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[Music] ASA Scott welcome to my podcast thank thank you so much for having me I'm so
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pleased we made this this happen we've been going back and forth for months now
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I think so long and I've been feeling so bad about it because you know when someone wants you to do something and
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you keep pulling out and you pull out with a legitimate reason but it sounds like you're talking [ __ ] to just
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pull out of it and I never wanted you to feel that way because as I said Dom I don't think you're a waste of time and
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so it just I just got to the point where I was like look I need to make this happen cuz I don't want him to think I'm
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a avoiding him uh and here I am in your podcast room and I'm very happy to be
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here thank you well it's wonderful to have you here um Asia Scott for anyone
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that doesn't know um very very famous uh maybe more so outside New Zealand yeah
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for being on the the Bravo reality show below deck which hand on heart I've never seen a full episode of no worries
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um but I'm well aware of who you are and in preparation for this podcast I've
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watched I've gone on a deep dive on YouTube and this's so many so many clips
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and you and I have got one thing in common one we I'm sure we've got many
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things in common but there's one thing I no that we've got in common we would
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both rather watch Gilmore Girls than S whatever Dom no you wouldn't although
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I have got a real nice penis now so it's like not as true but oh your your fiance
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has my boyfriend yeah right but still regardless of your sexual orientation I can't think there' be many people that
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would rather suck a dick than watch an episode of Gilmore girl it's such a good
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show and I've been to the set of the show and it's just this paradise so I stand by it this um that
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sort of quote is um I think a good sort of sample of who who we're dealing with
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here and who you are it's like you you you just you say these things and do you
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do you do you know that funny are you saying it to be funny or shocking or do you just speak and then think afterwards
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what happens I think I was just raised and I was raised in a household where it was very liberal and very sexually
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orientated you know I I watched American Pie when I was like five I asked my mom
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what sodomy was when I was seven and I cuz I had four older brothers and so it was just all the sex talk and so I guess
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I've just growing up with these very vulgar kind of comments at top of mind and it's actually been a really big hit
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over in the states with people that you wouldn't expected to be like the the the
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moms that are in their 50s and 60s because they're like oh my gosh you you say everything that I'm thinking but I'm
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not confident enough to say it and say it people say that but no one is thinking the stuff that you I think I
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think people are a little bit more naughty in their minds than you're giving them credit for especially these
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women that are you know stuck at home watching TV and they're like you just managed to say these things that we're
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thinking and such a like cutesy kind of way that you managed to get away with it we will get into this later I've got
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a laundry list of stuff that you've said like there the gore girls thing uh you
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talking about playing vagina guitar uh there's a story about you um being um
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almost having like a poo fetish when you were Aid and putting a f at your bu we'll get to all this later it wasn't a
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fetish it was a curiosity literally nobody is thinking this stuff but here you are you say it
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um another thing oh congratulations New Zealand television personality of the Year thank you this was just at the end
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of 2023 y so who who were you up against who were the finalist um I was up against Dy who I listened to your
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podcast with him it was amazing it's a great man um Luke bird Kim Crossman Susan devoy I think oh oh yeah she was
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on Celebrity Treasure Island yeah there was a a guy Montgomery but I it felt so overwhelming
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winning that award because the thing that I the one thing that I found a little bit not just heartening but a
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little bit irritating over my kind of like rise to fame and this is the success that I've had overseas I was
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talking to Colin about this from below di saing who's also a kiwi and it took
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so long for New Zealand to kind of give a [ __ ] about what we were doing overseas
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you know like we were getting all of this attention over in the states and I couldn't even get like a bay plenty
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Times newspaper article and we were like what is going on why does no one care about what we're doing and it's only
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been in the last kind of year that below deck's become popular here and people
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have started writing articles and people know our names and so when my name got called out at the New Zealand TV Awards
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I thought I was going to do this really cool speech and be super funny but I actually just broke down and I couldn't
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stop crying for like an hour because it felt like Mom and Dad finally said they were proud of me you it was like that
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feel New Zealand that feeling that New Zealand like finally has recognized what I've been doing for like six years and
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it was really cool yeah cuz you're you're obsessed with TV he you've you've
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been obsessed with TV since a youngster I'm no to be honest I don't watch TV I
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love being on it yeah I've always wanted to be on TV but I've never really
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watched TV too much apart from shortland Street I love shortland Street oh my God
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sorry yes Shand Street was a staple in the household yes yeah no but I guess I mean um it's almost like um you sort of
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manifested this whole thing yes like from a young age you thought you belonged on TV and it was you sort of
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aspired to do that and then then it it happened and it's um it's amazing I
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don't know if it's serend depy or manifestation or whatever it is but the
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steps you went through and we'll go through all of this um it's amazing so I
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can see why you were so emotional being on that stage last year yes it was a cool moment it was it was so so cool it
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actually it's just one of those things that still feels so surreal my whole life feels so surreal when I actually
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sit and think about the position that I'm in and all the things that I've
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achieved over the last year you I don't know it's really hard to actually
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process it and I don't think it's all kind of hit me yet yeah but you're so
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you deserve it the way you're so positive do people say have you heard the phrase toxic positivity do you yeah
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do people say that about you do you know I actually don't get that very often
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I've had it maybe once or twice ever but sometimes when I'm saying things cuz
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none of it is put on it truly is how I view the world but every now and then I'm like oh I wonder if people think
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that I'm putting this on to try like hoping that it will manifest all of these things but that's just that's just
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who I am yeah it's funny how people want to rip you apart for being too positive
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now right yeah because I mean I as I said I've never seen a full episode of below de but I am one of your 800,000
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Instagram followers I I have been for many years and I love watching your stories it's always it's always upbeat
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and if there's elements of I don't know fake it till you make it there or
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elements of you even wearing a mask and not showing us the you know the Dark Side of Asia Scott I think that's fine
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as well in a way yeah well I'm really lucky I think I was blessed with a very
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good brain chemistry and I I think there are other reasons too which I've like
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which my therapist has talked to me about which I find very interesting like about coping with my mom's alcoholism
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and different ways that that personality comes out as a child but that you know so different things for my upbringing
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plus just having great brain chemistry means that I'm lucky that I actually am
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this happy like 99% of the time but I am an a human so like the day before my period if Scott says like the tiniest
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thing wrong I will burst into tears and cry about nothing but it's always like
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period related or like if I'm tired but I'm very rarely actually unhappy which
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which I know that I'm lucky for because everyone everyone else in my family has
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really struggled with depression and anxiety and different things from time to time so I know that I'm very
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lucky yeah oh there's there's so much to loop back around and get into um there's
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a there's there's a lot there's a lot to your story um okay we we'll focus on the
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early years first of all though so you're from Tonga which is where you're
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back living now yeah um alcoholic mom yeah yeah what what I see your M on SC all the time and you went out for a like
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the day before we're recording this you guys were out for a a hike together she
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looks F and healthy she's not not drinking anymore no no so what did what did that look like what are your
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earliest memories of your mom so I think so yeah I feel like a lot of my life was
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a lot of my childhood was very much like this the story that followed all of it was centered around mom and her drinking
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and I think from a very young age it was you know mom's got to go to rehab or
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what's mom going to be like when we get home or mom's drinking this and mom's
