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March 04, 2025 / 24:45

This episode features a conversation with Theo Pratt, who shares her experiences growing up in Glory of Vale, a religious community. Key topics include survival skills for leaving the community, the challenges of adapting to the outside world, and the impact of her upbringing on her life choices.

Theo discusses the lack of social skills and financial knowledge she faced after leaving Glory of Vale, noting that she had only seen a $5 note before her departure. She emphasizes the importance of learning to make choices and how trial and error shaped her understanding of everyday life.

She reflects on the positive aspects of her childhood, particularly her connection to nature, while also addressing the negative experiences, such as strict disciplinary meetings and the pressure to conform. Theo explains how leaving the community often led to gossip and judgment from those who remained.

Theo also touches on her journey of self-discovery after leaving, including her struggles with self-confidence and fitting into society. She shares her experiences with pop culture, education, and the freedom to express herself through clothing and personal choices.

The episode concludes with Theo discussing her growth since leaving Glory of Vale, including her accomplishments and the ongoing journey of understanding her identity in the outside world.

TL;DR

Theo Pratt discusses her life in Glory of Vale and the challenges of adapting to the outside world after leaving the community.

Episode

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there were a lot of people on Instagram
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that um posted questions for me to ask
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you and um a a lot of those um I don't
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know I suppose they're kind of trivial
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on the big scheme of things or like
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Curious you know like music related pop
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culture related about you know the
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outside world versus glor ofil so I
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thought maybe we'll um we we'll get them
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done first yeah and um then we'll unpack
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um some of your story someone said um
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uh if if you were writing like an
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outside Survival Guide for people
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leaving Glory of alale like what would
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be some of the key things in it you know
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so like an instruction instruction
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manual so they drop you off at the the
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bus stop they tell you you're going to
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spend the rest of your life burning in
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hell um what would have been helpful
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information to
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have um I think more like money
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management and then just like social
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skills knowing like how to introduce
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yourself and that sort of just how to
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have a conversation with someone what do
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you
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mean in there you you only had
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conversations with people you've ever
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like grown up with and you've NE you
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don't introduce yourself to anyone or
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say hello or things like that and like
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and MoneyWise I only had ever seen a $5
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note before leaving I didn't know what
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$200 meant in the scheme of things um
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and knowing how to go to the supermarket
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and things like that like choosing what
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to have for dinner like that sort of
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thing is probably just the really
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everyday life sort of
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stuff does it take you long uh once you
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leave Glory of able to get you hit
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around that
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stuff I mean you learn the hard way for
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a lot of it like it's trial and error um
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but I
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think just a lot of it comes down to
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being able to make choices and if you
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can learn that skill then you sort of
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everything else becomes easier yeah
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there's there's some stuff in the book
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that um you only sent it to me yesterday
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so I haven't read the whole thing I've
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just had a Fleck throw but some of
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that's um I mean yeah it sort of touches
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your heart it's kind of cute in a way
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it's like you leave Glory Veil they give
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you $200 yeah and you think you're rich
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you get to you realize oh okay $200
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ain't going to get me far no pretty much
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yeah love that someone else said um what
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are the most positive and most negative
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things you learned from growing up in
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glor of
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veale um anything good about
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it probably more like the life skills
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stuff but then also just I think my
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favorite thing in glor was like being a
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child and being in nature and like the
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bush walks and like that part of it um
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like I don't think I would have gotten
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through my childhood if I didn't have
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the nature around me to like disappear
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into the bush for a few hours um that's
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probably the best thing and the thing I
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missed most about like the West Coast
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yeah that's quite telling a so it's more
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like um scener based really than
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anything else yeah yeah definitely and
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when you disappeared in the bush for a
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few hours what was that for like just a
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process thoughts or process thoughts and
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like I did a lot of writing and reading
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um and just sleep as well like you
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couldn't and just piece
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like a moment just
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to realize I don't know like process
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things and hide from the meetings on
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Sunday
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um
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yes thanks
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J uh from Instagram uh what did Theo
