Search Captions & Ask AI

How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom

March 25, 2026 / 36:17

This episode of Grit in the Boardroom features Emma Parry, a financial services senior executive and board adviser, discussing gender diversity in corporate governance, networking, and the skills needed for non-executive roles.

Emma shares her experiences as the only woman in meetings early in her career and highlights the ongoing challenges women face in achieving parity in senior positions. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and effective communication in understanding organizational dynamics.

Emma recounts her journey to becoming a non-executive director, including how she was approached due to a recognized need for diversity on a board. She discusses the balance between being a token representative and bringing valuable expertise to the table.

Throughout the conversation, Emma provides actionable advice for aspiring non-executive directors, such as leveraging LinkedIn for networking and understanding corporate governance. She also reflects on the importance of authenticity and building genuine connections.

The episode concludes with a summary of key takeaways, including the significance of networking, being true to oneself, and developing relevant skills ahead of time.

TL;DR

Emma Parry discusses gender diversity, networking, and skills for non-executive roles in corporate governance.

Episode

36:17
00:00:00
I was often in meetings [music] as the
00:00:02
only woman. My eyes were open to the
00:00:05
challenges quite early on. You've got to
00:00:08
be asking deeper, better questions and
00:00:11
engage with people. Walk the floors,
00:00:13
find out what's really going on. One of
00:00:15
the most valuable is that curiosity. How
00:00:18
do you get people to talk to you? How do
00:00:20
you get to the truth of the matter?
00:00:23
Welcome to Grit in the Boardroom, the
00:00:25
podcast that takes you behind closed
00:00:27
doors to unpack the pivotal decisions
00:00:30
that shaped organizations for better or
00:00:32
worse.
00:00:33
I'm Erica Iliesa Norris and each week I
00:00:36
sit down with a senior leader who stood
00:00:39
at the edge of a defining moment, a
00:00:41
crisis, a turning point, a challenge
00:00:44
where the stakes were high and the
00:00:45
outcome uncertain.
00:00:47
These are the conversations you won't
00:00:49
find in annual reports. Honest,
00:00:52
strategic, and grounded in lived
00:00:54
experience.
00:00:56
Because governance isn't about theory,
00:00:58
it's about pressure, people, and making
00:01:01
the call.
00:01:03
My guest today is Emma Parry,
00:01:05
a financial services senior executive
00:01:07
turned board adviser whose career spans
00:01:10
continents, industries, and some of the
00:01:12
most complex governance challenges in
00:01:14
banking and fintech.
00:01:17
One thing that people probably don't
00:01:18
know about her is that she began her
00:01:20
career working for an Australian
00:01:22
government in a department focused on
00:01:25
intelligence and national security.
00:01:27
A role that taught her early on about
00:01:29
discretion, risk, and the importance of
00:01:32
making the right call under pressure. At
00:01:35
HSBC, she established and chaired the
00:01:37
global product governance and best
00:01:39
execution committees, influencing
00:01:41
strategy across 39 countries, and
00:01:43
working directly with regulators such as
00:01:45
the UK's Financial Conduct Authority.
00:01:48
Today, she is chair and independent
00:01:50
non-exec director of Kyriba UK, founder
00:01:53
of Novafin Consulting, and an expert
00:01:55
witness in the UK High Court. She's
00:01:58
advised on global anti-fraud and risk
00:02:01
culture initiatives, written extensively
00:02:03
on conduct and governance, and guided
00:02:05
organizations on how to build fairer,
00:02:07
more accountable outcomes for clients
00:02:09
and stakeholders. Welcome to Grit in the
00:02:12
Boardroom, Emma. Let's get into it.
00:02:14
Thank you. It's great to be here.
00:02:16
So, to start with, Emma, you've had a
00:02:19
truly global career and you now sit on
00:02:22
boards. Was there a particular moment
00:02:25
that made you realize just how few women
00:02:28
still make it into these spaces?
00:02:30
>> Mhm. It's a really interesting question.
00:02:32
So, much of my sort of last part of my
00:02:35
career,
00:02:37
notwithstanding the beginning in the
00:02:38
Australian government, I was working in
00:02:40
the investment bank and I was often in
00:02:43
meetings as the only woman. So, in a
00:02:47
way, my eyes were open to the challenges
00:02:50
quite early on. More recently, I've been
00:02:54
obviously I set up my own my own company
00:02:56
and I continue to watch what's happening
00:03:00
in the industry,
00:03:02
um looking at the surveys that take
00:03:04
place around gender balance, pay gaps,
00:03:07
and whilst there is some improvements,
00:03:11
there are still there's still a long way
00:03:13
to go in terms of achieving parity,
00:03:16
equity, um and creating diversity at the
00:03:20
most senior levels of firms, but also
00:03:23
throughout the organization so that
00:03:25
there's actually a succession plan of
00:03:28
women and diversity moving up through
00:03:31
the ranks as well.
00:03:33
And is that something that you say
00:03:36
you've kind of noticed, but was that
00:03:38
through the whole of your career when
00:03:40
you were former early in your career?
00:03:42
Did you see that that was the path that
00:03:44
you were treading or is it only when you
00:03:45
kind of got to the kind of boardroom and
00:03:47
then you've looked back and then
00:03:49
thought, "Actually, there's there's not
00:03:51
that many women around."
00:03:53
Yeah. Um it's become more apparent as
00:03:56
I've been getting into the non-exec
00:03:58
space. And to give you an example of how
00:04:02
how I found my place in in on the board
00:04:05
is
00:04:06
