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Special Needs Children: How to Protect Their Future and Yours - E119

October 22, 2025 / 40:22

This episode covers special needs planning, financial strategies for families with special needs children, and the emotional aspects of caregiving. Host Jesse Kramer discusses the unique financial challenges faced by these families, including higher ongoing costs, unpredictability, and the need for long-term planning.

Kramer shares personal stories that highlight the emotional stakes of raising a child with special needs. He emphasizes the importance of building a support system, effective communication, and creating a structured environment for children with disabilities.

The episode also details key financial tools such as special needs trusts, ABLE accounts, and government benefits like SSI and Medicaid. Kramer explains how these tools can help families manage their finances while ensuring their special needs children receive the care they need.

Listeners learn about the importance of life insurance as a funding mechanism for long-term care, and the necessity of guardianship and legal planning to ensure proper decision-making for their children.

Finally, Kramer encourages families to seek professional help and community resources to navigate the complexities of special needs planning, ultimately aiming to provide peace of mind for parents.

TL;DR

Jesse Kramer discusses financial and emotional strategies for families with special needs children, covering planning tools and support systems.

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Jesse Kramer. Welcome to Personal
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119. My name is Jesse Kramer. By day, I
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have one deep dive episode about a
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single uh specific topic and that's what
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we're doing today. And then I'll have
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one episode featuring an expert guest.
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So today's deep dive episode is going to
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be on the topic of special needs
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planning. So So here's my ask. Maybe
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special needs planning, you know,
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planning for a special needs child,
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having a special needs child, doesn't
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apply to you, doesn't apply to your
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family, but I would bet you know someone
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who it does apply to. And maybe, just
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maybe, this episode will introduce that
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person and that family to just one or
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two ideas that will make their burden
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lighter, that will help them make a
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smart financial or legal decision on
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behalf of their special needs child.
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It'll help them sleep at night a little
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bit better knowing that their child will
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be taken care of. So, my ask to you is
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to share this episode with that person
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in your life and see if it makes their
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life a little bit better. But before we
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start, we do have a review of the week
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from the Joel 11. Joel gives a five-st
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star review saying, "Explaining the
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complex situation." I love this podcast.
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Jesse explains the complex world of
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money in a way my kids can even
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understand. I highly recommend it. Joel,
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thank you for that kind review. You can
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shoot me an email to jesse@
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bestinterest.blog and I'll get you
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hooked up with a supersoft podcast
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t-shirt. So, now on to special needs
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planning. I want to start the episode
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with a little story, a personal story.
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In September of this year, September of
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2025, our daughter had what I would call
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her first serious sickness of her life.
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you know, definitely more than just a
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cold, more than just a day or two. She
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had a fever on or off for for 5 days.
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Really didn't get back up to full speed
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for seven or eight days. She was cranky
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and crying way more than normal during
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the days, seeking our comfort. She was
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definitely in pain from some of the the
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symptoms. And at only 15 months old, she
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couldn't really express to us exactly
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what was wrong, how we could make it
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better. She would cry on and off during
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her sleep during the night. And she's
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back to normal now, full strength. It's
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awesome. But truly, for the first time
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as a parent, this little part of my
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heart, you know, broke for her. Cuz
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here's this helpless baby through no
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fault of her own. She's in suffering.
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She's in pain. All she wants is to feel
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better, sleep through the nights, and
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live her normal baby life. And if I
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could, I would snap my fingers and give
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that to her. But I couldn't. All we
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could do was monitor her temperature,
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give her baby motin, try to read into
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her cries as best we could and give her
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what she wanted, and then wait and see
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if it it got better, see if she got
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better. is the type of week that made me
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so thankful when she did recover back to
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normal and my mind began to think about
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the many parents out there who have to
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deal with things on a regular basis far
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worse than just a week-long illness. So
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that's why today I want to focus on not
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only the emotional and human stakes, but
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also the financial stakes for when a
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child or another dependent has a
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disability or some sort of chronic
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illness because those circumstances
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require we plan not only for the parents
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lifetimes, which is maybe what we're
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mostly thinking about here as listeners,
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but we also have to think for our
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child's full lifetime, not just when
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they're in the household, not just the
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529 college plan. We have to think of
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our child's lifetime long beyond that.
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Another quick story. I I appreciate that
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as my dad drove me to Rochester to drop
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me off for my freshman year of college
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at the U of Melora to any U of our
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listeners out there. We had a talk about
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this. You know, at the time that was
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going to be the first and biggest step
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towards me dropping off of the parental
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budget. Well, when someone has a child
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with a disability or a chronic disease,
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they might never be able to fall off the
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parental budget. But then there's so
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much more so much more meaningful stuff
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and and so many more anxietyinducing
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questions. you know, how will my child
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be cared for after I'm gone, after I
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die? How do I balance our personal needs
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today with tomorrow's needs and with the
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child's needs? So, that's why we're
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going to dive deep on the topic of
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financial planning and a little bit of
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life planning for parents of special
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needs children and and special needs
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adults. And we'll start with some life
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planning thoughts, then dive into the
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unique financial challenges that special
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needs families face. And then we'll get
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into some key planning tools like
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government benefits, special needs
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trusts, ABLE accounts, and insurance
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planning. We'll get into broader family
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financial ideas like retirement planning
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for the parents, sibling considerations
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and estate planning. And we'll end with
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some emotional and practical
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considerations and and some action
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steps. So, first let's just talk about
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the life aspect. Now, I'm not a special
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needs expert. I'm not a therapist, not a
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doctor, just a guy online who reads and
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listens to what other people have to
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say. So, I don't want to get into this
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lane too much because it's really not my
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lane. But here's what some smart people
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actually in that lane have to say. They
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say things like, "Raising a child with
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special needs doesn't mean managing
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appointments or insurance forms. It
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means building a sustainable life both
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for the children and for you as their
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parents." First, it's about building a
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support system. You can't do it alone.
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Parents who thrive on this journey, they
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learn to lean on other people, extended
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family, friends, mentors, especially
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other parents walking a similar path.