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know about the outside
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world that it was a bad evil place and
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that everyone was going to hell um that
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was pretty much
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it is she still
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religious I believe m in higher power I
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believe in like the universe in the
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environment and connecting to nature but
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that's about it so if there was not
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religion so if there was a scale and
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there was like um religious agnostic
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atheist where would you be some probably
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in the middle yeah yeah okay um within
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Glory of vale uh what do people say
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about those that have
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left so when you're in there and someone
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leaves like I does everyone sort of
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gossip about them does everyone talk
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about them do they pray for them um like
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the word goes around that people are
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lefted and it's like they've damned
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their souls to hell and they didn't have
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like faith in God and they didn't trust
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the leaders and pretty much you just
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think that they've gone like they've
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disappeared like I remember when my best
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friend when I was 11 her whole family
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just disappeared and you just think that
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she's gone to hell and that's
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all and that's
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that and then like they have burnings
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like when I was younger that you'd have
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to burn um any like thing you had like
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photos or anything to do with them like
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your their names can't really be
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mentioned again that like it's like they
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never
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existed that's terrifying yeah yeah so
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you're not aware that it's that it's
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happening so your friends don't say hey
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you know in the next couple of days I'm
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going to be leaving not always no you
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don't tell anyone cuz then you could be
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stopped how did you know it was the
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right decision to
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leave I knew from like the age of 14
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that I had to get out of there but I
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think when I got to 18 it was just like
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a lot of questioning and then I pretty
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much got told I had to sign the
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commitment or leave so that was sort of
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was the last thing last straw yeah the
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again these are the questions from
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Instagram we're just scratching the
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surface on some of the stuff and we'll
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get into that in in more detail when we
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get through these um some of the some of
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these are quite serious but some of them
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are quite trivial so once we get through
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these we'll um go through your story in
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sort of a more chronological order um
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who decides the baby names the mothers
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get to say what's your name honey my
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name yeah was honey faithful yeah um the
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parents chose them but they have to be
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biblical and then they have to run them
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past the leaders
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first so where did um theop come from
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theop Pratt um when I was 16 I changed
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my name in glor um and it had to still
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be religious so I came up with theer um
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it came from a cow to be honest I was I
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was illegally milking cows with my
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cousins down at the deir and one of the
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cow's names was theop and then I just
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remembered that when I was going to
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change my name right honey Faithful is a
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great name it sounds like it could be a
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pop star to it sounds like it could be a
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stuff's name st's name I wouldn't know
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about that sort ofil it didn't it didn't
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work I mean having that sort of name in
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there all the guys just had on year and
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like I don't know it was just like a
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mocking thing in terms of like woman and
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having that name it was like confusing
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and like a lot of bullying Rel to it
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yeah by me and like boys my age
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yeah what is the uh typical day for a
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glory of old woman or for you I suppose
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like a young woman like like a teenage
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girl yep probably waking up at 4:30 to
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5: and either going to work on one of
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the teams so it could be going to make
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the breed for the community so like 100
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Loaves and then going to
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school finishing at like 2:30 back to
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work and then finishing maybe at 7 at
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night
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yeah starting
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again seems to be a life with like very
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little Joy it's feels like it's a life
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with um sort of like purpose and
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structure and discipline but maybe very
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little Joy no joy and no like moment to
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like have a laugh or have a conversation
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with a person next to you it's like just
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go go go cuz if you have a moment to
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think then you might start
