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Being sexually monogous is a really quite bad idea. It is a form of control. Monogamy itself is a social construct
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mostly. We are not a monogous species. There are in fact very few monogous species in the world. I read a book the
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other day. It says something like 0002% of the animals on this planet are monogous because what you will see in
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the wild and what you see mostly with humans is social monogamy. They live together but the infidelity rate sits
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generally at around 50%. So 50% of those households are not sexually monogous and
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in fact from an evolutionary point of view being sexually monogous is a really quite bad idea because um you are
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limiting yourself to a very narrow gene pool. So we have monogamy mainly in the west um because it's a socially
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prescribed form of organization and it was imposed because it is a form of control. If we
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all just gave in constantly to precisely what our drives were saying, there'd be
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kind of chaos and those in power wouldn't be able to predict what anybody is going to do because actually I'm just
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going to go I feel you know sexually attracted to whoever that is over there. I'm going to go marry with them but I'm
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going to come back and live here but then I've got a kid over there and it's it's all really really confusing. So
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over time when civilization first arose the more complex we got and as we started to live together in cities those
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in control were like okay I really needed to be able to predict what these lesser beings are going to do. So, I'm
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going to impose monogamy. You can only live with one person and basically have sex with one person. Nobody actually
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ever only had sex with one person, but we're going to look like we do. And that's why we have legitimacy rules
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about children and inheritance and all that kind of thing because it maintains control.