The Love Expert: Why Women Are Addicted To Toxic Men,"Have A Boring Relationship Instead!" Logan Ury
- Oct 26, 2023
- 1:48:34
- Full Episode
If you want to hear more dating and relationship advice, I recommend you check out my most recent conversation with Jay Shetty, which you can find here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cLTUA1lneS0
0:00 Intro 02:10 Why Does Your Work Matter? 05:55 Attachment Theories, which one are you? 11:26 What To Do As An Avoidant Attached person 19:31 How To Find A Secure Partner & Maintain A Healthy Relationship 35:03 The "secretary problem" That Could Save Your Love Life 38:48 What To Do As An Anxious Attached Person 45:02 Why Icks Are Stopping You Finding Love 50:00 3 Dating Tendencies 01:02:02 Why You Need To Skip The Small Talk! 01:09:37 The Number One Way To Find Love 01:18:15 8 Date Questions To Find The One 01:28:06 The Qualities You Should Be Looking For In A Person (backed by science) 01:37:43 How To Get The Perfect Dating Profile 01:44:29 The Last Guest's Question
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Brief Summary
Logan Ury discusses dating science, attachment theory, and practical advice for finding love in this insightful episode.
Key points
- Understanding Dating Tendencies. Most people suffer from three dating tendencies that hold them back from finding love.
- The Importance of Secure Attachment. Securely attached partners are the heroes of the relationship world.
- The Addictive Nature of Relationships. Exploring how the partial reward schedule makes relationships feel exciting yet unhealthy.
- The Secretary Problem in Dating. A mathematical approach to dating that helps you recognize the best partner.
- Understanding Digital Body Language. Research on how texting signals interest or disinterest in dating.
- Dating Tendencies Explained. Discussion of three common dating tendencies and their unrealistic expectations.
Episode highlights
- Understanding Dating TendenciesMost people suffer from three dating tendencies that hold them back from finding love.“Most people suffer from one of these three dating Tendencies.”0:43Oct 26, 2023
- The Importance of Secure AttachmentSecurely attached partners are the heroes of the relationship world.“Securely attached partners are the heroes of the relationship world.”20:41Oct 26, 2023
- The Addictive Nature of RelationshipsExploring how the partial reward schedule makes relationships feel exciting yet unhealthy.“That's how slot machines work; sometimes I get what I want and sometimes I don't.”23:44Oct 26, 2023
- The Secretary Problem in DatingA mathematical approach to dating that helps you recognize the best partner.“A great relationship is the culmination of a series of decisions.”33:34Oct 26, 2023
- Understanding Digital Body LanguageResearch on how texting signals interest or disinterest in dating.“What is your digital body language saying?”43:58Oct 26, 2023
- Dating Tendencies ExplainedDiscussion of three common dating tendencies and their unrealistic expectations.“Most people suffer from one of these dating tendencies.”51:10Oct 26, 2023
- Dating Like a ScientistEncouragement to experiment with dating approaches and preferences.“Date like a scientist; test your hypotheses.”1:00:18Oct 26, 2023
- The Power of VulnerabilityVulnerability creates deeper connections in relationships. It's a magnet, not a repellent.“Vulnerability is the bridge to connection.”1:10:16Oct 26, 2023




