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Comedian Cori Gonzalez-Macuer on Getting Fired & Mental Breakdown, How Fatherhood Saved his Life

September 08, 2024 / 01:32:41

This episode features comedian Corey Gonzalez discussing his career, personal experiences, and relationships. Key topics include his journey in stand-up comedy, his relationship with alcohol, and the impact of his father's suicide on his life.

Corey shares insights about his nickname and how he transitioned from Enrique to Corey due to a childhood illness. He reflects on his 21 years in comedy, highlighting the best and worst shows he's experienced, and how dying on stage has become part of his growth.

The conversation touches on Corey's relationship with alcohol, including a 100-day sobriety challenge and the challenges he faces with drinking. He recounts a significant incident that led to a three-year hiatus from TV work due to a controversial social media post.

Corey also discusses his father Enrique's struggles and the impact of his death on his family. He candidly talks about the emotional toll and the ongoing effects of grief, while also celebrating the joy his daughter Freddy brings to his life.

The episode concludes with Corey reflecting on fatherhood, his relationships, and his aspirations in comedy and life.

TL;DR

Corey Gonzalez discusses his comedy career, struggles with alcohol, and the impact of his father's suicide on his life and family.

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Curry Gonzalez M M M M M M I've heard

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that everyone's been saying it wrong

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forever yeah yeah yeah you're okay

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you're okay with it it's just too hard

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for MC yeah they get the M Gonzalez

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should be normal but um I don't even

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know how to say MC is M or M I don't

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know even my mom doesn't know it's her

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name she doesn't even know but also um

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something I learned uh Corey is not is

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not your real name your your real name's

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um Enrique after your dead and and uh so

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who who calls you in R uh uh no one just

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the

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government right so and my passport is

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in Rico but um you know I uh when I was

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a baby I um got really sick and my

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medication was called Cory Don and my

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first words were trying to say that but

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I just called it Corey and my family

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just called me Cory from there on no

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one's ever call me in R but from my

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teachers or like when I go to ws and

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stuff that's so cool so if you ever like

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make the the New Zealand hero or stuff

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for drunk driving people be like oh this

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Enrique Guy must be related to Cory yeah

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oh my God older brother or something

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like yeah yeah and then when yeah man

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he's trouble like he's a the enri guy

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that's so cool so it's like a nickname

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that's become your official name and all

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yeah I I had no choice in it yeah yeah

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hey so um this year

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uh I don't know if you acknowledg this

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as a big year for you but it's your your

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21st as a

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comedian oh is it yeah is that right

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have I got that right coming up 21 21

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years stand up Comm yeah oh nice yeah um

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no doubt lots of highs lots of lows no

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doubt you've done your 10,000 hours best

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and worst shows uh best shows the best

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shows are always like the all the TV

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like the GS those are awesome um you've

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got like thousands of people watching

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you and you're getting paid a lot of

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money for it

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um the worst

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are just some like shitty towns like

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small towns that you go to like they

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just don't get you but even even but

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even those are like some of the best as

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well like I I love I love dying I don't

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think there's any better ones I I love

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dying is is that something that comes

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with confidence the longer you've been

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doing it I'm I'm I would imagine like

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I'm just projecting here but if it was

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me um like dying on stage you'd be in

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the in the early stages of your career

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it'd be the most mortifying thing ever

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struggle to get back on 100% yeah but

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yeah but now it's like yeah if I go to a

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like a I'm not going to name any towns

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but if I go somewhere and it dies I'm

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like I'm like I'm better than you guys

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so even though I'm I'm actually not but

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in my head I'm like like like I'm like

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you guys couldn't do this like yeah like

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go home and beat your wives like [ __ ]

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yeah but when you've been doing it for

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21 years I I suppose you realize that um

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like dying on stage is not death either

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no no I've got other GS yeah that's not

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my last yeah yeah you talk so you

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mentioned the um the comedy G so I

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watched a whole lot of stuff on you

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Youtube including um one of the comedy G

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shows and there was a joke you told

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about um about people having their

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fingers in a lot of Pies yeah which is a

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saying that everyone says everyone's

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familiar with um but i' never ever

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thought of it framed that way what is

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the um what's the writing Pro process

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like how does something like that come

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about I don't know I just um literally

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just yeah I just I don't understand

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where sayings like weird statements like

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that like I always like i' got like very

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bad OCD and I just put everything into a

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little sense and like can you imagine

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someone just fingering

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pies it's the most absurd saying ever

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it's the worst like I don't get it like

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yeah I got fingers and pies I was like

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what what does that even mean yeah how

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did it get like mainstream popularity

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that say but um yeah the way you broke

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it down it's like it's a saying that's

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been around for hundreds of years and

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I'd never thought of it that way and I

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thought [ __ ] that is good yeah I don't

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get it what you got fingers and

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pies never a finger in an actual pie

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though hey that' be good here for a

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podcast fingers and pies yeah you just L

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you have to do it while you're fingering

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pies let's do it hey you brought some

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beers over thanks very much I I actually

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sent you a message like about half an

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hour ago saying um you know do you want

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to drink on arrival I can get you a

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coffee I can get you a bottled of water

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some beers you said a long black yeah

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then as soon as you turned up you said

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I'll go next door and get some beers I

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just I was driving I was driving here I

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saw a lot of people drinking outside in

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the sun and I was like oh man that be

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that's that looks quite nice yeah oh I

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appreciate it I appreciate trying to

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stop drinking but you I I heard um

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you've been on a few podcasts I listened

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to some of them in preparation um for

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this and um yeah one of them I think you

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you like a 4mth sober at the time yeah I

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did SP yeah I did uh I did a 100 days

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not drinking and um it was the best I've

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ever felt and I don't know why I haven't

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done it

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again I just can't I I just don't know

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how to do it why did you why did you

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start again after 100 days

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um cuz I gave myself that goal for 100

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days and then I went and I I just felt

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like I achieved something so I had to

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celebrate by drinking which is

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ridiculous I I had dry July last year

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and I I didn't find it I didn't find it

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overly challenging like I wasn't having

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physical withdrawals or anything like

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that but then for some reason like first

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of August yeah I had an absolute Bender

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oh yeah yeah what's why the next day I

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woke up and I was like full of

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self-loathing I was like why did why did

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you do that like that's literally every

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like I can go like I can go a week or

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two without drinking and then yeah at

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the end I reward myself by getting

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[ __ ] up and I I it's I I just don't

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know how to not do that

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yeah you've got to yeah yeah it's an

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interesting relationship with alcohol we

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we'll get to this we'll get to this

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later on but you you didn't drink until

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you in your early 20s anyway like you

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were fit spoker till I was uh uh yeah

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2022 F started drinking yeah which I

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found hard to believe cuz the what are

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your Recollections with the first time

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we met cuz we've sort of I I haven't

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seen you for years but we've sort of

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been social friends on and off for a

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long time I think just through I don't

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know just through like industry [ __ ]

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right yeah like parties yeah you first

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time I metet you uh we can cut this out

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of the podcast if you want I don't know

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um there's a guy called um Duncan hide

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he does the afternoon this is by the way

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this is a long long time ago this is

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probably house yes probably 15 years ago

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maybe longer so we're at this house

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party maybe 15 20 people there and um a

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little puppy when he just got the puppy

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yeah like a little Bulldog thing um and

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you just uh like turn the turn the

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stereo down stood up said hey everybody

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um I'm catching up with my drug dealer

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in about 40 minutes so if anyone wants

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anything let me know and I thought this

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guy's [ __ ] H it was alarming because

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I I I I mean this is time stamping it I

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probably had an ecstasy pill in my

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pocket I think most people were going

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off to the bathroom and peers doing

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drugs but no one was going to be open

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about doing drugs and then [ __ ]

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stood up and offered to do like like it

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was Uber don't [ __ ] around like

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seriously um and that drug dealer is in

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jail at the moment

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so wow yeah yeah I thought that's um

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it's a weird sort of like brashness or

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confidence or I don't know I just don't

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I have no filters I don't think I just

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um yeah man like I I don't care yeah

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yeah I I like now what's that you get

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some drugs

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now no I don't do drugs anymore don't

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you uh no I don't no okay cool um any

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jokes from 21 years ago that you

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remember and that you crun at do you

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remember your original routine oh bro

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like my my first ever um comedy Set uh I

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won the raw comedy Quest like the um

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like the national like newcomers thing

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and uh my closing gag was just I used to

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work at a f SHP shop when I was young

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and it was me pretending to be um the

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Chinese man who I work for and that's

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just like the most look back I'm like

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how did I not get like cancelled from

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that like it's the most I'm glad No One

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filmed that because that's the most

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offensive thing I've ever done in my

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life like so bad but I nailed it yeah

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but it wasn't um it wasn't offensive at

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the time though no no it it was

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literally everyone like my the judges

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for my competion was it was like Mike

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King like a f nickel like amazing UK

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comedian Scott from the classic and they

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they all watched it I was like yeah

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maybe I should [ __ ] should bring it

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back no no you can't bring it back down

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all you can do is sit and hope that no

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one had like a Nokia with a good

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camera that was um what about um you

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make lots of jokes about celebrities

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have you ever like um ran into one of

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the celebrities you've made jokes about

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uh funny thing that you should mention

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that I do a lot of stuff about uh Paul

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Henry I used to do and um he was on

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seven days last night and um yeah that

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that guy doesn't like me oh what

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happened I I had him he was sitting in

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that chair like two days ago we did a

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podcast I just I just actually I don't

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do that many maybe like posts about him

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he's just I don't know me just rich

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white [ __ ] I just

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[ __ ] like uh just so out of touch of

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everything yeah I HED up with his

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daughter so maybe that's why he doesn't

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like oh did you okay well there's

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there's history there what about um um

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criticism and bad reviews are you are

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you okay with them have have you been

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have have you had a conflicted

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relationship with them over the years

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and it's got better or I uh now I can

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kind of take it but it just depends who

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does it like who's who's doing the

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review um some some of them are just

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like critics by I mean the name speaks

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for itself isn't it they're critical

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it's the people who aren't uh like like

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comedy review they'll just be like

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someone who writes for [ __ ] like

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Metro or something and comes to your

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show and I'm like like you've never been

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to comedy show before like they

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criticized me for being having no no

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energy or uh being too offensive or

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whatever it's like that's just that's

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just what I'm like like what do you want

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me to be I'm not going to not everyone's

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[ __ ] like Jim Carrey or like Billy T

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or something you know like but then but

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then it's the ones that on like social

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media like just normal punters um yeah

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man I I I got uh cancel I got cut from

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TV3 for like 3 years I'm back there now

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um 3 years so I had a uh I did a a post

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on on Facebook saying about the

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America's Cup AG go um uh anything's

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possible if you're a rich white guy and

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um I don't hate white people by the way

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but and um I'm more fun right now and uh

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and this guy from uh Canterbury from

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Christ Church he like goes just went off

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at me he's like you know was I was like

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wasn't like reacting or anything and

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then he's like let's sort this out in in

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real life like real men and I I was like

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okay I found out where he lived and I

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was going to be in C that week and I um

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sent him my flight details and my hotel

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where I was staying at and I was like

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let's do us let's do this and then he

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called the police and he called TV3 and

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uh he got me fired from like three jobs

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I had and I dude I tried to call myself

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after that and um he um he yeah had 3

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years not working on TV after that but

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now I'm back and yeah this [ __ ]

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his name's Dave something like I'd love

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to meet him I'd love to meet him person

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man like like that's one guy like I hope

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he watches this cuz [ __ ] yeah so yeah

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the impact it had on your life it was

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that detrimental dude like I I lost like

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I lost probably like maybe half a

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million bucks of work that year and um

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yeah when that happened uh the TV3

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called the police to come to my house

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cuz I was going to jump off on

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balcony you serious yeah yeah yeah how

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long ago was this three years ago three

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and a bit years ago

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oh wow that's a lot yeah you yeah you're

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you're um you're you're I was going to

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say you're a dead but you're not just a

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dead you're you're a bloody great dead

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um yeah your daughter fry like she's

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she's everything to you we'll get into

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the fry part of the story um later but

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I've even heard you say in interviews

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that she saved your family yeah um yeah

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100% And then there's the the your dad

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Enrique who will get into who who who

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took his own life um yeah so the I mean

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the impact that had on you personally as

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a as a son losing a parent and the

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impact that you saw it had on your white

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or family the fact that something could

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put you in that point where you do it to

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yourself it seems

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yeah y yeah it's funny there there's not

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a lot of um yeah there's not a lot of

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dudy aure with these things he like with

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um you know TV3 obviously they had to

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make a decision that they thought was

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right for them or whatever by you know

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um putting on the sidelines for three

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years but they still got to look after

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the people you can't just I mean they um

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can't just cast you aside like a BG

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trash they they just sided with this so

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This dude he was like a a racist canbury

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guy like full on Mega his profile is

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like Trump he loves [ __ ] E party he

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yeah and they just um they just C of him

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and like yeah I I don't get it like yeah

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but now yeah a few other the people who

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um who stopped me from working they just

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got fired in the new color from newth

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Hub so shame

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[ __ ] what what was it that um that