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questioning you do you yeah within none
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of those moments that you can like even
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snapshots where like you're having a
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laugh or a happy moment with there's a
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few moments but a lot of it's like
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moments of in their moments of things
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that could get you in trouble so like
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running away and like going into the
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bush and like that sort of thing but it
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was always on terms that it was against
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the
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rules Yeah you mentioned mentioned
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before that you were um illegally
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milking um theop the
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cow what what happens when you when you
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break the uh law of Glory ofil you'll
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end up in a a Shepherds and servants
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meeting on a Sunday afternoon and
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questioned and like you'll get be sent
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into a room with like 12 of the leaders
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and
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questioned for a few hours for a few
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hours yeah and the leaders are all are
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all mean yeah all mean and sitting
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around in a circle and your Center
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what's sort of age oh 40s to 70s right
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so you're 13 14 15 16y old girl
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yeah and like are they raising their
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voices or oh 100% like raising their
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voices just all they all take turns at
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like screaming at you or yelling
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questioning you and you just sit there
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and wait for it to end and then you have
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to sort of come to an agreement at the
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end that you're going to do something to
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to show that you're going to submit to
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them so it could be apologizing or it
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could be you get put out like I was put
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out a couple of times um what does that
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mean could mean a range of things but
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when I got put out I was sent to work in
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the sewing room every day when I was 15
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and like I wasn't allowed to talk to any
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girls my age and not allowed to attend
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things that everyone else attended so I
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just went to the sewing room every day
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sewed then went
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home
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yeah so so when you're in when you're in
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when you're in trouble when you when you
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break the law
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yeah break in milking a cow say that
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happens on a Wednesday um are you just
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waiting until Sunday for the
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disciplinary meeting sometimes you're
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like oh is it going to happen or
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sometimes if it's serious you'll get
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called into like a meeting that night so
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like if someone from the outside that's
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left comes in and you're seen talking to
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them I've I was called into a meeting at
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like 2:00 in the morning woken up and
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was in a meeting with the leaders for a
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few hours and then to work at 4
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so they can't it can happen at anytime
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they can be knocking on your door at
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midnight what's the anxiety like like
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leading up to these meetings like if you
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know a meeting's coming like are you
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sheding yourself yeah sheding yourself
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and disappearing up up to the bush
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hiding that's why you like your you know
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you're eventually going to have to face
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the music you you do you know you are
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you just I guess hope that something
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else someone else does something bad so
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they take over
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yeah yeah pretty much yeah well I can't
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imagine how how stress by does it get
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easier though like those those those
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telling offs you're like oh I'm in
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trouble again it's another one Whatever
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Yeah you sort of just like oh well you
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and you sort of know learn the lines
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that they like so you learn the lines
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that will get you out of it so you learn
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to like say sorry and say what they want
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you to say so you just keep them in
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rotation and get through it and carry on
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say praise God and bless your brother
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and hope that does the truck say all the
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right things and then just go back to
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milking the cows yeah pretty much um a
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good friend of mine Clint uh he's a very
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funny guy he said um did she have a good
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role in the concert or was she put in
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the background oh no I didn't have any
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role
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didn't why were you too much of a
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renegade yeah were you yeah was that
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like a a like a a privileged position to
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get 100% Only The Chosen how much prep
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went into those concerts months like six
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months before the concert like months
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and months of prep making all the
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costumes long hours yeah was that a um
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like a good position to have because
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it's a I don't know I suppose a bit of
