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just because you're determined doesn't mean everything's going to go well those four people that passed away were
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they climbing with you on fair grills and i've learned how to survive on some of the most hostile
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terrains on the planet you really fascinate me for a number of reasons that i actually never knew before i
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started digging into your story you certainly had a lot of demons in the early days of tv especially there
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was so much pressure to go and do that and do the extra episode you end up burning the things the most valuable
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to be successful you have to sacrifice but maybe you reach my way enough enough
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selection for the special forces is all about heart and spirit and we can all have that that's not a god-given talent
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that's a muscle that builds with walking through the door of failure time and time again and keep getting back up
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when was your darkest moment one was on when i broke my back and was in rehabilitation for a long time and
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you know so much of my rock in my life had been that i was physically strong and i was doing a job i loved and
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suddenly i couldn't even reach the bathroom without excruciating agony and it was just what am i going to do with
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my life when is there a time to give up so without further ado
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i'm stephen bartlett and this is the diary of a ceo i hope nobody's listening but if you are then please keep this to
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yourself [Music]
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bear i want to start where i usually start which is near the start and one of the things you said was you certainly had a lot of
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demons the quote the exact quote is i was never short of demons when i read that
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i thought what do you what do you mean growing up i really struggled with confidence
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you know definitely when i was at school and i think uh you know i think so much of the school culture still to this day
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you know it definitely tends to celebrate the you know the guy who's academic or sporty or good looking or just a cool
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guy you know and that those are the currency of school but as you and me know it's not always
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the currency of life and you try and tell a kid who who maybe isn't sporty or academic who's
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just kind and and does his best you know that actually those things have
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much more value in life and it's kind of hard to believe but certainly for me i didn't i didn't have i wasn't the sport
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you're the most academic or the cool guy um and i think it took me a while to
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find an identity and actually this is what you know it's what i love and it's nothing kind of
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brilliant but but i love it and for me growing up it was always climbing with my dad you know he'd been a he'd been a
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commando and and loved all of that sort of stuff and for me growing up it was always you know
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that's what i love to do just just have mini adventures with him and
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i think it took a while to learn that that's okay you know my dad was always saying you gotta
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find something you really love and try and be kind to people along the way and be resilient you know have that dog and
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never give up attitude and that that's that's the key things for life and uh but it's hard to believe that as
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a kid and sometimes if you get a bit lost in the system um so i suppose what i meant is that
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it took me a while to find the confidence you know and it's still a journey i think we're all on you know i
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think success doesn't always answer those sort of questions and i think confidence has to come from
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in here and it's often the opposite of what we think it is when we're growing up you
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know confidence is quiet and i think that's where that's kind of what i meant when you say confidence
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what how do you define confidence because some people think of confidence as this like overt external expression
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of like self-assurance what did you mean when you said i didn't have confidence and it's still an ongoing battle what is
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that i think it's not what the world always thinks like you say you know we always have this thing of confidence as
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you say it's this unstoppable i can do anything you know i think um life is always humbling you know in every way
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just like the wild you know the mountains are humbling you know the the real things of life humbling she
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reminds us that you know it's often a battle and you know you've got to sometimes put your head down and do your best and you're
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going to fail and you're going to struggle you're going to have doubts and you're going to have self-doubt and but but try try and get your feet keep going
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and uh and i think that is um that is confidence you know confidence
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is the quiet stuff and the and the honesty and to to say this is a struggle but
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but let's go you know let's let's let's do our best i love that thing of the scouts you know do your best you know
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which is so smart because i think so much of the world is about be the best you know win
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number one you know but actually that doesn't always stand the pressure
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test of time and of life and of going for big things are always going to
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be humbling and i think the thing is do your best you know it's dip dip dip you know dyb do your best i i love that
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because wherever you're at you can do that you know it's a decision
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isn't it it's not a gift it's not something we're born with like the looks or the academic of the sport is something you've got to summon
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and uh i like that what were the symptoms of having a lack of confidence when you were that age what would it look like
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how did it manifest itself i think probably just being quite shy and uh
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and i think you see the the people at school always the the bigger personalities and
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it was always like gosh you got to be like that to get anywhere and it's a life journey isn't it to realize
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it's almost the opposite it's almost the opposite you know look at the quiet the
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persevering relentlessly trying to put yourself up through the failures and and keep going and and
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know the wealth of life the wealth has always found in our relationships and and you know you come across people who are
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rich in friendships and you know rich and passionate and love what they do and love the people they work with and
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you know and that's enough that's wonderful but it takes a bit of unlearning doesn't it of saying
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you know you don't have the people not always to look up to aren't always front and center and as i get older i see more
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and more heroes left right and center where more left and right rather than center you know and i love that i i sort of
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see it in people and uh you know i see it in our camera crew i mean look at look at what's been a
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cool part of my job for however many years many years now you know the filming and stuff and
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you know the focus is always on the person front to screen and you know that horrible word of talent as they call it
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i never felt very talented still don't still feel i'm surrounded by way more talented people but it's life isn't a
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competition about who's mortality it's a it's a journey to take with great friends and i look at
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our camera crew and to me true heroes you know they work harder they carry heavier weights you know
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unsung you know relentlessly positive carry me many times you know in so many
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ways encourage me when when i've been struggling and i look at them and and still brothers and sisters
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best friends to this day uh i think it's probably the thing i'm most proud of in my career actually are the
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friendships with our crew you know in an industry that is notoriously transient you know people
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have crew come kruger new crews you know but we've kept pretty well the core crew from
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from the beginning and uh part of it's that we're obviously working in difficult dangerous terrain