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drinking that and can I just preface this by saying even with her drinking she has
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always been the most devoted loving mom like even if she's wasted the night before she will get up every morning at
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5:00 and lay your school uniform out and make sure your breakfast is ready and apart from her drinking she will do
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everything she can to to be the best mom she could ever be and I think that break
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my heart for her that she has had to struggle with this alcoholism because we were raised with uh my dad he's a
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psychiatric nurse by Train by training and he ran this psychiatric unit at tokoni hospital when he in his early
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years so we we've always been raised with a very thorough understanding of mental health and the way the brain
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works and we have always known that alcoholism is a disease and a lot of it is genetic um she's got people in her
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family that have died of alcoholism um and so when knew it was a disease and so if anything we just felt
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so sorry for her that she was born with this thing that no one would ever choose
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to have um and you know I just remember one of my earliest memories was coming home and finding mom when she tried to
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kill herself cuz she was just struggling so much with how old were you seven at the time and I remember I came home and
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you know when you come home from you've been with your dad at M 10 or something
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and you come home and you're so excited to run inside and say hi to Mom and um I
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was the first one to run inside to try and find her and I just remember she was it's so funny the way your brain works
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when you're little and I she was still in her night gown at like 2:00 p.m. and
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she was backing out of the laundry instead of walking out of a door and then closing it behind you she had the
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door in her hand and she was slowly backing out of the laundry and closing it as she was coming out and there was
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something about that movement and the look on her face face I was like something's really not right here that's
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not how people act and I just like she turned and looked at me and I was like nah something's wrong so I sprinted back
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outside so I was like Dad Dad something's wrong with Mom something's wrong with Mom and he runs inside takes
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one look at her runs back out grabs all of us kids in his arms runs across the yard jumps the fence smashes on the
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neighbor's door like please take the kids take the kids runs back zooms off to the hospital um and it turns out she
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taken 40 Panadol and a whole bunch of wine obviously um and he came back after the hostage to stay in there overnight
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and he came back afterwards and we all sat on the bed and we had a family meeting and he was like so basically
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your mom wanted to go to sleep and never wake up again and we were like okay okay
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and he's like and I was like so basically she wanted to die and he's like yes cuz we always he always spoke
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to us like we were adults you know and so that was kind of like the stuff that was going on in my really early years
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and it's chaotic yeah and so that's kind of yeah so most of my childhood was
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shaped with incidences like that and um yeah just never really knowing what you're going to get when you came home
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so how did she how did she get you since she was in and out of rehab how did she
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end up um kicking the Habit once and for all so she event she finally so all of this C continued on through through
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primary school and through high school and she would have moments where she would um be sober like she'd go to rehab
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and then she'd come out and she'd be sober for maybe a year and it was always
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that like sick feeling that dreaded feeling like when are we going to come home and it's going to be she'll be back
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into it and the day she did we just like all felt like throwing up it was just the worst um throw you felt like
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throwing up cuz you felt bad for who because it was just like it always was just so
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you felt so gutted when she went back into it again but we always knew it would happen eventually but the day that
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we never wanted to face the day it did imagine how [ __ ] she felt as well when she exactly exactly and so we were never
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angry at her it was just like gutting you know you just felt gutted were you were you embarrassed about taking
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friends home oh yeah I didn't tell any of my friends I never had friends over I
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was so embarrassed cuz you just even knew what you'd walk into after the school bus um so I always went to other
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people's houses and I never really I didn't tell any of my friends until I
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was like 18 um and then we left home my sister had the worst time cuz she was left at home with Mom when we all left
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home um and so then anyway sorry she finally kicked it when it just got to the point where it was so bad with all
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left home so no one was really keeping an eye on her and my brother Jared he was always like he always felt like he
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had to be the man of the house and protector and he was really struggling with depression himself at the time
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working full-time an neem so run down and then on top of that he was because Mom was in such a bad way he had all of
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her cards he had her car key so after work he would go to the supermarket he'd
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buy her groceries he'd drop them to her house and he would like he was doing all
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these things to look after Mom while he was barely able to look after himself and so it just got to the point where
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Jared was like I can't do this anymore so one day he said to Mom he's like look
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I'm so sorry but if you can't if you can't finally get a handle on this I
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have to let you go I'm going to have to stop loving you because it's just too
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hard um my God I know and so that's what gave her the Wake like the Wake Up Call
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I guess or not yeah and so she checked herself into a rehab and she didn't leave for 2 years
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because most rehabs they are like 3 month programs and I'm sorry but if you're like a proper lifelong addict
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that's [ __ ] all that's not going to do anything um so she was like I'm going to
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check myself in somewhere there's this place um in it's like it's on the
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outskirts of Wellington and it's the best one in the country you can because
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you can stay for so long um and she's like I'm not leaving until I know for
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sure that I've got a handle on this so she didn't leave for 2 years and now
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it's been 10 years that she's been sober and I'm so proud of her her and I just I
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truly take my head off to her she's the strongest woman I know oh that's amazing
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and and I just really want to reiterate the fact that she's very open with me
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talking about this stuff cuz she thinks it's important for other people to be
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educated on it all but through all of that she was the most loving mother yeah like a like a functioning
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alcoholic is that what you'd call a functioning functioning alcohol I guess like a functioning I mean you could very
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much tell that she was drunk in the evenings but she still took care of us and she still gave us so much love um
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was was your dad still around them when did they break up was it the alcohol that broke them up or yeah there was a
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few different things they were never really right for each other they kind of just stayed together cuz she got
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pregnant with my brother really quickly um so then you know they did the whole thing of then you well we may as well
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stay together and then we get married and we had more kids yeah so they they were together for 12 years um but when I
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was around 7 or8 they started sleeping in separate bedrooms and then when I was 10 they divorced and honestly when they
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divorced we were all like oh thank God because it was just it was so it was getting so tense around the house yeah
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and it was so it was kind of this thing that was it was such a long time coming that when it happened it was almost like
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the sigh of relief you know you hear these stories of people being like Oh my parents divorced and it's ruined my life
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and R and I'm so sure that that's true for a lot of people but it just didn't
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really affect us we were more like finally yeah I think my parents were sort of the same like they stayed
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together for the kids cuz they were four kids but it's like they're better off as
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individuals as a couple and it would have been great if they just they they broke up a couple of times and got back
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together they just stay but I think a lot of it with my parents was Financial it's like they couldn't AFF to run two
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households y totally anyway so and um yeah so everything your family's been through like it's a your family seems
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really tight and together which is amazing because it could have easily gone the other way totally and and when
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did you lose a brother to a brain tumor when was so we lost Reuben to a brain tumor when he was 24 so I was it was my
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first year of uni um and that was actually oh my god do you know oh my God this ties in to this two degrees of
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super thing so my brother so yeah so he got diagnosed when I was uh just turned 18 I was at Uni down in Wellington um
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and I remember being with him at the hospital um in Wellington and I remember standing there when he was getting his
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test results cuz he was at a wedding and he couldn't hold a knife properly and he
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was like oh dad like I can't hold this knife properly I don't know what's going
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on with my hand and he was a uh Carpenter in the Army and Deb was like you know you probably just um
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um you've probably just got what do you call it like when you've like RSI orend