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Joy yeah it was fun cuz you're doing
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something different and you're and and
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you're excited about who's going to turn
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off at the concert were you not
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motivated to change your evil ways to
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get a SP no and I didn't I couldn't
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think of anything worse than
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representing nil
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Copa yeah
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um someone you might know um who
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Instagram name is man doton says I went
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to school with the I don't have a
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question I just want her to know that
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she's an inspiration oh nice yeah how
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does that make you feel yeah great I
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think I think yeah it feels good
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yeah yeah since you've been out so what
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is it now like eight years yeah it'll be
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nine years next month yeah how many how
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many conversations have you had with
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people have yelled at you H not many
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might be the other way around are you
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yelling at Kev your partner maybe yeah
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could be yeah but it's strange though
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isn't it because this is all you know
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and this is this is what you think
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life's all about and then you get out
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there and you realize that it actually
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isn't No Ex very abnormal you wait often
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like I'll be waiting for someone to yell
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and it doesn't happen it's like oh it's
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not normal like and what the
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circumstances like can you think of any
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that come to mind um probably more just
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like within the work life and like I
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don't know and stressful situations that
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you expect people to lash out at you
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when they're stressed oh and just when
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you makeing mistakes yeah yeah
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yeah I'm please you don't have to put up
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with that anymore yeah
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so uh what has changed for her in the
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past year or so since the escaping
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Utopia documentary came out um I think
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it's been a great conversation stter but
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it's
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also it's been a journey and it's I
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guess I still just keeping on thinking
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about my sister in India and like lots
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of people asking me about how that's
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going yeah there were a few questions
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about that on Instagram but yeah we're
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going to get to that later um biggest
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struggle after leaving glor
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about just the self-confidence and
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knowing where you fit in and knowing who
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you connect to and like what is life and
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knowing what you believe
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in yeah I can't imagine that cuz it must
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feel like um yeah you were born there
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you leave at 18 so you know you leave as
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soon as you become an adult so you're
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having these adult conversations with
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people and you must just feel like I
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don't know like you you you just can't
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relate to what's going on and you really
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struggle to fit in yeah a lot of that a
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lot of like while I was studying like
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knowing we to fit in I didn't know what
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half the conversations were about um a
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lot of
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Googling a lot of um wearing
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um yeah just trying to fit in yeah a lot
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of wearing
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what
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um wearing um what's that what's that
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brand with the um the ears now I can't
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even think of it oh Playboy
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Playboy I I took a Playboy tail to a
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Christian Camp and had no clue what it
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was oh Playboy bu there but Playboy was
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popular for a while was that like the
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the peak s of popularity thing when you
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came out of glor Val no someone gave it
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to me I think they did it as a joke and
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I thought it was cool and I took it to a
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Christian can
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um besides family and friends does she
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miss anything from her glory OFA life
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you may have covered off that before
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with the scenery yeah not really
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nothing um how frequently do people
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leave and does everyone else in glory of
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our gossip about them feel like we
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covered off that last bit earlier um but
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yeah how frequently do people when I
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left it was every few like every six
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months or so every year but now like
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pretty much every day there's some
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leaving wow do you know what the
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population is there now still must be
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like like 500 something right yeah um
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Theo left Glory of Val in 2016 which was
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um Peak Bieber Fever did she know who
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Justin Bieber was absolutely not
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really so yeah what were you okay so
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when you in there so 15 16 17 18 until
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you left um yeah what were you were you
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aware of in terms of pop culture and
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music I I knew of the