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and you forge stronger bonds than you would in a shiny studio but part of it is that the loyalty really
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matters from both goes both ways uh and i love that
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you said that you kind of have a bit of an allergic reaction to the word talent right just from a few other things that
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you said in that little opener i wondered if you you relate at all to the to the phrase imposter syndrome at all because you're
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someone who's the world has this image of you as being this like unbelievable mountain scaling fearless
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adventurer and even you talking about a lack of confidence doesn't seem to fit into that narrative that the world must
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hold of you so have you ever felt what they call imposter syndrome at all would you ever yeah i think so because
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i'm going because then it probably grows you know the more you know the more sort of something does well you know we
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you know we we did the show this year for netflix called you versus wild you know and we just got the news you know
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this morning we got um nominated for three emmys for it and the crew got better he's so excited
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but part of my heart dies part of me is like oh it's like that gulf between
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the the sort of tv sort of you know guy and the re gets bigger you know and i
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feel from day one i felt i almost had more confidence i think in
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my skills at the beginning i think as the years have gone on and i've realized actually i've often be surrounded by
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people who are better better climbers better skydivers better survival guys better looking fitter stronger all of
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these things just because we've built a a crew of ninjas of true heroes and you know got to work with people and locals
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and experts all around the world year after year and i think more and more i feel these
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guys are those that person we met there or that person they are amazing be much better at the job than me
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but you know like i say our our job isn't to be the best you know it's to do our best and and you know for some
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reason i've been given this this the chance to do this it's what i've always loved i love the adventures i love like
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i say the friendships and you know the job we do and i think you can only ride that'd be grateful for it and
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and like i say do do your best and and not worry about too much about
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how the tv makes it always look i mean the truth is the tv always puts the best bits they cut out the trips and the
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stumbles and you put anything into music and the guy's gonna look cool you know but i think an element to why the show
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worked when we first started doing it is that we did show a lot of the mistakes and it was kind of
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the slips and the stumbles and the ums and the r's and i remember from day one that the producer that came
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came to me and said we want to do this show where we drop you in the middle of difficult places and you show us how to
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get out of there and and i kept saying no because i didn't want to do tv i didn't know about tv and i was like
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and you know but you kept saying we don't want that it doesn't need to be perfect and i've and it was my wife i said what
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are you gonna try you know and i just left the military we just got married we were kind of starting out and she was smart she said go and try it and
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actually it's never felt like making a perfect thing i think the magic at that time it was the first show that came
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along that let all the mud be on the lens and the rain on the lens and the trips and the stumbles and you saw the cameraman's hand and it would come there
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was an a sort of interactivity that was there was great and i've always thought if it's not broke don't fix it the
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stumbles the trips the struggles the mistakes are part of life uh
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but the part of my heart that dies is if it goes it all makes it look too good or too you know because at the end of the
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day i'm a really regular guy i'm a regular dad as well you know i'm not i'm not
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brilliant at any of these things but i know what i love and i know the weapons that serve me best and the
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weapons are always this you know be dogged be determined be be the most resilient person out
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there when it's hard you know come alive in the big moments when it's not the big moments you don't need to be front and center but in the
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big moments be there i watched a lot of interviews of you before you you arrived here today and i
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think in pretty much all of them you said i'm a normal guy i'm a regular guy and i get that i get that i understand
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what you're saying however well it's not false modesty i don't want to i'm not going to let people
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build build me into something i'm not you know and i think as i get older i know the
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frailties more and more and i'm not ashamed of them you know i mean it's it's okay many mistakes many many
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struggles it's okay otherwise things become all too you know that how
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it's hard to relate to you know but you you got through sas selection
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just i got through all these hit just you know and people turned turned to you and and said things and as they turn
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back and quit right that that for me is a filtering process of something yeah whatever that
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something is all it is is it's something we can control it's not a filtering of talent
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it's not a filtering of you you're brilliant you're through you're not through you know it's a genius of
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selection for the special forces it's all about heart and spirit and we can all have that that's not a god-given
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talent that's a that's a muscle that builds with walking through the door of failure time and time again and keep getting back up
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you know so i like that that's why i say i am an ordinary person as well i also say just
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to so many things because you know yes i've passed out oh yes you reach the top of this man or yes you do but it's
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always just and that's okay you know and it's also often
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by standing on the shoulders of many giants who have helped me you know many many times you know if i think of
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ss selection you know that time there were so many times where somebody somebody just kind of believed
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me in a critical time you know it might be something where the two corporals running something goes we want that guy doing you know a bit of luck falls on
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your side somebody backs you you know or you know you i don't know just
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the more i look back on so many so-called achievements the more i see
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the hand of good people in critical moments but as you know you have to win the hearts of those people in the first
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place but also the role of just that dogged determination to keep going and that's
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not a thing of being brilliant it's just trying to keep going often sliding
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another step back but keep moving forward and you say that to you know i've got three boys now three teenagers and i
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think if you said to them what one thing does your dad say to you day off day before you go to school
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it's always just you know don't give up don't never give up be kind you know be determined but
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never give up and they roll their eyes but you know what one day they'll know that
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it's a key thing a key thing of life you know you don't have to be the best to do your best
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did that resilience muscle as you call it grow over time of course it's just like like everything
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it's like the little little seas to the mighty oaks you know we how do we build it just inch by inch
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and uh and that's a great thing because it's not something only some people can have
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you know it's universal for us all we can all become people think it's a god-given gift to someone be resilient
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resilience is that muscle and you build it by failing and trying to stay positive and trying to get back your
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feet and going again you know i look back and i remember being uh really excited about