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Sometimes the most valuable support
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isn't advice, but someone who simply
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understands what the daily ups and downs
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are. We all know those aspects of our
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own lives where we meet someone on a
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similar path and we say, "Oh yeah, you
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get it, right? You can empathize with
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me. You get what I'm going through. We
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feel each other's journey." And being a
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special needs parent is a prime example
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of that. Second, communication matters
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even more than it normally matters.
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That's communication between spouses,
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between siblings, between parents and
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teachers and doctors and therapists.
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Everyone needs to be on the same page.
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Misunderstandings can cause a lot of
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frustration, but clear, proactive
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communication helps make life smoother
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again, both for the child and for the
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child's family. Third, we can think
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about routines and structure. Children
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in general, but especially children with
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special needs, often thrive when life is
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predictable. It doesn't necessarily have
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to mean rigid schedules, but it does
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mean creating rhythms that provide
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comfort and reduce stress. Structure can
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be a a safe foundation. You know,
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freeing up the rest of your time and
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energy and the rest of your children's
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time and energy for some sort of growth
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and learning and progress. Not to
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mention, as the parent, structure helps
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you get through your days and your weeks
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and months. The fourth thing to think
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about is care for the caregivers
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themselves. It might be the most
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overlooked aspect. In my reading online,
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this is where many parents feel a real
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internal struggle. They know how much
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they're sacrificing for the sake of
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their children. And it's a sacrifice
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that they want to make. Something they
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would do 100 out of 100 times, but it
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doesn't make it any easier. And
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everyone's well-being matters. And the
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burnout is real. You can't pour from an
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empty cup, as they say. So building in
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some sort of rest time, whether it's 5
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minutes of quiet in the morning or a
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full afternoon off, makes the entire
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family stronger. And then fifth, plan
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for the long term, not financially, but
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emotionally. Every parent of a special
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needs child wonders, "What will happen
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when I'm no longer here?" While
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financial planning is one part of that
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answer, and we'll spend most of today's
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episode on that part of the
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conversation, equally important is
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making sure your child has a community,
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a network of caring people, a road map
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of their preferences and routines,
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almost as if it's a guide book about
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your children for the future. Outside of
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the finances, outside of the legal
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questions, how will your child's life
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look when you're gone? And the last bit
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of advice on the life planning side is
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to celebrate the small wins. You know,
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life planning isn't just about
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mitigating challenges and reducing risk
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and then thinking about insurance and
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and estate planning. It's about noticing
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progress, you know, embracing the little
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things, the joy, acknowledging the
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resilience that your family builds every
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single day. And from the reading, it it
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seems like those moments, both big and
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small, are what carry families like this
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forward. But now, let's transition to
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some financial topics. Some unique
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financial challenges of special needs
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families. For most families, financial
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planning already feels like putting
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together a puzzle. In some cases, you
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have all the pieces and now it's just
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about putting those pieces together. In
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other cases, most of the pieces are
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missing or unknown. So, good luck
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solving that puzzle. You know, the first
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job is just assembling all the pieces
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themselves. And the pieces are, you
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know, retirement, kids college, a
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mortgage, healthcare, insurance, taxes,
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estate planning, minimizing debts, and
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actually loving life along the way,
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ideally. But now, imagine we add one
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more piece to that puzzle. Only this one
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doesn't really seem to fit well at all.
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It's more unpredictable. It somehow
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keeps on changing shape. And that's the
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reality for most families raising
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children with with special needs. It's
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not just that it's more expensive. It's
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just a fundamentally different financial
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landscape. So to talk about some of
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those unique challenges, the first one
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is higher ongoing costs. It's kind of
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the obvious one. It's more money out the
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door. Special needs families often face
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expenses far beyond what traditional
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financial planning assumes. therapies,
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specialized medical care, extra and and
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expensive prescriptions, adaptive
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equipment, individualized education
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programs, transportation, inhome care,
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full-time aids even. And those costs
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don't come with an end date often,
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right? For many parents, fully healthy
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and and kind of neurotypical children
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can you can budget around milestones.
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Daycare until age five, school, college
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for four years, maybe you're buying your
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kid a car at 16, something like that.
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Christmas gifts every year. I know that
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my children will eat more as teenagers
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and then they'll ask for more
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discretionary spending along the way.
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But the whole point is that we can
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budget for our kids based on their age,
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based on their stage in life. And we
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know at some point that budget probably
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has an end date. But for special needs
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parents, they don't really get clean
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budget horizons. The needs persist
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sometimes for decades, often far into
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adulthood. And even within categories
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like health care, the baseline is simply
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different. Many families worry about the
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occasional ER visit or or braces. But
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special needs families think about
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weekly therapy, annual surgeries,
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expensive medications not fully covered
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by insurance. So all of this creates a
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higher and more persistent drag on their
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cash flow. Not a one-time hurdle, but a
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marathon of higher ongoing costs. The
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second unique financial challenge is
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unpredictability, uncertainty. Most
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children grow and learn, gain
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independence in their late teens, early
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20s. And again, we know by 18 my
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daughter will be in college and by 22
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she'll be out and working. And it makes
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planning at least somewhat linear. But
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for a special needs child, you know,
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will they be able to live independently?
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Will they ever work? Will they always
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require daily care? Will their health
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improve and stabilize or will it
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deteriorate? And those unknowns force
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families to plan kind of on multiple
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timelines all at once. It's something we
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all need to do. Planning multiple
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timelines is something we all need to do
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because we don't know, say, how
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investment markets or tax codes might
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change in the future. But with a special
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needs family, imagine where, you know,
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one scenario where the child needs
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lifelong support, one where they achieve
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semi-independence, one where they end up
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thriving on their own. Those are very
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different scenarios, very different
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timelines. There's also unpredictability
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of public support. You know, will public
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government programs like Medicaid or
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SSI, supplementary security income,
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local educational resources, will they
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still exist in their current form in 20
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years? No one really knows. Parents have
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to wonder how much of a safety net will
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be there when they're gone. And that
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uncertainty isn't just stressful. It
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actually changes the math, too. It leads
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families to save more than they
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otherwise would because undersshooting
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your goal has catastrophic consequences
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to your kids. And then there's the the
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parental balancing act, we'll call it.