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stopped you from um taking your own

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life um I'm scared of

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heights I'm I'm I'm the same I'm not

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well I'm not scared of heights but I'm

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scared of falling from Heights it's no

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I'm scar Heights and yeah I live on the

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third floor it's quite a big balcony and

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um yeah I was like [ __ ] no I okay I'll

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do it another way but then but then I

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just got yeah I just I don't commit to

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[Music]

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things yeah

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um that's um that's a that would be a

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violent way to go I mean there's if you

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thing there's only going to be one

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outcome that's not a cry for help that's

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someone that wants a team yeah yeah it's

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a teen and yeah no if I did I'd just

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yeah I I got a Wy bar and

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just I don't know cut that drink

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yourself into Oblivion I'm I'm I'm

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pleased that work that okay and I'm

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pleased you're still here yeah thank you

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yeah um all right let's go

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um I've got a bunch of cards in

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different chapters yeah

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opra they got reallyand opra really um

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God I wouldn't mind wouldn't mind some

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of that open for money oh man yeah how

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do what how do you feel about rich brown

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people hey good on them but the same as

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I mean she's

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yeah all right um yeah the next C I had

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was about some of the screen stuff so

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you've been in heaps over the years um

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was your first um on screen experience

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being um Adrien Brody's body double yeah

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yeah on King Kong yeah so you're in

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Wellington at the time you're still at

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University or are you young yeah I was

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at Uni yeah yeah yeah um yeah I went to

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audition I don't know how you audition

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to be a body double just went on and uh

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they just take photos of you and um and

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I just watched him on the on the penist

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and he just won the Oscar that year and

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my whole family loved him and we were

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like he was coming to New Zealand to do

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we knew that he was coming to do kung

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Kong and everyone was like oh imagine if

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you can work with him and then I got the

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yeah got that part and um yeah it turned

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out to be a dick oh really really or did

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you have like much to do with him

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personally I I was with him whenever he

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was on set I was on set so we hang out

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every day for what like a year that we

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filmed it why was he a dick uh he's just

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real arrogant right yeah but um I don't

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know like

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I might be the same if I'm ever that

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famous if I w't Oscar I probably I

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wouldn't be here I know I don't know

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I've I've known you for a long time yeah

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yeah I've seen seen you through some

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like career highs and careers career

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lows and you never sort of change yeah I

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guess so yeah I know but yeah but he was

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um any any specific dickish moments or

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um just a general ER of arrogance or

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yeah just like stories that I heard from

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I was really good friends with um Jamie

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Bell who who used to be he was Billy

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Elliott and he was in the movie and um

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they went away apparently for a weekend

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in Queenstown and one of the guys uh

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Colin Hanks his mom had just died and um

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was a real like s moment and one of the

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uh other actors in it he was a opera

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singer and he set up and did like a

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apparently amazing like opera song for

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him and then everyone's like that's

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amazing everyone's crying and then out

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of nowhere ad b gets up and starts

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repping so that just sums it up he's not

