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Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey

January 01, 2023 / 01:02:19

This episode features Mike King discussing mental health, addiction, and personal experiences with depression and suicide. King shares insights on the importance of seeking help and the stigma surrounding mental health issues.

Mike King opens up about his own struggles with depression, including a suicide attempt and the impact of addiction on his life. He emphasizes the need for open conversations about mental health, particularly among young people.

The discussion touches on King's advocacy work, including the creation of the "I Am Hope" wristband initiative, which aims to provide a safe space for individuals to seek help without fear of judgment.

King also reflects on his journey to sobriety after a near-fatal stroke and how he has used his experiences to help others. He stresses the importance of addressing the root causes of mental health issues rather than just the symptoms.

The episode concludes with King sharing his passion for supporting youth and the need for societal change in attitudes towards mental health.

TLDR

Mike King discusses mental health, addiction, and his personal journey to recovery and advocacy.

Episode

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hi team and welcome to episode 24 of Runners only with dom Harvey on today's
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episode Mike King part two if you're in trouble reach out and ask for help that's an oxymoron that's stupid why do
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we continue to put pressure on our most vulnerable to make the first move this episode probably needs to come with a
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bit of a trigger warning Mike and I go very deep on the mental health stuff including a real open and Frank
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discussion about his own suicide attempt if you find any of this stuff at all triggering text
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1737 and you can talk to someone anonymously Mike's a guy who's done the
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work when it comes to mental health not from textbooks but at a Grassroots level
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talking to other kiwis and I really hope you guys get some useful tips and tools
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from this that you can use to make your own life or the lives of your family and
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just asked slow and steady anywhere you coming up just wanna connect for everyone who
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loves running this is [Music] Runners only with dom Harvey and Mike King Advocate Advocate how does that how
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does that non-runner [ __ ] you've done the workout you've done with them with
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your comedy you did the work and you got very good and and now I can tell you've
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like put the same energy and enthusiasm but I did what everyone else I didn't
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learn in books in the in the last 10 years I've spoken in nearly 300 000 kids
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personally when they contact you it's a genuine contact I give my number out to
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corporates and I get wankers trying to sell me [ __ ] you know these kids are genuinely there and nine out of 10 times
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it's concerned for someone else yeah you know I've got a friend who's this and
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I've got a friend who's that uh or it's about themselves and they just need
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reassurance that you know one there is someone there and two that their thoughts are normal so I've been out
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I've done the Arts and everything I say is not my opinion this is what kids are
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telling me and so when I get people well that's your opinion no actually it's not
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my opinion this is passing on feedback this is what your kids are telling well I disagree well that's like same dude
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I've just told you I like Kentucky Fried Chicken oh it does say game you know Everyone likes Cape right you
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know what I mean yeah yeah yeah of course you can't disagree with this yeah you can't disagree with the fact
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because you manned them yeah so you came out and um said you suffered from depression in 2006. do you think um it
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had been there your whole life you're an angry dude for a while was it was was
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that just your way of like projecting the depression yeah yeah of course so when I got famous
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you know that was supposed to change my life I always thought Fame and Fortune was the ultimate goal being well best at
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whatever it is right and in my mind I you know I expected that moment was going to be big it was like these these
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two gates would open Golden Gates would open there'd be a ticket tape parade the
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king had a ride yeah and you know people will be throwing confetti and singing your name kills to be strong and these
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it was gonna be it was the ultimate right yeah it's like winning the lotto a
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billion to one shot and I [ __ ] got it I was the first and then these gates open and there was my big head gang
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you're still a [ __ ] loser you should be flipping burgers and for me when you're when your whole life had been set
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for this moment and it didn't pan out for me that's when my inner critic got
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really loud and it was constantly taunting me and that's when the drug and alcohol use
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took over yeah so you you loved your cocaine I love myself so I started a travel agency Dom when Coke was in short
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supply in New Zealand just so I could fly around the world when it ran out how crazy is that [ __ ] so I'm guessing like
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it started as um like like a fun thing so you do a show whatever have a have a bag of gear and then uh so the first
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time I tried Coke was in 96 right 1996. um I was at a giga Monaco um I was with another American comedian
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called Todd Hanford and we just finished this gig and a guy came over and he shook my hand and said that was amazing
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and he palmed me some gear right now lots of people have been pounding me yeah it was all usually always weed and
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so I got this thing and I went into the toilet and it was a block of Coke and I didn't know really what Coke was
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so I said to my American Community hey man what's this hey hey hey hey hey hey
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so he dropped down the toilet seat and he lined us up two lines and I smashed my line and then I immediately vomited
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like you know I just [ __ ] whoa what the [ __ ] is happening and I threw up and
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everything that I've become addicted to in my life alcohol I threw up cigarettes
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I threw up Coke I threw up right so I thought I'll never get addicted to this
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[ __ ] what a [ __ ] this is what this [ __ ] is I'm out soon as I walked out
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into the into back into the the bar every single conversation in this place was crystal clear to me I could hear
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different groups talking there was a group of University students who just lost a friend of theirs there was
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another group of people that were getting a marriage but I could hear every conversation these University
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students were were talking about some scientific thing and out of my ring binder of memories
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something popped up that was Associated so I was able to enjoy the conversation and these people were like holy [ __ ]
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you're a whole lot more intelligent but when I talk to the people it just lost
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some my empathy level was right there I could reach the level of every single one and it was like magic for a comedian
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to be that connected with people in the room that was like the ultimate some of you felt like it made you a better
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person immediately like huge of course it turns a lot of people into a deck like they're they're just like it does
