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If you had to give one relationship ritual to stay in love, what would that be? >> Once a week, tell your partner three
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things that you love about them and three things they could have done better. >> But some people thinking, well, if I
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told Dave that we're going to start writing these notes to each other, he's
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going to cringe and not going to do it. I honestly Dave can't name three things he likes about you. Really,
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Dave? Is that a big ask? I absolutely call on that. The bigger question is what's uncomfortable about
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that for you? And look, I'm not a therapist. I'm a divorce lawyer. I represent some of the most high
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achieving minds, athletes, entrepreneurs, and they're just as bad at this as anybody because there's a
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part of us that's afraid to poke at what do you love about me? What am I getting
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wrong? And it's not just romantic relationships. Like, my mom died 10 years ago after a long
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battle with cancer. There was a lot between us that needed to be said and wasn't said.
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And there's a part of me that wishes she was here so that I could have apologized
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for some things I got wrong. But we don't do that because people just don't
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want temporary discomfort. And so I think there's something deeply courageous about love, about commitment,
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about saying I'm going to give them the opportunity to hurt me. Like it's scary,
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but I'm brave. You know, your marriage will end. It ends in death or divorce.
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And for two people at the end of their relationship to say, "This person helped
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me become the most authentic version of myself." That's the greatest gift you
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could give to another human being. And as you can see from this photo, I just proposed to my fianceé and I'd like some
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advice on how not to mess this up. Like if my fiance ends up walking into your practice, what is the reason she's
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likely to end up there? The number one reason that I'm going to have a woman
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sitting across from me divorcing someone who's a great provider, great protector
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is that is not obvious to everybody >> and it'll keep me in business for the
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rest of my life.