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You know, parents know they can't afford
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to only think about their special needs
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child. They still have to think about
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themselves. They have to think about
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other kids if they have other kids. It's
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where some guilt enters the equation.
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How can I save for my own retirement
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when my child might need care forever?
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Is it fair to help our special needs
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child at the cost of burdening our other
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children with college debt? Right? Those
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are deeply emotional questions. And
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financially speaking, the challenge is
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prioritization. Every family faces
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trade-offs between retirement, college
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savings, present- day spending. But for
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special needs families, the stakes are
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if they neglect their retirement, they
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risk becoming financially dependent on
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their other children later in life. And
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that's a burden no parent wants to
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place. But if they short change their
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other kids, they risk resentment or
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family fractures down the road or
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they're just making life harder for
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their other kids than they want. So, you
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know, traditional advice says you you
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take care of your own oxygen mask first,
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right? That's kind of the the metaphor.
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And the most common example is that you
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should save for your own retirement
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before you help your children with
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college savings. But when you have a
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child who may never be financially
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independent, that advice feels certainly
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inadequate, if not even callous. you
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know, the balancing act for a special
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needs family. It's one of the most
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unique and and heart-wrenching
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challenges that those families face. The
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last layer here on these unique
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challenges is the layer of time. Caring
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for a special needs child isn't just a
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financial commitment. There's a serious
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time commitment and parents often have
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to reduce their hours at work to attend
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therapies or provide daily care. Career
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advancement opportunities are no longer
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there. They get missed. Business travel
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probably feels impossible. The time that
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other families might use to, I don't
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know, grind for a promotion, go on the
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extra family trip, start some sort of
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neighborhood side hustle, that time
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probably isn't available for a special
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needs family. In a dual inome household,
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one parent might be able to step back,
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leaving the family with only one steady
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paycheck. That changes everything about
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saving and investing in long-term
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financial planning. If a special needs
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family is a a dual income household,
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maybe one parent can step back, but that
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leaves the family with only one steady
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paycheck, which changes everything about
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saving, about investing, about long-term
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financial planning. And that time cost,
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if you will, that opportunity cost of of
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time, it's not really acknowledged in
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spreadsheets. It's hard to measure, but
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it's very real. Lost income potential,
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can be one of the largest financial hits
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that any special needs family face, I
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would I would wager. And unlike direct
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expenses where you can maybe cut or
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negotiate or get a tax rebate or or
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apply for insurance, time is very finite
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and it's very hard to get it back. Money
00:14:04
is never just money, right? Money is
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it's not just about the money in in
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anyone situation, but particularly I
00:14:10
think in these special needs situations.
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Money is security. Money is love. Money
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is peace of mind. Money is time. And
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that makes financial decisions feel
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heavier, more charged, maybe even
00:14:20
paralyzing at time because the lack of
00:14:22
money, right? It equates to the lack of
00:14:24
security for your child, the lack of
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love for your child, the lack of peace
00:14:28
of mind for your child. It's not just
00:14:29
money. It's very, very emotional. So,
00:14:32
what does this mean for financial
00:14:33
planning? Well, it means traditional
00:14:34
advice like, you know, save 15% of your
00:14:37
income, invest in a 529, buy term life
00:14:39
insurance, and invest the difference.
00:14:41
That that advice might not fit for a
00:14:43
special needs family. Instead,
00:14:44
customized, flexible, long-term plans
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that account for their unique realities.
00:14:49
That's what special needs families need.
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those realities, including special needs
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trusts, ABLE accounts, government
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benefit programs, and life insurance.
00:16:03
Starting with special needs trusts,
00:16:05
every special needs family needs to
00:16:07
consider a special needs trust. Many
00:16:09
government programs, two examples would
00:16:10
be Medicaid and SSI, supplementary
00:16:13
security income, which we'll talk about
00:16:14
in a few minutes, they set strict limits
00:16:16
on a beneficiary's assets and income.
00:16:19
So, if your child directly inherits
00:16:21
money or receives financial gifts in
00:16:23
their name, those programs, Medicaid and
00:16:26
SSI, and your child's eligibility for
00:16:28
those programs, you know, Medicaid and
00:16:30
SSI, and your child's eligibility for
00:16:32
those programs could be jeopardized. So,
00:16:35
that's where a special needs trust comes
00:16:36
in. Instead of leaving assets directly
00:16:39
to your child, you would leave your
00:16:41
assets to the trust or other people in
00:16:44
life would leave their assets to the
00:16:45
trust. The trust then pays for your
00:16:48
child's supplemental needs, therapies,
00:16:50
travel, home modifications, educations,
00:16:52
whatever it might be. But meanwhile,
00:16:54
because the assets are not in your
00:16:56
child's name, but instead in the trust's
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name, your child will remain eligible
00:17:00
for government benefits. You can think
00:17:02
of it as this uh financial Chinese wall
00:17:04
firewall, right? Divider. The trust
00:17:06
holds the resources, but it's structured
00:17:08
so that they don't count against
00:17:09
government eligibility. There are two
00:17:11
main flavors of special needs trust,
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third party and first party. Third party
00:17:15
special needs trust is funded by
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parents, grandparents, other people,
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usually set up through estate plans and
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very flexible and on the most common
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special needs trust. A first party
00:17:25
special needs trust is funded with the
00:17:27
child's own assets. maybe like an
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inheritance that the child received that
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was accidentally left directly to them
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or maybe a legal settlement from some
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sort of action that that the child was
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involved in. So, first party special
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needs trusts have more restrictions.
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They usually include a Medicaid payback
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provision if the beneficiary, if the
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special needs child were to die. Without
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any sort of special needs trust, some
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sort of well-meaning gift or inheritance
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might unintentionally knock your child
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off of their essential benefits. But
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with a trust, you keep those doors open.