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comment conversation Hogs and it does eventually and that's exactly what happened you know after years of use of
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course that's what happened so and then in 1997 maybe eight months later um I end up going to London and spending
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six months on the SARS six or eight weeks on the scene up there and same thing I did a gig and a skeezy come up
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to me after his ear uh if you have any like you know the Rings The Whole Nine yeah
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he was a local drug dealer whatever you need whenever you need it you give me a call that was the funniest thing I've
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seen so for the next six weeks I was in Coke Heaven I didn't have to pay with it
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50 Quid yeah 50 Quid a gram you know so and it was a real deal not like the [ __ ]
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that they were selling back here and um so for me that was you know and then I ended up in Vegas and yeah yeah so we
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when did when did it stop being stopping fun and like start being a chore or it never stop being fun
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it never ever stop being fun yeah but um but okay I knew it was destroying me yeah I knew
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it was destroying me I knew you know the state of my career you know a bit like 660 you know I'd done all the
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town hall tours you can only do Town Halls you can only play at Eden Park a certain amount of times and then the
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rooms get smaller you know I the first Town Hall tour I ever did was in 2000 with radar you know we sold out you know
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the St James Theater [ __ ] twice yeah not once twice you know we were playing every major
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town hall in the country man you know like I had that much money you know like on this tour I see my manager to come
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and pick up a [ __ ] briefcase of cash and take it out you know wow it was ridiculous it was a ridiculous time you
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know I'm 10 foot tall and bulletproof I start out with you know an hour of material I
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get home with three hours of material because so many things were happening and the coke was flowing so ideas were
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flowing and I was just living and breathing comedy 24 7. but the room started getting smaller and you know and
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the the the the cost of the coke was getting higher and higher and higher and I you know and I was you know when
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you're worrying about finances you end up being an [ __ ] you know and you're
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blaming everybody else and you know young ones are coming up and in the in the um
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the [ __ ] Newsboy thing started you know oh yeah yeah now that you bring it like most people wouldn't wouldn't
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remember that but um so there's a sketch on like eating media lunch or one of the
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one of the and this show wasn't [ __ ] rating at all right it was a nice sort
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of show not a mainstream show it was on a 10 30 at night and there was a uh a dog that was Mike King and who was
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snorting [ __ ] or smoking pee or something and of course I was but of course I went into denial son how
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[ __ ] dare you like you've crossed the line you see you left a voicemail message saying you know I left it on a
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mate's phone right I left you tell your [ __ ] up friend that he's [ __ ] with
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the wrong guy who the but for me right I'm old school I'm old school you don't
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knock on people you know you just [ __ ] know you do the lag you know so I but you know these new kids they don't
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give a [ __ ] so he passed it on to uh Jeremy Wells and Jeremy posted it up and at the like you know I was thinking it
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was a big deal at the time here's my [ __ ] phone number call me yeah you know and I'd put my phone number on
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there and he [ __ ] he didn't take the phone number off and he broadcasted it
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and that basically launched his career you know and you know if I'm being honest I'm still a little resentful of
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that really yeah yeah have you seen have you seen Jeremy I have I've learned from
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the experience and I've told you know it's probably the best thing that could
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have happened yeah yeah but I'm still old school you know what it's like
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you've been in radio yeah you know you've had people come up to you go ah
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don't [ __ ] don't like you you know you never [ __ ] like that's a lot I
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don't listen to your [ __ ] you know my response to that thank you yeah what
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I've just [ __ ] told you you're an [ __ ] thank you what do you mean I said I'm just
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thankful I gave you the opportunity to get that off your chest now you don't
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have to carry it around anymore I'm an [ __ ] guess what I think I'm an [ __ ] sometimes too yeah we talk about
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the the inner critic before it's like you think I'm an [ __ ] you could never
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forget myself that's right um the Jeremy Wells thing like that that angry message was
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was part of that you like your depression do you think no because I wasn't had nothing to do with it okay he
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told the world the truth I was a [ __ ] drug addict I thought I had it well hidden but I was a [ __ ]
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drug addict and he outed me to the world he broke the code he knocked on me to the world he and and that's what like
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I'm still in the mongrel mob mentality you know you knock you [ __ ] die yeah
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that was my you know that was my so he told the truth and I was in denial you know and at the you know so at the time
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that's what hurt is he told the truth and I wasn't ready to face the truth and
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that's what made me angry and so I went straight into denial mode and I swing
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straight into Attack Mode which has always been you know how how I've operated you sort of fight your way out
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of things oh of course retaliate yeah let's find this Alleyway dude that was that's my mentality yeah and
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and the iron is you know he'd probably give me a [ __ ] good hiding I don't know had made some rules like
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just no face punches okay so um you see before like um you bought a travel agency yeah
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yeah Travel King oh really you're traveling in the right company well yeah our logo was a Playboy bunny smoking a
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cigar right you know you know something just I'm I'm pinching my nose as we talk
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about bringing back memories I'm just like hey yeah but that was just a time there was a
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time am I proud of that time in my life um no not really would I change it no it
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gave me legitimate experiences you know you can't you know other people would
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read about the [ __ ] in the book and then speak like experts you've got to live it
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man yeah and I suppose all these all these experiences brought you to where you are in the manuscript
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um so so through this travel agency you ended up um we were you're in a hotel somewhere Hong
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Kong or something yeah Hong Kong hotel so what happened was I had it in 2007 yeah uh
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um I had a massive stroke I was over Melbourne you're another Melbourne I was
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playing in the Aussie Millions poker tournament ten thousand five hundred dollar entry fee I was taking a [ __ ] uh
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I had a massive stroke and my mate Saved My Life um I had locked in syndrome so I was a
