HOW TO STOP YOUR MARRIAGE ENDING IN A DIVORCE!

I recently got engaged, and thankfully she said yes!

So I asked James Sexton back for the third time to help me understand how to give this the best chance of working.

For those of you who don’t know, James Sexton is one of the world’s leading divorce lawyers.

He’s been practising law for over 20 years, and he’s sat across from people whose relationships are ending.

And what he’s seen is that most couples don’t fall apart because of one big moment. It’s often slow and unnoticed, and by the time couples realise it they’re already distant.

So many of you comment on how much you love seeing James on the show because he speaks plainly about love. Not in theory or optimism, but from the reality of what actually happens when love starts to slip.

James brought me through why modern love is under pressure and why love without effort won’t survive.

So I wanted to know:

- Should everyone get a prenup? - How do you fight without destroying the relationship? - What makes someone cheat, even if they still love their partner? - Can independence and intimacy co-exist? - What’s the single biggest mistake couples make after the honeymoon phase ends?

I didn’t come into this conversation looking for warning signs, I came looking for tools.

And what James shared left me thinking deeply about the kind of partner I want to be.

Because at the end of the day, it all comes back to love. We talk a lot about independence, but that mindset doesn’t always serve us in relationships.

I’ve spent years building my own world - and like James said, sometimes that means you end up in a castle with a moat.

It made me think about how easy it is to chase achievement, but miss the thing we all really want.

And most people only realise that once it’s at risk of slipping away.

If you’re in love or want to understand why it went wrong, this is the episode for you.