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that's making me a little bit upset
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fantastic incredible man it's the owners of that business it's really simple joke i don't think anyone can believe it
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one of the things that people don't know about you is just the scale of your business portfolio it's quite honestly
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mental the only thing you can ever do in life is work as hard as you possibly can and never give in
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what is the cost i basically collapsed the floor another fit i went to hospitality checks and then found that i
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needed to slow down a little bit and i'd stop doing the things that kept me well and i just run myself into the ground so
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i knew that that point then i needed to see something manchester united are failing i do feel
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sorry for the current players and that won't go down well with a lot of manchester united fans these players go out onto the pitch now they feel alone
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but that's where i am a little bit critical of cristiano you're the star now's not time for throwing your arms around now's the time to make sure you
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lead those people resilience and robustness and hard work can be taught and learnt i don't think it's something
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you're born with the minute i joined at 11 to the minute i left at 36 manchester united got everything out of me
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everything of all the people i always talk about having the influence on my life i never
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mentioned my mum and her mum and dad they're far better people than i am
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that's making a little bit upset [Music]
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so without further ado i'm stephen butler and this is the diary of a ceo i hope nobody's listening but
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if you are then please keep this yourself [Music]
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we are a normal working-class family there are no famous sporting ancestors in our in our family yet somehow we want
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to combine 218 caps for our country at football and netball between us tracy
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neville mbu my sister went twice to the commonwealth games and world championships representing england 74
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times and coached the national team how and why is that possible that three
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siblings in a family reach sport sporting greatness when there isn't a
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long lineage of you know the granddad was at manchester united this person was at this club and
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they opened doors for me i don't know really i mean i'll start at the end because i was
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having a conversation yesterday about um it was actually how long
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should you take off after you've had a baby as a couple whether it be the the man or the woman
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and i was thinking about my sister and she took like two or three weeks off and then she was back at it
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and also my father passed away seven years ago and on the morning of his funeral i went
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and presented our projects at michael's at a council meeting and then went and got ready at
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home and went to his funeral straight after it and someone said to me it's not normal that
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and my sister my dad passed away in australia whilst he was while he was watching my sister play for the commonwealth games
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and me and my brother flew straight over there my sister was still coaching the team she never
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broke stride and he was on a ventilator keeping him alive even though he'd actually to be fair
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passed away and they were just waiting for us to get over the day after we got there
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my sister said i've got a game tomorrow we can't pronounce that he's actually dead until after i finish the game i
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come back to the hospital and when i think of that that's the end i suppose in terms of
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that sort of that feeling of just that drive that commitment to what we do
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people say it's not normal someone said to me it's not normal that that we would continue our lives irrespective of and that probably came from my dad and from
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a mum but i think of it is in different layers for me personally i don't know what it was like for my sister or my brother but
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for me personally i think of it as being the first layer was my mum and dad their love for sport that commitment to get
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there early to do things my dads used to say get up early get there early get your job done
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and then when i got to united i'm hit by nobby styles brian kidd you know
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manchester united's european cup winners in 1968 and then eric harrison a northern tough yorkshire man who every
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single day drilled us about what it was to be a manchester united player and then you're exposed to sir alex ferguson and roy
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keane and peter schmeichel and mark hughes so these different layers of you know monstrous mentalities of
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people who are just massive leaders we've been exposed to them i was exposed to them
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and that's why i always say that resilience and robustness and hard work can be taught and learnt i don't think
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it's something you're born with and i think when you say like how do we achieve that i just think we're very fortunate with our parents and the
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exposure that we had to brilliant leaders throughout our career and examples and the standard bearers that
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were next to us learning through words those words that your dad would say to you about getting up and getting at it every morning is a
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great way to learn but actions i think in hindsight seem to be the best way to
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to really learn those lessons vicariously from observing our parents and how they're behaving in their lives i know i'll never forget the day that i
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saw my mum my mom stopped coming home and then i asked my dad where she was and she said oh she sleeps in the back of the shop now this corner shop she was
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running and then going there and seeing this bag of rice that she was sleeping on that had all these rat holes in it from where the mice and rats had been
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eating it that visual of that she was working that hard even though she didn't have to to support our family so that
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she was sleeping in the back room every night and not coming home was was a lesson that i learned without her saying
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a word yeah what are the lessons that you learned from your because you cited your dad there as being pretty
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um a pretty go-get-em person how was he functioning and professionally that taught you these
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lessons he was a lorry driver and he basically worked for constellation luggage which was just luggage you know suitcases and
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he had to do three drops a week at daventry which is south of birmingham and he each had to get them there
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basically by the end of monday wednesday and friday
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but we had we lived in a two-two-down terraced house and every time my dad got up you can
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hear your dad get up when you're young you just you just hear it because it's obviously that you know the lights come on and you hear the sort of noise the
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floorboards are creaking and we always get up early as a family anyway but before five o'clock
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you'd hear my dad we lived in the back we were in the back bedroom and he's he's lorry his wagon was parked at the
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back when he was doing to do a drop the next day and he'd leave at four or five o'clock in the morning
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on the monday wednesday and friday he'd take the suitcases he'd wait for the
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depot to open at seven eight o'clock drop them off and he'd be back and have his job done by eleven o'clock and then
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he'd start to go and do his what would be his commercial work the fundraising for testimonials the thing that he loved
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for say for instance lancashire county curricular players that was his passion that's how he got into berry football club as a commercial director and into
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because he had he had a sales mentality my dad but in the he get his his main job done by 11 o'clock every single
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morning he'd be daventry and back in a lorry and then after school he'd take us to football and he'd take us to qriket
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so the amount he fit into a day was unbelievable you know he almost do two jobs he'd do his job which was his main
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job which was earning him his money which was a lorry driver he'd then come and do the job which would be potentially could he do some sort of
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like side job selling for like lancashire country club or the green mountain cricket club he did he organized dinners and events and things
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like that and then his family would come after school where he'd put them into sport would go to united in the evening
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i would go um we were at united from 11 11 monday and thursday night so this
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constant drive of trying to fit as much as you possibly can in the day and that's where i sort of the attack the
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day was from my dad get up get there early let's make sure we're there even at united we get there early on saturday
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there would never be any risk with time of being late i feel sometimes that that is a good
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thing it's put that into us but sometimes to live by that now particularly at the age i'm at sometimes
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you sort of think it's hard to keep yeah it's hard to keep on doing it and you wonder now particularly what we know now whether
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it's the right i think my dad had heart problems at a very early age at the age of 42. you know he's a lorry driver you
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know he liked to go for a beer he liked a night out he did too much he got stressed
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all the things that i did so he thinks there's a lot i can see him without of me
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but i don't think i can change it really what is the cost because for everyone's i sat here with tim grover who actually
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coaches a lot of the young united players now yeah coach michael jordan and um kobe bryant for a span of 15
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years he was the best soul coach and he said for everyone's greatness the thing that causes their greatness in your case
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you know that drive and that ruthlessness and that dedication caused you to become a manchester united legend and all these other things but what is
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the cost on the other side that people don't don't see from he he referred to it as we have our light side and we have
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our dark side the dark side is a consequence an unavoidable consequence of the light side yeah what was that dark side for
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you and your dad um health i think and i've seen that in the last couple
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years with myself i think um physical health no
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i've had i i i i've said this to be fair on something that i've done myself in last week on
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the overlap um i actually to be fair um
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raheem sterling scored the goal in the uh european championships against germany a
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year and a half ago and i basically collapsed the floor and had a fit
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and after that i went to hospital i had checks and then found that you know i need to slow down
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a little bit basically and it's similar things to what my dad was told in his 40s that you know ultimately i do too much i
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think too much i need to relax more you know to be fair my wife says it quite often
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you're here but you're not present do you get that oh my god
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so and justin who's interested i'll do an interview the uh other day with jeff shreve jeff known me 15 20
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years and he said the problem is when asking you a question you've got my question inside the first
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two seconds let's say it's a ten second question you've got my question inside the first two seconds the next eight
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seconds you're thinking about what you're doing after i can see it in your eyes already and he's right so even during this interview i'm speaking
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and sometimes i lose my way in an interview and i actually forget what the question was and quite often i'll say what was the question if i'm on stage
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doing like a q a what did you actually ask me because i've actually drifted off whilst i'm answering the question into something that i need to do later and