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And as with all trusts, you name a
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trustee. Going back to previous episodes
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and blog posts about the basics of a
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trust, every single trust out there has
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three important roles involved in it. So
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just a little background for your
00:18:08
listeners, three important roles. The
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grtor who creates the trust, the
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beneficiary who benefits from the trust,
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and the trustee. And the trustee is the
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person who has a fiduciary obligation to
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act out the grtor's wishes for the
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trust. In some cases, the same person
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can play multiple roles, multiple of
00:18:24
those three roles. But in the case of a
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special needs trust, it's hugely
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important that the a trusted trustee is
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in place to enact the grtor's wishes.
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Again, usually that would be like the
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parents wishes for the benefit of the
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beneficiary who would be the special
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needs child. One quick note, uh the
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trustee can be all the usual suspects,
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another family member, a close friend, a
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professional trustee like a bank or a
00:18:46
trust company or law firm. But
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specifically for special needs trusts, a
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nonprofit poolled trust might be the
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right or the best answer. A a nonprofit
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poolled trustee. So this would be a a
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nonprofit that manages multiple special
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needs trusts, pooling assets for
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investment purposes, but keeping
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separate accounts for each beneficiary.
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It usually results in lower costs than a
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professional trustee, but with a staff
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experienced specifically in disability
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related issues. They're often again
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because it's a nonprofit, they're often
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missiondriven, very familiar with the
00:19:18
nuances of government programs. Now, the
00:19:21
cons would be uh, you know, less
00:19:23
flexibility in investment or
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distribution decisions, probably less
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personalization than a family member or
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a close friend would provide, but still
00:19:30
a nonprofit pool trust is really worth
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looking into if you're not familiar with
00:19:34
it yet. And that's for a special needs
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trust. But moving on from special needs
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trust, uh we now have another key tool,
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the ABLE account, ABLE, which is short
00:19:42
for achieving a better life experience,
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ABLE account. And it's a really nice
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kind of analogy in the financial
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planning world. We can think of ABLE
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accounts as the direct cousins of 529
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college savings plans. They allow
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families to set aside money up to
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$19,000 a year in 2025, plus potentially
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a work-related contribution into a tax
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advantage account for a child with
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disabilities. the money grows inside
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that account taxfree and as long as the
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withdrawals are used for a qualified
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disability expense which is you know a
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broad category that includes housing,
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education, healthcare, transportation,
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well as long as it's used for one of
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those qualified expenses then the money
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comes out taxfree too. So again very
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similar to the way a 529 works and
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another big win is that ABLE accounts
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don't count against SSI or Medicaid
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eligibility. You can save up to $100,000
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currently inside an ABLE account without
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jeopardizing eligibility for SSI. And
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starting in 2025, funds from a qualified
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529 college savings plan can be
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permanently rolled over into an ABLE
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account. So this would come up in a
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situation where maybe you have multiple
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children, one of the kids has special
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needs. Your kids who do end up going to
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college, they end up with extra money in
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the 529. You can roll the money over
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into an ABLE account. It also might come
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up in a situation where a child who you
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have been saving for a 529 for at some
00:21:01
point in their childhood they become
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disabled or permanently disabled in some
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way. They probably are not going to go
00:21:06
to college in the future, but now they
00:21:08
could really use that money in an ABLE
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account. You can permanently roll money
00:21:12
from a 529 into an ABLE account. There
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are some caveats or things to know, some
00:21:17
nuances about ABLE accounts. To qualify
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for having an ABLED account, the
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disability, your child's disability must
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have been diagnosed before age 26,
00:21:25
although I believe that's soon expanding
00:21:27
now to 46 thanks to new legislation. So,
00:21:30
that would be a big shift. And unlike a
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third party trust, an ABLE account is
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subject to a a Medicaid payback when the
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beneficiary if and when the beneficiary
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passes away. But in the right
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circumstances, ABLE accounts provide
00:21:43
flexibility. They provide some control,
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and they definitely provide tax
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efficiency. They're very handy for
00:21:48
day-to-day expenses of of a special
00:21:50
needs child, whereas a trust might be
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more geared towards kind of larger
00:21:54
long-term support. Next, let's dive into
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the many government benefits programs.
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Special needs families, unfortunately,
00:22:00
need to learn a bit of an alphabet soup.
00:22:02
There's SSI, there's SSDI, Medicaid,
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Medicare, SNAP, and and some more. And
00:22:07
each program has its quirks, but broadly
00:22:09
SSI, supplemental security income,
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provides a uh a monthly income for
00:22:14
individuals with limited means who are
00:22:15
disabled, blind, or elderly. Uh for many
00:22:18
special needs children transitioning
00:22:19
into adulthood, SSI becomes their core,
00:22:22
their main income stream. SSDI,
00:22:26
Social Security disability insurance, is
00:22:28
different. It's tied to work history,
00:22:30
but disabled adult children can
00:22:31
sometimes qualify based on their
00:22:33
parents' work record. That's important.
00:22:35
It's a good wrinkle, an important
00:22:36
wrinkle to plan for. Medicaid and
00:22:39
Medicare. In case I've never said this
00:22:41
before, maybe you've never heard this
00:22:42
before. In case you confuse Medicaid and
00:22:45
Medicare, Medicaid rhymes with paid
00:22:48
because it's means-based. It's based on
00:22:50
money. Well, Medicare rhymes with hair,
00:22:53
as in it's meant for people with no hair
00:22:55
or white hair. It's for people who are
00:22:57
65 plus. Medicaid rhymes with paid.
00:23:00
Medicare rhymes with hair. A little
00:23:01
pneummonic that might help you out.
