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please welcome romish ranan he's one of the most popular standups around I'm
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hosting this [ __ ] I think that all comedians are wied slightly differently
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something happened to them that has made them an outsider in some way what is that for you we lived in a nice house we
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had a nice car all the stereotypical things that you mark success with then the period of 6 months it was complete
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180 what was the Catalyst for that 18 well shut up mate I'm addicted to doing
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stand up and it makes me better at everything but I've got this inner voice that is horrific it will say you're not
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a very good dad you're not a very good husband I had a one of about six panel shows and I was in a really bad place
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and I turned up to each one of them with the steadfast belief that I was [ __ ] at this what happens when it does go
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horrifically on stage it's horrible they silence that never gets
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easier man but you learn more from those gigs I just need to do the best I possibly can at this gig I'm not in
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control of anything that happens after that don't think about this goal down the line that you're trying to get to do
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this thing brilliantly if you love what you do and you do that you're on a good part this is such a right turn but oh
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it I'm so fascinated by comedian because I find it to be an art form that is both
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genius and terrifying um so for someone to want to pursue that career I'm always intrigued
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by like why so can you give me the context that you think from your earliest
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years might have influenced you taking that path if we go before you're even
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10 well I did stand up comedy when I was eight you know for the first time where
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like I mean the the truth is I fell into stand up by accident but when I was a kid I we
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used to go to this my mom and daddy T this video store and they'd go you can choose something each and we'd all watch
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it together or whatever and my mom used to always used to pick like pink she loved like inspector cluso and like
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Peter cers and all that so she would choose all that stuff and then I discovered Eddie Murphy I remember like getting out uh Beverly Hills Cop and I
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watched Beverly Hills Cop and I was just like this guy is like so incredible and then I started watching everything thing
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Golden Child Trading Places all of that as a kid I was too young to be watching that stuff and my mom and dad had no
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idea about age rating so they were F of it and then I discovered raw which was
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like his second special that came out I think and I remember watching that and I
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watched I'd had watched standup before on TV like British standup I'd watched a lot of it as a kid and loved it there
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was something about watching a guy and he just had a microphone and he walks out in that
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leather suit not that I'd ever worn a leather suit orever will but like he walks out like it's a rock gig you I
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mean like the whole crowd like this massive crowd they go nuts and they watch a
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show of somebody just talking I just found it unbel like the low finess of it
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the sort of thing of I'm going to say things I think or my take on stuff and that's the show there is no more than
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this like you mean there's no effects it is just literally I am going going to just stream of conscious the illusion is
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it stream of Consciousness I'm just going to like talk and you're going to and that's the show I just found it
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incredible and so then we went my family took me to ponting's
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Holiday Camp me and my brother for like a week and they had a talent competition and all I used to do then was read joke
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books like everything I read was like 3,001 jokes like joke books for kids
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like I just all that was all I would read all the time just joke because of that Eddie Murphy I think so I mean I
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was just really into comedy I just loved it I love the idea of making people laugh I Lov the idea of doing comedy I was just so obsessed with it and so then
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I entered the talent competition it's a stand up it was horrendous but I won I you know I won I beat this kid this kid
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playing a kazoo and there was another kid doing the dance thing smashed it absolutely smashed it but like even then
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I really loved St I like I love stand up but the idea that I would do that for a
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career as somebody from like an Asian background or whatever you know like my parents are very much like
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you're going to you know we've come over to this country for you to to follow a path and be successful
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the idea of denan up as a career was not we just wasn't ever in there that
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stereotype of um immigrant Asian parents trying to make you a doctor or a lawyer yeah was that did you witness that
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firsthand from your parents as in did they have that conversation with you at any point or was it just kind of there in the background as an expectation they
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they didn't explicitly say you're going to be I mean my dad was pretty laidback
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to be honest with you my mom was a bit more was a bit more kind of dead set on
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what we were going to do but you know there was there was my Mom and Dad my
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mom and dad left Sri Lanka for my dad to finish his studies you know it was an economic reason but also there was
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trouble going on in Sri Lanka you know like my family originally tamamo there was lots of trouble going on with the
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single in the Indian government and there's like a civil war going on and that was affecting a lot of my family members as well so there's like a lot of
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push and pull involved in them coming over here but they never sat me down and
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had a talk but every single time I made a decision or talked about what a levels I was going to do or anything like that
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I was conscious of the fact that they were really worried about what I was going to do that you know for example
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not going to University was not an option for me do you know what I mean really I mean unless I really decided to
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Rebel but they just assumed I was going to educate myself to what ever level and then go off and follow this path of
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being a successful whatever um so yeah that's kind of it
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was kind of I felt it do you I mean but they never had an explicit chat but I did feel it when I was reading through
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your story and going through the notes on your autobiography it kind of I I I really could relate to um your childhood
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in many ways because it seemed like your childhood had very distinct um opposing chapters right one might say and from
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came I came to the country when I was a kid from Botswana and the first chapter was great right but that's the chapter I
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honestly can't remember yeah because I was below the age of 10 my siblings can remember it with great um great detail
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but I can't remember that chapter I'm told about it I'm told about the the presence and the everything kind of
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being normal and then the second chapter which I can remember vividly because I was slightly older is when kind of chaos
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ensued yeah and everything seemed to fall apart what was that first chapter for you like I to be honest it's very
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similar to what you're talking about you know I remember I remember being very
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comfortable and I remember my dad's you know all the stereotypical kind of things that you that you mark success
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with my dad wore a suit to work do you mean we had a nice car we never really wanted for anything we lived in a nice
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house the people that my f like my family were like had a big Social Circle they were you know all of those like
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external signifiers that was all happening so my kind of recollection my to be honest with my
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recollection was being spoiled to be honest with like I had just loads of stuff do you I mean like my mom and dad
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my mom and dad bought us loads of stuff but they we'd go out to eat a lot you know my dad was doing well he's
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doing really well do you know what I mean and so yeah similar to you I don't have
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vivid memories of it but I do have a general memory of like you know if I asked for a thing for Christmas it was
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pretty sure it's pretty likely I was going to get it do you what I mean for the first eight years or so M so it's
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really super comfortable do you know what I mean and then it literally was I would say over the period
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of 6 months everything got completely turned upside down it was like it was
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just a complete 180 what was the Catalyst for that
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180 sort of unbeknownst to me my dad was kind of was not doing great at work he
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was starting trying to do other was sort of messing around he was what do I mean by messing around like he was just a bit