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complete [ __ ] dribbler um on the street how long not that long maybe eight hours but it was a lifetime
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terrifying yeah so um I have locked in syndrome I can hear everything I can understand whatever I'm
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saying I can converse in my head but the only thing coming out of my mouth was dribble Mars my face had
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dropped the whole the whole nine yards and so um I have the stroke I go to the hospital I hear the doctor saying you
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know like Hey where's his wife my mate said she's on her way good uh she said
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he said she'll be here this afternoon he goes too late you've got four hours to
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get this thrombolising drug in him and um and my mate said I'll give you a permission he goes no because if we give
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him he could die so either he gives us permission or his wife gives us permission so you could you couldn't
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even give the thumbs up or anything oh my head I'm going give me the [ __ ] yeah give me the drug give me the drug
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so um my mate grabbed my head and started yelling with the Mad Butcher you know like come on mate come on mate and
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it reaches this and his breath stunk I'll never forget that like you know he
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hadn't brushed the seat he hadn't done anything you know like and his brain
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[ __ ] Richie your breath stinks and he got me out it took me half an hour to actually formulate words and the
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first sentence out of my hair out of my mouth was give me the drug and the guy went give me the [ __ ] drug you know I
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tried to get off off the table to show him that I was no no say there you've
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got the drug you've got the drug but we need to do a CAT scan first they put me
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in the machine and I had another stroke in the machine now that was terrifying it's like you're nearly drowning you're
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about to be pulled into the boat and someone goes nah and pushes you back under the water what does the stroke
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feel like uh it feels like for me it's different for people some people have
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pain but for me it was like you know when you stand up too quick and then you get that whoa
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and you're in a permanent state of whoa and you're waiting for it to clear and
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it just doesn't yeah and you're just sit in there and say you're living in this
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kind of echoey world I can hear everyone again and the nurse has been talking to
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me and I'd been talking back to her and then she pulled me out and said oh I
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wondered where you've gone you'd had another so you've had another stroke and
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they took me into the other room and the dog said well we can't give him the drug
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and my mate looked at the doctor and went he gave you [ __ ] permission I was here he could go all right I'll
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[ __ ] give him the drugs so he gave me the drug and and I came out of it so it gets as close to death as anyone would
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want to get uh uh what was terrifying wasn't the thought of death what was terrifying when I was lying
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there in the second stroke it was like someone's gonna have to wipe my ass for
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the rest of my life someone is going to have to [ __ ] spoon feed me baby food for the rest of my life so when I came
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out of the stroke for the second time I grabbed my mate's shirt I've pulled
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him down and I said if I go back pillow me and it was all a faith he would have done I've done that before here's the
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thing I got home six weeks you know six weeks later I invite Richie and his wife
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up and my mind's still a blur you know and I pull them out to the garage and I
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didn't know if I'd said it or not and I said to Rich in the garage having to be and I said
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did I say anything to you when I was in Melbourne again no no oh why because I just
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yes [Music] whoa hello me I did say it is yeah yeah and I go would you yes well we'll never know will we I
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was like you know I was like oh [ __ ] but and then I spent the next two years in a
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fog but I vowed to give up I vowed to give up drugs you know and I was committed two days out of hospital with
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my with my poker mates you know coming to the toilets before we've got a line
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for you I've just had a [ __ ] stroke me you know I'm not gonna have that and
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I was determine uh then I got home and I had a block of Coke in the house I called Titanic it was [ __ ] nice beer
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it was [ __ ] and it was pure and um I could hear it calling me as I'm you know driving home I'm not supposed to
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drive home yeah uh drive down the driveway and I started chopping up and um it's remarkable you think like like a
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near-death experience like that that'd be enough to ski you straight no that's
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what that's to hold it had on me so I get uh so so then I was at one Titanic
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ran out I was able to give up I was able to give up how many grams was Titanic would have been uh close to an ounce
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right how many grams are in an ounce uh excuse me too [ __ ] so this is so like 10 grand
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worth yeah easy I can you know and not chopped either so it was like you know they started chopping it all up when we
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got baked Titanic look yeah so um so anyway um I gave up for three weeks and then I had
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a tour to the Hong Kong seven so I'd given up drinking cigarettes and um and
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thing and I was on the straight and narrow and my voice of reason oh yeah Mikey we've got this we've got this and
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the inner critic was yelling but nah the voice of reason and so I get over to what's the name there's lots of alcohol
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you know I I'm on a travel King tour so we've got a whole lot of expectant
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people I get everyone sorted out a system and I refuse to go to the game I can't go to the game because I'll start
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so I'm in wanchai which is the you know the the big party place um and I'm in one chai and I'm just
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aimlessly wandering around and a Maori Boy comes walking down the street father hey Mikey what are you doing and
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I'm like oh man I'm just wandering around got a team here you don't get on
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the shipment now I'm bored with footy he goes let's go have a beer batter and I'm
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like man I just gave up and he said these words I'll never forget it you've given up a New Zealand Vibe
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and uh [ __ ] you're right straight in I'll have a Heineken here at a Heineken first got
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to walk past could I have one of those [ __ ] cigarette puffing away puffing away and then I'm straight into my deal
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I go hey how are you how do you how do you have a dealer did you just have a dealer in every country right right and
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Hong Kong sounds like a dangerous place to be doing Class A gear no it's very
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safe yeah you know it's in terms of the penalty if you get caught or yeah you
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know the people you buy off are basically buying the police officer right okay you know so I get him and I
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get half an ounce of coke because I've been waiting for your call what's been
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happening just just [ __ ] drop me the gear would you and then I went back to my hotel and then I started snorting and