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yeah he he just like strained his tendons or something but they went to the doctors and no one can get to the
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bottom of it so they finally were like well let's just do a scan just to be safe and I remember standing in the
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Wellington in Wellington hospital and it shows up on the screen and there's these
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two big golf ball siiz tumors in his brain and just that moment where it hits you and you realize like how bad it is
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and and like I remember he just like looked at dad and was just like Dad I'm
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[ __ ] like I'm absolutely [ __ ] and it was in a position in his brain where it
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was so deep that they were like we just we can't operate cuz you're just going
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to become a complete cabbage basically if we operate and um I remember I remember uh when I was at oh
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so then he was uh he grew up in par parmon North primarily and so when I was at Uni one day I remember I was sitting
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in a lecture and Dad's like it's happening like we need to go right now he was at a hospice and he he flies from
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toonga to Wellington gets a High car picks me up he called my lecturers explain what was going on and we rushed
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to the hospice in palon north and they said you know he's got a couple of days
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left and then we were sitting there and he was like he said his dying wish was to um marry his beautiful girlfriend
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Laura and it was just so heartbreaking because I think about where I am in my life now like I'm I've got this
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beautiful partner like Scott's probably going to propose soon at some point in
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the next year man you know sometime in the next year you know sometime in the next year
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we're just about to buy a house and that's the position he was in he' just
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got oh no he wasn't engaged but he was going to propose he just bought a house
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at this really exciting time so he said his dying wish was to marry Laura and so
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we're like cool let's all jump into gear so we organized for a wedding to be held
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the next day in the hospice um so we got all the paperwork signed we got everything organized but it was
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freezing and it was middle of winter um and this is where I was like oh my gosh this kind of ties into you a little way
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Laura used to listen to the radio and JJ had this like cape ohz we're married in
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Queen toown yeah she had this cape so she I don't know who reached out to her
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or whatever but she ended up curing down who her wedding cape and Laura wore that
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for the wedding cuz it was freezing in paliston so she wore that um on the wedding uh the next day and the most
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beautiful thing happened so we were like we got him to sign the night before and
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we're like hopefully he's good enough that we can like wheel him down the
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aisle and like it sounds morbid we were like hopefully we can get them married like right before he dies so that like
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we just need to get it done but he wakes up the next morning and obviously this is where I say like The
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Power of Love is amazing he wakes up the next morning and none of the nurses could believe their eyes he was so much
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better he got himself out of bed he got into a suit he walked himself down the aisle um and did his vows and everything
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got married to her and he ended up living another six months and just the night before they were like he will die
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tomorrow so that's the beautiful Power of Love so he ended up lasting another
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six months and we shifted him down to um orth thought which is the hospital that
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my dad was the CEO of at the time so Dad kind of moved his office into his room and and then yeah and then when Reuben
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died I was the one that found him well not found him but I was the one that was alerted everyone cuz he was in the room
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and dad had explained to us he's like there's this type of breathing that
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happens right before someone dies and if you ever hear them doing this breathing
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yeah it's it's like the you know that shallow kind of breathing and he's like if anyone sees
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that you need to run around and everyone know and the cleaner came in and said she had to clean and we all had to leave
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the room so everyone dispersed so far around the hospital I don't know what people were thinking but everyone
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dispersed and took that time to go for walks and things and I was kind of just loitering outside the door and then the
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cleaner ran up to me and she's like please come come look and I went inside and he was doing that breathing and I
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was just like [ __ ] [ __ ] [ __ ] [ __ ] so I sprinted around theit hospital and I'm
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like get to Reuben's room get to Reuben's room and God everyone so all of
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us family got into the room and um we all were sitting with our hands on Reuben and it was really beautiful cuz
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the last words that he said was um he said he as between each breath he was like I love you all and then it was like
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a few minutes later he passed away so oh my God so was communicative right to the
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end yeah yeah but he he hadn't really been and so it just showed that's why I
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say again sry The Power of Love um oh thank you H The Power of Love he just really
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he like hadn't really been speaking at all and so he obviously you know again
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he just really wanted to get that out so yeah so then he passed away and we all had our hands on him which was amazing
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but you're 24 like how cruel is that oh you're a kid aren't you oh such a kid
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jeez that's um sorry oh no [ __ ] you've been through a lot hey um yeah there's you know people say that
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time heals wounds but I I don't know I think with grief that big it doesn't
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actually get any easier but you just find a way to deal with it and totally and coexist with it exactly it's
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terrible thing yeah and I think it's it's as sad as it is um for me I kind of
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just spend a lot of time I'm just like just not thinking about it and um it's
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just moments where if I'm if I have a quiet moment like we're living with my partner's
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parents at the moment and they've got a field next door with a cow on it and I
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love going to sit with this cow and sometimes we call him we call her pu cuz she loves the Pu tree and often I'll
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just go and sit in the field with the cow and she's eating grass and I'm
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looking out at the water and it's those little moments where I think I can't
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believe Reuben was eight years eight uh eight years younger than what I am now when he passed away and all the things
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he didn't get to experience and I still feel like life's just beginning and
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there there's so many exciting things and how I just can't imagine what that
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feeling would be to be told you've got this thing and you're not going to and
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there's nothing you can do about it it wouldn't isn't it wouldn't it just be
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the hardest news in the whole world to receive yeah it's cruel yeah it's really unfair yeah so um your mom
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was still drinking at that point or had she no so my three oldest brothers are um my three oldest brothers are dad's
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kids not moms they my they're half Brothers but we all grew up we all grew up together so we fully consider them
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our full siblings um but at that so it wasn't mom's son um but at the time at
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that time mom was in the rehab in Wellington oh there a lot going on [ __ ] that there's a lot going on you
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mentioned um uh earlier that you've you've had some therapy was the therapy
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started around this time or earlier or later you you had a lot of a lot of stuff to process yeah yeah um no
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actually I'm I I haven't I didn't actually start doing therapy until like
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six months ago um I this is why I like you know the way that we grew up I'm so
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grateful for it I actually wouldn't have wanted it any other way because it made
00:27:02
me such a strong resilient woman and I I feel like I've got such a this sounds so wanky now but I feel
00:27:12
like I've got a much better understanding of so much of the world and the way people work compared to
00:27:17
people that had these really easy protected kind of childhoods by the way for what it's withth I don't think that
00:27:23
sounds wanky at all and I feel like that's um that's a kiwi thing that you
00:27:27
need to preface it by saying it's wanky because you know people are going to
00:27:30
think she thinks so much take your hand off it yeah yeah yeah exactly so um so I
00:27:38
yeah so I'm very grateful for the rail race and so because of that like as all
00:27:41
these things happen and and the fact that we grew up in a household where it was basically constant therapy like we
00:27:46
talk to each other about our feelings all the time so I've never really needed
00:27:51
it but it's just in the last 6 months um cuz I've heard so many friends just Rave
00:27:57
about it I was like you know what I'm going to give it a go and so I started
00:28:00
with this lady Sam who is incredible we do it by Zoom I'm in my pajamas and it
00:28:06
was more of a way to like and rather than working through something CU it's I
00:28:12
don't really have things to properly work through it's just learning about
00:28:15
myself and my brain and the way it works and it's been a fascinating journey I
00:28:20
really recommend everyone do it whether you've got an a big issue or not it's
00:28:26
just I think it's so important know how your own brain works and also it's just
00:28:30
a different perspective and a different way of looking at certain situations yeah exactly that's really cool but
00:28:34
you're yeah your family it's um it's total goal the so you were so you were
00:28:38
diagnosed with ADHD at eight and and your dad um I think I read the somewhere or heard on another podcast had like a
00:28:46
like a a family meeting without you yeah so so my dad had a fair cuz I was like I I've had meetings with
00:28:57
psychologist since and they're like wow we've never met a more 8h person in our
00:29:01
life um so I grew up very yeah very hyperactive very like mode swings just very attention seeking all of that stuff
00:29:11
all of the good stuff um and I remember when I was like yeah it was when I was eight me and my my brother and I were
00:29:19
having this fight and he was like you all dare told me that you're ADHD and I
00:29:23
was like I just broke down I was like what are you you mean and he ended up telling
00:29:29