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of a loose cannon do you I mean I think it had got got to his head a little bit he drank a lot he was a bit of a
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womanizer um and that was starting to get noticed at his work and then he started having ideas of like going off
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and doing other things he ended up getting I think he got fired from his job and then he started trying to do
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these kind of import export deals which at the time we thought oh that's my dad's New Path but as it turns out we
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was illegal but like he basically we we ended up getting the first thing I had
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was that I my mom said we're going to have to move out of this house this house is being repossessed right so my
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mom and dad couldn't keep up their mortgage payments and then we ended up moving to this house on this Council
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estate that my dad had got off a friend or was renting off a friend we were
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there for a little bit and then while we were at that house my mom found out that
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my dad had been sort of sleeping regularly sleeping and started a relationship with this other
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woman and was intending on leaving us and the like leaving us to go and start a life with this other woman and so that
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threw my mom's kind of world upside down and then basically the the the the
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sort of trigger for everything going really kind of mad was we hadn't seen my
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dad for a couple of days and my mom said I'm going to it was a mad I I can't
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remember how how old it was maybe like 11 or 12 or something my mom said I'm going to take you to This Woman's house
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and I need you to go to the door and ask where your dad is because I've not seen him for two days and I've not heard from
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him so she took me around to this house we went to the door and I said where's
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my dad and she said your dad was arrested two days ago and it turned out that they'd been in the middle of doing
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some sort of Deal or something and they're oper they were the target of some sort of police investigation in
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left the police stormed in or stormed in and arrested them and my dad was being held and he ended up going to prison for he
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was sentenced to 2 years so so then everything kind of
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went it sort of went to chaos like my dad was in prison we ended up being
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housed in a bed and breakfast uh by the council CU I didn't have enough housing so my mom my brother and I were staying
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in uh in a room in this bed and breakfast in H
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and um my mom like she'd not been working but she got herself a job as a cleaner and then we were going to school
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from there do you know what I mean like and yeah it was just like it just sort of like everything completely flipped
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man and so it was kind of yeah it was just a complete 180 do I
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mean at the start of that 180 your dad was an accountant right yeah and then he'd lost his job yeah cheated on your
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mom yeah gone into sort of financial disarray ended up in prison yeah in the
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in the process of what six months or something 12 well that the sort of the house got repossessed uh we found out
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about I think that sort of period from start to finish maybe 12 to 18 months I think and at that point you were in at
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the start of that you were in private school right yeah yeah so I'd got a scholarship so
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um i' I'd done this I was I was at school and then what I didn't realiz is
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that my mom and dad were struggling to pay my dad had lost his job and was trying to make his way in other ways and was struggling to pay for the fees and
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so the first I realized about it was like accountants from the school were turning up to my lessons with like an
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invoice going for you yeah to to pass on to my parents because my my mom and dad
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were in such a rear and then eventually I got one day I came home from school and dad said to me you can't you're not
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going back tomorrow like we got to take you I think it's like Midway through through term he said you can't go back
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back because he was just getting freaked cuz he'd like he was in such a rear he was worried about what would happen even if I turned up that you know just not
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that they were going to do anything to me but I think it got to the point where he just had to take me out he he couldn't see a way of of paying any the
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money anymore so then like two days later I was like in rolled at the local school did you say bye to anybody in
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school no I mean I got there was a mate of mine that I'm still in touch with
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now um who I kind of let know what was going on or whatever but um nobody else
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no I just like one day I was there one day I wasn't when I look back on my own life I it's taken me maybe like 30 years
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to realize like the underlying shame and so when I was looking through your story I was trying to understand if there was
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that same feeling of kind of underlying shame well like to give you an idea so I
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I went to I started at this state school and I really enjoyed it and I had I had
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a slightly opposite experience to you in terms of like when I was uh when I was at the the
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the private school I was one of the only agan kids there and I got loads of like I got a fair bit of racism and then when
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I moved to state school there were more kids of color at that school I still got I mean I I got into my fair share of
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scrapes with racist but like that sco it's a weird thing I was really enjoying
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my time at school and it was actually a rest spite from being at home because like when I went home it was just like
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everything's gone to [ __ ] my mom's really sad like and obviously I I I wanted to support her in that but School
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felt normal I didn't tell anybody at school what was going on at home right so I'd go to school and they for all they know like everything's like totally
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chill but and to to get like so my dad went to prison on the 26th of March my
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birthday is on the 27th of March right and I went to my mates my mates
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organized like a little like get together watching films and stuff I didn't tell them any I didn't tell them
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I didn't tell them because I was just like I don't want anybody to know about this so I turned up to the but like to
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this birthday get together the day after because I didn't want to pollute my school experience with that do you know
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what I mean so I can relate so I just didn't tell anybody and like I had really embarrassing experiences where
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when we moved out the bed and breakfast we were put in this flat and there's no phone in the flat there was a pay phone
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downstairs so but I didn't want my friends to know that I it was a pay phone so I had to like make them promise
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me they were going to call me exactly this time and then stand by the pay phone said that nobody from any one of
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the other flats was going to answer it and do you know what I mean so stupid but I was just so wanting to nobody to
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know what was going on there's a cost to that there isn't there do you know what I mean like that that kind of living
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with the the sense of embarrassment almost yeah I I I guess like there's
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there's lots of little things that there is a stress at trying to live a double life like that you know you know know
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things that would normally be okay you suddenly panic over so for example there
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was a girl I liked and we were like we we we were living on this C we' putting in a house we' put in this house but we
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couldn't afford carpet so it just we just had wooden like just the wooden floors in there and think it was fine
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but just no carpets it looked it looked strange and then we walking around the estate and then this girl that I liked
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said oh do you mind if I come in and use a toilet I mean I didn't had a panic attack I
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thought you can't you thinking like what do I do here I can't say no you can't
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use a like I started thinking what can I say my mom doesn't like girls using the toilet in my house like what what can I
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possibly say in the end I said I think I said we're between [Laughter]
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carpets you know how it works you get the carpets taken out you just wait for a couple of weeks for the floors to
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settle you get the new thinking that's actually really quick thinking but yeah all that kind of stuff is just it's just
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so stress it's so stressful man we you you would you described yourself as a lazy kid yeah I really was yeah you're
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not now you're not a lazy person now so I still do think I'm quite lazy I
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I I just was like all of my school reports said romes is wasting his
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ability romes doesn't apply himself romes doesn't um and that was true
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before everything not to the same degree but it was sort of true before everything kind of went Topsy