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being picked for the fourth eleven football team as a linesman it wasn't even in the team you know
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and it was like my job was to bring on the oranges uh half time you know but it was like and i remember
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my dad was the only dad on the side of the pitch cheering me on i thought it was so embarrassing he's not i'm not even in the team and dad said you know
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he's come to kind of but actually those little steps of like i'm gonna do this i'm gonna bring on
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those oranges and you know you're never gonna forget it's gonna be great and it's incremental tiny little things
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but having to fight for things you know so how often do we see at school though the the school hero
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actually in life doesn't always do that brilliantly and why is that it's because they've got you
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know schools rewarded that but they've never tested this you know where little johnny who doesn't
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have that doesn't get the awards it's a linesman brings on the oranges
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yeah whatever it is struggles doesn't even get noticed never wins anything but never gives up and keeps doing his best
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and still doesn't really get noticed but doesn't matter but when he leaves school this might not be the biggest thing but
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this is like ninja like you know that that resilience muscle inside is strong
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and as you know and as i know in life that's the one that is going to carry you further
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and and the unseen people at school often do better in life it's like don't peak too early don't peak at 14.
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i certainly didn't i sat here with um eubank i've been thinking about this idea of resilience and what it really means and as we sit here today my
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current hypothesis is basically resilience is the story it's kind of this contract you have with yourself this self-story about who you are and in
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those moments when no one is looking i i was talking to eubank about me being on the running machine and knowing i've got
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two minutes to go because i said before i started i'd run until 45 minutes but my legs are hurting and they're
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cramping and i could give up and walk away and no one's gonna know because no one's here yeah what i i alter my own
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self story in a way and i i send a message to myself that i am the type of person that gives up when it's tough so
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is it really do you relate to that and this kind of like you're crafting this story about who you are to yourself with
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every small decision you make doing the linesman job you said i'm gonna do it the best i possibly can
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and although it's not what i wanted i'm gonna i'm gonna give it everything i can and not give up yeah
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yeah does that relate and also i think the thing of giving up is that you know what is this i think of
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temporary pleasure long term yeah that's not true you know and and for me i just i i develop thing where
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[Music] whenever people quitting or complaining i like those moments for me it was like
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okay there's all the all the chat and the bravado there's always that beginning i was full of that but bring it down put the squeeze on you know we
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like grapes squeeze this you see what's inside bring the squeeze bring the squeeze now we see character you see
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what people are like and for me it just became whenever i saw people quitting or complaining
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especially complaining you see it so much just in the military you see it on big expeditions you see it even when we're
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filming tv shows with people you know when it gets hard you know and you're hungry and you're scared and you're up against it you're
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dehydrated you know those are the moments and for me it just became a trigger when everyone's complaining and
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giving up so time to give more you know just you don't have to give more in the early times just wait until it's
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and that's how you separate yourselves in in business and in life and in relationship you know in the big moments
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you know look at a relationship when it's when you're under that real time and everyone's throwing it you know are you going to really throw that nasty
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comment or kind of hold it and just try and be gracious and kind in those big moments you know
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and and i like that it wasn't you know it wasn't complicated to think
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about under pressure it was just like when everything's going wrong that's the time to give more rather than give up
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and i held on to that in many difficult moments you know across many different arenas
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and um and it's helped me you know i remember this guy said to me once said and you do
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anything for another 10 seconds i like that you know when it's you're in that moment you key going another 10
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seconds that makes you different though you got to admit because most people
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don't want another 10 seconds yeah well it hurt it hurts i'm not saying it's not going to hurt it's going to hurt but
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that fire inside it's in this in us all you know it's just you've got to dig sometimes but it's
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it's a great truth to know that it's there when you dig you know it is there and uh and i think as you say once you
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get used to it and you start to practice it the muscle gets stronger and then you almost seek out tough times you know
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this is a chance to to shine you know and as you say that's how you separate yourselves
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in life you know you're going to reach these points but but in those big amount what are you going to go this way how are you going to act in those big
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moments and it's always what separates you know reaching those summits for not reaching those summits never give up
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it's the name of your latest book when is there a time to give up
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because there is a wildly believed i think social phrase which is like quitting is for losers right but some
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when i look at my own life and my own career quitting has played quite an important role sometimes in leaving a situation that wasn't good so when
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should we give up well that's called wisdom and it comes with experience and there's always there's always a right
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first of all my 16 year old nephew came to me the other day i said i said bev you need a not the smoking on the head
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you're smoking a lot at the moment he went but ever since i have a kid you told me never give up
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i said apart from the cigarettes you know there's always a time to give things and some and experience and
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wisdom you know you just don't want to be a pig-headed head in the dirt
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you know that's not smart that's not smart you know intuition and experience
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has to know when hard on this is this isn't maybe the right route let's just take a step back
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and i think it's why so often great mountaineers are often a little bit older because they have that patience and that
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judgment and when you're young and you don't care and you kind of maybe should be listening to that intuition and maybe
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the weather's changed or something's happening that's saying hold you know and you go and you die that's why why so
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many higher tude mountaineers deaths is that that you know relentless ability not to adapt
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or change your plan where with age you have that ability to listen to your instinct to the mountains to the
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circumstances and maybe adapt and maybe change and as we know you know with big mountains they'll always be there so i
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think that ability to life to listen to that and to amend and to adapt super
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important and look at soldiering same as always this thinking man soldier you know was a was a mantra of a lot of
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these special forces stuff was always being able to adapt improvise adapt overcome you know that that's that's
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leading with this and with this so course is a time for pulling back and holding
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but i think generally the message you know 90 percent of the time most people don't get where they're going not
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not because of a lack of skills or talent is it's that lack of kind of ability to keep going when it's hard
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and that's why i think doing little things every day small things that you know whatever it
