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Men get caught cheating more often than women. >> Does that mean they cheat more?
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>> No, it means they get caught cheating more. You know, I know people love
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statistics and I know that that you know, guests have a tendency to come on and say, "Well, 72% of people who are I
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there are certain things that I I I just don't think you can accurately track
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because unless you have real reliable data and I don't really consider self-reporting surveys that good of a
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data because they tell you a lot about what people would like to think they believe or that people would like to be
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perceived as believing or the kinds of people that fill out surveys, what they might have to say I everything I'm
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saying is based on what I've observed in 25 years of facilitating the demise of
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marriages. This is direct observation. I've thrown a little of my own sort of
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experience onto that. I mean, facts all come with points of view, but I'm very
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careful to not, you know, be like speculating. I'm I'm really looking at
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what's in front of me. Men and women both cheat. Men cheat in just more scattershot stupid ways than women do.
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When women cheat, in my experience professionally, it's like a more like a professional hit like and it's usually
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an indication of like the it's the absolute end of this relationship. The relationship is over and this is either
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a soft place to land or it's sort of a final opportunity for this person to solidify, this woman to solidify in her
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head that yeah, this thing is over. Whereas men, I've really had hundreds at
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this point of men sit across from me who've been caught in an affair or sense
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that they're about to get caught in an affair and they say to me like, "Yeah,
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this had nothing to do with my wife. Like, I love my wife. It had nothing to do with that. It just I don't know. I
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just I don't know why I did what I did. I just did it.