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Turvy but it was definitely true afterwards you know a lot of teachers say to me you're not applying yourself at
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all but I sort of think for a while I went through a phase of just having given up to be honest with you because
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it's sort of gone so to my mind my world had been turned upside down so
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completely I couldn't really see the point in it I I just sort of I just wanted to have a nice time I I wanted to
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enjoy myself and that didn't that meant not working didn't initially it did not give me you know when you're talking
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about when you wrote down your list of targets it sort of had the opposite effect him I just thought I don't give a [ __ ] anymore I've seen my dad work
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really hard you know I didn't know the full details of what he done you know all of that sort of stuff came out in the wash but like at the time I think
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I've watched the man work really hard and then he ended up in prison he split up with my mom I mean they got back
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together eventually like it was terrible and I actually went through a phase of thinking I know that I went
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through a phase of thinking that we were just cursed because like so many so many things so many bad things happen in quick succession I actually went through
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a phase as a kid of thinking that happiness is something that will always elude me or like I will never be comfortable you know this I'm never this
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is just what we're supposed to but you know like my parents are Hindu they talk about you know talk about God a lot in our house and so sudden you just go
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maybe God just doesn't like us man you know that I genuinely had that genuine belief that like maybe this is just how
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supposed to be so it kind of pushed me the other way I stopped working I started bunking off I just wasn't I just
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wasn't in the zone at all what was your um opinion of yourself during that
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time it's a great question because to be honest with you what my opinion of myself is now is something I really
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struggle with and and like I've never thought about the origins of that but um
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the the truth is I think when I've come to reflect on
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it after that and I remember thinking this at the time I remember thinking I
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don't know what I would have ended up like if we'd have stayed comfortable you know I don't know what person I would have been if I'd have stayed comfortable
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and I would I'm telling you now if that hadn't have happened to us I wouldn't be a comedian now I wouldn't be the person
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I am like there's so many things that defined who I am I was def so much of me
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has been defined by that period and but what I would say is my opinion
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my opinion to myself was and continues to be something
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I really struggle with in terms of it being absolutely like like Rock Bottom you know you know like you just I just
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have uh I have a prick living in my head that talks to me all the time do you what I
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mean and so and that is something that to this day as I'm sitting with you now I have to contend with you I mean I've
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got like this inner voice that is horrific do you it's like
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a horrible horrible person that I've got like you know this horrible voice in my head that just like regardless of
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whatever external um evidence there is or whatever whatever else happens I will
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always have this kind of this inner belief uh
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that I'm sort of a bit shitty do you what I mean like or I'm not I can't do this or I'm not good at
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this or you're getting away with this or whatever imposter syndrome I guess is a is an oversimplified way of of
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describing it but yeah it's something I've I've sort of had to not had to deal
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with something I've dealt with for as long as I can remember really I got really I got chills all over my body then and I don't really know do you know
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why it is is because it really breaks my heart to hear that that right and it genuinely does like cuz and it also I
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think people don't understand the privilege that they have if they don't have that in their head right right yeah yeah I totally agree I mean it's
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it's such a difficult thing because cuz if you don't have that you
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don't understand why somebody would have that you get what you're talking about snap out of it you mean look at your
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life and go a successful comedian 100% you sort of go and it's
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not that I'm unhappy with my lot it's not that I want anything to it's nothing external I don't need anything external
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to change I just have that you just have that you know I've just always mentally had that and yeah like what you just
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said I totally relate to because sometimes I've not you don't tell people because you just sort of go they're
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going to go what what you want about like what what are you talking about but people that get it get it you what I
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mean and it's like I I do think you know something that I've kind of got involved with as much as I
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possibly can is to sort of encourage those you know those kind of mental health conversations and stuff I think
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we become much more open about it than we were in the past but when I was at Uni I I went to see a therapist that
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like they had like these free therapy sessions for students and I went along to one and I did like a whole course
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whatever I remember telling my mom about it and she like freaked out you because
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said what what do you mean you're going to do a therapist like what is there something wrong with your head you know like she like really like cuz to her
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mind does that mean your mad like do you know what I mean like she didn't have that same it's like her understanding of
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it now it's completely you know she's completely you know she's her attitude towards it is very different but yeah
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it's just something you have to contend with and and like at the moment as I'm talking to you
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now I've got coping mechanisms and I'm sort of on top of it but I'm I'm always
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sort of this clo you know if I get if I it can be something really little like I don't exercise for a bit or I don't
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hydrate properly for a few days or I don't I don't get enough sleep I'm back you know I mean like I go dark I just go
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dark in my head you know like you kind of the voice comes you know the voice comes back but you know what I mean you
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s you start getting down on yourself and you have to be on top of all of those things like what does the voice
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say it will say you're not a very good dad you're not a very good husband if I come to do this podcast it will go why
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are you bothering to do this you got nothing interesting to say do you what I mean like you're going to try and get away with with this at some point
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somebody's going to tap you on the shoulder and go we all know if you leave quietly we won't sa if you know that kind of thing you know I remember like
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doing a run of like I was particularly busy I had one of about six panel shows like different Studio things over two
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weeks and I was in a really bad place and I turned up to each one of them with the steadfast belief that I was [ __ ] at
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this right and I've got to try and get away with it as much as I POS you know like I was just in a bad place I turned
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up and I'd be sitting there and like you know to be a comedian you got to be loose and chilled out and relaxed and
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it's almost like being a you know I've read a lot about it about being in a flow State you know being in the pocket whatever you want to call it you can't
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be in the pocket if you got a voice in your head going you're crap at this so it's like yeah it just you just go
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through periods of it I suppose the um when you went to see that therapist in school why did you
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go so there was a very specific trigger so what happened was is I had saved up
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because I've always been really into music and I'd saved up to get this like HiFi yeah um like this really cool bit
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of stereo equipment and I was too scared to take it to UNI cuz I just thought somebody going a necklace or it's going
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to get smashed whatever so I left it at home in my bedroom at home and my mom and dad had a lodger and he was sort of he was
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somebody that had come over from Sri Lanka that they were kind of helping out and he'd been sleep I'd been sharing a
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room when I came back I shared a room with him and they'd moved that piece of stereo equipment right because he needed
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to put some stuff somewhere or whatever my reaction to something quite nothing
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was like it it was like I really like was like felt like my mom and dad were trying to move
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me out or they didn't care about my stuff like and then I like really got pissed off about it and then later on
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that evening realized that that was a massive overreaction and then recognized that I wasn't in a good head space you
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know like I just felt like for me to have reacted like that probably was a sign cuz I felt like I was going through