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is that just push your push this muscle a bit is good you know even if it's like
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i mean i have i've had a thing for years and it's now super popular everyone's kind of you know doing it you know the
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ice bath training yeah but i've done it for years and i love this thing it's just three minutes a day i'm just in
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that cold water you know whether it's a river or in winter or lake or you know at night time and you know i try and
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find somewhere every day just get in that cold and it hurts still hurts but it's just a little some little something
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whatever it is that's your something that's difficult to do because most people spend their lives
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avoiding the the painful the difficult you know they're scared of public speaking or they're scared so they avoid
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the things that challenge us but as you know is where growth happens and growth isn't always
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fun it's often painful but it's like a muscle the more you push it the more you get used to it you know there's a great
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thing at the commando training center in limston that just says comfortable with uncertainty and it's a great thing for
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life you know don't get sat in that comfort zone too much you know i call it a comfort
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pit somewhere to get out i was wondering if like training in the
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gym when i do my repetitions of the weights i then need a bigger weight to get the same
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gain so do you find yourself needing like a bigger thrill or a bigger expedition or
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a greater challenge to get the same like feeling of fulfillment and contempt from what your work these days and where did
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you find that after you've climbed everest and done all you've done i i don't feel that no you don't i don't
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feel that i think um what you're saying in the question is you actually is that where you get your
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fulfillment through that thing and the answer is no it's not where i get fulfillment fulfillment i do these
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things i try and do the difficult things just to keep that inside muscle honed a little bit but it's not always about
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bigger and better and you know it's as i read the other day half of life is
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getting to where you you know achieving your goals and the other half of life has been really happy to enjoy it
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second one's a harder one to do and i think a big you know i'd be super
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lucky to fulfill so many things i still have many goals many ambitions but it's not goals and ambitions that trump the
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last one are ever bigger and uh you know it's not like that it's just really grateful and try
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make sure you stay alive you know make sure you're always grateful for the many good things and the luck you've had along the way
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you know keep that muscle inside honed keep working keep doing your best but it's definitely not where i find the
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fulfillment it's not it's not like the achievement's never going to fulfill that whole did you used to think it
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would maybe a little bit i think when i was young you know i think everest certainly for me was such a symbol of like i'm
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gonna do this you know that it was at a time when only i think 20 odd brits had ever climbed it and it was i thought this is
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going to be epic you know and and then you see the realities of you know we have four climbers lose their lives up
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there and it re-rattled me in many ways and i was lucky to reach the top and got back in one piece but it didn't answer
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that question of you know i i don't know i don't think i'd climb
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it now i'm not so out on a quest to kind of prove anything but i think when you're young
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it's half of it's good to have a quest you know you've got to have that goal but the other half is like it's not it's
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not the answer to life is it you know it's it's a you know that maybe comes from elsewhere
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and with time and experience you learn the real answer life has always rooted in
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you know something inside and that and relationships with great people and you know a lot of it i think comes down
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to love actually you know being uh knowing those connections with great people and a love of whatever it could
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be can be love of the outdoors the love of what you do you know but um it's not found an achievement always
00:26:03
have you found where it is found you don't seem to be so certain exactly where that that feeling
00:26:10
of fulfillment um [Music] you talked about the second half which is like enjoying the goals
00:26:17
have you figured that bit out i think it's a lifelong journey of figuring it out you know i i hope i edge closer
00:26:25
to where it's not found which is is never found in trophies and triumphs and accolades you know those
00:26:31
things i see those things with clearer lenses now you know i'm more proud of to
00:26:38
be married you know 22 years you know i got three great boys you know the the simpler
00:26:43
things i'm i'm more proud of i think you know where do i really find fulfillment i think um
00:26:50
i think my faith is a quiet thing in that sense you know face always a tricky one but
00:26:57
and hard to articulate very well but it's definitely comes from a place of like that you're
00:27:02
you're okay you're okay we're we're forgiven we're loved empowered and um trying to live it live life as
00:27:09
best you can eyes wide open with you know gratitude in your heart and a
00:27:15
tough resilient spirit to go for things and uh and i look at life in those sort of turns more and more i feel like in
00:27:22
the in the 2022 in the uk where i think we've grown more atheist as a society
00:27:28
i mean some people say there's no such thing as an atheist but we've grown more atheists in our viewpoints
00:27:35
it is harder to communicate if you do have a faith why did you say that it's a it's a tricky thing
00:27:41
i think it's been so tarnished i think religion has been so tarnished and i i
00:27:46
get that i was always the least religious person growing up i just thought i mean as a kid i had a really
00:27:52
natural faith i always believed in some higher power and that i could feel you know there's something
00:27:57
around you know as a little kid it was like ah wow and then i think i went to school and then you know you had to go to church
00:28:04
and they were all white classics and spoken latin i thought gosh i've really missed it you know this
00:28:10
is actually what it's about and it's been a life journey to unwind all of that and realize actually
00:28:15
the little me had it right you know faith is faith is in your heart knowing knowing that you're not alone
00:28:21
and and there's something bigger than us out there and they're for us not you know that power
00:28:27
is for us not against us and despite my doubts and all of those sort of things i'm gonna put my trust in that
00:28:34
and try and you know have love at the center of what we do and live empowered and go for things and
00:28:40
not be scared to fail and not be driven by fear and all those sort of things and that to me what faith is
00:28:47
um so it's hard to articulate i think because it's personal and it's it's
00:28:54
intimate and also it's like i say it's it's has just as many doubts as it does
00:28:59
you know doubt and faith two sides of the same coin you know i think it does feel like that for me but
00:29:05
through it all i would say my christian faith has been a real backbone and a kind of secret
00:29:11
strength in many tricky moments you know light to a dark path i always kind of
00:29:16
feel it's that sort of thing so yeah i did wonder when i was reading about your faith and i watched you pray for obama
00:29:21
just at the end of your time with him because i've sat here with guests who have undergone and witnessed such
00:29:27
horrific things in their in their lives and they've and it's shaking their faith in fact eubank was
00:29:32
one of them that his brother suddenly died they were both very religious and that shook his faith and being out in
00:29:38
nature and being on those expeditions up everest where two people fall to their death and twos you know die of the cold
00:29:45
one would it might assume that those moments would shake your your faith but it sounds like it's made it stronger in a way from what you said well i think
00:29:51
the two things happen often you get shaken and strengthened and uh actually my experience with
00:29:57
people people who've really been taken to the edge that's actually where they find their faith you know you look at so many of
00:30:05
the concentration camp stories and stuff you know it's uh
00:30:10
you know two sides looking at one person said there can be no god i've seen i've witnessed
00:30:16
evil personified and yeah it was if i can't remember when and
00:30:21
said i've been to the edge and i know there's no place that god isn't you know it's all how we look at how we
00:30:27
choose to live and uh i choose to choose to try and live with
00:30:33
you know faith faith in other people faith in ourselves faith in the almighty and that and that helped me but it's
00:30:39
it's funny that thing with obama because in a way that was never meant to be on tv it was just a spontaneous thing at
00:30:45
the end of the journey and i'd you know as you know when you spend time with people
00:30:50
you get a sense of someone and i think at the end of that journey with obama i got a real sense that
00:30:56
he's a guy with a weight of the world on his shoulders you know and he he got lighter as the journey went on and by
00:31:02
the end he said you know what's one of the best days of my presidency i'm out of the office i'm out of a suit