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then I got really [ __ ] angry with myself and you know and I just started snorting
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and then I you know I just wanted to die and I didn't want to hang myself or OD
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on anything else because that would affect my family but in my head it made sense that my king Rock and roller went
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out oding on on coke yeah it's like a revolution way to go out isn't it so I
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just ordered everything that I could and passed out on the floor and so in a way it was a like it was it
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was kind of a suicide that was a suicide now I wanted to die right that was my plan I was just gonna die you know I've
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just snort enough Coke to kill me you know and you know half an ounce is a pretty good job you know you you
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more than enough to die yeah um and I passed out and when I was passed out my then eight-year-old
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daughter magically appeared sitting on my chest going what are you doing Dad why are you doing this we need you at
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home you shouldn't be doing this it was like she was [ __ ] right there and I woke up
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and I went what the [ __ ] I flushed what I had left of the cocaine down the toilet
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uh rang in New Zealand booked a flight back home and got off the plane I fell out of the plane on April 1st
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2007 and haven't picked up since wow yeah just so I gave up drugs alcohol and
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cigarettes on the same day and just gone through 15 years your life's been miserable ever since
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people used to say to me in those years come back and they go you know uh you look great you look great on the outside
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I feel like [ __ ] on the inside when I was with the Coco like [ __ ] [ __ ] on the outside but I felt [ __ ] great on
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the inside but it's been a journey it's been really really really hard you know
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I suppose now you know I I'm a guy that protects myself so when I was doing comedy everyone is
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you treat your wife like a fish wife no I'm protecting myself you know um if I sleep with one woman I've got to
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sleep with a thousand so I made it very clear in my comedy that I was married because I didn't want to fall into that
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trap right so when I what do you mean in terms of your addictive personality yeah
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yeah yeah yeah yeah so it was a protection so I'd be sitting in in bars with a woman as people come up and go
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that's not your wife who's this it's actually my sister-in-law here's my wife
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Coming oh sorry Mike I did you know so it was designed to keep me safe uh and so then coming out about my drug
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addiction was the next logical step it was always designed to keep me safe yeah I had no plan it was just like if you're
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gonna do this this is what we're going to do and then I had a whole lot of people watching for me if I went to the
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toilet people would magically appear just so you're coming in for a job fight
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hey you know so have you been offered it since oh heaps yeah and and come on bro
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it's just that's me just us it never goes right I always thought Dom that I could go back
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and uh have a beer you know and Last Christmas I discovered Heineken zero I knocked off that first box in about 20
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minutes seriously and then the next day was another box and the next day was another
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box yeah yeah you know my wife Heineken zero like it tastes the same as normal Heineken but you're not getting
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any any back out of it yes reminder like the first time I drank the box I got so drunk my wife said you know
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you're getting louder no I'm not no I'm not I've got a [ __ ] faux drunk you
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know because I hadn't and it was uh you know in the end after a few days my wife
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said you can't do this you know like look at you you're just [ __ ] go nuts
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on this [ __ ] so we had a rule for every hour of yard work that I did um I was allowed a beer so that's when I
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started gardening 24 hours ago laughs it's two in the morning now so I've just you know I've just you
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know I've given it up again but it was a happy reminder like you know the thing
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that I miss the most out of everything cigarettes say sorry I love soups like I love the smell of cigarettes well if you
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hate the smell is no [ __ ] you I love it you know like people get in my car you
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don't smell your [ __ ] light up blow that [ __ ] on me I love that [ __ ] you
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know okay so yeah I've got an addictive personality yeah and it was um was it
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hard going off all that stuff and particularly the alcohol and and the Coke and the weed and then here just
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having to like um I know I suppose you feel particularly vulnerable at that point like there's no you're not taking
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anything to mask your emotions and I'm not going like my mate said go to AAA go
00:27:23
to n a go to all these but what you want me to give [ __ ] addicted to a god of my choice that's not for me you know
00:27:32
I'm from the school of whatever works but I'm I'm pig-headed and then one day
00:27:37
I discovered something like I'm an addict on so why don't you use my addictive personality for good so I got
00:27:44
addicted to being clean and sober yeah I addicted so I counted I counted days how
00:27:49
are you Mike 833 dude I'm [ __ ] awesome well I've been 833 so I would just count days count days count days
00:27:57
for 10 years I counted days I was gonna ask if you still do it now you must be like five whatever thousand I have no
00:28:04
clue where I'm at no I just don't I just don't bother but that's what I needed to
00:28:09
do to get me through I got addicted to use my addictive personality for good so um yeah so it was around this time like
00:28:17
200789 whatever that you you came out publicly and said you suffered Depression was um was that a bit cool
00:28:23
why did you decide to do that um again you know like well it happened accidentally really uh so I'm
00:28:31
I'm at home I'm depressed I'm not going anywhere Willie Jackson's worrying about
00:28:36
me right he's on radio yeah he's on radio live and he's worrying about me
00:28:40
you need to go right away [ __ ] you I don't need to go back to work I'm fine
00:28:43
you need to get [ __ ] you you get out of the house I'm not getting out of the
00:28:46
house and he goes um so he goes um Martin crumbs going off for a week I want to get you that job you're going to
00:28:54
come in and do I want to do the [ __ ] radio you know you need to get out we're
00:28:58
good mate so I went into radio live and I had 176 746 75 radio live I'm my king
00:29:06
you know I started reading out the headlines oh you know today if you've got a dad I'm just racing on
00:29:14
that point two percent if you're going to struggle with the interest rate give
00:29:16
us a call but everyone had done these topics all day right yeah and then they come back and I look at the board no
00:29:21
calls hey this piece of paper plan down the street if you have people around you give us a
00:29:26
call radio live another brakes and uh 20 past 10. 20 past 25 past 10 at night yeah yeah
00:29:39
producer goes uh we only have right no more breaks and then my inner critics started you know just started swearing
00:29:46
just start swearing starts throwing people will go don't you just tell the truth tell the truth tell me there's no
00:29:51
one there so I had this big [ __ ] war going on in my head and it was dead out dead air for 30 seconds and I'm just
00:29:57
closing my eyes and then I went [ __ ] it just tell the truth and I just told her
00:30:02
I said Hey Ron uh there are no calls there have been no calls I've been lying to you for the
00:30:09
last 20 minutes uh and if no one calls in the next five seconds I'm going to
00:30:13
start talking to the voices in my head then I close my eyes and I started talking you know the reason no one's
00:30:18
calling is because no one likes you oh people like you they're probably eating
00:30:22
dinner eating dinner it's 25 a night no one eats dinner at 25 cent and no he's
00:30:26
just a loser you know why do you always call Michael why do you always call him Michael on this stream of unconscious
00:30:31