00:26:29
some [ __ ] as well you know like you know you don't feel right in yourself and then when I reacted like that I
00:26:35
thought I need to I need to sort of speak to somebody probably you know I'm not in a good I'm not in a good place
00:26:40
and so like I think like two days later I looked into it and then started going you know what's um really has I think
00:26:46
changed my life is the amount of times I've had this exact conversation with
00:26:51
someone who is maybe a comedian maybe not about the voice in their head yeah and until I started doing this podcast I
00:26:57
had absolutely no idea I couldn't comprehend the thought that there's people that have a voice in the head
00:27:04
that is somewhat against them at times right I couldn't comprehend it yeah and so for me like this isn't the first time
00:27:09
I've heard this this is May maybe not even the 10th time it's really eye openening for me have you ever and this
00:27:15
is I mean this is almost an impossible task because you're like trying to piece things together in hindsight but have you ever developed a perspective or an
00:27:21
opinion where that voice comes from or why you have it and someone else might
00:27:27
not h no I
00:27:32
don't I don't know is you know like why have I got it and other people
00:27:38
haven't I I don't know it's something I've thought about particular when I'm talking to people that don't have it or don't understand why I've got it
00:27:46
um and I don't know I I I don't know if it's like I mean I'm being super super pseudo
00:27:53
psychologist here but I sort of think that you know when I said to you about I sort of felt like everything was against
00:27:59
us yeah and you sort of go through this period of like during your formative years of a lot of things going badly or
00:28:04
going negatively you then start to see that as your default and then if something goes right or something's
00:28:10
going well then that is against type or that is against you know you're supposed to have [ __ ] happened to you you're like
00:28:18
you're bad stuff supposed to or you're supposed to have bad experiences and so then maybe that son and I'm just
00:28:24
freestyling here but maybe that kind of gets hard wide into you so that even if like you have positive
00:28:31
things you kind of you you kind of don't accept them and I also think of like
00:28:37
sometimes I've reflected on times when I was a kid like really young and done
00:28:42
things I would consider to be selfish or I remember like this like have a vivid memory of being horrible to my brother
00:28:47
and the voice goes to me that's you at your core like when you're when you're being nice that is conditioning but that
00:28:53
is what you know I've had that thought where that you fundamentally is that person that that nasty person but what
00:29:00
you've done is like social conditioning has taught you that you know you allow your brain to go down those those
00:29:06
thought Pathways you know I sat with Gabel matate he's um he's maybe he's like considered to be like the leading
00:29:13
um psychologist therapist on specifically childhood trauma and his he was handed off during the the Holocaust
00:29:21
when his because his mom was trying to save him so she gave him to someone else and he talks to me about how we interpret we are narcissists as young
00:29:28
children we think everything is about us if parents are screaming that's because of me you know and and how children are
00:29:33
these like great like huge narcissists so even though his mom was doing an act of love he almost internalized it as an
00:29:40
act of Abandonment which meant that he wasn't good enough so he he talks about how he lived with this kind of sense of
00:29:45
not being good enough the other conversation I reflect on which K comes to mind as you're talking is Steve Peters who wrote the chimp Paradox and
00:29:53
he talks about you read it great book he talks about two periods he goes under the age of like 10 you can develop
00:29:59
goblins and he refers to a goblin as something that we can never really shake because of the the the neural Pathways
00:30:05
in our brain a CH a pretty much change for good and and we can often not remember it because we don't even start
00:30:11
to form memories until we're like three or whatever and those are your goblins and then he goes after 10 it's really your Gremlins which are things we can
00:30:17
overcome yeah so it's it's interesting that we can have these sort of goblins but also not remember where they came
00:30:23
from and they can also be just like narcissistic childlike interpretation of events yeah yeah I think I think I I I
00:30:30
do sort of agree with that and I think like one of the things I discovered is
00:30:35
like in in conflict and things like that you know there was this uh David Foster
00:30:41
Wallace did this like commencement speech that I read and it's about like this thing that we're all hardwired to
00:30:47
believe that we are the center of the universe right so like when you're going to work and somebody cuts you up or somebody takes ages in front of you at
00:30:53
the supermarket it's so why is this happening to me and then as soon as you flip the switch and go this isn't happening to me I'm like this person's
00:31:00
got their own thing and this person's got their own thing as soon as you do that your ability to just chill out is
00:31:07
miraculous right and and I I do think that that is part of it like you know the belief that bad things happen to me
00:31:14
what am I talking about do you mean what are you talking about do you think you're that important that that that
00:31:19
they've got time for Destiny to go nah badic what are you talking about you absolute God complex having [ __ ] you
00:31:25
know that's the truth of it you know what I mean it's just some stuff happened man it's not Destiny you're not
00:31:31
on some route there's nobody's got anything against you just like what are you talking about who do you think you
00:31:36
are do you know what I mean so it is that it is that you're kind of like trying to combat that you said you
00:31:43
learned coping mechanisms yeah what are those coping mechanisms um that sounds
00:31:48
like one of them what you just described there which sounded like perspective yeah one of the is perspective another one is
00:31:55
just is completely it's completely surrendering yourself to the moment that
00:32:00
you're in so like uh if you complete what I found is is like a lot
00:32:08
of kind of your so this Inner Voice or whatever or a lot of your worries and stuff like that are things that are not happening to you at that time you know
00:32:14
it's like I'm worried this is going to happen I'm worried I'm [ __ ] at this and this is going to happen and and one of the things I found is
00:32:21
like to just completely be of this moment and this moment alone and and sort of
00:32:30
yeah just just be present you know like so if I come here I could come here going um if this podcast doesn't go well
00:32:38
then people are going to get in touch with on social media and then you know uh BL you know you can start getting yourself in a thing you're not good
00:32:44
enough to do this podcast he shouldn't have interview you have you seen the other guest he's got on this podcast is not why has he done this BL or if you
00:32:50
just go I'm just going to come here and enjoy this podcast and you know and I'm just going to be here in the in the chat with
00:32:56
you you're just you the way you experience things completely changes you what I mean you you
00:33:02
just you just become you just have a different experience of the same thing you can experience two things completely
00:33:07
differently like and the truth is all of these things you're catastrophizing are fine you know like
00:33:13
if I go if I'm if I'm crap on a panel show I don't get booked for that panel show again so what like who gives a [ __ ]
00:33:20
do you know I mean like that's fine it's totally cool and then the other thing is to just kind of actively
00:33:28
be aware of when I'm getting like that you know like sometimes you can't necessarily stop it but I go I've gone
00:33:34
dark do you what I mean you sort of go this is happening but this is it's okay to feel like this I don't need to block
00:33:40
those thoughts but they are irrational and I just I just know what's happening
00:33:47
do you what I mean I need to get my nutrition in order I need to get down the gym I need to get a good night's
00:33:52
sleep whatever I need to do to sort myself out I need to do a bit of like you know
00:33:58
head space or whatever it is do you know what I mean to try and get myself back on an even kill whereas before before I
00:34:04
had those kind of coping mechanisms who knew when I was going to come out of it you know I just would submit myself to it completely and then it would be like
00:34:10
chance that I would come out of it you know when you reflect on your your journey with mental health was there has
00:34:15
there what period of your life was the most difficult in terms of mental health
00:34:22
yeah um I would say my late my late teens
00:34:28
into my kind of early 20s was really challenging cuz I remember reacting I've got loads
00:34:36
of memories of reacting really badly to to things
00:34:42
um like irrationally like over the top reactions like I remember like I didn't really do
00:34:49
very well in my a levels CU I was just like pissing about and then when the A- level results came I just thought this
00:34:54
is the end I can't carry with my life you know I really like was like I can't you know I was I was I was thinking
00:35:01
about taking my own life like regularly you know like yeah there's loads of times you know there's loads of times
00:35:07
during that period when I thought about it I did think about it a lot um and i' I'd
00:35:13
fantasized about it you know I'd like think about how I was going to do it I think about how easy it would be after
00:35:18
that I think about the repercussions after I'm gone you know i' think i' I could spend time thinking about it you
00:35:24
know so um and that was kind of the toughest time and then as I kind of got
00:35:31
older um yeah it sort of got I still had the
00:35:36
same issues but I started to kind of be able to to deal with him a bit more
00:35:41
effectively and you know like I managed to shut off The Voice you know there be there' be long times I don't have any
00:35:47
voice at all you know like it's just gone and then occasionally sort of go dark again but yeah that was probably
00:35:52
the most challenging time you know there's a there's a stereotype about Comedians and them H you know their
00:35:58
perspective of themselves not not being happy or whatever there's that like a long anding stereotype and I've sat here with Jimmy Carr Etc and he's told me he
00:36:05
actually said to me he said you should ask you should ask comedians not are they depressed but like who in their family was depressed right which I
00:36:12
thought was an interesting what's your whole observation as it relates to you on that like stereotype that comedians are either depressed themselves or their
00:36:17
family was or their mom was or they had someone in the home they were trying to cheer up I don't I don't I don't know if
00:36:24
I think that all comedians are depressed I've said after a long
00:36:31
description it feels like I've supplied a lot of evidence to the country but I I don't think all comedians are depressed
00:36:37
but I do think that I think that all comedians are wired slightly differently
00:36:42
certainly all the really good ones do you know what I mean or the ones that like Something's Happened they've had something happen to them that has
00:36:49
changed the wiring that has made them an outsider in some way and and it it might be depression but it might
00:36:56
be you know it might be a change in circumstances it might be a bement it might be
00:37:02
whatever it might be a class shift it might be their parents you know there's something about comedians that
00:37:10
just they're just slightly different you know their wiring is slightly different I do genuinely believe that because I
00:37:15
sort of whenever I talk to comedians who I really like after a while of talking
00:37:20
to them you go I've spotted
00:37:25
it there you go there it is do you I mean they've all got that they've all got a little bit of like you know I yeah
00:37:32
they've all got a little bit of faulty wiring I think or I don't mean faulty I mean why differently different yeah yeah
