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Is there a way, do you think, to train and develop your gut instinct? >> Yeah. Stop asking everybody what they
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think when I have a really big decision to make. I don't tally people. In fact,
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the bigger it is, the bigger the consequences or the bigger the the pain or the trauma, whatever it is, I go in
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because they're going to confuse me. That's what you do. You stop asking
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people. And if you're going to ask somebody, let's say it's a health
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decision, you're going to go to a doctor or you're going to go to someone who has
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specific knowledge about a decision you are trying to make. You're not going to
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go to mom. You're not going to go to dad. You're not going to go to your
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brother. You're not going to go to people who don't have that who although
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they love you, their opinions are going to send you like a pingpong ball. That's
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how you become unsteady. And you can start small. When I say start small is start making decisions without running
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them by anybody. What to eat, where to go, where to vacation, just you can start small. It's just allow yourself to
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be the decision maker. Allow yourself to be in the driver's seat. But what we do
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is we invite people in the car. We're like, "Yeah, yeah, you could drive my
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car. No problem." They get in the driver's seat. We put them in the driver's seat. Then we're in the
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passenger seat. Or we might even get kicked to the back seat. And then we're
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all pissed off like, "Why are you driving like that? Why are you going that way? that's not really where I want
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to go. Then drive the car and stop inviting everybody in to drive it for you and then be pissed off when they
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don't take it the direction you want to go. If you're going to be pissed off,
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always be pissed off at yourself.