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Kardashians like you know what you know
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about pretty much nothing really but
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like just photos of them like I don't
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know would look through all the
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magazines and like um all like the
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modeling stuff and would look through
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the pictures that way what magazines
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like when you're in Greymouth for a
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visit or no like would get all the old
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newspapers and go through them um and
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just like when we're lighting the fire
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at 3 :30 in the morning just scroll
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through wrap papers out yeah so and in
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terms of Music nothing we like had the
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illegal like wiring radios together and
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like listened to a few like songs like
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Katie per songs but other than that not
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really
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anything yes so what radio did you
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listen to I would I would have been on
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the radio when you were in yeah you I
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think you were yeah I think the edge and
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that sort of stuff and then like sports
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like I remember when the All Blacks
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played and like when I was making cheese
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I had a a guy come and tell me the score
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and I'd write it in the cheese book for
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the the World Cup right in the cheese
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book why the schore the game I don't
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know I just did Cheese book like a diary
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or yeah well like when I made cheese we
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would have to record like all the acid
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and how you what we did how much milk
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and at the bottom I'd just like write
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messages for just for yourself yeah
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and then I I always thought that cuz
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other people they would be kept in the
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kitchen and I always thought like it
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would be cool once I left the other
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girls getting to read it seeing if I
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left them any messages like I don't know
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to make them think about where they
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live i' I've never been to Gloria Valley
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and I've never been to prison either but
00:19:21
like what your describing sounds like
00:19:23
sounds worse than prison yeah a little
00:19:27
bit um first time she had McDonald's or
00:19:32
KFC first time I had um KFC I went
00:19:35
through with like a drag queen what went
00:19:38
through the drive-thru like it was a
00:19:40
friend uh like a friend of a friend
00:19:42
though like oh I'll take you to CC and
00:19:45
then yeah they were telling me about
00:19:47
their life and yeah so this is after you
00:19:50
left glor of Valen we're living in
00:19:51
Oakland yeah yeah yeah and um what were
00:19:54
your thoughts on
00:19:56
KFC soed we had in gloral it was like
00:19:59
nille Cooper's biggest thing oh really
00:20:03
yeah right he so you okay so you'd
00:20:05
already had KFC yeah yeah yeah yeah what
00:20:08
about McDonald's I think we used to go
00:20:11
through the drive-thru for the 50 scene
00:20:14
ice creams but I didn't know what it was
00:20:15
cuz we never went in and shops like
00:20:19
Kmart or
00:20:21
brisos nothing there's no shops in gr
00:20:24
yeah no but the first time you like went
00:20:26
to one of those um after leaving Gloria
00:20:29
now yeah I don't I think it was all just
00:20:31
a blur like Sylvia Park was my closest
00:20:34
mall that was overwhelming but yeah
00:20:38
that's syia Park is
00:20:40
probably like about the size of the
00:20:42
whole Glory of our compound yeah um does
00:20:45
she have any favorite swear words
00:20:47
now just e
00:20:50
word did you ever swear in glory of
00:20:53
Al uh did you know those words or does
00:20:56
anyone use not those words but like
00:20:57
saying [ __ ] was like the worst thing
00:21:00
ever and if someone overheard you you
00:21:03
you'd get in trouble for that right yeah
00:21:05
right
00:21:07
um uh what was the coolest little um
00:21:10
little things you found out after you
00:21:14
left don't know there's nothing after
00:21:17
you left that like just blew blew your
00:21:20
mind really impressed
00:21:21
you I just think
00:21:25
like you think in a way but like just
00:21:28
that woman could have an education and
00:21:30
like that woman were CEOs and like
00:21:34
running the place like that sort of blew
00:21:37
my mind did that seem like unfathomable
00:21:39
fathomable to you and 100% that's such a
00:21:41
cool answer yeah like that sort of thing
00:21:44
like literally and that I could do that
00:21:47
if I
00:21:48
wanted and here you are you got a degree
00:21:51
yeah like like it's it's like I don't
00:21:53
think I can um just emphasize enough
00:21:55
just how how cool that is so you had
00:21:57
sort of limited education while you were
00:21:59
growing up yeah then you leave at 18 you
00:22:02
you don't know anything about the
00:22:03
outside world and you've you've you've
00:22:05
accomplished so much in the last you
00:22:07
know eight years since you've been out
00:22:08
it's really cool hope you're proud of
00:22:11
yourself yeah definitely proud of myself
00:22:13
um what was the first movie she saw
00:22:15
after leaving glor of Val hunt for the
00:22:16
worlder people oh yeah that's B you
00:22:19
enjoy it not bad you loved it five stars
00:22:22
yeah then again you had nothing to
00:22:23
compare
00:22:25
exactly uh first concert she went to
00:22:27
Pink
00:22:29
all right okay yeah um your friend Rosie
00:22:31
Overcomer who I had on last year she
00:22:33
said the Pink as well did you go
00:22:34
together no no no um yeah why did you
00:22:38
yeah did you like pink yeah it was good
00:22:40
yeah she's a very good performer that
00:22:42
sets the bar very high for for other
00:22:43
concerts I love Sam Smith though I've
00:22:45
been to his all his concerts in New
00:22:47
Zealand have you yeah yeah why what's
00:22:50
the appeal with Sam Smith just being
00:22:52
different and being who he is like just
00:22:55
him being himself yeah um in terms of
00:22:59
Technology uh what was the hardest
00:23:01
things to
00:23:02
learn like is it weird when you first
00:23:04
get a phone very weird I think I used
00:23:08
all my minutes up like on the first
00:23:10
day I don't know who I was talking
00:23:13
to but yeah that's thing yeah someone
00:23:17
wanted to know about clothes and fashion
00:23:19
like um you know I suppose what they
00:23:21
mean is um when you wear the same blue
00:23:24
dresses your entire life and that's all
00:23:26
you're knowing uh when you can start
00:23:28
making clothing choices for yourself
00:23:29
what do you what do you get you're
00:23:31
wearing jeans today that's um that's not
00:23:33
allowed step up
00:23:35
yeah are jeans comfortable oh so comfy
00:23:39
no but I mean when you when you go from
00:23:40
not wearing jeans your entire life to
00:23:42
wearing them for the first time as an
00:23:43
adult I think these a PA I'm wearing
00:23:45
jeans as a woman like for me I mean I
00:23:47
talk about it in my book like I think it
00:23:50
just gives you like a sense of control
00:23:52
and
00:23:53
like oh wearing men men's clothing but
00:23:56
it's not
00:23:58
and just I I just find like a power in
00:24:01
it and in the beginning when you when
00:24:05
you started like wearing Jewel have you
00:24:06
got ears you got your ears pierced or
00:24:08
anything yeah you got your ears pierced
00:24:09
when you got your like piercings and
00:24:10
your tattoo um like was there like a
00:24:13
default sense of guilt or anything no no
00:24:16
no not at all noos are addictive
00:24:20
yeah when you're getting them it does it
00:24:22
sort of feel like the middle finger in a
00:24:24
way yeah yeah yeah okay that's great
00:24:27
thanks fing those questions oh good