thought came out of my mouth and then my producer went you better take the course
00:30:35
and I had a full board and the first fellow I talked to was a fella multiple called rangi I knew his Maori because
00:30:42
his name was ringy the first thing the first thing he said to me was bow bow I have those voices
00:30:51
too and as soon as he said that I just felt a connection so me and rangi we had a conversation all eight of us and we
00:31:00
were just talking and then the next four and then I had a 12 year old girl calling and she was like this is she was
00:31:10
crying she goes this is never like I've been having mental health issues and
00:31:14
what you're describing is exactly what it is and Caitlyn was your name and by
00:31:19
the Cadence whole family after the studio the next night and they all came up you know all of these people who were
00:31:25
just connected yeah you know and they must have felt so good yeah well then the next day I went and we have full
00:31:30
border so the next day I go in and I say we can talk about all this [ __ ] or we
00:31:34
can talk about what we're talking about lastly full Board of calls full Board of
00:31:38
course and then by the end of the week we were The Nutters Club you know hey this is another club it's still going
00:31:44
you're not involved with it anymore but it's still going to this day yeah
00:31:47
be with Hamish and um and Kyle um I just like I couldn't do it anymore physically I couldn't do it eleven to
00:31:57
one I'm in the schools on Monday morning and I'm up at five so I get to bed at
00:32:03
three I've got two hours sleep Monday's easy on year three Tuesdays killed me it
00:32:09
was like the morning after the morning after the night before yeah and in the end I just had to make a call
00:32:15
yeah and my focus wasn't on everyone's mental well-being by that stage it was on kids
00:32:21
and so I spent the next five years researching and listening when I first started I was
00:32:29
like everyone I wanted to go in and I thought I had all the answers and I was going to do this and I was going to do
00:32:35
that and I was going to do this and then after speaking in the first few schools
00:32:39
I realized I didn't know what the problem was yeah so I lost board members because they were like we need to
00:32:43
reproduce my Kings we need to get my Kings out there and I'm like just slow down I don't know what the problem
00:32:50
is you know once we discover what the problem is then we can set about our task in Earnest and it took me five or
00:32:57
six years to understand that the biggest problem we've got is imposter syndrome
00:33:01
and overactive and accredit and now it's so obvious yet we've got all of these
00:33:07
agencies that that won't even listen they don't even believe it no that's not
00:33:12
the biggest problem is depression it's anxiety no these are the outcomes of an
00:33:17
overactive inner critic you [ __ ] [ __ ] you know if you know we're always focusing on
00:33:25
Behavior we're never asked what drives the behavior you know Eating Disorders
00:33:29
are the biggest problem facing young people today yet when you go to the eating disorder clinic they make it
00:33:35
about the food my daughter's got an eating disorder and we go to the eating disorder clinic and you know right we're
00:33:41
all going to have a shared lunch today so your lovely daughter can see what it's like to eat you know and and every
00:33:49
time she says something that's not her speaking that's Anna that's Anna
00:33:55
speaking I'm like what the [ __ ] oh anorexia right and then one day my daughter said after four sessions she
00:34:01
goes you know my problem's not food eh food's not my problem the problem if it
00:34:07
wasn't food it'd be alcohol it would be drugs it would be boys it would be the
00:34:12
gym I want to know why my brain is making it about the food and that was the last session we had the right but we
00:34:21
focus on Behavior like we do it with everything drug dealers you know drugs throw all the dealers in jail let's ask
00:34:28
a serious question why are there so many people today that need to be on drugs what are the drugs doing and then 90 of
00:34:36
the cases brother it's shutting their [ __ ] self-doubt up yeah you know it's
00:34:40
always alcohol you know same thing it gives you a break from temporary release yeah you're escaping it's the relentless
00:34:48
shoot of temporary happiness you know in the irony is people said to me like my friends you know what's it like being an
00:34:55
addict you tell me I'm not an addict dude you go to the gym seven days a week
00:34:59
you miss a day you turn into an [ __ ] you know uh you know oh bro what's it
00:35:05
like hiding things from Mrs you tell me I don't know how it thinks dude you play
00:35:08
golf three times a week you Misses thinks you play once a fortnight you're [ __ ] lying you know so the the the
00:35:15
thing that most men are addicted to more than anything else is work you know I fire money at the problem I've got
00:35:22
troubles at home I've got [ __ ] troubles with self-esteem and to cover it all up I [ __ ] throw money at it
00:35:27
yeah so when was I am Hope born when did that come about um that was just an accident really I
00:35:33
was working with some suicidal kids and I was talking to them saying how can we never talk
00:35:38
because we don't know who's safe what does that mean we don't know who's
00:35:42
going to judge me I don't know who's going to gossip around me I don't know
00:35:45
you know like I don't know who's safe you know I don't want to be ridiculed I
00:35:49
don't want to be appointed that I said so you know we need to do something about that why don't we come up with
00:35:55
something that signals I am safe and they came up with a wristband that says I am hope if you're you know if you're
00:36:03
wearing The Wristband what you're saying to people is I won't judge you I won't
00:36:07
[ __ ] gossip about you uh I'll be there for you most importantly I won't
00:36:11
try and fix you I'm not qualified to fix you I won't take on your problem I'm not
00:36:15
qualified but I'm here to listen and if you need help I'll go with you yeah but
00:36:19
if you need to offload [ __ ] I will sit here and listen I will call time on the
00:36:24
conversation if I need to yeah but but I'm feeling you you know and I have experiences that you know similar to
00:36:32
yours so um I am Hope was was born and you know and it just took off I couldn't
00:36:38
believe like in a big way yeah I just had no idea that it was going to take off and you know it's around the kids
00:36:45
and so people so when we were doing our I am hope talks um the biggest thing that happened so
00:36:51
we're talking about our experiences and we would encourage counseling uh why
00:36:56
because my counselor saved my life and I was saying to the kids look ignore what the counselor looks like
00:37:04
it's someone that's not from your circle it's someone that doesn't have your
00:37:08
background go to this independent person I've shared my experience so we made
00:37:13
counseling cool problem was some schools didn't have councils and in some schools
00:37:19
the the counselor there was related to mum in some way or as a teacher and they didn't feel like they could talk so
00:37:27
they'd contact me and I'd say just go and see someone private I'll find
00:37:31
someone private and I will pay for it by 2018 those private sessions which we we
00:37:39
didn't advertise we're running at about ten thousand dollars a month so we're
00:37:43
paying about ten thousand dollars a month for private sessions yeah and then someone came up with a Gumboot Friday
00:37:49
idea you know having depressions like walking through mud most people are hiding it why don't we all put on gum
00:37:55
boots so people who have depression can see people in gum boots and know that these are people that care and we can
00:38:00
raise money for them and I said they can we can raise money for your charity and
00:38:06
straight away I went why don't we raise money for free counseling but unlike other charities
00:38:13
why don't we donate 100 of the funds to counseling so I set up a bank account
00:38:19
with kiwibank and the other way I can come out was with an invoice from um from a counselor and we will cover
00:38:27
the um the admin I'm already paying a hundred and twenty thousand dollars a year in free counseling that should be
00:38:33
more than enough to to cover the yearly rate of what's the name sir of the admin
00:38:40
so that's that's what we do you know unfortunately now there's you know it's
00:38:45
it runs at about 10 percent the admin so you know we've only got enough to cover
00:38:49
1.2 but I just worked my ass off going around to corporates and going around to well-meaning people and asking them to
00:38:56
help me with the admin and and the admin none of it comes to us we Outsource the
00:39:01
admin we Outsource this to and 100 of that money goes to them we don't clip the ticket yeah you know it's you know
00:39:08
it's for me my big thing with people who are collecting money for charity is
00:39:13
always much of my ten dollars is going to you yeah yeah yeah very thirsty Charities and I always ask the kids so
00:39:19
do you you know do you get you volunteering for this oh no we get minimum wage so you're being paid to do
00:39:25
this so some of this money is going to you no offense but I'm not I'm you know
00:39:30
yeah and I got my own charity you know so I just wanted to do something that you know our kids could you know use and
00:39:37
why counseling this way because in order for a kid to get free counseling in this
00:39:42
country through the Ministry of Health you have to go to the doctor the doctor has to diagnose you mentally ill that
00:39:49
stigma follows you because it's on your records for the rest of your life then
00:39:52
you oh yeah it makes it hard to get insurance and all sorts of things oh and yeah and then next thing you you know
00:39:58
you're also on a long waiting list and then yeah you know uh by the end of getting in to see someone you know
00:40:05
they're often burnt out and they don't have time so this way here is you know
00:40:10