actually I was approached by somebody
00:04:09
who was already on a board and they
00:04:11
recognized they had a diversity problem.
00:04:14
There were no women
00:04:16
not at the board level
00:04:18
nor at the senior management level.
00:04:21
And so,
00:04:22
they were
00:04:24
I'm not going to say desperate, but kind
00:04:25
of desperate to get more
00:04:28
diversity, diversity of thought,
00:04:31
diversity of representation at the board
00:04:32
level. And that's actually how I became
00:04:35
um a non-exec is
00:04:38
uh there's a longer story, but that's
00:04:40
the the short answer to your question is
00:04:43
it become more apparent as I've become
00:04:45
more senior, I suppose, yes. So, how did
00:04:48
you feel when you were approached to
00:04:51
take on that role because you say that
00:04:53
you felt to a certain extent that they
00:04:55
wanted a woman on in that particular
00:04:58
position. I think you and I would
00:05:01
probably both agree that it's not great
00:05:03
to be the token person and be be the
00:05:06
person that's just put on put on that
00:05:08
board just because you're a particular
00:05:10
gender or just because you have a
00:05:11
certain ethnicity or background or
00:05:14
whatever that might be. How did you
00:05:15
feel?
00:05:15
>> And this is the challenge, right?
00:05:16
Because you have that there is a
00:05:19
in some quarters a sense of box ticking.
00:05:22
We need to have a woman, we need to
00:05:23
have, you know, African Caribbean,
00:05:25
whatever the the box that needs to be
00:05:27
ticked.
00:05:28
I [snorts] did recognize there could be
00:05:30
a challenge around that. So, I met with
00:05:32
the CEO and had a discussion about the
00:05:36
company, where they were at, and also to
00:05:40
understand what gaps they had in terms
00:05:44
of the capabilities at a senior level
00:05:47
and [snorts] at the board. And it's
00:05:48
quite interesting because it's a quite
00:05:49
it's a very small board, so it's myself
00:05:52
and another NED and then some of the
00:05:54
C-suite.
00:05:56
And
00:05:58
they have a really good
00:06:01
level of capability and expertise in
00:06:04
payments, which is what the firm is
00:06:05
about,
00:06:06
>> [snorts]
00:06:07
>> and around compliance as it relates to
00:06:10
financial crime, AML, and so on and so
00:06:12
forth.
00:06:13
But what I bring and what I was really
00:06:16
keen to explore further was my product
00:06:19
governance background, my experience in
00:06:22
dealing with clients. And so, bringing
00:06:24
that additional
00:06:27
dimension to the board, which wasn't
00:06:29
there. So, whilst you could
00:06:32
say was it box ticking? Well,
00:06:34
potentially because they recognized a
00:06:36
problem, but I bring quite a lot of
00:06:39
additional value and expertise that they
00:06:42
didn't have. So, I can very much justify
00:06:46
and say I'm there for a reason and I've
00:06:48
earned my place. Mhm. Absolutely. And
00:06:51
how did they make you feel when you
00:06:52
joined? Oh, I was it thrilled. Thrilled
00:06:55
beyond thrilled because I had wanted to
00:06:58
uh expand my career into the non-exec
00:07:00
space for for years and I had attempted
00:07:04
through various different channels to do
00:07:06
that. So, for example, I had signed up
00:07:10
to
00:07:11
a quite a couple of what's now almost a
00:07:14
cottage industry of firms and
00:07:16
organizations that are set up to help
00:07:19
non-execs get on executive positions.
00:07:22
And they advertise that they've got job
00:07:24
boards. Some of them are better than
00:07:26
others, so some will critique your CV.
00:07:29
And so, I had joined a couple of those
00:07:31
through the years with no success, I
00:07:34
hasten to add, although I now have a
00:07:35
much better board CV. And it was just
00:07:38
somewhat ironic that it was through my
00:07:40
network, being tapped on the shoulder,
00:07:43
and that's how I was approached about
00:07:45
the board role. So, it's quite an
00:07:46
interesting way in the end. For someone
00:07:50
that's aiming for their first non-exec
00:07:53
director role, what do you think they
00:07:56
need to understand about board
00:07:58
appointments that's not in the job
00:08:00
description? You touched on it slightly
00:08:02
there about some of the kind of skills
00:08:06
that you bring, but also I think it's
00:08:07
understanding the value that you bring
00:08:09
to be able to step into that new role
00:08:11
even when you may be slightly fearful
00:08:13
this is the first time you've done it.
00:08:14
So,
00:08:15
how does that work?
00:08:16
>> Yeah, it's it's a really great question
00:08:18
because
00:08:19
it's not just about your expertise
00:08:21
anymore. In fact, when you craft your
00:08:25
board CV, it's all about your committee
00:08:29
experience, how you've gained consensus
00:08:32
over a particularly difficult topic, or
00:08:35
how you've led or helped to lead the the
00:08:39
company through, say, an IPO or FCA
00:08:43
approval. These are big strategic
00:08:46
initiatives and they're not people
00:08:49
aren't looking for your project
00:08:50
management experience. They're looking
00:08:52
at how you work with people, we touched
00:08:54
on that a bit earlier, how you work with
00:08:56
people, how you size people up, the
00:08:58
sorts of challenges you might get in the
00:09:01
boardroom, and how you can navigate
00:09:03
those. So, people are looking for a
00:09:05
different skill set. I mean, obviously
00:09:07
you have to have the expertise behind
00:09:09
you, but it's how you draw that
00:09:11
information out and
00:09:14
how you create your value proposition,
00:09:17
how you sell yourself as a board member,
00:09:20
not just a project manager or CEO or
00:09:23
head of client service or whatever it
00:09:25
might be. It's a very different lens
00:09:28
that you need to craft. What sorts of
00:09:31
skills do you think
00:09:33
you can kind of pull out of an executive
