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NZ Private Investigator On Affairs, Spying And Her CRAZIEST Cases

January 21, 202657:52
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Carlia McFarland, welcome to my podcast.
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>> Hi, thank you.
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>> It's great to have you here. So, you're
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a a private investigator from Supenti
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Investigations.
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>> Yes, I am.
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>> I looked up. It means snake.
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>> It does. Yeah.
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>> So, my birth year is actually birth of
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the snake. So, there's a lot of meaning
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behind it as well. And snakes are good
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and they're bad and they've got there's
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a lot of mystical around it.
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>> What's good about snakes?
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>> They lie and they wait before they
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attack.
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>> Okay. So, they're measured.
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>> Yeah. And they can be quite friendly as
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well. They can. Yep. They can be
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friendly, right?
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>> Yeah.
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>> And when I when I looked that up, I
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thought, "Oh, it's a funny name for a
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private investigation company." Because
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um I don't know. I think when most
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people think of snakes, they think
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they're evil and mean.
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>> Yeah. A lot of people do. But Sepenti
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actually came from Bulgari. He has a
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beautiful jewelry line and it's all
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diamonds and it's relative around the
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snakes about the beauty of snakes as
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well. Yeah.
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>> How long you been doing this?
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>> Um almost 10 years. Yeah.
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>> So what is it um that people think you
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do and what is it that you actually do?
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People think that I sit out in my car
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and stalk people and do a lot of
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infidelity um investigations. What I
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actually do is um a lot of
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investigations. So, fraud
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investigations, personal investigations,
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um I'll help individuals with difficult
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problems that they might have, workplace
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investigations. Um skip tracing, that's
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a huge passion of mine.
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Skip tracing is locating people for lots
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of different reasons. Um, be it finance,
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be it families, be it estates, different
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reasons that people would need to find
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somebody. Um, and document serving. So,
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there's lots of things that we do, but
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yeah, lots of people think that we sit
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out there with our sunglasses and
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binoculars and watch people.
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>> That's me. Have I watched too much TV?
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>> I haven't You turned up with a box of
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Dunkin Donuts today, which is very, very
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kind of you. Um, that was just a joke I
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made when we were messaging backwards
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and forwards because yeah, I don't know.
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I've probably watched too many episodes
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of Law and Order or something.
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>> It is a stigma that is out there. Yeah,
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there is a huge stigma out there that
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Yeah. you're sitting there in a car with
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two of you with your binoculars watching
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just eating coffee and uh donuts and
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coffee.
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>> Yeah.
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>> I I do have um a card here specifically
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about the um infidelity stuff that
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you're talking about. Is does that make
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up any part of your job?
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>> Um I can do it. I don't enjoy doing it.
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It's not something that I like doing.
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And when I have had it come through,
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I've spoken to the client. Um it it's
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dependent on what the circumstances are.
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And quite often if it's a female that
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I've spoken to, it's your gut that
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talks. And if you have that already in
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your relationship, are you going to
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waste your money on me? That's probably
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not a good thing for other investigators
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cuz I know other investigators that is
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their bread and butter. that's what they
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do. But for me personally, it's not.
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>> Yeah.
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>> Okay. We'll get to that later cuz
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obviously you've you've done it to
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realize that it's not for you. Is is
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part of it not being for you because um
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you just hate going back with the
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conclusive evidence.
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>> Yeah, probably. Or it's boring. It's
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actually boring watching people and like
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it can be really boring watching
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somebody. Yeah.
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>> Yeah. So, what what does the day in the
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life look like?
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>> Oh my gosh. The day of my life looks
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like I have lots of different hats on.
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Not only do I run a company, I'm doing
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the invoicing or I'm checking a report
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or I'm out there doing it myself. So, no
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day is the same in my world. Um, for
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example, I woke up this morning. I had
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an urgent job that I had to do is what I
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had to come into the city. So, I've done
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that. Um, I've got a couple that are on
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the go at the moment. Last week, I was
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skip tracing somebody to find a family
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member for an estate. So yeah, it's very
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varied.
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>> So can most of your job just be done
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done by sitting in front of a computer?
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>> I can do it, but quite often I'll go out
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as well to interview people, to do scene
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examinations, to talk to other people,
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to gather all the evidence before I
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write my report.
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>> What's the question you get asked most
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when you tell people what you do? Say
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you're at a barbecue or a function.
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>> Is it infidelity? Again,
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>> it is. It is. A lot of it is infidelity.
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Um or it'll be, "Oh my gosh, I've never
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met a private investigator in my life.
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That's my dream job." That's the
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statements that I get
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>> because there is an intrigue about it or
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a curiosity, isn't there?
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>> Yeah, there is. And it's a very hard
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industry to get into.
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>> It is.
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>> Okay. What What is the process for
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qualifying or registering? So there's no
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um certificate any longer or any degree
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any longer and it's you're registered
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under the PSPA and quite often you have
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to be taught by somebody who is an
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investigator already or ex police or
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something like that to then come in. So
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you have to prove to the ministry that
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you have relative um education to be
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able to go into it.
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>> Yeah.
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>> Cuz a lot of ex cops end up doing it,
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don't they?
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>> Yeah. What what percentage of your job
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would you describe as exciting?
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>> You talked before about invoicing and
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stuff. Um which um yeah I mean every job
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I suppose has a level of excitement and
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a level of boredom.
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>> 90% of my job.
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>> Exciting.
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>> Yeah. I love I do enjoy my job. It's why
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I get out of bed. It's why I do it.
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>> Um what about skills or traits? What do
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you think you need to be a good PI? Oh,
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an inquisitive mind, a good
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communicator,
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>> a good listener.
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Um,
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sometimes empathy is really good
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depending on the investigation.
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>> Um,
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good at good at English and report
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writing. Like, you've got to be really
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good at report writing.
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>> Oh god. See, that doesn't sound like an
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exciting part of the job to me.
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>> I think so when I
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>> You lost me with invoicing before and
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now report writing. I think because
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when you have all your evidence and
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you're putting it into your report, it
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start like you re-evaluate what you've
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actually got there and sometimes that
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will trigger something else and go, "Oh
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my gosh, how did I miss that or I need
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to go back and do that." So, it's not
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just sitting at the computer writing out
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boring reports. Yeah, they can be quite
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interesting.
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>> Well, I'm no um PI myself, but I did do
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some investigative work on my own prior
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to you coming in here when I knew you
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were coming in. Um, and I've got your
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career history here. And it's very um,
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it's random. I think random is probably
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the best way to describe it. Air Force
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medic.
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>> Yeah.
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>> To primary school teacher
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>> to private eye.
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>> Yeah. Yeah. Um, as I would say to our
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kids, like when you leave school, you
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might have an idea in your head that
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this is what I'm going to do. This is
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what I'm going to be. This is my career.
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And all of a sudden your ch your road
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changes. And that's actually what
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happened to me. So my career was a medic
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in the Air Force. Loved it. Absolutely
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loved it. But I then got sick and I was
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told I was no longer deployable.
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So it I lost my career. So I had to rego
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what do I want to do in my life? And at
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that point it was, well, I always wanted
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to be a school teacher. I'll go back and
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study. So I went back and studied and
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was a teacher for 12 and a half years.
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>> Wow. And then another change in the road
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came along. I got sick again and I
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realized I was never going to be part of
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the club of being a mom and went
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>> this is really hard and a door opened
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and I walked through it and here I am
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today.
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>> Yeah.
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>> I'm in that club as well.
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>> Oh yeah.
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>> Yeah. Yeah. I just had a tumor removed
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which um yeah left me with fertility
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issues and yeah myself and my ex-wife we
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were unable to conceive. It sucks. It's
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funny cuz I've got a lot of friends that
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have chosen not to be parents but when
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that choice is taken away from you it's
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yeah
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>> I think it's a really different one.
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>> So mine resulted from I had was
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diagnosed with Crohn's disease when I
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was in the Air Force. So, I was in
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Bogenville and then came back and was
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treated for 18 months and then I had to
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have life-saving surgery where they took
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out my whole large intestine.
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And I didn't know at the time, but I was
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made surgically sterile because they
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saved my life.
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>> But I didn't know that at the time until
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later on. And then I had to have a full
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hyctomy in 2016.
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>> Oh,
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>> yeah. So, it's a different
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It's really different. I I don't know if
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it's any different for a man when like
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when you're married or something like
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that, people go, "Oh, when are you going
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to have kids?" And all of a sudden, you
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kind of there's this expectation in
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society that everyone thinks you're
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going to have kids. And the easiest way
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to shut the people down is I can't.
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>> And they go, "Oh, oh, sorry, sorry." Um
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because yeah,
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>> good make them feel bad.