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it's i'm never present so the consequence is that maybe i remember sir alex saying to me mrs
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children growing up i am missing my children growing up that's a consequence of my life i've been in london for four
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days you know but what can i do i've got i come down to brentford manchester united i then stay
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down sunday because i can't get trained back trains there's a train strike and then i'm down doing monday night football and i'll go back today last
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week i was down for another four days but it's what i do i love what i do i wouldn't change it but this afternoon i'll get back to manchester i've got
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meetings till six and then tomorrow i'm full all day thursday i'm in glasgow doing a dinner with sir alex ferguson so
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it is a constant sort of every single day that i feel like i'm filling days
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with things that i love and want to do but then you say to yourself you do have those odd moments more now why am i
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doing all this why are you doing this now you love doing it maybe you know it's
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what you enjoy but you sometimes have those moments don't you wait i have more of those moments i think why am i doing
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those why have i got two hotels why have i got a football club why have i got a university why have i built an overlap shell i'm already on sky why am i doing
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these things but it's it's that idea of i suppose cramming as much into your life as possible thinking you've just only got
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this sort of short period of time and brian kids used to say to us get your pace early you can't make it up at the
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end and we used to sprint and sprint in our runs and sprint
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and that mean if you collapsed at the end and you didn't quite finish it or whatever it's better than managing
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yourself and thinking i'll save a little bit we i have to say the players that i played with at manchester united we
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never saved anything it was all left out there on the pitch and i think that's how our lives are
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since as well we just leave everything out there on the pitch there's nothing saved so we just stand up
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i suppose saturating every single second of every single day
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i used to think that i was driven i used to think that you know and that sounds like a very good framing i'm driven i'm
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motivated i thought that's what was because you said why am i doing this after i do this podcast there's maybe
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you know 10 other companies that i'm running i have zero time in the day and then i try and cram in my girlfriend and
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my family and do a very bad job of that i used to think it's because i'm driven and i'm just whatever and then i asked
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myself a question which when i met eddie hannah i saw the same thing i mean his book is called relentless yeah are we really driven or are we being
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voluntarily driven as in we're making the choice to drive towards something or are we being involuntarily dragged by
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some kind of insecurity or some kind of discomfort with the prospect of not being busy because
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for me i'm convinced these days that i'm probably being dragged by an insecurity maybe
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but i developed a very young age yeah maybe i'm not sure i don't know i don't could you stop i don't feel uh
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not sure because this idea that you know if you stop it'll kill you and all that sort of stuff slow down i do feel like i need to
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slow down i read a book i think i can't but it was a few a couple years ago where it talks about you can never
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really retire if you love work and you are relentless but what you can have is many retirements during the year and
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that's what i've tried to do i don't do it very well so for instance this weekend i'm going to spain friday till
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monday morning i caught that's like a mini retirement so that's a weekend it's a weekend it's
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a mini retirement it's where i basically can say for three days i'm there and um
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i'm basically taking a you know i don't think about work now i will but and sometimes one of my best my best
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ideas come when i'm on those types of trips but then in six weeks i'll have another mini retirement for five days or four days rather than thinking you're
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gonna stop for six months and sort of have a sabbatical that's not probably gonna happen with people like you or i
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because we just basically don't work that way so to have lots of mini retirements during the year is what i've tried to do in the last few years i'm
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not sure i'm doing it very successfully i'm not sure what's wrong with us if that's what you're asking is there something wrong with it i don't feel
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insecure or vulnerable i don't feel insecure or vulnerable at all i feel
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i feel i feel so confident and i feel not confident i feel like i've got coping mechanisms to be able to deal
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with things so there isn't any criticism there's very very little criticism that i receive now that even touches the
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sides of me and i get criticized heavily on social media through my football punditry my opinions whatever it may be
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because what i went through at united losing that confidence at the age of 24 paul's treble
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going through that difficult patch where i didn't want the ball seeing the psychiatrist on my own all the doctor knew not talking about it till i was 35
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but what that psychiatrist gave me was coping mechanisms and perspective
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and i just asked you know if i go through a difficult moment now i asked myself the question will i come
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out of it to the side did i expect every day to be a good day no i don't expect every day to be a good day so when the bad day comes and it's a
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really bad experience or you ever make a bad business decision did you think you'd make every decision would be a good decision in business no it wouldn't
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be good you're not going to make the right decision every single day you're going to have bad decisions bad choices bad days so when they come now i can put
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them into perspective and move on really comfortably so i feel like i'm i don't feel vulnerable
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or insecure and i'm not quite sure sometimes you know people say i've got a strategy i've
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got a plan i'm not quite sure any of us have really because the relative is we don't know what door's going to open next you don't
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know six years ago five years ago that dragon's den is going to come a knock on your door you don't know that you
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haven't got a clue or 10 years ago certainly you don't know that's going to happen in your life but when the knock
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on the door comes you think i fancy walking through that door
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and probably the same with me when things have happened in my life where i thought i didn't expect that to come
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yeah i'll take that so we are probably being dragged it's a little bit like jumping off you go
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skiing you have to sort of go off the sort of black slope using there's no way out but you're
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going down you can't stop and it's a little bit like you know i feel like to be fair my life's a little bit like a
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black skull a black sloping skiing i've gone over the edge i've started what can i do now slow down say to my
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businesses say to the teams that i work with sorry i don't fancy this anymore well thanks for that but you've we're
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here still what what's that i've got no choice i've got no choice you've got no choice
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we're in do you know why um i read this book called the body holds the score and i was actually
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speaking to one of my best friends yesterday who was a extreme workaholic and then he started having panic attacks
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he ends up in hospital and he said to me he said i felt fine but the body goes gives out first the
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body will you know when the mind is telling you no you can cope with this you're doing fine the body will show you in a pretty um yeah drastic fashion that
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you're not okay and that you need to listen to it to yourself ever since you you collapsed on that day
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have you made changes honestly because i'm gonna ask i'm gonna ask you
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i'm gonna ask emma i did i did i have i think
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but then it's the actual state it's sustaining the changes and not dipping
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back into your old habits that's the problem that's what do i do i train four or five
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times a week i wasn't always training pre that um i try
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i've got a sleep ring and it focuses me more on the time i need to sleep at night and but then
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i don't always wear it now you know it's a couple of years later it's in my bag it's here i didn't wear it last night
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and i'm annoyed with myself because i didn't wear it last night i forgot to put it on when i got back so habits really that sort of do you
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drift back into your old habits um i try not to pick my phone up when i first wake up but i'm failing miserably at
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that i'm fairly miserable but i have to take an email off my phone i've taken whatsapp off my phone
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because they're things that i think work emails if i think if you wake up to an
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email at four in the morning that's an email that's not a great email let's say it's
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something that you think i've got to deal with that you aren't getting back to sleep so i've taken email off my phone it's only on my ipad it helps
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whatsapp i mean what's up announced last week that they were going to sort of this idea that you couldn't um you
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couldn't be joined in groups and people didn't know when you were online i just felt like it was an intrusion whatsapp i felt like people were
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attacking me a constant attack of added to groups and they see that i'm online and things like that
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oh no get off get away from me so i just do imessage now um
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and i say to people ring me so there have been changes that i've made that are helpful
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because i do feel email is i love speaking to people so i lived in
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a dressing room where the camaraderie when you email each other at manchester united charlotte's ferguson didn't email
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me we had a brilliant team spirit in the club we were there every single day we spoke to each other we socialized with
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each other we'd help each other we knew each other and that's how you build a team spirit and i felt sometimes email
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can be i know it needs to happen in businesses i know that you need to see attachments i know you need to communicate with each other i do believe
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that they can be quite damaging to culture sometimes particularly if the wrong tony on the i think you can be
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misunderstood on email i think it can come across harsh and they can put pressure on people and i realize that
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the first five years out of football i was emailing people five six o'clock in the morning but you imagine you know you emailing
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people at five six o'clock in the morning the impact that's going to have on them when they wake up i've got to deal with that i've got to
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email them back it's like that's not fair it's not right so i have made quite a few changes but probably not enough
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yeah i i completely agree i don't i'll be on people this will surprise people i look at my emails once a week
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so my assistant looks at my inbox and then if there's she puts them on my list and then i go to my list when i'm ready yeah and also with all my whatsapps and
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all that stuff all notifications off and it's just for me trying to take back control of my time so i choose when i go
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to it it doesn't notify me that it needs me now and i used to have email dread yeah you know early mornings especially
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you're running a big company you've got 600 employees or more yeah there's always going to be something wrong there is yeah and it doesn't care
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what time or occasion it's going to interrupt you there's always going to be and i don't want that anxiety in my life
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but also if there is a problem and something's gone wrong then just ring they can call you yeah ring me just ring