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Episode Highlights

  • Life Skills Learned
    The most valuable lessons learned from growing up in Glory of Vale revolve around everyday life skills.
    “Knowing how to go to the supermarket and what to have for dinner is essential.”
    @ 01m 31s
    March 04, 2025
  • Leaving Glory of Vale
    Leaving Glory of Vale is a journey filled with challenges and self-discovery.
    “I knew from like the age of 14 that I had to get out of there.”
    @ 05m 44s
    March 04, 2025
  • First Experiences After Leaving
    Experiencing the outside world after leaving Glory of Vale brings overwhelming moments.
    “The first time I had KFC was with a drag queen; it was eye-opening.”
    @ 19m 35s
    March 04, 2025
  • Proud of Achievements
    Reflecting on personal growth and accomplishments since leaving home.
    “It's really cool, hope you're proud of yourself.”
    @ 22m 08s
    March 04, 2025
  • Admiring Authenticity
    Expressing admiration for Sam Smith's unique identity and performance.
    “Just being who he is, like just him being himself.”
    @ 22m 52s
    March 04, 2025
  • The Power of Clothing
    Discussing the empowerment felt from wearing jeans for the first time.
    “I think it just gives you like a sense of control.”
    @ 23m 47s
    March 04, 2025

Episode Quotes

  • You think you're rich with $200, then realize it ain't gonna get you far.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!
  • You just think that they've gone to hell and that's all.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!
  • You just hope that someone else does something bad so they take over.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!
  • You realize that life isn't all about yelling.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!
  • You think that women could be CEOs and running the place; that blew my mind.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!
  • It's really cool, hope you're proud of yourself.
    Gloriavale Escapee Answers Questions from Instagram!

Key Moments

  • Leaving Conversations04:32
  • Disciplinary Meetings09:01
  • Cultural Shock17:21
  • First Fast Food19:32
  • Empowerment Realization21:37
  • Personal Growth22:08
  • Admiration for Sam Smith22:52
  • Empowerment in Fashion23:47

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