me that Dad had held this family meeting to tell to tell all the other siblings so he like you know just go easy on her
00:29:36
like get don't don't get too worked up or like you know let we've all just got
00:29:41
to understand that asa's got ADHD and this is why she behaves like the way she
00:29:45
behaves and so yeah so Tu and then I went to Dad and I was like what what do you me this family meeting and so he
00:29:52
took me on a walk and we went on this big walk all around the suburb we were mangapa at the time
00:29:57
and I and yeah and he just walked along with me and as a as a psychiatric nurse does he explained to me exactly what
00:30:04
ADHD is and why it happens and what the symptoms are right and I just remember walking along going but it's not my
00:30:12
fault hey and he's like no of course it's not my fault and you know at first
00:30:18
I at first I thought it was like a something not to be embarrassed about but something something that I like I
00:30:28
got defensive about it at first cuz it's like no child wants to be different of
00:30:33
course but then as I got older now I'm like [ __ ] yes and all my siblings they're like why did you get to be born
00:30:41
with that they're so jealous of it because I just have free energy basically just endless free energy and
00:30:50
it wasn't until I got to UNI that I actually properly got diagnosed CU I was
00:30:54
in my first trimester of uni and we would we would get given these assignments and I knew that I was like a
00:31:01
smart girl and we were getting these assignments and everyone else was managing to do the readings and finish
00:31:07
them within like an afternoon but it would take me so much long like days longer and I couldn't understand why cuz
00:31:14
I knew I was just as smart as everyone in the room and so I finally and I cuz it's just you know that whole thing of
00:31:20
having to read a sentence 50 times before you actually like take in what it's saying and all of that so I finally
00:31:26
went to a psychiatrist and yeah and they diagnosed me and I got prescribed Rin and it it annoys me that people were
00:31:34
quite anti medication and rlin and stuff but that it that is what got me through
00:31:41
uni if I didn't have that uni would have been so much more difficult for me yeah
00:31:46
cuz uh Jojo and I we had a family adoption and the kid that we were looking after her nephew svin um he got
00:31:54
diagnosed and was was ADHD yeah and then the the pediatrician said oh we'll get
00:31:58
them on some Rin or conuter and we'll see how it goes and we were like oh your
00:32:02
medication cuz you just have this stigma about it yeah and um the pediatrician she's like well we'll put them on it if
00:32:08
it doesn't work we'll take them off and I thought oh yeah that's so sensible and
00:32:12
it was an absolute Game Changer yeah like Monday to Friday we'd be at work and as Nanny would sort out his
00:32:17
medication but on the weekends on a Saturday or Sunday I forgot to like 10 a.m. and he was acting up I could say
00:32:23
straight away have you had your you had your your RIT this morning yeah exactly and was did you find that with the
00:32:29
medication it was like that much of a game changer for you oh absolutely um because I think the thing that people
00:32:35
have to remember as well is that especially like the you can get long acting but even that's like 8 hours but
00:32:44
it's it's got no halflife like it's it's it's in your system for 4 hours and then
00:32:50
it's out of your system it's not something that builds up over time and like it's not like an SSRI or suain
00:32:55
release thing it's it's like you take it that day and then after that day it's
00:32:59
not in you anymore so you can get real I get really Savvy with like picking and choosing when I take it because for me I
00:33:07
don't I don't like to take it day to day because I find because it does finally
00:33:12
make me focused and a bit more chill I don't feel like I'm as good socially so
00:33:17
I don't so I would never take it if I was coming to do a podcast or if I was
00:33:21
doing if I was filming or doing like a Q&A on stage or something but when I was
00:33:25
at Uni and I'm having to sit in the library for like 8 hours to finish a report there's no way I could have
00:33:32
gotten that done if I didn't have my medication and it it really just changed
00:33:38
my life and um yeah and I just don't know why people were so I mean we've made this modern
00:33:45
medicine to help us and it help and it really really helped me yeah it's the
00:33:49
same thing with mental health there's a lot of people that um take it as a badge
00:33:52
of honor that they don't need medication but if it's a chemical imbalance in your
00:33:57
brain that needs to be rectified and can be rectified just [ __ ] do it I think and I think that's a really dangerous
00:34:03
attitude to have you know people who would get so high and mighty like well I just did it through running and it's
00:34:10
like [ __ ] yeah that totally helps absolutely but if you're in a place where you your balance is that out you
00:34:18
need you need something to help you get to the place where running can sustain you you're not you're often not going to
00:34:25
get there just from being healthy cuz you need to get the balance back and then sustain that yeah and it's like why
00:34:33
why is that such a I don't know why they're so frowned upon yeah it's we we
00:34:37
we do need to normalize that a little bit more right yeah to and and also not making people feel like [ __ ] that are
00:34:43
using the pills get 100% like it doesn't make you any cooler for getting there
00:34:48
just through ice bars like we've all got we've all got different Journeys you
00:34:53
know yeah absolutely you you ask smart e so um and do do you feel like people sort of
00:34:59
um um misjudge I don't know because maybe because it's it's a very thick
00:35:03
kiwi accent you've got very um the Kiwi accent and the things you say sometimes that people maybe
00:35:11
underestimate how intelligent you are I think that I do think that that is something I think people do assume that
00:35:17
I'm a little bit like Eerie fairy and I I think a lot of that is also because I
00:35:22
am so happy it's like it's often that um that class hand inand personality that
00:35:29
personality profile right like happy Eerie irie FY la la la I love everything um but I just don't really mind cuz I'm
00:35:37
like well I think it's cool if if you're smart and you can fly under the radar
00:35:42
and people you misjudge your intelligence I think that's awesome yeah and yeah and as I say I'm I'm really
00:35:48
sure that they do but I just don't really give a [ __ ] and I'm like you
00:35:51
might find out eventually you might not but it doesn't affect me that's such a
00:35:54
great attitude so so after school you go to Victoria University and you get a double science degree what what were you
00:36:00
thinking like you had this you had this this deep burning desire to end up on TV
00:36:05
somewhere why did you end up doing a science degree because it's kind of twofold because well I I I didn't really
00:36:14
know I always knew I wanted to go to UNI because I just thought it' be such a
00:36:17
great experience and I didn't really know what I wanted to be but I loved being outside I just love the outdoors
00:36:25
and I'm such a science freak like in my spare time I I like love to just sit and
00:36:30
read about like chemistry and atams and how all these things work and it just fascinates me knowing how things work
00:36:37
like ever since I was little I'd always run up to Dad and be like how does how
00:36:41
does that engine work how does it how do you do the tire how do you do this how do you do this um and so I thought well
00:36:47
why not go to UNI and spend my time learning how the earth works like that sounds so interesting and I get to go on
00:36:53
camps and do all these cool things and I knew so I knew that I would end up on TV
00:37:01
somehow I didn't know how but I knew that it would come to me and so I didn't
00:37:06
really go off chasing it which again that probably sounds so wanky but I I I knew so much in my gut that it would
00:37:14
happen for me that I was like just live your life and do your thing and eventually it will pop up and it did
00:37:20
yeah and by the way it doesn't sound wanky and it's a fascinating Journey how
00:37:24
you got into the the boat siga yeah way before below deck was was even a show so
00:37:30
it wasn't like a um set pathway that you took for reality TV no so you get this
00:37:35
double science degree then you work in a kiwi fruit lab yes you did do your research no well just the the the jaxer
00:37:42
position between you the the the Asia that people like suppos think they know and who you actually are like it's it's
00:37:49
fascinating it's almost like um you're chameleon in a way like cuz I can't
00:37:52
imagine you you working a kiwi fruit lab and and a white coat like talking about
00:37:56
putting it putting a finger up your bum to feel the food or watching the Gil you know you
00:38:01
know what I mean it's a different sort of environment and it's so funny because
00:38:05
when I was in the kiwi fruit lab I was that you know we're all sitting there
00:38:08
doing our testing and I was that girl that all day was like okay for the rest of your life if you could only have an
00:38:17
orange or a mandarin what would you choose and the whole day was just me [ __ ] talking about that kind of [ __ ]
00:38:25
so you you were always like a square pig and a round hole okay right exactly i s had this vision of you
00:38:33
like just biting your tongue or just like trying to manage yourself and then at the end of the day leaving the Ki
00:38:38
fruit lab and just letting it all blurt out then no I just tried to be everyone's entertainment because it was
00:38:43
just such a stiff environment I just was trying to like loosen it up a little bit
00:38:49
uh but I I mean and there it was it kind of boring that's why I was talking about
00:38:52
oranges and mandarins but it was you know it was fun in a way um but yeah I think cuz as you you know
00:39:00
as you mentioned about since I was five knowing this thing it's like I just I
00:39:05
remember all through school I was like yep it's going to happen one day and then when I was at Uni I've got such a
00:39:11
vivid memory of sitting on my bed and I'm like when is this going to happen I
00:39:17
was genuinely like confounded cuz I was like when is this going to happen for me I know that
00:39:24
it's going to happen I'm just I'm so confused us cuz I thought it probably
00:39:27
would have happened by now but it hasn't H and I'm just like sitting there like
00:39:31
wondering when this is all going to happen I was like anyway okay I guess I'll carry on with uni for now um
00:39:36
carried on with uni did and then finished uni moved back to toonga and I was I wanted to work for like a Geotech
00:39:43
company or doing like Hydra like you know water testing or something um and then that didn't happen because no one
00:39:50
in toonga leaves their jobs ever so there's never a job opening still happens like that um so no no job
00:39:57
opening so I was managing a store there thanks this like cool clothing store that we used to have there and then um
00:40:06
when I was working at the store one day my sister called me and she was like oh I've heard about this yachting thing cuz
00:40:12
she she was working in a pharmacy and she wasn't super into it either and she's like I've heard about this yawning
00:40:17
thing I was like oh yeah tell me about it and I by the end of the phone call I was like mean I'm in let's do it hung up
00:40:24
handed in our two weeks notice two weeks later we did the um course that you have
00:40:28
to do at the Polytech and then two weeks after that we flew to France what's
00:40:32
what's what's the twoe course is it like a first aid course or what it's a CCW
00:40:36
course so you have to do like fire fighting so you've got to go through a bloody uh container that's on fire and
00:40:43
full fire get in the dark crawl through an obstacle course and save a baby at the end of it a fake baby at the end of
00:40:51
it they still do real babies they don't do real babies anymore oh seeps wasn't too happy about it the
00:41:02
parents come at the end of the day where's gav sorry gav I didn't do good
00:41:07
enough so gav's not here anymore um so we saved this potato sack baby pull it
00:41:13
back through uh and you know so you do firefighting water survival um first aid social responsibility security all
00:41:23
these different things that You' need on a boat actually it was only a week yeah
00:41:26
week and then after that we flew to France I'm a very impulsive person in case you didn't pick up on that um flew
00:41:34
to France we got we stayed in like a crew house uh and then just started walking the docks and then yeah and
00:41:42
still was like I know this will happen one day but I'm just carrying on with my
00:41:46
life as I thought I'd do and it wasn't until I'd been doing yachting for six
00:41:51
years that a friend of mine who remembered a friend of mine from school who knew
00:41:57
about my TV dreams she was like oh I've heard about the show below deck and I've
00:42:01
managed to get the casting agent email I think you should go for it you'd be
00:42:05
really awesome and I had never even heard of below before I didn't know what
00:42:09
it was and I emailed them they said fill in a form I said it form's boring I'll
00:42:13
do a video um so I sent in a video and within 30 minutes they were like we need to have a Skype when are you free for a
00:42:20
Skype and it went from there and and it was so cool because when I got it and I was walked onto the boat and the cameras
00:42:28
were rolling this massive like wave of energy ran over my body and I and I was like whoa this is the moment I was like
00:42:39
this is what I knew I was waiting for my whole life like this is it it's incredible how it worked out so you you
00:42:47