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>> But it it took me years to learn that.
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years to learn that it's okay to be open
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about this because it's not talked
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about.
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>> Yeah.
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>> And you you're 100% correct. As soon as
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you get married, it's the first thing
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people ask. And then and then I've found
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out that uh when you've had one baby,
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the next thing they ask cuz oh, when are
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you having another one? You having
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anymore? Um yeah, it's really invasive.
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Yeah. No, it's it's tough though when I
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don't know if this is the same for you,
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but um you have this vision of how you
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imagine the second half of your life
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looking and for me it included kids and
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then maybe eventually grandkids and then
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suddenly it's not there anymore. You
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have to think, okay, well, this isn't
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how I imagined, but let's make the best
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of it.
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>> Yeah. And you do like there was a point
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in my life where I thought I was going
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to be this old lady with my dogs. That's
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what I thought until I met my husband
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now and he has two children. So, they're
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my kids and they're amazing. So, I've
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been blessed with that when I did. Yeah.
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Thought this is it.
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>> I've done my research. I'm a I'm a I'm a
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I'm a PI here. Yeah. So, you you became
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a wife and a stepmom in 2022. Um your
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husband quite well known, Slade McFaran.
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>> Yep.
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>> Like a New Zealand rugby legend.
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>> Yes. like moldy all black and played so
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much um uh like club rugby and
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provincial rugby and super rugby in New
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Zealand.
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>> So you got married in 2022. Um he had
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two adult kids, young adult kids from a
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previous relationship.
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>> So they were 15 and 13. So yeah,
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>> I mean they're 22 and 20 now. Yeah.
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Yeah. When we first met.
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>> What do they call you? Um
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>> mom. Yeah.
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>> That's wonderful.
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>> Yeah.
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Yeah, it's that's what I mean. It's a
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blessing. I've Yeah, it's great. Yeah.
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So, Sophie lives at home with us and
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Bruno's in Wellington at university.
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>> Yeah.
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>> How was that the first time they called
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your mom?
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I cried because
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>> um it was unexpected but it was also
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this um like I have said to them,
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they've healed a part of my heart that I
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didn't know needed to be fixed. Yeah.
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>> Oh, that's so wonderful.
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>> Did they have a chat with you first?
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Like is it okay if we call you mom or
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they just hurt?
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>> No, I think they just No, there was no
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chat or anything. Like Sophie calls me
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Kalia and Bruno does as well, but they h
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like I do get called mom as well. Yeah.
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>> Yeah. How does that make you feel?
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>> Oh, it's an honor. It is the biggest
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honor to like if Sophie wants to
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introduce me to her friends. This is my
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mom. Yeah. She leaves out the step part
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like Yeah.
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>> Yeah. It's a massive honor.
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>> Yeah, that's really cool.
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>> It was something I never thought I'd
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have.
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>> Yeah. Yeah.
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>> Amazing. It's funny how things work out,
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isn't it?
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>> Yeah.
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>> Um not that not that ever would, but
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[ __ ] You um Slater would never cheat on
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you, would he? Like,
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>> hell no.
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>> No one's ever [ __ ] around on a
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private eye. What What are like what are
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red flags in relationships?
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>> Um hiding the typical hiding the phone.
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um putting the phone onto non-disturb
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whenever you're talking, things like
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that. Um
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always at work. Um
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yeah, there's a few different ones. Or,
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oh, I need to go and do this, but you're
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not sure what it is. Catching up with a
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friend and then going, "Oh, I saw such
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and such are here." Or they're going to
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see a friend and then that friend tells
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you, "No, I never saw them. Not sure
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where they are."
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>> Yeah.
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>> It's kind of what you were saying
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before. your gut. You you you Yeah. You
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can generally trust your gut instinct.
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>> Yeah.
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>> Yeah.
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>> What's What's Slay doing now?
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>> He works for Mates in Construction.
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Funny cuz he said, "You're not allowed
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to talk about me."
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>> Oh, really?
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>> That I said cuz he said this is about
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you because I'm not the forefront
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person. And so we have had this
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conversation because he is he's an
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amazing spokesman. He is Yeah. He does
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amazing work. He works for Mates in
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Construction now, which is suicide
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prevention, but he also works with um
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Wiggy for Lean on a Gate, Talk to a
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Mate. So, and now I think it's Mates for
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Mates. So, he's on the road a lot. Um
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talking a lot. Yeah,
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>> I'll have no more questions about him. I
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promise. Might have to get him on the
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podcast sometime. I think that' be a
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good
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>> I think Yeah, I think he'd be great for
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you.
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>> Yeah. Oh, another thing I read you were
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um a finalist um for the women in
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security awards. Our Teda.
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>> Yes. Congratulations. What did that
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recognition mean for you personally and
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professionally?
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>> Um I think professionally it
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acknowledged the work that we do
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especially um that was for the fraud
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investigations.
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Um and it was more there was a lot of
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defense winners or um
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people in the ministry. So to be up
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against them was yeah that was massive.
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How
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>> how does that work? So for the New
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Zealand podcasting awards, you submit
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like a few minutes of say three or four
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of your best episodes and judges listen
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to them. How does it work in the
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security awards?
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>> So someone else submitted something and
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said this is what she does. This is um
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how she works. This is some of the work
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she's done. So it was somebody else that
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submitted it. I didn't actually know
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about it and I got a certificate in the
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mail and then I was tagged into
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something on LinkedIn and I was like,
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"Oh, what's this about?" Yeah.
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>> Oh, amazing. What a nice surprise. It
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was it was a really good
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>> Well done. Oh, that's wonderful. Um on
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the Supenti website, there's um some
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previous cases.
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>> Yeah.
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>> Um and I've got some of these here. I
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thought we could get into some of these
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um just in as much or as little detail
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as what you are allowed to. Recovery of
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a stolen dog.
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>> That was an exciting one. So, I actually
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saw it on social media. Um actually, no.
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Somebody reached out to me and said,
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"Calia, this is something you can do.
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I've got two Frenchies. Love my babies."
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Mhm.
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>> Um, and it was a French bulldog that had
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been stolen. And I was like, I don't
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actually know what I can do. Anyway, was
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put in contact with the owner and
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I can't take the um accolades for the
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work that was done. It was a real
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community effort. So, there was CCTV
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footage, but we couldn't pick up the
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number plate. So, there was a couple of
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people that worked it all out and
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everything else. And then I went to work
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from there once I got that information.
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Um worked there were the police that
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were involved but then I was put in
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contact with the person who had the dog
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and they were up north. So then I
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arranged to meet with them and it was
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very late. We set up a whole scenario
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where we knew we were under CCTV.
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Um, but our ultimate goal was just to
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get this baby back back to their owners.
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Yeah.
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>> So, when you reach out to the people
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that have stolen the dog, do you do you
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lie about your identity?
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>> No.
00:16:22
>> No. Oh, so you're saying you're Cali,
00:16:25
right? You're a private investigator.
00:16:27
>> Yeah. I believe you have the dog,
00:16:28
>> right?
00:16:30
>> Do you think it's the right thing to do
00:16:31
to return the dog?
00:16:34
>> How do they react at that point? Are
00:16:35
they [ __ ] themselves or Yeah,
00:16:37
>> they just realize the numbers up.
00:16:39
>> Yeah.
00:16:39
>> Yeah. And when they when we did meet
00:16:43
them,
00:16:45
like they were really apologetic. They'd
00:16:47
made a dumb mistake, things like that.
00:16:48
And it was like, "It's okay. As long as
00:16:50
you own that, that's okay. I am not
00:16:54
going to do anything. The police may do
00:16:56
something because like it was theft,
00:16:59
there was other things. And I do know
00:17:00
that they were charged." So, the police
00:17:02
were involved.
00:17:02
>> Fantastic. I I'm a dog owner as well. My
00:17:05
little dog sleeping on the floor here. I
00:17:06
I can't imagine anything more. Um, many
00:17:10
things that would create more stress for
00:17:11
me in my life than someone stealing my
00:17:13
dog
00:17:14
>> because they're your babies.
00:17:15
>> 100%. Yeah.
00:17:16
>> Um, another one from your website,
00:17:18
exposing a romance scam in Oakuckland.
00:17:21
>> Mhm.
00:17:23
So,
00:17:26
>> similar.
00:17:27
>> You almost choked on your on your your
00:17:29
cup of tea.
00:17:30
>> Um, there was somebody that had somebody
00:17:33
that was messaging them and they said
00:17:36
that they owned their own company. They
00:17:38
owned their own house. They There was a
00:17:42
whole lot of things that they were
00:17:43
saying.
