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December 17, 2023 / 01:33:28

This episode features Kings, a New Zealand musician known for his hit song "Don't Worry About It," which held the number one spot for 33 weeks. The conversation covers his journey in music, becoming a young father, and his relationship with his parents.

Kings discusses his early career, revealing that he spent seven years producing music for commercials before achieving mainstream success. He reflects on the self-doubt he faced and how he eventually embraced songwriting, leading to his breakthrough hit.

The episode touches on Kings' experiences as a young father, including the pressures he faced and the challenges of raising his daughter alone. He shares insights into his relationship with his mother and father, discussing how their dynamics shaped his upbringing.

Additionally, Kings talks about his latest album, "Dad's Son," which he describes as autobiographical and a reflection of his growth. He also mentions his evolving relationship with God and how it influences his music.

The episode concludes with Kings sharing his thoughts on fame, mental health, and the importance of integrity in his life and career.

TLDR

Kings discusses his music journey, fatherhood, and personal growth in this revealing episode.

Episode

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Kings welcome to my podcast what's up man so good to see you here yeah man nice nice crib thank you so much thank
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you so I really appreciate you being on my podcast um there'll be a lot of people that um aren't familiar with the
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name but I reckon there would wouldn't be anybody listening to this or watching
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this that doesn't know your song right now because of um the way podcasts work
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U and with Spotify and stuff I can't play any of the song here yeah that's
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right you don't even flag so if only the uh the singer songwriter was in the room
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right now hey I could talk to some people so um yes so your song don't worry about it the uh most successful
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single in New Zealand history number one for 33 weeks that's the one that goes um
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Run free boy Run free is what I would have said to the young yeah man and it just it's got that sound it starts ooh
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ah and you just feel good when you hear it yeah man I felt good when I made it so that was um 2016 that don't worry
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about it came out yeah um and from like outsider's perspective it felt like um
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you were just this thing that came from out of nowhere um but as I've discovered
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with this podcast doing this almost two years speaking to some amazing people that is very rarely the case it's like
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um the iceberg sort of picture where that's the tip and people don't see
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what's underneath the water yeah um yeah what was life like pre 2016 God pre 2016
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[ __ ] I can't remember that far back how long like how long were you making music pre don't worry about it so
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yeah I was making music for man close to seven years by then um I was producing for ads so like TV commercials things
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like that and um hey Kanye hey he very excited and um yeah so was about seven years of kind of commercial work um and
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I've been writing and producing for tons of different artists um but I'd never
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given myself that shot you know so um don't worry why why was was it um was that a self-esteem thing a self-belief
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thing that's a good question uh I think it was like navigating the the scope of
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things like I wasn't even sure who I wanted to be I knew what I looked up to
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I looked up to like Timberland producer Kanye as we were talking about earlier I
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looked up to these people but I was like what do I bring and I did think it was production for a long time um so yeah it
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wasn't so much confidence I think I was just trying to navigate the waters and
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then when I did finally get into writing I loved it I really love writing music um and I would say it was like
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accumulation of the seven years of production mixed with the love for songwriting and the marriage yeah um and
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yeah two you mentioned tv ads um yeah 2011 you had like an ad in Malaysia for KFC yeah that's so Random what was it
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just a just a beat yeah so uh I was working for an agency and they send you these briefs and it would be like KFC or
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McDonald's like happy brief and you have to make happy music in 30 seconds with
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the KFC in mind and so um yeah I was making [ __ ] like that all the time bro like random like random sound bites and
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and the money's good for for those sort of things uh it was good for what I was
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doing which was getting paid nothing you know so to get like a couple hundred bucks to do that was was awesome for me
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um and again it was another chance for me to hone my skills get better at what I do and yeah yeah it wasn't like it
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wasn't mess of money bro no I think now it would be yes so I'm trying to get my H around
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this was so why why did you stick with the music and not get like a a 9 to-5 job because you're you're young young
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dad at the time yeah uh you became a dad at 18 yeah no uh 19 19 so teen teenage dad there must have been like immense
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and and you're um we'll get into this later but you're like the the so hero
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like you've been Mom and Dad which is um it's so cool um cool one one one of oh
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no I'm sure it's um I'm sure there's so many challenges but uh but it's like um
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yeah I mean there there's so much to to unpack and Chip Away out with you but um
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you've got a complex relationship with um with your dad and your from a broken
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family and the fact that you've taken this path where you've been like a soul
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carer for your daughter um it's bloody cool it's breaking the cycle yeah um but
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I'm guessing like being a a young dad with a daughter and all the pressure that comes with that um must be pressure
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to like get a normal job and get regular income for sure bro yeah I I do remember
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the conversation uh vividly I was literally you can't do music anymore you have to go this is my mom talking to me
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by um if you're going to have this kid you need to go get a job uh you need to take care of this kid and
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I was like I do want to take care of this kid but I want to do music I was like I need I need to do music you know
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it was at a time where I was like if I don't do something creative I'm going to
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murder myself you know what I mean and it got and was that quite serious um and you know I stuck to my
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guns I I didn't get a job I ended up going on the benefit you know thank you
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labor was it labor back then whoever whoever it was back there uh and and I was able to do a music course I learned
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how to produce music shout out to ad kill I don't know if you know she she's