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me yeah anyone can ring me and just say look i've got a problem and then we drop everything don't we i always feel like
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it's the biggest responsibility i have is to the people that i work with and if they ring me and they're in trouble they've got a problem we have to
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deal with that that's the absolute immediate you always going back to your early years in football and as you came
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through the ranks you you always and i've seen this in multiple interviews kind of a little bit self-disparaging
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about your own ability yeah i just played with brilliant players didn't i mean if you think about it just
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go through the players who i played with yap stam you know dennis irwin peter schmeichel
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roy k david beckham cristiano ronaldo dwight york eric cantona every single one of
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them had more talent and ability than i did you know just they just did it it was just obvious around me when i got to
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united juice about insecurity the only time that i ever felt insecure was when i got to united i got to get at 11
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and i joined at 11 and the center of excellence group and we got retained every single year but at four teens
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where it gets really serious and they start they sign the scot the school boys and the outer town lads come in so all of a sudden you were exposed to
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them to beckham to scholes joined at 14 all these brilliant players
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and you think how am i going to survive here i could just i'm aware i know my own abilities
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um and i had to i had to just do things differently i was a midfield player then
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i was a centre-back then they need to put right back you know there is an element of truth in what carrick has said no one wants to
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grow up to be a gary neville meaning no one's gonna grow up to be a fullback everyone when they're a kid scores goals or sets up goals and then you find out
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that you're not good enough to do that and you get pushed back the team that's what happened with me i was one position away that was the
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last my last hope right back you know i mean i was out the team if i couldn't play right back i'd gone from center
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midfielders 11 12 year old at united then sent it back from 14 to 18 and then told i wouldn't i wasn't good enough by
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my reserve team coach to be a center back at united because steve bruce and gary palace were there and then i go to
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right back so you are aware that you're being pushed out of your positions by better players
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and that that's your only route to success is hard work and playing it right back and trying to adapt to that
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and then it was good enough for me in the end but you know it's not disparaging i i knew
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the game i could organize i knew the game well i read the game well
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and um on the pitch i would never ever i would never give in so that around me this idea of being
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able to organize the team i could see the game in front of me so i had an impact i believe had an impact on the
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other players that i played with beyond my talent through my understanding of the game and making sure that i never
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stopped going and we never stopped going we keep going we just keep pushing forward so if we're fighting for a goal
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you know i always think what's that i never go into this little level of granules i've probably never said this before when people say to me it's the
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greatest moment in my life i say it's the final in 99 in new camp when we won the treble
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but that i i made a run from right back i got the corner for the first goal
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because i went oh i sprinted over to the left wing and took the long throw to put into the box it came back out to me and
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we got the corner it's not an assist by any stretch of the imagination typifies my career of seven goals and very few assists i am no trent
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alexander arnold or nor even the dennis erwin but that that that you have to find a way to win you
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have to just do everything you possibly can you cannot leave anything on the pitch you just sprint everywhere you just do everything and that to me
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typified what probably i was that i could see something in that you know in
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terms of how to impact a game whether it be through impacting someone else by getting them going and giving them the
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ball and get and keeping them at it um and that's why i think he kept me there till i was 36 because it wasn't
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through ability at the end he kept me there those 36 just through my influence and my impact i had in the dressing room
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i'm pretty certain of that because it wasn't through anything that was doing on the pitch so i'm always
00:25:02
humble around my own ability because of the talent i had around me and that's why i get caught on twitter
00:25:08
quite often people will say to me if i haven't been if you haven't been at manchester united you've been a job in right back somewhere like full of my bum
00:25:14
i thought maybe i've never heard anyone in a higher managerial position
00:25:20
disagree with the phrase that hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard yeah i mean that's one thing i could
00:25:26
never ever i could never ever be accused of anything other than from the minute i joined at 11 to the minute i left at 36
00:25:34
manchester united got everything out of me everything and to prefer the club gave me everything so we we didn't owe
00:25:39
each other anything and that's something i'm proud of longevity is actually probably one of
00:25:45
one of the things that consistency and longevity being able to consistently work hard every single day at a good level of performance and turn up every
00:25:51
single day and be there is underrated actually and that that's the thing that to me for surviving at 25 years under
00:25:58
alex ferguson in that environment of excellence and demands that he placed on people was you
00:26:04
know it was a great achievement but i did that with a lot less talent than the players in the club when was the first
00:26:10
time you realized that sir alex ferguson was you re you felt his influence
00:26:15
you felt his mindset joe something in the early days it was the old school
00:26:21
that head teacher not he's not a head teacher by any stretch of the imagination but you've got a little bit of fear that you may be having your
00:26:27
father as well if your father sort of gets a bit angry with you you know that little bit of that dominating male
00:26:33
of the 70s 80s 90s probably going back beyond that was was apparent in sir alex ferguson that you know you knew when he
00:26:39
walked into the room the room went quiet that was that presence that aura hit the boss's ear and so you felt it straight away
00:26:47
when people say to me sort of how did you keep coming back every single year and continue to keep winning what was
00:26:52
the secret of that it was by his actions and what what he did i i always remember when i was third
00:26:59
when did we lose the champions league final 2009 so i'd have been 34 right near the end of my career
00:27:07
i was doing my um we played the champions league final on wednesday we lost
00:27:12
we got back on the friday from rome or thursday or friday on the
00:27:18
saturday i had to go and pick up my boots at carrington the training ground so it was a sunday morning i had to pick
00:27:23
up my boots at current in the training ground to go to saint george's park because i was doing my a licensed
00:27:28
coaching badge and it was my final assessment and i went in at seven o'clock in the morning i'd organised to meet with the
00:27:35
caretaker who was basically there on site all the time to let me in and i parked on the back
00:27:41
and the his office lights on and he's there in his chair i thought oh no i don't want to see him
00:27:47
we just lost the european cup final four four days ago so i drove back around the front and went and got my boots and
00:27:52
moved out but he was there sunday morning half six seven o'clock the only
00:27:57
person in the building with his light on four days after we'd won the european cup final and he'd been in his mid 60s
00:28:03
i thought no one could live with that that that's the reason he's winning that's the reason he's because no other
00:28:09
manager no other leader that i know four days after that defeat in his off
00:28:15
time in the summer he's in his office on a sunday morning at half past six and he didn't know he didn't know i was coming
00:28:21
in obviously and he didn't see me either i just thought you could just see him in the distance it was i couldn't believe it and he just all those sort of
00:28:27
examples of that work ethic they hit you every single day and he
00:28:32
knew how to tap into here he knew how to get you no matter who you were in the dressing room he always used to get me i
00:28:37
would say this but i mentioned in my gra you could he used to mention my grandparents what about your grandparents getting up every single day
00:28:44
putting their tie on the work that they put in how they never complained about anything you know what they must have lived
00:28:50
through obviously in the second world war and he would say things like that in his team talks and it would always tap
00:28:55
into me because i used to sit with my mum's dad and look at his medals that he had he got during the second world war
00:29:01
he'd had three or four wounds he had shrapnel wounds in his shoulders that he could still show me and bits of metal still in his body and he'd talk to me
00:29:08
about the medals and where he'd got them from and how he'd been in holland and how he sort of had to come back and then he went back over how he married my nan
00:29:14
on one of his returns back so that used to get me every single time so when i used to play for united when
00:29:21
you think about what motivates you what gets you going and you used to mention say for instance grandparents and there's that difficult
00:29:27
moment on a pitch where you think we're struggling here a little bit and now i think of my youngest daughter
00:29:33
when i'm training what keeps me going to the end of that training session i think of silly things
00:29:38
if i don't keep going here someone's going to get my youngest daughter and i'll there's nothing going to get her so i've got to keep going and there is mo
00:29:44
it was my it was my granddad my mum's dad i used to think he wouldn't he wouldn't stop going he came back having been
00:29:51
wounded twice and trapped the wounds twice and went back out to fight again
00:29:56
and he had those medals and he would speak to me about it and i used to think how can i stop
00:30:02
but he would he would find that in me sir alex would push you'd push those buttons and press those buttons for
00:30:08
someone else it would become something completely different i'm sure it might be talking about the father it
00:30:13
might be talking about him going on strike in the government shipyards it might be talking about another experience that he's had but he would
00:30:18
tap into everybody in the dressing room in some way that would mean they'd find something to mean they would never give in and
00:30:24
that's what he's you know his film's called never give in he never give in but also the influence he had on others
00:30:30
never to give in through finding something in them was was incredible rio talked to me a lot about culture and
00:30:35
the culture that sir alex ferguson said everest said the same thing having left football now and working in the world of
00:30:40
business you might must be looking back on the culture he created yeah and in
00:30:46
some ways drawing a lot from that in your own businesses right what what what have you
00:30:51
learned about the importance of culture because there was a comment made to me on the podcast that i've never forgotten which is about sir alex
00:30:58
ferguson's like lack of presence at the training ground rio said he only came into the training training room dressing ground a couple
00:31:04
of times because he didn't need to the culture was in there yeah and then rio talked about how then when ria went and
00:31:10
moved on to another club in that same dressing room players are talking about how much money they're making and all of
00:31:15
these other things which would never have happened at united now how does how does one create that culture
00:31:22
i suppose being grounded he was grounded and he believed in the
00:31:27
sort of the work that work ethic was everything to him being proud being proud to work hard being proud of the
00:31:33
people around you who work hard uh being proud of your teammates i used to say look around the change room look
00:31:38
around i'm proud of every single one of you but look at each other look at what you each do for each other on the pitch
00:31:43
and now you can't achieve what you're going to achieve without each other so we made us respect each other not everybody got on in our changing room
00:31:50
but most of us did um but he tapped into those things all the time
00:31:55
it was it was it was non-stop and being grounded um looking after people little
00:32:01
things like wendy used to get the charity balls signed um and roy keane was like this as well
00:32:08
so when every thursday we'd have 30 to 40 charity balls that we would sign and then they would go to the children's charities or the different charities in
00:32:15
greater manchester or in the country and sometimes you're in a rush aren't you you're a football player you're
00:32:20
young oh wendy i'll sign him after i'm in a madras i've got going do my stretching i've got my massage i've got to have treatment whatever it might be
00:32:26
that you say on the way in some poor excuse that you'd give or maybe you just generally did and there was one day
00:32:32
where he basically i think roy had walked past wendy she was a little bit upset and only five players out the 23
00:32:38
and the squad had signed the balls and roy went upstairs and said to sir alex it's an absolute
00:32:44
disgrace this has happened a couple of weeks now he killed us he absolutely killed us the
00:32:50
lack of respect to to walk past wendy who was there to get the charity ball signed and not sign
00:32:57
them for her for him was a dereliction of duty it was a lack of respect it's not what you do
00:33:04
we're equal in this football club we treat each other equally we look after one another we make sure that we're sort
00:33:10
of compassionate and the idea of not doing things like that little things like that um i think just little things like that
00:33:17
stand out in my mind so now sometimes i walk into the businesses and you know what we're like we sometimes walk in on our phone and we don't say hello to
00:33:23