00:16:58

a com actor so there's no sense of

00:17:00

timing maybe no no yeah exactly yeah

00:17:02

yeah time fck your moments you know what

00:17:05

about um Jack Black was in that movie

00:17:06

you have anything to do with him oh he

00:17:07

was the man yeah the nicest guy ever

00:17:10

like seriously we um yeah awesome and

00:17:14

um yeah he had time for everyone just I

00:17:17

couldn't say anything more words about

00:17:20

him how nice he was yeah that was

00:17:21

probably the peak of his Fame as well

00:17:22

like you wanted to talk Adrian broy

00:17:24

being a big star Jack Black was a big

00:17:25

star like that was uh so School of Rock

00:17:27

here he just come out and then he that

00:17:29

and the Tenacious D stuff with yeah so

00:17:31

they played they played uh we went to

00:17:33

see them like yeah was awesome yeah that

00:17:37

that would have been about the time of

00:17:37

year tribute was a really big song and

00:17:39

yeah just come out yeah actually that

00:17:40

whole album like fucku gently is one of

00:17:42

my favorite songs and Lee's like oh so

00:17:46

good yeah that's King Kong and then um

00:17:48

eagle versus shark in

00:17:50

2007 uh yeah oh actually yeah we it came

00:17:54

out in 2007 but we filmed it in 2004 I

00:17:57

think 2005 yeah is that is that where

00:18:00

you and um Germaine Clement sort of

00:18:02

became yeah so me and um uh tuer and

00:18:06

Germaine they were and the the like the

00:18:08

Concords were around and terer was he

00:18:10

was one of the judges in the first go

00:18:11

did um and they um asked me to be in

00:18:15

this short film which turned out to be

00:18:17

what we know Shadows um then after that

00:18:20

um yeah I did eagle with a shark with

00:18:22

tiger in Germain and yeah it was awesome

00:18:26

awesome yeah that was a that was a fck

00:18:27

Wellington was a hot of talent of Comedy

00:18:30

Talent Jesus everyone's from there like

00:18:33

dley Steve rley

00:18:35

um me um Raybon everyone you can't I

00:18:41

suppose um you can't help but have some

00:18:42

of that sort of success rub off on your

00:18:44

way if you're in that circle like it's

00:18:45

going to it's going to drive you or you

00:18:48

push you to be better and do better so

00:18:50

that um but so when you came along 20 21

00:18:52

years ago had the Concords was that pre

00:18:55

the HBO show or were they just about to

00:18:57

do the HBO show pre so when I when I

00:19:01

start they they just like cracked it in

00:19:03

uh Edinburgh like Edinburgh festival and

00:19:05

um they were huge in Wellington like

00:19:08

every time they played it we me and Ben

00:19:10

hully ran the comedy club there they

00:19:12

every time they come it would just be

00:19:13

Shu and pecked um and then they went to

00:19:17

they went to America they did a pilot

00:19:19

which they filmed at in Wellington at

00:19:21

our Comedy Club um that didn't get

00:19:23

picked up but then they did their HBO

00:19:26

special like the year after that and

00:19:27

then they became like M like massive

00:19:30

like ridiculous how big they they be

00:19:32

that series is so good oh so good it's

00:19:34

just brilliant and they could have kept

00:19:35

it going but they were like no do other

00:19:37

stuff yeah I I love that and I hate it

00:19:39

as well from a fan perspective I hate it

00:19:41

but I can't so they did two seasons of

00:19:43

that was it two I can't imagine how yeah

00:19:46

I'm I'm in a of that second season the

00:19:48

first season obviously they had like a

00:19:49

like a backlog of songs which you could

00:19:51

wedge into story lines but create

00:19:53

writing new songs and writing story

00:19:55

lines around it yeah exactly yeah can't

00:19:58

imagine how how crazy a time that was um

00:20:01

and then um what we doing in the shadows

00:20:03

so that was like

00:20:04

2012 uh yeah we filmed in 2012 yeah yeah

00:20:07

I I watched that last night it was I had

00:20:09

to get on Apple and rent it for like

00:20:10

$5.99 dude I've got a link oh no I

00:20:14

wasn't going to I was going to DM you

00:20:16

hey bro I can I can read it for 599 but

00:20:18

do you have a Vimeo link there's enough

00:20:20

YouTube clip that you can actually cut

00:20:22

them together and probably get a idea

00:20:24

about what it's about so the um the 5.99

00:20:27

that I spent on April last night

00:20:29

do you do you get a royalty or anything

00:20:30

or did you just get a you just get a a

00:20:32

check at the time we yeah I think we do

00:20:34

like we I got a some royalties uh two

00:20:37

years ago they meant to come every year

00:20:39

so I don't know what's happening but

00:20:40

yeah just [ __ ] all day uh no it wasn't

00:20:44

too bad like it's it's it's become

00:20:45

massive like over the world it's become

00:20:47

massive so I wasn't to I think I think I

00:20:50

got like n grand for one year and then

00:20:54

nothing else since inide me oh [ __ ] on

00:20:57

nine grand that's good [ __ ] it's it's a

00:20:58

great movie I I forgot I haven't seen it

00:21:00

since it came out I forgot how good it

00:21:01

was yeah I haven't I watch it been

00:21:03

watching with Freddy a little bit and to

00:21:04

yeah it's I'm remembering it it's it's a

00:21:06

good movie yeah so so you're one of the

00:21:08

core cast you're Nick who plays like a a

00:21:10

newly minted um young sort of cocky

00:21:13

arrogant vampire you come in like 22

00:21:15

minutes into it um yep there'll be a lot

00:21:19

of people that watching watching this or

00:21:20

listening to this podcast that haven't

00:21:21

seen it or haven't seen it in years but

00:21:23

I got a couple of like geeky fan

00:21:25

questions um some of the straet scenes

00:21:28

are they are they extras or was it sort

00:21:31

of like hidden camera style uh a lot of

00:21:33

hidden camera and then a lot of the

00:21:35

extras were people that were just when

00:21:37

we went out we're like hey do you mind

00:21:38

just being in this kind of in the shot

00:21:40

it's amazing yeah oh there was no budget

00:21:42

so like we couldn't pay for that many

00:21:43

extras like we from like all the courney

00:21:45

place in we can't yeah yeah yeah it's

00:21:49

like massive C you know Jermaine and and

00:21:51

taer but they weren't you know Jermaine

00:21:52

and taer then they were yeah yeah you

00:21:54

know um and when when you're filming a

00:21:57

funny movie does it make it a funny set

00:21:59

to be on or not necessarily that was uh

00:22:01

the funniest um six weeks of my life

00:22:05

like every day was just like ridiculous

00:22:07

just the funniest moment like yeah but

00:22:10

oh I don't I don't know of there like

00:22:13

any sets that could have that ever like

00:22:16

that was so good and and what was the

00:22:19

like some of the scenes almost look

00:22:21

um almost like I don't know if I'm

00:22:23

phrasing this right but like ad lied

00:22:25

rather than acted like so did you have

00:22:27

like a strict script or like a loose

00:22:29

script I never saw a

00:22:30

script I never saw the script ever yeah

00:22:34

no one did Tu and Germain had the script

00:22:36

but I never showed it to anyone what do

00:22:38

you mean the whole movie was

00:22:41

improvised so so they had some like beat

00:22:44

bullet points yeah bullet points but

00:22:46

then yeah like um I think we filmed like

00:22:49

145 hours or something 125 hours and

00:22:52

it's like 120 Minutes or something yeah

00:22:55

um n script yeah all like um literally

00:22:58

all

00:23:00

[ __ ] so they they they literally just

00:23:02

shot a whole lot of stuff and just P

00:23:04

yeah have like three different visions

00:23:06

of the movie from the stuff that they

00:23:08

cut yeah and it's it's that's brilliant

00:23:11

too it's really good and then um yeah

00:23:12

something I forgot about completely or

00:23:14

it just never occurred to me it was like

00:23:16

a today I learned moment um Wellington

00:23:19

paranormal which was also very

00:23:20

successful that was like a spin-off of

00:23:22

what we doing the Shadows yeah yeah it's

00:23:25

um yeah it's it's my daughter's favorite

00:23:28

TV show which is awesome um so I yeah I

00:23:32

worked on it I was in it in the first

00:23:33

season and then I wrote the second and

00:23:35

third season and um yeah it's one of

00:23:40

also one of the best jobs I've ever had

00:23:41

yeah it's incredible how how did you how

00:23:43

did you um get the job what we doing the

00:23:45

shads we did you Did you sort of have to

00:23:47

audition did tyer and Jermaine sort of

00:23:49

like put you forward did they just

00:23:51

invite you to be in it no so we did a we

00:23:53

did a short film of it in 2004 uh that

00:23:56

we sent to some festivals and um um then

00:23:59

Taco's like oh this is kind of a lot of

00:24:01

people into this they want to make it

00:24:02

into a movie um and we'll keep you on

00:24:05

when it happens and then so for like 8

00:24:07

years he's like every time I see him hey

00:24:09

man it's going to happen we're going to

00:24:10

do it and they just they kept everyone

00:24:12

from the short film in the cast like

00:24:14

they just put put us on into the main

00:24:16

movie amazing and how's um how how's

00:24:20

your relationship with taer change it

00:24:22

can't be the same now it's like he's

00:24:24

well he's hard to get in touch with but

00:24:26

um you you're you're living in Eden ter

00:24:28

he's got like a $20 million

00:24:30

mans and in La as well um when he's here

00:24:34

we we'll catch up but

00:24:36

um he's not that hard like yeah we text

00:24:40

and stuff and but when he's here we'll

00:24:42

catch up but he's he's the buzziest guy

00:24:45

in the world yeah he's got a million

00:24:46

he's got so many fingers and so many

00:24:48

pies every

00:24:50

way he's literally the guy who's got

00:24:53

fingers in pie yeah like literally

00:24:54

literally but you after he's had his

00:24:56

finger in a pie you'd eat that pie yeah

00:24:58

my God yeah and his fingers yeah

00:25:01

um yeah that movie was so successful you

00:25:04

ended up going like you had a free trip

00:25:06

around the world Alex Sundance Film

00:25:08

Festival so what what's the Sundance

00:25:09

Film Festival oh man it's uh so it's

00:25:11

like

00:25:12

a like a kind of independent movie

00:25:15

Showcase uh Robert rff started it um oh

00:25:18

because of Butch castley in the Sundance

00:25:20

Kid maybe from that yeah right yeah yeah

00:25:22

actually yeah okay and um yeah you just

00:25:25

we got flown over there we stayed there

00:25:27

for like 2 weeks it was just like it

00:25:31

wasn't real life like and then after

00:25:32

that we went to LA then Berlin like dude

00:25:35

it was like it was a month of just not

00:25:37

real

00:25:39

life like ridiculous what what do you do

00:25:42

over there why do they fly all you guys

00:25:43

who F who flew over like the entire sort

00:25:45

ofast everyone yeah yeah like

00:25:47

us uh taer

00:25:50

Jermain Reby me Stu Johnny BR um Jackie

00:25:55

like

00:25:56

everyone and and what to do there like

00:25:59

are you working over there no we just

00:26:01

went and did like interviews and we went

00:26:02

to like like um like a swag meet where

00:26:05

you going in and they L just clothes and

00:26:07

shoes everywhere and they they just swag

00:26:09

stuff we all get and they they yeah they

00:26:11

tell you just pick what what you want

00:26:14

and like we went and got like I've got

00:26:15

so much stuff from there I still have it

00:26:16

like like I've got like thousands of

00:26:19

dollars worth of stuff like a Nintendo

00:26:21

Wii like what the hell you know like who

00:26:24

I'm who am I I'm I'm still on the

00:26:25

benefit of New Zealand what am I doing

00:26:27

here like but also you I I was going to

00:26:30

say why do they give all this free stuff

00:26:32

to people that can afford it but yeah I

00:26:34

was like yeah everyone else was like cuz

00:26:36

yeah I think before us um who's it oh uh

00:26:40

y McGregor was there before us and he's

00:26:43

just like just walks past and I'm like

00:26:44

you didn't take any of it

00:26:47

like I was like hey bro this is free

00:26:49

yeah that's all free you spot the newly

00:26:51

minted

00:26:52

sleep hey those shoes you can take those

00:26:56

for youy terer if you're not going to

00:26:57

have a wake yeah yeah oh wow well were

00:27:01

you the were you the thirstiest person

00:27:02

in the in the swag room 100% I took

00:27:05

everything I brought stuff home for my

00:27:07

family like like girl stuff I was like

00:27:10

yeah let's take it and you you um

00:27:12

mentioned you and McGregor anyone else

00:27:13

did do you got any parties or anything

00:27:15

what yeah went to a lot of parties uh we

00:27:17

had Jak J hall came to our shadows party

00:27:21

um Selena Gomez Nick Cave wow Joy

00:27:25

mangelo whatever his name is um

00:27:29

yeah [ __ ] that's an impressive list and

00:27:31

do you um do you you manage to say stay

00:27:34

chill around these people uh I don't

00:27:36

know yeah yeah I can't remember probably

00:27:39

not that's cool and then um then you

00:27:42

where where else did you go Berlin from

00:27:44

there we went to back to LA to just kind

00:27:46

of Jo I did some shows in LA and then we

00:27:49

went to the Berlin festival and and that

00:27:51

was bit more lowkey but but but huge

00:27:55

like in Berlin is my favorite city in

00:27:57

the world now like

00:27:59

it's a cool place he yeah it's so cool I

00:28:02

love it like yeah I'd love there [ __ ]

