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THE CONFIDENCE LIE WE ALL BELIEVE

January 27, 2026 / 01:15

This episode discusses confidence, decision-making, and the influence of social circles on self-assurance. Key topics include the nature of confidence, the importance of surrounding oneself with capable individuals, and insights from law enforcement experiences.

The conversation highlights that highly confident individuals, such as former SEALs and US Secret Service members, often do not overthink their confidence. They simply exist in a state of being confident without excessive analysis.

It is emphasized that being the most confident person in a room can be detrimental. Instead, one should seek out environments where learning and growth occur, rather than being the sole source of confidence.

The episode also touches on how law enforcement professionals are perceived as confident due to their need to make critical decisions in high-pressure situations, which fosters self-trust and decisiveness.

Listeners are encouraged to become decision-makers in their own lives to build confidence, rather than relying on external validation.

TLDR

Confidence comes from decision-making and surrounding yourself with capable people.

Episode

1:15

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If you're the most confident person in the room, it's probably not a good

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thing. >> What can one do to build their confidence? >> I've been around very confident people,

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former SEALs, US Secret Service. I've never heard anyone talk about it. I think one of the secrets is they don't

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think about it. They don't give it that much life. I just am. I just are. Stop

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overanalyzing. Just be you. Just do. Confident people, they have a good circle around them, meaning they're very

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aware and meticulous of who's around them and who they associate with. If you're around insecure people, it it

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bleeds on you. Like, you're going to absorb what other people are. If you're

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the most confident person in the room, it's probably not a good thing. You want

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to be around people you learn from. It can't just be you're at the top and

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everybody's looking to you. Research shows law people in law enforcement are

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perceived to be highly confident because they're decision makers. You make decisions on the spot, everyday life and

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death decisions, and there's nobody to turn around to be like, "Hey, can I ask

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you your opinion on this? What do you think I should do with this guy wielding this knife? Should I shoot? Should I

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not? Should I pull out the pepper spray? I mean, what would you do in this moment? You'd be dead, whether right or

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wrong. When you're used to making those decisions and believing in yourself and

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trusting in yourself that you're making the best decision you can with the information you have at that moment,

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that builds confidence. Be a decision maker.

Episode Highlights

The Confidence Paradox
Being the most confident person in the room can be a red flag.
“If you're the most confident person in the room, it's probably not a good thing.”
@ 00m 03s
January 27, 2026
Decision Making Builds Confidence
Making tough decisions daily fosters self-trust and confidence.
“When you’re used to making those decisions and believing in yourself... that builds confidence.”
@ 01m 12s
January 27, 2026

Episode Quotes

If you're the most confident person in the room, it's probably not a good thing.
THE CONFIDENCE LIE WE ALL BELIEVE
Just be you. Just do.
THE CONFIDENCE LIE WE ALL BELIEVE

Key Moments

Confidence Dynamics00:03
Decision Making01:12