people because with that immersed in our own blinkered sort of space but then i'll walk past sometimes and
00:33:30
i'll realize i've not said hello to someone i'll go back and say i'm really sorry and i'll i'll you know i'll say are you okay and
00:33:35
i do feel like even when in the office there is no i sit next to people in the office i
00:33:41
don't sort of have my own gloss tower yeah i don't i don't i make sure i go and sit in cafe football in the hotel or
00:33:49
i'll go and sit in the main restaurant at stocks or at salford i'd just go and sit in the main office because the idea
00:33:54
that basically we don't he would he did have his own office and he did his own space and he did to be fair delegate and
00:33:59
he would keep his but i i don't think i'm i'm like sir alex in the way in which i now
00:34:05
look at my business i do believe it's very different now um but he was very the staff loved him
00:34:11
everybody loved him at the club because he protected them he knew everybody's name
00:34:17
he asked about the families he knew the family's names he was really really attentive he was far better at that than
00:34:22
i am far better in that than i am but i probably to be fair mix with my teams more than he maybe would so
00:34:30
but the work ethic is the thing honestly the only thing you can ever do in life
00:34:36
is work as hard as you possibly can and never give in and he said you've got that choice every single day really simple that's it the talent you've got
00:34:43
you just work as hard as you can every single day and never give in and then you come back the day after and do it again and that's it that's the secret to
00:34:49
what he believed because he said the talent is his problem forget talent i've chosen you to be here
00:34:55
so i'm telling you you've got the talent don't you worry about that bit what i need back in return is that other bit which is the the focus the
00:35:02
commitment the dedication to make sure every single day you get up and you're here and you give your all and you don't
00:35:07
give in and that's why i think i stayed where i was because i believed him i trusted in him and now it's the same if
00:35:12
someone comes into our business and they've been selected to come in that's because i believe they've got the
00:35:17
talent or someone in our senior management team believe they've got the talent all they have to do in return now
00:35:23
is go for it and give their all and be enthusiastic and not give in and then come back after and do it again i keep
00:35:29
it try and keep it as simple as that i know there's a lot more to it than that but it is it was that simple for us i
00:35:34
know then there's the tactics then there's decision making then there's the sort of concerns all the things that go
00:35:39
with it but that was the sort of heart i think of every all the messaging that we got from him
00:35:45
they almost seem like old-fashioned values what you're saying they are it almost sounds and i'm gonna be honest it almost
00:35:52
sounds like what the modern day professional culture might consider to be a little bit toxic
00:35:59
yeah you know what i mean yeah this this drive for hard work but i have to say i've never sat here with
00:36:05
anybody that's reached the peak of their powers in their career that hasn't said the same but now if i'm in my businesses
00:36:12
so i don't things like i i don't have i'd never work the first
00:36:18
week in january i think it's the most depressing week of the year after christmas you've had a high and then you go back it's dark it's
00:36:24
miserable that first week so i always take it off but i always give the rest of our team in the office that i'm
00:36:30
working off as well so i don't make people do what i'm not going to do i'm going away i think in
00:36:36
three weeks for five days i said to everybody in the office don't worry about the fact you've got 28 days in your contract those five days you're off
00:36:43
have the last five days off of the summer then we'll go for it to christmas also people are flexible working they
00:36:49
can come in monday they don't have to come in tuesday they can come in wednesday i trust them to do what they want so there is an element of yeah i
00:36:56
want heart i do expect hard work but i also want people to have a brilliant time and sharing the success that we
00:37:01
have but also make sure that if i'm off i would expect that they have those
00:37:06
times off as well i wouldn't expect them to come in i i don't hate the idea of a work package that's
00:37:13
got like you've got 25 days holiday you have to book it in i hate that i hate the idea of restriction
00:37:19
i hate it i feel like it's bullying you must sit there in the office i hate it
00:37:24
it's not right it is not right don't tell people where to sit how to work you know obviously there is
00:37:31
a direction and there is a leadership that's needed but i just feel it's really not acceptable but now this was
00:37:36
precovered our office is like to be fair this this this room that we're in here now so
00:37:42
someone could be sat there someone could be sat there someone could be sat on the floor over there with a with a you know
00:37:47
on a laptop that's how it should be in an office it should always be like that i think i don't think it needed i don't
00:37:52
think it ever i don't think you needed colvid to make modern business act properly with the teams that they
00:37:59
work with so i i do feel it's very different than how we were at united which is old-fashioned value there's still some old-fashioned values you have
00:38:05
to work hard we have to get the job done we know that but why do you have to say that to people i think people know they have to work
00:38:12
out and get the job done so why'd you have to say that to them you're looking to tap into them make something unique in your business that
00:38:17
makes them want to stay really that's what you saw you may want to make it enjoyable and that can still be enjoyable through
00:38:23
hard work i think i think it's quite enjoyable working
00:38:30
i know people that work for you yeah because you know we've got a got a colleague that used to work for me that works for you now and they're all very
00:38:36
very complimentary so that's supported by that's supported by the evidence that i have um but you're right i've always found that the contradiction there is
00:38:42
trust you're saying to your team members to trust you but you're not trusting them and trust i feel like has to go
00:38:47
both ways and so and there's and the other what ends up happening when you have those in my experience those very
00:38:54
rigid rules is you'll get compliance but you won't get like motivation and as you've described it you want people to
00:39:00
be internally driven yeah not compliant because of punishment yeah and that gets the best out of people right it's
00:39:07
interesting because um valencia taught me a lot but around that time i was with england coaching with
00:39:12
roy hudson um and i'd lived at united where we were we were fined you know
00:39:17
nunez got sent off last night for head button at anderson that's two weeks wages at manchester united i got fined two weeks
00:39:24
wedges regularly four or five times it happens football it wouldn't happen in a normal workplace but we know sir
00:39:30
alex bergson's rules if you violent conduct or um
00:39:36
chatting back to a referee you get fined in fact he won't accept it people think alex ferguson was like get
00:39:42
after the referees but if we actually got booked for having to go a referee we would get
00:39:47
fined so very much quite a rigid thing and then roy hudson said something to me when i was with england
00:39:54
and i felt those standards were slipping a little bit one time i can't remember exactly what it was about and i said we need some rules
00:40:01
because i had we had a code of conduct at united i was the player's rep i knew what the sort of standards were
00:40:06
and he said to me we don't set rules he said be very careful with rules uh he said because it's always the
00:40:12
people that you don't want to break them that break them i thought it's quite clever that
00:40:18
and ever since there are no rules there are no rules in our business in terms of you
00:40:23
must be here you must do this you must wear that you must you know i don't expect formality in in dress i expect
00:40:29
people to be comfortable so i don't say you should wear this or you should be here at that time or we should we've got
00:40:34
to do that in any part of my bed i don't create rules anymore because once you create rules
00:40:40
for start it's rigid i don't believe it's right and the rules are there they're unwritten actually the rules of
00:40:46
sort of working hard and turning up and doing your job all the things that the rules are there just they just don't have to be written down um and
00:40:53
you know you see what happens if you star player walks in that's breaking because the other ones that you know we were talking about that
00:40:59
was set in the low standards it happens if one of the star player walks in and we need to work with the
00:41:04
players to make sure that they understand what we expect of them and the standards we don't need to set rules
00:41:10
because if you set rules and consequence and punishment then it'll be the one that you don't want to
00:41:16
break them and then you're in a big you know you're in big trouble so it was it was a good lesson for him and in football it's very much
00:41:22
a different place than a normal workplace anyway it doesn't live by hr rules a football
00:41:29
dressing room it doesn't it doesn't you know players are still getting fined players still get told where to be when
00:41:35
to turn up what to wear we like it as well i still like it now actually i i like
00:41:40
actually being told what to do i actually like it at sky when people say to me gary we're doing this you know i like being told what i respond to it
00:41:46
really well because i've had it to be fair but i've been instructed from eric harrison nobby styles brian kidd sir
00:41:52
alex ferguson i've been instructed through the 70s and 80s you could not live through the 70s and 80s as a child
00:41:59
early 90s without being instructed because that was the form of leadership so we still respond to it a little bit
00:42:04
in our own lives but then when i think about my children i don't instruct them
00:42:09
i like independent thinking i like them so when people talk about social media or when people talk about you know i was
00:42:15
sat with someone yesterday who said i'm fearing my my children were on social media i i always say to them your
00:42:22
children should get good at social media really quickly because they have to they have to they have to be good at it
00:42:28
so my children are 13 years of age now they bought they're all obsessed with
00:42:33
social media with the apps they're on it all the time and you know sometimes we'll say you know that's enough tonight
00:42:38
and you know let's come off it but i want them to get good at it i want them to use it and find out what
00:42:45
information they can trust and what they can't trust i use twitter now all the time for my well one
00:42:51
two debate but also so actually my news my major source of news is twitter it's my major
00:42:58
source of news in my life it's really helpful i don't think as a sports journalist broadcaster i could live
00:43:04
without twitter you're really important to me so when people say that twitter's a suspect get off it there are elements
00:43:10
of it that are but that's a really important thing for me in my life because i find all the sort of articles
00:43:16
all the sort of opinions you know all the breaking news is there
00:43:21
how can i live without that it's what i rely upon to be able to do my job so when i come off the pitch last saturday
00:43:27
sunday doing manchester united totally doing western man city and as he managed to united bid for arnautovic i used to
00:43:32
have to wait till the morning after for the newspaper 15 years ago our children
00:43:38
aren't like that anymore they want things instantly they see things quickly and they don't like to be instructed
00:43:44
we have to collaborate with them there's an inevitability you're completely right to social media and the
00:43:50
internet and digital that will actually i believe as well will serve as a disadvantage to them if they if they don't keep up
00:43:56
because you can't think of a profession these days that doesn't involve social media or the internet so you're you know in in an effort to try and
00:44:03
protect children sometimes we actually cause them a pretty substantial career disadvantage it should be taught at
00:44:08
schools it should be on the curriculum social media how to use it
00:44:14
when what to use it for how to get good at it the dangers the dangers of it it should be something that's taught it's
00:44:19
got to be more useful to them than some of the subjects that they're currently being taught in 2022 yeah
00:44:27
you know when you this is i mean this is not a nice topic to talk about because we're both manchester united fans but through all
00:44:32
you've been through in the era you grew up in and all of those famous influences you had that instilled those values in
00:44:38
you um and even the early initiations you had in that dressing room from the senior players and you know i read about
00:44:44
all of that stuff as well when you look at what's going on at the club today even though you're not you're not in the
00:44:50
dressing room you must have a pretty pretty strong hypothesis as to why manchester
00:44:55
united in 2022 are failing based on what you experienced
00:45:01
yeah i think it comes down to a lack of leadership and direction from the top and vision and um a deterioration of the sort of
00:45:09
beliefs over a long period of time i said last night actually that um a school that's underperforming over a
00:45:16
long period of time and getting poor results gets put in special measures by ofsted and by government
00:45:23
and they're not blaming the kids it means that the governors it means that the sort of the head teachers the
00:45:28
people at the top of the organisation at the school have not basically set the standards for those children and they've
00:45:34
let the school basically rot and the results become poor i think that's what's happened at united
00:45:40
it was a high performing school the head teacher has left the board of the governor's left david
00:45:47
gill and what's happened since is that they've been replaced with people who haven't got it and poor standards
00:45:54
have just meant that ultimately over a period of time there's become an embedded rot and that's what's happened and all the
00:46:00
kids the players look now like they haven't got a clue anymore and they're getting poor results
00:46:05
i don't believe all those manchester united players that are on that pitch are poor players when they came to the club some of those players i was really
00:46:11
excited by their arrivals and i've seen players that weren't as good as them go to other clubs in excel
00:46:18
so the environment the culture the
00:46:23
yeah the enthusiasm that you need to go into work every single day i don't believe has been created by the
00:46:29
hierarchy at the club and then there's been a sort of a a lack of investment into the facilities
00:46:35
into the stadium into the training ground so now tottenham liverpool liverpool now live people i used to
00:46:41
laugh when i used to go to anfield when i used to compare it to old trafford i used to think they can never catch up they're too far behind
00:46:47
they're just building that second stand now behind that left and goal where the away fans sit
00:46:53
and we saw it last night towering up the main stand now is towering up and it holds i don't know it holds 20 000.
00:46:59
anfield will be a more modern ground than manchester united and old trafford in 12 months that is unforgivable
00:47:07
from to think we're not all taking us on the pitch but actually they've overtaken us off
00:47:12
the pitch manchester city are light years ahead on and off the pitch tottenham have invested 1.3 billion in
00:47:17
stadium you've been to a tottenham stadium oh yeah it's out of this world it's it's uh the best in the world it's a museum it's the best in the world i
00:47:23
can't believe what i'm walking through when i see it and yet if you go to their training ground which i've been to it's an amazing
00:47:30
brilliant facility that is far better than carrington where we moved to in 2001.
