better did I get one call back in this

01:10:41

year instead of zero I'm doing better

01:10:43

it's an emotionally violent sport even

01:10:46

after you have success and you're in a

01:10:47

big movie and it bombs or or you're at a

01:10:50

corporate date and you bomb so it's just

01:10:51

emotionally violent it's also

01:10:53

exhilarating I told myself early on I

01:10:56

said if David Spade ever gets on

01:10:58

Saturday Night Live I'll quit Show

01:10:59

Business

01:10:59

[Laughter]

01:11:05

before SNL and I wasn't on SNL we're two

01:11:08

civilians yeah and now we're here today

01:11:10

can you believe it so I legally adopted

01:11:12

him 18 years ago because people on

01:11:14

Instagram or is he your kid or what's

01:11:16

going on he is now hey son uh Johnny

01:11:18

thank you for that and I hope that helps

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Episode Highlights

Early Stand-Up Success
Started stand-up at 17 and was on television within four years. 'That's pretty good.'
“That's pretty good.”
@ 20m 18s
October 07, 2022
The Influence of Steve Martin
Grew up idolizing Steve Martin, even wrote 'I love Steve Martin' on my ceiling.
“I love Steve Martin with the heart around it.”
@ 22m 37s
October 07, 2022
The Pressure of SNL
Describes the anxiety of waiting to see if sketches made it to the show. 'No one tells you how things work.'
“No one tells you how things work.”
@ 28m 28s
October 07, 2022
Finding Confidence in Comedy
Discusses the importance of having fun on stage and the pressure to perform. 'You got to have fun right before you go out.'
“You got to have fun right before you go out.”
@ 33m 38s
October 07, 2022
Confidence at a Young Age
Eddie Murphy was amazing at 19, a true shooting star of confidence.
“There's never been anyone that confident at 19.”
@ 39m 58s
October 07, 2022
The Importance of Comedy
Comedy can provide relief and joy, acting as brain candy for the soul.
“If you can get someone to belly laugh, it's brain candy.”
@ 45m 36s
October 07, 2022
Finding Love During Quarantine
Meeting a partner while playing video games online during quarantine changed everything.
“I really became my own best friend and I love being alone.”
@ 53m 12s
October 07, 2022
Podcasting Journey
Exploring the challenges and joys of podcasting, including the need to keep content fresh.
“It's never ending.”
@ 01h 00m 32s
October 07, 2022
The Bedwetter Musical
Discussing the upcoming musical based on her book, featuring a unique cast.
“It's a little bit... one year.”
@ 01h 01m 16s
October 07, 2022
Advice for Aspiring Comics
Sharing insights on pursuing a career in comedy and the importance of passion.
“Show business will break your heart.”
@ 01h 09m 42s
October 07, 2022

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Stand-Up Beginnings20:16
SNL Journey22:05
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First Sketch Excitement28:34
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Confidence39:58
Quarantine Love53:12
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