00:09:35
career to kind of adapt to that non-exec
00:09:38
director role? Communication skills,
00:09:41
absolutely front and center. The
00:09:44
navigation through challenges and issues
00:09:48
and how you can adapt your management
00:09:51
style and your communication style to
00:09:54
get through what can be quite tricky
00:09:57
obstacles. So, there's there's those
00:09:59
types of EQ skills. And then there's
00:10:03
some sort of fundamentals around risk,
00:10:06
finance, regulation. You've got to be
00:10:09
able to understand broadly the types of
00:10:12
challenges that your particular company
00:10:14
is going to face. Some of them are going
00:10:16
are going to be the same, but some of
00:10:18
them are going to be quite specific. So,
00:10:20
for example, we've all got legal
00:10:23
challenges, we've all got financial
00:10:24
challenges. But if you're a payments
00:10:27
company, for example, obviously
00:10:30
you've got to understand what the
00:10:31
payments regulations are and understand
00:10:33
so you can ask the right questions in
00:10:35
the board meeting. So,
00:10:37
it's [snorts] a a combination of things.
00:10:39
And you've had a very interesting
00:10:42
career,
00:10:43
um particularly around um
00:10:46
kind of the anti-corruption type work.
00:10:48
And you must have worked with some
00:10:50
organizations that have been through
00:10:52
some quite challenging times. You talk
00:10:55
about kind of communication skills. How
00:10:57
How do you think that that experience
00:10:59
you were able to kind of bring in with
00:11:01
regards to communication skills, maybe
00:11:02
completely different sector, completely
00:11:04
different experience, but it shaped you
00:11:06
as a person. How How has it done that?
00:11:08
Because that might give kind of an
00:11:10
example to people listening
00:11:12
um about how they might adapt their own
00:11:15
executive skills to something
00:11:16
non-executive related.
00:11:18
>> Yeah. So, I've got a few examples. One I
00:11:22
think is particularly
00:11:23
well, I'm quite proud of actually is,
00:11:25
you know, being appointed
00:11:27
or instructed as a an expert witness on
00:11:29
a court case in the High Court. And that
00:11:32
is all about communication. So, it's
00:11:35
about in the first instance
00:11:38
understanding the evidence that was
00:11:40
presented. This particular case was a
00:11:42
potential breach of regulations, so
00:11:44
understanding what the regulations were.
00:11:47
Doing a compare and contrast, and then
00:11:50
writing the report that was then tabled
00:11:54
in in the courtroom. And so that's very
00:11:56
much honing the communications piece,
00:11:59
but with a very precise
00:12:02
application because in a court of law
00:12:05
you've got to be precise, you've got to
00:12:06
be accurate, you've got to be correct.
00:12:08
And so,
00:12:10
you know, this is not just writing like
00:12:11
a novel.
00:12:12
>> [laughter]
00:12:13
>> You've actually got to write something
00:12:14
that's going to stand up in court. So,
00:12:16
that would be one example I'd give of
00:12:18
where I've
00:12:19
applied my communication skills. And
00:12:22
then it's also I had to interview people
00:12:24
as well. So, it's not just writing, but
00:12:27
interviewing people who had been
00:12:28
involved in the case
00:12:30
to get their side of the story, to
00:12:32
understand where they were coming from,
00:12:34
understand
00:12:36
um their understanding of the
00:12:38
regulations as well. So, almost like an
00:12:40
in
00:12:41
an investigator, if you will. Yeah.
00:12:43
>> Which requires you to have a certain
00:12:45
level of objectivity and be able to take
00:12:46
into account other people's perspectives
00:12:48
that may not be yours.
00:12:49
>> Precisely. Yes, exactly. Being able to
00:12:52
stay attuned
00:12:55
to the data and being objective is
00:12:57
critical. And another thing that we know
00:13:00
is important in the boardroom is like
00:13:02
sometimes you can have a very heated
00:13:03
discussion about a topic
00:13:06
and you've got to gain consensus. How do
00:13:08
you keep your calm? How do you keep your
00:13:09
head in that?
00:13:11
Stay with the data, stay with the facts,
00:13:14
stay with the
00:13:15
understand [snorts] where people's
00:13:16
objections may be, but ultimately stick
00:13:20
with the facts. What's the objective?
00:13:21
Where do we need to get to? And and be a
00:13:23
bit cool-headed about it to get that
00:13:26
consensus in the end. And just a
00:13:28
question from me, how did you manage to
00:13:31
become an expert witness on a high court
00:13:34
case? It sounds amazing.
00:13:36
>> [laughter]
00:13:36
>> I get that question a lot actually. Um
00:13:39
so, I was recommended by a colleague.
00:13:43
She is a lawyer and she was initially
00:13:46
approached to be the expert witness, but
00:13:48
she couldn't because she had a conflict
00:13:50
of interest on the case. So, she
00:13:53
recommended me to the barrister.
00:13:55
I was then interviewed by the barrister
00:13:58
and got the the the role. So, again,
00:14:01
this is about the network.
00:14:03
And we speak about that in terms of
00:14:06
non-exec roles, board appointments. It's
00:14:08
the often through the network.
00:14:10
But a lot of my opportunities through
00:14:13
work have been through my network, be it
00:14:16
non-exec roles or
00:14:18
you know, expert witness. Mm. And how
00:14:21
have you built that network over time?
00:14:24
Ah, [sighs]
00:14:25
lots of ways. I go to a lot of
00:14:27
conferences, I do lots of speaking
00:14:29
events, so I network
00:14:31
in person.
00:14:32
I've got to admit I'm a bit of a fanatic
00:14:34
on LinkedIn, which most some people will
00:14:37
say, "Oh my goodness, why? Why are you
00:14:40
mentioning LinkedIn?" Because I've found
00:14:42
it really useful. I'm a naturally I'm
00:14:45
going to say a naturally engaging
00:14:46
person. I do find that, you know, I