00:47:35
we moved to carrington so in 2000 we moved to carrington we left the cliff training ground in salford so it's 22 years it's a bit of investment but in 20
00:47:43
years manchester united have not invested in the stadium they've not invested in the trading ground that much
00:47:48
and then they've lost the two main people and before you know it you've got a club that's really
00:47:54
struggling and i've said that in the last couple of years the only thing that i really do think can change it now is that is is
00:48:00
the ownership and i say that on here more calmly than i say on sky sports but it's it's not an
00:48:05
emotive subject anymore it's a very serious issue there is an embedded rot at the club
00:48:11
you know that they're walking past wendy's balls now don't you do you know what i mean no is in like signing wendy's balls oh
00:48:17
sorry yes personified for me yeah caring about values in every single touch point even the small stuff yeah and so i i was
00:48:24
thinking then i can almost imagine now those small expressions of our values as you said they come from the top down
00:48:30
yeah are probably now being missed it's funny because as fans we look at the thing we got he's not running fast enough or blame this player or fred or
00:48:36
does this play or whatever but when you've when you've worked for me when i've worked in an organization i realized that the values the culture
00:48:43
everything starts from the top and if you bring in great and as we've seen at manchester united you can bring in the best stars into a bad culture they'll
00:48:50
become bad performers yeah and um i always always said in a business context as well if the culture's strong enough
00:48:55
new people become the culture if the culture's weak the culture becomes the new people it's why i was kept at the age of thirty
00:49:01
three to thirty six in the yeah because you're a disciple of the course because because raphael de silva from brazil
00:49:07
comes in i'm the right back that's the senior right back and who does he look to
00:49:12
he looks to me he looks to paul scholes he looks to rio ferdinand
00:49:18
and he sees people that are at the very top of the game their experience their end of the careers that's why i looked
00:49:24
at steve bruce and brian robson eric cantona i had nowhere to go as a young player i knew i had to do what they had
00:49:30
to do else because they were all doing it every single day they've been doing it 15 years i do feel sorry for the current players
00:49:36
and that won't go down well with a lot of manchester united fans because a lot of manchester united fans will say they're overpaid and they're chanting it and bluffing it
00:49:42
they're not they're not i know some of those lads they're good lads if they were sat here now with me and you you'd
00:49:49
be thinking there's an element of vulnerability there there is a lack of confidence they're crying out for help
00:49:56
i wish they had sir alex i wish they had roy keane in the changing room with nemanja vidic and rio ferdinand at
00:50:01
centre-back and peter schmeichel in goal because if they did
00:50:06
they would grow they would thrive they would deliver if the manchester united team today
00:50:13
was david dahir in goal patrice everett left back harry maguire at centre-back
00:50:21
with varane it was me at right-back in midfield
00:50:26
there was roy keane and michael carrick on the left was marcus rashford on the
00:50:33
right was jaden sancho up front was martial
00:50:38
with rooney or hughes
00:50:44
those same five or six players that we're currently saying can no no not not good enough to play for manchester
00:50:50
united they would be outstanding if sir alex ferguson was the manager
00:50:55
if the culture was still there it's i don't honestly i i that might be
00:51:00
i don't even know what i've just said to be fair i've not said it before i'm trying to say if you surround yourself by those people
00:51:06
who've got those standards who've got that experience who can cradle you through the difficult moments like we
00:51:12
were when we were young players when when people said we won the league with kids we didn't we wouldn't have won the
00:51:17
league without the experienced players in that dress room around us and the guidance of alex ferguson they've not got that guidance off the pitch and
00:51:24
they've not got that guidance and comfort on the pitch i used to walk out in the tunnel with peter schmeichel in front of me roy
00:51:30
keane in front of him behind me obviously david beckham always went behind me but dennis hearing in front of me i felt safe i was 21 22 23 years of
00:51:39
age i felt safe i felt comfortable because i knew i was being looked after by experienced people
00:51:44
i knew that i was wasn't alone these players go out onto the pitch now they feel alone they don't feel like they've
00:51:50
got anybody that's where i am a little bit critical of cristiano you're the man you're the star
00:51:56
you're the you're the best player in the world come on now's not time to be throwing
00:52:01
your arms around now's not a time to be walking off the pitch now's the time to make sure you lead
00:52:06
those people but he wants to leave he wants to go and play somewhere else and that might happen and you could blame
00:52:12
him he wants to finish his career at a club that's achieving great things but i do think he is the only player in that
00:52:18
dressing room that could lead them because he's the only one that's got the inbuilt resilience and mental strength
00:52:25
to get through a moment like it won't be touching him this other than a personal frustration level the fact that he's
00:52:31
playing a team isn't giving him the chances the goals the success he wants but on a point of view of criticism he
00:52:36
won't be touching him he's he's he's played at real madrid he's played at manchester united he's won five six
00:52:41
champions league he's one ballon d'or he's not you can't touch him with the criticism or words it's impossible so he
00:52:48
can withstand all his pressure and protect those players on the pitch that's what i think roy keane did with
00:52:54
us what peter schmeichel did what cantona did what robson did they protected us if i took prime cristiano
00:53:00
ronaldo when he came in from portugal and i put him in today's team
00:53:06
he'd struggle each struggle i think he really would struggle without sir alex's guidance
00:53:11
without the patience of sir alex and carlos kiros who had that patience with him at the time do you think his career
00:53:16
would look entirely it would look different yo you speak to paul gascoigne and asked paul gasco when he chose tottenham over
00:53:23
manchester united and he says that if you come to manchester and work with sir alex he feels as though his career and
00:53:29
his life would have gone down a different path and that's why i said at the very start of this interview why am i like i am i was very fortunate
00:53:37
that i wasn't in the centre of london at 22 being led by experienced players who wanted to go
00:53:42
to nightclubs or to bars i was in manchester with dennis irwin and sir alex ferguson
00:53:50
and roy keane and mark hughes and brian robson who don't get me wrong they liked a night out but they knew also that that
00:53:55
had to come at the right time and they would be responsible and make sure you delivered on the pitch so i i feel blessed and privileged by
00:54:02
the influences that i had in my life we talk about influencers now in a different way don't we but actually we're heavily influenced by
00:54:09
the people that we come into contact with and that's where your luck comes in in life because i can't choose who i
00:54:14
come into contact with in life you know you walk into a business to take a job you don't know
00:54:19
that there are 150 people in the business there could be some really good people in there that influence you well and make it really comfortable for you
00:54:25
there could be some bad eggs that mean that you have to have a bad experience and influence you in a different way i just got really lucky throughout my
00:54:31
career that i arrived at united when they started within the premier league i then obviously had a brilliant manager
00:54:38
i had brilliant senior players i had good parents everything was right in my life to
00:54:44
influence me to be what i am today without that i'm not the person i am i wasn't gary neville resilient tough
00:54:49
mentally strong could handle anything better work ethic than anybody else when i was 10. i wasn't i was a kid just to
00:54:57
be fair going to school like everyone else but i had exceptional people around me i believe that helped me i don't believe these lads now in that dressing
00:55:03
room have got that around well they haven't got that around them i had a thought crossed my mind for the first time ever this week
00:55:10
and as a manchester united we're going to go down well i grew up my birth year was 1992. so i've only ever known great times at
00:55:17
manchester united pretty much yeah and it was the first time that i played out the scenario in my head that it's not guaranteed that we
00:55:24
return to being champions it's all i've ever known yeah and it was the first time that i started doing the equation of
00:55:30
like how do great clubs fall and this is one of the years where i've seen one of the real catalysts is okay
00:55:36
so the brand starts to deteriorate they lose commercial deals then great players like
00:55:41
harland and nunes yeah don't choose the club then we can't get great talent we
00:55:47
then don't have the money to get the great talent at an inflated price which we could have paid in in the first
00:55:52
couple years after the downfall and then i'm thinking okay so this could we could there's there's a chance
00:55:58
and i hate to say it because i'm an internal optimist it's embarrassing but every year when we do a little school predictions in my football chat i'm like
00:56:03
we're going to win the league every year for the last three years i'm deluded but
00:56:08
this was the first time i entertained the thought that we might it's not guaranteed that we return to the club we were um i i
00:56:16
put us in the top four every i did it last week you know my predictions but you know something i know full well we're not gonna finish in the top four but i have to just because it's the
00:56:22
manchester united inbuilt thing that you say we're gonna finish in the top four but that's how our expectations have dipped as well because we used to say
00:56:27
we're gonna finish top no i'm convinced manchester united will return
00:56:32
absolutely absolutely convinced why it's not arrogance this and it's not
00:56:38
because i'm biased and it's not because i've gone to watch the club since the age of five i've traveled around the world with the
00:56:44
club for the last 30 40 years i've
00:56:49
seen the extent of the fan base the emotion that exists within the fan base the scale of the club
00:56:55
and it's two the foundations are too deep but those foundations were created
00:57:01
because of like generational success yeah but we had it we had obviously we had the busby babes periods about busby
00:57:07
then we had 30 years 25 years before sir alex brought home a league title so
00:57:12
we've had 25 years before that we've gone through without success manchester united
00:57:18
um is not going away it's not going it's too big it's too big
00:57:23
it's too magical it's too good that is not that is not emotion that that is just if i i feel very very strongly
00:57:30
about that that is there is an element of cycle here that you know we get in sort of our down
00:57:35
period but we shouldn't accept that because i'm happy to lose football matches i'm happy to be fourth in the league third in league sixth in the
00:57:41
league if we're doing the right things so have we got a work manchester united should always have a world-class stadium
00:57:48
it hasn't it shows our best in class training facility it's always our best in class fun experience he should always
00:57:54
buy the best beam for the best players in the premier league he should always have young talent coming through and you
00:57:59
should always buy should always buy young emerging talent from overseas it's veered away from all five or six of
00:58:06
its key principles and objectives that it's always ever had any business does that then it's in trouble you've got
00:58:11
owners that to be fair and now taking dividends out of the club they're taking big large payments in debt out of the
00:58:17
club or interest payments on the debt out of the club all the money that the club generates to be fair is not going
00:58:22
back into the club and it's now come home to roost they only own 69 70 of the club and they need
00:58:28
a billion quid to be able to fulfill those infrastructure projects that are needed their walls are closing in on
00:58:33
them and they do need to do something big through partnership or through an investor or through
00:58:39
a sale in the next i think six to 12 months this cannot go on that was a
00:58:44
watershed moment at brentford on saturday what we were all experiencing in that stadium and i didn't obviously know you were in the stadium at that
00:58:50
time but now i know you were and you said you were just compelled to stay because you couldn't leave
00:58:55
everybody that i've spoken to was like i've not seen too many things like that in 30 years of
00:59:01
premier league and actually i never want manchester united to lose but actually it could have been an
00:59:07
important moment and a big moment where you actually start to think like you're thinking
00:59:12
could we you know people have said could we be relegated i said last night on television if we bring poor players in this next couple of weeks or don't bring
00:59:19
players in and cristiano does leave which i think he may we could finish in the bottom half of
00:59:24
the table with a 1.25 billion pound transfer spend in the last eight to 10 years i'm