00:17:45
They turned up nice suit, everything
00:17:47
else, like everything that you would
00:17:49
expect for a first date. But there was
00:17:51
just something that just didn't sit
00:17:54
right with her. Anyway,
00:17:57
asked us to do a bit of a background
00:17:59
check and everything else. Yep. Found
00:18:00
out he was living in a flat. He didn't
00:18:03
own a company. He was on the winds
00:18:06
benefit. There was just a whole lot of
00:18:08
things and it was like nope here's
00:18:11
here's all the information you need.
00:18:13
Yeah.
00:18:13
>> How how do you find the stuff out?
00:18:15
>> Open source intelligence. So um which is
00:18:19
public knowledge um it's just knowing
00:18:21
where to look and how to look. But by
00:18:23
saying that we're bound by ethics like
00:18:26
there's a code of ethics that we have to
00:18:28
abide by. Um being a member of NZIPI
00:18:32
um I'm also bound by that but also under
00:18:34
the PSPLA. So there is a code of ethics
00:18:37
that we have to work around like we
00:18:39
can't disclose different information.
00:18:41
There's then the privacy act that you've
00:18:42
got to act under.
00:18:44
>> So there are different acts that we've
00:18:46
got to be careful with. Yeah.
00:18:48
>> Is this a big issue? Like there's
00:18:50
documentaries on Netflix like um Tinder
00:18:51
Swindler.
00:18:52
>> Um this is just one case that that
00:18:54
you've dealt with, but another security.
00:18:56
Is this a big thing? Romance scams.
00:18:58
>> I think it is, but I think um also what
00:19:00
I'm hearing and learning is the fraud
00:19:03
side of it. So you might then give them
00:19:07
money and so then it's deceitful and so
00:19:09
it's obtaining um money by deceit. So
00:19:13
that becomes fraud. So there's all sorts
00:19:15
of things that go along with it. But
00:19:16
yes, I do think it is a problem.
00:19:20
I mean I can know of another one. They
00:19:22
said that they were um they lived in New
00:19:25
Zealand and they traveled a lot back and
00:19:27
forth. They didn't live here at all.
00:19:30
They and they said they had a company in
00:19:32
the USA. quick search of that address.
00:19:34
That was a parking lot.
00:19:37
>> So,
00:19:40
but it's knowing how to search and where
00:19:42
to look, things like that. Yeah.
00:19:44
>> Right. So, so someone comes to you and
00:19:46
it's a
00:19:48
it can be fairly easy a lot of the time,
00:19:50
like really really quick.
00:19:52
>> Yeah.
00:19:52
>> Uh
00:19:53
>> and that's why I think I don't really
00:19:55
like the infidelity ones and things like
00:19:57
that because there's no meat in them. It
00:20:01
sounds really bad, but yeah.
00:20:04
>> Um, another one from the Centi website.
00:20:06
Um, these are previous cases. Serial
00:20:08
house fires, arson within the family.
00:20:11
>> Yeah, that was a really sad case. That
00:20:13
was, um,
00:20:16
yeah.
00:20:17
Um, there's obviously trauma involved
00:20:21
with that family member. Um, but that
00:20:24
was an insurance job, that one that came
00:20:27
through to investigate because it was
00:20:29
the first one. And then once so that one
00:20:34
became part of the investigation because
00:20:36
there was a second one. So then you
00:20:38
start to there's red flags that go off.
00:20:40
And so it's
00:20:42
>> all the scene examinations
00:20:45
um talking to the witnesses, things like
00:20:48
that. Working alongside the police,
00:20:49
working alongside the fire department to
00:20:52
Yeah. work out how these occurred. Yeah.
00:20:58
>> How many fires?
00:21:00
three on that one
00:21:02
>> and on just on the houses of this
00:21:05
person's family members.
00:21:07
>> Yeah. One of them one of them I felt
00:21:10
really sad for because they didn't own
00:21:12
the property but um the person who did
00:21:17
own it had inherited it from his family
00:21:18
and it wasn't insured.
00:21:20
>> So he lost everything. Yeah.
00:21:24
Yeah. So there is Yeah. You've got to
00:21:27
have empathy in there when you meet
00:21:29
people like this. Yeah.
00:21:32
>> And especially when it's a family
00:21:33
member.
00:21:34
>> Yeah.
00:21:35
>> Are you good at separating your work
00:21:37
from home or like how do how do you
00:21:39
compartmentalize and not carry the
00:21:41
weight of these things?
00:21:42
>> I talk a lot.
00:21:44
>> Um I swear a lot.
00:21:50
>> Swearing Elvis is quatartic.
00:21:51
>> That's great. Um,
00:21:55
yeah, talking with your colleagues and
00:21:57
things like that is it's a job, you let
00:21:59
it go. There's so many different things
00:22:02
I've seen in my world that I'm like,
00:22:04
whoa. Okay. And I've met some really
00:22:06
interesting people like criminals, 501s,
00:22:09
all sorts of things like that and you
00:22:11
would never know when you sit down with
00:22:13
them and they're human.
00:22:16
Do you ever feel scared or intimidated
00:22:19
or, you know, afraid, worried?
00:22:23
>> There's probably only been maybe once
00:22:26
and that's when I've had somebody stand
00:22:28
over me and I just have to breathe and
00:22:31
go, if anything happens, it's okay.
00:22:35
Like, and you just have to remain calm.
00:22:38
Have to remain calm.
00:22:39
>> What do you mean standing over you? um
00:22:41
doing an interview with somebody, they
00:22:43
got angry and annoyed because the
00:22:45
evidence was there when like they
00:22:48
realize and then it's the anger that
00:22:50
comes in. So, you've just got to remain
00:22:52
calm and then yeah, they'll stand over
00:22:54
you and you just end it. I'm just going
00:22:56
to end this now.
00:22:58
>> Um the evidence is there. I'll report
00:23:00
back to who it is that I've got to
00:23:01
report back to
00:23:02
>> doing document serving.
00:23:05
Um there's been a funny story. I did one
00:23:09
Oh, this is when I probably first
00:23:11
started out and um I got asked to go
00:23:14
into a doc serve and I was like, "Yeah,
00:23:15
sweetheart." And it was late at night,
00:23:17
knocked on the door and I actually had
00:23:19
Slade with me and it was in the rain,
00:23:21
but he was in the dark and I knocked on
00:23:23
the door and this guy opened the door
00:23:24
and he started to go off of me and then
00:23:26
Slade stepped out from the shadow and he
00:23:28
kind of went, "Oh." And so
00:23:31
>> right now there's going to be people
00:23:33
listening to this or watching this that
00:23:34
are googling Slade McFallen. He's a
00:23:37
massive a half half moldy half Scottish
00:23:40
but big dude.
00:23:41
>> Yeah. Samo and Maldi.
00:23:42
>> Oh Sam and Maldi.
00:23:43
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
00:23:44
>> Scottish as well.
00:23:45
>> Yes. Yeah. Yeah. So the
00:23:47
>> massive just a tank.
00:23:49
>> I wouldn't want to play rugby against
00:23:50
him. Put it that way.
00:23:51
>> Oh no. So we still play Mast's league
00:23:53
together. So we're on the same team. He
00:23:56
just has to run once at somebody and the
00:23:58
next thing they're all on the other side
00:23:59
of the field. It's really funny. Yeah.
00:24:01
>> No kidding. And what's what sort of
00:24:03
papers are you serving with um the stock
00:24:05
serve?
00:24:06
>> Just legal papers. So they'll come from
00:24:07
a lawyer and it they can range like but
00:24:10
they all come from a lawyer or it might
00:24:12
be from a company doing a legal serve on
00:24:15
another company to say, "Hey, you owe us
00:24:17
money, things like that." Um but yeah,
00:24:19
mostly legal papers.
00:24:21
>> So that um that's got to be done in
00:24:23
person.
00:24:23
>> Yes.
00:24:24
>> Right.
00:24:24
>> Yeah. Yeah,
00:24:26
>> I've seen that on movies.
00:24:27
>> Yeah.
00:24:27
>> Yeah.
00:24:28
>> Yeah. But we don't say you've been
00:24:29
served.
00:24:30
>> Why not?
00:24:33
>> What do you as you walk away? Do you say
00:24:34
you got served?
00:24:35
>> No.
00:24:36
>> It's a missed opportunity.
00:24:38
>> It is. It is. And yes, but there's still
00:24:41
a professional element to it.
00:24:43
>> You don't want to be sassy about it.
00:24:44
>> No.
00:24:45
>> No. Okay.
00:24:45
>> And we've had people throw I've had some
00:24:48
guys that have had um the documents
00:24:50
thrown at their cars. I've had them try
00:24:52
and shove them through a window back at
00:24:54
them. We don't want this. Yeah. So,
00:24:58
>> yeah.