this way here is getting early so the government see the Ministry of Health counseling as a crisis situation
00:40:20
we see it as a preventative situation so you go and see a counselor when you're
00:40:24
in crisis too late when you're in [ __ ] crisis yeah yeah and now you need the hospital our whole thing is if
00:40:32
you see a counselor about a little problem that doesn't come to be a big problem and they just help unscramble
00:40:37
thoughts they don't fix you they help you unscramble your thoughts they Empower you to fix you give you a
00:40:42
different way of looking at things so young people don't want to see counselors because they're mentally ill
00:40:47
they go and see counselors to stay well I had a um a government a Minister's um
00:40:54
a Minister's aide you know his the guy that gives them all his ideas ring me up
00:41:00
and say um you can be Friday will never be funded why not because anyone can use it what
00:41:06
do you mean you don't even have to be mentally ill to use it okay you're a
00:41:11
[ __ ] idiot what do you mean so you're saying that someone has to be mentally
00:41:16
ill to see a [ __ ] counselor that's like saying to someone why are you going
00:41:20
to a doctor you haven't had a heart attack yeah why are you at the hospital why are you at the gym you haven't had a
00:41:25
heart attack I said kids don't want to see it comes because they're mentally
00:41:29
ill they go to stay well you [ __ ] yeah it's such a broken sister so what they
00:41:36
do is they fund bricks and mortar right it's like they set up a taxi company
00:41:40
you've got to have an office she would have the admin you've got to have
00:41:43
lawyers you've got to have contractors then you've got to buy the taxis and the
00:41:48
drivers of the councilors but in order to see the council you've got to go to
00:41:51
the taxi Rank and you don't get a choice of what driver you want you've got to
00:41:54
take the first cab off the rank and this is under their access and choice so with
00:41:59
that it's between 350 and 2000 dollars right and this is under access and choice where there's limited access and
00:42:06
there's no choice and our system or what have we done we invented Uber that's all we did yeah that's you carry
00:42:15
the costs in the car you carry the cost of the account you just charge us what you charge us up front with all of those
00:42:22
things built in and the average cost is 147 man you've got so much passion and
00:42:28
so much energy for this I can I can almost see the rage do you um that I mean how do you how do you keep
00:42:35
your own mental health in check because it's like you might I worry about you
00:42:39
and I worry about jazz Thornton a little bit from uh Voices of Hope because it's
00:42:42
like you take a lot on you're taking a lot of other people's problems and that
00:42:46
no I don't know what people share their problems whether that's got to bring you no it
00:42:52
doesn't you know you want to know why my job is not to take on other people's
00:42:57
problems my job is not to I'm I pathway people so our current system deals with
00:43:03
individuals I'm looking at the big picture so our focus is this positive societal
00:43:13
attitudinal change remember this eighty percent of people in crisis never ask for help because they're worried about
00:43:22
what Society thinks says or does so until we change society's attitude you can have the best
00:43:32
mental health system in the world you can throw a billion dollars a day at it but if people aren't buying into it
00:43:39
you're wasting your [ __ ] time so attitudes have to change so I will listen to your problem I don't take it
00:43:48
personally I will listen to your the the the tale of your son being refused to help it at a hospital and then going
00:43:57
back an hour late uh and being trespassed off the premises to him dying seven hours later I will listen to that
00:44:05
I will I will be enraged by that and I use that as my motivation going forward okay so it's always about see jazz is a
00:44:16
bit different she you know she's she takes everything I don't take everything on my my is that a maturity
00:44:24
thing do you think well so I've just looked at where I can be most effective
00:44:29
yeah you know and like I can save individuals and I don't buy into that argument if we save one life it's all
00:44:36
worth it you know so you know so yes yeah so wound up talking about it I can tell yeah I'm passionate yeah yeah
00:44:47
at the so we have dhbs referring people to Gumboot Friday we cope with their overload and people say to me
00:45:00
say something tell them they can't do it like why it's not about them it's about
00:45:06
the [ __ ] kids you know my you know my saying is they are all our children yeah
00:45:12
when you have been to every decile of school in the country you will know that in the elite private schools of this
00:45:20
country they have equally as many kids who are [ __ ] struggling with mental health issues and in some cases more
00:45:28
than poorer areas you know I don't care if you're a redneck piece of [ __ ] that
00:45:35
hates moldy and hates me I love your child and I will I will crawl over broken glass to get your child the care
00:45:45
that they need and you've got to have that you've got to have that attitude
00:45:49
that everyone is equal in men's or health God you've done some good work eh
00:45:55
you just just you sleep well at night these days I never sleep bro yeah I you just have a good night's sleep you
00:46:02
should be I wake up every two hours my windows 62 Dom Windows 62 does not stop it does not stop it is always always
00:46:13
working there are always things that I have to write down there are always things that you know look
00:46:21
I've got 10 years left if I'm lucky oh come on how how can you say that well
00:46:26
I've I've had yeah I've had a major stroke I've got one one artery work into
00:46:30
my brain at the moment I've had two two heart um not surgeries but heart [ __ ]
00:46:36
things I pass them no no no no um yeah no they have you know when you're awake
00:46:41
they put [ __ ] through your heart so I've had two of them you've got no vices now
00:46:45
you're a healthy dog that doesn't matter you know I smoke for most of my life
00:46:49
I've put huge mountains of coke up my nose and I smoked weed from 13 years old
00:46:56
right up till I was 45 every day you know I was a when I left smoking I was a 40 smoker a day so I'm a realist you
00:47:05
know if the big man came out of the sky today and said I'll give you 15 years or
00:47:10
take you I'll take the 15. [Applause] you now 16. so I'm 60. I've got 10 years
00:47:19
left I'm gonna make them count yeah you know I I I [ __ ] around enough I you know I I made you know I spent
00:47:29
most of my life making everything about me I you know I look at this younger generation and they they they need a
00:47:38
soldier you know they need someone out front kicking down doors and warding off all
00:47:45
of the people who tell you why you can't do that they need someone out there
00:47:50
advocating for them and I'm going to be out front um so they can go on and change the
00:47:57
world I seriously believe yeah that they can change the world they just need someone to take the bullets from all the
00:48:03
old [ __ ] out there that are trying to stop them and that's my job I know what
00:48:08
my purpose is I you know I know it's a you know it's a it's a huge sacrifice
00:48:13
for my family you know in terms of the time and effort and energy you I'm always out there fighting Wars yeah you
00:48:21
know I'm I'm trying to spend more time with my wife you know she deserves the
00:48:26
time uh I have unique ways of dealing with that I said babe we need to spend more time together and she went really I
00:48:33
said yes that's exactly what we need to do um I took up golf again at the beginning
00:48:39
of the year so I went and bought her a set of golf clubs and we go out to the driving range she's learning of getting
00:48:45
her lessons and we're going to go out and play golf whenever we can cool you
00:48:49
know and I just want to you know I want to give her some quality time but she knows
00:48:57
that were on a bus that's going really [ __ ] fast and I'm not getting off the bus so get on the
00:49:05
bus and come with me for the ride and you know and and be with me as much as you can and we'll just see where that
00:49:11
takes us like what a what a positive bus as well is this what you're doing now is this
00:49:16
your legacy you reckon well your legacy is what other people decide yes um when you die what do you what would
00:49:24
you like what would you like to think people say about you oh I don't care you know like I always say this to
00:49:35
teachers you know you never you will never know the effect that you have on kids you will never
00:49:44
know how many lives you change you know but your family your funeral when they see everybody that turns up
00:49:53
when the when the dad's standing there with his five kids and he's saying this
00:49:58
lady saved my life if this lady wasn't here this great person wasn't here none
00:50:05
of us would be here we owe everything to that person so you know and there'll
00:50:11
always be people that turn up to your funeral yeah I just turn up just to make sure you're dead right you know and
00:50:18
that's right but that's life yeah that's life I don't know I think 20 years ago
00:50:21
you would have had a bunch of those people but I feel like that that crowd has diminished now oh I don't know it
00:50:26
doesn't it doesn't matter my soul you know legacy's magazine is there an absolutely
00:50:34
just because you brought up Legacy I remember I went and saw um Willie Jackson I want to [ __ ] I want
00:50:43
to say it right and I was talking to him about you know Gumboot Friday and why aren't we getting funding and you know
00:50:49
here's all of our initiative why aren't you I see you out there fighting for
00:50:54
tomahidi I see you out there fighting for everyone you know sure like I'm I'm
00:50:59
I'm I'm not exclusively Maori families but if we lift up everyone's families
00:51:04