00:28:04

that's awesome memories for a lifetime

00:28:05

eh yeah yeah so [ __ ] cool so how do

00:28:08

you um yeah how do you do that and then

00:28:10

like you know come back to you know come

00:28:12

back to your flat in [ __ ] Kingsland

00:28:14

no no I came back to when I was living

00:28:16

in Wellington it was just s on my dad

00:28:17

died so I went it was just me and my mom

00:28:19

living in an apartment and Wellington

00:28:20

came back back on the

00:28:22

benefit um actually actually on the

00:28:25

benefit yeah and uh I've been telling

00:28:27

everyone how doing this movie and it's

00:28:29

coming out and everyone was like oh yeah

00:28:30

whatever Cory whatever so I was like

00:28:32

I've got this movie coming out and I've

00:28:34

got no money coming in but you know and

00:28:37

did did you did you guys sense it was

00:28:39

going to be a big movie or I mean going

00:28:41

to these festivals and stuff you must

00:28:43

have felt like a sort of hum around it

00:28:45

um yeah from there but even even then we

00:28:48

were like maybe it'll it'll come out at

00:28:50

like Realto and newal like maybe it'll

00:28:53

be just like in a like Indie movie

00:28:55

festival or something but yeah we had no

00:28:56

idea that it would be like

00:28:58

like a massive worldwide success we had

00:29:00

no idea that's so cool what a cool thing

00:29:03

to be a part of yeah okay so let's get

00:29:06

back to the early years so you're um

00:29:07

you're Chilean so you're born in Chile

00:29:09

you moved to New Zealand when you sex

00:29:10

what are you what do you remember from

00:29:12

the I was trying to think about this

00:29:13

when I was um pring for this interview

00:29:16

and my memories of my first six years

00:29:17

and these like sort of like flashes of

00:29:19

different buts and buts and pieces but

00:29:21

[ __ ] all really what are you remember

00:29:22

from um [ __ ] so we grew up in a war so I

00:29:26

remember lot of heavy [ __ ] and

00:29:29

um just my grandparents uh so my dad

00:29:32

left Chile when I was four I think uh to

00:29:35

come come here to set up a life um so I

00:29:39

remember him leaving that was real sad

00:29:41

and um then it was just me my mom and my

00:29:42

little brother and my grandparents and

00:29:45

um yeah there was just a big a war at

00:29:48

the time and going like every time we

00:29:50

went out remember my uncle getting like

00:29:52

arrested and tortured um us going out

00:29:55

getting shot at when we like every time

00:29:56

we'd go out like te I got tear big ass

00:29:58

when I was 4 years old

00:30:00

um yeah like having family members get

00:30:03

like [ __ ] killed and stuff like

00:30:07

yeah but apart from that uh from that a

00:30:10

lot of

00:30:12

football but is is it is that terrifying

00:30:14

as a kid or if you're born into a war is

00:30:16

it just like oh well you know it was it

00:30:18

was

00:30:19

just it literally was just life it's

00:30:21

like that's why like these days I'm like

00:30:23

that's why I don't care about much cuz

00:30:25

like I grew up seeing horrible things

00:30:28

and horrible things happening to my

00:30:30

family and yeah I just I just I'm

00:30:33

reckless I just I just people are so

00:30:36

lucky to live here M and and all your

00:30:38

family lived in a a garage yeah or me

00:30:41

and my mom and my dad and my brother

00:30:44

loved in the garage of my grandparents

00:30:46

garage right yeah is this a Chilean

00:30:47

thing just family loves together family

00:30:50

I went back there a few years ago and

00:30:51

like my uncle who's like 60 he's still

00:30:53

living there

00:30:55

like it just H as no one no one s moves

00:30:58

no I don't like even like here in New

00:30:59

Zealand when I when I went flatting I

00:31:01

think I was 21 at the time um I left

00:31:04

home my dad didn't talk to me for a

00:31:06

month cuz he's like why would he leave

00:31:08

us he literally stopped talking to me

00:31:10

for a month he was so angry at me that I

00:31:11

went flatting like at that point your

00:31:14

dead must have been thinking you know

00:31:15

okay moving to New Zealand was the best

00:31:17

thing we did for our kids but also the

00:31:19

worst thing CU now

00:31:21

learned he always just wanted us to be

00:31:23

together the whole time and I was like

00:31:26

man it's um

00:31:28

it's it's lovely though way it's really

00:31:30

endearing I mean

00:31:32

it's it's awesome and like like this

00:31:35

like if my mom lived I'd

00:31:38

love yeah you s see that with um I don't

00:31:41

know there's like parallels between that

00:31:43

the Chilean lifestyle in the you know a

00:31:45

lot of the Pacifica um you families

00:31:48

whereas um you know pakia like me like

00:31:51

we get to 178 then you start plotting

00:31:53

your move then once you're done it's

00:31:55

like go to radio station or something

00:31:57

yeah yeah did you start P me yeah yeah

00:31:59

yeah [ __ ] it's funny I love that that's

00:32:02

that's really cool you're still really

00:32:03

close with your mom now you call every

00:32:05

day twice my best friend yeah talk to

00:32:07

her at least twice a day yeah one of the

00:32:09

other days is yeah one of the so call in

00:32:11

the morning after I dropped Freddy off

00:32:13

and then when I go pick Freddy up from

00:32:15

school I I just call her so the other

00:32:17

parents won't talk to

00:32:19

me you always on a phone yeah I yeah and

00:32:22

even when she's busy I'll put them on

00:32:23

the

00:32:24

phone oh that's cool what's she doing

00:32:26

there she's she's doing Wellington so

00:32:28

Wellington so she uh was working at The

00:32:31

Body Shop she worked there for like 30

00:32:32

years she got made redundant two years

00:32:34

ago um didn't know what was happening

00:32:37

her dog died everything was tough but um

00:32:40

she got a new dog and she's got a new

00:32:42

job working for the government she's

00:32:43

like she's calling it awesome yeah um

00:32:46

and what are your memories of moving to

00:32:47

New Zealand at six uh I

00:32:50

remember you couldn't speak any English

00:32:52

eh no English yeah I FL into Wellington

00:32:54

just remember how windy it

00:32:56

was um um

00:32:59

and yeah remember Wy and gray but

00:33:04

um yeah I I like I don't speak any

00:33:07

English but I just I don't remember the

00:33:09

part where I didn't speak English like I

00:33:11

picked it up and like quite quickly I

00:33:13

think and yeah so yeah things like that

00:33:16

are easy for kids I guess what about

00:33:18

your parents did they struggle uh yeah

00:33:21

they my mom's my mom's good my dad

00:33:24

struggled up until he died like but he

00:33:26

was yeah he was just uh kind of like

00:33:29

Antonio mandas had a really good accent

00:33:31

so he got away with it I see he sounds

00:33:34

like Puss and Boots yeah literally

00:33:36

literally pussing boots that's literally

00:33:39

what he talked like like amazing what

00:33:42

what was his uh what was his career in

00:33:44

Chile and what did he do so in Chile he

00:33:46

was uh he studied to be um

00:33:51

agriculturist and uh an economist and

00:33:54

then he came here and he couldn't get

00:33:56

job cuz he couldn't speak English

00:33:58

um so he was just a he cleaned toilets

00:33:59

for

00:34:00

like 15 years cleaned toilets painted

00:34:03

houses and then finally he got a job

00:34:05

from with his degree and he became like

00:34:07

a big Economist for um the New Zealand

00:34:10

uh Meat Company meat Foundation meat and

00:34:13

lamb

00:34:15

yeah [ __ ] you hear so many suc success

00:34:18

stories like that about immigrants eh

00:34:20

it's like they're starting completely on

00:34:23

Ground Zero like I can't imagine many

00:34:24

things more challenging than moving to a

00:34:26

new country where you can't speak the

00:34:27

language yeah and um basically being

00:34:29

stripped of all ego all previous

00:34:31

identity everything like that he's like

00:34:33

he was the smartest man in the world

00:34:34

like he was smarter than everyone like I

00:34:36

just yeah was what were you like as a

00:34:38

kid I know you were really good at

00:34:39

soccer or football were you were you

00:34:41

funny or theatrical n not really

00:34:46

um well that's thought was funny that's

00:34:49

that's a lie I I've heard that you um

00:34:51

were obsessed with ins sync oh that was

00:34:54

when I was like 19 okay okay and I still

00:34:59

wasn't haven't we canceled Justin Tim

00:35:01

Lake because he got done yeah yeah yeah

00:35:03

yeah but apparently he only had he only

00:35:05

had one drink have you seen that come

00:35:07

had one drink but he was like very aware

00:35:09

of how his driving did he think he's he

00:35:11

was he was doing coke like he's just he

00:35:14

was he was like I'm very aware of how

00:35:16

I'm driving like dude your eyes are like

00:35:18

he's like talking about starting a

00:35:20

podcast he on

00:35:21

cocaine so oh yeah so yeah so just

00:35:24

sporty kid when you were little yeah

00:35:26

just Sports was all just football

00:35:28

um you're real good he I I heard you

00:35:30

real good yeah I played

00:35:32

for um yeah reps played for when

00:35:35

overseas and played I was like uh junior

00:35:38

all white stuff like that trials um yeah

00:35:42

that was that's why I never drank my

00:35:44

whole life till I was like

00:35:45

22 um yeah still to this day I'm 42 now

00:35:49

I still think I could make the all

00:35:51

whites well you could probably make the

00:35:53

Phoenix at

00:35:55

least so what you why didn't you start

00:35:58

um you why didn't you start drinking

00:36:01

like um you know when you were 17 18 19

00:36:03

when all you I was just focused on

00:36:05

Sports like never yeah and yeah I just

00:36:08

want to yeah my friends were partying I

00:36:11

went home before a game like I just yeah

00:36:13

never interested me and now complete

00:36:17

opposite now but I tell myself that I'm

00:36:19

making up for not drinking when I was

00:36:20

young oh you've more than made up for it

00:36:23

you're doing very well just goes to

00:36:25

prove that whatever you apply yourself

00:36:27

at you do very he well I'm very good at

00:36:28

drinking and um oh god oh no you're a

00:36:31

good dude were you um did you were you

00:36:34

quite popular you have any friends or

00:36:36

were you sort of a

00:36:37

loner um don't know if I was a loner I

00:36:39

wasn't I was just kind of just not

00:36:41

really anything I was just yeah I wasn't

00:36:44

definitely not one of the cool guys um

00:36:48

yeah I just hang out with all the other

00:36:49

immigrants M all my friends were all

00:36:51

like Iraqis or Filipinos and my school

00:36:55

was very my school was very um I was

00:36:57

probably the Wiest sky in my high school

00:36:59

so wow SS like a real diverse school

00:37:01

though yeah St Pat town is [ __ ] yeah

00:37:04

awesome a lot of good people came from

00:37:05

there like Jerry Collins [ __ ] rest in

00:37:08

peace yeah um and no sort of no sort of

00:37:11

like racism

00:37:12

or or comments about being an immigrant

00:37:15

or anything oh when I was oh me yeah

00:37:17

yeah definitely not not from school but

00:37:19

just just general life like and with my

00:37:21

family as well like like getting told to

00:37:23

yeah go back home [ __ ] that's a that's a

00:37:27

cheapest law I know like come on dude

00:37:29

growing up I was yeah and and especially

00:37:32

in Primary School like me and my little

00:37:35

brother got hassled a lot for being

00:37:37

immigrants and and then we um yeah we

00:37:40

just we'd [ __ ] them

00:37:43

up like me and my my brother we love to

00:37:45

fight when we growing up like we

00:37:46

literally just

00:37:49

yeah when was the last well when was the

00:37:51

last time you got in a

00:37:52

fight um or at least got punched through

00:37:56

a punch I got kned out about um maybe a

00:37:59

year and a half ago where abouts um Pon

00:38:03

I don't really know what happened but

00:38:05

like by like three dudes I don't know

00:38:06

what

00:38:08

happened I probably said something I

00:38:10

don't know and then um yeah got um I

00:38:12

don't get knocked out they just punch me

00:38:13

and I fell

00:38:15

down there's um listen to some podcast

00:38:17

there's um there's a story of H tell a

00:38:19

couple of times about going to Thailand

00:38:21

and um there some like kickboxing

00:38:23

competition where like it's almost like

00:38:26

an amateur amateur of a comedy show

00:38:28

where open Mark for for kickboxing

00:38:31

kickboxing yeah like a really high risk

00:38:33

G tonight and if you take P you get like

00:38:35

a bucket of beers or something you get a

00:38:37

bucket of a like a cocktail which is

00:38:40

just pretty much like

00:38:42

ethanol with like a cucumber in it and

00:38:45

you got stitched up like you they we

00:38:48

ordered I was there like five of my

00:38:50

mates and we we've heard about the

00:38:51

underground cook Boxing Club in PP

00:38:53

Island and we have to do it and we all

00:38:55

went and we' all we' all kind of done

00:38:57

some kind of like training or fighting

00:38:59

before in New Zealand and we felt

00:39:01

confident and then um they put us all up

00:39:03

against like actual Fighters and um and

00:39:06

Me Against like a K1 fighter we find out

00:39:08

at the end afterwards and we all got

00:39:11

knocked the [ __ ] out I got knocked out

00:39:15

twice when you say you done training in

00:39:17

New Zealand yeah like not even training

00:39:19

I just went to maybe AO class box

00:39:21

classes yeah you do do that do

00:39:25

that that's out just let that happen

00:39:28

it's crazy dude it's still going like

00:39:30

people still do it it's yeah but so was

00:39:33

so fun but it's terrible but I yeah I

00:39:37

feel like even when I'm drinking

00:39:39

irresponsibly I never sort of get myself

00:39:41

in those sort of positions but you you

00:39:42

do and subsequently you end up with good

00:39:44

stories for podcast 10 years later yeah

00:39:48

yeah I so what happened in pby a year

00:39:50

and a half ago you just drun and you got

00:39:52

smack to someone or yeah I think so yeah

00:39:54

yeah yeah not that not that VI ever the

00:39:58

ever the way but yeah no yeah um oh yeah

00:40:01

I when did you get into the boy band

00:40:02

stuff so yeah you loved Michael Jackson

00:40:05

Michael Jackson uh so my top five uh

00:40:07

Michael Jackson Sublime Rob Zombie uh

00:40:11

guns and roses

00:40:14

and

00:40:16

slipnot it's a real different ends of

00:40:19

the spe man I love everything yeah yeah

00:40:22

and and Wast life as well which I he

00:40:24

that's that's because your dad my dad

00:40:26

love W life yeah yeah um what did you

00:40:28

want to do for a career back then uh

00:40:30

I've always wanted to be a journalist

00:40:32

always be a writer or a

00:40:34

journalist that would have worked out

00:40:36

well for you a journalist there there's

00:40:38

a there's a real shortage of

00:40:43

work I heard news Hub was

00:40:45

hiring um and then when did you discover

00:40:48

like um yeah comedy and drinking and T

00:40:51

what what Drew you to that um

00:40:54

so my

00:40:57

girlfriend's friend was dating uh Ben

00:41:00

Hurley when I was at Uni and um he had a

00:41:03

like the the open m the uh newcomers

00:41:05

competition happening and I told him

00:41:07

that I was like I was drunk I was like

00:41:08

Hey Aran I'm funnier than all you guys

00:41:10

and um and he's like well come do the

00:41:13

competition and then I won it so yeah

00:41:15

that's it did how much were you scared

00:41:19

oh dude I I threw up so much beforehand

00:41:23

and I never um smoked a cigarette before

00:41:25

in my life till that night I got a pack

00:41:26

of cigarettes before smoked it and then

00:41:29

went on stage and yeah it was awesome

00:41:32

the yeah how much how much preparation

00:41:34

went into it uh quite a lot how many

00:41:37

minutes uh I think we had to do five

00:41:40

right yeah that's a long that's a long

00:41:43

yeah I mean a lot of people listen to

00:41:46

this the extent of the public speaking

00:41:48

they've done is probably like the

00:41:49

prepared speech that you have to do in

00:41:50

school for 1 minute 2 minutes 3 minutes

00:41:52

whatever 5 minutes standing out there

00:41:54

trying to make people laugh it's

00:41:55

terrifying yeah I was still Tero I do I

00:41:58

do like one I've done an hour 20 before

00:42:00

that's that's yeah but you've got so

00:42:02

many hours under your belt now like you

00:42:04

you know what's going to you know you

00:42:06

know what's going to work first you've

00:42:09

got lines that you know are going to get

00:42:10

you out of trouble and yeah but you you

00:42:13

must

00:42:15

have I suppose like you're Style on

00:42:17

stage now like um you like you so um

00:42:20

still like you could rest a book on your

00:42:22

head yeah like um so I suppose even when

00:42:25

you're nervous you don't look nervous

00:42:28

yeah it's just that's just it's my face

00:42:30

it's just yeah my whole style is what

00:42:32

I'm like in real life I guess yeah I'm

00:42:35

always nous you be yeah I'm just trying

00:42:36

to think of what you were like in that

00:42:37

first comedy G and I suppose it was

00:42:38

quite captivating to watch was it sort

00:42:40

of on liners or was it stories or one

00:42:42

liners always yeah I've never done

00:42:43

stories really yeah all one lers and uh

00:42:47

making fun of my girlfriend at the time

00:42:48

and she ran out

00:42:51

crying Aya love you and

00:42:54

uh and then we had so

00:42:57

I had to go see her outside and she was

00:42:59

crying she's calling me a dick and then

00:43:02

I get called from the bar saying Cory

00:43:03

You've Won I'm

00:43:05

like got go

00:43:09

inside did you well did you not um like

00:43:12

rehearse in front of her or anything did

00:43:14

she not know she literally encouraged me

00:43:16

to do

00:43:17

that she she wrote half my set like you

00:43:21

knew I was going to do that oh was not

00:43:23

Happ that when people laughed

00:43:28

it's not that funny what was it what did

00:43:31

you say about it um I said I can't

00:43:33

remember what it

00:43:34

was I think I don't know I something

00:43:38

maybe I called her a [ __ ] or something

00:43:39

I don't

00:43:40

know it sounds like you had lived yeah

00:43:43

but no but she told me just say that

00:43:44

she's like my girlfriend's here [ __ ]

00:43:47

something or my girlfriend wrote this

00:43:48

[ __ ] something like that so is this the

00:43:51

is this the the night where like M who

00:43:53

was the judge Mike King uh no that night

00:43:55

was uh uh I think taer and Jesse

00:44:00

Mulligan and Hy I

00:44:03

think

00:44:05

wow yeah [ __ ] that three um three three

00:44:10

people that have gone on to have

00:44:11

impressive careers yeah

00:44:14

[ __ ] and that so um is that that the

00:44:17

first time you met

00:44:18

tiger um y yeah first time met him was

00:44:21

that Mar show

00:44:23

yeah so I suppose from that time he

00:44:25

thought this this how do we the like 21

00:44:27

22 uh 21 right he must thought okay this

00:44:31

this guy's this guy's got something good

00:44:33

did did they s sort of become like any

00:44:35

of those guys become so mentals at that

00:44:37

point or not really uh definitely hully

00:44:39

yeah um and Mulligan as well like we're

00:44:42

all like yeah us three maybe Wrigley

00:44:45

Steve Wrigley um but definitely Hurley

00:44:47

me and Hurley um he he's the reason I'm

00:44:50

I'm comedian we live together he's um

00:44:53

yeah he's a piece of [ __ ] but I love him

00:44:58

yeah all all comedians are pieces of

00:45:01

[ __ ] in their own everyone's a piece of

00:45:03

[ __ ] why why is he why would you say

00:45:04

he's a piece of [ __ ] um it's just a way

00:45:06

of saying that I love them right yeah

00:45:09

yeah you can't say it without say insult

00:45:11

insult the compliment no I got no no bad

00:45:13

things to say but him he's um yeah he's

00:45:15

helped me out so much he's yeah yeah and

00:45:18

so yes so it's around this time that you

00:45:20

started you started drinking um it's

00:45:23

sort of R in the comedy scene a or at

00:45:25

least it was then I suppose now it's

00:45:26

like right at the moment it's like yeah

00:45:30

like so many people just don't drink

00:45:32

anymore yeah and yeah and the change in

00:45:35

the last 21 years it seems more

00:45:36

acceptable now like if um if someone

00:45:38

says to you uh I'm I'm not drinking um

00:45:42

like 21 years ago the responsib be like

00:45:43

you you [ __ ] [ __ ]