00:24:59
>> So, you have to serve them and then like
00:25:00
briskly sort of walk away. So,
00:25:02
>> yeah,
00:25:03
>> it depends on what the situation is. Um,
00:25:06
and so we
00:25:07
>> Yeah, we'll work out is it a safe
00:25:10
situation or not? Like I'll pick and
00:25:12
choose like yeah, who would go and do it
00:25:15
kind of thing compared or I'll do a
00:25:17
two-up job. If I know it's dangerous and
00:25:19
we've been told this person can be
00:25:22
violent, we do what's called two-up. So,
00:25:24
you just have a backup. Yeah.
00:25:26
>> Gets laid. Get
00:25:28
>> um there was another one on your
00:25:29
website, a stolen trailer.
00:25:31
>> Yeah. So, um
00:25:33
>> that seems so random.
00:25:34
>> I know. I had no idea. Like these are
00:25:38
quite common to be stolen, but yeah, a
00:25:40
guy had it stolen. There was CCTV. Um
00:25:44
the number plate was there. Worked with
00:25:46
them, said tracked it. This is where
00:25:49
your trailer is. Yep. Got his trailer
00:25:51
back.
00:25:52
>> Mhm. So,
00:25:53
>> what what did the trailer thief say?
00:25:55
>> I didn't see the trailer thief. So, it
00:25:57
was literally, "Let's get the trailer
00:25:59
back and take it back."
00:26:00
>> Oh, you you literally just like Yeah.
00:26:02
did to the trailer thief what they what
00:26:04
he did to you.
00:26:05
>> Stole it back. Um there was another one
00:26:08
on the website, workplace investigation
00:26:10
exposing false injury claim.
00:26:13
>> So, this is like an ACC thing.
00:26:16
>> Yeah. But it's not for ACC, it's for the
00:26:19
business. So, the amount of businesses
00:26:21
in New Zealand that will have somebody
00:26:23
who's off on ACC,
00:26:25
um, and I have seen and worked alongside
00:26:29
ones where they've been off on ACC and
00:26:31
then all of a sudden they've gone
00:26:32
overseas, but you're being paid ACC, but
00:26:35
you can't work or they're off on ACC and
00:26:39
they're off for,
00:26:42
I don't know, let's say a strained back
00:26:44
kind of thing and then they're out
00:26:46
lugging their wheelbarrow full of like
00:26:49
stones and working in their yard and
00:26:51
doing all this stuff. So, there's two
00:26:54
different elements here. One, they're
00:26:56
claiming ACC. The second one is the
00:26:58
company can't replace somebody because
00:27:01
that's their um job. And so, there's a
00:27:04
big part around that of trying to get
00:27:07
rid of somebody who's on ACC. And so,
00:27:10
the businesses lose money. They can't
00:27:13
prove. So they have to have the evidence
00:27:14
to then have that meeting in a workplace
00:27:17
investigation to go actually we've got
00:27:19
evidence that this is not true and
00:27:21
correct and because you've breached our
00:27:24
terms of agreement under your contract
00:27:26
whatever it is it helps them.
00:27:29
>> Yeah. There's lots of businesses in New
00:27:31
Zealand that can do more workplace
00:27:32
investigations relating to ACC because I
00:27:35
don't believe well ACC do investigations
00:27:39
but I think there's a lot of work that
00:27:41
can be done there.
00:27:42
>> Oh yeah. There's no way they'd be as
00:27:43
thorough as Yeah. what someone like you
00:27:46
would be. Does that involve a stake out
00:27:48
and taking photos?
00:27:49
>> Yeah, that does.
00:27:50
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
00:27:51
>> But that's quite an exciting one because
00:27:53
you're trying to capture them
00:27:55
>> doing something
00:27:56
>> doing something or for example, you will
00:27:58
find them on Tik Tok doing something.
00:28:00
So, you screenshot them.
00:28:03
>> Yeah.
00:28:03
>> That's a rigorous dance for someone with
00:28:05
a broken ankle.
00:28:06
>> Yeah. So, there's all sorts of things
00:28:08
like that. Social media is amazing.
00:28:11
>> Yeah. or they'll be sent something to
00:28:13
go, hey, they're doing this. Yeah.
00:28:15
>> Uh there's another one on the website,
00:28:16
locating an aranged family member for a
00:28:18
state resolution. Um
00:28:22
c can you track everyone? If someone
00:28:23
wanted to disappear, can it be done or
00:28:26
does everyone have some sort of a
00:28:27
digital footprint?
00:28:28
>> No. If you want to go to ground, you can
00:28:31
go to ground. And it does make it very
00:28:33
hard to find somebody. So if someone has
00:28:37
a purpose to go to ground, they go and
00:28:41
it takes a lot more to yeah find them.
00:28:45
But generally speaking, it won't take
00:28:49
long before something rises again and
00:28:51
then it's like, oh, actually here we go.
00:28:54
I did one for a third party insurance
00:28:57
one 6 months ago. Tried to find them.
00:29:00
They were living in their car. All sorts
00:29:02
of things like that. Not last known
00:29:04
address was a freedom campaign. Waited
00:29:06
six months. Oh, hello. This is a new
00:29:09
one. Let's go and see if you're there.
00:29:11
Yep. Lo and behold. Yeah. So, it's a bit
00:29:14
of a patience game as well.
00:29:16
>> What's someone's reaction when they're
00:29:18
intentionally sort of hiding out and
00:29:20
then you find them?
00:29:21
>> Um angry.
00:29:23
>> Yeah.
00:29:23
>> Yeah.
00:29:24
>> Like confused. Like how how the hell did
00:29:27
you find me?
00:29:27
>> Yeah. Yeah. Depends on the reason of why
00:29:30
we're wanting to find them. for example,
00:29:32
an estate. Um, most people don't
00:29:34
actually know that they're a beneficiary
00:29:36
of an estate. Um, that's a nice job.
00:29:39
That's a really nice one to go, "Hey,
00:29:41
this is why I'm calling you. Um, a
00:29:44
lawyer's been trying to find you or a
00:29:46
genealogologist has been trying to find
00:29:48
you. Here's their details. I are you
00:29:51
okay with me passing your details to
00:29:52
them?" And, uh, generally, yeah, all
00:29:55
good. If it's because of finance, like
00:29:58
taken a car loan, um stopped paying your
00:30:01
car loan, sold the car, thought you'd
00:30:05
skip off to Australia or something and
00:30:07
get away with it, then come back to New
00:30:09
Zealand. Generally,
00:30:11
they can be angry to start with or
00:30:13
they'll hang up the phone or they just
00:30:15
won't talk to you. But you just have to
00:30:18
let them know that, hey, this isn't
00:30:20
going to go away. No matter what you do,
00:30:23
whatever, like if you give it a year,
00:30:25
two years, it's not going to go away and
00:30:26
you're gonna get yourself worse in
00:30:27
trouble.
00:30:29
>> What are the what are the main sort of
00:30:30
reasons people go to ground?
00:30:32
>> Is it avoiding people or avoiding
00:30:34
responsibilities or
00:30:35
>> I think it's avoiding responsibilities?
00:30:37
I think a lot of it is avoiding
00:30:39
responsibilities. Yeah.
00:30:42
>> You're going into a lot of um sort of
00:30:44
potentially volatile and quite dynamic
00:30:46
situations, eh?
00:30:48
>> Mhm.
00:30:50
Sometimes, not all the time, it's not.
00:30:54
>> I don't think of it as that.
00:30:56
>> But I did have somebody say to me the
00:30:57
other day, "Oh, we thought Slade was
00:30:59
scary." No. Why are you scarier?
00:31:02
Like, oh, okay. Yeah.
00:31:05
>> Thanks. I think
00:31:08
Oh, these are great stories. Well, I'm
00:31:10
I'm up to the card here about infidelity
00:31:12
and cheating. So, we'll just um I
00:31:14
mentioned on Instagram you coming in.
00:31:15
There was a a range of questions but
00:31:17
most of them to be fair are sort of
00:31:19
based around this and I suppose that's
00:31:21
um maybe that's the the the biggest sort
00:31:23
of misconception or myth about what you
00:31:24
do.
00:31:25
>> Yeah. I think it is the biggest
00:31:27
misconception. Um I think because
00:31:32
>> there are investigators who
00:31:34
predominantly that's their bread and
00:31:35
butter. That's what they do.
00:31:37
>> Um
00:31:38
>> but also it's a big industry.