then the the Maori families will come up too currently we're focusing on Maori
00:51:09
families and those numbers are [ __ ] going down so it's not working but if we
00:51:13
lift everyone up if the the care comes up for white people naturally it comes up so let's you know and I'm saying
00:51:19
there and he's like oh bro you know and I was like you know how I feel Willie and I just said this right I said
00:51:27
I [ __ ] just feel like giving back that [ __ ] medal that you guys gave me and he he went there goes United and he
00:51:35
laughed and said there goes United and that [ __ ] enraged me and I'll just say do you think I'm here for a [ __ ]
00:51:44
Knighthood power is that what you actually think I'm not here for [ __ ] knighthoods and and that was the day I
00:51:51
went home and I said to my wife I'm giving that [ __ ] thing so this was the officer of the order of marriage
00:51:57
thing yeah yeah yeah surely I mean I'm the stepping stone to a nighthood I know you're not doing any
00:52:03
of this for the accolades but the um the New Zealander of the Year thing in 2019
00:52:06
that must have meant a lot yeah that was huge yeah yeah that's massive because
00:52:11
it's a people's award yeah people nominate you you know the the proudest
00:52:16
uh award that you know I ever got and in comedy was People's Choice of Metro
00:52:22
magazine three times you know you know I don't give a [ __ ] what anyone else and
00:52:28
like you know it's funny funny how like the side of you has never changed like
00:52:32
earlier we were talking about um how you sat on Andrew Shaw who was the TV executive and people were like oh you
00:52:37
never get on TV and you're like I don't give a [ __ ] yeah you still get on TV who
00:52:40
knows you might even though you don't care about it you might still get that
00:52:43
Knighthood even though no no that's burnt now okay yeah you can't you can't give like you know the queen had
00:52:50
to say yes like I you know I had to get a letter from the [ __ ] Queen right you know and
00:52:56
um you know uh so yeah no no that's a participant right kids who cares man you know they they're
00:53:06
handing [ __ ] things out lollies I gave her on Briley one what yeah you know I don't know it's it's just getting
00:53:13
you know a lot of people deserve them you know yeah yeah you do but yeah but you've done a tremendous
00:53:20
yeah I know but that's not the motivation no I know so but there are so many people in the game now that are in
00:53:27
it for a [ __ ] Knighthood you know people are jumping in all they're giving
00:53:31
away Knighthood so like oh yeah I just look people first man people first you know I I love sitting at mangere Bridge
00:53:40
and you know every day people coming up to me and hugging me and telling them about their kids man that's that's the
00:53:45
reward right there man that's the reward right there you know my team I wrote a
00:53:50
book called Tia and Mac the hopeful black dog so it's about a black dog um and
00:53:57
the book was about bullying and you know our current our current uh plan to deal
00:54:03
with bullying is let's bully the bully right you know yeah whereas I now know
00:54:09
because I travel around schools a bullish bully because they're being bullied and you know they've got their
00:54:14
own [ __ ] going on so let's be kind let's say I wrote this book and my team go
00:54:19
into primary schools and they read this book to give kids a better understanding
00:54:23
of what's going on in the bully's head but also helping bullies to understand
00:54:28
that what you're doing is not love that's not love you know they think love
00:54:33
is you know is bullying um and and giving people a bit around and a little girl went up to my Ambassador who read
00:54:43
the story and she can I talk to you and she said yeah what's up darling she goes
00:54:48
did the man who wrote This Book know it was going to help so many of us and that's right there man that's better
00:54:56
than any [ __ ] Knighthood and my eight-year-old daughter when I when she found out I couldn't get you know I was
00:55:03
never going to be a sir she goes dad kings are higher than Sears anyway I like it I like it you will you ever do
00:55:13
I mean he stand up again do you think um I feel like like you're still [ __ ]
00:55:17
funny like before when you were talking about your big giant head and you you wipe pubes I mean I've you can do
00:55:24
different stick to what you used to do I don't trust myself no seriously I've
00:55:30
done it twice since I retired only twice uh one once at Quentin pongi is uh after match
00:55:39
and once at the Mad Butcher now Quentin Pony is after match like I smashed yeah there he is
00:55:50
welcome back and I was like I I had to leave yeah and the same after Mad Butcher roast I had to actually leave I
00:55:59
realized how dangerous that it was in terms of ego yeah and like it's addictive man if you can like if you can
00:56:07
make a room full of [ __ ] people like spit their drink you know that's a rush
00:56:14
it's it's yeah it's I can't do it I just can't I don't trust myself it'll be like
00:56:22
I can just have one drink I can just tell one joke I can incorporate my comedy and my talks which I do and
00:56:31
that's enough yeah it's it's comedy with a difference and um if people want to understand
00:56:38
vulnerability more and I watched this one my wife went on and on about we've
00:56:44
got to watch this thing you've got to watch brene Brown yeah yeah yeah and and
00:56:48
and like everything that brand a says I've been practicing since 2007. yeah and it was one of those lovely feelings
00:56:56
where I had finally had boxes to put things in the other the other only other moment where I've had that was when I
00:57:03
read Malcolm gladwell's The Tipping oh yeah I love that box yeah I was like you
00:57:08
know I'm a maven I'm a Salesman and I'm a connector you know but I had boxes you
00:57:13
know when you just do things because they feel right and then suddenly the boxes it's the first book I'd ever got
00:57:18
to the end of started reading again I just you know so Renee Brown on Netflix just it is it is a wonderful read you
00:57:26
know and the story I'm telling myself is such a great way of you know talking to
00:57:34
Partners you know when when your partner's not saying something here and I know there's friction and you know
00:57:41
like you're getting angry because why aren't you [ __ ] talking to me hey babe
00:57:47
I don't know what's happening I know there's something but the story
00:57:51
I'm telling myself is I did this this this and this and you've it no that's
00:57:58
not what I'm thinking at all um thing is it's just a nice air clearer you know
00:58:04
the story I'm telling myself my inner critic is telling me yeah yeah I must admit I've been a late
00:58:12
entrant to the vulnerability club like it's only a few years ago for me but I
00:58:16
think part of this because I went to um probably a similar generation you're a
00:58:19
little bit younger than you but I went to normal boys school in palmy north and any Pammy boys yeah so any best [ __ ]
00:58:27
hacker pardon me oh did they gave you one yeah New Plymouth boys Hive like I've got a I
00:58:36
filmed them all man I I have got a folder full of Hackers from around just about every school I've got one of the
00:58:43
special ones I got I forgot New Zealander of the year was The Crusaders gave me their hacker on their field it
00:58:49
means more than a night oh that was just yes yeah it's fine chilling so no but uh
00:58:55
you know we're all changing but vulnerability is the new economy you know and that doesn't mean we go and
00:59:00
[ __ ] just throw our dirty laundry out of everything you know it's just being
00:59:05
more honest yeah when people saying you know how are you today dominance did I say I'm good because it's a natural
00:59:11
thing to say you know um what I say now is how you go my inner critics smashing me bro you know and
00:59:18
then suddenly it's not a conversation anymore it's gossip oh [ __ ] what
00:59:22
happened oh I walked past on this morning and the [ __ ] [ __ ] just ignored me you know
00:59:28
I must be done but you know what [ __ ] Norms like and and often times when you do that the other person can provide
00:59:34
context oh well you know Dom had to take his dog to the [ __ ] vet today [ __ ] really so now it's not about me oh
00:59:43
[ __ ] thanks bro I'm gonna go and check in on Dom I didn't know about the dog
00:59:46
you know and that's that's what being honest is about it's looking for ways
00:59:51
that you can be vulnerable without you know without crossing the line of burdening people with your
01:00:01
I think that's what I should write a book on actually I used to have a conversation without burdening people
01:00:05
yeah that'd be a good read yeah I won't do it all right I am geez we've
01:00:14
been sitting here for over two hours and we keep going what what a rich life yeah oh yeah it's been colorful I've
01:00:21
played rugby with the All Blacks yeah last you know I like until last year when I had my last game of rugby at 59
01:00:27
the last game rugby before that I was I played with the All Blacks I was on the tour on the Coca-Cola Convoy with him in
01:00:34
1995 uh they ran out of reserves I ran onto the wing did they pass me the ball no did I touch the ball no but get
01:00:41
[ __ ] I know that there are other all blacks are the same thing yeah I played with the black caps I
01:00:48
[ __ ] toured hip-hop artists uh you know I've been around the world I've
01:00:52
been on the same stage with Dave Chappelle you know I just I've had a really really blessed life and sometimes
01:01:00
when I'm down on myself I have to remind myself and you know I've got six uh five
01:01:04
six beautiful kids you know it's like life's most days Life's good nowadays
01:01:11
it's [ __ ] well you rip what you say so you definitely deserve more good days
01:01:15
than bad days thank you my brother yeah thanks bro I really appreciate your time
01:01:18
you're a great New Zealander thank you who's our sponsors oh I don't know who's sponsoring this
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you next week