00:14:50
make connections quite easily. In fact,
00:14:52
I was I think I talked the ear off the
00:14:54
poor taxi driver on the way over here.
00:14:57
I've just He got me talking about
00:14:59
Australia, which is obviously where I've
00:15:01
lived for a while, and I was giving him
00:15:02
tips on traveling and don't go Christmas
00:15:05
time cuz it's really expensive.
00:15:07
>> [snorts]
00:15:07
>> So, I just I'm a bit bubbly, I suppose.
00:15:10
It's great though to be able to talk to
00:15:13
people so openly and be your authentic
00:15:15
self. I think that that can really help.
00:15:18
I've definitely seen in my career
00:15:20
directors that are trying to be someone
00:15:23
or trying to be something because that's
00:15:26
kind of what they feel the box needs,
00:15:28
that type of person. And Yes. And they
00:15:30
can often find it quite a stulting type
00:15:33
of experience when they go into a
00:15:35
networking event or even talking to
00:15:37
people in the business and they just
00:15:39
become somebody that's very different
00:15:41
and they don't like it because they're
00:15:42
oh hang on, I've stepped outside my own
00:15:44
box here. But it sounds like that you
00:15:47
don't have that problem. No. No, I
00:15:50
don't.
00:15:51
No, I don't think I've ever really had
00:15:53
that problem. Um you know, as we were
00:15:56
discussing earlier, I moved around a lot
00:15:58
when I was growing up and it gave me
00:16:01
a lot of confidence and a lot of
00:16:03
exposure to different cultures,
00:16:05
different ways of working and and, you
00:16:08
know, I think that's rubbed off on me as
00:16:10
well as an adult. I'm much more
00:16:12
confident to
00:16:14
just go into a room and introduce
00:16:16
myself, which I know is is hard for a
00:16:18
lot of people. But I guess what's the
00:16:20
worst that can happen? Well, yes,
00:16:21
exactly. What is the worst? They can
00:16:23
just turn away from you. It's unlikely.
00:16:26
Absolutely. And if you're not the person
00:16:28
that is
00:16:29
if you're the person that's being that
00:16:31
outgoing person, then the other person
00:16:33
probably instantly puts you in a box of
00:16:35
oh, they're really chatty, that's great.
00:16:36
Let's go and chat to them.
00:16:38
>> Yes. And and then the pressure gets
00:16:40
taken off because then somebody else
00:16:41
steps in. Yeah. Yeah. But do you find
00:16:44
that? I mean, you seem very bubbly as
00:16:46
well, so
00:16:47
Yes.
00:16:48
>> [laughter]
00:16:50
>> I get spoken to all sorts of different
00:16:52
times and events and just even in the
00:16:54
supermarket people saying, "Should I buy
00:16:56
this one or this one?" And I just think
00:16:58
I don't know why I have
00:17:00
something to add to this discussion, but
00:17:02
you know,
00:17:03
great. Some people gravitate to Yeah. I
00:17:07
think it's being open in terms of body
00:17:08
language, in terms of approachability.
00:17:11
Yes. And just being a friendly face and
00:17:13
smiling. I think sometimes people forget
00:17:15
to do that. That's true. That's true.
00:17:18
So, you've led on culture, conduct, and
00:17:23
risk across global financial
00:17:25
institutions. Why do you think so many
00:17:28
board appointments still come through
00:17:30
the kind of closed legacy networks?
00:17:34
There has definitely been over the years
00:17:37
the boys club and
00:17:39
people
00:17:41
gravitating to people that they've
00:17:42
worked with. They're a known quantity.
00:17:45
They've worked with them, they for them
00:17:47
it's a safe bet.
00:17:49
The challenge with that, and I'm I've
00:17:51
seen it happen, is you get companies
00:17:54
with a senior management team that have
00:17:57
only ever worked together, majority
00:17:59
male,
00:18:01
and not necessarily therefore being
00:18:05
as cognitively diverse as they
00:18:08
potentially could be. So,
00:18:11
there is a need to break the boys club.
00:18:15
I mean, look, it can be a girls club as
00:18:16
well, I don't get me wrong. I have to be
00:18:18
a bit careful because I was tapped on
00:18:20
the tapped on the shoulder for my board
00:18:22
role because I was a known quantity. So,
00:18:25
it does work. I think the challenge for
00:18:28
boards particularly is
00:18:31
for the number of candidates that you
00:18:33
need to fill your NED roles, how are you
00:18:36
filling them? What's the process? And
00:18:40
okay, so you've got maybe a in a large
00:18:43
board you probably have a couple of
00:18:45
people who've worked together before or
00:18:47
know of somebody who might be
00:18:49
appropriate. Again, this is about
00:18:51
visibility and building your brand.
00:18:54
Where I'm going with this is it's you've
00:18:56
got to have an element of determined
00:18:59
process to create the diversity that
00:19:02
should be there. We talk about good
00:19:04
governance. It should be about having a
00:19:08
the cognitive diversity at the board
00:19:10
level. So, with uh the kind of cognitive
00:19:13
diversity, how do you think boards can
00:19:15
bring that in if they don't have it
00:19:18
already? Um because it can obviously be
00:19:20
quite challenging. You said that you
00:19:22
kind of were brought in as well. No
00:19:24
doubt those people knew each other
00:19:26
before on the board and you were
00:19:28
very different.
00:19:29
>> Yes. Um and you said that they welcomed
00:19:32
you, which is fantastic. But how do you
00:19:33
think that boards can help with that
00:19:36
sort of process? What do you think the
00:19:38
board that you were part of, what
00:19:40
thought processes did they go through to
00:19:41
get to the stage of thinking, you know,
00:19:43
actually we would like Emma on this on
00:19:46
this and we want to reach out to her?
00:19:47
Yeah. So, let me answer the broad
00:19:49
question first and then I'll answer the
00:19:51
specifics. So, things that boards should
00:19:54
be doing. So, there are now specialist
00:19:57
