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Don't bring your authentic self to work.
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I want your professional self. You can
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bring your authentic self to
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Thanksgiving meal with your family if
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you'd like to. Your authentic self is
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about who? Me, me, me, me, me.
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Everything is what's happening to me.
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What's in it for me? Do you know that
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you impact other people? You affect
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other people's lives. You make the work
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environment easier or more taxing.
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Can someone learn to be a better
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self-regulator of their emotions?
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Yeah. So, I've been around former SEALs,
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US Secret Service presidents, and I
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learned a lot about communication,
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reading people, confidence, and I'll
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share these things. So, first of all,
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confident people, they had a really good
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circle around them, inner circle,
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because if you're exposing yourself to
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people and environments that are not
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good for you, that will actually impact
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your life negatively. You know, I always
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say be careful who you try to save. Some
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people will drown you. And then the
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other thing I would see presidents do is
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they were very good at delegating. So
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they didn't need to know everything
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because confident people are okay with
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not knowing all the information. So your
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brain is like a bathtub. The bathtub can
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only hold so much water. If you keeping
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water in the bathtub, it's going to
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overflow. That's your cognitive load. My
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bathtub only holds the water it needs to
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hold in. And another thing that the
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Secret Service has taught us is that
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it's really important to use your hands
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because when people don't see hands,
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it's a sign of untrustworthiness. Like
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you can't trust them. So when you see
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hands, open hands, I'm no threat. And
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then there's communication skills,
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manipulation, tactics, and strategy to
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make good decisions. And I will go
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through them.