00:45:47

now now now you sort of applaud them

00:45:50

like oh good for you good on you mate

00:45:51

yeah yeah oh you're looking after your

00:45:52

mental health great yes it's been an

00:45:55

interesting transition eh yeah what's

00:45:57

your relationship like with with alcohol

00:45:59

now is do do you need it to do you need

00:46:01

a coule before you you go on stage or

00:46:03

well that's yeah that's one thing one

00:46:05

area where I've cut down I don't really

00:46:07

drink before I go on stage anymore I

00:46:08

used to like [ __ ] I remember doing a I

00:46:12

did a bunch of shows in Queenstown

00:46:13

hosting like an event there and I was

00:46:16

drinking uh a bottle of whiskey every

00:46:18

night before I went on

00:46:20

stage like every night a bottle of

00:46:22

whiskey and um you you're still

00:46:24

functioning okay on stage yeah I can

00:46:26

still do it yeah yeah um yeah but yeah I

00:46:30

maybe I'll have a red wine or something

00:46:32

before I go on stage but if I'm doing

00:46:34

like a 1H hour show I um yeah I I can't

00:46:37

do

00:46:41

it yeah it's funny the their

00:46:43

relationship with alol it's like I and I

00:46:46

know I can I can stop but I

00:46:48

just yeah and it's it's strange and I

00:46:51

suppose this is this is addiction like

00:46:53

you talked about your 100 days I'm an

00:46:54

alcoholic I definitely am an alcohol

00:46:57

look yeah you're not saying this is a

00:46:59

joking way no yeah I want I'm constantly

00:47:01

reevaluating um my relationship with

00:47:04

alcohol cuz I think I've got an

00:47:05

unhealthy relationship with it as well

00:47:07

but what do you do when when you're

00:47:08

running like do you drink when doing

00:47:10

your marathons and stuff yeah yeah when

00:47:12

you when you're training for a marathon

00:47:13

like you have like um like a 12 week or

00:47:16

16 week block and you have hard runs or

00:47:18

as like a long run like a three-hour run

00:47:20

on a say Saturday or Sunday um maybe

00:47:23

just three hours

00:47:27

or maybe like a like a speed a speed

00:47:29

session during the week not the nose

00:47:31

speed the you know um so just I'll be

00:47:35

like okay I won't drink before those

00:47:37

before Those runs or if I'm getting for

00:47:39

dinner I'll just have a couple but the

00:47:40

other nights they yeah you know I'll

00:47:42

drink or oh really yeah like I mean I'm

00:47:45

I'm not um I'm not an Olympic Olympic

00:47:47

Athlete or anything like I'm just a guy

00:47:49

dude you're pretty [ __ ] good at what

00:47:50

you do though like that's amazing well

00:47:53

thank you I appreciate really good yeah

00:47:56

um how's your your mental health now you

00:47:58

you've you've yeah you've been through

00:48:00

es and fls over the years eh at the

00:48:02

moment I'm good

00:48:05

um I'm winning off my meds at the moment

00:48:08

have I'm not too dosed up

00:48:12

um workers I've got some a bit of work

00:48:14

happenings and um my daughter's good me

00:48:18

and my baby mama who's like my best

00:48:20

friend she's awesome people say uh uh

00:48:25

what's it saying they go um

00:48:27

happy wife happy life or again happy

00:48:29

ex-wife happy

00:48:30

life that's that's cool yeah yeah I've

00:48:33

read um was it Steve bronius that wrote

00:48:36

a big piece about about that the dynamic

00:48:38

of that relationship might be a the

00:48:39

article's online but it's a few years

00:48:41

old but um yeah it seems like a real

00:48:42

special I mean she yeah she just uh yeah

00:48:45

she's been she was loving with being

00:48:46

Fred for on and off for like maybe a

00:48:49

year um well she was in between places

00:48:51

and now yeah she's got a new place now

00:48:53

and yeah I'm I know I'm a pain of ass

00:48:57

but um she's always stuck by me and uh

00:49:00

yeah she's I owe her so much like she's

00:49:03

yeah so you were together for very you

00:49:06

were seeing each other very shortly into

00:49:08

it you got pregnant yeah yeah like how

00:49:10

long couple of months few months I think

00:49:12

so yeah maybe like 5 months five six

00:49:15

months yeah so then and then you

00:49:17

together through the pregnancy as a

00:49:19

couple yep and then we stayed together

00:49:20

after that for another till Freddy was

00:49:23

uh two yeah yeah okay right but the

00:49:28

relationship obviously wasn't perfect

00:49:29

but you're like let's try and make it

00:49:31

work because we've got this this amazing

00:49:33

well and Fred's young enough to not know

00:49:35

us breaking up yeah she'll just know us

00:49:38

as being friends and that's what we did

00:49:40

yeah what happened is not ultimately not

00:49:42

compatible as a couple or just didn't

00:49:44

have that sort of yeah and I'm just I'm

00:49:46

I'm a terrible boyfriend um yeah I

00:49:51

um yeah

00:49:53

she we could have done it but I'm I'm

00:49:56

just I had a lot of issues mental issues

00:49:59

and

00:50:00

just yeah yeah what yeah what does

00:50:03

mental health look like excuse me what

00:50:05

does mental health look like for you

00:50:07

like if if you know it's not where it

00:50:08

should be um what do you do like do you

00:50:11

push people away do you drink more do

00:50:14

you uh I definitely used to P push

00:50:17

people away and drink more um

00:50:20

now it just hasn't been that bad lately

00:50:23

so I I don't know but yeah I um

00:50:27

I don't know yeah definitely push people

00:50:29

away even like my mom and stuff like

00:50:31

everyone yeah I Y can resonate I I'm the

00:50:34

same like I sort of like self-isolate

00:50:36

which is probably the worst thing you

00:50:37

should be doing but you just literally

00:50:39

yeah I just don't want to talk to anyone

00:50:40

like yeah you make your world smaller

00:50:42

and smaller I'll do a school pickup and

00:50:44

that's my only interaction of

00:50:48

humans yeah it's [ __ ] it sucks hey um

00:50:52

how's your mental

00:50:53

health today it's all right it's quite

00:50:55

funny like chatting chatting to you and

00:50:57

hearing about the you the guy in chist

00:51:00

that you wanted to

00:51:01

be um want to [ __ ] up I I could um I can

00:51:05

see parallels like I yeah I sort of

00:51:07

self-isolate and sort of just don't want

00:51:09

to don't want to be with anyone just

00:51:10

want to be by myself which is you know

00:51:13

like distancing yourself from everyone

00:51:14

else is probably the worst thing you

00:51:15

could be doing but it's just what you

00:51:16

feel like doing um and then same same as

00:51:19

me like it it can be like something like

00:51:21

that like an

00:51:22

event that can that can you know it's

00:51:25

like a like a domino yeah totally yeah

00:51:27

um which you shouldn't be you you know

00:51:29

if your mental Health's in a good place

00:51:31

you you should be resilient enough that

00:51:33

one thing's not going to topple you over

00:51:35

no but no I don't know man like I'm good

00:51:38

now but I know that there could be one

00:51:40

thing that will trigger me like like

00:51:41

even like when I leave here something

00:51:43

might trigger me and I'll be like [ __ ]

00:51:44

it like yeah it's a weird way to live

00:51:49

but yeah so while we're on this um well

00:51:54

yeah uh the 2nd of August 2013

00:51:57

day that changed your life forever day

00:51:59

that changed the life of your family

00:52:00

forever yeah um you've done a TED talk

00:52:03

about this which I watched online it's

00:52:05

it's an amazing talk you make a couple

00:52:06

of jokes in there that don't land

00:52:07

because I think they don't land at

00:52:10

all I feel like humor is your way of

00:52:13

like like coping with it and break

00:52:15

breaking up which is a what is no doubt

00:52:17

the the hardest story in the world to

00:52:19

tell talking about this stuff now about

00:52:21

your dad Enrique um do yeah first of all

00:52:24

I want to know so it's almost 11 years

00:52:26

ago does it get easier to talk

00:52:28

about uh yeah I think so yeah yeah even

00:52:33

like at the start it was easy to talk

00:52:36

about I mean it's still it's hard but

00:52:40

it's know I I like talking about it I

00:52:43

like talking about him yeah yeah to sort

00:52:47

of keep his memory alive yeah yeah even

00:52:49

though he's a he's a [ __ ] but

00:52:51

[ __ ] is he he's he's a he's a c because

00:52:54

of what he did yeah yeah he was aming

00:52:56

human when he was alive but [ __ ] what a

00:52:59

[ __ ] dick yeah I've got a couple of

00:53:02

photos here oh yeah yeah a he was so

00:53:07

handsome yeah it's funny you say so

00:53:09

handsome he's he's got the same name as

00:53:11

you uh well the name you were given at

00:53:13

Birth can I keep this yeah yeah of

00:53:15

course and um you want to hold it up to

00:53:18

the the camera

00:53:20

he it's you I know it's [ __ ]

00:53:25

you and there's um there's this one as

00:53:28

well I don't know what he's wearing is

00:53:29

it maybe it's the shadow but it almost

00:53:31

looks like an old kiwi League top or

00:53:34

something uh that'll be like a football

00:53:37

shirt and chili so and it's you in the

00:53:40

front yeah little my little brother oh

00:53:43

my God he's going to be so angry you

00:53:45

said that oh my God we got to cut that

00:53:48

out he's going to be so

00:53:50

angry show me that's my brother pabl

00:53:53

you're at the very front well that's me

00:53:55

in the back oh you're in the back

00:53:57

oh so you f under

00:54:00

oh I just I didn't to be honest when I

00:54:03

when I printed it out um I was just

00:54:05

looking at your dad

00:54:09

yeah yeah sorry someone got to say who

00:54:12

the [ __ ] calling

00:54:15

me and uh oh baby Mom is calling

00:54:20

me oh you can get that get that if you

00:54:22

want that sounds important

00:54:28

hey I'm just doing uh a podcast um you

00:54:31

definitely have her cutting

00:54:36

[Laughter]

00:54:39

bag so so that's um Freddy's mom yeah

00:54:42

and I've noticed just when you took that

00:54:44

call noticed you've got her name on your

00:54:45

own yeah yeah yeah it's cool I um yeah

00:54:48

we had a we had a big fight and uh I

00:54:51

went to Christ Church to do some shows

00:54:53

and one of my tattoist is down there and

00:54:55

I got to tattoo her name just I can make

00:54:57

it up to her

00:55:00

for I don't regret any of my tattoos

00:55:03

from the seld ones but he the what the

00:55:05

Seinfeld ones what you got I got seren

00:55:09

now from Seinfeld

00:55:10

right oh um yeah that's a great photo

00:55:14

I'm Sor sorry for confusing you for

00:55:16

being um a girl um how do you think

00:55:18

those are girls like what I don't know I

00:55:20

didn't really think I was focusing on

00:55:22

your dad yeah so um yeah

00:55:26

so yeah do you want to talk about that D

00:55:28

yeah [ __ ] you yeah okay yeah um yeah so

00:55:32

I

00:55:34

um him and my mom were breaking up and

00:55:38

he so I was I so I just finished filming

00:55:41

what do

00:55:42

Shadows came back I was on the doll

00:55:44

living with my parents and uh I was

00:55:46

finishing my degree at Uni as well and

00:55:48

um living with them they were fighting

00:55:50

every night

00:55:52

um yeah my dad was hard to read he was

00:55:55

just a very he never wanted to have

00:55:57

friends he was just ready to stay at

00:55:58

home like my family's that's what all I

00:56:01

want all I

00:56:02

have um they got into arguments and

00:56:06

um I didn't think much of it I was like

00:56:08

okay they're going to break up it was

00:56:10

tough um but then I they had a mess of

00:56:14

fight and uh my mom left she went to

00:56:16

like woman's Refuge he wasn't like

00:56:18

beating her up but he um he was just

00:56:21

like mentally abusive and I I was like

00:56:24

[ __ ] I'm I'm going to leave I'm leaving

00:56:26

the Health as well so I left and he like

00:56:29

tried to get me to stay there he tried

00:56:30

to find me in the train station he's

00:56:32

like why are you leaving I'm like I

00:56:34

can't be here when you're doing this so

00:56:36

I left um went to

00:56:40

um do you know Josh M no I think he

00:56:44

might not he's like used to working he's

00:56:46

he's my best mate and um went to hang

00:56:49

out with him and my friend JY Virginia

00:56:51

Conor who's

00:56:53

amazing um had a big night

00:56:56

uh then the next day I went on a date to

00:57:00

the mall in low Hut and um

00:57:04

SE and we're walking around I'm trying

00:57:06

to get hold of my dad no one can get

00:57:07

hold of him my my sister's calling me

00:57:09

saying heavy hooded Dad I'm like no I

00:57:11

don't know he's probably just at work

00:57:12

they're calling his work the work hasn't

00:57:14

heard from him and then we're okay

00:57:15

something's up then my date drops me off

00:57:19

at um at my

00:57:20

house and the lights are all on the keys

00:57:23

aren't in the mailbox where they should

00:57:25

be but the lights are on and I break

00:57:26

through I break into my place through uh

00:57:29

my brother's room

00:57:30

window

00:57:33

um I like walk I'm like [ __ ] okay my

00:57:37

Dad's here he's he's killed himself and

00:57:40

I I just scream I try to see him he's

00:57:45

he's done he's cold he's [ __ ]

00:57:48

blue um tried to call call 111 but my

00:57:52

phone's about to die um

00:57:56

call them tell them just hurry up then I

00:57:58

hang up with them to call my

00:58:01

mom she's like okay she kind of I think

00:58:06

she kind of knew it was going to happen

00:58:08

and

00:58:10

um she called another ambulance cuz she

00:58:13

thought I was going to kill myself and I

00:58:14

literally went to the to the kitchen to

00:58:16

get a knife to kill myself U then I

00:58:19

called my sister she just start

00:58:20

screaming

00:58:22

um then I just go wait outside and the

00:58:25

police comes ambulance comes

00:58:29

um yeah then uh we're all everyone just

00:58:32

Josh and Virginia show

00:58:34

up all just waiting outside just sitting

00:58:36

outside and the ambulance guy comes out

00:58:38

and he's like

00:58:40

um yeah sorry to tell you but he's dead

00:58:43

I'm like yeah I know like I found

00:58:46

him and

00:58:49

yeah then after that we went to Josh

00:58:53

Josh's house we he put us up there for

00:58:55

like 2 weeks my whole

00:58:57

family

00:59:00

um was actually like a sounds weird but

00:59:02

it was actually like a really nice time

00:59:04

like I had so many people come together

00:59:07

and suuck that what happened but like

00:59:10

yeah like caught up with so many people

00:59:12

I hadn't seen in a while

00:59:13

and yeah and then I was filming while

00:59:16

we're doing Shadows we're doing pickups

00:59:17

for it as well so I had to go and film

00:59:20

like we had to cancel shooting for one

00:59:21

day I think um and yeah then we kep fing

00:59:26

and

00:59:28

yeah I've heard

00:59:31

um yeah I've heard people sort of say

00:59:33

that before it's like when you when this

00:59:35

happens yeah everyone's dropping off

00:59:37

meals and everyone's real supportive and

00:59:39

people really ra um you know rally

00:59:40

around gather around then even on the

00:59:42

first anniversary apparently it's the

00:59:44

same sort of thing it's a lot of support

00:59:46

apparently it's like year two year three

00:59:47

year four that you have to worry because

00:59:49

it's like people just forget and they

00:59:50

move on apart from the the family of

00:59:52

course yeah

00:59:54

um [ __ ]