00:23:03
Medicaid often provides health care
00:23:05
coverage and critically long-term
00:23:07
support services for special needs
00:23:08
families. It often includes inhome care,
00:23:11
day programs, community support, some
00:23:13
things that private insurance might not
00:23:15
cover, rarely covers. In fact, Medicare
00:23:17
does eventually enter a picture if a
00:23:20
child qualifies through SSDI. So, that's
00:23:22
important. It can also apply after they
00:23:25
reach age 65, but sometimes Medicare can
00:23:27
enter the picture if the child qualifies
00:23:29
through SSDI. And then SNAP, I mentioned
00:23:32
that before. Other programs in general,
00:23:34
SNAP is for food assistance, but there
00:23:35
are state level services, maybe even
00:23:37
county and city level services, other
00:23:39
programs. We'll get into a little bit of
00:23:41
that later. The planning challenge isn't
00:23:43
just knowing that these programs exist.
00:23:45
A big part of it is just structuring the
00:23:46
family's finances so that their
00:23:48
eligibility is protected while still
00:23:50
providing for a good quality of life. So
00:23:52
that's why trusts, able accounts,
00:23:54
careful gifting strategies do matter so
00:23:56
much and and matter even more for a
00:23:58
special needs family. Let's talk about
00:24:00
life insurance. And really, life
00:24:01
insurance is for many parents, life
00:24:03
insurance is a safety net. You know, if
00:24:04
I die, my family can stay afloat. But
00:24:06
for special needs families, it's much
00:24:08
more than that. It's often a funding
00:24:10
mechanism for their child's lifelong
00:24:12
care. To be more specific here, so I'll
00:24:15
use my family as example. For my family,
00:24:17
our term life insurance policies are
00:24:19
essentially designed to decay down to
00:24:22
zero benefit as my children graduate
00:24:24
college and proceed on with their own
00:24:26
adult lives. It's like it's not perfect,
00:24:27
but that's the general idea is that
00:24:29
there will come a time in the future,
00:24:31
20, 25 years from now, depending on how
00:24:33
many kids we have, where we won't have
00:24:35
any more life insurance because our kids
00:24:37
will be gone. They'll be out of the
00:24:38
nest. They'll be on their own. And the
00:24:40
question of if I die, will my family be
00:24:42
screwed by that time, 20 or 25 years
00:24:45
from now, I'm hoping the answer is no.
00:24:47
If I die, my family will still be okay.
00:24:49
In the interim, though, it's really nice
00:24:51
to have term life insurance. But for a
00:24:53
special needs parent, their life
00:24:54
insurance might stay in force forever.
00:24:57
If your child might never be financially
00:24:59
independent, then your estate plan needs
00:25:01
some sort of pool of assets specifically
00:25:04
earmarked for their support. And since
00:25:06
few parents have millions of dollars
00:25:07
sitting around, life insurance can be
00:25:09
something that fills that gap. A key
00:25:12
though is matching the insurance to the
00:25:14
overall financial plan. So this is a
00:25:17
place where some sort of permanent life
00:25:18
insurance policy, you know, whole life
00:25:20
policy ensures that coverage doesn't
00:25:22
expire at age 70 or age 80. This is a
00:25:25
case where term life insurance may
00:25:27
simply be too temporary. The policy's
00:25:29
death benefit should flow into a special
00:25:31
needs trust. Usually, I mean, consult a
00:25:33
lawyer to be sure or a CFP, but usually
00:25:36
that's how it you want it to work. The
00:25:38
death benefit does not flow directly to
00:25:40
the child. So this again avoids any sort
00:25:42
of benefits eligibility issues that we
00:25:44
talked about earlier. Parents should
00:25:46
periodically revisit the amount of
00:25:47
coverage as their costs and their
00:25:49
circumstances change. And now life
00:25:51
insurance in this context, it's not just
00:25:53
leaving a windfall. It's ensuring
00:25:54
continuity of care. Permanent life
00:25:57
policies, as we've talked about here on
00:25:58
the podcast many times before, they
00:26:00
usually stink. They're usually not that
00:26:02
great. But they are important here for
00:26:04
special needs situations. They really
00:26:05
are. So, how do we reconcile those two
00:26:08
facts? the facts that for most of us a
00:26:11
whole life a universal life a permanent
00:26:13
life insurance policy is not something
00:26:14
we want and yet in this case they're
00:26:17
very special and and important. So let's
00:26:19
start with the critique because it's
00:26:21
valid. Permanent life insurance comes
00:26:22
with high costs, much higher costs, much
00:26:25
higher premiums than term life
00:26:26
insurance. It comes with complexity.
00:26:28
Permanent life insurance are often much
00:26:29
more hard to understand. The cash value
00:26:32
component is often oversold. Permanent
00:26:34
life insurance policies usually come
00:26:35
with underperformance as an investment.
00:26:37
If you're thinking of it as an
00:26:38
investment, if it's sold to you as an
00:26:40
investment, they typically lag behind
00:26:42
simple lowcost index funds. And
00:26:44
permanent life policies are usually
00:26:45
salesdriven. Too often, permanent life
00:26:47
gets it gets pushed because of the
00:26:49
commissions, the high commissions, not
00:26:51
because it's the right tool for the
00:26:53
client, for the customer. And that's why
00:26:54
for most families, the math is so clear.
00:26:56
Simply buy an inexpensive term coverage,
00:26:59
not permanent, but a term coverage
00:27:01
policy to protect against early death
00:27:03
and then invest the difference in
00:27:04
premiums elsewhere. But for special
00:27:07
needs families, things are different.
00:27:08
Families raising a child with lifelong
00:27:10
support, they have a planning problem
00:27:12
that by term and invest the difference
00:27:13
simply doesn't solve their planning
00:27:15
problem. The permanent life policy
00:27:17
provides certainty. You know that no
00:27:19
matter what, there will be a benefit for
00:27:21
the special needs trust. That's hard to
00:27:23
replicate with investments alone given
00:27:25
market volatility and longevity risks.
00:27:27
So permanent life is usually a poor
00:27:29
choice as an investment, but in special
00:27:31
needs planning, it is not an investment.
00:27:33
It's a funding mechanism for the special
00:27:35
needs trust. It's not about cash value
00:27:37
growth. It's not about beating the
00:27:39
market. It's about creating a guarantee,
00:27:41
a guaranteed pool of assets at the
00:27:43
precise moment when the parents are no
00:27:45
longer there to provide for their child.