00:37:37
yeah what is that in your words for you what is that different wiring that's made you like a like
00:37:45
pulled magnetized by the career of being a standup comic or comedian a writer I don't know I think
00:37:52
that like sort of I I think the speed in which
00:37:58
the speed in which everything changed the you know the the sort of my life experiences as well as the fact that I was sort of drawn to Comedy
00:38:05
anyway you know all of my family like my dad was my family sort of all pretty
00:38:11
comedically you know they they're all my my my the love language at my house is taking the piss out of each other do you
00:38:17
I mean like you know my mom and dad and my brother and I just rinse each other all the time that was that was what I
00:38:23
knew that's what my kids are like that's what we're like in my house you know and I think that's kind of contributes to it
00:38:29
but I think that you know again I'm being sort of
00:38:35
I'm speaking from a position of deep ignorance but like I think having seen the normal trajectory
00:38:42
for my dad and the directory that they wanted for me go so spectacularly wrong
00:38:48
has allowed me to accept taking a different path you what I mean like I I I think had that not happened I probably
00:38:55
would have gone I need to get like a regular job like and follow this trajectory that my parents want and I need to follow the the the the
00:39:02
Milestones of success that everybody kind of attributes M whereas this thing
00:39:07
allowed me to go well do you know what I'm just going to do the thing I really want to do and let's see what happens do you know what I mean and initially that
00:39:13
was you know before I was do in comedy that was teaching I didn't do teaching because I wanted to make you don't do
00:39:19
teaching because you want to make money but I I wasn't doing teaching because I wanted like respect from the community I did it because I loved the idea of
00:39:25
teaching children and then I ended up moving into comedy and I just sort of thought I actually kind of I kind of uh
00:39:31
have attached less weight to financial remuneration to
00:39:38
like having the nice house to all of that and I just want to do this I I I I just want to be driven by wanting to do
00:39:46
this thing do you know what I mean because if you chase the financial thing it can still go horrifically wrong so
00:39:52
why am I doing that do you I mean I might as well chase that could still go wrong but at least I'm doing something I enjoy
00:39:58
and that first you know I was reading about your early sort of gigs in like pubs and stuff like that like eight people or whatever that F that first
00:40:06
time a gig went well maybe it was it was it butland your first when that was my first when I was at eight yeah yeah how
00:40:11
did you feel up on stage and the minute you walked off stage when it went really well well I can tell you a really
00:40:18
specific gig man that like it was quite a bit into so I was you know you were doing all these Pub gigs and I started
00:40:24
to get to a point where I was starting to do well at these gigs right and I
00:40:30
felt like okay I'm starting to get all right at this you know for that level do you know what I mean you certainly could have put me on at the Apollo at that
00:40:35
stage but like I was like I was to feel like I was starting to do well in these gigs and what I hadn't done what I'd
00:40:43
never done is I'd never turned the room so what I mean is Whenever However the gig was going I would go on and follow
00:40:49
suit right so if it was a good gig I'd probably have a good Gig if it was a tough gig I'd still do all right but I'd
00:40:55
have a tough gig the first time I absolutely buzzed my tits off is it was a tough gig I was on
00:41:03
second and like the hosted struggled the first actor struggled and then they got me on and I started and they were quiet
00:41:10
but by the end of the gig it was like I was like having a great one and that to
00:41:15
turn a like that was the first time I'd ever taken a room from being quiet to being a great gig and I lost my mind I
00:41:21
mean like I was just like the adrenaline was just insane man I came off just like
00:41:28
and you have to hide that right because you know you don't want to walk off just go yeah man yes absolute smash time so I
00:41:36
had to like swallow that down and just go I've got to leave quickly so I can scream in the car but I felt I felt in
00:41:42
mate that I remember like as the gig was turning I didn't want to dip out the because as soon as you go this is going
00:41:48
well you're out the moment right so I had to like I had to just like just keep doing the gig keep doing the gig like
00:41:53
had a great response and I was like oh my God that felt amazing it was unbelievable man
00:42:00
amazing and has that kind of been your relationship with stage where that's the real like that's
00:42:06
the that's the Pinnacle in terms of like feelings and emotions and like I guess
00:42:12
like self I don't know affirment um I don't know I mean I I
00:42:20
definitely enjoy the buzz of doing life stand up more than anything else I do and like nothing else really matches up
00:42:25
to I really do enjoy all the other stuff I do but nothing can really compete with stand I think it's partly because of the
00:42:30
possibility that you could really die on your ass like that is exciting that it could go horrifically wrong but but this
00:42:36
is something I was going to ask is as someone who said that there's that voice in your head and things can trigger it what happens when it does go
00:42:42
horrifically wrong on stage it just depends cuz like the truth is your mindset changes
00:42:50
right cuz like when I started doing standup if I did badly
00:42:57
it's probably because I was [ __ ] right whereas like now I I I feel like I'm all right at standup and now the gigs that
00:43:05
go badly you need those gigs you know like it's like going to the gym you know if I'm trying to write a new tour I've
00:43:11
got to write new material so I go on with 10 minutes of new material and I try it out if I if it goes for nothing
00:43:18
I'm disappointed because none of the stuff's work but it doesn't it doesn't make me think I'm a [ __ ] comedian I I'm
00:43:23
disappointed these people are going to leave thinking romish was crap tonight I can't do anything about that but you're
00:43:30
sort of going this is part of the process you know you're like I'm going to the gym I've got to like you learn
00:43:35
more from those gigs do you know what I mean and so it's still don't get me wrong it's still horri it's horrible
00:43:42
saying something and then looking out then silence that never gets that
00:43:48
never gets easier man but you s go this is what you got to do it's like when you you got to take risks in the small rooms
00:43:54
so that when you do the big rooms it's better you know like you know you want to do stuff that's on the not
00:44:00
necessarily on the edge but you want to do stuff where you might do an act out that you wouldn't normally do or you might talk about something you've never
00:44:06
talked about before and the risk is you might tuck into a big plate of [ __ ] but
00:44:12
when you're in the big room when you're doing your tour you go I wish I'd taken more risks back then do you know what I
00:44:17
mean so you can't it's kind of a different it's kind of a different process having said that I've done a corporate gig where I've died on my ass
00:44:23
and I felt absolutely horrific you know like you it's oh God it's just so awful
00:44:28
man there's something really surprising about someone who attests to having that
00:44:34
like tricky internal monologue with themselves that would then puts in such a highrisk situation I know you'd expect
00:44:41
you'd think someone would just stay at home and just avoid any chance of reinforcing that negative voice but waking that prick up yeah yeah it's it's
00:44:49
amazing though the honest truth is I would have that voice regardless of what I did so I might as well do something I
00:44:55
really loved do you know what I mean and I just absolutely like I'm addicted to doing standup I'm addicted to it even if
00:45:01
I don't have a tour to prepare for I'll go and do a gig you know I can't not gig and it makes me better at everything so
00:45:07
if I'm doing a travel show I'm funnier on the travel show if I'm regularly gigging if I'm not gigging I'll be worse
00:45:12
on that panel on that travel show be worse on a panel show be worse talking to you now like you know you're just
00:45:17
you're just exercising that muscle like being on stage I just feel I'm addicted to it quick word from one of our
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years back to the episode so you went and became a teacher yeah for a while um
00:47:19
and at some point you you make the decision to reach out and swing onto that next
00:47:26
Branch I'm I'm trying to understand that that sort of pivotal moment and like what happened what made you take the the
00:47:31
leap crazy I mean I know comedians when they start out don't get paid a huge amount of money no you run at a loss for
00:47:37
a long time and you were you had a kid on the way in the process of you taking that leap yeah logically it was
00:47:44
foolish there's no getting around that but um well what happened was I started teaching and I was really loving it and
00:47:51
then I um I just wanted to do stand up as a hobby like loads of teachers have got
00:47:57
Hobbies right you know how many teachers are in bands right so I just thought this is going to be my thing I'm going to do standup so I just started doing
00:48:04
gigs and then it started to go really well and then somebody said to
00:48:09
me you know you could do you could definitely do this for a job what did you think when they said
00:48:15
that I just didn't it hadn't occurred to me well that's a lie it had occurred to me but I didn't think you don't there's
00:48:22
so many people trying to do stand up man like so many people it's so like what are the chances that you're going
00:48:28
to be able to make a living out of it it's like so slim and also I just hadn't seen it as a career thing but yeah somebody comes goes it was like it was
00:48:35
actually a competition I was did a competition called say think you're funny in Edinburgh and I was in the I got to the
00:48:41
semi-final and it's like one person gets through to the final and I made it through to the final and then one of the judges came up and said oh the reason
00:48:48
that um we put you through is because as soon as you walked home go this guy's going to be a comedi like you just look like you're going to be a comedian you
00:48:53
can definitely do this for a living so there's just something about about you would just go this guy's going to be a comic and so that's when I was like oh
00:49:00
okay and then my gigging then had a bit more purpose and because before I was just like I'm just going to try and get
00:49:06
good at this you know that but then now I was thinking oh maybe I could do this for a job and then um my agent so so
00:49:15
then I got an agent and the agent said to me if you really want to give this a go you're going to have to leave
00:49:21
teaching and so I talked to my wife about it and we were like okay so I just
00:49:26
decided to leave at Christmas so you give it like a half term's notice or whatever and
00:49:33
um didn't you get caught by oh mate this is so bad man but like
00:49:41
basically I was head of six form well actually it was Junior head of six form
00:49:46
and um I don't know why I had to make that that clarification literally nobody
00:49:52
cares sorry was R I'm pretty sure R's Junior had a sit in that period of his life anyway why did I make that
00:49:58
correction anyway um so I so basically I got asked to do this like this show at
00:50:04
the edin ref Fringe like every night it was just like compilation mix Bill show whatever and it's like a big
00:50:10
opportunity and um but I was supposed to be back for a level a level results so I
00:50:17
just got in touch with him and I said um my my wife's poorly and so I can't I
00:50:24
feel embarrassed I can't make it back and they went okay and so I said I'll be
00:50:30
back as soon as I can and then I just was like okay that's fine I've got away with that and then I came back to school
00:50:36
the first day of September and nobody in the office was talking to me like it was like a proper Frosty atmosphere and I
00:50:42
thought oh God what's happened here and then I opened my computer and it said could you come to HR so I went to