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a nan mystic's first manager yeah so some love Nan Mystic yeah yeah yeah actually fun fun fact when um me and JJ
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got married in 2004 they played at the wedding play the we just went to his wedding one of the wedding uh don Donald
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Donal yeah we just went to his wedding oh how good you know they were they were massive Radio band at the time and they
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were like oh hey we'll play your wedding on the house on the house and then um
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one thing I didn't realize it's like just how much cat they had and stuff so
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we to fly six six of them to Queen for the wedding on the house but you got to pay for all
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TR yeah was so good though so what would you have done as a job man i' I'd had
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jobs here and there I was folding boxes for Target at the material company so I was folding boxes I got pretty good at
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folding boxes bro um cuz you literally do that for about six hours a day um I did what else did I do paper
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route I was a laborer I was taking care of my friends like I feel like I taking care of my
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friend's like gear and like holding it as like a storage for music gear and like anything I could do producing music
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for ads whatever I could do to kind of prove to my mom I don't have to get this
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job like yeah I'll do anything but get a job you know that's so and and hindsight
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it's probably good that she like applied that like pressure on you breathing down
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your neck or whatever you want to call yeah bro I think it's yeah for sure like
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she there was a reality to what she was asking she was actually asking me to be a a good father you know yeah um and
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bless her you know like I I I was selling her a pipe dream I'm like I'm going to be a paid musician and it's
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hard to see that when it doesn't look like that you know so um yeah she she's
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awesome she's a huge supporter of mine now obvious obviously she loves me dearly I love her dearly yeah and you
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you I mean you kind of manifested this didn't you I feel like I feel like I did
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yeah um yeah my run this morning I um you're you're a hardworking dude so
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you're a [ __ ] hardworking Runner bro I feel like all you're doing is running
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every time I see you running on stories I'm sure a therapist could have a field down it like what what are you
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running from what are you there's got to be some um some some thing behind it
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but yesterday we were going to do this podcast and it had to be rescheduled cuz you had like a writing session then I I
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was listening today on my run to your new album that's just come out your fifth album which says your your final
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final rep what why so you've just put out a new album what are you working on
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writing now man I'm doing are you just always writing yeah man it's funny my
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partner kind of snicking at me just because she she understands like not many people get a behind the scenes to
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what it's like to be with someone like that it's not all fun like a lot of it
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is difficult to deal with someone who's like present and not present in the same
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time um so I understand it is difficult but yeah I'm always writing bro I'm
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always writing stuff I got a new project called Sergeant Nick which I won't get
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too much into but it's a it's a dance project and it's not rap it's like the
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complete opposite yeah cuz you've said that this fifth album uh dad's son is
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your last rap album um yes as I said listen to that on my run this morning is it sort of like it feels like
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it's almost like your autobiography and something that you've done for your
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daughter for sure yeah so your daughter's how old now uh she's now 13 12 12 13 so the there's there's a song
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in there where you talk about the um finding out you're pregnant and uh you're going through do I keep the baby
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do I not keep the baby yeah like um how does she feel about that oh man that's F
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that's funny you say she um she doesn't like you know I'm still the not cool dad
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I'm still on the same I'm still on the same TR as everyone else yeah so when I
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release song she's like it's not that cool even though like maybe her friend's
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like he's so cool she' be like Noah it's not that cool and so I'm I'm still
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dealing with that you know um so she has heard those songs and I think she she gets a cool perspective because it's
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like it's not me talking to him literally rapping so um yeah she doesn't
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have too many thoughts about it though I think I think she just laughs and she's
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like oh see you drink like see see you drinko you're telling me when I grow up
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I'm not L to I'm like yeah well it's the takeaways that kids can get from these
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things and and there's um I don't know what the what what the name for them is
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whether it's like a skirt or an interlude or whatever you call it there's a couple of spoken bits in there
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um that's how the album opens and it's you it's young you talking to you today
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um as as a therapy session is that true you you were sing a therapist when you were 11 man from 11
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to 17 yeah how often like weekly fortn nightly yeah weekly every Friday from school for Anger Management anger
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management um I I had trouble kind of sitting still um my mom did think I had add and I think I was diagnosed by the
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school person they said oh you know exhibiting ADHD I'm still not sure if I do but the counseling was kind of a
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place to go where I felt safe to talk uh about things are happening at home or like just creatively have a talk
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sometimes we sit and do nothing you know like just I'd be drawing um but it was
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just a space for me and I had that space for years yeah that's a lot of work yeah
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and and at a very young age too yeah why why were you so [ __ ] up that's a great
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question bro I don't even I still feel like I still hav very much that way no no well well can I just say you
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you may still feel that way but the um um like the kings that I've got to know
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and this is only since 2016 um is just like hardworking disciplined reliable uh always on time always courteous always
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polite always nice I don't know I don't know I I don't know what what you what