so the the boat thing you went on the boats to try and get on below deck it's
00:42:51
like yeah you just like following your your instinct or your gut or whatever you want to call it yeah it all worked
00:42:56
out yeah s and DEP yeah so so those years on the on the boats pre below deck what were they like so you were like a
00:43:05
dick hand yes at first what's what's a dick hand so a dickand is you're you're
00:43:11
doing everything on the outside of the boat so you're polishing washing um yeah outside
00:43:18
[ __ ] and then basically it's a it's a it's a cleaner yeah well we're all
00:43:24
basically cleaners with your Insider out um cleaners and waitresses basically so
00:43:29
I was a dickand and I was outside and but I had this like Cy as sorry misogynist Captain who I just could not
00:43:38
stand and he would do things like he'd wait until I'd completely washed the
00:43:43
boat he he seemed he haded woman but then hired me so I don't know why he did
00:43:48
that um and I basically did everything by myself because the other deham was an alcoholic that would just go sleep in
00:43:54
the build all day and he'd like wait until I finished washing all of the boat
00:43:58
and then he'd start like soaring wood on the AR deck all of this is going all
00:44:03
over the boat and like the other [ __ ] would be like oh I just just washed it don't you want to do that on
00:44:07
the port and he's just would just look at me in the eye and be like I know someone who wash it again and then what
00:44:14
really did it was this one time so we would two-part te so that means like you would do an acid wash and then you'd do
00:44:23
another wash on top of that and it kind of like stripped the teeth back and made
00:44:26
it look really nice and the acid that you use looks like water and we didn't
00:44:31
have any acid one day we'd run out so I went to the boat next store I asked the
00:44:35
borrow some acid they gave me some of a drink bottle and I was doing the take put put it down and I was like scrubbing
00:44:42
and I didn't know that the stewardess had come around thinking she was being
00:44:46
helpful tidying up for the end of day grabbed the bottle and then put it down in the gy and so I'm like scrubbing away
00:44:53
it's like 40° it's so hot we finish up I go inside I'm like I'm so thirsty go
00:45:00
down to the galley and I see this water bottle clear liquid pick it up go to like and I go take this big drink from
00:45:08
it and it gets halfway down my throat and my brain is like clicks it's like something's wrong and I'm like and just
00:45:16
spit it everywhere cuz it's [ __ ] acid in my mouth spit it everywhere and so
00:45:22
and I'm like oh my God I'm like it and so I'm running to the sink and I'm like
00:45:28
tap on water running into my mouth just trying to like rinse this acid out and the captain like he's the commotion runs
00:45:34
down the stairs he's like what's going on what's going on and I tell him about
00:45:38
it and he just looks over the galley and sees that there's like little white
00:45:43
specs all over like the countertop and stuff cuz I'd SP you know cuz I spare
00:45:47
the acid out and he did not once ask me if I was okay how I was anything just looked with this disgusted look over the
00:45:55
galy cuz it was like white SPS in there and then he walks up and he's and he
00:46:01
said well did you swallow it and I was like no I I realized as it was going down and I spit and I like managed to
00:46:08
spit it all back out um but I still had like some blisters on the inside of my mouth and he goes and walks off and he's
00:46:14
halfway up the stairs and he just like looks at the guys and he's like well I
00:46:17
guess we know she doesn't swallow and that's all he said he never never asked
00:46:24
me if I was okay and after that I was just like I was so done with it and I why didn't you tell them like so I from
00:46:32
BS and pieces I've seen a you online I feel like you're the sort of person
00:46:35
maybe this is you now versus back then yeah but now you you've got the strength
00:46:40
of character to tell him to go [ __ ] himself yes which I tolerate it so at the time I didn't in that moment cuz
00:46:47
yeah this is my very first yachting job and I was like in this position where I it was my first time kind of having this
00:46:53
power play with with my Superior who [ __ ] with my head and it you know I was so young at the time and didn't
00:47:00
quite know how to deal with it but then it was like after that I was like I'm
00:47:04
done and I was packing my bags and I was like right I'm going to like find a good
00:47:07
moment to leave and he he said he made some other comment like a couple days later and I was just like I [ __ ] quit
00:47:15
I was like I'm done I'm leaving this boat and um oh cuz he took yeah we were
00:47:20
off the boat and we were walking back on he made a comment and I was like I'm
00:47:23
done I'm leaving I'm done with this [ __ ] and I just looked at him and and he was
00:47:27
like oh well have a nice life Asha and I just turned and looked him dead in the eye and I was like you must have the
00:47:32
smallest [ __ ] [ __ ] to treat wom the way you treat them and I was like you are disgusting and I just like turned
00:47:39
around and walked on the boat and he's like have a nice life like this 60-year-old French man who's like have a
00:47:45
nice life as like the most pathetic thing ever and then he held my passport and wouldn't give me my passport and so
00:47:53
I'm like pack my bag storm off the boat he refuses to give me his passport give
00:47:57
me my passport so I had to go to one of the yacht agencies and like I burst in there balling my eyes I'm like man my
00:48:04
captain and I told him he's got a small deck and he's got my passport blah
00:48:10
blah and they met they ended up calling him and said they're going to get the
00:48:14
police to come to the boat if if he doesn't hand it over so then I had to walk back there by myself and like face
00:48:19
him again and have him give me my passport was he contrite at that point oh he just yeah he just wasn't really
00:48:25
speaking to me being a little [ __ ] um yeah and so that kind of put a bad taste
00:48:31
in my mouth of being a dick and I actually moved home for like six months cuz I was like [ __ ] y why does anyone
00:48:37
want to do this and [ __ ] I hate it but then my sister stayed on and she was having a really good time on bigger
00:48:43
boats cuz that was a 35 meter and she was on much bigger ones which are way more fun so then after 6 months I was
00:48:49
like you know what I'm going to give this another go so I went back as a stewardess on bigger boats and and I
00:48:56
loved it why why are the bigger boats more fun is it because there's more of a
00:49:00
crew or yeah it's just there's more people and all of the cuz on the smaller
00:49:05
boats you kind of have to do everything cuz there's like one of you for inside
00:49:09
and one of you for outside whereas on the bigger boats like so the biggest one that I worked on was a 95 meter called
00:49:15
Phoenix 2 it was like the most prestigious in the industry it was so amazing if you got managed to get a job
00:49:21
on there and it was so big that as you are able to specialize so I was only service so we had four girls that were
00:49:28
only service so I never had to clean I never had to do laundry I was just doing like cocktails and dinners and things
00:49:34
like that and then like the cabins are nicer way more people to hang out with you've got a chef that's just for the
00:49:41
crew so you've got these mean as buffets like every lunch and dinner way nicer
00:49:46
uniform everything's just bigger and better who who owns the boats are they celebrities or are they just Rich super
00:49:53
rich people we never would have heard of or yeah usually the people that own the
00:49:57
biggest boats like celebrities can't really afford to own boats that big it's
00:50:03
like the Russians that have made heaps of money yeah it's like so that boat was
00:50:08
owned by the richest family in Poland it's like silly money I remember we used
00:50:13
to even just little things like I had one I asked for a pay rise cuz I was doing the job above me without the
00:50:21
official title and I was asked I think I asked for like 300 more EUR a month or something like that and I got it denied
00:50:29
and then they're coming on for and I'm not sure if that's like the owner's
00:50:32
fault or just the person's fault not wanting to spend any more money but then
00:50:35
they come on for a trip and they're like doing shot they would do shots out of
00:50:40
these €2,000 each shot glasses like bear at Crystal shot glasses and they do a shot and then they're like woo and they
00:50:48
throw it up and they just throw it overboard and I've got like €10,000 just floating to the bottom of the ocean and
00:50:54
I can't get like 300 more a month and I'm just like cool guys okay something's
00:51:00
not right here yeah so like the kind of money they have is absolutely absurd absurd and and you um you must see some
00:51:09
things or is is a so yeah so say someone's cleaning one of the rooms and there's like a plate with a a pile of
00:51:16
cocaine there oh yeah all the time you just ignore it yeah yeah all the time you always see like and like sheets with
00:51:23
just like [ __ ] all through the sheets or like [ __ ] in the shower or like [ __ ] as
00:51:27
in as in as in feces yes as in literal yes um I don't know having a bit of cheeky anal but they don't bother to
00:51:35
like they just leave it you know like most people would like actually rap the like not let the next person deal with
00:51:39
embarrassed you don't they just like well like they wouldn't flush the toilet
00:51:43
cuz they're like above flushing the toilet and like my friend worked my friend worked on this Russian boat and
00:51:50
the father and the son had this fetish for girls on their period so what they'd
00:51:55
do is they'd fly in for prostitutes all on a different week of their cycle so
00:52:00
each week they had a girl that they both sleep with that was on the rag this is outrageous yeah this is outrageous and
00:52:07
when when when things like this happens for you guys the crew yeah everyone gossips about it and talks about it yeah
00:52:14
oh yeah we love we love talking about it but it's like you're you're not allowed
00:52:19
to go and you're not allowed to go and say names or anything like that but um
00:52:24
oh it's so funny it's so funny I've seen some things yeah and then so then from
00:52:30
there from there that's when that's when below Dex came along so you're doing
00:52:35
these boats for five years yeah it was like five or six years by the time I did five years I think when I did below
00:52:41
started below deck yeah yeah that's this yeah it's amazing you touched upon this
00:52:46
a second ago and you you gave the video audition and um below started um so what
00:52:54
are your biggest surprises about that first of all like the smoking smoking mirrors of reality TV cuz a lot of
00:52:59
reality TV is quite contrived isn't it it's like they have look at married
00:53:02
first sight they have like a template and yeah so I think a couple things surprised me the first one was how big
00:53:12
the show is cuz I didn't really know about below deck as I said and it wasn't
00:53:16
until I'd done a season and I started walking around in the states and people
00:53:20
are like oh my God you make go from that show and I was like what and then I realized that it's like one of Bravo's
00:53:29
it's like one of America's biggest Network's biggest shows and I just had
00:53:33
no idea the scale of it when I went into it and I was like oh my God like how have I just managed to fall into this
00:53:40
position where I'm on such a big show like how does this happen it was just the buzziest realization it's a
00:53:47
juggernaut so your Bravo's got um Real Housewives that's probably their biggest
00:53:51
franchise right yeah but and then below below deck's actually bigger than them
00:53:54
now people love it what was it about you what was it about your audition how how
00:54:00
many minutes was it the video two minutes I don't even remember what I said I waited until I was at like Peak
00:54:05
hyperactivity and I like two days off two days off the Rin exactly I was like hi I'm ASA I
00:54:12
don't I really don't even remember what I said but they obviously liked it um so
00:54:17
that surprised me how the scale of the show and then the other thing was just how impressive reality TV is it gave me
00:54:27
a whole it gave me this whole appreciation for shows and how much work goes into making them because what I
00:54:35
will say about below deck is it is the most real reality show you'll ever see
00:54:41
it's they do not the fourth wall is massive so they do not tell you to do anything it's purely like a follow
00:54:48
documentary and I was actually talking to a camera guy from it the other day and he's like yeah after doing other
00:54:52
shows I can't believe how real below deck is um but it was I remember my first season and they said never change
00:55:00
up your movements to help out a camera guy cuz we've got three cameramen sorry
00:55:06
camera people there was a woman um three camera people and three audio people that trail them everywhere plus cameras
00:55:14
in every room um like fix cameras um and so I was like okay I can't change my
00:55:21
movements for them you've got to completely ignore them and so we're running around the boat trying to get
00:55:26
you you're trying to get cocktails and things out to guess as quickly as possible so sometimes you're actually
00:55:30
running and they're in front of you going backwards as fast as you're going
00:55:35
forwards with this massive camera on them and they like memorize the layout the blueprint of the boat so then
00:55:40
they're stopping within like an inch of going off the edge of like the stairs on
00:55:46
the after of the boat and I just used to watch them like you guys are ninjas it's
00:55:51