00:31:40
>> It's a big industry infidelity. Um,
00:31:44
I don't know why, but I've been down
00:31:47
that path myself. I haven't cheated, but
00:31:49
I have been cheated on. And I think
00:31:51
maybe that's why I don't like it so much
00:31:54
because I know what it's like to receive
00:31:56
that news or to find out what it's like
00:31:59
to go,
00:32:00
>> I knew my heart was right. I knew you
00:32:02
were doing that. So,
00:32:05
you're the bearer of bad news, really.
00:32:08
>> Yeah.
00:32:10
Yeah. Yeah. You're confirming. I mean,
00:32:12
so I suppose someone comes to you, all
00:32:15
the warning signs are there, they they
00:32:17
want you to come back with information
00:32:18
that proves that they're wrong.
00:32:20
>> Yeah.
00:32:21
>> Ultimately, they want to Great news,
00:32:22
he's planning a surprise party for you.
00:32:24
>> Yeah. Yeah.
00:32:26
>> But you know in your heart whether or
00:32:28
not that's true or not.
00:32:29
>> You do. You do. Um,
00:32:33
>> but there's all the red flags and I I
00:32:35
have actually thought about writing um
00:32:39
almost like a basic manual of what are
00:32:42
those red flags and if you're going to
00:32:44
have say three or five red flags, you
00:32:48
need to reconsider things seriously and
00:32:50
you can do it yourself like make some
00:32:53
phone calls. I think fear is a lot of
00:32:55
what drives people not to
00:32:58
>> um investigate themselves. M. Yeah. Cuz
00:33:01
they don't want to be proven right.
00:33:03
>> Yeah.
00:33:03
>> Yeah.
00:33:04
>> Cuz a red flag can be just a red flag,
00:33:07
but it's like strands of a rope. A if
00:33:09
there's enough strands Yeah.
00:33:10
>> then suddenly it's not good.
00:33:11
>> Yeah.
00:33:12
>> Um
00:33:14
what are the classic signs you see again
00:33:15
and again that make people suspect their
00:33:17
partner?
00:33:19
>> The phone.
00:33:20
>> The phone. Or they've got two phones.
00:33:23
One might be work, one's personal. Um
00:33:27
they're the classic ones. or it's on do
00:33:29
not disturb all the time when they're
00:33:31
together. Um, privacy screens are now on
00:33:35
the phone, so you can't actually look
00:33:36
over the shoulder and read um, yeah, the
00:33:40
phone over and over again.
00:33:43
>> Mhm.
00:33:44
>> Um, in your experience, why do people
00:33:46
cheat?
00:33:48
>> Oh,
00:33:50
>> this is probably more like a psych
00:33:52
psychological question rather than a PI
00:33:55
>> Yeah.
00:33:55
>> question.
00:33:57
I don't know because I think every
00:33:59
circumstance is different.
00:34:00
>> Yeah.
00:34:01
>> But
00:34:01
>> the thrill, avoid.
00:34:04
>> Yeah.
00:34:05
>> Yeah. I think those all go into it. Um,
00:34:09
communication's huge in a relationship.
00:34:12
And if you don't have communication,
00:34:15
then you have a problem to start with.
00:34:17
If you're not honest with each other,
00:34:20
um,
00:34:22
then there's a big breakdown there to
00:34:23
start with. So
00:34:26
yeah, I think maybe that might be
00:34:28
something that's missing in a
00:34:29
relationship. And I know children add
00:34:32
another element to it. Um stress adds
00:34:35
another element. There's all sorts of
00:34:37
reasons. But communi it comes back to
00:34:39
communication.
00:34:40
>> Yeah. If you can sit down and have a
00:34:41
conversation or hey, I'm not feeling
00:34:44
this. I'm not happy. I've lost our
00:34:47
spark. Okay. Well, how do we get it
00:34:49
back? like if you're feeling that, what
00:34:51
am I feeling kind of thing instead of
00:34:54
making it all about me? Let's look at it
00:34:56
bigger picture.
00:34:57
>> Oh, that's really smart. But I think
00:34:59
human human instinct a lot of the time
00:35:01
is to like avoid conversations that you
00:35:03
know are going to be tough.
00:35:04
>> Absolutely. Nobody likes to be in a
00:35:07
conversation and fear like what if they
00:35:10
say this or what if they reject me?
00:35:12
Rejection's huge.
00:35:14
>> Um
00:35:15
>> yeah, nobody likes a conversation.
00:35:17
Nobody likes to own their [ __ ] either.
00:35:20
>> That's one thing I've found out with
00:35:22
human nature. Nobody likes to own their
00:35:24
[ __ ] If you make a mistake,
00:35:26
>> own it. It's okay.
00:35:27
>> Yeah. Well, I suppose it's embarrassing.
00:35:29
Like I mean, we're all we're all um
00:35:32
flawed individuals, but you know, it's
00:35:34
never nice to admit that you're a flawed
00:35:35
person, is it?
00:35:36
>> No. No, it's not.
00:35:37
>> Yeah. Um is there such a thing as a
00:35:39
profile or of a likely cheater?
00:35:42
>> Is it more men than women?
00:35:44
>> Oh, no. There's women that cheat.
00:35:46
There's yeah there's definitely women
00:35:48
that cheat. Um I think it's pro the
00:35:52
pendulum's probably swung a bit where it
00:35:55
used to be predominately men but that's
00:35:57
because if you look back in history men
00:35:59
were the ones who went out to work and
00:36:01
they were the ones that were always out
00:36:04
whereas now women go out to work women
00:36:06
get to go out to bars. Women get to go
00:36:08
out and flirt. Women are very
00:36:12
much also about their friends. So, no. I
00:36:18
I don't know what the statistics are,
00:36:19
but
00:36:21
>> I goes both ways.
00:36:22
>> I reckon I reckon um this is
00:36:24
generalizing here, but but women are
00:36:26
probably better at covering their
00:36:27
tracks, too. I think guys are probably
00:36:29
more sloppy.
00:36:30
>> Yes. Yep. Yep. Yep. Absolutely. I would
00:36:33
I would agree there too. Probably.
00:36:35
>> Yeah. And in your limited experience on
00:36:37
this, how do clients usually react when
00:36:38
you present proof?
00:36:41
the ones that I have done,
00:36:45
I knew it. That's it. I'm leaving. Um,
00:36:49
others have broken down
00:36:52
and then now what am I going to do?
00:36:54
>> Well, hold on. That's not actually my
00:36:57
job either, like to tell you what to do.
00:36:59
Like, you can make the decision. You can
00:37:01
either sit there and say yes, you're
00:37:04
going to try and save it or what. Um,
00:37:08
yeah, those are probably the two main
00:37:11
ones. Or they'll ask you to keep going.
00:37:14
I've had that before.
00:37:17
>> For what?
00:37:17
>> Why? Why do you need more information if
00:37:21
you've got the little bit that you
00:37:23
needed? Why waste more money?
00:37:26
>> Yeah.
00:37:26
>> For these ones that you have done, how
00:37:28
Yeah. What's involved? So, a client a
00:37:30
client comes to you. Um, then what?
00:37:32
>> So, it would be finding out their
00:37:34
patterns first of all. Um, so it's
00:37:36
gathering all the information that
00:37:38
they've got so far and then finding out
00:37:40
their patterns. Some of it has been
00:37:42
following, some of it has been watching,
00:37:45
um, going out at night to see, well,
00:37:47
hold on, are they at work? Are the
00:37:49
lights on in the office? Things like
00:37:51
that. Or hold on, there's nobody in the
00:37:53
office.
00:37:55
>> Tailing. Yeah.
00:37:57
>> See, that seems fun. That sounds
00:37:59
exhilarating.
00:38:01
>> Until you lose them on the motorway that
00:38:03
it's not.
00:38:06
Oh yes.
00:38:07
>> Have you Have you ever been um not not
00:38:09
just with um infidelity stuff, but just
00:38:11
in general? Have like Have you ever been
00:38:12
um um Yeah. following someone or
00:38:15
watching someone and been caught?
00:38:17
>> No, I haven't been caught.
00:38:20
>> How How have you How do you avoid being
00:38:22
caught? Cuz I'm I'm I'm trying to think
00:38:25
if someone was following me, I'd think I
00:38:27
don't know. I actually I don't know. I
00:38:29
think I'd be aware of it, but maybe I
00:38:30
wouldn't.
00:38:31
I think if you
00:38:35
um
00:38:36
>> I mean you don't have a sign written
00:38:38
vehicle, do you?
00:38:38
>> No.
00:38:40
>> No. But also I think that's why I don't
00:38:42
do them because
00:38:45
>> Yeah.