00:59:30
finishing the bottom half of the table and so we are starting to think that way but i've no doubts it's going to return
00:59:36
it's it's it's too big it's too good it's fan base is too great it's it's enormous
00:59:43
it's it's i go i've been a i've been abroad and watched 15 50 000 people watch us train in thailand and malaysia
00:59:50
and in singapore and i've seen manchester the passion still for the club is huge and so it it's still full
00:59:55
now yeah it's just i just get concerned that if you know there's another generation that are growing up without the the experience i had and who are
01:00:01
they going to choose in terms of you know we'll lose something yeah we'll lose some we have to lose some on the way there was some collateral damage depends
01:00:08
how long we go through this if this is two decades then that's a whole generation that never saw what we saw
01:00:13
growing up also city city have done brilliant things pep guardiola is a genius the football is
01:00:20
mesmerizing the operation is slick um but
01:00:26
i say this because it will bring you know criticism from probably some football
01:00:31
fans and certainly for manchester city fans it will never ever be manchester united and that's not
01:00:37
arrogance it just cannot be what manchester city it can never replace manchester united in terms of scale and
01:00:44
size it can win trophies it can win more trophies but it can never be bigger in scale and size it's impossible it does
01:00:50
not have the roots the history that it just does not have it manchester united is two sets
01:00:56
we'll see i'm i'm not i'm not worried about the long term i'm very worried about the short term
01:01:01
um what one of the things that people don't know about you i believe because i was i'm you know i'm fairly well read on
01:01:09
on what you do but i didn't realize this is just the scale of your kind of business portfolio
01:01:15
it's it's quite honestly mental i don't do all of the meat the the media
01:01:20
stuff that you do i'm not you know on on tv all the time presenting football i'm not in that arena and when i look at
01:01:26
your business portfolio in mind i'm going this guy does as much as i do from a business perspective but you're not
01:01:31
you're not known to the world first and foremost as an entrepreneur maybe that's the second
01:01:37
thing people know you as a football legend second second thing will be entrepreneur and the second thing is you don't even like the word entrepreneur
01:01:42
not really no i don't i suppose it's like broadcast i don't like the word broadcaster maybe it's like maybe that is an insecurity
01:01:49
actually or a vulnerability people say to me you're a broadcaster but i don't feel like a broadcaster i don't feel like i've earned yeah i feel
01:01:55
like martin tyler or um you know dez lineum they're broadcasters
01:02:01
they're journalists they've they're experienced they do it i don't feel like a broadcaster because i feel still feel
01:02:07
young but i'm not young anymore that really in terms of i've been doing it now for 11 12 years and same with entrepreneur
01:02:13
if you always feel there's something a little bit can i swear it feels a little bit wanker-ish
01:02:29
a little bit but i think to be fair probably i should start calling myself that because i do have there what there is one constant they're all in greater
01:02:35
manchester um apart from a media career which can sometimes obviously be in london but they're all in greater manchester in salford trafford
01:02:41
manchester city center and i feel very focused around my investments in that and some people
01:02:47
would say that's naive you should expand beyond greater manchester no i'm passionate about where i come from where
01:02:52
i live and i want to invest back in to that part of the country so the two hotels the football club they develop
01:02:59
the big developments that we're doing the university um the project management consultancy all
01:03:06
of them in greater manchester and i want to continue to do things i don't think i'll do many more startups
01:03:12
although the overlap is a startup but just startups are hard do you think startups are hard oh that's so painful
01:03:18
they're rewarding but the pain i mean all of mine have been startups right apart from salford which to face a bit
01:03:23
of a startup it was like eighth tier the 170 fans they're all startups so not one of them has been sort of a business that
01:03:29
i've bought into which i'm not sure that that's that's the way i like it because we can influence them
01:03:34
and we can make them our you know our culture can come into the sort of businesses um but yeah i wanted to do a
01:03:40
lot in business but in greater manchester build teams it's the teams part of it that gives me great satisfaction and then
01:03:48
yeah i love the sectors that i'm in and it's crazy because when i look at your businesses when i've looked closely
01:03:53
at them you run really good businesses as it relates to
01:03:59
attention to detail your hotel in manchester the stock exchange hotel i have to say is by far my favorite hotel it's not
01:04:07
even close when i filmed dragon's den the first year um all the dragons stay at the lowry
01:04:12
even though it was my first year i was like please let's take the stock exchange hotel and i stayed there it's by far in a way there's nothing close to
01:04:17
it in manchester in my view no and i have to say some of my so the university i think is more of a social project to
01:04:23
trying to be more inclusive and sort of remove the barrier to higher education the football club started off as a sort
01:04:28
of a more of a social project in terms of bringing young players through and believing in young talent in football like we've been believed in but then i
01:04:35
also have this other side of me which is i want to raise standards we wanted hospitality to be the highest
01:04:41
level in manchester and the stock exchange was my ambition to create the number one hotel premium hotel in
01:04:47
manchester luxury hotel the same with the development set michael's which we hope to be the new number one hotel in
01:04:53
manchester when it's built a new five-star hotel manchester only has one five-star hotel in the city center those lowry's insult but there's like one
01:04:59
five-star hotel so then some people will throw at me you know how does that sit with your
01:05:05
sort of social conscience that you've got these sort of expensive apartments you've got these expensive hotel rooms you charge 40 pounds for a steak
01:05:13
and i'm like i think it's okay to be offended by manchester
01:05:18
not having enough affordable housing and also not having high-class luxury accommodation and
01:05:24
luxury products i'm offended by both why does manchester all have to be sort of pigeon-holed into this
01:05:30
three-four-star market so this idea that in manchester is that you know and i get called
01:05:35
champagne socialists sometimes and sometimes get criticized for the fact that they have a university that is trying to improve
01:05:42
you know inclusion and and and and access to higher education but then oh neville
01:05:48
he's just basically selling developments you know he's he's selling apartments for five six hundred thousand pounds
01:05:53
he's he's you know his rooms are 250 300 pounds at hotel football or stock exchange
01:06:00
but i'm offended by the fact that we can't raise the standards at sort of the highest level and the fact that we can't
01:06:05
look after people and make sure that everyone's got this sort of a house to be able to live in that's of a comfortable size and in the area they
01:06:12
want to live so i feel that i'm um a little bit torn between my projects
01:06:17
in what i feel but i want high standards in our city i want manchester i'm offended that manchester does not
01:06:23
have five-star international standard hotels it offends
01:06:28
me that london always has to have these things or that paris you know why do people from manchester have to go to
01:06:34
paris or london to experience five-star hospitality and service we should be able to get it
01:06:40
in our city so i want to drive investment into our city um and raised the standards that was
01:06:47
that was what the stock exchange was about raising standards of hospitality and we got to number one which was
01:06:52
really i mean it's but you're right because if there isn't that supply there for the high end then the economy is
01:06:58
going to suffer because you're right it won't attract business it won't attract um investment into the city if you know if
01:07:05
and that's you know i love coming to manchester because i you didn't pay me to say this but i love going staying at the stock exchange
01:07:10
hotel it's better than my house and at the standards there are you know unbelievable politics
01:07:16
you've become quite um political specifically on twitter in terms of social issues and using your voice to
01:07:23
shed lights on shadow light on things that you feel like are going wrong in politics what is the thinking there joe
01:07:29
something i think it's coming look the thinking is that i don't think it's not acceptable to be quiet anymore
01:07:35
if you're in a position of influence and if you're seeing something that's wrong it's like your stance on the glazes yeah
01:07:40
i think it's got to the point where i was i was quiet when i played at the club and to be fair we were winning so you think well okay winning to be fair
01:07:46
covers everything and then when you leave you think well i'm gonna second you know let's let them have time after
01:07:51
alex ferguson but it's got to the point now whereby i can't keep my mouth shut on it it's wrong it is just wrong same with uh with
01:07:59
johnson eventually his own party got to the same position that i was at and many others it's wrong we cannot have someone
01:08:05
like that leading our country i'm passionate about our country are you ever gonna do politics no i won't do politics and the reason i say that is
01:08:11
that you know sometimes you have this idea in your head don't you that you think could you go in but the reality is it means that i wouldn't be able to be
01:08:18
as honest as i am on television i wouldn't be able to do the sky sports i wouldn't be able to do the media i wouldn't be able to do my projects in
01:08:24
manchester because i feel conflicted with different things and i don't think i think i'm more
01:08:30
i think i can have a greater influence in greater manchester and with my voice in the media than i
01:08:35
would do being an mp for berry south i genuinely believe that i think i get caught up and stuck in the tree called
01:08:42
in the mud like everybody else that's what people say about politics just go in there you just get stuck
01:08:47
and i don't want to be stuck i want to be able to try and influence things in the private sector away from public
01:08:53
sector and we'll get called a champagne socialist for it and will get attacked heavily in the last 12 months
01:09:00
by people from the right side of the country in terms of you know i regularly every single day will get
01:09:07
attacked for being a champagne socialist when i talk about safer into the stock exchange or i talk about
01:09:12
um you know the st michael's development and then they say well how can you be arguing against boris johnson and how
01:09:19
can you be arguing how can you be in the labour party there's this idea that you can't be in the labour party and be
01:09:25
entrepreneurial and be successful and earn money that the labour party have got to change
01:09:30
that perception they've got to change that perception how is it that you cannot be someone who
01:09:36
owns a business makes profit hands that profit back to its shareholders and to the teams that you work with create a
01:09:42
great environment for them to work pay them well and that you believe everybody should have an equal opportunity how can you
01:09:47
not be labor and have those principles because we've been basically
01:09:52
conditioned to think that it's only the tory party that is good for business and the labour party has created that it's
01:10:00
so true it's one of the things that's really made me feel quite disenfranchised i grew up with in a labour family that i mean i've never
01:10:05
voted here in my life but in recent years as i've become more successful in my career i almost feel a little bit
01:10:12
sometimes by some people not everybody on the left but some people on the left that i'm inherently evil because of my
01:10:18
success like i'm inherently a bad person because i'm an entrepreneur or ceo and that that pushes you out it almost
01:10:24
pushes you into this middle i'm not going over to the right but and i want to belong somewhere so you're completely right and i don't think that's talked
01:10:30
about enough i was sorry i saw an interview on social yesterday actually in the middle of monday night football and it was an interview it was only
01:10:35
released yesterday it was with keir starmer and the gentleman asking him said you know what do you earn and he said hey 130 000 pounds a year
01:10:43
and he was about to start a line of questioning around cair's position on um energy and
01:10:49
the fact that you can afford the three thousand pounds four thousand pound energy bills this year
01:10:54
i was offended by that line of questioning the leader of the opposition in this country politicians in my
01:11:00
opinion should be the highest quality of business people and entrepreneurs to
01:11:05
be able to deliver the plan that we all want i think that we need to encourage people to go into
01:11:11
politics and the idea that the leader of the opposition was being attacked because he was 140 000 pounds because he's a labor
01:11:17
politician it's almost like you're a labor politician you shouldn't take the mp salary you should almost donate that to charity and work for like nothing i
01:11:24