00:59:56

[ __ ] so you were the last last person to

00:59:59

potentially last person to speak to him

01:00:01

I literally was he he when I left he he

01:00:03

goes um why does everyone leave me and I

01:00:07

said to him you got to you have to chill

01:00:09

out stop Dr like pushing people away and

01:00:12

I literally left him and then I was

01:00:15

literally the last person that left him

01:00:16

and we emailed together that

01:00:19

morning I so I just got like signed by

01:00:22

like an agency and I um I sent him the

01:00:26

email and he goes oh this this is very

01:00:29

good that's what he said something real

01:00:31

subtle not even excited about it he's

01:00:33

like okay cool I was like that's weird

01:00:35

usually he's very excited about that

01:00:36

kind of stuff and they so yeah we

01:00:38

emailed um so I know he didn't kill

01:00:40

himself before 9:00 a.m. that

01:00:45

day oh no I'm sure this is something

01:00:49

You' thought about a million times since

01:00:50

then um yeah um is there anything you

01:00:55

could have done

01:00:56

differently oh I got have stayed with

01:00:58

him that night and everyone says you

01:01:01

know he might have still done it but

01:01:02

like he wouldn't have done it that day

01:01:04

like I still so would have got him

01:01:05

through that moment and mate like still

01:01:07

to the St I have night tars every night

01:01:09

like literally have nightmares probably

01:01:11

every night of my life since then that I

01:01:13

should have stayed with him cuz if I

01:01:15

stayed with him he wouldn't have killed

01:01:16

himself that night and then who knows

01:01:18

what happens the next day maybe he would

01:01:19

have done it but maybe maybe he wouldn't

01:01:20

have you know so I could have I if I'd

01:01:23

stayed that night I could have changed

01:01:25

everything you

01:01:28

know you you must have had therapy about

01:01:31

this yeah yeah yeah what do they say

01:01:34

like you can't you can't you can't hold

01:01:36

any blame for this have you got do you

01:01:38

think you got survivors guilt in a way

01:01:41

yeah but I I don't even know survivor's

01:01:43

guil I

01:01:44

just like I literally if i' stayed that

01:01:48

night I would have changed maybe he

01:01:51

would have he would have done it he

01:01:52

would have like come to his like own

01:01:53

senses and just been like me and your

01:01:56

mom are going to break up or go and move

01:01:58

away together and they' just be a

01:02:00

divorced couple right now you

01:02:03

know but in saying that that um that

01:02:06

weekend he booked a getaway with my mom

01:02:10

to go to um like Greymouth like in like

01:02:12

the in water rapper somewhere mhm and um

01:02:16

after all that happened I go to Mom like

01:02:19

derck and he was going to take you there

01:02:20

to kill you and she's like

01:02:23

yep he's going to do a m of suicide I

01:02:25

reckon

01:02:27

yeah you just don't know [ __ ] that's a

01:02:29

big burden to carry

01:02:31

yeah so at least I save my mom I

01:02:38

guess you so when you reflect on um

01:02:41

andri now your dad yeah what do you

01:02:45

think is it just fun memories now fun

01:02:47

memories but also at the same time I'm

01:02:49

like you're Ming out on so much you know

01:02:52

like you've got a

01:02:54

granddaughter yes as does it sort of

01:02:56

fluctuate between like sadness and anger

01:02:58

yeah yeah literally sadness sometimes

01:03:00

I'm like I mean he he was amazing he got

01:03:03

to a point where he just had enough but

01:03:05

he was the most amazing human being that

01:03:07

ever lived like he was a genius he was

01:03:09

the best dad he was an amazing

01:03:12

footballer he was so intelligent

01:03:16

um he was so sentimental to everyone

01:03:18

that he met he had time for

01:03:21

everyone but um at the same time I'm

01:03:23

like dude like and you put for that like

01:03:26

you you knew I was going to find you

01:03:29

like he did that on purpose me and him

01:03:30

were arguing a lot during up like

01:03:32

leading up to that so he did that on

01:03:34

purpose you reckon yeah 100% yeah 100%

01:03:38

[ __ ] that's a massive burden

01:03:40

yeah

01:03:42

yeah I mean um

01:03:45

yeah no no no one yeah no one deserves

01:03:48

to to to see that like let alone a son

01:03:51

with his father yeah that's heavy hey

01:03:53

thanks for sharing that how how often do

01:03:55

you think about it now is it like hourly

01:03:59

daily every 10 minutes probably

01:04:03

everything I do I'm like it's either

01:04:05

just him like what happened

01:04:07

or sometimes I'm like oh [ __ ] want to

01:04:10

like there's a like a football game

01:04:11

going on I'm like I literally go to text

01:04:14

him and oh he's not around I like still

01:04:16

now like 11 years later I still go to

01:04:18

message him or email him like how have

01:04:21

you changed as a person since then um I

01:04:25

don't know I think definitely use it as

01:04:27

an excuse to be a piece of

01:04:29

[ __ ]

01:04:32

yeah I don't think you're a piece of

01:04:34

[ __ ] I know but you know what I mean

01:04:35

like it's def like out yeah it's just

01:04:38

even if I if I don't think if I'm not

01:04:41

thinking about it if I do something bad

01:04:42

I'm like oh it's because my my dad

01:04:45

killed himself

01:04:47

like have you ever seen a dead body [ __ ]