00:38:46
>> I mean you can rent vehicles. You can
00:38:49
get in ones that don't look like you are
00:38:53
following somebody. I know investigators
00:38:55
that have got vans that have got your
00:38:58
typical all dark black van kind of
00:39:00
thing. So you don't know that somebody's
00:39:02
in there. So there are your typical
00:39:05
>> stigma kind of things that you do use.
00:39:07
>> Pi mobilebiles.
00:39:08
>> Yeah.
00:39:09
>> If someone um listening to this or
00:39:11
watching this suspects their partner of
00:39:12
cheating, what would be your best
00:39:13
advice?
00:39:19
>> Follow your gut.
00:39:21
>> Follow your gut. If you think that they
00:39:24
are cheating, a have a conversation with
00:39:26
them, don't don't go all out and be
00:39:29
angry. If if you've got evidence, like
00:39:32
if you've got messages there, um
00:39:36
I mean, you're both in a lose-lose
00:39:38
situation if they are cheating because
00:39:41
you're going to lose the relationship
00:39:43
and if you've got kids involved,
00:39:44
whatever, that's a big loss. So, it's
00:39:47
about having that conversation. But my
00:39:49
advice would be gather some evidence. If
00:39:52
you can't gather the evidence yourself,
00:39:54
yes, reach out to an investigator
00:39:56
because they will help you gather that
00:39:58
evidence. Um,
00:40:01
but if you're suspecting something,
00:40:04
what's giving you that feeling to go,
00:40:08
"Oh, I think they're cheating." Is it
00:40:09
your insecurities or is it something
00:40:11
they've done?
00:40:12
>> Can many relationships survive this?
00:40:14
>> Oh, I think some can. Yeah,
00:40:16
>> I think some can. Um, again, I don't
00:40:20
know the statistics or anything on it. I
00:40:23
think
00:40:25
probably depends on what's gone on.
00:40:28
>> Like if it's been I'll call it the
00:40:30
texting, the texting. If it's been that
00:40:33
side, um,
00:40:39
as a female, you would always hold that
00:40:42
to go,
00:40:43
>> are they still going to do it? And then
00:40:45
it becomes your inseal
00:40:53
there to go. Yes, if you can find
00:40:55
forgiveness in your heart and work it
00:40:58
out, that's a big thing, but you also
00:41:00
have to be really open with yourself.
00:41:03
And I mean, hey, if you need to go and
00:41:05
get counseling to talk about it with
00:41:06
somebody else, go and do it.
00:41:09
>> Well, it sort of lives back to the
00:41:10
communication aspect you were talking
00:41:11
about earlier.
00:41:12
>> Yeah. Um, maybe that's something that
00:41:13
was missing and yeah, potentially it can
00:41:15
be salvaged just by opening those lines
00:41:17
of communication.
00:41:17
>> Yeah.
00:41:19
>> You you've never caught like a couple
00:41:21
red-handed like hooking up in a car or
00:41:26
>> me and everyone on Instagram's watched
00:41:28
way too many movies.
00:41:30
>> I don't get me wrong, I think there are
00:41:31
some investigators that have caught that
00:41:34
or they'll catch them walking out of a
00:41:36
hotel room together. All it is is a
00:41:38
photo to go, "Hey, here's the evidence."
00:41:41
arms around each other, kiss goodbye.
00:41:43
That's pretty evidential that Yep.
00:41:46
Something's gone on there. Um, workplace
00:41:49
parties always happens.
00:41:52
>> Yeah.
00:41:53
>> Yeah.
00:41:54
>> Yeah. So, um, I mentioned on Instagram
00:41:56
you coming in and there was a bunch of
00:41:57
questions. A lot of a lot of them were
00:41:59
actually the the ones that we've just
00:42:00
gone through about infidelity. Um, but
00:42:03
then there's a bunch of random stuff
00:42:04
like this one. What's the toughest
00:42:06
investigation you've led at Supenti?
00:42:08
>> Oh.
00:42:10
The toughest investigation would have
00:42:13
been a fraud ring. Um, so
00:42:18
it was
00:42:20
again insurance. Um, but
00:42:24
a whole lot of claims came in and it was
00:42:27
putting together to go, hold on, this
00:42:30
looks like this one or this looks like
00:42:32
this one. And all of a sudden, we had a
00:42:34
wall in our office. Now, this is very
00:42:36
much like the movies where you have it
00:42:38
over the wall and you've got profiles of
00:42:40
people and it links to this one and it
00:42:41
links to this one and everything else.
00:42:43
So,
00:42:44
that was a massive investigation and
00:42:46
that then got handed over to the police
00:42:48
because that that was there were so many
00:42:50
different criminal elements to it,
00:42:52
identity theft, um monetary theft,
00:42:56
laundering. There was just so many
00:42:58
different elements. That was that was a
00:43:01
really cool case to work on because
00:43:04
yeah, there were just all those types of
00:43:06
elements. That would probably be the
00:43:08
most difficult. Would it be difficult?
00:43:10
Yeah, cuz you had to really analyze
00:43:12
things. Bank accounts, does this match
00:43:14
this? Does that phone match that?
00:43:16
Emails, all sorts of things. Yeah.
00:43:20
>> As a leader, how do you prepare your
00:43:21
team for cases that are emotionally
00:43:23
draining like family disputes or missing
00:43:25
loved ones?
00:43:28
We talk about it.
00:43:30
>> We talk about it. If they if it's going
00:43:33
to impact them, I will do it. I will
00:43:37
step in and take
00:43:40
the difficult ones. I'll do that myself.
00:43:43
I'll always protect my team.
00:43:45
>> Are there any cases that stay with you
00:43:47
long after they've ended?
00:43:49
>> They probably do, but I probably don't
00:43:52
think about them. like um yeah, it
00:43:56
wasn't until I sat with actually my
00:43:57
website guy and he went I need some case
00:44:00
studies and I was like case studies and
00:44:01
it wasn't until I sat down and I went oh
00:44:03
my god I've done heaps like I've done
00:44:06
heaps like this is and they're all so
00:44:09
different and I think it's not till you
00:44:11
reflect back that you realize the depth
00:44:14
you can go into on them but have some
00:44:17
stayed with me
00:44:20
>> um probably in the back of my mind yeah
00:44:23
they do I've worked on some high-profile
00:44:25
ones, but I do the background work. So,
00:44:28
I'm not out the front saying, "Hey, this
00:44:31
is me. I did this work." Because there's
00:44:34
the elements of protecting those that
00:44:35
are involved. And there's also the
00:44:37
elements of the work that I done.
00:44:39
>> Yeah.
00:44:40
>> How do you handle situations where the
00:44:42
truth you uncover is not necessarily
00:44:43
what your client wants to hear?
00:44:45
>> Oh,
00:44:47
>> it's almost like you go from being a PI
00:44:49
to being like a a counselor.
00:44:51
>> Yeah. Yeah. And you've got to have that
00:44:53
empathy role. You've got to be quite
00:44:55
empathetic.
00:44:56
>> Um,
00:44:57
>> also you can be quite pragmatic and well
00:45:00
there's the evidence. That's what it is.
00:45:02
Here you go.
00:45:03
>> But um, the empathy more comes with when
00:45:07
I'm talking to individuals, particularly
00:45:10
if it's fraud related and they know that
00:45:14
they've done wrong. And then I'm like,
00:45:16
"Well, you can either own it here with
00:45:18
me now or you own it later when you get
00:45:22
yourself more in trouble."
00:45:24
>> And that's when they'll open up and
00:45:25
they'll be like, "Yeah, I'm sorry. This
00:45:26
is what I've done." And it's like,
00:45:27
"Cool. Thanks. You've owned it now. Do
00:45:29
it while you're young. Don't do it while
00:45:31
you're older." Yeah. But
00:45:34
>> you learn from this.
00:45:35
>> Exactly. And that's what I've said to
00:45:38
lots of people.
00:45:39
>> You've made a mistake. Own it.
00:45:41
>> Move on. Just don't do it again.
00:45:44
Um, what has working as a PI taught you
00:45:47
about human nature?
00:45:49
Oh,
00:45:49
>> I've learned.
00:45:50
>> Have you had trust issues?
00:45:51
>> Probably.
00:45:52
>> Probably.
00:45:53
>> Do you start to think like everyone's a
00:45:55
piece of [ __ ]
00:45:56
>> Yeah. Or I start to kind of go, "Oh,
00:45:59
you're such a liar." Like, yeah. Um,
00:46:04
I don't like to think I do, but I maybe
00:46:07
I do look at or I look at things like
00:46:09
people believe things
00:46:12
>> everything they hear the media.
00:46:14
>> I love the media, but I don't love the
00:46:16
media because people believe it and I'm
00:46:18
like, hold on, there's got to be another
00:46:20
side to this. What's happened here? And
00:46:22
I start to look at both sides of things.
