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Why does it matter to improve my memory? And in what way does improving my memory
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help me to connect with other people? So, we've gotten to the point where we don't need our memory, right? A lot of
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people don't know how to drive to a place, a city next door. They literally with if GPS went out, good luck, right?
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You don't know anyone's phone numbers. How many people's phone numbers do you have memorized?
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Mhm. Few and far between. One. Exactly. I think memory is a superpower because no one expects you to have it
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anymore. Any stage of life you are, you're going to meet new people at some point soon. You meet them, you shake
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their hand, you say hello, you just forgot their name. Literally, they just said it to you, and you forgot it. How
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many times this occurred to you? I'm guessing numerous. And now you can't enjoy that conversation because all you
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do is feel dread. Listen, repeat, reply. Listen, repeat, reply. So easy. The first step sounds silly. It's comical.
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Why am I even saying this? The first step is what 95% of us do wrong. We don't actually listen.
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When you hear that person's name, it's not a memory issue. You never even knew the name to begin with because right
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when you walked up to them, you were thinking of what you were going to say back to them in most instances. So, at
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that moment, the number one thing to do is actually listen. Quiet your mind. So simple, so easy, but that's we screw up.
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Right when I walk up to you, I make sure that I've heard your name because I instantly repeat it twice. Stephen, is
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it Steve or Steven? I want to make sure. I've just said your name three times already. your chance of forgetting it
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have gone down dramatically. The last one is reply, which is use one of the three following tactics. One, you could
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learn how to spell it. You have a name that can be spelled. So, I is it Steven with a V or a PH? If it's not a name
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like that, if it's, you know, Jacob, you're not going to spell that. I'm going to say to you, uh uh I might
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comment. I go, Jacob, I love that shirt. Where'd you get that from? The V-necks.
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Jacob, really sharp. So, now I've created a visual hook. You're Jacob with the V-neck shirt. Now, I remember you.
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Third one is is if you want you can do something that's a connector to someone else you know. So if I know a Stephen
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it's so funny you know my sister's dating a guy named Stephen. Small world. So you've really quickly connected it.
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That happens in 5 seconds what I just said. Everyone likes a compliment. Everyone likes a hook. You will not
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forget that person's name for the rest of the party. I promise you. And this works on people of all ages. It's not a
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memory issue. If you can remember your best friend's name, you can remember the name of somebody you met at a party
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after five seconds if you practice and do exactly what I just said.