00:50:49
HR and they uh they said to me the lady
00:50:55
said to me she's lovely um said to me so you couldn't come back because uh your
00:51:00
wife was poorly and I I said yeah as soon as that she said that I thought this is over right and then she goes
00:51:07
right and then she just opened this drawer and just pulled out this folder and it had like reviews me appearing on
00:51:14
lineups like it was a comprehensive dossier of what had been up to at The edin Fringe Festival and it was just so tricky cuz I
00:51:21
just thought that would be great to have but but but as soon as she said
00:51:27
that um she was like what do you want to do she goes you can't work with that
00:51:32
team anymore because I don't want to work with you anymore because they're like they feel so like they're so pissed off with you for what you've done she
00:51:38
said we can move you to another head of year team and I sort of knew that I was going to leave to do comedy at that
00:51:44
stage I thought it's not fair to go and join another head of your team only to leave so I just said I'll become a math St like you know I'll take a step down
00:51:51
and and be a mass teacher and not have any of that responsibility and so I just did that for the remainder but when I
00:51:57
left the thing that kind of uh turned things upside down again was
00:52:03
like three days before I was due to leave teaching my dad passed away suddenly of a heart attack and so
00:52:10
[Music] um yeah it and so then basically what
00:52:16
happened was is that the period after my dad passing away we had to sort out my mom's fin it
00:52:21
turned out my dad's finances were a house of card he got this Pub that he'd been sort of borrowing money from the
00:52:27
house to finance and all this it was like a nightmare so it just meant that it was like the start of my comedy
00:52:32
career was pretty tough like we were just like throwing our time into trying to figure that out how did you deal with that how did
00:52:39
you process the the loss of your father it was really difficult
00:52:46
because um I was really close to my dad I mean
00:52:51
my relationship as you can imagine was very troubled with my dad because you know I'd seen this guy
00:52:57
I'd seen this guy kind of want to leave us and you know he'd been sleeping
00:53:03
around a lot with a lot of different women and um I'd seen M you know when we
00:53:09
were in the bed and breakfast I'd seen my mom cry herself to sleep every night and like it was really hard you know that's all because of my dad so that was
00:53:16
really difficult and I remember like I'd had loads of arguments with him he tried to be a parent again I resisted because
00:53:22
I felt like you didn't want to be a parent hacker you come back in and start so you know that's very difficult but then as we got you know later on in his
00:53:28
life we got really close again and you know I'm I'm absolutely just delighted
00:53:34
that when my dad passed away I was had a really good relationship with him but it
00:53:39
was hard you know like my dad was the person that I was most like in my family my mom and my brother are very similar
00:53:44
and I was very and I'm very similar to how my dad was so I found it really really difficult I found it really
00:53:49
really hard and um the thing that I feel really sad about for him is that sort of when he
00:53:56
passed away he hadn't really got himself into a comfortable position you know like everything had gone wrong and he
00:54:01
was trying to work his way back up but you know my recollection of my dad right up to the day he died was like
00:54:07
absolutely working his ass off and kind of chasing his tail you know so that was that is a bit of sadness in that you
00:54:13
know I kind of think I wish he'd had it a bit easier in his life you know sometimes I think you know I'll be honest with you if my dad was still
00:54:19
around I would be broke cuz he would have burned through all of my money that i' made from Comedy like my dad was like such he's so irresponsible with
00:54:27
so um but yeah there's a bit of sadness there if you could have gone back to
00:54:32
remes when your father was alive in his last say five years would you have acted differently in any way I'm always so
00:54:37
curious about this because I'm in a position where I'm fortunate enough that my parents are still around and I I
00:54:44
spend time often forecasting the things I'm going to regret so is there anything where you think I wish I'd said this or
00:54:50
I should have you know yeah I mean so I I well no is the honest answer
00:55:00
I think that you can be in a position where you don't feel that I mean look
00:55:05
you're always going to feel like I should have said I love you more or whatever but I remember when I was
00:55:10
18 i' I'd come back from uni and I'd been out like with some mates getting
00:55:16
drunk and I hadn't told my mom when I was going to come back and I came back later than I said I was going to and I walked in pretty inconsiderate and drunk
00:55:22
and my mom and dad are sat in front of the TV and my dad said said to me how can you come back at this time and I
00:55:28
said to him how can you even talk to me about what I should be doing in this house and then I just launched
00:55:34
into a monologue about how he had no right to tell me anything that I did in my life how he wanted to walk away how
00:55:42
can you come back in here and tell me that I should be doing whatever after what you've done to Mom after what
00:55:47
you've done to me me and my brother like what are you doing like what you know and I just went into this rant and he
00:55:53
sat there mate as I'm telling you now he took it from me and like you know you think
00:55:59
about you know Asian culture you don't talk you know my dad was very laidback but you don't talk to your parents like
00:56:05
that do you know what I mean but he sat there like he took it he took every word from
00:56:10
me and I stormed out of the
00:56:15
house and my mom watched me have this conversation and ordinarily like my mom would
00:56:22
have uh picked me up on it but she didn't and I never spoke to my dad about
00:56:27
that conversation again so like I went out for a bit I came back in the next
00:56:32
day we never spoke about it my never my dad never asked for an apology I never apologized to my dad we never spoke
00:56:38
about it again and if my relationship with my father hadn't have improved after this point it would have I I don't
00:56:46
know how I would feel about that conversation I it would be something that and even now as I'm saying it to
00:56:51
you I made up with my dad but it kills me that I said that to him I don't disagree with anything I said but it
00:56:57
does kill me that I said that to him but when it was his 60th birthday my dad's got load of brothers
00:57:04
and a sister a load of them came over from Canada and Australia and to see him
00:57:10
and I wrote in his card thank you for being a great dad and
00:57:16
somebody I look up to and my dad opened the card and he said to me he like read
00:57:23
the card and he went really quiet it was like in the middle of quite a rockus family get together and he opened the C really quiet and he just said to me do
00:57:30
you honestly mean that like he just didn't believe that that was my view of him and like he couldn't like and then I
00:57:38
realized up to that point my dad had just thought we'd not he just thought we
00:57:43
weren't cool because of what had happened in the past and he goes you he said to me do you honestly mean that I said yeah of course I
00:57:49
do and then I felt you know I felt like I feel like now my dad knew what
00:57:56
thought about him do you know what I mean and the the what I think of my dad is that he was a deeply deeply deeply
00:58:02
flawed human being that had a great a lot of great things about him and and you know
00:58:09
um so yeah when he when he passed away I felt really I felt really close to him but you know there's loads of things
00:58:16
like there's things where like if I'm being honest with you when we started to go where things started to go wrong I
00:58:21
was quite materialistic you know can I have this can I have that why can't I have that anymore what what are you
00:58:26
doing you prick oh yeah do you know what I mean like why are you valuing that stuff I remember like I've got a really
00:58:32
vivid memory of wanting the new Public Enemy album
00:58:37
right it was like $8.99 on cassette or something and my dad said yeah I'll get it for you and then on the day he just
00:58:43
didn't have a tener he just he didn't have a tener he didn't have any money and I like flipped out do you know what
00:58:49
I mean I flipped out you promised me you get but but that time you look at the context of it you'd be forgiving if you
00:58:55
if you've been forgiving to romes everything's going tits up this album is
00:59:00
like some sort of security wants to listen to that some sort of normality do you what I mean and it's a promise as well exactly exactly and then he
00:59:06
couldn't in the circumstances what I should have done was going okay cool I'd love to get it that's what a good kid
00:59:11
does I'd love could you get it for me when we can or I'll find another way to get it but as a kid you sometimes
00:59:18
interpret that as Like You Don't Love Me Maybe you know what I mean yeah 100% And it's something that I'm really conscious
00:59:24
of with my kids now because you sort of go I don't want them
00:59:30
to get the message that I don't love them so but then you run the risk of like buying them everything do you know what I mean it's like it's such a
00:59:37
difficult thing I love you have it I love you have it PlayStation yes I love you like hoodie yes I love you trainers
00:59:44
yes I love you and then you go hold on a minute this ain't good these kids need to hear no so yeah it's a tricky one man
00:59:51
what about your mom she seems to have um been this real Warrior throughout all of this turmoil and and I was reading some
00:59:56
quotes I know she did an interview where um she just said that her the center of her Universe was you to as brothers and
01:00:02
she would have done anything to you including becoming a cleaner and taking other jobs in shops and stuff like that
01:00:08
she seems to be a kind of a real hero throughout your story yeah I
01:00:14
mean she's like she's amazing you know you think about
01:00:20
um you know she she came over from Sri Lanka
01:00:26
my she was you know 1920 when she came over she grew up in a tiny
01:00:31
village she come gets thrown into this new country she tries to make her way make new friends her husband is immersed
01:00:39
in the world in the country much more than she is because she's a stay-at-home you know wife and
01:00:45
mother and she's like you know making her way and then her life gets thrown
01:00:51
upside down and she goes to a position where she has to single-hand raised her two sons because her husband's kind of
01:00:58
dipped out and and and on top of that she's got to deal with a heartbreak of what a
01:01:05
husband has done as well as go what I've got to like I've got to brush my shoulders off and
01:01:12
like and start and and support these kids it's like amazing it's amazing you
01:01:18
know it's amazing and so like you know she she's like a hero of mine for for
01:01:25
for how she's been for all of that time and how she continues to be now I mean don't get me wrong she loves spending money and she loves being recognized and
01:01:32
she loves a celebrity like being a celebrity she loves being on TV all of that but I love I'm delighted I'm
01:01:39
delighted that my Mom's period of life now after what she went through is being on TV being comfortable having her house
01:01:46
paid off drives a nice like great Wicked like do you I mean like this is amazing do you know what I
01:01:54
mean this is amazing I mean don't get me wrong I do sometimes have a go and go you don't need that Mom do you I mean like
01:01:59
you like chill out and like you know she does things that annoy me like for example she crashed her car she wasn't
01:02:06
happy with the courtesy car that we're offering so she then said to me uh Romy you need to give uh a guy that works at
01:02:12
the insurance company two tickets to your toe because he upgraded my car so she does stuff like that and like so but
01:02:21
but mate she's like what I mean she's incredible you know I can't
01:02:26
you know you can't I can't say no to her I mean like she doesn't well there's you
01:02:32