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you see when you look in the mirror but from an outsider's perspective he's he's
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a good man maybe it was all that work maybe yeah it's it's a lot of work it's
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a lot of work but it's like what I I was like in my mid-40s before I went to a
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therapist for the first time and really yeah yeah yeah I probably should have done it a long time I don't know if 11's
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already either but I mean yeah maybe in between why why so late for you I I think I was just scared yeah and I uh
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when you you're like where do I start like like where do I start but you as soon as you get to that room you realize
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all they trained professional they they'll they'll lead for sure um so that's that's a yeah that's a lot of
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work why why were you so angry man I would I don't know if anger was a fair assessment of what I was I
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think the frustration from not being able to communicate effectively like so I could only it's like the equivalent
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of a baby trying to yell like I'm hungry right and like all they can do is cry so
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for me all I could do was Punch walls and like be exert anger it's not that I
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was necessarily angry it was just frustration of being able to say like like I youy again shut up Sir oh
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still angry yeah yeah exactly smash that [ __ ] phone um yeah yeah so it was yeah the frustration
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of being able to say things like like I miss my dad you know not not being able to say those words as a kid
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cuz you don't even know that that's what's going on um so yeah again when my
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dad wasn't around you know I'm like yearning for a male uh energy that I
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don't have and I don't know how to say that so I'm punching walls and throwing
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rocks at windows and all this kind of stuff yeah oh that makes sense yeah that that makes a lot of sense so so you're
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just angry and you just don't know how to articulate for sure for sure and yeah
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like I mean man as a kid but I look at Kids now and I think they're so advanced
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in some ways and then I think they're also silly in a lot of ways you got tick
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cuz they can read anything they can Google things now they they seem smart uh even my daughter like she'll she'll
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tell me things that I I didn't know about emotions like she'll say oh dad
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you know this feeling comes from this and did you know that if you talk about this I'm like how are you this young and
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um so it's it's a new world where back then I think it was a lot more about
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shut up just shut up and get on with it you go for a run yeah CU how how old are
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you now I'm 33 33 yeah yeah see I'm I'm 50 I'm a I'm like I'm almost like
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another generation like a like older than you and yeah yeah yeah yeah so you must think the same about us you got
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[ __ ] no no no I'm guessing there's been like just just huge like seismic
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leaps like in the last in the last generation in terms of technology and information and everything for sure so
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yes so go back to the real early year so um yes compl your relationship with your
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dad's good now but it was comp so your mom and dad broke up when you were a young age yeah young dad dad's moldy
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mom's some mine but was adopted out to a pangy family did some research good man
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yes yeah yeah yeah so they broke were they ever together with you or did did he b i I got a couple years uh I think
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with that I want to say five age of five or six so I remember him like there's memories for
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sure and I see photos so he was around um but like do I like as a kid you don't know you're
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making you're piecing it together as you go you know so all of a sudden dad's not
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there and you just think oh he's probably just gone to the shop like you know you just you don't know you're just
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like oh he'll be around soon and then you see him in a weekend and you're like
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oh he's back and you you piece it together right um with very horrible tools you're piecing together like a
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[ __ ] clay thing that you have no idea how to do so um bad an allergy but yeah the the absence was I wasn't sure if I
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knew he was around or not I just felt he was absent yeah and and your mom that was a nasty breakup right so she she
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[ __ ] about yeah I don't think they liked each other too much and my mom for fear
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reason you know I I think about these there's so many kids that I know that have gone through the similar thing of
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having a broken home and sometimes the mom will react in a in a way because she's been hurt you know um
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whether it be cheating with physical whatever it is and the reaction without her
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knowing could affect the kids you know but but I have to forgive her knowing that she didn't have the tools to
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communicate that either so um yeah she's just proba just like projecting her
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anger angry yeah and fair enough I'd be pissed off too you should have sent her
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to anger me yeah maybe she was sending me because she was secretly like what did you
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learn what but um did she she you look back now from the perspective of um a guy that's been you're doing the solo
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dead thing did she do a good job is I think she did a great job man yeah she raised us well like she raised us well
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man I'm I'm a curious guy I respectful the woman for the most part um she's
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taught me how to be lovely she's the lovely side of me yeah when you for the
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most part what do you mean yeah like saying please and thank you something you know she was she ingrained that and
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meant to be courteous I pull chairs out I four people glasses of water and just that's innate in me from her yeah my my
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dad's taught me how to be a businessman and how to be a man more recently um but yeah my M my mom lives
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within me and my dad how do how do you mean what I expect speak about being a man
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Walking Tall yeah being able to walk tall and I don't know if you remember when we first started uh when I 2016
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when I first started doing radio runs bro my shoulders are hunched back I see photos and stuff of it I was really
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nervous scared to be in a room and take up space um so he tryes to make himself small yeah yeah yeah just naturally
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doing that and um I I I never I never I never noticed that I I just thought you were a humble guy oh
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like like a guy that was you know how we talked before about the iceberg thing and it sort of felt like you were just