00:27:47
For most people, permanent life
00:27:49
insurance is a hammer that's looking for
00:27:51
a nail. And we don't want to be that
00:27:52
nail. But for special needs families,
00:27:54
they are that perfect nail. And
00:27:56
permanent life insurance is the perfect
00:27:58
tool that matches up for the job. Of
00:28:00
course, just because it's a useful tool
00:28:02
doesn't mean that all permanent policies
00:28:04
are created equal. Families in this
00:28:06
circumstance should still shop very
00:28:08
carefully, work with a a
00:28:09
fiduciary-minded planner, not a
00:28:11
commissioned salesperson with a quota.
00:28:13
They should keep it simple. Often a uh a
00:28:15
straightforward whole life policy with a
00:28:17
right death benefit is better than a
00:28:19
complex universal policy with all the
00:28:21
bells and whistles. The insurance policy
00:28:23
should integrate with the trust. The
00:28:24
policy's beneficiary should be the
00:28:26
special needs trust, not the child
00:28:27
directly. And then we want to rightsize
00:28:30
the coverage. You know, we don't need $5
00:28:32
million of coverage if $1 million is
00:28:35
realistically going to meet the child's
00:28:37
needs. The next topic I want to talk
00:28:38
about is guardianship and legal
00:28:40
planning. Money is only part of the
00:28:42
equation in today's conversation. We
00:28:44
actually need to ask about who will care
00:28:45
for your child when you're gone. And
00:28:47
that's where guardianship or
00:28:49
conservatorship or powers of attorney
00:28:51
come in. Parents need to decide who will
00:28:53
make medical, legal, and financial
00:28:54
decisions for their child if the child
00:28:57
can't make those decisions
00:28:58
independently. And it's not just a legal
00:29:00
hoop. It's really about peace of mind.
00:29:02
Knowing that someone trustworthy will
00:29:03
advocate for your child in hospitals, in
00:29:05
schools, in courtrooms. That legal
00:29:07
planning can also cover letters of
00:29:09
intent. These are non-binding documents
00:29:11
that capture a parent's wishes, capture
00:29:13
maybe a parent's insights about the
00:29:15
child. Again, it's not a legal document,
00:29:17
but you can think of it as a manual for
00:29:19
future caregivers that are full of
00:29:20
details that probably wouldn't go into
00:29:23
legal form anyway. And so, one important
00:29:25
question, we've painted some pictures
00:29:26
here today where a guardian or a power
00:29:28
of attorney or a trustee or other
00:29:30
similar roles are involved. And the
00:29:32
logical question might be, should one
00:29:35
single person fill all of these roles to
00:29:37
make life simpler or are there negative
00:29:40
consequences for doing that? Some of the
00:29:42
pros for having one person handle
00:29:43
everything. We have simplicity, right?
00:29:45
We have one decision maker. We have
00:29:47
fewer cooks in the kitchen. We have
00:29:49
consistency. The same values and
00:29:51
judgment guide both financial and
00:29:53
personal decisions. And then we have
00:29:55
efficiency. There's less risk of a
00:29:56
dispute between different parties
00:29:58
because the guardian says X, but the
00:30:01
trustee of a special needs trust says Y.
00:30:03
But then there are certainly cons of
00:30:05
having one person handle everything.
00:30:07
First might just be the overload. It's a
00:30:09
really big responsibility. caregiving,
00:30:11
financial management, legal decisions.
00:30:13
It's understandable how it could burn
00:30:14
someone out. Possibly a bigger one than
00:30:17
that is skill mismatch. There's no
00:30:19
correlation between someone being an
00:30:20
excellent caregiver and being an
00:30:22
excellent money manager and vice versa.
00:30:24
So, I think it's important to have the
00:30:26
right people in the right roles with the
00:30:28
right skills. And then last is just some
00:30:30
sort of system of checks and balances.
00:30:32
Putting too much power, for lack of a
00:30:34
better term, in one person increases the
00:30:35
risk of mistakes, of mismanagement in
00:30:38
some unfortunate but rare cases, but
00:30:40
still real cases, some some cases of
00:30:42
abuse. And my opinion from some
00:30:44
professional experience, but more so
00:30:46
from speaking with and reading with
00:30:47
other expert opinions, is to not
00:30:50
overload one person. Guardianship and
00:30:53
caregiving should usually be separate
00:30:55
from financial and trust management. a
00:30:58
mix of personal connection and
00:31:00
professional oversight tends to work
00:31:01
best. So, I'm in favor of getting uh
00:31:05
different people for different roles,
00:31:07
you know, after your death for different
00:31:09
caregiving, guardianship, powers of
00:31:11
attorney, and trustee like roles. It's
00:31:13
important to get different people
00:31:14
involved so that we get the right skills
00:31:16
involved, we have the right checks and
00:31:18
balances so that no one person becomes
00:31:20
completely overloaded. Next, we can talk
00:31:22
about some of the financial planning
00:31:24
fundamentals. the fundamentals that
00:31:26
everyone needs to think about, but we
00:31:27
can talk about how these fundamentals
00:31:29
change for special needs families
00:31:31
because it is it's easy to focus and
00:31:32
important to focus on the special tools
00:31:34
like special needs trusts and ABLE
00:31:36
accounts, government programs, but
00:31:38
forget that special needs families also
00:31:40
need to do all of the basics, but that
00:31:42
those basics look different for them.
00:31:44
For example, emergency funds should
00:31:46
probably be bigger than average because
00:31:48
unexpected expenses are more common.
00:31:50
Retirement planning is still very
00:31:52
important. It's just simply harder.