mean that's just ridiculous so the perception of labor and what people think about labour is that if you're in
01:11:30
labour party you have to be on minimum wage you have to be a socialist you have to think like that no
01:11:36
you can think in a capitalist way but with some compassion and feel like you can
01:11:42
be equal with other people and and spread your wealth and that actually you can want people to be able to afford their energy bills and you can fight for
01:11:48
them even if you're in a sort of wealthy position yourself why can't i or you fight for people who can't afford their
01:11:54
energy bills this winter just because we have a bank account that's more than
01:11:59
people would like it to be i i don't get that i don't get that i don't understand it
01:12:04
yeah it's a weird thing i i don't get it we have to change that i think to perception and that's why i joined the labour party to think that actually i
01:12:11
can be successful i'm a northern north for a northern family that have done well i've earned good money and
01:12:17
continue to earn good money but my principles where i am now even though i'm an entrepreneurial
01:12:24
individual who to be fair as profit making companies i can be
01:12:29
uh i can be labour i can think with with a social conscience i i don't
01:12:34
think that's a problem to me that has to be the future of the labour party yeah you have to say because then you're the leader of it
01:12:42
either no no no no no i no no this is enough i like my life i don't know i get criticized as it is but um no
01:12:49
i i also have felt really disenfranchised by the left that i grew up um feeling part of
01:12:55
for that very reason and i i would love if anything to to see the next leader of the party really speak to that and that
01:13:02
would make me feel um energized again about politics
01:13:08
you talked about being attacked you've talked about this unbelievable relentless work ethic you have that when i say attacked you get attacked every
01:13:13
day on social media but because you've got a big voice you have it's unavoidable you've talked about this relentless work ethic you have and
01:13:20
you've talked about how you had that moment where you collapsed one day over the last 10 years our understanding
01:13:26
of mental health and male mental health has risen tremendously when i was growing up to have
01:13:32
a mental health issue meant that you were crazy that's what i thought that was the stigma we've come so far thankfully from that perception
01:13:39
what has your experience been with understanding your own mental health over the last
01:13:44
couple of decades and have you ever had a moment where you've gone i need to put my mental health first now
01:13:51
because you know other than that collapse moment where you've experienced anxiety or depression or these kinds of
01:13:57
ailments yeah i think that obviously losing my confidence as a football player being criticized stopping
01:14:03
having to stop reading the newspapers of the day at the age of 24 didn't read a national news didn't read a tabloid newspaper
01:14:08
from the age of 24 through to the end of my career why because they were damaging damaging hell
01:14:15
um if you read something really critical of yourself in the national newspaper and the thought then millions of people
01:14:20
are also reading that particularly when you're young and you're vulnerable it impacts you and you lose confidence
01:14:26
and i did lose confidence i lost form got criticized heavily by newspapers would read the newspapers and
01:14:32
it would have a direct impact on me physical impact no no direct impact on me in terms of how i felt it would drain
01:14:38
me of confidence and then you get you almost then lose more confidence about six months this went on for i also at
01:14:43
the time had lost um i had come out of a relationship um with someone i'd been engaged to and
01:14:49
been with for seven years so i had two things going on at once once i'd lost my form and i'd come out of a longer-term
01:14:54
relationship and at that point i did feel really low didn't tell anybody as you would you wouldn't do back in sort
01:15:00
of well what that win 1990 it was 2 000
01:15:06
2000 1990 1999 2024 25 years of age um made two big mistakes against vasco
01:15:14
de gama played a poor tournament for england in euro 2000 and it went on for six months
01:15:20
but went to see a psychiatrist and i got coping mechanisms i got coping mechanisms things that basically he
01:15:27
talked to me about about how to put things into perspective and that dealt with my mental health issues at the time
01:15:33
and it also helps me to deal with things that come forward now of a critical nature when you say you were feeling low
01:15:38
what were the symptoms of feeling low for those six months not wanting to play not wanting to take the ball on the pitch and confident to take the ball and
01:15:45
pass it hiding a little bit fearing games coming forward anxious about games coming thinking about my
01:15:51
relationship breakup during matches which is unthinkable for me i remember playing a european game away i think it was either
01:15:57
in anderlecht or somewhere like that and actually thinking in the middle of the pitch about my ex-girlfriend and
01:16:03
thinking i'm playing for manchester united this is not what's going on and it impacted me in thinking that but then
01:16:09
that happens i'm sure to every single football player so i knew that at that point then i needed to see somebody
01:16:15
because i wasn't playing well um he sucked me against real madrid in the quarterfinal of the european cup um and had a nightmare absolute
01:16:22
nightmare um and i thought i remember we won the league that year
01:16:27
at southampton away i remember jumping up there's a picture of me jumping up on the pitch with the
01:16:33
rest of the players and me feeling empty and not even feeling like celebrating it
01:16:39
i always remember that and it was the worst league that we ever won for me but for others it might have been a
01:16:44
great league but for me i just hated that league i didn't enjoy it at all i feel like i just needed to stop and you
01:16:49
know i felt like i was spinning on a roundabout and i couldn't get off it i remember saying that to the
01:16:54
psychiatrist at the time and they started to put these little coping mechanisms in place
01:17:00
so if i get nervous before a game think about what you're going to be doing later on that you're going to enjoy if you have a really bad day think about
01:17:07
something simple like did you ask yourself a simple question like i said before did you always think you're going to have a good day every day such a good
01:17:13
question i love that question yeah yeah i thought i think i've got some pretty bad days going forward it's like
01:17:19
self-compassion almost yeah that's how i do that's how i dealt with my dad did i think that my there was a good chance in
01:17:24
my life that my dad would die before me yeah i i i was prepared for it
01:17:31
and that's not right but that's how i dealt with it really simply there was always going to come a point where my
01:17:36
parents and grandparents were likely to die before me and i would have to deal with that
01:17:41
what we can never ever comprehend is obviously losing someone that's younger than you in your family we can't
01:17:47
comprehend that that's the unthinkable that's the one thing if you said to me that sort of breaks me um
01:17:53
that you know i think i think would break me completely but then on the other side we know that you know my
01:17:59
grandparents literally were in their eighties my dad literally was 65 i thought i'd like i'd loved him to have lived another
01:18:05
10 15 years of of course but he didn't but i was able to deal with it through the idea that
01:18:11
he lived his life to the full he didn't make those changes that i'm probably not making now he carried on going out with
01:18:16
my sister and the mates till 3 4 in the morning having a drink traveling to australia watching her play and
01:18:21
you know living life watching united every single weekend doing the things that he loved and you know his life was
01:18:27
taken away at the age of 65. so i could almost explain that to myself and deal with it in a pragmatic way
01:18:33
some people say you know some people close me i've still not dealt with it five six seven years on because i've not
01:18:39
probably shown the proper emotion and grief that i should have done through it but
01:18:44
i feel like i have dealt with it i feel like i have dealt with it um
01:18:49
just through being able to put those coping mechanisms in place so i always feel we all need those simple coping mechanisms for others it
01:18:56
might not be the same as me one of the big things i think of me is definitely training
01:19:01
so i blew up at sky one boxing day where i just wrote i always got the sprint to christmas where everyone tries to get everything before christmas and then you
01:19:07
just collapse when you stop boxing day one year the only time i've ever missed a sky game
01:19:13
uh everton the hull boxing day i was going to hull i woke up in the morning i couldn't get out of bed and i just run
01:19:19
myself into the ground i stopped training i was eating too much i put weight on you'll see in the first few
01:19:24
years after sky and i'd stop doing the things that kept me well so training now if i don't train for a
01:19:31
week i feel terrible not just physically i feel it up here i've got one of those
01:19:37
bodies because i've been a football player i know when i've put
01:19:42
i feel every chip so i can feel it here i can pinch myself we're all the same as football we had
01:19:48
our body fat you know once a week we're weighing ourselves every day because we know that's a big part of our performance
01:19:54
hydration nutrition weight is a big part of our performance and so i know it i've lived it for 15 20
01:20:00
years but then i stopped doing that for the first five six years out of football and then you blow up and then you feel
01:20:06
awful you look awful and you've got people on twitter sending you you know
01:20:12
jesus you're carrying a bit you know what i mean stop eating the chips choose the salad
01:20:17
all those things get sent to you and you look at yourself in the mirror and you think they're right aren't they and then you
01:20:23
start to think oh i've got to change so you eat a little bit better you eat a lot better and then you train and
01:20:30
training for here is it just frees me i i no one likes it i do it first thing in
01:20:36
the morning but once i've finished it i feel like i can go and i wasn't doing that so
01:20:42
that's the important part of my mental health strategy now is just to feel better buy and the one thing i need to
01:20:48
deal with is alcohol cause i like a glass of wine you know like i drink one or two glasses
01:20:53
of wine but colvid i drink one or two glasses one every night
01:20:59
and then now even now i'm not just oh i'm at home tonight so for the play at home so i can't wait it's one of the greatest moments in my life now tonight
01:21:06
you will get nothing out of me between 7 45 and 10 o'clock so for the plane away in newport i'm not going but i'm going
01:21:12
to put the feed on on my telly but i'll have a glass of wine and it's a magical moment but i don't
01:21:18
need it so i've got to stop doing that we'll find out
01:21:23
tonight liverpool are playing
01:21:28
2015 um your dad passes away when i was reading that in your story upstairs and the age
01:21:35
he passed away it struck a little bit closer to home because um i
01:21:40
feel like in my life my dad has had a tremendous influence on me and i feel like my relationship is not
01:21:46
as close as it could be with him and he has outlived all of his siblings but in my view had a much more stressful life
01:21:53
and he's 65 and i guess the question i had for you is like
01:22:01
what advice would you give for me and is there anything that you wish you had said or done whilst you all behaved
01:22:08
differently whilst that person was here that you now know in hindsight
01:22:16
um he's the only i don't ring people i don't speak to don't i don't read my
01:22:22
brother every day i don't text my sister every day i don't remember every day around my dad every day three four times
01:22:27
a day the only constant in my life every single day my dad um
01:22:32
advice looking after things what you up to he loved picking the kids
01:22:38
up so i made i put his office next to our house as well so that he has basically
01:22:44
looked after my stuff as well so for me he was the constant in my life every single day and that constant's
01:22:50
gone now and i always say this i've still got him at the top of my favorites and my speed dials and i never move him
01:22:56
and it freaks me out sometimes you know when you're clunky with your fingers and you press the button just by mistake because my mum's underneath him you want
01:23:01
to remember and some the odd time once a year maybe or whatever you press you know
01:23:07
dadmob and it freaks me out a little bit because i think and it makes me get well up a little bit because i think i used
01:23:13
to ring him every single day three four times a day just went overnight i couldn't ring him anymore so that's
01:23:20
the constant has gone so in terms of advice obviously i don't know your relationship with my my dad's relationship with me was so influential
01:23:27
but it would be to i say that i think this sometimes with my mum what excuse have i got not to ring my
01:23:33
mum every single day i've got no excuse not to ring my mum every single day for two or three minutes and ask how she is but i don't
01:23:40
my brother does my sister does but i don't have that relationship with my mum i had it with my dad
01:23:46
i had it with my dad so for me just speaking to him every single day
01:23:51
um i i wish you couldn't tell my dad to stop going
01:23:57