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suddenly in the spotlight like a like a deer on the spotlight that's what happened yeah and I guess for someone
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who I would consider myself an introvert which is awkward because I'm a performer
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right but yeah it did feel I did feel like a um a daring headlights is a good way to put it and so my my dad kind of
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being in my life taught me how to pull my shoulders back take take the space and and own it yeah [ __ ] so you're still
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doing work hey yeah you're still a still a work in progress yeah yeah yeah yeah
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oh bro forever man yeah yeah yeah like I mean until we're gone you know yeah well
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no that's cool I I um I fully agree it's like it's like a growth mindset but I
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think a lot a lot of people just sort of give up and they go well this is how I am you take it or leave it um you think
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so I think a lot of people like that but I think it's a it's a it's a great way
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to be to you know always have um work on and always be tweaking and trying to create yourself yeah I actually never
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thought of it like that like I I I figure everyone's trying to do the right thing and get better but maybe you're
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right every every everyone wants to wants to be the best version of themselves but it does take it does take
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work it does take a lot of work yeah so you can't you can wish it but that's not
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going to make it happen yeah that's not going to do [ __ ] yeah like I I I'm I
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feel like I'm better at communicating on this podcast than what I am with some of
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my personal relationships and I know that's something that I'm trying to work
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on you know just get a camera in between you going to do chat just get a microphone
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in between I don't know and uh yeah yeah and and I'm um I'm I'm obsessed with
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like pleasing people and I I'll sometimes say yes to things then afterwards I'll be like [ __ ] why did I
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say yes to that wow okay I want to know is that why you were here today no bro that's actually quite that
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that that was never a thing weirdly I know what you mean because I think I don't know if it's a human thing like we
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like to just go yeah bro yeah I'll see you you know but I think for me when I
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started doing business that attitude isn't always great like if you start saying yes to everything you burn
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yourself out I can't be there for my daughter because I'm doing 300 other
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things yeah and so I actually learned by being a dad and a business owner that the power of know is actually
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a lot stronger than um the power of your yeah absolutely say know a lot more these days it's got it it's a powerful
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word hey yeah no and to mean it like no I still love you you know like hey bro no but I love you and yeah yeah I think
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people respect that Honesty okay so so yeah so your mom and dad split when you like say fiveish or so so who's in the
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house it's you and your older brother me my older brother my little sister and my
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mom yeah so your um your older brother he was kind of like your male your male figure in your life he became it yeah he
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kind of was thrust into it I guess just by by way of default um strong dude man very very strong
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character and was he he was he was a bit of a loky bad dude yeah oh not Loki he's just a he's just a gangster man I
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think for my for people like me multi Polynesian it's not uncommon to have a man thrust into that
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role early and then to have to wield the responsibilities of a young father brother yeah or cousin yeah but I
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feel like I'm doing this a lot feel like we're having having a route like every time I laugh sorry bro
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that comes on your thing sorry bro no that's good that's definitely not being
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edited out so so so you were from what I've what I've read you were sort of
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hitting down that path as well like um yeah you you Street Smart so you never got in trouble but what what you doing
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just like dealing weed yeah bro oh it's so funny like it's funny cuz I know my
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daughter might watch this like yeah like bro survival survival is a best way to put it like it wasn't that I was
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doing one thing or anything it's just survival like you do what you can at that age um I had a big chip on my
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shoulder around blaming the police and white people for problems that I think that
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just comes in with The Narrative of being in the Hood um so I had these kind of chips on my shoulder and to fall into
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line you play ball you know what I mean you you go with your cousins to these places and you go to these House parties
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and you do these things that they do because there's no other no one telling
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you don't do that you know so you're just rolling with the punches um yeah
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yeah so yep I was I was doing stupid [ __ ] for sure when I was young you ever get caught or get in trouble or I think
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the worst thing I got caught was like spray painting um and it was literally caught red-handed like I spray painted
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and there was red paint in my hands the cops come and they're like who's been
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spray painting I was like not me check my hands [ __ ] red actually yeah there's a line about that in that um
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that album we're talking about Dad son yeah exactly so so then what happens they they you get diversion you get in
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trouble they just take you home take you home they tell you to clean your [ __ ]
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you clean your thing it was lucky it was wet so it came off and then I got home and I'd get a get a hiding yeah from
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myom from your mom yeah for being nor was she um it's funny does sound like I'm from I'm from a middle class white
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family but it was the same sort of thing I remember being like 14 15 me and my mates like um this is when you used to
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get like little double happy firecrackers oh like tiny little Dynamite sticks so we'd go and um me and
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a bunch of mates we go like knock on people's Doors Light one and then run off and then the police gave me a ride
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home and I remember they dropped my mates off first and then I was last I was like please can you guys just drop
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me around the corner like my dad's going to give me a going smack and it was like
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um it was never it was never like a beating or anything it was always like a done in a in the terms of a correctional
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sort of environment like put me over the bed and give me the belt and he'd say