NED headhunters.
00:19:59
Um they are often on LinkedIn.
00:20:04
If you are interested in NED role, get
00:20:06
on LinkedIn, create a profile, start
00:20:09
reaching out. That's the first thing.
00:20:12
So, it's not just the board, it's the
00:20:14
people who want to be on the board. It's
00:20:15
a two-way street, right? How are they
00:20:17
going to find you if you're not visible?
00:20:20
So, [snorts] there's the the
00:20:21
headhunters. There's also quite a lot of
00:20:24
job boards that are actually free to
00:20:27
access. I'm going to mention LinkedIn
00:20:29
again, but also the government, the UK
00:20:32
government and cabinet office is also
00:20:35
actively
00:20:36
promoting its open vacancies and their
00:20:40
process is very much around ensuring
00:20:44
diversity. I know because I've applied
00:20:47
for unsuccessfully.
00:20:49
I don't know why. But their process
00:20:51
includes stripping away from your CV
00:20:55
anything that could indicate your
00:20:57
gender, your age, or anything that could
00:21:01
be almost discriminated against. And
00:21:04
then they also ask behavioral questions
00:21:06
as well. So, they And this is at the
00:21:09
start of the process. So, there are ways
00:21:11
that I'm seeing that boards can use to
00:21:14
get that diversity. So,
00:21:17
it's a bit lazy if all they're doing is
00:21:19
tapping someone on the shoulder.
00:21:21
Which brings me to my experience.
00:21:23
[laughter]
00:21:23
>> [gasps]
00:21:24
>> So, the company in question had a lot of
00:21:27
people who knew each other before the
00:21:29
company was set up.
00:21:32
Because they are open to the diversity
00:21:35
question, not everybody is,
00:21:38
>> [snorts]
00:21:38
>> they recognized they needed
00:21:41
diversity. Let's call it that. I was
00:21:43
visible and
00:21:46
I had expressed an interest in becoming
00:21:49
a NED. And so, it's a two-way thing. Oh,
00:21:52
Emma, we know Emma wants to be on a
00:21:54
board. She's already stated that. We
00:21:56
know what she can do because she's
00:21:59
visible and she tells us and she
00:22:01
promotes what she's been doing. So,
00:22:03
two-way street.
00:22:05
Yeah, absolutely. Do you think that
00:22:08
um
00:22:09
when you secured your first NED role, do
00:22:12
you think it becomes easier to show your
00:22:16
value? Because so many people have said
00:22:17
to me, until you get the first one, then
00:22:20
you can't do it. It's like the first
00:22:21
anything, whatever you want to train to
00:22:23
be, it's getting that first job that
00:22:25
shows that you can demonstrate your
00:22:27
skills. Until you get that break, it's
00:22:29
challenging.
00:22:30
>> I'm kind of laughing, smiling because
00:22:32
it's the catch-22.
00:22:33
>> [laughter]
00:22:34
>> Virtually every NED position at being
00:22:37
advertised, they say you have to have
00:22:40
previous NED experience. It's a
00:22:42
catch-22. How do you get that
00:22:43
experience? And so,
00:22:45
so ironically, yes, I'm now
00:22:49
getting interviewed for roles, other NED
00:22:52
roles, because I've already got one. So,
00:22:54
your point is very well made. It is
00:22:57
difficult and the
00:22:58
the the suggestion I have for people is
00:23:00
if they're in a current executive role
00:23:04
and they have capacity to do a trustee
00:23:08
role or some other type of board role,
00:23:12
do it and get that experience early on
00:23:15
because it makes it a lot easier later
00:23:19
if you are wanting to transition to a
00:23:21
portfolio career. If you've got the
00:23:22
experience, you're going to be able to
00:23:24
get more of those types of roles because
00:23:27
you've demonstrated your capability. Mm,
00:23:29
absolutely. And I found in my own
00:23:31
career, if you
00:23:33
can demonstrate the skill set that's
00:23:36
required for that particular role in a
00:23:37
different way, just as you say, then
00:23:39
that's really helpful. Even if it's
00:23:42
something that's completely different,
00:23:43
even if it's your local sports club or
00:23:46
whatever else it might be that you can
00:23:48
Yes.
00:23:48
>> volunteer to do something.
00:23:51
Um and it just gives you that edge of
00:23:53
being able to demonstrate what you're
00:23:54
saying you can do.
00:23:55
>> Exactly.
00:23:56
>> People want to be able to see that you
00:23:57
can actually do it before they give you
00:23:59
that opportunity.
00:23:59
>> Yeah. So, one of the um experiences that
00:24:02
I've put on my board CV are the
00:24:05
committees that I chaired at HSBC
00:24:08
because uh I set them up and then I led
00:24:11
them and that's great experience and
00:24:13
shows that you are, you know, board
00:24:16
ready.
00:24:17
Although, you know, albeit that your
00:24:19
experience was in um
00:24:21
uh you know, a salaried role as opposed
00:24:24
to a
00:24:25
non-exec, but um yeah, absolutely.
00:24:27
There's so much that we do as we go
00:24:29
through our careers um
00:24:32
and it's it it's a shame if we don't
00:24:34
repurpose and rebrand ourselves drawing
00:24:38
on that knowledge and experience that
00:24:40
we've we can bring to the table. Mm,
00:24:42
absolutely. And I think you're right.
00:24:44
I've heard it a few times now from
00:24:46
people in all different kind of
00:24:48
leadership roles of that rebranding, of
00:24:50
needing to on a regular basis, whether
00:24:53
that's six-monthly, annually, look at
00:24:55
what you're giving to the organization
00:24:58
and match that up with what you also
00:25:00
want to get out of it, whether you're in
00:25:01
a salaried role, whether you're in a
00:25:03
non-exec director role, and think, am I
00:25:05
adding the value that I should be
00:25:07
adding? Because that allows you to, you
00:25:10
know, throw away any imposter syndrome
00:25:11
you might possibly have, but also, if
00:25:13
push comes to shove and, you know,
00:25:15
there's an opportunity for you to move
00:25:17
somewhere else, then you can assess it