out with my sister and the mates to stop going out with his mates stop going to the football to stop traveling away to watch united in europe all those things
01:24:04
that may have taken years off his life because people people say to me do you miss your dad
01:24:10
i say i do but what i miss most is what he's missing with my children
01:24:17
and my brother's children and my sister's little boy that gets to me because i know how good he was with him
01:24:23
i know i i saw it for six seven years it was unbelievable he adored them and he was starting to
01:24:31
slow down because of them he was starting not he was starting to make this used to stay at home to look after him rather than going out
01:24:37
but he'd gone out for 15 years and he had a brilliant life did everything
01:24:43
you know he did absolutely all those sort of things that you you you read out at the beginning of the 217
01:24:48
caps and the the tournaments were my sister he was every single one of them
01:24:54
he was every single one of them he didn't miss a manchester united game i went i walked out onto the pitch 602
01:25:00
times for manchester united and i waved at my dad 602 times
01:25:06
there in that spot every single time or in the away ended up to try and find him but that was easy because he was six foot
01:25:11
two and he had a massive big wire you know ahead of her and i waved him every single game and if i didn't wave to my
01:25:17
dad i could tell i found my dad somebody odd gave me away end you're newcastle away you've seen that the way you sat up
01:25:23
in that top bit you're like you're looking for ages and i couldn't settle until i found him
01:25:28
i couldn't settle that was one of the things like a superstition whether it's a routine so to miss that from my life i missed
01:25:34
that idea of he was just there and i feel comfortable he's there right i'm okay
01:25:41
dad anything happened no i know everything's good okay bye bad spot swimming you know anything it's
01:25:46
that you know it's that that's so maybe speak to your dad maybe
01:25:54
ring him every morning maybe making me first text people say you've you've not grieved
01:26:00
that some people close to me do because they're wondering because maybe maybe
01:26:05
emma maybe maybe my sister i don't know what phil thinks about it maybe i don't know because i just carried on we all
01:26:11
maybe we all carried on maybe we all carried on you know i you know on the day that
01:26:17
obviously he died it was only a couple of weeks ago the anniversary of it you know i always text
01:26:22
mum you know i miss him so much mum and you know i feel that's the one time
01:26:30
where i feel like i connect with my mum and i don't feel like i can even talk to my mum on it because i know sometimes that you know
01:26:36
when when you've got parents that you're so close to and then they've been together
01:26:42
what you then find is my mum's been unbelievable since you know my dad passed away
01:26:47
she's absolutely unbelievable my mum but there are times when we're out for a meal together or i can see it and she'll
01:26:53
just disappear and she'll stare into the distance and i know where she is
01:26:58
but i can i never say i know where you are mum i know what you're thinking about i don't feel like i ever should say that
01:27:05
because it's my mum's space it's my mum's thought and you know it's how we deal with it
01:27:10
it's how we deal with it at home we just know because i said to her you're right mum but sometimes maybe they'll say are you
01:27:16
all right yeah i'm fine you'd never get anything out of her that's not what you know we don't bring
01:27:21
our problems on to each other you don't bring your problems onto each other in our family that's how we do it but that's not right
01:27:28
we should talk to each other we should encourage each other but just the way we've dealt with things but in our businesses now in a way
01:27:33
we try all the time to encourage people to speak to make sure that they reach out
01:27:39
but it's not how we probably act internally there's almost a bit of um i i'm
01:27:46
guessing from what you've described him as a lot of that might have come from your father that that or was he a an expressive
01:27:53
emotionally experienced but he had emotion to be firm i think my mum's probably less emotional than my dad really yeah i think my dad's quite
01:27:58
emotional but again he probably did yeah he wouldn't push his stuff on to others i don't
01:28:04
think but you didn't do did you you don't do no i say the 70s and 80s period you don't push your stuff on to others
01:28:10
because the parents of my mum and dad grew up coming out of the world war
01:28:16
so everything in perspective is that you've not got a problem you've not got a problem we had problems
01:28:21
back then so don't you whinge about this but we know in this generation now
01:28:27
i think have to adapt and change because there's a consequence to not speaking about these things there is
01:28:33
there is they stay stored in the back room and they come out as you know alcoholism or yeah they do addictions
01:28:38
and anger we've all seen that in people around us and it shocks and surprises us you know i've got a couple of friends
01:28:44
who've had issues in the last four or five years that i would never have imagined would never have even thought
01:28:49
and you think have i not spotted that have not seen that how we're not opened up to each other
01:28:55
about that it happens it happened that in all walks of our life
01:29:02
in all walks of our life so we have to we have to encourage it hopefully that's what we're doing here
01:29:09
yeah i hope so when you know i read that you when you look forward at your future you kind of plan in 10-year cycles
01:29:15
so the obvious question is what is what is what is the next 10 years about for you because you know i don't i don't
01:29:22
feel like i believe that you're you're doing what you're doing because there is some
01:29:27
finish line in sight it was like we set up a university i
01:29:33
remember the vice chancellor of lancaster said you do realize you're entering into something with no exit
01:29:39
yeah i like the idea of that no exit
01:29:44
can't sell ua 92 how can we we are you a92 you can't sell your own university
01:29:50
you can't in my opinion it's what we are that to me is perfection there is no finish line thing should go on forever
01:29:56
that you've created so we don't think short term i don't think short term i never think short term but like i say i think i came
01:30:03
out of football thinking the next 15 years were critical to establish myself in business and to try and remove that
01:30:09
tag of gary neville ex-manchester united football player that was my target that was my plan
01:30:15
so whether that be media would that be in business whatever that might mean so i'm three years away from that i do
01:30:21
feel like there are bumps in the road there always are with businesses but i feel like i'm on track i need to continue to keep working hard
01:30:27
and focus but i wanted from 50 to 60 to be laser focused and try and work on one particular thing and that would be a
01:30:34
result of my previous 30 years in work the football experience the business experience the media experience and
01:30:39
bring it together into something that i can go and do that's special i want to do something special
01:30:45
in my life um special to me not necessarily especially in sort of you know a greater
01:30:50
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01:31:36
asked pretty much i think the last 10 guests as well which is if you were to view your own personal happiness and fulfillment as a
01:31:43
recipe of ingredients and these ingredients come in different quantities but together they make you happy
01:31:49
when you look at that list of ingredients what do you think is missing from that recipe for you to be
01:31:54
completely happy yeah good question or a difficult
01:32:00
question it must be good if i can't answer it shut me up on it well i i i this isn't the question but i i've asked
01:32:06
the last ten guest that exact question which is you know if you view your happiness as this list of ingredients and it's a recipe do i have that's the
01:32:13
problem i remember interviewing tyson fury and he said i said what what what does success look like for you or what does the future last you he said just to
01:32:19
be happy i thought how simple is that i never think like that because
01:32:24
the goals yeah even with football i never enjoyed it while i was doing it yeah it's crazy though because i just
01:32:30
felt so intense so i don't feel like i'm ever assessing what makes me happy or what
01:32:37
why i'm doing what yeah i i feel like i'm just like you're just doing it yeah
01:32:42
yeah there is an element of that what makes me happy watching salford
01:32:48
and winning makes me happy spending time with my children when they're in a when they're in their good
01:32:54
space makes me really happy what would make you more happy that's that's what i'm getting at is if what ingredient is potentially missing or out of balance in
01:33:01
that recipe i know others would say to be present more what would you say
01:33:10
to be on the mountain in ski lodge isolated away from everything
01:33:16
it's weird in it i don't know i feel free on top of them i've obviously found skiing after
01:33:23
football feels really sort of basic what i've just said you're asking me something really deep no but there's something profound in
01:33:29
that that solitude yeah solitude and isolation and
01:33:34
not you'll put that helmet on the mask on i'm up on that mountain
01:33:39
and i'm free the air's fresh and i feel like wow free from what
01:33:46
from this having to talk all the time i think i'm quite no no no no
01:33:52
no i think i'm tired i think i'm a little bit tired of hearing my own voice i think that the next thing that i do at
01:33:58
the age of 50 has to be something that means that gary neville doesn't speak as much
01:34:03
[Music] [Laughter] so the closing question that's been written for you from from our previous
01:34:09
guest is what are some words you've not said to somebody why haven't you said them and who should you have said them to
01:34:18
i think it would be to my mum
01:34:23
that her and her mum and dad
01:34:30
of all the people i always talk about having the influence on my life sir alex ferguson i mentioned all the time i mentioned my dad a lot i
01:34:37
mentioned eric harrison a lot nobby styles roy keane all the influences i've ever have
01:34:42
i never mentioned my mum and without a shadow of a doubt she's the best person that i've ever met
01:34:47
in my life and her mum and dad were the best people i ever met in my life that's making me a little bit upset
01:34:54
and they were the people who i think keep me grounded every single day
01:35:01
because they're just good people who do the right things who look after the
01:35:06
family who put their family before everything and i don't do that why does that make you upset
01:35:12
because they put the family before everything and would drop anything for anybody in their
01:35:19
family their immediate family but i don't and emma is similar
01:35:26
emery's similar they're far better people than i am
01:35:32
i feel that you know i mean i never tell them because they
01:35:37
that traditional you know they do their job they get up they work they look after their family
01:35:43
their responsibilities to their family whereas you know i'm
01:35:48
floating around so yeah it would be that i think
01:35:55
for them to know that that i i don't take it for granted i understand the the importance of of that in my life and in
01:36:03
our lives the most i've ever grieved in my life was when my mum's dad died he was the
01:36:08
first person that had ever died i was i was looking for my grandparents i was 30
01:36:13
and my mum's dad died and i came home two days after my honeymoon
01:36:19
started he died two days into my honeymoon and i came straight home i didn't even break i just got on a plane
01:36:26
from the seychelles because i had to because he deserved that he deserved
01:36:31
that sacrifice for me to give up the honeymoon and emma was fine with it
01:36:36
because he had such an incredible influence on my life gave up all his time for me took me everywhere
01:36:42
cooked for me was there three four nights a week i didn't need to do that
01:36:49
so there those those three people and there are there are others obviously
01:36:54
but i think those three people and you know emma is very similar
01:37:00
gary thank you so much thank you um i've watched you for my entire life on tv as a huge united fan growing up um and then
01:37:07
obviously even to this to this day on the overlap and what you do across broadcast television and i i think it's
01:37:14
amazing and i i've after this conversation i figured out why you've managed to sort of grace so many different industries and reach the top
01:37:20
in all of those endeavors um and it's because of that those the set of values that were instilled in you and that that
01:37:26
you clearly exude today your relentlessness your focus on hard work and all of these kind of old school
01:37:32
values which i think are a little bit lost in our generation thank you for the inspiration thank you you've inspired me so tremendously and your vulnerability
01:37:38
and your willingness to be open in that regard i think is going to create a better future in many respects
01:37:44
from for young men that are that are driving towards their ambitions and young women but also as it relates to
01:37:49
politics and what's going on in our society so you're in a very important person and it's unbelievable that a
01:37:55
manchester united um a manchester united right-back has gone on to do all of these things but it's a
01:38:02
huge inspiration for me and many many people that are listening i'm sure thank you so thank you huge huge honor i have
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