know it's debatable whether she takes a piss on but like my mom's amazing she's amazing and
01:02:39
like yeah I I I I owe a lot to her you know so she is she is a hero of mine
01:02:44
definitely does she know that does she have you ever said to her what what you think and feel about that period and how
01:02:50
she behaved I have said that to her what I would say is that sits in direct contradiction to how many times I phone
01:02:56
her do you know what I mean like like I I tell her I love her but I don't get in
01:03:02
touch enough for as much as she'd like I don't see her as much as she'd like so
01:03:08
um yeah I probably should sort that out I mean that I should probably sort that out but um but she knows she knows what
01:03:15
I think of it yeah definitely I've got no doubts in my mind that she knows what I think of her when did you make it and
01:03:21
what was the The Catalyst moment you know make making it is kind of like a there's so much assumption in it that there was a moment where everything
01:03:27
changes that's why it's a bit of a shitty question if I reflect on that but like when was what was the the first
01:03:32
stone that fell or the first Domino that fell that created the cascading events I
01:03:37
hear about this figure in your life called Shawn Walsh yeah and the impact he had in believing in you and being
01:03:43
very patient with you yeah I love that because we can all think of that that I can think in my life of that person that
01:03:49
M like bizarrely had faith in me a little bit more than I did in myself yeah yeah well
01:03:56
it's an interesting one with Shan cuz basically what happened was he saw me at a gig in Brighton
01:04:04
and like he liked liked the set or whatever and then he was going on
01:04:10
tour and I was like so at that stage if you're tour
01:04:16
support basically he asked me to support him on tour if you're tour support you drive you drive the ACT you drive the
01:04:22
main act so I'd go and pick him up and and at that stage I was so broke that um
01:04:28
you know sometimes I feel I don't know you get paid after the gig like you know after you've done a run a gig sometimes
01:04:33
I like I don't know if I don't know if I've got enough money for petrol to like go and get him like it was like proper like I was like really running it on
01:04:40
fumes financially and um so I was picking up taking to
01:04:46
gigs and like that money from those gigs was basically keeping our bills paid you
01:04:51
know if I didn't have those gigs I don't know what we would have done and then during that
01:04:56
time um I one of the things that he offered
01:05:02
to do that I never took him up on was I couldn't pay the road tax on my car and I had some money due to come in from a
01:05:08
gig and I said to Lisa when this money comes in I'll pay the road tax your wife
01:05:15
my wife sorry yeah I said I said to her when when when this money comes in I'll pay for the road tax anyway we came home
01:05:20
from the shops and the car was gone and they' impounded it for not having road tax and I phoned up and I said
01:05:29
um how do I get my car back and they said well it's £450 fine and it's £150
01:05:35
for every day that we have the car for so I said enjoy the car and then put the
01:05:40
phone down and I said to Lisa I'm really sorry we don't have a car anymore I don't know what to tell you I can't afford like
01:05:46
there's no way every day I spend trying to get that 450 quid we got to pay another 150 this is like mad and then I
01:05:54
told sea about it and he straight away goes I'll give you the money to get a car he goes I'll just lend it to you goes I know you're good for it he goes I
01:05:59
know you'll start making money from Comedy and you'll be able to pay me back and I never took him up on it but saying
01:06:05
that was huge like it was so huge um anyway when we were on tour he
01:06:14
started doing the show called stand up for the week and that was like they did topical material and you had writers
01:06:20
working on it and he said to me can you write me some like write some stuff for the show like and actually what he
01:06:27
started doing was he started going what do you think about this story and I'll tell him like he goes you know what comedy angles have you got on this story
01:06:33
and I talk to him and he'd like go okay okay and little did I know he was trying to help me out right so he was trying to
01:06:39
test the waters so what your angles on this then he goes me can you send me some stuff like send me some stuff
01:06:44
you've written and I remember sending some stuff and he goes this is all [ __ ] I can't this is unusable and he goes try
01:06:50
again next week I'll send you the stories have a go and then I did it again and he goes some of this is good most of [ __ ] and then I did that for
01:06:57
another couple times he goes right do you want to come into the writer's room he goes I get into the writer's room and and you can sit in and like do some
01:07:03
stuff so I sat in and then I became a writer on stand up for the week I started becoming a writer on stand up for the week and then he did a
01:07:11
show called sha mworld and he got me in as a writer on that and then they did a press launch
01:07:19
for the show and they were doing a comedy gig as part of the press launch and sha got me on that comedy gig
01:07:25
and I did the gig and the guys that produced live at the Apollo were there
01:07:31
for that gig cuz it was like the same sort of production house that do the show they I had a great set and two days
01:07:37
later they F me and asked me to be on live at the Apollo and like at that
01:07:43
time the money that you get for doing live with the Apollo basically would pay my bills for six months right and so I
01:07:51
didn't have an agent at the time so they had to F me directly we were dropping the kids off at Nursery and I got got the phone call it's like
01:07:57
romes this is the guys from live at the Apollo just wondering if you wanted to be on the next series and I just went hold on a sec I went do live the Apollo
01:08:04
man and I went yeah yeah yeah I think I can do that and straight away I go I can do comedy for another few months you
01:08:11
know what I mean I can I I I I can pay bills for the next few months I don't know it might come to the end of that
01:08:16
few months and I'm still not not not got anywhere but I've just bought I've just
01:08:22
I I've got six months in this game still it was like it was incredible and that
01:08:27
is down like you know sha got me that man do you know what I mean like he he
01:08:33
was like giving me work that was P you know I'll never forget that then you did live at the Apollo yes how did that
01:08:40
feel it was unbelievable man it's like it was such an iconic
01:08:46
show um I heard your your dad always used to say to you when you were younger about
01:08:51
you doing live at the Apollo so so when I started gigging I was trying to get stage time and it's
01:08:57
quite difficult like you know it's quite difficult to get gigs like there was a good Open Mic circuit it was quite difficult to get gigs my dad was running
01:09:03
a pub at the time and he said to me just run a gig here and like you can host the gig and like you can book people book
01:09:09
your mates or whatever he goes we do it like and I go okay so I started running a gig there and like when I did my first
01:09:15
gig there it'll go to me I don't understand why you're not alive with the Apollo I said Dad I've got like four minutes of gear like and it's not great
01:09:23
it's not as I said if if you if it's that easy to get alive with the Apollo everyone would be doing it do what I mean but he used he was he kind of
01:09:30
veered between being quite harsh and being like he he always thought I was going to make it like he was he had no
01:09:36
doubts he was like you are going to make it as a comedian but then he would come and see me at gigs and he'd go the first
01:09:42
goal is a lot better than you tonight like he go you need to think about that cuz like you like he goes you did fine
01:09:48
don't get me wrong but that first guy was great like that's who everyone's going to remember after this gig and he
01:09:53
go to think about so he was like he would give me like honest and heartfelt criticism but within the remit of within
01:09:59
the context of the fact that you are going to make it but I'm just telling you tonight you weren't good enough do you know what I mean so was it bit of
01:10:05
sweet when you did live at the Apollo for that reason that he he wasn't there at that time because a little bit I mean the whole thing man is like my dad never
01:10:11
saw me really I mean I started doing the cir I mean like he didn't my dad died before I
01:10:18
became a full-time comedian you know so he's not seen any of it he saw like
01:10:24
me doing these shitty gig and he used to come to all those gigs and he started to see me do some circuit gigs which were
01:10:29
like you know they were like you felt like you'd made it you know you're playing a 400 seater room on a Saturday night it feels great you like you feel
01:10:35
like I'm in show business or whatever but he never really saw any of that he never saw me do any TV oh no he did see
01:10:41
me do one terrible bit of TV I did soccer am um that was like my one thing that he
01:10:48
saw me do and it went terribly so he's only ever SE he's ever seen me have a
01:10:54
terrible time on TV so yeah it is a bit bit sweet to be honest you'll run from that point of live at the Apollo to
01:11:00
where you are now incredible as a comedian I mean there's very few people that get to sit at that top table as you
01:11:06
said as you identified when you're were a teacher but to be one of those sort of standout comedians that everybody knows
01:11:12
is really really incredible now when I reflect on do you take that do you take your body language was quite telling you
01:11:19
were uncomfortable and awkward yeah um I I just feel like um
01:11:26
I feel really lucky I just feel like so much of that is outside of your control
01:11:31
do you know I mean like that's why I feel like I feel a bit like um I don't want to AC there's part
01:11:37
of me that doesn't want to accept that do you know what I mean like except that comment that you make you sort of
01:11:43
go there's so much luck to this you know I I think comedy is a meritocracy up to a point but then you just get lucky and
01:11:51
you know so I I do feel really lucky but and don't get me WR I'm very grateful but do you work hard now in your in your
01:11:58
estimation well I work a lot I mean there's no doubt about that whether I work hard or not is another question I
01:12:04
mean I just like everything I do is like fun I know that's such a wanky thing to say but
01:12:10
like I love doing standup I love doing panel shows I love doing travel show like so doesn't ever feel like I'm
01:12:16
working hard the only struggle I would say is that I'm a way a lot do you know what I mean and like I I'm kind of
01:12:22
saying to my family I see in a week like you know that bit I've had to sort I've
01:12:28
actually had to take I've had to sort of take action on really CU sometimes when you're doing a lot of travel shows it's
01:12:34
not really fair you know to be away as much as I have been in the past but I don't feel like I work hard like I
01:12:40
really love what I do like I love what I do so much and I know that's like a really privileged position to be in and
01:12:46
sometimes I'm going to be honest with if I'm working on a script at 3: in the morning because I've got like I got to make a deadline I do think oh God this
01:12:53
is [ __ ] I am working hard now you what I mean but it's still fun I'm still writing a script about some guy I'm
01:12:59
still writing a script being trying to be funny you know that's what all of my day is when you've come from where you come from and you believe that you're
01:13:06
lucky is there not this kind of overarching or this driving force that's like [ __ ] you could lose this at any
01:13:11
minute 100% I mean you think about it like my my dad was going all right and
01:13:17
then it all went wrong and then I was a teacher I took a gamble on Comedy and then we were broke so I've had two
01:13:24
examples of like of it going like you know everything
01:13:30
going so definitely there is part of me I don't consciously think that there is definitely part of me you know when you
01:13:36
think about how much how much you're willing to hustle I think part of that comes
01:13:43
from feeling insecure yeah a little bit I do think so I do think so but now what