so impressive their craft yeah remarkable yeah so so the um so there's there's the the below deck crew which
00:56:01
you're one of and then so who owns the boats the Bravo like rent the boats yes
00:56:07
and then get you guys on board yeah and then the the the guests that are on board are they that's almost like props
00:56:13
on the show as well are they given like a free trip or is it a discounted trip or it's still I mean I don't they don't
00:56:20
like us to ever talk money and how much it is but it's still like right you and
00:56:24
I would not go and do it yeah like I mean you might but it's it's it's it's a
00:56:30
lot of money still to come on um for a two night trip um so so yeah so you've
00:56:37
got the cast and then you've got production um who we aren't allowed to acknowledge I do now because I've been
00:56:44
doing it for so long um and then yeah the they Charter they rent a boat for this we filmed for 6 and 1/2 weeks and
00:56:53
they rent the boat for that time and the crew that usually works on that boat they send off on holiday or pay for them
00:56:59
to fly home or just like not be there and then the the guests that they have come on
00:57:05
they they audition them too so they've all got to go through an audition process to make sure they're actually
00:57:10
going to be interesting on TV right CU you've done so many seasons now right
00:57:14
how many seasons have you four five uh Five Seasons now yeah right so when so when you're getting prepared to go away
00:57:21
for another season of filming what sort of mindset are you in are you like okay you got to bring your A game oh yeah
00:57:28
absolutely yeah yeah so I I take it so seriously because I see well a because I'm just I'm I think kiwis have a good
00:57:38
work ethic anyway and then I come from a family of very hard workers so I'm very
00:57:42
anal about working hard um and also it's just out of respect for the production
00:57:48
team cuz when I see how many hours and hours and hours they put into watching it and editing it and like crafting
00:57:58
these sto like you know locking down these story lines that we see it's so incredible how much of their life they
00:58:05
devote to it the whole year that I'm like the least that I can do is come and
00:58:10
do my very best job too just out of respect for the whole production yeah 100% And and it's been very successful
00:58:16
for you and I I I I get from what I've read and heard Bravo love you you're one
00:58:21
of their one of their Golden Girls but but what does that mean to do the best you can is it just be your truest
00:58:28
authentic funniest self or yeah it's just I cuz I think the thing is people don't realize how grueling filming is
00:58:37
it's probably the hardest thing I've ever done in my life it's we're doing
00:58:40
six and 1 half weeks of 16-hour days every single day and I don't really take
00:58:46
breaks cuz I would rather give my girls breaks and make sure that they got a little break um before I give one to
00:58:52
myself and usually we're too busy and I'll just carry on and so we're doing
00:58:56
these 16 hour days and then every fourth day we're having to go out and we don't
00:59:02
have to get drunk but we go out and we tend to get drunk and so then we're even
00:59:07
more sleep deprived and then the day after that we've got to clean the whole
00:59:10
boat and do our confessional interviews and it's just so grueling and so intense
00:59:17
and it's really easy for people like halfway through to let their energy slip
00:59:22
and they're not like they're not wor working quite as hard or they're not
00:59:26
giving quite as much energy because they're exhausted and for me giving it everything I have means right up until
00:59:34
we rap giving it every single ounce of energy I possibly can and I'm always real I'm always genuine I never put on
00:59:41
like a character but yeah for me it's just like doing my job my job as a Chief's stew as best I can like so so
00:59:50
hard and then doing my job as you know bringing my personality my energy every day making sure I keep that up right to
00:59:57
the end cuz I mean it's so easy to just let it slip cuz you're you just want to
01:00:02
go to bed and sleep but you can't yeah and I suppose if you're if you're boring
01:00:06
or you're not bringing your aame you're not going to you're not going to make
01:00:08
the edit you're going to get less screen time it has this massive um negative
01:00:12
ripple effect well and I think at the end of the day I take it really seriously the fact that I'm like their
01:00:18
lead role you know they've hired me because they like my personality and they want me to help carry carry the
01:00:24
show and so if they've chosen me over all these other people and they're
01:00:29
relying on me to be an interesting person and then halfway through I'm like oh I'm pretty tired I'm just going to do
01:00:35
the bare minimum to get through the day that's not what they're paying for and
01:00:39
that's not what they're relying on you know and it's I think you need to bring
01:00:42
to the party what they've hired you to do oh that's such a good attitude yeah
01:00:47
yeah you got to take it seriously toally and I I read somewhere this may be may not be that you do you do all your own
01:00:53
negotiations and contracts and stuff so did they they [ __ ] you over early on and
01:00:57
now the money's got really good yeah exactly you know it yeah what was what was it in season one can you say that oh
01:01:03
I can't they don't they you can't talk about money because they they don't like
01:01:07
it but um it wasn't great it was kind of like it was like what you might have it
01:01:13
was what you would have gotten paid for like a non-f filmed season just a normal
01:01:17
yachting season but you wanted to be on TV so badly you would have paid them yeah oh totally totally I would have
01:01:23
been like yeah but not anything yeah um so the F and then the second one was slightly better and then once I kind of
01:01:31
managed to establish myself as like a fan favorite and could could kind of be like look I know I know how much you
01:01:38
guys want me kind of thing now I'm able to negotiate much better it's all supply
01:01:43
and demand isn't it yeah how how badly they want you so so there was one thing
01:01:48
um so you had a boyfriend on the show for a while this guy Jack yeah and there was a scene where he Willy Jack he um he
01:01:56
like um proposed to you to be his his his girlfriend yeah and he had like body paint on him and stuff like that was so
01:02:02
is that his own idea or is that a Bravo idea like the producers are they like hey you should do this no as I say the
01:02:09
producers never ever tell you to do anything they do not intervene at all he actually said to production he was like
01:02:16
oh I really want to ask AA to be my girlfriend do like he was like do you mind if I do it and they're obviously
01:02:21
like well yeah of course it's great for story like do what you want um but he he asked me because he wanted
01:02:27
to take me on a date afterwards just me and him cuz usually usually it would be the whole group goes out for the dinner
01:02:34
but he wanted just a one-on-one so he asked them and and they were like yep we'll organize a dinner for you um but
01:02:41
yeah that was all that was his idea and it was it's so silly because I think
01:02:46
it's one of those things where there's this thing called boat goggles and
01:02:51
everyone experiences it at some point and it's like you're stuck on a boat
01:02:55
you're in a bubble there's no one else that's an option and Jack when I first
01:03:00
came on I remember he told me this story about how he was a builder in London living on a house boat and that if the
01:03:09
weather wasn't good he just couldn't be bothered going so he just wouldn't show
01:03:13
up to work and then eventually he got fired and I remember just listening to that story and being like oh that is so
01:03:18
unattractive like who just who doesn't go to work just cuz it's cold like
01:03:23
[ __ ] get up and go to work you know such a poor attitude yeah such a bad and I remember think it was so unattractive
01:03:28
and I really like I thought he was like a funny guy but I wasn't attracted to
01:03:31
him but then sure enough as the weeks go on and we're like there's no one else in
01:03:38
sight he suddenly somehow got funnier and funnier and then he got attractive and you like you start seeing things
01:03:44
that you didn't see before and so we kind of like started this fling and he asked me his girlfriend and I said yes
01:03:50
but then it was almost it was almost like as soon as we wrapped we were I was like this there's no way like this can
01:03:57
work out this isn't going to be a thing um and so I and I think he thought the
01:04:02
same thing but I didn't have a chance to talk to him about it before he went off
01:04:05
to London and then so then he was in London and I was trying to call him to get away to go over there
01:04:12
to end it cuz we were CU I was like this is just we can't like carry this on it's
01:04:17
yeah and um and I was trying to get over there and anyway long story short he was
01:04:22
like oh don't come over yet cuz I've got family and I've got this wedding and
01:04:25
it's just like a really difficult time and blah blah and then I ended up seeing
01:04:29
on his ex-girlfriend's story that she was at the wedding with him and so I just I finally managed to get in touch
01:04:35
with him and I was like so you're at this wedding and I'm like he's like yeah
01:04:39
and I'm like so Kell's there and he's like yeah and I'm like so you [ __ ]
01:04:42
Kelly he's like yeah I'm like okay cool like thanks for having a conversation
01:04:48
with me before you go and like get back with your ex-girlfriend so anyway that was done it was a shame how it ended cuz
01:04:56
we actually were really really good friends and I just felt a little bit betrayed as a friend but it was never
01:05:02
going to be a longterm thing and Below dick land is he like a villain because of that yes is he I know and that's the
01:05:09
thing cuz people were so like people were so loyal to me that not like he's kind of like he's just had to kind of
01:05:18
keep his head down ever since cuz it came out that he like you know essentially cheated on me and I was
01:05:23
supposed to be going to and all this stuff and so yeah everyone very much had their pitchforks out and trying to stab
01:05:30
Jack it's it's so funny because it's it is such a big show there's so many
01:05:33
people invested in it and as I said I've never seen a full episode but I've been
01:05:36
learning all this stuff and it's like oh I wonder how the wonder how the community react to that there was
01:05:41
another one um who's Chef Ryan you and Chef Ryan Ryan I have not met a more arrogant
01:05:49
prick in my life and I don't say that lightly because I think everyone has got
01:05:54
so many beautiful special things about them no one is like just a prick but God he's like he's a really hard one to
01:06:04
find all the nice things in like he was a tough work man yeah cuz I saw some episodes on YouTube of um the
01:06:13
the Andy Cohen Show Watch What Happens Live and there was one with Ryan talking about you then another one of you
01:06:18
talking about him and it was you could just see the disdain yeah um mutually both ways I think oh yeah it was just it
01:06:27
was so hard cuz that was my first season as Chief STW and I was on this boat this
01:06:32
boat that was the size of you should have had four stews but they only ever do three stews so it was three of us on
01:06:39
a four person boat and it was my first full season as a chief stew and you're
01:06:45
being filmed and all of this and then I had a like a terrible Chef who was just a cook really like didn't really know
01:06:52
how to cook and was an absolute [ __ ] and so it was a mix of that that was the most stressful season I ever done in my
01:07:00
life I remember I used to wake up at 2:00 in the morning every morning just not like damp from sweat like actual
01:07:06
Rivers running down off my body just so stressed out I didn't take one break all
01:07:12
season and yeah so I was already so stressed and then to top it off I had this guy who had this absolute attitude
01:07:20
and just didn't really know how to cook and he had this attitude where it's like
01:07:25
no the guest should listen to me so on a yach the guests they're paying so much
01:07:30
money to be on there they do whatever the [ __ ] they want and we dance around it and you get vague times but you
01:07:38
everyone knows it's never going to be that exact time because if they are in
01:07:42
their rooms for longer or if they want to Jet scare for longer it's always going to change and you have to let them
01:07:48
of course and so like you know just an example of one time we I said like oh yeah the guests are wanting dinner
01:07:53
around around 8 and so it was like okay and then it was getting to 8 and they still getting changed and I hadn't sit
01:07:59
on the radio I had not said anything about like cuz I'd always be like oh the
01:08:03
guests are making their way to the table I can see the guests coming up from the
01:08:06
cabin just so you know like you know you kind of communicate that and I hadn't
01:08:10
said anything which means they're nowhere near the table and I like so they hadn't even come out of the cabins
01:08:17
yet and I run downstairs and the burgers are all just sitting there on their plates and he's like well you said he
01:08:23
just get us this atude and he's like you know you see the um dinners at 8:00 so
01:08:27
he's like if if you can't Wrangle the guest and if you can't control your
01:08:30
guest and get them to dinner at 8:00 that's your fault I've done my job they're here and they're ready and he
01:08:35
refused to like recook them and that was the kind and that was the kind of attitude I was dealing with all season
01:08:42
and so that's why I ended up saying to him I'm like how many Yachts have you
01:08:45