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this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you absolute [ __ ] I see the Bel but was was your
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mom yeah was was it a controlled yeah it wasn't like I think a belt is probably your dad being nice you know
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he's found something that's kind of like I think my mom would just I'm P her out
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to be like horrible is no no because it's um and I I like I share my parents
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story as um you know like I suppose a vulnerability Exchange in a way because it's like you know your parents do the
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best they can tools they've got at that time yeah F and so well if you imagine
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like a growing young boy a a slap's not going to work anymore so you got to find
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other things so how old were you then with the the spray oh man [ __ ] that's
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quite young to I want to say 13 14 yeah it's kind of a bit of a blur but it's it's all in
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that young teenage um era I was even drinking at that age where I was drinking at 12 um yeah Hennessy I
00:24:20
believe according the my here today it's gross man it's gross it's gross to think
00:24:27
like my daughter's to bro you know I look at her now and I think [ __ ] I could
00:24:30
not imagine her drinking a bottle of a 40 oz in a park yeah but what what were you do you just trying to numb the pain
00:24:38
or just like escape yourself or I would yeah it wasn't even that conscious to be
00:24:42
honest it it was again following the pack and just trying to just kick it with with my friends and they were all
00:24:48
into the same thing we all had similar upbringings similar childhood so we all it was just the way it was yeah so when
00:24:55
was the when was the last time your mom disciplined you I would have been around that AJ cuz I
00:25:00
was just too yeah I'm too big and she was like oh well [ __ ] Fu just start saying mean things stupid
00:25:08
yeah well I mean it's yeah it's hard we'll get to this with you know your
00:25:13
journey with Parenthood as well but it's like it's hard when you're fulfilling
00:25:15
both roles like you can't be it's hard to be the nurturing loving mom and also
00:25:20
the disciplinarian of the househ some way with boys for sure as I am older now and I look back at it I do I do
00:25:27
understand and she had two roles to play yeah um and she had to exercise uh what
00:25:33
she did um for the bman of us you know yeah yeah um there's there's a massive
00:25:39
article I read about you in one of the papers earlier this year um I think it was when the TV show The Traders came
00:25:45
out ah sure um you you said in this article um you didn't think you'd do
00:25:49
very well on a show like Traders cuz you trying to live your life with um Integrity now ah yeah yeah I that
00:25:56
interview was that was a while ago was that this year was this this year but that that line resonated with me because
00:26:02
I feel like I'm on the same same path now it's like um I feel like in the past
00:26:07
like my my sort of like playful nature like if I like someone I'll take the piss out of them or give them a [ __ ] and
00:26:13
now I you know I know there's a lot of people that are hurting and I don't I
00:26:16
don't want to make anyone feel bad so I try and live with Integrity as well but
00:26:20
what what do you mean because it's like um I was quite puzzled when I read that
00:26:23
line because as I said I've known you for like the last six to seven years orever and you've always seemed like a
00:26:28
dude with Integrity to me that's really that's nice bro thank you I appreciate
00:26:31
that um it's easy to wear mask in front of people for 30 30 seconds um I think when when all the
00:26:39
cameras are on I can anyone can you know you can put on a face um and I think what I meant by Integrity or at least
00:26:48
being a man of integrity was to to exude it not only in my life but in my professional life where I feel
00:26:56
like in my professional life I was i' hit this stroke of success that I'd never hit before and and no one in
00:27:04
my family had hit with that kind of actually no I lie my Uncle Slade mcfallen was a rugby player he had a
00:27:09
mive thing of success but um i' hit the success from coming from the streets
00:27:14
where I was telling you about and then to to have to navigate the business world with like corporates and talk
00:27:21
percentages and like lawyer fees and all the [ __ ] was like was quite scary for me
00:27:26
so I I I pretended like I knew hey go yeah I pretended like I knew I put the face on like fake it till you make
00:27:37
it for sure okay and um and so that Integrity line was like I'm done with that I'm going to just be who I am yeah
00:27:45
awesome yeah yeah so yeah hey so oh so yeah so you you became a dad at uh like eight you got pregnant
00:27:55
at 18 dad at 19 19 yeah um um yeah in this autobiog autobiographical album you sort of like sing through that and you
00:28:03
talk about um how it was sort of unplanned and how you got told um what was your relationship with the mom it
00:28:09
was like a just like a one night stand a fleeting sort of a brief relationship yeah the way the song kind of
00:28:15
interpreted it it was like it was like a one stand and kind of kind of like I I won't you know for her respect and I've
00:28:23
actually never spoken about her too much on these things because um um because we
00:28:29
didn't in in a great manner we talk now of course for Nali sake but um I'd
00:28:34
rather safe face for her so I won't say too much other than we we um we were way too young to have a kid
00:28:44
together way too young way too young yeah and in the song you talk about the um it's it's funny because you're adults
00:28:50
but you're just very young adults at the time but a [ __ ] we were adults bro 19 is
00:28:55
I I I consider myself now a late teenager at this age like even kind of you saying you you're going into um
00:29:02
therapy at this age like your mind must be blown with like what you didn't know
00:29:07
about yourself like you must feel that way yeah yeah I I do and it's exciting
00:29:10
learning the stuff about yourself like oh that's why I do this thing yeah yeah
00:29:14
for sure and so like that world I feel like I'm still doing that today so I do
00:29:18
feel like a teenager in a sense that um of learning yeah and just like what we were talking about before about your
00:29:24
integrity I think um yeah the fact that you don't really want to say too much
00:29:27
about um the baby mama I think that speaks a lot of Integrity but you made the decision to to keep it how I don't if
00:29:36
you don't want to get into this St fine but how did how did you end up being the
00:29:38
so Kira yeah so that that was uh I can only relay my version of what happened um we had an arrangement that we were
00:29:47
going to do a split custody thing um and she felt she had opportunities somewhere
00:29:53
else uh for her career um she took those opportunities and I stayed with Bubba and that just went on a lot longer than
00:30:02
I think was anticipated that's my version of the story I'm sure she'll
00:30:05
tell you something else and that's fine yeah but you're not talking [ __ ] about
00:30:09
her or anything no no of course not yeah everyone's got their version but um that
00:30:14
must have been [ __ ] daunting so you got this baby um there's a saying like it takes a
00:30:21
takes takes a village to raise a child or whatever was that that the case with you did you have like family support I
00:30:26
man I was so grateful of my family man like I talk it up like I'm solo dad but Solo
00:30:32
solo to me is that I was a soul career but man my my mom and dad came to the party they looked after me and my mental
00:30:39
health they allowed me to pursue music so whenever I had a gig or like karaoke night I'd go to these uh gigs and that
00:30:46
would watch them for the night and I'm grateful for that man honestly grateful
00:30:50
I if I was actually myself and a baby in a room who know like that that's my solo Journey was with my family yeah
00:31:00
and I'm very grateful yeah that's really cool yeah yeah what so how old is she
00:31:05
now yeah 12 13 bro yeah yeah what's your what's your relationship like really
00:31:11
really tight yeah tight bro yeah too tight you know too tight we're best friends almost to a degree and it's not
00:31:17
good when you're trying to discipline someone and then she you know you'll be
00:31:22
like hey go do this you're be like nah I'm like [ __ ] hell you know and um
00:31:26
I've Al I've also tried my best to not go down beating just because it happened
00:31:32
to me I'm like well I know the benef not the benefits I know the not benefits of
00:31:37
having that happen um so I've tried my best to not ever physically thing with
00:31:43
this so we talk so much bro we'll spend like two hours talking about if she's
00:31:48