00:31:53
Parents need to protect their own
00:31:54
financial futures, but they have a lot
00:31:56
less discretionary income to save for
00:31:58
the long run. Estate planning, as we've
00:32:00
already talked about, you know, wills
00:32:02
and beneficiary designations and titling
00:32:04
of accounts needs to be done really
00:32:06
carefully to avoid accidentally leaving
00:32:08
assets directly to the child. Something
00:32:10
that's probably a boilerplate simple
00:32:12
task for most families, like naming a
00:32:14
beneficiary, might become a we should
00:32:17
talk to a professional to make sure we
00:32:18
don't screw this up for a special needs
00:32:20
family. And then there's just simply
00:32:21
that guardianship, power of attorney,
00:32:24
trustee aspect to estate planning that
00:32:26
we just talked about. Tax planning is a
00:32:28
little different, too. It usually
00:32:29
involves a lot of medical expense
00:32:31
deductions, dependent care credits, the
00:32:34
interplay of trusts and ABLE
00:32:36
distributions with family taxes. So, in
00:32:39
other words, it's it's really not just
00:32:40
about all the unique tools that special
00:32:42
needs families have at their disposal or
00:32:44
need to be aware of. It's also about
00:32:46
weaving those tools into the rest of
00:32:48
their quote unquote normal financial
00:32:50
foundation, which actually isn't that
00:32:52
normal at all. Here's a quick ad and
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then we'll get back to the show. Serious
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00:33:00
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00:33:03
do help highlight our shows to new
00:33:04
listeners. They help strangers find us
00:33:06
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00:33:08
totally true and a good reason to ask
00:33:10
for ratings and reviews. But I have
00:33:12
something more important, at least more
00:33:14
important to me. I want to know if you
00:33:16
like this stuff. I want to know if you
00:33:18
like my podcast episodes, my monologues,
00:33:21
my guests, the information I share with
00:33:22
you and the stories I tell. I want to
00:33:24
improve and make your listening more
00:33:26
enjoyable in the process. So yeah, I
00:33:28
would love to read your reviews. And
00:33:30
sure, if you throw a rating in there,
00:33:32
too, that's great. If you like what I'm
00:33:34
doing, please share it with me. It's
00:33:36
such a great feeling to read your
00:33:38
feedback. I'd love to read your review
00:33:40
or see a rating on Apple Podcast or
00:33:43
Spotify. Thank you. Let's talk about
00:33:45
some community and professional
00:33:46
resources. You know, special needs
00:33:48
planning is complex and and few families
00:33:51
should can do it alone. And thankfully,
00:33:53
there is. There's a web of resources
00:33:55
available. Some we've already talked
00:33:56
about, some we haven't yet. And that web
00:33:58
of resources goes from federal level
00:34:00
Washington DC down to your county
00:34:02
clerk's office. On the federal level,
00:34:04
we've already talked about the big
00:34:06
three. SSI, supplemental security
00:34:08
income. For many families, that is the
00:34:10
foundation. That's the monthly cash
00:34:11
payments to children and adults with
00:34:13
disabilities who do have to meet strict
00:34:15
financial and medical eligibility
00:34:17
standards. And that's again those
00:34:18
standards, that eligibility, that's why
00:34:21
the special needs trusts and titling of
00:34:24
accounts is so important. The dollar
00:34:26
amounts for SSI aren't necessarily
00:34:28
life-changing, but SSI eligibility
00:34:31
usually opens doors to other benefits,
00:34:33
including Medicaid in most states. So
00:34:36
that's why it's like SSI, getting SSI is
00:34:38
is kind of that first step. Again, even
00:34:40
though the money itself might not be
00:34:42
life-changing, it's an open door to
00:34:44
applying to other benefits. Medicaid, as
00:34:46
I just mentioned, Medicaid is the
00:34:48
primary health care safety net for
00:34:50
people with disabilities. Beyond doctor
00:34:52
visits and hospital coverage, it pays
00:34:53
for long-term supports like inhome care
00:34:55
and therapies and specialized equipment.
00:34:58
In most states, SSI eligibility
00:35:00
automatically triggers Medicaid. And
00:35:02
then we already talked about SSDI,
00:35:04
Social Security disability insurance
00:35:06
program tied to work history. Adults
00:35:08
with disabilities though sometimes could
00:35:10
qualify through a parents record once
00:35:12
the parent retires or passes away. An
00:35:15
SSDI also brings access to Medicare
00:35:17
after a waiting period which can be an
00:35:19
important supplement to Medicaid. So
00:35:22
those are the big three on the federal
00:35:23
level. SSI, SSDI, and Medicaid. Together
00:35:27
those programs are the the backbone you
00:35:29
can say of federal support. But what
00:35:31
about on the state level? On the state
00:35:32
level, we have uh waiverss and services.
00:35:35
Every state layers its own programs on
00:35:38
top of the federal framework. They often
00:35:40
come through Medicaid waivers, sometimes
00:35:42
called home and community based
00:35:45
services, HCBS, home and community based
00:35:47
services. Waivers fund services that
00:35:49
allow individuals with disabilities to
00:35:51
live at home or in the community rather
00:35:53
than in institutions. This might include
00:35:55
respit care for parents, home
00:35:57
modifications, job training, and
00:35:59
supported living arrangements. I will
00:36:01
say that the details seem to vary widely
00:36:03
and wildly by state. So eligibility and
00:36:06
weight lists and the actual services
00:36:08
that are offered can look very
00:36:10
different, but almost every state has
00:36:11
some version of these programs and they
00:36:13
are actually often the most impactful
00:36:16
benefits available. And then we can
00:36:18
drill down even further to the county,
00:36:19
the local, sometimes regional agencies
00:36:22
that provide hands-on services that
00:36:24
might include early intervention
00:36:25
programs for young children, often
00:36:27
coordinated through local school
00:36:28
districts. I mean, a very simple one,
00:36:30
uh, I don't even know technically
00:36:32
actually if this falls under the
00:36:33
disability framework, but like our
00:36:35
daughter is excellent in communicating
00:36:37
in every single way except for actually
00:36:40
forming syllables and words. Right now,
00:36:42
she's only 15 months, 16 months old,
00:36:44
right? But she can point, she can she
00:36:46
tells you exactly what kind of food she
00:36:47
wants, but she's just not using her
00:36:49
words. Not that all 16-month-olds have
00:36:52
left words, but either way, through our
00:36:54
county, we were able to take her to a
00:36:56
speech pathologist just to make sure
00:36:58
that there wasn't any sort of deeper
00:37:00
problem. And there wasn't, thankfully.