actually worked on because that's not how this works we don't stick to these
01:08:52
times like a stick CL and that's where that whole famous scene blew up where he's like well how many
01:08:57
vacuums have you pushed and I you know like oh my God and there was yeah well that's F it's the um Bravo must love it
01:09:07
though because it's great it's great for you know you said before it's um it's
01:09:12
very organic reality TV but they I guess they still want conflict and drama so when things like that happen they must
01:09:17
be frothing about it oh yeah they love it and that's why they try and cast people who they know will be
01:09:23
controversial you know but he was just he was just um very difficult and then afterwards he
01:09:34
cuz I never react I knew that all he wanted was like reaction so when we left filming I i' never reacted to anything
01:09:42
that he had said on his Instagram or anything and he used to put these stories up where he would Photoshop
01:09:48
pictures of me like on the Titanic or like spend all this time photoshopping pictures of me into these weird weird
01:09:53
scenes and like just making fun of me and insulting me and I never responded I never responded to them once I only saw
01:10:01
them cuz people would screenshot them and send them to me and then the next season they were asking me about what
01:10:06
the chef was like last season so of course I comment on it and then next thing you know he's on his Instagram
01:10:10
like oh my God she's so obsessed with me you know she just keeps talking about me
01:10:16
and I'm like she's the guy who's like spending all of his time photoshopping
01:10:21
photos of me on to the Titanic like yeah you were living rentree in his head yeah
01:10:27
but you know I think it's just PA of the course with reality TV you're going to
01:10:30
come across these people like a lot of narcissists are attracted to reality TV yeah of course and there was a massive
01:10:38
story last year um about you intervening and stopping um a likely or probable or
01:10:44
possible sexual assault um yeah what was the go with that so this is during filming this is during filming yeah and
01:10:52
this was quite a huge moment for I think reality reality TV in general because nothing like this has ever been shown
01:11:01
before and you never really see producers intervene either so that night we'd been out um we did drink a lot Luke
01:11:09
was someone who would always like really push the shots and the alcohol and all of that and um we were coming home and I
01:11:17
don't know why exactly but I just my Spidey senses started tingling and I was
01:11:23
like something is just off here like I don't feel right about something I didn't really know what and I was we
01:11:30
were in the Vans and I was in the seat in front of Margot and Luke and I remember Margot was sitting there and
01:11:37
she was so out of it she was wasted like you know you know you know when when the
01:11:43
eyes on what saying yeah on nobody's yeah so it was like that and I remember
01:11:49
Luke like kind of prompted her head to go down onto his lap and you know put her down there so that she
01:11:55
was lying on his lap and this could be completely wrong but I thought I heard a zip go down and it was just this kind of
01:12:02
situation where even even if it didn't even just her head being on his lap I
01:12:05
didn't like it cuz I could see how out of it she was and so as soon as the van
01:12:11
stopped I was like I the I just all I saw I had this one track mine I was like I have to get my go to bed that's all I
01:12:18
was thinking that's all I wanted to do so we got out of the Vans and I grabbed
01:12:21
Margot and I'm like yep we're going to beard I'm taking her to bed no one come
01:12:25
with us and I March her down and I put her into bed and um and you know some of the guys tried to come in and I was like
01:12:33
no you guys need to leave her alone leave Margo she's going to bed now like I don't want anyone else in this cabin
01:12:39
and because people had tried to come in I got back into bed with her and I like they didn't show obviously because they
01:12:45
can't do a whole episode of me lying in bed they didn't show how long I was in
01:12:49
bed with her for so I was laying in bed with her for like 45 50 minutes kind of thing just making sure she was okay just
01:12:56
making sure all you yeah everything else died died died away went to sleep yeah I
01:13:02
didn't want anyone else to come in and and I wanted to make sure she fell asleep and she was okay um and then you
01:13:09
know but we're so sleep deprived we had so much to do the next day that it got
01:13:13
to almost 1 and I was like I've just got to I've been here for so long I need to
01:13:18
get to bed myself so I got got out of bed went to the crew mess and started making my my 2-minute noodles which by
01:13:25
the way I'm still waiting for a magi uh sponsorship because the amount of noodles I bloody ate on the show I
01:13:31
deserve it um so I got out of bed I did my usual ritual of making my two-minute noodles and I was standing at the
01:13:37
microwave waiting for them and I just hear this no no no no no and I turn around and there's like two producers
01:13:44
and another girl from production sprinting down the stairs and sprinting past me and I'm just like holy [ __ ] like
01:13:51
what is going on one of the actually ran down the stairs so F she uh broke her ankle and yeah they're just like no no
01:13:59
no they run past and they're at maro's door and they're banging on it they're
01:14:03
like no no stop stop stop and I was like holy [ __ ] and I just was like in shock
01:14:09
um and I kind of gauged from their reaction that Luke must have come out of his cabin and gone into her cabin uh and
01:14:19
so you know I kind of popped my head around and saw what was happening and he was pushing on the door and he actually
01:14:25
pushed back on the door so hard that then he broke a producer's toe it was very hectic so I could kind of I kind of
01:14:32
figured what was going on um and I ended up just going into my cabin and sitting
01:14:37
on the floor and crying because I felt like I had I felt like I had failed Margo you know cuz I feel I put so much
01:14:48
time and effort into making sure she got to her bed and making sure that nothing
01:14:52
happened that it just yeah I just felt like I had failed her and so I was so upset and I yeah went back to her
01:15:00
cabin what else could you have done though apart from just crash out and stay the night with her yeah and and
01:15:05
that's the thing like it's not like I know looking back on it that it's not
01:15:09
like it was my fault and I did I did so much for her but I still felt like I failed her in a way um so yes then I
01:15:17
went back in and I made sure she was asleep and then I did stay with her until she was fully asleep and
01:15:24
um yeah and then I went back to my cabin and then I was like well I've got to go
01:15:28
tell Jason and so then that's when I went and told Jason and he Jason's the
01:15:32
captain yeah sorry I told Captain Jason and I was really upset so I was crying when I was talking to him and and yeah
01:15:39
he came down and told L Luke to pack his bag straight away and got him off the boat it was like 3: in the morning um
01:15:46
and yeah got him off the boat straight away and it was just I think it was really cool
01:15:52
that Bravo decided that they wanted to include that and show that cuz as I say there's nothing like that has ever been
01:16:00
shown on real reality TV before and what I think was really good coming from that
01:16:06
was I was so um I was so warmed by the reaction because the overwhelming reaction was
01:16:17
that everyone was so disgusted by it and they're like oh my you know there needs
01:16:21
to be consent and and you know like all of this talk around consent and saying no and that kind of thing and I was like
01:16:29
wow the fact that the all of the public is reacting in This Way shows me that as
01:16:34
a society we're moving in the right direction when it comes to consent and sexual assults and what we stand for
01:16:42
absolutely and I but I feel like this grew um even even if you're not a below
01:16:46
deck Watcher this became like bigger than the show itself right tot you must got their feeling at the time it was um
01:16:53
everywhere the story oh ABS it was absolutely everywhere and I think what I found the
01:16:59
hardest I was so warmed by that and I I loved the reaction I and I think it got everyone talking about really important
01:17:08
messages um but I think the hard part was that I never wanted anyone to think that I
01:17:17
was like capitalizing off a really horrible situ situation you know cuz I had so many magazines and
01:17:26
different places call it like trying to get articles out of me and stuff and I actually said no to pretty much all of
01:17:31
them because I didn't want to gain any sort of following yeah from from something that
01:17:37
you should just do anyway and from someone else's Misfortune cuz it actually really [ __ ] with Margo's head
01:17:43
like um cuz we told her about the next day and it was actually something that she really has struggled with and she
01:17:51
got when she started getting therapy afterwards and really had to work through it cuz she's such a beautiful
01:17:56
innocent like girl next door kind of girl and um yeah and she just really struggle with it so I didn't want to
01:18:02
play on anyone's Misfortune and get some sort of gain for myself you know well I
01:18:08
didn't come across any negativity around that but I'm sure there there has been
01:18:12
over the years because if you put yourself out there for a show like below deck you're going to get it how how have
01:18:16
you coped over the years adjusting to being in the public eye and the trolling and the mean comments and stuff have
01:18:22
have you been you to much of that oh a little bit but I'm I'm really lucky that
01:18:29
I would say 98% of my feedback is really positive which I'm so lucky about I honestly
01:18:36
attribute so much of My Success to my kiwi accent because anything that you say with a kiwi accent Americans are
01:18:41
like ohow you're so funny you're so cute you know it's such a novelty to them but
01:18:48
um the the negative comments that I always get are God she sounds so whiny because yeah cuz I'm always like oh my
01:18:57
God cuz every time I'm excited I'm like oh that's so cool and you know people
01:19:02
say that I'm whiny and the biggest one is just that my voice is really annoying
01:19:06
but comments like that I'm like I can't change my voice I don't give a [ __ ] you
01:19:11
know and every time people most of the time that people see me in public they're like I always hear your voice
01:19:16
and then I follow the voice and so I'm like having a unique voice is a good thing cuz that's what's going to make me
01:19:22
stand another thing to make you stand out from people so I don't know the negative
01:19:27
comments that I do get just really don't bother me you know and I think for me
01:19:33
I've got I've I don't have I've got a good self-esteem like I'm not insecure
01:19:37
and I've got enough people around me that love me unconditionally that I don't really care if Barbara in Kansas
01:19:44
thinks my voice in a way you know like it's done pretty well for me so yeah 100% And you yeah you've got such a good
01:19:50
attitude which I'm guess and I'm guessing part of that comes from um the
01:19:52
way way you were raised and your dad and the way that he he communicated with you
01:19:57
guys but also you know some could say you're at the higher risk of um like being an
01:20:02
alcoholic yourself or having mental health issues yourself and it seems like you from the chat we've had the last
01:20:08
hour 20 there's you know there's none of that with you no which I'm really lucky
01:20:12
for like my as I say I think I think in a lot of ways my siblings are like why did you just get away with all this
01:20:20
stuff because they have really struggled with addiction um not alcohol but other
01:20:26
things and um depression and anxiety and I don't have an I don't have an
01:20:31
addictive personality at all um and my brain chemistry is fortunately very in my favor um I guess the only things that
01:20:41
I get from Mom is I'm very OCD like I was talking to you about this before the
01:20:45
show I can get a bit obsessive with things but nothing that's like any sort of huge detriment to my life so I just
01:20:53
um I've just managed to navigate this whole path uh in a way that's really
01:21:00
benefited me somehow well it seems like just by being your true and authentic self it's working bloody well for you
01:21:06
yeah yeah totally oh let's talk about Scott for a bit so so Scott Dobson your
01:21:11
partner um hopefully getting engaged in the next year yes I would H SC um so you guys you you guys went to
01:21:21
school together he's from to well like Primary School Intermediate second High
01:21:24
School yeah so were you did you go to the ball together or anything or no I was actually at his 18th didn't even
01:21:31
realize it was his party and was on his driveway crying about some other guy that had just cheated on
01:21:39
me so we um yes so we went to high school together but he was in my brother's year so he was the year above
01:21:46
me and it was one of those situations where I didn't care about guys from cuz
01:21:51
I went to bethle I didn't care about guys from betham that was boring I was always hanging out with guys from like
01:21:56
toonga boys or OD Modi um and then also cuz my brother was in the year above it was one of those things where no one was
01:22:03
allowed to touch Jared's younger sister so none of the guys were really interested in me anyway um so yeah just
01:22:09
acquaintances we'd say hi when we walk past each other that kind of thing and
01:22:13
then fast forward about 10 years his mom is American so he got a scholarship for
01:22:20
socccer at at American College so he went to UNI over there um went on a motorbike trip one day through brick and