00:25:19
with much clearer head. Yeah. I think
00:25:21
that's so important now more than ever
00:25:24
because
00:25:25
the days of just being in one role for
00:25:28
30 or 40 or 50 years, depending on
00:25:31
>> [laughter and gasps]
00:25:31
>> your longevity, um
00:25:33
is is very rare. You know, you have to
00:25:37
And it's something that I've been
00:25:38
continually doing, in part because I'm
00:25:40
quite ambitious and
00:25:42
I like a new challenge, right? So, every
00:25:44
few years I've been like, right, what's
00:25:46
next? Cuz I've done that. Um but you
00:25:49
should be looking at what you're doing,
00:25:51
your CV, you know, your aspirations, and
00:25:54
also what the job market is doing. So,
00:25:57
I'm reading so much about AI and jobs
00:26:00
disappearing. But on the other hand,
00:26:02
there are other jobs appearing as well.
00:26:04
So, you've got to keep an eye out on
00:26:07
what the trends, the challenges, some of
00:26:09
the issues that we're seeing and think
00:26:11
about what How can I
00:26:15
reinvent myself if I had to, if I was
00:26:18
made redundant, or because I want to,
00:26:21
how do I reinvent myself? What skill
00:26:22
sets do I have that I can bring to the
00:26:24
table in a new role, in a new capacity,
00:26:27
in a portfolio career? Mm.
00:26:30
You seem very much like a self-driven
00:26:33
individual. What do you think has made
00:26:35
you like that?
00:26:36
>> [laughter]
00:26:37
>> That's a really good question. Um I
00:26:40
think in part it's it's the confidence
00:26:42
piece, but it's also I'm very much a
00:26:45
thinker. Ask me at 3:00 in the morning
00:26:48
when I'm awake, but I'm I'm just
00:26:51
I'm a curious person. I'm curious about
00:26:53
the world, how things are evolving. You
00:26:56
know, I'm one of these people, I don't
00:26:57
think I'll ever really retire because I
00:27:00
I like
00:27:01
having something to think about, you
00:27:03
know, puzzles to to to kind of solve.
00:27:06
That's just the way I've been made, I'm
00:27:08
afraid.
00:27:09
>> [laughter]
00:27:10
>> My DNA is curious. That's amazing
00:27:13
though. I think that if you can retain
00:27:16
that throughout, you know, your life on
00:27:19
a board, that brings such an amazing
00:27:22
dynamic because if you always have that
00:27:24
curious mind, then you're not going to
00:27:25
go in with that fixed mindset of this is
00:27:28
the way that it's always been, this is
00:27:29
the way it should be, this is the way
00:27:30
I've seen it done before, this is
00:27:31
definitely the answer. You're going to
00:27:33
go in and say, this could be the same
00:27:35
answer, but actually could be something
00:27:36
different.
00:27:37
>> Yeah. I see it in a lot of the the
00:27:41
fascination people have with dashboards.
00:27:45
So, I've seen it happen actually where
00:27:48
you've got an a dashboard that's all
00:27:50
green, everything's fine, and then the
00:27:52
next month there's some catastrophic
00:27:55
issue that comes out of the woodwork and
00:27:58
people are caught unawares. And so,
00:28:00
you've got to be asking deeper, better
00:28:02
questions and engage with people. Walk
00:28:05
the floors, find out what's really going
00:28:07
on. You've got to be curious and I think
00:28:09
that's one of the the the traits of a
00:28:12
board member that I think is
00:28:14
probably, from my perspective, one of
00:28:16
the most valuable is that curiosity. How
00:28:19
do you get people to talk to you? How do
00:28:21
you get to the truth of the matter? And
00:28:24
if you're all a bit shy and don't like
00:28:26
to network, then you you you need to
00:28:28
work on that because
00:28:30
you've got to be around the table
00:28:32
bringing that,
00:28:33
you know, bringing that information out
00:28:35
of people, drawing it out,
00:28:38
getting people to talk. Yeah, and
00:28:41
getting people to open up is really
00:28:42
important, particularly in a non-exec
00:28:44
director role, particularly if, as you
00:28:45
say, you're walking the floor, you're
00:28:46
you're finding out things from people.
00:28:49
It can be quite daunting, right? For
00:28:51
them to speak to somebody that in their
00:28:53
eyes is incredibly senior, particularly
00:28:56
if they are in a junior role
00:28:58
or a manual job, and they have someone
00:29:01
coming up and they instantly have that
00:29:03
imposter syndrome of someone's going to
00:29:04
come and criticize what I'm doing.
00:29:06
Actually, you're just asking questions,
00:29:07
but how do you get people to warm up to
00:29:10
you because you seem like the sort of
00:29:11
person that finds that very easy.
00:29:13
I'm very down to earth and so
00:29:17
I
00:29:18
often ask open with a question, not
00:29:20
like, oh, you know, what's the weather
00:29:22
doing or where was your last holiday,
00:29:24
but things like, um tell me a little bit
00:29:27
about your day. So, you ask an open
00:29:30
question rather than a yes/no is always
00:29:32
a good place to start. Get them talking
00:29:35
and then see what they offer up and from
00:29:37
there build on the insights that they're
00:29:41
starting to give you and
00:29:43
I'm not going to say interrogate, but
00:29:45
drilling into some of what they're
00:29:47
telling you, you know, say for example,
00:29:49
you're on the
00:29:51
the shop floor and it's a manufacturing,
00:29:53
you know, and you want to understand
00:29:55
more about health and safety, you could
00:29:57
quite justifiably ask, you
00:30:00
tell me about your day, how does it
00:30:01
start, what, you know, get them talking.
00:30:04
And then, if they happen to start
00:30:07
talking about health and safety or, you
00:30:09
know, perhaps last week there was an
00:30:10
accident or an incident,
00:30:12
ask them about it. What was their
00:30:14
experience of that? How did they become
00:30:17
aware of it, you know, what was done on
00:30:19
the back of it? So, you can start
00:30:21