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Episode Highlights

  • Mental Health Discussion
    Mike King opens up about his struggles with mental health and suicide attempts.
    “This episode probably needs to come with a bit of a trigger warning.”
    @ 00m 17s
    January 01, 2023
  • The Reality of Fame
    Mike shares the harsh truth about fame and his inner critic.
    “I was the first and then these gates opened and there was my big head.”
    @ 04m 19s
    January 01, 2023
  • Stroke Experience
    Mike recounts his terrifying experience with a stroke and the fear of losing independence.
    “Someone is going to have to wipe my ass for the rest of my life.”
    @ 17m 35s
    January 01, 2023
  • Turning Point
    In a moment of despair, he decided to change his life after a wake-up call from his daughter.
    “What are you doing Dad? We need you at home.”
    @ 22m 58s
    January 01, 2023
  • The Birth of I Am Hope
    A conversation with suicidal kids led to the creation of a movement for mental health support.
    “We need to do something about that.”
    @ 35m 53s
    January 01, 2023
  • Gumboots for Mental Health
    The Gumboot Friday initiative was born to raise awareness and funds for mental health counseling.
    “Why don’t we all put on gum boots?”
    @ 37m 51s
    January 01, 2023
  • Mental Health Counseling
    Counseling is seen as a preventative measure, not just for crises.
    “Young people don’t want to see counselors because they’re mentally ill.”
    @ 40m 45s
    January 01, 2023
  • The Broken System
    The current mental health system is criticized for its lack of access and choice.
    “It’s such a broken system.”
    @ 41m 31s
    January 01, 2023
  • A Life of Service
    The speaker expresses their commitment to advocating for youth mental health.
    “I’m going to be out front so they can change the world.”
    @ 47m 52s
    January 01, 2023
  • Legacy and Impact
    The speaker reflects on their legacy and the impact they have on others.
    “You will never know the effect that you have on kids.”
    @ 49m 41s
    January 01, 2023
  • Vulnerability and Honesty
    Discussing the importance of vulnerability in conversations.
    “Vulnerability is the new economy.”
    @ 58m 56s
    January 01, 2023
  • A Blessed Life
    Reflecting on his journey, he shares how blessed he feels despite challenges.
    “I've had a really really blessed life.”
    @ 01h 00m 57s
    January 01, 2023

Episode Quotes

  • I was the first and then these gates opened and there was my big head.
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  • Someone is going to have to wipe my ass for the rest of my life.
    Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey
  • I got addicted to being clean and sober.
    Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey
  • I want to know why my brain is making it about the food.
    Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey
  • I’ve got 10 years left if I’m lucky.
    Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey
  • Vulnerability is the new economy.
    Mike King (Part 2) || Runners Only! Podcast with Dom Harvey

Key Moments

  • Stroke Revelation17:35
  • Mental Health Movement35:53
  • Gumboots Initiative37:51
  • Preventative Counseling40:23
  • Legacy Discussion49:22
  • Life's Good1:01:08
  • Gratitude1:01:16
  • Sponsor Shoutout1:01:31

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