01:22:27
ridge loved it never left so he was in bricken Ridge which is in Colorado and then I started going back and forth to
01:22:36
La a lot for below deck and interviews and stuff like that and he was always really good at catching up with anyone
01:22:42
that came over to the West Coast side um to catch up cuz not that many kiwis do so he saw that I was one day messaged me
01:22:51
um sorry if you didn't actually want want the whole story by the way oh no no
01:22:55
do it's great um so messaged me and then um and I was actually sitting at the
01:23:01
gate about to fly off to do season 5 filming and then flying home so the timing was really bad I was like oh
01:23:09
sorry I'm I'm doing all this stuff and I was really busy um and I and at the time
01:23:14
but I did find him really interesting and at the time I wasn't interested in
01:23:18
him in that way he was just like a cool guy from home so I would take like a week to reply to him kind of thing this
01:23:24
was in October and then by Christmas we were messaging like every single day and
01:23:32
like waiting for each other's messages cuz over time I just found it more and
01:23:35
more interesting and then eventually developed a crash and realiz he did all these cool things that which was how I
01:23:41
wanted my life to look and so adventurous and exciting uh and then it got to Jan end of January and we were
01:23:49
like really messaging every day and like flirting and all this thing and so I was
01:23:53
like I've just got to take my chance and so I said look why don't I just come
01:23:57
over and see you for a couple of weeks let's like do a I'll come over for a
01:24:01
holiday he was like yes yes come over and he was living in his converted ambulance at the time so we started
01:24:07
talking in October by the end of at the end of February I flew over to Colorado and we did a twoe road trip in his
01:24:15
ambulance and it was so cute when I landed uh I was walking out of arrivals and he was standing like this hot like
01:24:23
this hot like Mountain Cowboy guy leading against his truck and I ran towards him and we had our first kiss at
01:24:30
the airport and we did this two week road trip and it was just magic it was so you just said a new straight away at
01:24:37
the airport because of all the communication You' had leading up to yeah yeah totally new but we were still
01:24:42
like because we're still both very logical kind of people at the end of that trip we were like well let's not
01:24:48
put a label on it yet like we've been in this false environment um of course
01:24:52
we're going to be sew into each other when we're like kaying through canyons
01:24:56
and stuff cuz it was like this extreme sports kind of two weeks it was it's like an Instagram highlights real
01:25:02
relationship to yeah exactly and we're like of course we're going to be sewing
01:25:05
to each other let's just like wait a bit so I flew back to New Zealand and I flew
01:25:11
back to New Zealand cuz I was meant to be doing Dancing with the Stars and 5 days later all the lockdowns happen and
01:25:17
I was stuck at home so we' just had this magical two weeks and then I was stuck
01:25:22
in the house for we didn't know how long at that time and we even said we were
01:25:27
like well do he was like do we just not like do this cuz we've got no idea how
01:25:31
long you're going to be stuck in New Zealand blah blah and I remember sitting
01:25:34
on the bed and I was like I'm not going to let Co be the reason that we don't
01:25:38
see what we could be know he's like yep no okay I agree um and so yeah s week we just facetimed and
01:25:47
S weeks later as soon as we went from level four to level three I went back over there and yeah and then it was all
01:25:54
on and here we are it's been almost 4 years now amazing and you're looking at
01:25:58
buying a house yeah and it I think it was really special for me because we we only moved back about a month ago um and
01:26:06
until then I was primarily based in the States but I'm someone who's just like I
01:26:12
froth New Zealand so hard I think it's just the best country the best culture
01:26:16
the best everything so being in the states and having someone there where it's like oh remember this teacher you
01:26:23
know this road you know this suburb or pies all four square like having someone that you could like talk about New
01:26:29
Zealand like you got that connection was really really special for me yeah that's
01:26:34
cool so we're together basically cuz of the four square that's wonderful yeah no
01:26:39
it was really nice and and his parents live in toonga so it's just all been really nice God you're so family
01:26:46
orientated oh yeah my family is my everything I love them well that's been an hour hour 26 hey Nico how are we
01:26:53
going for time with the hard drive okay all right well should we um oh oh we didn't even get Tober to get me
01:27:00
out of here yeah the Australian show you finish thing how much time have you got
01:27:05
I do have a meeting at 1 so I've only really got like 10 more minutes okay sorry oh no that's cool you you you did
01:27:11
say an hour and a half and we're almost at an hour and a half now um yes I'm a
01:27:15
cbody to get me out of here you finished third yes yeah what was what was Honey Bear you like he was yeah he was great
01:27:22
he was he was one of those guys he came in and he was like he kind of became Camp daddy straight away cuz he is just
01:27:30
like a man of the earth like he comes in with his big Whip and he he deserves how
01:27:36
to whip so hard and he it's almost like he will look at a fire and it just goes
01:27:41
yes Nick yes Nick and this fire just appears out of nowhere and like birds come and D in his hands and he'll eat
01:27:47
the burd I mean not really but it's just like he's like the survival Guru like he's such a guy he's such a
01:27:55
lad you know he did did he say his show and I think he finished like top three or top two incredible yeah so that was
01:28:00
really cool he was I must say he was pretty hard to get to know because he came in two weeks late cuz he was like
01:28:07
the wild card and then I think it kind of felt like he didn't really want to be
01:28:13
there so we had all been in Camp and we had these really strong bonds um and then he came in and he was lovely but
01:28:20
you could kind of get you kind of got the feeling he didn't really want to establish didn't really care about
01:28:26
establishing make friends friendships yeah so I did find him quite hard to get to know but you know that's cool we're
01:28:33
all on our own path he had a new baby at home he probably just wanted to be back
01:28:38
with the baby but wanted some money so and like no one took it personally but he was probably the one that I got to
01:28:43
know the least yeah I feel like you you you would have an ability to get to know
01:28:47
just about anybody well that's the that's why I found it so bizarre cuz I
01:28:52
was like I was actually trying I was like I'm going to get him I'm going to
01:28:55
get him and he just like didn't give anyone anything really so I was like oh
01:29:00
okay you know yeah and so what's your future going to look like cuz you still
01:29:03
want to do more TV yeah do you want to get into hosting or is it just but I feel like your strength is definitely
01:29:10
things that um highlight your personality yeah so I really want to continue with TV I want to do below deck
01:29:17
for another few years just because since it is a go a global show you know it's
01:29:22
all over the world it's there's no way with any not many other shows could
01:29:27
offer me the ability to raise my profile that much you know like um so it is it's
01:29:34
a really great show to be in when you're trying to grow your name and then after
01:29:39
a couple of SE after a couple more seasons I really want to shift into hosting like I really want to host like
01:29:47
love island or The Amazing Race like Sophie Monk Is someone who I really look up to I think she's so cool and I
01:29:53
basically want to do what she's doing you know I want to shift into that host
01:29:57
but somewhere where it's like not hosting where I have to follow a script like I want to do hosting where where I
01:30:03
can just be me cuz as you say that's your strength yeah I that's my strength
01:30:07
I'm great at being me if you get me to like I'm the worst actress ever I was an
01:30:12
extra in Shen Street a couple times and it was horrific I cannot act to save myself so I just need to do things where
01:30:19
I can just I just need to do things where I can just be myself yeah I I I love how open you are about what you
01:30:24
want to do I feel like that's sort of manifesting in the way and opening doors
01:30:28
um all right okay we'll end with a few random bits off the internet so I heard
01:30:32
um Slice of Heaven you want that to be your funeral song yes that's random that
01:30:37
is so Random every time it comes on I like look at Scott and he's like yes honey I know you want it as your funeral
01:30:42
song you don't have to tell me every time it's on so when we're in the jungle
01:30:48
um near the end of it we all got to pick a song to play um cuz you can't listen
01:30:53
to any music or anything in there and that was my song that I got to play and it was so we're all in the camp like
01:31:01
da just like starving and going all these bones crashing together but so happy I never thought about that as a
01:31:09
funeral song but there's that line in there howdy Angels where you find your
01:31:12
wings I think there'd be not a dry eye in the house funeral cuz I want my funeral to be a f
01:31:19
like a fun celebration and I think it's a good mixture of like fun but God you
01:31:25
better cry your eyes out you know there's no way you could not cry with that line yeah um oh you're you're a
01:31:32
vegan but you you do eat SEO miniature SEO I love SEO Cheerios so I everyone all of my friends know every single pot
01:31:43
like I go to I sh with a bowl of those I love processed meat like the faker the better I just love it um but no I was I
01:31:51
was vegetarian for like 8 years uh cuz I was living with a friend of mine that was vegetarian and so I was like I'll do
01:31:58
it with you totally lost my taste for meat um and just love being vegetarian we didn't really eat meat growing up
01:32:04
anyway so I was quite used to that um cuz Dad's dad's vegetarian primarily and
01:32:10
then it was just and then I when it was like a year ago I said to my friend I was like oh should we try being vegan
01:32:17
and so then I did that and I really enjoyed that but I just always I've always struggled with anemia being
01:32:24
really low in iron and it was actually after the jungle I'd been in the jungle and I came
01:32:29
out and I was in South Africa and I ordered this steak and I took one bite of it and it was like my whole world
01:32:38
just shook beneath me it was the nicest thing I'd ever had in my mouth ever I
01:32:44
loved it so much so now I like I'm a I'm a frother for the steak but um I just
01:32:51
don't like when you see that the Farms here aren't too bad when you see the farms in
01:32:56
the states even Scott like gets watery eyes they're so [ __ ] so I um Scott's
01:33:03
dad does home kill so I at meet now at home because he does home kill and I feel really I feel fine about that or
01:33:08
like hunted meat um so yeah so now I eat meat as long as it's from like an ethical Source I like that I like that
01:33:16
plus Cheerios which aren't from an I don't know what they are it's mystery
01:33:21
but I love little red sausage it's so good um the finger up the bum at eight
01:33:25
story that's going to have to wait wait till next time yep exactly well now I
01:33:29
know how poo comes out yeah yeah yeah this I mean but again a lot of kids probably experiment but
01:33:36
and they might remember it as an adult but they're not going to talk about it
01:33:39
yeah and also they missed out the part where I tasted it afterwards oh my God yeah and it tasted like tasted like poo
01:33:47
smells yeah all right Asia Scott you're an absolute Jim by the way 800,000 OD Instagram
01:33:57
followers how many of them are new zealanders oh 2% come on Zealand we do have a very small population though but
01:34:04
R ran to if you're at a cafe or you just before the day before we recorded this
01:34:08
you at Juicy Fest yeah do you get spotted a lot out and a lot of selfies or yeah so actually it was really nice
01:34:15
yesterday at Juicy Fest there were quite a few people that that come up and are like hyperventilating and shaking and
01:34:22
they's like wait we all watch Bic all the time and they just the thing I love
01:34:28
about kiwis is like Americans come up to you and they freak out and and you know
01:34:32
ask a photos or whatever but kiwis they kind of they they wait until it's a good
01:34:36
time for you and they come over and they're so polite and then they're always like you know we just think that
01:34:43
you're this and you're this and you represent New Zealand so well and that's
01:34:47
the one that means the most to me like that's the one that really like plucks
01:34:51
at my heart strings and they just say such beautiful kind compliments and then they're like would you mind if we got a
01:34:59
photo would that be too much to ask and then they're like thank you so much for
01:35:02
your time and we're just so polite here I really really love it and it's nice
01:35:08
cuz yeah again I just love New Zealand so much that it's and when kiwis come up
01:35:13
and do that that really means a lot to me oh that's so cool you are a great Ambassador thank you and just a great
01:35:19
person and um I can't wait what the future brings I feel like below dick is just the beginning of it yeah I hope so
01:35:25
I have a feeling I've got a feeling okay hey well best of luck thank you so much for
01:35:30
making the time to come on the podcast today and uh we'll see you soon awesome
01:35:37
[Music] cheers