01:04:52

oh know but and and and fearness like um

01:04:55

yeah you have like it's it's all facts

01:04:58

like Mo most people listening to this or

01:05:00

hearing this myself included like

01:05:02

haven't haven't had to deal with this

01:05:03

and you don't know how [ __ ] traumatic

01:05:05

it would be it's a lot yeah all right

01:05:08

I'll keep doing it

01:05:09

then I haven't done it for a while I

01:05:12

actually like Dom like actually have

01:05:13

been like the last year I think I've

01:05:15

been pretty good like yeah yeah like

01:05:18

um no suicidal

01:05:21

faults um Everything's Awesome with my

01:05:23

daughter baby mama everything's good

01:05:26

um workers kind of picking up now so

01:05:30

yeah actually yeah I haven't been for a

01:05:32

while yeah it is um I probably first had

01:05:36

like um Suicidal Thoughts maybe 5 years

01:05:38

ago when you first start having them

01:05:39

when you when you start doing this um

01:05:43

get creative like creative ways to do it

01:05:45

no no no I never got to the point of

01:05:46

like um uh like like like planning it um

01:05:50

but you uh for me I found out I I'd come

01:05:54

up with like pros and cons Less in my in

01:05:55

my head yeah let you weigh things up um

01:05:58

you think about like who would miss you

01:06:00

and the impact would have and I suppose

01:06:01

if you're doing that you're not you're a

01:06:03

long way away from and who's going to

01:06:04

come to your funeral like dude I've got

01:06:08

this everyone's like um Cory you should

01:06:10

write a will you're 42 WR a will I don't

01:06:12

have a will but I've got a list of

01:06:14

people who I know will come to my

01:06:17

funeral who I hate yeah and I have a

01:06:19

list of them so the security will be

01:06:21

like no you can't he hated you like you

01:06:22

can't come to here he doesn't like you

01:06:24

guys that' be amazing like get some

01:06:27

bouncers from Poss

01:06:29

Central Poss Social Club are you uh yeah

01:06:32

not on those shoes bro and uh actually

01:06:35

Cory said that he you [ __ ] his misses

01:06:38

so no you can't get I had a made a few

01:06:41

years ago a dear mate um Michael cou who

01:06:43

died of cancer and and in his um in his

01:06:47

final six months he he was all over the

01:06:49

place like he he was dealing with um you

01:06:52

his mortality and a whole lot of other

01:06:53

stuff he he had some like like Rants and

01:06:57

TI rides online where he was talking

01:06:58

about you know [ __ ] that he didn't

01:07:00

want his funeral and he talked about

01:07:01

having like bouncers in a guest list and

01:07:04

then when the end came like the last

01:07:05

couple of weeks and he talked about

01:07:07

having a fabulous flamboyant thing at

01:07:08

the Civic or somewhere then the last

01:07:11

couple of weeks he he said to his mom no

01:07:12

I just want I want a religious ceremony

01:07:14

I want to reconnect with God and

01:07:16

anyone's welcome and he just sort of

01:07:18

gave up gave up the fight but it' be um

01:07:20

yeah so I suppose in a way like he ended

01:07:22

up dying with you know at peace yeah it

01:07:25

be nice to be like no [ __ ] you I want to

01:07:28

yeah it's a gig yeah don't don't don't

01:07:30

don't try and use my funeral as clout

01:07:32

for your social media yeah we we'll get

01:07:34

Dane Rumble to play

01:07:36

[ __ ] maybe day Haro open for him we

01:07:39

going run hey you can you can M see it

01:07:41

you can even see

01:07:43

yeah um okay for for anyone that's um

01:07:47

like watching this or listening to this

01:07:48

that's dealing with grief now maybe a

01:07:50

similar situation or maybe just like

01:07:53

a I know a breakup or some personal

01:07:55

thing which you know you can't you know

01:07:57

you go through those moments where

01:07:58

you're like I can't see the I can't see

01:08:00

how the storm's ever going to end I

01:08:01

can't see the light at the end of the

01:08:02

tunnel what would your advice

01:08:04

me um have a daughter but I know that's

01:08:08

hard to say but but

01:08:11

um I don't know yeah I I literally I'm I

01:08:16

don't think I'm the person to that

01:08:17

people should go to for advice at the

01:08:19

moment like I'm I contradict myself so

01:08:22

many

01:08:23

times um

01:08:26

yeah I'll say I'll say to people stop

01:08:28

drinking or [ __ ] go on medication but

01:08:31

yeah like I do those things and I stop

01:08:34

those things and I'm all over the show

01:08:36

so I don't know man yeah yeah you're

01:08:39

just I mean you're yeah

01:08:42

you're Yeah Yeah it's you're just trying

01:08:44

to [ __ ] survive I can't help anyone

01:08:46

yeah once I sort myself out then I'll

01:08:48

try and sort other people out oh no

01:08:50

that's fair enough um I guess well so

01:08:52

when so um this must be kind of

01:08:55

contradictory cuz like what we do in the

01:08:57

shadows it's one of the one of the high

01:08:58

points of your life and career so many

01:09:00

good memories around it but also yeah

01:09:02

how does it how does it feel when you

01:09:03

see it now like does it bring back

01:09:04

memories of your of your dad or are

01:09:07

there certain scenes in it or moments

01:09:08

that were filming around that time that

01:09:10

yeah yeah there yeah but um the only

01:09:12

time i' I've watched it recently is with

01:09:14

Freddy so um I love her watching it yeah

01:09:18

so that takes it away like that's like I

01:09:20

know I was like that scene I was like oh

01:09:22

my God I showed

01:09:24

up [ __ ] that didn't probably didn't have

01:09:26

to put makeup on me I just looked like a

01:09:28

vampire anyway

01:09:30

um yeah that's Freddy like Freddy loves

01:09:33

it so watch watching it and yeah making

01:09:37

making um making jokes or trying to make

01:09:39

jokes about um this really [ __ ] Bleak

01:09:42

stuff is this just like your coping

01:09:44

mechanism yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

01:09:48

I think it be the same way do you do you

01:09:50

love that it makes people feel

01:09:51

uncomfortable yeah there's nothing I

01:09:53

love more than making people feel

01:09:55

uncomfortable I love it I love I love

01:09:57

people hating me I love

01:10:00

it I don't think no one hates you though

01:10:03

I know some people dude dude go online

01:10:05

these I mean all these [ __ ] racists

01:10:07

they [ __ ] hate me people uh I'm very

01:10:09

like I don't know if I'm leftwing but

01:10:11

I'm very political um dude you should

01:10:14

like I've been banned from Twitter three

01:10:16

times like I've been [ __ ] like I love

01:10:20

it like if someone says they don't like

01:10:23

me I want to make I want to go harder to

01:10:25

make them hate me even more you double

01:10:28

down yeah I'll never like if you like me

01:10:31

great but I'd rather people hate me so I

01:10:33

can just build on that you

01:10:36

know yeah where does that come from cuz

01:10:38

I think I'm probably the opposite end of

01:10:40

the spectrum whereas I'm you know you

01:10:42

want to be liked oh yeah I got people

01:10:44

people pleasing Tendencies but I think I

01:10:46

think I'm I'm in a wrong position I

01:10:48

think you're in the wrong position too I

01:10:49

think the care position would be to be

01:10:51

indifferent about

01:10:52

it you know what I mean like to yeah

01:10:55

just

01:10:55

not be bothered not be bothered if

01:10:56

someone likes you or hates you yeah um I

01:11:01

mean isn't that me just wanting people

01:11:03

people to hate me that I'm not

01:11:06

bothered I youed say but but by Nature

01:11:09

what you do for a job you that you want

01:11:10

people to like you at the same time it's

01:11:12

like a going on stage people having

01:11:14

people laugh at you it almost is like a

01:11:16

desperate need to be to be loved I guess

01:11:18

I oh yeah I mean is it or no this this

01:11:23

i' I've never done stand-up comedy in my

01:11:25

life

01:11:28

I don't know it's just something that I

01:11:29

know that I'm good at and I like to do

01:11:31

it and I know that it'll

01:11:34

work and then when it doesn't I just

01:11:36

laugh at it I'm

01:11:38

like like could you cun do this

01:11:42

like yeah yeah you are you are very good

01:11:45

like anyone that's um checking this

01:11:48

podcast out you just have to YouTube you

01:11:49

know and find some clips there's some

01:11:50

bloody great stuff there um how how

01:11:54

confident are you

01:11:56

that that you'll never you know reach

01:11:58

the point that your dad did or have that

01:12:00

that that moment of weakness yeah that

01:12:03

moment where you make a a you know a

01:12:05

permanent decision for a temporary

01:12:07

problem

01:12:09

um yeah like way more now than ever like

01:12:13

I'm yeah I've come close so many times

01:12:16

I'm yeah I'm terrible at killing

01:12:19

myself but um yeah now that like

01:12:22

Freddy's growing up she's 9 next week

01:12:28

um yeah I um I hate that I even had

01:12:32

those thoughts but in saying that who

01:12:35

knows if they will come again but

01:12:38

um yeah right now I'm I'm good I'm here

01:12:41

doing a podcast with dom HBY from The

01:12:44

Edge Dom H from the the Dom H podcast

01:12:47

now yeah yeah we've been going backwards

01:12:49

and forwards for a while I I think you

01:12:51

you even asked to come on which I was

01:12:52

super honored about I was flatter yeah

01:12:55

man I watched the your interview of the

01:12:57

lady who uh eaned herself like that oh

01:13:01

yeah Tracy

01:13:02

Hickman that was what a what a good

01:13:05

interview and what a lovely lady like

01:13:08

[ __ ] yeah just really really cool and I

01:13:11

was really pleased the uh that that

01:13:12

episode could come out before she died

01:13:14

and she she wasn't even on Tik Tok but

01:13:16

some of her friends were and nieces and

01:13:18

stuff and they could be like you know

01:13:19

auntie Tracy over a million people have

01:13:21

seen you and that was really cool like

01:13:23

that's that like that killed me [ __ ]

01:13:25

yeah oh thanks mate and um what's what's

01:13:29

your in a voice like these days are you

01:13:31

mostly kind to yourself

01:13:32

or

01:13:35

uh no oh not really no I'm

01:13:39

quite you know I I think I could do a

01:13:42

lot better than what I'm doing right now

01:13:44

but um it's hard he it's an ongoing

01:13:47

[ __ ] thing yeah and this industry

01:13:49

it's like I wish I just be a journalist

01:13:52

you know

01:13:57

yeah it is um it's a very special skill

01:14:00

you've got to make to make light of you

01:14:02

know absolutely

01:14:03

anything yeah it's cool okay well let's

01:14:06

let's talk about fatherhood so um yeah

01:14:09

so Anna we talked about her before yeah

01:14:11

um [ __ ] that's a special relationship he

01:14:14

that's really cool yeah um yeah what do

01:14:17

you think it is that sh that she sees a

01:14:19

new where she has this just sort of

01:14:20

unwavering unwavering like oh you had to

01:14:23

ask her about it but um

01:14:26

she

01:14:29

um uh she hates me and loves me at the

01:14:32

same as much the same

01:14:35

amounts um but I think she knows I'm I'm

01:14:37

a really good dad and um and a good

01:14:40

person yeah I think I'm I'm a good

01:14:42

person I think yeah know yeah you are so

01:14:46

maybe she just she maybe it's a case of

01:14:49

I I feel like this is the similar sort

01:14:50

of thing we don't have we don't have a

01:14:53

but me and JJ yeah it's like um

01:14:56

sometimes when I'm when I'm down on

01:14:57

myself um yeah she she'll God maybe it's

01:15:01

the beers um but she she you know can

01:15:04

see in me the person that I can't

01:15:06

sometimes see in myself yeah um which is

01:15:08

really touching 100% like and will call

01:15:10

me maybe once every once a month and

01:15:13

just have a breakdown about my life he's

01:15:15

like Cory you got you do this right do

01:15:18

this you're doing this bad blah blah

01:15:19

blah and yeah she knows that like she

01:15:21

she would have left me a long time ago

01:15:23

with like I wouldn't have Freddy if she

01:15:25

wasn't that um invested in trying to

01:15:28

make me be a better

01:15:30

person yeah that's really cool um yeah

01:15:33

one thing and my current partner a she's

01:15:37

exactly the same like if I'm like oh

01:15:38

[ __ ] podcast is [ __ ] I'm not making

01:15:40

enough money she'll she'll she'll she'll

01:15:44

do the same sort of thing you know 12

01:15:46

months ago you said you wanted to be

01:15:47

here and you're here you wanted to be

01:15:49

here and you've done this um so she tell

01:15:51

me to sort of pull my head in um I

01:15:54

sometimes wonder wonder if you have the

01:15:55

same thing if I like add any sort of

01:15:58

like reciprocal value to their lives

01:16:00

yeah I'm like I think she could she

01:16:02

could do this Freddy without me but um I

01:16:05

just love my daughter too much but like

01:16:07

yeah if I was a piece of [ __ ] dad then

01:16:09

I'd leave but

01:16:11

um oh she's she's got together she's

01:16:14

she's so good [ __ ] that's so cool eh

01:16:17

yeah that's so cool yeah what do you do

01:16:19

to um nurture and protect that

01:16:21

relationship with Anna that you've got

01:16:22

now um

01:16:26

keep my apartment

01:16:29

tidy um or do she have like some sort of

01:16:32

expectations like well she was living

01:16:33

with us and she she like sorted the

01:16:35

whole apartment out she like remodeled

01:16:37

it like [ __ ] so I've kept it

01:16:39

literally it's the same as when she left

01:16:42

um we moving out in two weeks though so

01:16:44

but um and uh yeah I don't know like

01:16:49

just be awesome with Freddy yeah oh

01:16:52

that's cool yeah yeah yeah I just trying

01:16:54

yeah I try to add value to their life

01:16:56

like where where I can it's like [ __ ]

01:16:58

what what can I do to make their life

01:16:59

easier or better so my girlfriend as she

01:17:01

she like loves having like a weat pack

01:17:04

which is like a oh so wity back like the

01:17:07

it's like a we we pack yeah so I hit

01:17:09

that up in the microwave the other day

01:17:10

she left at work so I went uh to New

01:17:12

World and bought her a hot water bottle

01:17:14

instead um

01:17:16

she she's 30 she didn't know what a hot

01:17:18

water bottle was how old are you 51 oh

01:17:21

my god um how old are you 42 42 you look

01:17:24

43

01:17:25

I don't look 43 you do man oh thank you

01:17:29

um she didn't know what it was I I said

01:17:31

I she know what this is cold I'm like oh

01:17:35

she said I'm going to go heat it up in

01:17:36

the microwave I'm like no no no no no no

01:17:39

I said I said what's what's it called

01:17:41

she's like it's a hottie and I'm like no

01:17:43

but like what is it what and she's like

01:17:45

she didn't know hot water bottle so I

01:17:48

explained to her that you drain it and

01:17:49

you fill it up with hot water she didn't

01:17:51

know that but anyway so that's just just

01:17:54

little of service like that and JJ when

01:17:56

I drop the dog off I'll get her a coffee

01:17:59

and stuff I really appreciate those

01:18:02

relationships so after feeling like um

01:18:05

and you guys are so best friends yeah

01:18:08

the best so um yeah yeah yeah I I just

01:18:12

look for ways she adds so much value to

01:18:13

my life so I just look for ways that I

01:18:15

can add value to hers even though did

01:18:16

she leave the radio yesterday or

01:18:18

something she announced she was leaving

01:18:19

yeah and she's finishing in like a

01:18:20

week's time she's been doing it a long

01:18:22

time it's a it's a long long time to

01:18:25

come up with you you have to do a lot of

01:18:27

content on radio like each voice breaks

01:18:29

as like a bit a piece of content and

01:18:31

yeah I kind and it's so much [ __ ]

01:18:33

content you have to do because you as as

01:18:35

a result of doing so much of it yeah

01:18:38

yeah so I I read a quot in an article or

01:18:41

maybe I maybe it was on a podcast but um

01:18:43

you used the line Freddy saved our

01:18:45

family yeah what do you mean like she

01:18:47

was just glue at a time when you needed

01:18:49

it or yeah pretty much

01:18:51

um Iron was still so she was born what

01:18:54

like a year less than a year after my

01:18:56

dad died no no sorry not we got pregnant

01:18:59

a year after that um yeah almost 2 years

01:19:02

after he died and um yeah she was the

01:19:06

glue that kept everyone together kept

01:19:08

everyone kind of Sig for a bit and yeah

01:19:11

and she tell us like

01:19:13

she's the best thing in the world yeah

01:19:17

and you're um this is a big word to use

01:19:19

but I'd say you're boted like you're a

01:19:21

[ __ ] great dad I'm OB sess like

01:19:24

literally I will I will call for

01:19:27

here you we were going to do this

01:19:29

podcast at 1:00 and you're like just to

01:19:31

make sure we've got enough time I need

01:19:33

to pick fry up from school at 3: or go

01:19:35

to boxing classes or something so you

01:19:37

got kickboxing yeah yeah

01:19:39

kickboxing she's so good

01:19:41

you yeah so we rescheduled and made it a

01:19:43

little bit earlier just to make sure we

01:19:45

had enough enough time she's such a good

01:19:46

C boxer

01:19:55

so she's 9 years old why did she

01:20:04

um she's spinning around doing a oh [ __ ]

01:20:07

an a kick onto some kids pads

01:20:10

yeah [ __ ] Israel little son you look out

01:20:13

[ __ ] yeah Freddy's coming for

01:20:15

you no no she's not she's not what why

01:20:19

did she why did she gravitate towards

01:20:20

kickboxing by the way it looks like it's

01:20:22

a kid's kickboxing class it's a yeah

01:20:24

it's it's like under twelves um I don't

01:20:28

know me just want she likes watching UFC

01:20:30

with me and um she's quite athletic

01:20:34

she's very good at sports and I thought

01:20:36

she'd

01:20:36

be awesome at [ __ ] shut up you is

01:20:41

your your ultimate girl one day that she

01:20:43

goes to Thailand and gets a free drink

01:20:45

by you try maybe maybe a different

01:20:48

Island don't go to pee PE actually no no

01:20:51

I'll take it with me you're not yet

01:20:52

that's the guy that's the guy right

01:20:53

there

01:20:55

like 70 at the

01:20:58

time um oh yeah so that's so um yeah as

01:21:03

a father do do you sort of model what

01:21:06

you do on your own dad or do you think

01:21:08

you're dude my dad was the um when our

01:21:11

daughter was born my sister was born

01:21:13

he's he's the best I've never seen a man

01:21:15

around a little baby girl like that in

01:21:19

my entire life he was the best dead ever

01:21:21

um and I I just I've always from that I

01:21:25

always want to have a little girl and we

01:21:27

had a little girl and I'm like yeah like

01:21:29

he was the best dad ever like to my

01:21:31

sister like

01:21:34

[Music]

01:21:35

amazing you can see the impact he had

01:21:37

and they they actually went to Thailand

01:21:39

together to for a trip I don't think

01:21:41

they go to a fight

01:21:44

but yeah oh that's special um yes so so

01:21:49

Freddy's nine now if you're next week

01:21:52

yeah if you're experiencing poor meal he

01:21:54

like do you do you address it with her

01:21:56

or do you try and like Shield her from

01:21:58

she knows yeah we've uh just actually

01:22:00

just maybe in the last couple of months

01:22:01

we told her about what happened with my

01:22:03

dad how do you [ __ ] how do you do

01:22:06

that we just said that he from suicide

01:22:10

and yeah um and she knows it and she

01:22:13

gets it she's just she's a genius she

01:22:15

gets it she's more on to it than all of

01:22:17

us

01:22:19

um yeah and she knows I'll tell her

01:22:21

sometimes I'm

01:22:22

like we have to go do something if we

01:22:25

cancel it I'm like I'm too anxious to go

01:22:26

there and she's like okay I understand

01:22:28

Daddy I understand like yeah she knows

01:22:30

all about yeah you what gives you

01:22:34

anxiety it's called

01:22:36

pickups oh that's a cop out you can't

01:22:39

get away with that oh P interviews

01:22:42

interviews

01:22:44

um um going on dates talking to people

01:22:47

doing podcasts

01:22:48

[Laughter]