asking those types of questions. Again,
00:30:24
open-ended, get them talking and be
00:30:27
quiet, get them to talk. Mhm.
00:30:30
And in all your roles, and particularly
00:30:32
as a non-exec director, ethics is really
00:30:35
important, and having strong values.
00:30:39
Yes. Do you feel you've ever had your
00:30:41
values or ethics tested in any kind of
00:30:43
environment so far in your career?
00:30:46
No, not not directly and personally.
00:30:50
What I would say though is I've
00:30:53
become aware of or have met or worked
00:30:56
with people who have had their ethics
00:31:00
challenged, and there are quite a number
00:31:03
of cases that people will be aware of
00:31:05
where
00:31:07
unethical behavior, in fact, misconduct
00:31:09
of the
00:31:10
most criminal level, happened at the
00:31:13
board level.
00:31:14
So, I know one of your other
00:31:16
interviewees is Pav Gill, the Wirecard
00:31:19
whistleblower.
00:31:21
That's a prime example of where the
00:31:23
board
00:31:24
ran rogue, completely. And
00:31:27
it's kind of interesting because you
00:31:29
hear a lot from regulators
00:31:32
and industry commentators about tone
00:31:35
from the top. You know, the board should
00:31:37
set the tone and then it should trickle
00:31:40
down. And what happens if it the tone is
00:31:43
toxic? Then, you know, obviously it's
00:31:46
not going to work. So, you've got to
00:31:49
instill, and I think this is where the
00:31:51
FCA here in the UK is doing a better job
00:31:54
than some others of the regulators, is
00:31:57
making it absolutely crystal clear that
00:32:01
con- conduct and ethical behavior is
00:32:03
everybody's responsibility. Doesn't It's
00:32:05
not just at the board level, but it's
00:32:07
all through the the layers of the
00:32:10
organization as well.
00:32:12
And what's one habit or step that our
00:32:15
listeners can take this week to move
00:32:17
closer to the boardroom?
00:32:20
Love that question.
00:32:22
And
00:32:22
>> [laughter]
00:32:22
>> you probably won't be surprised to say,
00:32:25
one of the things that I found
00:32:26
particularly helpful, and your listeners
00:32:28
may as well, is again, if you go on to
00:32:31
LinkedIn, there are a lot of senior
00:32:33
people, CEOs and board level
00:32:37
advisors, who post regularly about their
00:32:41
experiences, about strategy, about
00:32:44
challenges that they're overcoming, and
00:32:47
you can learn so much, and it's free.
00:32:50
And the bonus tip here is, if you really
00:32:52
want to start building your visibility,
00:32:55
is you can actually comment on those
00:32:58
posts as well. And I'm don't not just
00:33:01
some, you know, platitude, but if
00:33:04
they've raised a strategic question or
00:33:07
challenge, and you have an idea about it
00:33:10
or want to share a viewpoint,
00:33:14
do so. Don't be scared to share your
00:33:17
opinion, build your confidence in
00:33:19
finding your voice.
00:33:22
Yeah, that sounds great, and it does
00:33:23
sound like
00:33:25
LinkedIn is particularly helpful for
00:33:28
building those connections across
00:33:29
divides that may you may not have access
00:33:31
to those type of people already within
00:33:33
your network. Yeah, I mean, it's very
00:33:36
much an equal platform. I do go on about
00:33:38
it, I post a lot, I do a lot of
00:33:40
networking through it, and it's helped
00:33:43
me build my career since leaving the the
00:33:46
banking world and building a portfolio
00:33:48
career. Virtually all of my work and
00:33:52
initiatives have come through my network
00:33:55
that I've built through there, as well
00:33:57
as obviously meeting people in person
00:33:59
and, you know, socializing, but um
00:34:02
you know, I've found it particularly
00:34:03
helpful. Mhm. And my final question,
00:34:06
what do you think is the most underrated
00:34:08
skill for aspiring non-exec directors to
00:34:10
develop?
00:34:13
This, I think, is going to be
00:34:15
understanding corporate governance,
00:34:17
because I would say most people during
00:34:20
their salaried career wouldn't
00:34:23
necessarily have exposure to what a
00:34:26
corporate
00:34:28
governance person does. They might
00:34:30
think, oh, they just take the minutes,
00:34:32
but there's so much more to that, and it
00:34:34
becomes critical
00:34:36
when you're in a NED role. So, that
00:34:38
would be my my suggestion. Great,
00:34:41
fantastic. That's great. Thank you very
00:34:43
much for joining me on Grit in the
00:34:45
Boardroom, and for sharing such candid
00:34:48
look at what really goes on. It's been
00:34:49
my pleasure. Thank you for having me
00:34:51
here.
00:34:53
Reflecting on the conversation with
00:34:55
Emma, I think there are three key points
00:34:59
that I would like to cover.
00:35:01
One is that networking is absolutely
00:35:04
key. It's so important to be able to
00:35:07
diversify your network and grow it. She
00:35:10
made some very good suggestions about
00:35:12
LinkedIn, and I think that's something
00:35:13
that we can all take away
00:35:15
>> [music]
00:35:15
>> um and use. I think that it's also
00:35:17
important to bring your genuine self to
00:35:21
any non-exec director role, but also to
00:35:23
networking. I think that if people get
00:35:26
to know the real you, then you won't
00:35:28
have anything to worry about when you do
00:35:30
step into that boardroom for the first
00:35:31
time.
00:35:32
>> [music]
00:35:32
>> Um and I also think that
00:35:34
um it's really important to develop the
00:35:37
skill set that you will need for that
00:35:38
first non-exec director role ahead of
00:35:40
time. You can do that in an executive
00:35:42
career through, as Emma suggested,
00:35:45
chairing a committee, um or other skills
00:35:48
that may be part of voluntary work that
00:35:50
you might do. And that will allow you to
00:35:52
demonstrate in practice what that board
00:35:54
is expecting you to deliver in that
00:35:56
room.
00:35:59
>> [music]