00:37:01
But like that's an early intervention
00:37:02
program. That's pretty important to
00:37:04
have. Also on the county level, we have
00:37:06
developmental disability boards which
00:37:07
connect families to case managers and
00:37:10
other resources. transportation services
00:37:12
for individuals who can't drive, respbit
00:37:14
programs that give parents and
00:37:16
caregivers a much needed break. And then
00:37:18
on top of, you know, government county
00:37:19
resources, there are local nonprofits
00:37:21
and advocacy groups and faith
00:37:23
communities that often play a big role.
00:37:25
Think of things like United Way or
00:37:27
Autism Speaks or the National Down
00:37:29
Syndrome Society. You know, a little
00:37:31
aside here in Rochester, I'm a member of
00:37:33
the Rochester Rotary Group and our our
00:37:35
flagship service mission is to operate
00:37:37
and fund a place called Sunshine Camp
00:37:39
just south of Rochester. It's a fully
00:37:41
accessible 150 acre residential summer
00:37:44
camp dedicated though to children and
00:37:46
young adults. I think the older kids
00:37:48
tend to be college age with physical or
00:37:51
developmental disabilities. It offers
00:37:53
them an inclusive summer camp experience
00:37:56
one week at a time. It has no barrier to
00:37:58
participation. The children attend for
00:38:00
free thanks to community support, thanks
00:38:02
to Rotarian support. And one of the more
00:38:04
touching things that I remember hearing
00:38:06
when I first learned about Sunshine
00:38:07
Camp, it was a parent of one of the kids
00:38:10
who said, "I know my child's having the
00:38:12
time of their life with other kids just
00:38:13
like them. And as much as I love caring
00:38:16
for my child, I get to have a week off,
00:38:18
too." And I think that's a perfect
00:38:20
example of a nonprofit with a dedicated
00:38:22
mission helping special needs families.
00:38:24
And those types of resources are
00:38:26
hopefully available in your region, too,
00:38:28
wherever you are. Those groups help
00:38:29
families navigate the maze and and
00:38:31
provide grants for equipment. simply
00:38:33
creating a community for parents who
00:38:35
need support. I've heard a lot of good
00:38:36
feedback too from special needs families
00:38:38
just about the role of different
00:38:39
professionals in their lives, right?
00:38:41
Special needs attorneys, CFPs, social
00:38:43
workers, healthcare advocates to
00:38:45
translate the jargon, to coordinate
00:38:48
applications, to ensure that benefits
00:38:49
are structured properly. They might be
00:38:52
mostly minor interactions, but they're
00:38:54
important interactions nonetheless. And
00:38:55
if we pull that all together, you know,
00:38:57
and kind of wrap up this episode,
00:38:59
special needs planning is not just about
00:39:00
finding one magic solution, but instead
00:39:03
it's about these these many different
00:39:05
layers of support as we've talked about.
00:39:07
You know, trusts for long-term financial
00:39:09
protection, ABLE accounts for flexible
00:39:11
spending, government benefits truly as
00:39:13
the backbone of your resources. life
00:39:15
insurance as a funding source for a
00:39:17
trust, guardianship and legal planning
00:39:19
for decision-making, fundamentals,
00:39:21
making sure that the family has its own
00:39:22
fundamentals taken care of, too. Your
00:39:24
retirement as parents, your tax
00:39:26
planning, your estate work, and then
00:39:28
some community and professional support
00:39:29
to tie it all together. When combined,
00:39:32
they create a framework that lets
00:39:33
parents of special needs families
00:39:35
breathe just a little bit easier.
00:39:37
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Episode Highlights

  • Welcome to Personal Finance for Long-Term Investors
    Join Jesse Kramer as he simplifies personal finance and investing for busy professionals and retirees.
    “An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”
    @ 00m 04s
    October 22, 2025
  • Special Needs Planning Deep Dive
    Today's episode focuses on financial and life planning for families with special needs children.
    “Maybe, just maybe, this episode will introduce that person to ideas that will make their burden lighter.”
    @ 01m 49s
    October 22, 2025
  • The Importance of Caregiver Self-Care
    Jesse discusses the often overlooked aspect of self-care for caregivers of special needs children.
    “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
    @ 07m 13s
    October 22, 2025
  • The Emotional Weight of Financial Decisions
    Exploring how financial decisions for special needs families carry significant emotional implications.
    “Money is security. Money is love. Money is peace of mind.”
    @ 14m 14s
    October 22, 2025
  • Special Needs Trusts
    A special needs trust ensures your child remains eligible for government benefits while receiving support.
    “Every special needs family needs to consider a special needs trust.”
    @ 16m 05s
    October 22, 2025
  • ABLE Accounts
    ABLE accounts allow families to save money for a child with disabilities without affecting SSI eligibility.
    “ABLE accounts provide flexibility and tax efficiency for special needs children.”
    @ 19m 46s
    October 22, 2025
  • Life Insurance for Special Needs
    Life insurance acts as a funding mechanism for lifelong care of special needs children.
    “For special needs families, life insurance is much more than that.”
    @ 24m 08s
    October 22, 2025
  • The Importance of Feedback
    Host emphasizes the importance of listener ratings and reviews for improving the podcast.
    “I want to know if you like my podcast episodes.”
    @ 33m 16s
    October 22, 2025
  • Sunshine Camp Experience
    A parent shares how Sunshine Camp provides a joyful experience for children with disabilities.
    “I know my child's having the time of their life with other kids just like them.”
    @ 38m 12s
    October 22, 2025
  • Navigating Special Needs Planning
    Special needs planning involves many layers of support, from trusts to community resources.
    “It's about these many different layers of support.”
    @ 39m 03s
    October 22, 2025

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  • Investment in Knowledge00:04
  • Tax Planning15:18
  • ABLE Accounts19:42
  • Financial Fundamentals31:24
  • Financial Foundations31:42
  • Emergency Funds31:44
  • Sunshine Camp37:39
  • Parent Support38:35

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