00:31:08
talking about stuff that's in here rather than being grilled on you know politics and
00:31:14
and i could see him light getting lighter you know and i just said it yeah i said it first of all good job you're doing you you probably
00:31:21
i don't know if you get told it very often most people are giving your heart a bit you know you're doing your best
00:31:26
you know and i want to just say you know i don't feel like let's reef try and refill his fuel tank a bit yeah yeah and
00:31:32
actually it ended up going in the show you know i put a hand on his shoulder and said you know strength this guy you know the big
00:31:38
decisions oh man you know and it wasn't really more complicated than that but
00:31:43
i don't know i think the wild always creates honest connections without the fluff
00:31:49
and it didn't feel unnatural and you know but it's funny how the effect of that i still get people to this day
00:31:55
talk about that a lot i know quite unlikely people often say that wasn't that was a good good moment
00:32:02
not always easy i mean awkward sometimes isn't it doing that sort of thing of course but but that's okay i've
00:32:07
learned that that's okay dude sometimes the awkward things
00:32:13
are the best things telling someone that you know you know that they're amazing you know
00:32:19
can be awkward to a good friend but can can mean a lot quick one we bring in eight people a
00:32:26
month to watch these conversations live here in the studio when we're here in the uk and when we're in la if you want
00:32:33
to be one of those people all you've got to do is hit subscribe you said earlier about being rattled after everest one would never
00:32:40
assume that of course you climb the biggest mountain in the world and you come down and you're rattled and
00:32:46
your confidence is knocked i think big mantas are humbling you know and sometimes you you take on these big
00:32:53
projects and it's about come on we're gonna do it and you're you're full of that confidence
00:32:59
but um but it's often quite surface and i think when you see things close up and
00:33:06
it it i think i came away with a real awareness of that i've been really lucky and got away with my life where others
00:33:12
hunt up there and this stage everest was killing one in six people's lives you know and beforehand i read about that
00:33:17
and it was almost kind of it was almost glamorous it was almost like romantic you know but you see the see the reality
00:33:23
of it close up and it's it's not romantic it's it's dark and and difficult and confusing
00:33:30
and uh and i think my feeling at the end of it was that i got really lucky you know i've been no doubt dug deep in a
00:33:37
few big moments and you know it was some 92 days on that mountain there's a lot of time to do have to dig deep but
00:33:44
ultimately i had a bit of luck at key times and i think i came away aware of that
00:33:50
and and grateful for that but less certain that just because you're determined in life doesn't mean
00:33:55
everything's going to go well you know and i think beforehand i kind of thought if you give over this we're going to work out but as you know in everything
00:34:02
in life there's no guarantees you know we're we we live a gloves off life
00:34:08
you know life is gloves off there no rules of kind of like if you if you give this school going to be
00:34:14
you know roses and sunshine you know you can give the best in the world it's going to be hit you sometimes you know you get ill
00:34:20
or something happens and i think that's the part of me that got a bit shaken and but you know that's just life and you
00:34:26
have to live with your eyes wide open to that and and still choose to try and make the
00:34:32
good decisions and pick the good attitudes and put them on like a t-shirt every day that even though gloves are
00:34:37
off we're gonna go for this we're gonna do our best to be positive do our best to give our best
00:34:43
and keep going for it those four people that passed away were they climbing with you
00:34:49
two russians and a a brit new new zealander from other teams but they're larry on the mountain at the
00:34:55
same time and and never came back and i remember with their teammates you know afterwards just
00:35:01
them in tears and sitting with them and it definitely made me question a lot of the time is is any mountain really worth
00:35:09
a life i wish you clear answers no but at the time sometimes your ambition is you know it's like we're gonna go for
00:35:16
it and and that's why i think now kind of with a bit of time and experience would i
00:35:21
would i do it now would i take a one or six chance of not coming home no no because you have more to live for
00:35:28
but i think at the time i was like i'm all in i'm going to go i want to make my mark you know at a young age
00:35:34
and uh and the truth is i got lucky fame
00:35:40
but yeah what does that one mean yeah you tell me only on the tv for a couple of minutes i mean
00:35:46
so but you've been on there for many many many many years so i was hoping maybe you could give me a little
00:35:52
bit of an overview of what fame is because you know when i looked at bear grylls podcast
00:35:59
and i really couldn't find much there was for someone that's been in the public eye for so long could barely find
00:36:04
anything and then i read this quote that you you don't like sometimes you feel like when you meet
00:36:10
someone there's a sense of you're worried you might disappoint them because they're expecting you to be something else
00:36:16
well i think that's true i think part of my kind of the answer is i don't do very many of
00:36:22
these you know i think um but that's okay i'm not sort of hungry for more
00:36:28
people to know everything you know i do do these sort of things every now and
00:36:33
again with with good people and and when it feels right you know i think i think one of the
00:36:38
reasons i get i get less comfortable sometimes in big groups of people and and doing press circle doings you know i
00:36:45
i'm not very i don't really like the cameras on me if i'm honest i struggle really with that so one you know i never
00:36:50
gone to tv for that you know i got to tv because you know this producer said do you want to try this thing and
00:36:57
like i said we were just married and starting out and pretty broke and it was like let's go for it let's see what see
00:37:03
what happens but the sort of the recognition side of things you know i struggle with the word fame i think it's
00:37:09
a weird one but i think the recognition side of things i i struggle with more um and i think part
00:37:16
of it is a little part of me feels i'm never going to be quite as good as people expect you know in in
00:37:23
as a tv sometimes makes out and therefore less is more very happy with my family and friends and i go and work but i want
00:37:30
to kind of come home afterwards but when it comes to fame you know you say that you say about
00:37:36
that i've i kind of learned i think over the years too first we'll take it with a
00:37:43
not just a pinch of salt but with a bucket of salt you know don't believe it it doesn't it's not where your worth is your word
00:37:49
you know if your worth is that you're always going to struggle because it goes up and down there's ultimately it's
00:37:55
going down isn't it you know you're you know when we're when we're 95 years old nobody's going to know who who i am
00:38:01
yourself well but but and it doesn't matter you know it doesn't but our sense of
00:38:07
self-worth you're always going to be fighting a losing battle really yeah yeah so i take it all with a bucket of salt
00:38:13
um i think for my family growing up with a little bit of that they've i always say to our boys growing up
00:38:20
we got friends all over the world and look at it like that amazing connections you know i can go to
00:38:25
go to any country and and there's a connection with with with people there and people want to tell their stories
00:38:31
and go oh i've just been camping with my you know my son or my you know my uncle was this or did that or my son's a scout
00:38:37
daughter's a scout or whatever it is and i like those connections always grateful for people's stories and
00:38:44
and that's fine so that's how i kind of look at it pinch yourself don't believe it all but uh always be grateful for
00:38:50
friends all over the world did you struggle with it i think i struggled with it when i felt the attention was on me i think i didn't
00:38:57
like that that that felt i remember so well in the early days when we started doing man versus wild
00:39:02
first two seasons we were just gunning and going and it was all just kind of fun out there a small crew i never
00:39:09
really didn't see it go down tell you it was going out in america at the time so i was over in the uk i didn't see it i didn't know what was happening it was
00:39:15
just lucky it was good timing and it just worked you know it just was meant to be at that time but i didn't really
00:39:21
see much of that because i come home and you know live regularly and i remember the head of discovery after a couple of
00:39:27
seasons say you know your show's best on discovery it's getting over a billion viewers now around the world
00:39:35
and uh and my heart sank i really started to struggle with it and i suddenly started
00:39:40
that when we were filming i'd be like self-conscious and what am i saying and holidays and
00:39:45
the fun went out of it and my i got more anxious with it all and i thought i don't want people looking at this or
00:39:52
doing this or and it was a really sort of marked time of and the crew said it so they said is
00:39:58
everything okay and i think i had to learn to
00:40:04
it's about other people you know and when i raised people coming up and they weren't going you know you're amazing there we go
00:40:11
i took my son camping or or my whatever did that and when i was it was about them and i'd really try to shift it in
00:40:17
my brain everything's about them you know it's what it brings out whether it's a single mom coming to me saying
00:40:22
when he once said about you're in that storm in the jungle and you said sometimes life is it's going to beat you up and you just got to be dogged and
00:40:28
keep going keep your head down you know the storms won't last forever and i really understood that as a single man i was trying to hold down all these jobs
00:40:34
i've got you know that for me lifted my whole i thought that's why i do this job
00:40:39
and it kind of shifted it off me and and and and that's why i've always loved my job now as like chief
00:40:46
scout you know for me that was a revolution to be able to say when people come up to me and go you know oh you've
00:40:52
done this now yeah but look what you could do you could join you know you could join that and you can do this and you know somewhere to be able to
00:41:00
not deflect but sort of direct people a little bit and i i get such a kick out of that it's
00:41:05
why i love running wild so much because it's about other people it's about taking these rookies they might be amazing rookies but
00:41:12
they're often wilderness rookies and opening their eyes to my office you know the outdoors what the
00:41:18
wire can do for people that light inside that pride that come on you know that magic
00:41:23