Episode Highlights

  • The Importance of Curiosity
    Emma highlights curiosity as a key skill for leaders.
    “Curiosity is one of the most valuable skills.”
    @ 00m 15s
    March 25, 2026
  • Grit in the Boardroom Podcast
    Explore pivotal decisions that shape organizations with Erica Iliesa Norris.
    “Welcome to Grit in the Boardroom, the podcast that takes you behind closed doors.”
    @ 00m 23s
    March 25, 2026
  • Emma Parry's Journey
    Emma Parry shares her experiences as a senior executive and board adviser.
    “I was often in meetings as the only woman.”
    @ 02m 47s
    March 25, 2026
  • Navigating Board Appointments
    Emma discusses the skills needed for non-executive roles.
    “It's not just about your expertise anymore.”
    @ 08m 19s
    March 25, 2026
  • The Catch-22 of NED Roles
    Securing your first NED role is often the hardest step. It's a catch-22: you need experience to get a role, but how do you get that experience?
    “It's the catch-22.”
    @ 22m 30s
    March 25, 2026
  • The Importance of Curiosity
    Curiosity is a vital trait for board members. It helps uncover deeper insights and fosters open communication.
    “You’ve got to be curious and I think that’s one of the most valuable traits.”
    @ 28m 12s
    March 25, 2026
  • Networking on LinkedIn
    Building a strong network on LinkedIn can open doors to opportunities and help you grow your career.
    “LinkedIn is particularly helpful for building those connections.”
    @ 33m 36s
    March 25, 2026

Episode Quotes

  • I was often in meetings as the only woman.
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom
  • It's not just about your expertise anymore.
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom
  • What’s the worst that can happen?
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom
  • It's a bit lazy if all they’re doing is tapping someone on the shoulder.
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom
  • My DNA is curious.
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom
  • You’ve got to be curious and I think that’s one of the most valuable traits.
    How to Get Into the C-Suite: The Networking Secret No One Tells You | Grit in the Boardroom

Key Moments

  • Curiosity Matters00:15
  • Gender Diversity Challenges02:47
  • Boardroom Insights08:19
  • Networking Confidence16:20
  • Diversity in Hiring21:32
  • Two-Way Street22:03
  • Building Visibility32:55
  • Networking Tips35:04

Words per Minute Over Time

Vibes Breakdown

Related Episodes

Survival of the Fastest: Lessons from the Dot-Com Crash for the AI Era | Grit in the Boardroom
March 11, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
01:01:25
Survival of the Fastest: Lessons from the Dot-Com Crash for the AI Era | Grit in the Boardroom
The Wirecard Scandal: 3 Red Flags the Board Should Have Seen | Grit in the Boardroom
February 11, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
53:03
The Wirecard Scandal: 3 Red Flags the Board Should Have Seen | Grit in the Boardroom
Why "Data-Driven" Decisions Are Failing Your Board | Grit in the Boardroom
April 08, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
43:17
Why "Data-Driven" Decisions Are Failing Your Board | Grit in the Boardroom
Why AI and Tech Mean Nothing Without People | Grit in the Boardroom
May 20, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
53:38
Why AI and Tech Mean Nothing Without People | Grit in the Boardroom
The £300M Mistake: How Ethics Actually Drive Profit | Grit in the Boardroom
February 11, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
01:01:47
The £300M Mistake: How Ethics Actually Drive Profit | Grit in the Boardroom
What Fortune 500 CEOs Won’t Tell You About Boardroom Politics | Grit in the Boardroom
February 25, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
01:09:44
What Fortune 500 CEOs Won’t Tell You About Boardroom Politics | Grit in the Boardroom
Is Board Diversity Just Box Ticking?
March 31, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
01:31
Is Board Diversity Just Box Ticking?
Why Board Dashboards Don’t Tell the Full Story
March 25, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
01:13
Why Board Dashboards Don’t Tell the Full Story
How We Saved a Dying Business | Grit in the Boardroom
May 06, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
53:21
How We Saved a Dying Business | Grit in the Boardroom
Is Your Leadership Style Killing Your Company’s Future? | Grit in the Boardroom
April 22, 2026
Captions not detected. You can watch the video, but not search it. If you think this is an error, contact support.
56:10
Is Your Leadership Style Killing Your Company’s Future? | Grit in the Boardroom