done something at school you know and I have to explain to what she's done and
00:31:51
it's such a long process where and I even think like oh no wonder mom smacked
00:31:55
me cuz it's like it's easy like Oh shut the [ __ ] up like I got to go to work you
00:32:00
know yeah that's I I noticed in the um in in the early days of you I say early
00:32:05
days of your career but after don't worry about it came out um you you'd
00:32:09
have her on your social media platforms for about you don't anymore no is that a
00:32:13
conscious decision bro I had a [ __ ] man you don't know Fame I don't know if
00:32:20
you had that with being on radio all the time but people recognize you on the street you you probably get that St now
00:32:24
yeah people to see you out and hey so I started getting that which was a new experience and I was cool with that but
00:32:30
someone went up to my daughter and I wasn't there like I was at the food court she was in the mall like up up by
00:32:37
the ice cream place and someone went up to her and was like I love your dad's
00:32:42
music tell him I see it hey and so she comes back from the ice cream shop and she's like Dad some guy came up to me
00:32:48
and said that he likes your music and that was the moment I was like how the [ __ ] did he know that you're my daughter
00:32:53
this is yuck and so I took her off everything I had a panic moment and I was like [ __ ] that I don't want
00:33:00
anyone going up to her and she was too young for that I felt like yeah how yeah how old at the time man she was she was
00:33:08
she was in school so five five or six that seems really inappropriate it's creepy as [ __ ] broy were you were you
00:33:15
wild like where is he I really did do that yeah but I don't want to say that
00:33:19
on your thing but I was like where the [ __ ] is this guy smash him like don't
00:33:23
ever talk to my to me it's just gross like yeah it seems really weird you could
00:33:29
just recognize her and go oh cool you know but the fact that he went up tell your dad like bro yeah so anyway I I
00:33:36
took her off all my socials I I have her on now because she's a lot older she
00:33:40
understands a lot more but back then I was I was very very nervous to have her outl about yeah so um so 2016 rolls
00:33:50
around don't worry about it comes out what's the so what's the what's the
00:33:54
story with that because the the the music video which which is um up to like 3.4 million views on YouTube [ __ ] is it
00:34:00
that's um yeah [ __ ] that's awesome yeah I I want to get into the finances and
00:34:04
stuff and how what sort of money you get from from a clip like that I made Millions um but that that video so so
00:34:12
the video was shot before the song came out and it shows you at like um one of those blue sky parties or whatever it is
00:34:17
so so you were performing pre don't worry about it you know generally yeah yeah he does the brickfish on George
00:34:23
good dude good friend good friend of mine like I I he's a family friend actually so he was helping me get into
00:34:30
the music scene um I dropped a few songs with Dan Ox from Georgia fil as well and
00:34:36
Jim Lee was like bro do you want to come to Fiji and I was like [ __ ] like [ __ ]
00:34:39
yeah let's go uh sweet and like they pay for the tickets and everything and I MC
00:34:45
and I thought while I'm here why not cuz I'm so MC as in like rapping rapping
00:34:49
yeah yeah like Rapp singing and see there as a performer but no one really under mate yeah for sure I was not Kings
00:34:57
at the time and um yeah so I I just thought I'm never going to be in Fiji again I should film a music video here
00:35:03
and um that was inspiration literally I was walking around with the camera Lee was kind of like bro you're a bit like
00:35:07
what are you doing come and chill with us I'm like nah Noah n this is my only
00:35:10
opportunity because I'm never going to make it to Fiji again you know um and I
00:35:14
shot that music video there so so then how does this how does the song get out like do you Geor yeah yeah okay so you
00:35:21
put it on Soundcloud or whatever or you just give like Lee a copy or Dan a copy yeah I chucked it on SoundCloud um which
00:35:29
for anyone who does a SoundCloud or thing anymore I don't even know if yeah SoundCloud kind of like before Spotify
00:35:35
um yeah I checked it up on my Spotify page oh [ __ ] sorry my SoundCloud page Georgia fim gave it a couple spins
00:35:42
because I was J's friend and Dan ox and um nothing happened bro to be honest
00:35:47
three months go by nothing happens it gets like maybe 2,000 spins I'm thinking
00:35:52
that's a lot of spins for me 2,000 um and I would say in the 3 four month Mark [ __ ] just started getting
00:36:01
crazy like i' would get an email from Capital Records being like hi did you release the song tomor about it I'm like
00:36:06
yeah like would like to talk to you about a deal and I'm like what like Capital Records and Island records and
00:36:12
Warner and Sony and just from just from being played on George just being on yeah just being out
00:36:18
was was there a moment that you felt the sort of ground swell like oh I don't
00:36:21
know where this is going to go going it was about 3 four months in yeah yeah so again like a normal release you just
00:36:26
drop a song and then you hope for the best right um and that's what I did and
00:36:29
I just did not expect it to do what it did and yeah really yeah that's interesting because I feel like it's
00:36:36
it's one of those songs as soon as you hear it as soon as you hear those opening oo and as's just makes you feel
00:36:42
a certain way I feel like you know it just Rigs of a head yeah yeah RI I me yeah did did you not feel that I can
00:36:48
confidently say no I didn't think it I was I was sure I liked it that was all I
00:36:54
knew I knew I liked it and and I knew that I was happy with the beat and that's it bro yeah so you just
00:37:01
had no expect I suppose you had nothing to go on like no yeah I didn't even know
00:37:04
what exactly bro I didn't know what a hit was so yeah so yeah so um so play plays on George and then other radio
00:37:11
like um The Edge where I jumped on that's where we got to catch up yeah our ZM they they jump on it as well and um
00:37:18
yeah how fast do you think that was from there cuz I feel like that was quick like once I got on the edge and ZM cuz
00:37:26
you guys were the at the time the stations like the mainstream we hit you guys it's like game over cross over
00:37:33
exactly yeah do do is Radio is still important does it still have a place oh man it's hard to like because the reason
00:37:41
I bring this up because I I noticed um when I was researching this interview um so don't worry about it massive on
00:37:48
Spotify but you've got a song called six figur which i' hand on heart never heard
00:37:52
of yeah right that's got more listens on Spotify that's had no radio play that
00:37:56
did pretty well too yeah uh mym jumped on that actually oh but but I don't think it was the success of that song
00:38:02
was um I guess the same thing bro like I really enjoyed the process of making it
00:38:07
I like the song it was the first time I'd seen six figures in my bank account
00:38:11
that was literally why I wrote the song six what was that from like an advance from uh uh it was a deal that I did yeah
00:38:17
wow a deal and it was yeah just it was over six fig it was a six fig deal um [ __ ] from from who uh yeah without
00:38:25
getting into too much detail it was just like a a couple contracts one after the
00:38:30
other I can kind of say what it it was like a so the in New Zealand thing was like a big thing we we don't have to
00:38:35
talk about that but I did it oh the safety video that was a pretty big that's right I forgot about the safety
00:38:39
video yeah you and was it Julian Dennison Julian Dennison and um another rapper called uh oh I forget the name oh
00:38:45
mayard mayard [ __ ] no way you got like 100k for no no no I want exactly I I would say that um but I will say it was
00:38:55
a culmination of things in that time right okay so you just had the money just started piling up did it yeah you
00:39:01
look back now did feel like it happened quite sudden suddenly quite quickly from
00:39:05
don't worry about it yeah like just like an exponential curve yeah yeah bro really did yeah yeah yeah
00:39:12
for sure I don't think anyone could be prepared for something like that to be
00:39:15
honest CRA I put I put on a bunch of weight yeah it was crazy I remember I remember not being sure who to trust do
00:39:24
you know what I mean like even some of my friends that I had talked to in a long time time popped up again and I was
00:39:28
like how cool but then I'm thinking like wait why are they popping up I didn't
00:39:32
even ask the question cuz you don't and then you kind of see them hanging around
00:39:36
more and weird things and you feel like they're always saying your name like oh
00:39:41
yo yo bro the bro yeah and I'm like we weren't this close I don't remember
00:39:46
being this close yeah I mean I I I I can't relate but I can imagine that's a
00:39:51
level of um sudden Fame could be quite isolating yeah it was isolating that's
00:39:54