and uh and saying look at this and that freed me a lot
00:41:28
away from kind of look at look at you know look that way instead of this way
00:41:34
you said a word though which i i started thinking about a lot which was the word anxiety which i actually think is quite an
00:41:40
interesting thing because you're much of your work is about the natural world and one of the i think unnatural human
00:41:46
signals is anxiety it kind of tells you something that you're potentially doing wrong maybe a train of thought that
00:41:53
you've attached yourself to which is destructive or whatever else and depression's one of those things is what i talk about a lot is also seems to be a
00:42:00
pretty clear signal for a natural signal that we have you know some of my guests have said that they have it's a signal
00:42:05
that they've been disconnected from their tribe and it's and they've explained the science of that and um and
00:42:11
even the signal of rejection and how that makes us feel is a prehistoric signal telling us to get back into our
00:42:17
tribe because or that there's a chance we might be thrown off the island by our tribe because we're being rejected so to
00:42:22
change our behavior and all of these signals anxiety depression and this whole mental
00:42:27
health um awareness that's emerged in the last 10 years what's your relationship been like with
00:42:33
those with those um those topics first of all it's it's amazing that
00:42:39
people are talking about this and focusing on it more you know i think you know it's it's long overdue and it's
00:42:45
a key part of our arsenal for life isn't it our weapons that are gonna help make your heart happy you know you
00:42:52
you need to you need to look after the physical you need to look after the emotional you need to look after spiritual and you
00:42:58
need to look after the mental side of things you know it's all these are all weapons in our arsenal we've got to
00:43:04
focus on and if you neglect one there's always going to be a little part of your heart that is
00:43:09
going to struggle a bit if you if you whether it's emotional physical or mental so you've got to try and put things in place that help
00:43:16
your mental health and and i think people for many years often
00:43:21
neglected that you shut things away but actually the so many of the things that help us mentally are simple things like
00:43:28
as you say those connections to people and that honesty and vulnerability and and like we've been talking about not
00:43:33
letting yourself sort of live a life that actually isn't real not letting people make you into that hero that you
00:43:39
don't always fear you know stay honest stay connected talk to people you know be outside how how many times do we see
00:43:45
studies proving that when we're outside and we're in the sun and we're expressing and we're working hard and
00:43:51
we're connected to people that's why the wild is such an amazing mental health
00:43:57
weapon to build up that resource you know in a world that often depletes the resource
00:44:02
you know all of this stuff is always pulling you know if i pulling pulling you know leaves you emptier but for me the wild
00:44:09
and connection and the sun and outdoors and swimming cold rivers and challenge and failing and all these sort
00:44:14
of things build up i find for me help my mental health you can't take your off the ball with mental
00:44:20
health you gotta and you're not always gonna get it right and that's okay is there a time in your life where you
00:44:27
discovered mental health was a very real thing because of an experience that you'd had
00:44:32
because i think for many years i thought it was something that happened to other people and then there's a couple of sort of catalystic events that happened in my
00:44:38
life that made me realize that i am not immune to anxiety to feelings you know
00:44:43
depressive symptoms and all of those things but is there something in your life where there's a pivotal moment where life events typically are the
00:44:49
catalyst of those things where you go this is something that i now need to put as a priority
00:44:54
i think i've been lucky in the sense that i've i've never suffered from really bad depression you know where
00:45:01
many many friends i've stood alongside have really had battles i think i've always had a
00:45:06
you know an intuition of when i need to change something and when i'm struggling a little bit and when hold on this
00:45:13
this feeling of of anxiety would be going on a bit oh what can we change what helps me and i've always sort of
00:45:19
accidentally found things that help make that problem better and for me it's been that
00:45:26
go to being outdoors being with great friends having a few just a few good friends rather than lots
00:45:31
and lots of friends you know even things like our our be military fit our bmf or veterans run fitness business has helped
00:45:38
me so much because it's a collective tribe of you know often veterans
00:45:44
people who need that camaraderie but want to train want to stay physically fit don't want to be in a gym inside
00:45:50
with white light and all of that they want to be outside in the fresh air they want to be down in the dirt a little bit they
00:45:56
want to laugh at themselves in situations and face a few you know rain swept early mornings training outside in
00:46:01
a park together and and like our physical health the more we can be aware of the things that do help and
00:46:07
have proven to help and to gravitate towards so seek those things in our life be outside be
00:46:12
connected train you know be honest have a few friends the more it's gonna help us when we do
00:46:19
have the dark moments and i've never met anyone who doesn't have them you know they might tell you they don't but everyone has these moments and
00:46:25
i certainly i certainly have and but i've also never met a strong person who's had an easy past you know it's
00:46:32
just part of it if you're gonna go for big things you're gonna shoot for the top you're gonna have struggles and failures
00:46:38
and part of life when was your darkest moment one was when i broke my back in the
00:46:44
military and was in rehabilitation for a long time and you know so much of my rock in my life had
00:46:50
been that i was physically strong and i was doing a job i loved and suddenly i couldn't even reach the bathroom without
00:46:56
excruciating agony and you know my back broken in three places and you know that
00:47:02
you know i had to then leave my job you know with the military and and it was just a what am i going to do with my
00:47:07
life you know but i also look at that time and i think if i had gone through that i don't think
00:47:12
i ever would have actually had the drive and the impetus to make that everest expedition happen at that young age and
00:47:18
have hadn't done that that wouldn't have opened the door to other things and then eventually the tv and you know it's like it's like these
00:47:25
these clouds that often you know it's why not to be scared when life does hit you sideways because there's often a
00:47:31
sort of a plan there you just gotta try and keep moving forward towards it but
00:47:37
that was definitely a dark time and i think also losing my dad at a young age i mean
00:47:42
shara and my wife and me both lost our parents within 10 weeks of each other in year one of marriage and it was we were
00:47:48
young we were 24 25 and uh just starting out on life and i
00:47:54
think we always had that safety net of our parents behind us you know and and i think suddenly both losing our dads and
00:48:00
now being responsible for our mums and it was uh it definitely took that safety net away and it was like wow we're both
00:48:06
dealing with trauma here not always very well but we we gotta i mean
00:48:12
i look back now and actually it's what made us made us really tight and to have a love and a trust and a
00:48:18
vulnerability together that has been a key thing in our relationship i think ever since but at the time it was just
00:48:24
pure pain and a and a huge hole that is still there to the day you know i
00:48:30
mean you know seeing our three boys grow up great the great loss for me is that
00:48:36
you know they will never know my dad or he would never know them and how like he was they are and all of these dynamics
00:48:42
that we take for granted and so often i see friends now and they get oh my you know my mum's a bit poorly and my dad i'm
00:48:49
thinking there's part of me thinking you know you're so lucky to have had your parents for that long and we i was
00:48:54
dealing with looking after my mom and all her sort of bills and everything and you know when i was 25
00:49:00
you know it's been going on a long time but but at the same time i think my dad
00:49:06
told me so many of the key things in life which was back to the earlier point of like you know be resilient and be kind and
00:49:12
keep going and and those things i'll always be grateful for and i wish my only regret is that i'd get a chance
00:49:19
to say to him wow you were right you were actually right all along when i kicked against it
00:49:26
and kind of you know you were right you know fully dreams be kind be resilient
00:49:31
never give up and uh i never said thank you enough for that
00:49:37
that's something i always worry about my dad is has outlived his siblings and um
00:49:44
i don't feel like i've made enough of an effort to stay connected there's something about us where we just think
00:49:49
our parents are going to be around forever like you when you see the safety blanket thing it's like this it's almost like it reminds me of covid where i
00:49:56
didn't realize the tectonic plate of society could ever move so i built my life like ignorantly on this foundation
00:50:02
that society would be open and that and then one day someone showed me that there was even a tectonic plate
00:50:08
underneath me that i didn't know was there and my parents are the same thing they've just always been there so i assume naively that they always will be
00:50:14
but um what would you say to what advice would you give me about well never take that for granted
00:50:21
and never never be scared of saying i mean tell him now you know tell him on this
00:50:27
he'll listen to this he's probably incredibly incredibly proud of you
00:50:32
all you've achieved superseded his wildest dreams of what a sun could be
00:50:38
and he should be proud and tell him
00:50:43
what would you tell your dad if he was anything maybe well i think i'd i'll say thank you for for the little things
00:50:50
you know it's not that it's thanks for being there on that touch line when i was linesman you know thanks for not putting too much
00:50:56
focus just on success and school reports and being top
00:51:02
thank you very focused on being kind and having a dream even though it might not be the path
00:51:09
most trodden you know but but go for it if it's your dream go for it
00:51:14
and thanks for saying that never give up is the golden currency of life
00:51:20
rather than you know good looks uh sporty talent or academic brilliance
00:51:25
but you know i think um for you your dad your dad knows you know
00:51:30
i'm sure he knows but never stop telling him you know because i think really parental relationships
00:51:37