00:46:24
So, I guess what's it taught me about
00:46:27
human nature? any everybody
00:46:30
has two sides to them.
00:46:33
>> Yeah.
00:46:33
>> Yeah.
00:46:35
Um do you think do you think you see the
00:46:37
world differently now than before you
00:46:38
got into this career?
00:46:40
>> Absolutely.
00:46:40
>> Yeah.
00:46:41
>> Yeah. How could you not?
00:46:42
>> Yeah. Absolutely. Like going from
00:46:44
teaching I had my beautiful kids. They
00:46:46
were like great. Everything was roses
00:46:49
and unicorns and
00:46:51
>> Well, because you were a primary school
00:46:52
age teacher, right? Yeah. Yeah. primary
00:46:54
school age kids can be um you know
00:46:56
pieces of [ __ ] but it's it's still kind
00:46:58
of cute in a way.
00:46:59
>> Yeah. So yeah
00:47:00
>> sly sort of devious.
00:47:02
>> Yeah. But do you know what it did teach
00:47:04
me primary school teaching was it taught
00:47:06
me if you can get information out of a
00:47:08
kid you can get information out of
00:47:10
anybody
00:47:11
>> really.
00:47:12
>> You try and get question a kid and
00:47:14
they'll go yeah I don't know whatever.
00:47:17
Yeah it's good. Well what's good? Tell
00:47:19
me more. So, you learn really good
00:47:22
questioning skills from teaching.
00:47:25
Yeah, that's what teaching taught me
00:47:27
>> actually. Yeah, that's a good point. If
00:47:29
you ask just how was your day, you're
00:47:30
just going to get a one word answer,
00:47:32
aren't you? Yeah.
00:47:33
>> For anyone listening that's curious
00:47:34
about this career path, what advice
00:47:36
would you give them?
00:47:39
>> It's not what it seems on the movies.
00:47:44
Um, it's great if you like to be
00:47:47
analytical and question things and love
00:47:50
jigsaw puzzles. Like sometimes I'll
00:47:52
explain it like it's a spiderweb. Um,
00:47:55
and you're solving different problems.
00:47:58
Um, if you're a police officer or
00:48:00
something like that and you think, "Oh,
00:48:02
yeah, it's something I'd like to get
00:48:03
into." Absolutely go for it. There's
00:48:06
nothing to stop you. It's hard to get
00:48:09
into because it is the stigma that goes
00:48:12
with it is probably that it is an old
00:48:15
boys club, but there's lots of females
00:48:17
that do it.
00:48:18
>> Yeah.
00:48:20
>> Yeah. I think in a lot of ways uh Yeah.
00:48:23
I think females could be a lot a lot
00:48:24
better at it than what guys. Maybe
00:48:26
you're going into these um potentially
00:48:28
volatile situations. It's probably a lot
00:48:30
less confrontational.
00:48:31
>> Yeah.
00:48:31
>> In a way,
00:48:32
>> I had a conversation intimidating. I had
00:48:34
a conversation with a male investigator
00:48:37
about that because um I wrote something
00:48:39
and I said females look at things
00:48:41
differently. We have a very different
00:48:43
investigative mind. We're not so black
00:48:47
and white sometimes or we'll bring a
00:48:49
different element like empathy more so
00:48:51
than a male. And women, I'm going to be
00:48:55
very general and go generally make a
00:48:58
great investigator,
00:49:01
but it's really hard to crack sometimes.
00:49:04
Y
00:49:05
>> um Oh, you may not have an answer for
00:49:07
this from Instagram. What's the wildest
00:49:09
takeout you've ever done? Like movie
00:49:11
level drama?
00:49:12
>> Oh, wildest steak out I've ever done.
00:49:17
H
00:49:19
>> Have you ever done one where you're out
00:49:20
there for days?
00:49:23
No, the longest I've done is probably
00:49:26
three days, four days.
00:49:27
>> Three days.
00:49:28
>> Yeah.
00:49:29
>> Like not not round the clock though.
00:49:31
>> No. So we would take shifts kind of
00:49:33
thing like that's
00:49:34
>> So someone would be there. Yeah. You
00:49:36
were monitoring someone or they Wow.
00:49:38
>> Yeah. Yeah.
00:49:39
>> What was the case?
00:49:41
>> Um a child custody,
00:49:44
>> right?
00:49:44
>> Yeah. Yeah. So there was a lot of
00:49:46
tailing in that. Um, yeah, the guy Paul
00:49:51
that I have working for me, he's got
00:49:54
amazing stories, but he did a lot of his
00:49:56
investigations in Australia. He's got
00:49:58
stories about where he's been traveling
00:49:59
across the outback of Australia. He's
00:50:01
had to wee in a bottle, things like
00:50:03
that. Like, he's got some But he's been
00:50:05
an investigator for sheesh, I'm going to
00:50:08
be rude here and say probably 50 years.
00:50:11
Yeah. He's got some amazing stories.
00:50:14
>> Yeah.
00:50:15
>> Well, that was going to be my next
00:50:16
question. Have you ever weighed in a
00:50:17
bottle?
00:50:18
>> Not me personally. No, not me
00:50:21
personally. In my military days, I
00:50:22
probably did some weeing in unusual
00:50:24
places as you do, but um no, I haven't
00:50:28
weighed in a bottle. It's quite
00:50:29
difficult for a girl.
00:50:30
>> Where where do you see the private
00:50:32
investigation industry heading in the
00:50:34
next decade? Especially with things like
00:50:36
AI.
00:50:38
>> The there's investigations everywhere.
00:50:41
>> There's huge room for more
00:50:43
investigations. And I think that's what
00:50:45
the public need to know is
00:50:48
uh or work or businesses like use an
00:50:51
investigator if you think something's
00:50:53
going on in work. Um workplace
00:50:56
investigations
00:50:58
um locating loved ones, lost ones,
00:51:01
lawyers, things like that. Um there's so
00:51:04
much room for growth for investigations.
00:51:08
What kind of legacy would you like to
00:51:10
leave both for your clients and for the
00:51:11
next generation of investigators in NZ?
00:51:15
>> Oh, what kind of legacy?
00:51:20
Resilience.
00:51:22
>> Resilience is probably
00:51:26
and you can reinvent yourself. That's
00:51:29
probably my legacy. going from what I've
00:51:33
done and showing that.
00:51:37
Yeah.
00:51:39
And a great legacy for the kids
00:51:41
>> to go, hey, here's a cool company. If
00:51:43
you want to own it, if you want to work
00:51:44
in it, then Yeah.
00:51:47
>> Yeah. How long are you going to do this
00:51:48
for in terms of you? Yeah. Are you done
00:51:50
with career pivots?
00:51:52
>> Oh, yes.
00:51:55
>> You're a medic in the Air Force, primary
00:51:56
school teacher, and PI.
00:51:58
>> Yeah. I don't know. I No, I've found
00:52:00
what I love. I've found my niche. And
00:52:06
if as long as, God willing, nothing
00:52:08
happens. Um, no, I'll stay doing this
00:52:12
>> for I don't know, until I retire. But
00:52:14
when do you retire? Like, yeah. How old
00:52:17
are you when you retire? I don't know.
00:52:19
>> Well, if you enjoy what you're doing,
00:52:20
which you do, then I mean it doesn't
00:52:23
feel like it's something that you want
00:52:24
to
00:52:24
>> no
00:52:25
>> quit doing. Eh, you just want to keep at
00:52:26
it.
00:52:27
>> Yeah. This has been super informative.
00:52:29
>> That's really good. Please.
00:52:30
>> So, um, any anyone that's listening for
00:52:32
this, like who who should reach out to
00:52:34
you or under what circumstances should
00:52:36
someone reach out to you
00:52:38
>> for business wise or if they want to
00:52:41
know about being a PI, like I'm open
00:52:43
either way. So, if it's bit for business
00:52:45
and you um need a workplace
00:52:48
investigation done or um lawyers, if you
00:52:52
need defense um investigations done, if
00:52:56
you own a funeral home, if you need to
00:52:58
locate a whole lot of lost ones, um
00:53:01
because families haven't come to collect
00:53:03
things, um estates, all sorts of
00:53:07
reasons. Infidelity, yes, I'll take it.
00:53:10
if you
00:53:12
>> if you
00:53:13
>> so reluctant about it,
00:53:14
>> but also um I've done a few recently
00:53:16
where I've helped people with tenencies.
00:53:19
So first time landlord problem tenant
00:53:22
don't know what to do. They've come
00:53:24
through and said, "Cal, what do I do?"