actually the right word I felt alone in a time where I was surrounded by people um I never get it at well I think I
00:40:02
think yeah so um here number one for 33 weeks how how does that happen so the previous uh longest stay at number one I
00:40:11
think was Lord with Royals which was like 16 weeks how does it I and I I went back through to look at some of the
00:40:16
chats and it's it's not like it was a dry spell in music where there was no
00:40:19
competition you know there was some big names bro yeah it was probably when Justin Bieber was at his Peak U chain
00:40:25
smokers were at their Peak there was a lot of competition how do you start is that from like radio airplays or
00:40:30
spotifly listens or I'll give a shout out to Warner for that one what Warner
00:40:34
I've signed to Warner for that single um huge shout out to Warner shout out to
00:40:37
Marty shout out to Phil uh they they orchestrated that whole thing they actually taught me how to create a hit
00:40:45
the song was a hit like as you said you heard it as a hit but there's a machine
00:40:49
behind it bro and it's like it's so exciting to watch you know you got this
00:40:55
radio on to at this time we going to do a photo shoot here that n's going to
00:40:58
talk to Nike and Nike's it's like this beautiful machine uh that I had the
00:41:02
privil privilege of watching them do for don't worry about it and I emulated it
00:41:06
for six figes yeah see so so how did Warners come along so they hear they hear it on George or the E whatever and
00:41:12
then yeah so shout out to Matt hland who was my first manager my first proper manager oh was he yeah you know mat I
00:41:18
love Matt oh yes he's a good he looked after me he's the one who started my my
00:41:22
thing I don't know that of course you would know him actually from no no met
00:41:26
him when he was at um maybe at Warner and um we we went on a trip to beach came roll in Fiji with fur Patrol he was
00:41:33
looking after fur Patrol at the time yes he's been looking after a lot of artist
00:41:36
and so I got a um email from Jay bulletproof has passed away since p and he said yo you got to talk to Matt hund
00:41:45
um he will look after you with all these emails coming in he's the guy so got on
00:41:49
a call with Matt I think he was on his honeymoon uh with step and he goes well I'll call you back next week and he
00:41:55
calls me next week we do a deal and within a month he's like got a deal with
00:42:01
w a good deal too like a really cool deal and don't worry about it comes out
00:42:06
and the rest is kind of history from from there on like but don't worry about
00:42:09
it was already out right yeah yeah sorry no no no sorry no yes don't worry about
00:42:14
it was already out on my SoundCloud but it hadn't officially been okay uh released to radio yeah and and did they
00:42:21
they try and were they okay with the music video no no they [ __ ] hated it cuz like I mean it's um you look at it
00:42:29
now and it's like there's there's apps on your phone where you can put a video
00:42:32
like that together but um was the first one to do it yeah I was going to say that you were the innovator no one else
00:42:36
was doing this at the time I feel like you know so funny say that a lot of people thought that it was corny cuz it
00:42:43
like if you look at it it looks like a home style video it's like quite Hy almost but I remember thinking like this
00:42:49
is cool cuz it encapsulates what it was it was a dude on holiday in fij like it wasn't a music
00:42:56
video with a super budget but yeah Warner hated it Warner were like ah this [ __ ]
00:43:03
sucks what did they want to do did they have like a treatment that they wanted to do yeah yeah they
00:43:09
did it was [ __ ] um they wanted me to be around some pretty girls and be singing
00:43:15
on a beach in camera and I politely turned it down I just thought it because you don't like beaches you
00:43:22
don't no I just bro I just was dumb felt dumb where where did where did that
00:43:28
confidence come from to say no to that cuz you know what I was saying before that where my dad came in that's I'm
00:43:32
saying that's the walk walk T stuff I came around there cuz my dad was was around and he used to ask me questions
00:43:39
and that's kind of how he fathers he'll be like he won't even say no he'll say
00:43:43
what do you think and like you know so similar with the music video is like do you want to shoot another video and I'll
00:43:48
be like not really you be like why and I'll be oh I think the videoos go the
00:43:53
South okay cool that's your answer so then I'd go back and say I think the video is good
00:43:58
by itself but that that that takes a lot of confidence I I think to to stand up for that you know because you're like
00:44:06
the this is their job they know what they're doing what the [ __ ] do I know
00:44:10
yeah um to have I think that's his um says a lot about you because it' be easy
00:44:13
to just just Buckle yeah confidence is a cool word like ignorance could be another way of putting it like stupid
00:44:20
and ignorant like I mean POS as confidence I uh I appreciate the compliment bro yeah I I like to think
00:44:28
now I'm more confident but I think back then there was a lot of ignorance and probably me thinking I
00:44:34
knew what was right like you said in front of someone who's done this for years I thought I knew what was right
00:44:40
and a bit kind of me I think Kanye wiy of me to to try to do that oh no that's
00:44:46
really cool and then um so so when a song goes to number one it stays there for 33 weeks do you get much money from
00:44:52
that no no so the money comes from like like the deal live shows yeah yeah yeah so what do you what do you get like it's
00:45:02
the biggest song ever you know gets played on the radio every 3 hours or whatever for couple of months you get
00:45:08
you get like some money from that yeah for sure it's like a royalty um how much
00:45:11
is it just [ __ ] all no it's just it's a bit way to say it is like it's quarterly so so it's in the
00:45:20
long term it's actually a lot of money but in the short quarterly period it seems like not much you know um for a
00:45:26
number one hit song like everyone saying yo you got the number one hit I'm like
00:45:29
do I kind of get guess so yeah it's if I could put a figure on it back then I can barely
00:45:37
remember but it was I want to say 1,500 every two months yeah yeah it's not a lot a no it it doesn't sound like
00:45:47
much but like still today it's kind of like that right so like since six years
00:45:51
ago that's plus the other hit songs plus the other songs it starts to make sense
00:45:56
but um at the time it's like I got a number one song and this is this is all
00:46:00
you get in roties yeah okay so so that's um from Radio the money that radio p and
00:46:05
then um so SP Spotify it's like 25 million listens or something you get much money from thato it's
00:46:11
0.008 cents per Stream So I mean do the math I don't even know what that is I
00:46:16
think it's like 257 streams for $1 something like that bro yeah wow that's crazy so if if you're Ed here and
00:46:25
think out loud it's fine yeah you're good yeah [ __ ] you're you're all good
00:46:29
and and then and then YouTube is you YouTube all right so I think is a bit better yeah but um yeah it's all again
00:46:36
little pieces of the pie it makes a nice pie yeah um it's it's still chicken feed
00:46:41
though is it isn't it really from the the song itself for the for yeah to to
00:46:45
be called the number one hit guy for sure like you would think because everyone's like yo you're the dude and
00:46:50
um yeah I'm grateful for all of it though bro I don't I don't want to sound
00:46:54
like I'm not oh no it's just just an interesting interesting Insight because
00:46:58
I suppose there's this um yeah I mean through my years in radio saw so many people that you know were very good
00:47:04
musicians and bands whatever and they end up just giving up because it's just
00:47:07
hard it's hard bro it's hard it's hard [ __ ] workout there like for every for
00:47:10
every I don't know 660 or Dave doin you know there's uh there's someone that's
00:47:15
struggling to put food on the table 100% so so then so the money comes in from other things so you do like a live show
00:47:21
you get five grand 10 grand yeah live shows are cool you get a couple grand for that and then you also get um the
00:47:27
royalties and also on top of that sponsorships so like you know I might do a deal with I haven't done with with
00:47:32
Nike but like Nike might approach me into you heard of Nike yeah you know those those little
00:47:38
guys so yeah and like so a combination of those things you end up being able to form a bit of a business yeah and merch
00:47:45
selling merch and yeah yeah have you done all right are you doing all right yeah yeah good bro yeah yeah you managed
00:47:51
like did you buy a property or anything or no there a [ __ ] the one one thing I should have done I um So Co happened
00:47:59
at a weird time bro for me I was about to tour China um I'd been doing a bunch
00:48:03
of stuff in Hong Kong um and we sit up with like man it was a 15 show tour in China um which was going to be real
00:48:10
lucrative for me and for the people and I set up an alcohol company there as well so we're going to sell the liquor