01:13:50
I would say to you sitting here now if it all went if I stopped being on TV now or like the phone stop ringing or
01:13:56
whatever I'll be cool it's fine do you I mean I just I just don't I'm just not worried about that
01:14:02
anymore you know like you I will always do stand up and if TV stops and all that stop all that kind of stuff
01:14:09
stops I feel kind of comfortable I'm I'm all right you know it's it'll be fine you'll see me down the park and you go
01:14:15
that guy looks like that guy that used to host League of R are you are you I hate I hate this
01:14:20
this word but I'm going to ask the question anyway are you happy I know that I've talked a lot about my
01:14:28
inner voice and all of that and how I've struggled with that but I am happy yeah I I I do I do
01:14:35
consider myself to be happy I I I think like I've got a
01:14:41
great I've got a great situation you know I've got a beautiful family I'm happy
01:14:47
with being able to um to do nice things I'm sort of my my mom's in a good
01:14:56
position my brother's in a good position I love my job you know all of
01:15:01
those things I do I do feel happy do I have dark moments where I descend into
01:15:07
into like troubl times yeah 100% but that's not H happiness isn't buzzing off your tits the whole time you know what I
01:15:12
mean what is it I think it's like going I'm in a state of I I mean generally
01:15:18
speaking it's like you know it's like the stock exchange you know you're going to have ups and downs but genuinely speaking you're on a decent you're in a
01:15:24
decent trajectory and I feel like I am you know if one of your um one of your boys Alex Charlie Theo comes to you and
01:15:30
says Dad right I'm going out into the world based on your your lived
01:15:35
experience what is what wisdom would do I need to know Dad to to
01:15:41
make it in life to be happy and to get to where I want to go what are the things that spring to mind that you would impart on those
01:15:47
boys well you know you asked me about me being lazy and and I still believe I am
01:15:52
lazy and the way that I have managed to Life Hack That is to do things that I
01:15:58
really do enjoy so I think for
01:16:03
them choose something that you really feel passionate about that you really love and don't for me personally don't
01:16:11
think about this external this goal down the line that you're trying to get to do
01:16:16
this thing brilliantly do you know what I mean do like every single thing you come to do do that to the best of your
01:16:22
ability so when I do a gig it doesn't help me to think about what this gig could lead to I just need to be
01:16:29
great at this G I just need to do the best I possibly can at this gig I'm not in control of anything that happens after that so every single step of the
01:16:36
way you try and do that the best that you possibly can if you do that if you love what you do and you do that I think
01:16:43
you you're on a good path they have a relationship don't they those two points in the sense that when you love it you
01:16:49
can become a master because you do it for fun yeah hard like things that feel like [ __ ] stuff like you don't enjoy
01:16:55
it's hard to master yeah but also the other thing is even if you do enjoy something like if I do a panel
01:17:03
show and I and I'm thinking about what the potential career path of that if I
01:17:08
do well on this panel show then somebody willum me on this and then I'll get booked for that and then if I start getting booked for that maybe somebody
01:17:13
offering my own show if you sit in a studio with that in your head God help you do you I mean all you've got to do
01:17:19
it I'm not in control of that I I don't that's so outside of I can't do anything
01:17:24
about that what I can do something about is being as good as I possibly can in this immediate circumstance that's all I
01:17:31
can do and then everything else takes care of itself do you know what I mean and it might happen it might not but why am I thinking about that all that'll do
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is tighten me up when I'm here I need to be like I need to be in the moment I need to just be loose and having a good
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time and then not worry about that it reminds me so much of what sir David bford said to me about the British
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cycling team he said one of the first things he did when he came into that failing cycling team was get them to stop thinking about the podium right
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right right because of all the emotional impact that has when you're racing when you're thinking about the medals and and
01:18:01
even when you're you're in training thinking about the podium is is not conducive with being productive and
01:18:07
focused his whole thing was like can we find a way to be 1% better today yeah yeah that's controllable when people
01:18:14
when find when they find that gain they have that sense of momentum and it's exactly what you've described there like focus on the controllables and not the
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fear that's induced by the anxiety of like oh what happens if next you 100% man which which kind of which goes
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against the self-development community who are all like fiveyear Planet you know like yeah I know I know I I did I
01:18:33
did think to myself do I need to do that but I have no plan I like you know I I I
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don't know I just think like it's like you know when people go and lots of people I know that are really successful
01:18:44
do this where they go I want to get a bafter by whenever
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right to my mind I just think there there's so many variables outside of your control to get in a bath like why
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would you give yourself a Target that's so outside of your like so many things could happen that nothing to do with
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your ability or anything to get you a b it's like there's a jewelry somebody on that jewelry might not like you know
01:19:07
there's so many uncontrol why would you do that to yourself do know what I mean it's like what I can go is I want this
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show to be really good I want this show to make me laugh I want to make something I'm proud of I can do that do
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you know what I mean like that's that's inside the Realms of possibility seems like a much happier psychological world
01:19:24
world to live in to be to live in the controllables than to be like because then you when you don't get the ba the
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unmet expectation of that person on the jury that didn't like you yeah it's like you're right it's like unnecessary
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torture yeah we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guests asks a question for the next guest not
01:19:41
knowing who they're asking it for and the question that's been left for you is how will we make progress in solving the
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crisis of meaning today oh what an absolute Stitch
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are you joking that's literally what I [Laughter]
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said should I should I I I'll give you some yeah go cuz I remember oh my God
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we're having such a nice
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time oh my God you pay it forward and Stitch up the next person but um
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basically the guy was talking about how life EXP expectancy for for the last two years has begun to drop and what he
01:20:27
pointed out was that it's it's to do with a sort of a a
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broader epidemic of meaninglessness in people's lives where they're turning to opioids suicide and those are the things
01:20:39
are contributing to this crisis of meaning so he's saying how will we make progress in solve this crisis of meaning
01:20:45
where people's lives don't feel meaningful um enough so they're turning to opioids they're becoming depressed
01:20:51
they you know Dying by Suicide he's saying how do we go about solving
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that today well I don't know but what I would
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say is one of the things that I noticed during the the pandemic was like when
01:21:08
people's jobs were taken away or they couldn't do their jobs and people weren't able to
01:21:15
socialize people's identities completely disappeared like they they just didn't know what they were like you know you go
01:21:22
if I'd not go to my job and I'm not seeing people I'm not doing things what the what the hell is this do you know
01:21:28
what I mean and I think that if people that had other stuff that they could do
01:21:33
I mean creatives were able to like do stuff and find some purpose and do stuff not necessarily for con people's
01:21:39
consumption but just to sort of to sort of scratch that itch I think if you can get people to to
01:21:47
allow themselves to kind of engage with things that are outside of this kind of I'm doing this for this and I'm doing
01:21:53
this if you can get people to to engage in things that are for their own kind of enrichment outside of you know outside
01:22:00
of a job and outside of all this then I think you that's a way of equipping people sort of more effectively to to
01:22:07
find that I guess would be a freestyle answer to this I completely agree no I
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completely agree we've talked about that a lot how the Arts and um realizing that
01:22:18
we can all be artists it's not just a job title um even if you're a lawyer you can pursue that band or that the
01:22:24
teachers pursuing those bands they're in um and I can I reflect on the huge impact it's had on me becoming starting
01:22:30
learning to DJ in the middle of the pandemic like I'm I did really yeah how you getting on you
01:22:36
know I'm not I'm not I'm not going to sell out any festivals just yeah I did my first gig the other day I'm [ __ ] but
01:22:44
I'm at like the I'm at the the top end of [ __ ] yeah got you so how you getting
01:22:50
on I do a hip-hop show on radio well no well you have a show yeah no but I don't
01:22:56
I don't DJ on the show I just talk and some like you know I just you know I don't mix on it okay so they gave me a
01:23:03
challenge I'm just giving I'm just telling you this so I was learning to DJ they said they knew I was learning to DJ
01:23:08
so they gave me this piece of paper on the show saying romish by the end of this series we want you to do a
01:23:13
20-minute mix for the show right and then as we were talking about they going it' be great and then you can do like
01:23:18
regular mixes d d d anyway I went off and did the 20-minute mix I submitted the mix they played it I've not been
01:23:25
asked to do another one that that that that perceived start
01:23:31
of a series of Rish mixes as evaporated after they heard that first did you don't ask for feedback no I don't want
01:23:38
feedback they if they if they don't ask you for another one I don't need that feedback I know what the feedback is
01:23:48
practice thank you so much for your time today um huge honor to speak to you and your story is because of the the way I
01:23:53
can relate to it it's been incredibly inspiring and I appreciate your honesty I'm like I said when you were talking about the voice in your head I literally
01:23:59
my whole body had these Goosebumps and I felt this huge wave of sadness because I don't think people realize and people
01:24:06
that have the privilege of having a a positive voice in their head well we I don't understand yeah you know I don't
01:24:12
understand that the idea that my my head can turn against me we need to have that conversation more because it helps us to
01:24:17
like have empathy yeah yeah you know so thank you so much no thanks for having me man um I was really enjoying it up
01:24:23
until that last question well you can stitch someone up now let's do this thank you [Music]
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