one of those ones that's always going to be they're always going to be dynamics and struggles and fallouts and arguments stuff but
00:51:43
you can never articulate it too much that you love someone and you can never overestimate how much those simple
00:51:50
awkward difficult words to say mean i mean my great buddy
00:51:55
said he really wanted to tell his dad one time he loved him but he knew he was so
00:52:01
english he wouldn't his father it would be a really difficult thing to say and eventually said i'm going to say to
00:52:06
and he said dad i just want to just let you know i really love you and this song his dad goes
00:52:11
you've been drinking you know but the thing is that's okay your dad would go home that night
00:52:17
knowing that he hadn't been drinking the guy his son hadn't been drinking but that was special and i think those awkwardness backed up thing of doing
00:52:23
sometimes the awkward difficult things like the prayer with obama is a really good thing you know and i've
00:52:30
tried to get better at this in my life of saying thank you and and doing nice things and say saying awkward
00:52:37
but good things to people i mean i said it to my great buddy the other day rupert i said to him
00:52:43
you know we work a lot together and stuff so i said you know forget the work side of these you
00:52:48
you're such a lovely friend and yeah i literally saw boom i saw the
00:52:55
eyes well out just for a second you know and it was like you know are you oh you're great i know it's
00:53:00
keep training or whatever you're doing you know but it's sometimes the awkward things are the good things
00:53:06
and um i hope as i live and do more in life that i i create more and more of those moments because
00:53:11
there are many people i'm like i said i stand on the shoulders of many giants that are the real heroes in
00:53:17
my life and i definitely consider my dad one i'd definitely consider those i served alongside the military many still
00:53:24
friends to this day and when i was with corporal williams my old you know squadron
00:53:29
you know patrol commander who's now aged you know 70 and uh lives in martha tidfield i was
00:53:36
with him the other day for a walk in the brecons just remind him i go you've been an amazing friend through life and i'll
00:53:43
never forget the belief you had in me in the early days thank you you know i consider the camera crew i work with
00:53:49
in that same vein and uh never take those for granted
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if you really want to know someone you've got to ask the wife and kids what they're like you know such a isn't it i mean
00:55:45
what if i asked your wife what would she say what would she say about the flawed probably says flawed
00:55:52
flawed but you know in what way i think loyalty and and
00:55:57
sticking through things and knowing the real us and and that we're not perfect and we we're
00:56:03
there for each other's is creates a power to it and i do look at relationships that are special like
00:56:09
you know with your kids or with your wife as like stained glass you know you need to
00:56:14
they're really beautiful but you've got to protect them and you've got to protect them number one and i think it's so easy in life to do
00:56:20
the opposite actually we take that one for granted and we produce our best we produce our best for the
00:56:26
at the dinner party to hold court and say the jokes and you know and it's the wrong way round you know it's the wrong
00:56:32
way round save your best i think it's saying i've learned and still try and i don't always get right
00:56:38
by any means but i know the goal is to try and save my best for those i value the most which is the
00:56:44
closest relationship to you with your wife and and with your kids you know make them save the best for them
00:56:49
rather than kind of be tired and grumpy with them and then go out and then be on form you know it's trying to shift it
00:56:55
the other way and it's counter culture but it's always going to make you happy you know if and that's why
00:57:02
i say if you all know what someone's like ask their wife because don't don't look at the press reports and don't
00:57:07
read their own stories about themselves you know ask person who really knows them when the when the mask is off and
00:57:12
when it's you know the cameras aren't really they're they're the ones and it's not say you know anyone's perfect but but try
00:57:19
and save your best for them and i think if you do ask my wife what
00:57:26
i would love her to say i'd love her to say that i was loyal and kind and fought for them
00:57:32
you know that's that's what i just i've always tried to do in my life and prioritize them and many times in in my
00:57:39
life in the early days of tv especially there was so much pressure to
00:57:44
you know be away too much and go and do that and do the extra episode and do the extra thing and the you know discovery
00:57:50
channel are asking for one more thing then you end up burning burning the things are most
00:57:55
valuable because you're way too much you you're focusing on this and it always creates damage
00:58:02
and i'd say sorry for those times it was way too much and and and that's why i fought so hard to start to produce and
00:58:08
make our own shows where we owned the format and we could decide it's not i go no it's our boys half term i'm i'm not
00:58:14
gonna even though it's you know tom cruise or whoever i'm we're i'm gonna be at the half term for this i
00:58:20
wanna a shift onto the family and it's been a great thing it's been a
00:58:25
key thing and the other stuff is work it'll always be that you know it'll be there and it's okay sometimes i fall into the trap of
00:58:31
doing that so you know you get an offer come in and it's oh 50 grand or 100 grand to do this thing here it'll take
00:58:36
one day but i'd schedule to be in indonesia that day with my partner and
00:58:41
i'm looking i'm going can i really turn down a hundred grand for one day just like hanging out on the
00:58:48
sofa with my partner it's a new challenge that i've been contending with what i mean you've been through this
00:58:53
well i think i think the answer is at the same time you're hustling and you've got to work and you've got to build it and you're building it especially when
00:58:58
you get married and have kids you're building for their future and all of us have this struggle but i think listening
00:59:04
to that inner voice you know a little bit and there's this line isn't there that we walk where
00:59:09
you know this side is family this side is work and the problem is if you only try and walk this line everyone's always
00:59:15
asking favors you know it's just one off it's one event there's one thing well before you know it you're spending too
00:59:21
long on this side of the line and you're creating damage and loss it's only damaged so it's losing you're creating
00:59:27
loss on this side and i think what i've learned is just shift the line a little bit you know make the line here oh so
00:59:33
make it even more family orientated yeah so so when you drift over the line a few times
00:59:39
which you're gonna do you're still in surplus you're still a surplus and and i think the wisdom and experience of life
00:59:44
is knowing do you know what no we should go and do that i will go and do that event that's important but
00:59:51
knowing also the ones that really protect it's often the little things isn't it like a you know like the linesman story you
00:59:57
know like that school play or that anniversary or whatever and listen i'm speaking from a place of flawed
01:00:04
failure through many many times but i've learned through those things why did you say that because i got it wrong many
01:00:10
times yeah just been there and made mistakes and got them wrong but i've learned through those
01:00:16
is that it's worth protecting the most the thing of most value in your life and i think then with success what happens
01:00:22
you reach a point where you don't need that extra 100 grand you know maybe when you're getting it
01:00:28
maybe you've got to hustle a bit maybe you've got to make some sacrifices you do to be successful you have to sacrifice maybe you know and i was the
01:00:35
same i had to in those early days you gotta you gotta go that extra mile i'm not saying you don't you do
01:00:40
but maybe you reach point where enough's enough and then then what you're really saying to your girlfriend or it might be your wife or
01:00:46
your kids at that stage is that i value you more than a hundred grand and when you're like successful you know it
01:00:53
doesn't get any easier to say no it becomes more important to say no
01:00:58
amen i felt that speaking of work really compelled by um
01:01:04
when i read that you're the chief scout i was like that's the ceo of the scouts right
01:01:09
is that not the ceo of the scouts effectively well i don't think i've ever i've never had an aspiration to be like a ceo ceo has always felt very important
01:01:17
even though we are on the diary of a ceo i never feel like i see um [Music]
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greatest honor in my life has been to you know be a be a small cog in this incredible worldwide machine of 55
01:01:31
million young people whoa bound together by a common set of values of respect and
01:01:38
kindness and humility and and adventure and determination and life skills and
01:01:43
you know it's an amazing privilege i never take it for granted it's a worldwide force for good it truly is the
01:01:50
scout movement is unlike anything else out there and it really has been the greatest honour
01:01:55
of my life and and i love it i can sum up my job as chief scout three words you know encourage encourage encourage you know
01:02:02
and shine the light on those the the young people because the stuff that they got get up to the missions they're on
01:02:08
the the efforts the endeavors the expert what they do is amazing they're leading
01:02:14
the thing on climate change they're leading in many refugee camps and disaster areas helping serving and when
01:02:21
you get 57 million young people around the world saying i make a promise to be kind and helpful
01:02:27
you know it's amazing there's a power to that and it's brilliant
01:02:33
do you think your your career is complete and um i hope not i hope not i'm still
01:02:40
hustling i'm still i like that i like the struggle i like the fight i like the ambition we've built a brilliant team
01:02:45
we're pushing many endeavors you know away from just the tv shows you know i'm
01:02:51
super proud of our be military fit our veterans fitness business you know we have our theme parks our adventure parks
01:02:56
at the nec and we're opening up new ones around the world we have the scout staff we you know we have education
01:03:01
initiatives i love it for me it's about using this god-given platform we've been given through the tv shows to try and do
01:03:08
exactly the same as we do with the tv shows which is to shine a light on you and say look what you can do will it
01:03:14
ever be complete and and i hope not i think um it's like my bucket list gets longer and
01:03:19
longer as i live in life yeah it's not it's like the more things we could we could do that and we could help do this
01:03:24
and and i always want to live with that eyes wide open you know willing to be all in willing to
01:03:31