01:22:51

um no we no what what makes what makes

01:22:55

it obviously like um you're a performer

01:22:57

so well is being on stage to like you

01:22:59

comfortable place yeah it's the only

01:23:01

place I actually feel

01:23:02

safe do do you get anxiety like doing

01:23:05

podcast or is that just sort of a no oh

01:23:07

actually no yeah I was quite anxious

01:23:10

yeah yeah yeah so I I thought you might

01:23:12

get anxious for things like this CU you

01:23:13

know like you going to have to talk

01:23:14

about your dad and I'm sure it's not a

01:23:16

you know not a I mean it's not a fun

01:23:18

thing to talk about it's bloody Bleak

01:23:20

and it's hard do you do you did um do

01:23:23

you get emot when we spoke about it

01:23:25

earlier like and you have to take

01:23:27

yourself back there do you you know is

01:23:28

it emotional is it draining it's

01:23:30

emotional but dude I haven't cried

01:23:33

in the last time I cried was when I

01:23:35

heard about uh D getting cancer so like

01:23:39

two years ago whatever and since then I

01:23:42

haven't cried since the day that my dad

01:23:44

died since then I I don't cry about him

01:23:46

anymore are you are you quite are you an

01:23:48

emotional person

01:23:50

or I'm

01:23:52

dramatic but yeah I don't what does that

01:23:54

mean is is that like a a Chilean thing

01:23:56

or yeah I'm very passionate yeah yeah um

01:24:00

but yeah I don't

01:24:02

um yeah I don't after after all happened

01:24:05

like before that before my dad died I'd

01:24:07

cry all the time M when that happened

01:24:09

like since then I'm just like I just

01:24:13

yeah yeah and what a um what a Chilean

01:24:17

mean like and tibs are like talking

01:24:19

about you know like I suppose their

01:24:22

feelings or you know showing ability and

01:24:24

stuff like that are they sort like kiwi

01:24:26

men or yeah well but it's like yeah like

01:24:29

but in a flamboyant way of saying stop

01:24:32

being a gay pretty much stop

01:24:35

being I thought um like South South

01:24:38

maybe this is more argentinians but I

01:24:39

thought South Americans were like quite

01:24:41

quite expressive and quite oh very

01:24:42

expressive but yeah yeah but but that's

01:24:44

why I said they'll be very expressive

01:24:46

don't be

01:24:49

gay oh so what about you what's the

01:24:52

future going to

01:24:53

bring um um don't know got

01:24:57

um got pretty that's

01:24:59

it or to be a gang member on Short

01:25:03

Street yesterday so see what happens

01:25:04

with that my third audition for short

01:25:06

Street playing a gang member don't you

01:25:08

make jokes about shorties all the talk

01:25:10

dude that's I thing all the time like

01:25:13

I'm like are they taking the piss like I

01:25:15

I'm not a fan of your show like why you

01:25:17

why are you getting me to do this are

01:25:19

you just making fun of me like maybe

01:25:20

that like trolling you like oh oh yes he

01:25:23

takes the piss out of us but we'll take

01:25:24

our [ __ ] money if it's yeah d i I'll

01:25:27

take anything I reckon I'll be good I'll

01:25:28

be a good game member like I've been I

01:25:31

mean but you know you you you've got a

01:25:34

lot of a lot of tattoos for a late

01:25:36

starter so you got your first tattoo at

01:25:39

age

01:25:40

um

01:25:44

like 26 maybe right yeah yeah yeah now

01:25:48

you're like a full sleeve and you you

01:25:50

don't regret any of them you're happy

01:25:51

with all of them what are the most

01:25:53

meaningful on what are you my brother

01:25:56

did a lot of them when he was he was a

01:25:57

tattoist and he was like signing out he

01:25:59

did a lot of them on me um that's the

01:26:02

first one I got which is the uh inan god

01:26:05

of war and entertainment we're all like

01:26:08

inan

01:26:09

bloodline

01:26:11

um and then I don't

01:26:15

know yeah Anna's name your ex is good

01:26:18

it's a good one but I might change I'm

01:26:20

waiting to meet someone called henna

01:26:24

yeah are you are you dating at the

01:26:26

moment or you are you on the apps what

01:26:27

are you uh yeah been on the apps I'm

01:26:31

kind of just yeah dating a little bit

01:26:35

but yeah I'm I don't I'm I'm not a good

01:26:38

boyfriend yeah yeah do you feel like you

01:26:40

need to um

01:26:43

yeah feel like you need to sort of do

01:26:45

some do some more work on yourself

01:26:46

before you're ready to like fully lean

01:26:47

into someone else but even that bro like

01:26:51

I'd be happy just being by myself like I

01:26:54

like me so I've got Freddy probably we

01:26:57

probably 50/50 half of the week I've got

01:26:58

Freddy half of the week I don't I love

01:27:00

being by myself and then I love being

01:27:02

with Freddy and that's enough like I

01:27:04

don't like something comes up that's

01:27:06

great then sure but

01:27:08

I'm yeah I'm just I'm not a good

01:27:11

boyfriend and that's too much of a

01:27:13

stress like to try and be someone's

01:27:15

boyfriend well what do what do you need

01:27:17

to do better what what are your what are

01:27:20

your like recognizable

01:27:21

flaws um

01:27:25

I don't know I just I'm lazy and

01:27:28

[Laughter]

01:27:30

uh and

01:27:32

like don't like being told what to do I

01:27:35

don't like being told what to do I don't

01:27:37

like being told anything and

01:27:40

um I just think I'm smarter than

01:27:44

everyone it's funny hey [ __ ] um yeah

01:27:48

like you and I we like we're very

01:27:50

different people but there's there's

01:27:52

still a lot of parallels it's probably

01:27:53

the same with with a lot of people um

01:27:55

you're quite you you're you're quite

01:27:57

good at being open and talking about

01:27:58

[ __ ] now I feel and have you got some

01:28:00

good friends that you talk to about

01:28:01

stuff yeah yeah yeah yeah like real deep

01:28:03

[ __ ] yeah yeah yeah like Josh Mullen who

01:28:06

I mentioned before um he's um you've

01:28:08

been we we've hang out with one before

01:28:09

you know okay um yeah he's my best

01:28:12

friend he yeah knows everything about me

01:28:15

um Anna as well yeah how are my two best

01:28:20

friends yeah like you're s ride or D

01:28:23

people you're doing anything

01:28:25

yeah it's cool it's good to have those

01:28:26

people in your life yeah hey this has

01:28:29

been a bloody great chat today dude love

01:28:31

it it's been really cool I really

01:28:32

appreciate it appreciate you yeah anyone

01:28:35

that comes when I first started doing

01:28:37

this podcast um people be like oh I'd

01:28:40

love to be on your podcast I I found it

01:28:42

a bit weird and then the longer I've got

01:28:43

into it I've realized that's more a me

01:28:45

problem than them and now I applaud it

01:28:47

so I figure a if someone's prepared to

01:28:49

come on it means they're prepared to

01:28:51

talk but also yeah Uncle LL how

01:28:54

how cool oh yeah um that was yeah I was

01:28:58

did he come by himself or with other

01:28:59

people he he came came with us oh bro

01:29:02

this yeah embarrassing story so he he

01:29:04

came with his wife and their baby yeah

01:29:06

so he he pressed the end to come

01:29:08

downstairs like you did I was like oh

01:29:09

come down and meet you so I went

01:29:11

downstairs and in the Foy year he was

01:29:14

there Uncle lingling um gang member with

01:29:16

his with his um vest on and his big gold

01:29:18

chain next to him this lady in her in

01:29:21

her early 30s with a Prem so

01:29:25

immediately he this Aura of intimidation

01:29:28

so I turned to her CU I thought I

01:29:30

thought she was here being l in by

01:29:32

someone else waiting for her friend to

01:29:33

come back so I didn't hear and I say

01:29:35

it's okay he's with me

01:29:39

and and then

01:29:43

she then she said um no he's with

01:29:48

me suddenly I realized just every sort

01:29:51

of prejudice yeah it's like it was like

01:29:55

a they weren't sitting a trap but I I

01:29:58

set myself a trap and I fell into it and

01:30:00

it's um fny I don't know Michelle Obama

01:30:02

had a quote saying something like um

01:30:04

it's hard to hard to dis I'm going to

01:30:06

[ __ ] this up but it something like it's

01:30:08

most people are hard to dislike up close

01:30:10

yeah um yeah I I fully agree with that

01:30:13

like he's he's a flawed human being but

01:30:15

I am you are I think David Bane would be

01:30:18

quite hard

01:30:19

to hey you should get him he's living in

01:30:22

Cambridge right now is he not with his

01:30:25

family with his wife she's a teacher um

01:30:28

you should get him on the show like

01:30:30

literally get David Bane I don't know if

01:30:32

he'd want to do anything did you listen

01:30:34

to that podcast um called black hands

01:30:36

yeah I love it yeah he he did it yeah he

01:30:40

he must have got to like the last five

01:30:42

minutes of the last episode and just

01:30:43

like quietly like put his laptop down

01:30:46

pushed it

01:30:48

away like yeah he like yeah not for

01:30:52

me lot of lot of plot holes lot of plot

01:30:55

holes yeah know I'm going back to I'm

01:30:57

watching just uh True Detective

01:31:02

yeah yeah so um what's next for you

01:31:05

still just grinding away it's a [ __ ]

01:31:07

it's a tough industry eh grinding away

01:31:09

um yeah just GS

01:31:12

and I've got a lot of ideas for like

01:31:14

shows that I'm going to try and PCH I've

01:31:15

tried I've ped a bunch recently so see

01:31:19

what happens with that but yeah I don't

01:31:20

know man are are you are you you

01:31:23

financially secure you like you've no of

01:31:26

course not yeah no no yeah [ __ ] it's

01:31:31

it's not a it's not an industry for the

01:31:33

faint is it it's bloody H AB I I got

01:31:35

paid today for for a gig and I have

01:31:38

money for like 2 weeks but then after

01:31:40

that I'll have I don't know what's

01:31:41

happening after that you know it's like

01:31:43

that all

01:31:45

done but you've stuck at it you've been

01:31:47

doing it for two decades now yeah but I

01:31:49

should be like a journalist you know

01:31:51

yeah I've got I've got a degree I've got

01:31:53

a you need degree like I should be

01:31:55

[ __ ] doing something you know what

01:31:57

was your degree in in film so not really

01:31:59

a

01:32:01

degree well I mean yeah money's yeah

01:32:04

money's not everything but it's when

01:32:06

people say that they have money it's

01:32:07

like oh you know get the [ __ ] out of

01:32:09

here you like cuz you do need money to

01:32:11

live D money is everything I recomend

01:32:14

but you're doing yeah I mean you're

01:32:15

doing what you love and you're very good

01:32:17

at it too it's been great to connect

01:32:19

today man dude love you D I really

01:32:21

appreciate it I love you too Cory good

01:32:24

with everything cheers bro yeah

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Episode Highlights

Alcohol and Sobriety
Cory discusses his relationship with alcohol and the challenges of sobriety.
“I did a 100 days not drinking and it was the best I’ve ever felt.”
@ 04m 49s
September 08, 2024
The Fallout from Controversy
Cory recounts the severe impact of a public fallout on his career and mental health.
“I lost probably like maybe half a million bucks of work that year.”
@ 11m 39s
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From Comedy Club to HBO
They started at a local comedy club and skyrocketed to HBO fame.
“They became massive, like ridiculous how big they became.”
@ 19m 27s
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Sundance Film Festival Experience
A surreal experience at Sundance, filled with parties and swag.
“It was like a month of just not real life.”
@ 25m 31s
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The Pressure of Sports
He focused on sports and avoided drinking until much later in life.
“I was just focused on sports. I never wanted to drink.”
@ 36m 05s
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Kickboxing Competition Gone Wrong
A humorous recount of a kickboxing competition where he and his friends faced real fighters and got knocked out.
“We all got knocked the [ __ ] out!”
@ 39m 11s
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Struggles with Alcohol
He openly discusses his relationship with alcohol and the challenges he faces as an alcoholic.
“I’m an alcoholic.”
@ 46m 57s
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The Day That Changed Everything
He recalls the tragic day when he discovered his father's suicide, a moment that forever altered his life.
“I just scream, I try to see him, he’s done, he’s cold.”
@ 57m 40s
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Struggling with Thoughts of Suicide
He discusses the ongoing struggle with suicidal thoughts and the impact of his father's death. 'I still go to text him.'
“I literally go to text him and oh he’s not around.”
@ 01h 04m 16s
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Humor as a Coping Mechanism
He finds solace in making jokes about bleak topics. 'I love making people feel uncomfortable.'
“I love making people feel uncomfortable.”
@ 01h 09m 51s
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The Glue of Family
Reflecting on how a family member provided support during difficult times.
“She was the glue that kept everyone together.”
@ 01h 18m 47s
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Balancing Life and Parenting
Discussing the joys of personal time versus time spent with a child.
“I love being by myself and then I love being with Freddy.”
@ 01h 27m 00s
September 08, 2024

Episode Quotes

I lost probably like maybe half a million bucks of work that year.
Comedian Cori Gonzalez-Macuer on Getting Fired & Mental Breakdown, How Fatherhood Saved his Life
I never saw a script. The whole movie was improvised.
Comedian Cori Gonzalez-Macuer on Getting Fired & Mental Breakdown, How Fatherhood Saved his Life
I got knocked out twice.
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It’s a weird way to live.
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I love making people feel uncomfortable.
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I love being by myself and then I love being with Freddy.
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