00:53:25
And I've said, "Look, I can help you
00:53:27
package it up. Here's for the dispute
00:53:29
tribunal. I'll go and talk to the
00:53:30
tenant. This is the law. This is what
00:53:32
you need to do." People kind of take a
00:53:34
step back when they go, "Ah, shit." And
00:53:36
investigate it. I'm not scary. It's just
00:53:39
about having that conversation to go,
00:53:41
"Well, hold on. This is where we're at."
00:53:43
Finance companies if they need anything,
00:53:45
but also, yeah, I'm happy to chat. I've
00:53:48
got a couple of people that have reached
00:53:49
out to me and said, "Can you just tell
00:53:51
me a little bit more about what you do
00:53:52
cuz I find it fascinating." Yeah.
00:53:56
>> Yeah. Well, hopefully this podcast sort
00:53:57
of serves as part of that, like giving
00:54:00
people an insight into the job and
00:54:01
>> Yeah.
00:54:02
>> and what it's like.
00:54:03
>> Yeah. It's Yeah. Fascinating. Who Who
00:54:05
are your main regular clients? Do you
00:54:07
have insurance companies and things that
00:54:09
>> Yeah, there are insurance companies that
00:54:11
there's a lot of fraud in New Zealand.
00:54:14
>> Oh, people that people that get burgled
00:54:16
and they say stuff got went missing that
00:54:17
they didn't even own and that sort of
00:54:19
thing or
00:54:19
>> Yeah. Yeah. Or my vehicle was crashed
00:54:22
into and it wasn't. Um or my vehicle was
00:54:25
stolen and it wasn't. Um yeah, there's a
00:54:28
lot of that. Um they it was something in
00:54:32
the UK called Crash for Cash, so they're
00:54:35
staged accidents. Um, and you get cash
00:54:38
because it's from the insurance company
00:54:40
because if you think about it, insurance
00:54:41
companies don't like you don't pay tax.
00:54:44
It's money in your pocket.
00:54:46
>> Um, that and lawyers. Lawyers are the
00:54:50
big ones. Um, and then finance companies
00:54:52
to locate people. Um, so some of my main
00:54:56
clients,
00:54:58
um, I'm working on a couple of proposals
00:55:00
at the moment for other ones and
00:55:01
workplace investigations. Yeah. Out of
00:55:04
the three careers you've had, is this
00:55:06
the most fun? Is this the one you enjoy
00:55:08
the most?
00:55:11
>> That's a hard one to answer.
00:55:13
>> Let's rank them first, second, and
00:55:15
third.
00:55:16
>> Most fun.
00:55:21
>> They all have different elements. Like I
00:55:24
loved my time in the Air Force.
00:55:26
Absolutely loved it. That was my career.
00:55:28
I made lifetime friends. Loved my time
00:55:31
teaching. Um, and I love being a PI, but
00:55:36
ranking them.
00:55:39
You couldn't pay me to go back to being
00:55:40
a teacher, so that's probably down the
00:55:43
bottom now.
00:55:45
And you probably couldn't pay me to go
00:55:47
back to being a medic. So, no. Yeah. So,
00:55:49
this one here, owning your own business
00:55:51
is totally different as well. It's And
00:55:55
opens you up to a whole different world.
00:55:58
Like, there's things that I've had to
00:55:59
learn and grow and Yeah.
00:56:03
I think I think it's super inspiring
00:56:04
what you've done. Are there transferable
00:56:07
skills like from from Air Force medic to
00:56:09
primary school teacher, the primary
00:56:11
school teacher to private eye or they
00:56:12
just all completely
00:56:14
>> Oh, no. Apart.
00:56:15
>> No, there's transferable skills. So,
00:56:17
being a in the Air Force, you learned
00:56:20
what it was like to be very disciplined.
00:56:21
You learned what it was like to work a
00:56:25
in a very maledominated area. Um
00:56:29
and being disciplined is huge into a PI.
00:56:33
Um
00:56:36
traveling things like that. Being an un
00:56:40
uncomfortable situations would be
00:56:43
transferable from the military to PI. Um
00:56:47
like as a medic you work with the Navy,
00:56:50
you work with the Army and Air Force. So
00:56:52
you try service. And then teaching
00:56:56
report writing, it's very transferable
00:56:59
>> and and sometimes dealing with
00:57:01
unreasonable humans.
00:57:02
>> Yeah. Yeah. And remaining calm and like
00:57:06
going okay and asking questions. Lots of
00:57:08
different questions. Questioning people.
00:57:11
Yeah.
00:57:11
>> Yeah. Hey, well this has been a lot of
00:57:13
fun.
00:57:14
>> I'm pleased.
00:57:15
>> Yeah. Thank you so much for coming on
00:57:16
the podcast today. Kalia McFarland from
00:57:19
Sir Penty Investigations.
00:57:20
>> No, great to be here. Thank you for
00:57:22
having me. I appreciate it. You You're
00:57:24
um Yeah. You're not following me at the
00:57:26
moment for anything, are you?
00:57:27
>> No. No. You're not under investigation
00:57:29
or anything. You're fine. You're very
00:57:31
safe.
00:57:31
>> Yeah. Lovely to meet you. Thank you for
00:57:33
coming on the podcast.
00:57:34
>> No. Great to be here. Thank you.

Podspun Insights

In this episode, listeners are treated to an engaging conversation with Carlia McFarland, a private investigator from Supenti Investigations. Carlia dives into the intriguing world of private investigation, dispelling common myths about her profession while sharing her unique journey from being an Air Force medic to a primary school teacher and finally, a PI. The discussion reveals the multifaceted nature of her work, which includes everything from fraud investigations to skip tracing and even the occasional infidelity case.

Listeners will find themselves captivated by Carlia's candid reflections on the emotional challenges of her job, particularly when it comes to delivering difficult news to clients. Her insights into human nature, trust, and the importance of communication in relationships add depth to the conversation. The episode also touches on the lighter side of her work, including humorous anecdotes about stakeouts and the quirks of being a private investigator.

As Carlia shares her experiences, she emphasizes resilience and adaptability, encouraging others to embrace change and pursue their passions. This episode is not just about the ins and outs of private investigation; it's a heartfelt exploration of personal growth, the complexities of human relationships, and the unexpected paths life can take.

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Episode Highlights

  • The Intrigue of Private Investigation
    People often think private investigators only handle infidelity cases, but the reality is much broader.
    “A lot of people think that we sit out there with our sunglasses and binoculars.”
    @ 01m 57s
    January 21, 2026
  • A Journey Through Careers
    Carlia shares her unexpected career path from Air Force medic to private investigator.
    “This is what I’m going to be. This is my career. And all of a sudden your road changes.”
    @ 07m 12s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Honor of Being Called 'Mom'
    Carlia reflects on the emotional moment her stepchildren first called her 'mom'.
    “It’s the biggest honor to be called mom.”
    @ 11m 52s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Ethics of Investigation
    Navigating the complex ethical landscape of private investigation is crucial for integrity.
    “There's a code of ethics that we have to abide by.”
    @ 18m 26s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Rise of Romance Scams
    Romance scams are a growing issue, often intertwined with fraud.
    “I do think it is a problem.”
    @ 19m 16s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Emotional Toll of Infidelity
    Investigating infidelity can be emotionally challenging for both the investigator and clients.
    “You’re the bearer of bad news, really.”
    @ 32m 08s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Importance of Evidence
    Gather evidence before confronting a partner about infidelity. 'If you think they are cheating, have a conversation.'
    “Follow your gut.”
    @ 39m 21s
    January 21, 2026
  • The Future of Investigations
    The private investigation industry is set to grow with more opportunities for workplace and personal investigations. 'There’s huge room for more investigations.'
    “Investigations everywhere.”
    @ 50m 41s
    January 21, 2026
  • Lessons from a PI
    Working as a private investigator teaches resilience and the importance of empathy. 'You’ve got to have that empathy role.'
    “Resilience is probably my legacy.”
    @ 51m 22s
    January 21, 2026
  • Transferable Skills from Military to PI
    Skills learned in the Air Force, like discipline and dealing with people, are applicable to being a private investigator.
    “Being disciplined is huge into a PI.”
    @ 56m 29s
    January 21, 2026
  • Fun Podcast Conversation
    Kalia McFarland shares insights and experiences on the podcast, making it an enjoyable discussion.
    “This has been a lot of fun.”
    @ 57m 11s
    January 21, 2026

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Key Moments

  • Career Changes07:12
  • Infidelity Challenges32:08
  • Accountability35:26
  • Follow Your Gut39:21
  • Inspiring Journey56:03
  • Transferable Skills56:15
  • Calm Under Pressure57:02
  • Podcast Wrap-Up57:34

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