fail willing to pick myself up with great people have that focused mission of trying to empower other people
01:03:38
helping other people to find their adventures in life whether it's through books or tv shows or whatever to like be
01:03:43
able to go that extra mile to be able to dig deep to understand the storms of life come but sometimes you got to be
01:03:48
dogged and determined to keep going i want to bring that adventure spirit to people
01:03:54
every day i live on this earth that's the goal to no end do you know and i think i mean maybe i'll finish the tv
01:03:59
shows one day you know that that will naturally end in due course i can't i mean to be
01:04:05
honest i never thought i'd still be doing it now you know but with we're doing more tv shows than ever before we're doing a new network show on ustv
01:04:12
next month we're starting season eight of running while we're you know still out there gunning it and going and i love that but the tv shows will end
01:04:20
but the adventures won't you know i i god willing you know i hope when um old guy i'm gonna be having loads of
01:04:27
adventures with my kids and eventually with grandkids and sharing that adventure spirit because as you know you
01:04:33
know adventurous is truly a state of mind whatever you're doing whatever you know my wife always jokes that i'm gonna
01:04:39
be in the old people's home go come on come on we're gonna do it we're gonna go over you know and i think that's a state
01:04:46
of mind that is about pushing the boundaries and you know having that resilience and and that kind
01:04:52
of wide-eyed gratitude for for life and the connections and because the truth is the world is amazing and it's a huge
01:04:59
privilege you look at everything that's happening around the world there's hardship and struggling in battle and
01:05:04
and loss and the fact that we get to you know have our families and have
01:05:10
something we love to do and and that we're safe and we we live in this kind of a society that has a rule of law and
01:05:16
all these things are so easy to take for granted we must never take that for granted we've got to live with that eyes
01:05:21
wide open thank you and and keep that adventurous state of mind firing bright that far inside shining bright
01:05:29
never give up the the name of your recent book um this book i got the sense that it was slightly more special than
01:05:36
previous books to you and that it had taken five years to write this book that you wrote it all yourself
01:05:42
it is it took a long time you know i was reluctant to write it i wrote an autobiography called mud sweat and tears
01:05:47
originally but uh the truth is you know that and that would do well you know it did 20
01:05:52
weeks at number one and i always kind of felt that i'm i'm not going to beat that you know i'm not going to do another but we're done
01:05:59
but that book really ended as tv started and so many of the questions that i get asked by by my kids and by people in the
01:06:05
street always like the behind the scenes what was it like on this what was it like taking that person or what about the struggles there or whatever and in a
01:06:13
way they're the stories that i wanted my boys to understand you know and i think
01:06:18
my kids are kind of growing up and seeing the good side seeing the the things that have worked but aren't always aware of the many failures behind
01:06:25
behind those successes and i wanted to be able to share all of that and share the things that actually
01:06:30
made the difference and i wanted to write it myself and you know be honest in it and so it took
01:06:36
a long time to write but i'm i'm really proud of it and i think it it was always going to be cool never
01:06:41
give up you know it's at a time where i think the world's coming through an incredibly continuous to be an incredibly tough
01:06:47
time and i think that spirit of relentless determination is needed more than ever with all people
01:06:53
and young people especially so i'm proud of the stories and and uh proud to call it never give up when i
01:07:00
wrote my book i i didn't realize this until i wrote it that it was actually much more a learning process than it was
01:07:07
a preaching process you because it is a journey writing a book is there something that you learned
01:07:13
that you didn't know before you started on that journey of writing never give up that who was profound or a problem you solved
01:07:20
from putting pen to paper that you that you hadn't solved before that comes to mind well i've definitely learned of for
01:07:26
writing or speaking to be good it has to be difficult
01:07:31
it has to be painful you know how often do we see the person who stands up and
01:07:36
stands on stage and gives a talk and loves the sound of their own voice and it's just like it's a ball they're a ball
01:07:43
you know but the person who's this is hard to articulate or talk about but for what it's worth this is where
01:07:50
you know you're there and it's the same with writing i think it's got to be vulnerable and it's got a
01:07:55
have that struggle to it and that's why it took me a while
01:08:02
what did you find what did you feel well yeah for me there was a couple of questions that when i started a chapter
01:08:07
i hadn't actually answered them yet and by the end of the chapter i'd answered the question but it was because of that process is it easy for you to be
01:08:14
vulnerable are you somewhat because we only think of someone that's been in the sas and this you know again talking about the public stereotype here tough
01:08:20
guy resilience vulnerability seems to be the antithesis of that for a lot of people the complete
01:08:25
opposite how have you been you know we talk about toxic masculinity a lot now i sat here with terry crews the actor big tough guy
01:08:32
and his new book tough which is about toxic masculinity what's your relationship with vulnerability were first of all terry crews hero
01:08:40
and one of our running wild guests actually i took him on one last year and he was like with you very honest about
01:08:46
some of this stuff vulnerability was hard initially but i think it's
01:08:53
it's where life is you know and like with like when you climb any big mountain you know where your rope to someone 24 hours
01:08:59
a day it brings you close but it also is where the bonds are you know and when you when you're vulnerable with someone it
01:09:05
creates a connection you know you and me probably feel more connected by being the vulnerability than the look at this
01:09:11
you know vulnerability creates bonds and creates strength but like all these things there's a pain and a it takes a strength to do it
01:09:19
but i think um i'm not scared to show that you know i've got nothing to prove and i don't want people to think it's
01:09:25
just all heroic you know i want people know that the that it's just there's been many struggles through it
01:09:31
all but these things have quietly helped me and i always think people have two phases of their life
01:09:37
one is like you don't want the world to see who you really are you're out there you project this kind of image
01:09:43
and then the second half is you no longer care you just want to be honest and when it honest there's there's an
01:09:49
amazing bonds with the really people you want to create bonds with and some people have that realization at 25 and
01:09:55
they live the rest of life in this empowered way some people don't reach that point until they're 85 they live
01:10:00
the whole life with this mask and it's only when they're with that maybe nurse and a nurse in the first person they're actually being
01:10:06
honest and vulnerable and broken with but you eventually realize it you know
01:10:11
and the goal i suppose of life is to get this place early because it's where the wealth is it's where the it's where the
01:10:17
happiness is because you're not going to pretend any longer and you can form those deeper
01:10:23
relationships as you said which is exactly what happens when we have these conversations there you go
01:10:28
we have a closing tradition on the podcast which is our last guest asks a question for the next guest so the question is if you had to predict
01:10:37
where will you be this time in five years time
01:10:44
wow the truth is i hope to hope to be doing the same sort of thing in the
01:10:50
sense that living this mission of trying to empower other people to find their adventures through all these different
01:10:55
means you know through the tv shows or the books or whatever you know i i love that mission you know it starts with my
01:11:02
relationship with my kids and it extends to scouts and it extends beyond that from there so i hope to have that same
01:11:09
mission maybe at a slightly slower pace you know we film a lot of shows at the moment and it it's a way a lot and it's
01:11:15
you know it's it's um it definitely has full-on elements to it so maybe kind of dial down the pace a
01:11:21
bit but but um same mission and and still protecting
01:11:27
family first you know beyond before work before before even that mission protect
01:11:32
family first and and keep that those relationships strong you know my body aches every day i got
01:11:39
many scars like an old man getting up in the morning but uh i don't apologize for any of
01:11:45
those things and i think by the end of my life if i can uh i don't want to arrive in a perfectly preserved body so
01:11:51
i quote i want to come skidding in sideways covered in scars screaming yo what a ride you know and that long may
01:11:57
that spirit continue yeah thank you so much for the time and generosity i've got to say this does really feel like a
01:12:03
huge honor for me because of how infrequently you do anything like this so i i just want to communicate how much
01:12:08
of an honor this genuinely feels like for me and i feel very special and i feel like our team are very i'm honored to have you here and to have this
01:12:14
conversation with you you're someone that's achieved an unbelievable amount and for you to be so honest and because
01:12:20
it would be so easy for you to say to play into the narrative that you have super powers but it's almost impossible
01:12:26
to get you to indulge in that and as you say that makes the things you've achieved so attainable for everybody
01:12:32
that's listening including myself and if it is something that i can learn and grow in a muscle i can build then that
01:12:37
for me is incredibly empowering and empowerment is so evidently at the center of all the work you do with the scouts with your
01:12:43
new book never give up which i highly recommend everybody reads the paperback is out on the 9th of june but it's
01:12:48
really you can tell you've written it you can tell that it's come from a place of real authenticity and someone who is
01:12:54
is willing to tell you the truth and we need a lot more of that so thank you i'll never be able to say
01:12:59
thank you enough for coming and doing this and uh yeah thanks for the inspiration over the years you've made you've empowered me just in this
01:13:05
conversation yeah it's like um well likewise you're doing an amazing job and thank you your dad he will definitely
01:13:11
know it i'm gonna i'm gonna text him i'm gonna send him a voice now after this so thank you thanks thank you
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