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in my early 20s was the first time I experienced postnut clarity and it was I think it was 2 3 a.m. in the morning.
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Here's me talking about my masturbation. It was like 2 3:00 a.m. in the morning and there was this person that I was
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like vaguely interested in. I think I'm like 21 years old. I'm like I'm going to
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get in my car. I'm going to get in my car at 3:00 a.m. and drive for 55 minutes. And I decide to masturbate
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instead. And immediately after I masturbated instead, it was like a completely different person inhabited my
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body. I was like, why? Within seconds, I was like, why the [ __ ] were you going to
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get out of bed at 3:00 a.m. in the morning and drive for 55 minutes to meet someone you have really no interest in?
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And it was like that person could not recognize the person I was 10 minutes earlier.
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And I I I remember one day trying to explain this to um a woman and she couldn't understand it. And I actually
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think she was quite offended by it. the the woman becomes a sexual object. It's you're not a human anymore. And like the
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reason they're offended is because that's exactly what happens in that moment. There are such powerful drivers
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in our brain to drive us to procreate that like we don't view them as a complex human being with thoughts and
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feelings, right? We are just really really horny. And that's literally what happens like in our brain. We stop
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viewing them as complex objects. And so the reason they get offended is is sort of cuz they're right. And all all men I
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I hope will experience postnut clarity. And also like that doesn't make us bad men. It's a it's a physiologic thing.
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And I think the key thing about whether you're good or bad is the way that you manage it, right? And that's kind of
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what I'm talking about is like you have to understand what is happening in your brain in order to then willfully take a
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step back and and sort of like think about what am I feeling? And then eventually once we
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understand where postnut clarity comes from, we can cultivate it without having to nut.