00:48:16
as well so we're going to have Monopoly on the the gig um Co hit and everything we've done
00:48:24
up to that point just crashed bro I couldn't go over there to see the agents
00:48:27
we they couldn't come here um it was a mess and so up until that point I really
00:48:34
felt like I was on this high of like I'm going to be in Forbes one day like you
00:48:39
know I I felt that way where after Co humbled me in a way where I was like I actually got to get smart with my money
00:48:45
and that was when property came in and I was a bit too uh what's the word excited to to
00:48:52
look that way um now I have the wisdom I I definitely would think a lot smarter than I do yeah yeah oh yeah speaking of
00:49:00
Co so um your partner's here today hello and you guys um you guys got together
00:49:06
pre just pre-co oh yeah so just on the verge of the bubble right ah she she doesn't she actually
00:49:14
doesn't know who I how long how long has it been like four years yeah three three
00:49:19
four yeah oh 2020 yeah 23 yeah yeah is this is there a long relationship for you are you you a relationship guy are
00:49:30
you yeah yeah it's is quite short the only thing it's 3 years long or short I
00:49:34
re it's getting it's getting quite long um you know I wanted to bring this up
00:49:39
because of um I'm just like intrigued about the um like the complexities of um
00:49:44
having a partner when you're you know you're raising a child as well like she
00:49:48
also has a child oh they would make things easier yeah that's a good question I
00:49:54
think in terms of the understanding side like oh yeah actually yeah so so so you
00:49:59
when you're when you're dating like when like did you you say it on the first
00:50:03
date or like hey I'm a dad I've got a daughter no no unless I know that they
00:50:08
uh how do I say this [ __ ] out if I know I'm just going to have fun I tap and G yeah yeah then then no not
00:50:17
at all like what's the point yeah yeah yeah yeah but um well it's transactional
00:50:21
at that point isn't it they don't need to know care where I think were were you were
00:50:27
you a bit of a Manor and and and they don't worry about it D no no no don't
00:50:32
worry about it D no it's just when pre don't worry about it yeah yeah when I'm
00:50:35
no when I'm single bro so I was actually in a relationship during don't worry
00:50:39
about it and um when I'm single I just get get uh excited yeah and so when I
00:50:47
was actually single during after my breakup with the don't worry about it partner I was Kings for the first time
00:50:54
and I'd had money for the first time yeah so there was a lot of fun to be had
00:50:58
that I hadn't had I suppose it goes back to like what you were saying before
00:51:02
about you when don't worry about it came out how you didn't know who to trust or
00:51:05
whatever I suppose it's the same with with with women as well it's like are they just using me and if if so
00:51:12
I'm fine with that but that's what the relationship is yeah yeah I don't yeah
00:51:15
that's actually I don't think I ever looked at it that way because like you
00:51:18
said it was transactional it was always like ah [ __ ] it we'll go out on a cruise
00:51:22
or whatever it's all good um yeah yeah you're you're right it's kind
00:51:27
of transaction was such a yuck way to put it but it's the right way to put it
00:51:31
it's like we we know what we're doing you're getting something out of it
00:51:34
they're getting something out I'm say everyone wins yeah yeah so that that was
00:51:37
definitely it was a fun transactional period oh gosh well so so so with with Partners it's like I suppose you got to
00:51:48
be like super s of protective of your of your daughter like at what at what point
00:51:53
do you did you introduce partners to them I think what you said was cool actually like with us we that
00:51:59
understanding of like School drop offs and like um I've got to do this thing
00:52:04
with kid my my son's got soccer my daughter's got Nall like it's not you
00:52:09
don't have to explain it you know it's just like yeah got it cool I'll see you
00:52:12
later um where I think with someone who doesn't have a kid will be like School
00:52:16
drop off every day at 3:00 oh so I yeah you never have any time for me exactly exactly so um there is definitely a
00:52:23
benefit in that um parenting Styles comes up like we've talked about our parenting Styles we have different she
00:52:29
has a son have a daughter um so we have different ways of communicating you know
00:52:35
and um that's been challenging for us but it's it's it's all like it's all in
00:52:39
stride bro it's all actually like quite if you got the fundamentals communication anything's all good and
00:52:46
and what about what about your daughter um wanting to call anyone mom has that has that ever I know what you're talking
00:52:53
about yeah [ __ ] oh yeah she's she's had too many moms over the years oh man that's I heard you on
00:53:05
another podcast tell tell yeah yeah that's the uh see so yeah you want to retell it or no not really we don't have
00:53:12
to no no well like let's just say during the transactional phase of my life she
00:53:18
accidentally said hey you're my mom to someone after after she walked in and
00:53:24
you horizontally next okay um yeah I'm in the dog box now because I'm walking home I think you you
00:53:36
you seem to be um one one of these one of these people and I I can relate to some of these traits like you're feels
00:53:42
like you're always looking forward you're always looking at what's next
00:53:44
what's next what what's next but have you have you had like chance to like
00:53:48
pause and reflect about some of the accomplishments and some of the pinch myself moments and it was bro Co like I
00:53:54
said was the thing that did it like only by the grace of God that that would happen you know otherwise I would have
00:54:00
keept sprinting I'm just that way wir so Co kind of forced me to sit down look at
00:54:08
my life look at my family look at my finances look at everything and have an honest chat with myself um so yeah but
00:54:16
honestly if I didn't if Co didn't happen I probably would be in China right now
00:54:22
being a touring artist and having a whole different life to the world yeah yeah well could you go to China now
00:54:29
or you just not interested it's wasn't it was just there was a time yeah there
00:54:32
was a time you know a time for it rap wasn't really a thing in China well now
00:54:37
it's actually a lot popular but we were kind of in the precipice of it becoming
00:54:40
cool so um yeah I I don't I just think it's the timing probably wouldn't be
00:54:45
great now yeah there were some amazing things way that happened as a result of that like um you Financial reward and
00:54:50
whatever else aside like um opening for TLC did you open for d I no I got to meet Julie P you at the
00:54:58
edge I feel like I met her I met her at Warner and I think I met her at the edge
00:55:01
as well right she come to the edge okay yeah yeah yes she did yeah yeah yeah oh you just made it there like as a you you
00:55:07
just waiting outside with your phone for a selfie it was that time and then at Warner she was at Warner and Ed Sher um
00:55:14
was there as well yeah that's kind of the beauty of being with Warner like an
00:55:18
label sorry you get to see all these famous people yeah I so so what happened there so Warner's um sort of like smed
00:55:25
you or and and that they got you to sign and you've got your own thing now Archangel Archangel record Archangel big
00:55:31
fun so so you got out of your recording contract with Warners how come uh I think it was for me a matter
00:55:42
of I I can't say anything mean about them because they actually taught me the game and I
00:55:50
got huge huge love for Phil Jeremy everyone that was up there um you can be mean if you want that Mitch James was on
00:55:55
here and he shared on Sony pretty hard Mitch is a good s yeah yeah no no no I appreciate him and I I appreciate
00:56:03
you and um yeah and it's quite funny like um you you really do like like walk
00:56:10
the you walk the walk don't you like you talk about living with integrity and
00:56:13
then you you just never you never waver from that no man you're not [ __ ] on
00:56:18
anyone there's no need to you know people are [ __ ] on everyone bro the world sucks sometimes um yeah I don't
00:56:25
like to Aid in that but I will say I was a young a young upand cominging kid and I felt
00:56:34
like again you might think it's confidence but I did feel like now looking back I might have been just
00:56:38
ignorant that I was like I can do this I don't need you that was really the thing
00:56:44
talk to my manager I was like look I want to get out of this contract I think I want to do it myself I want to take
00:56:48
complete ownership um and my manager got in with them and we we got out the contract then I started our yeah so for
00:56:58
for the naive like what is the what is the pros and cons of like being an independent artist versus being on a
00:57:04
label that's that's a [ __ ] awesome from from like a perspective of someone
00:57:07
that's been in radio for many years it's like they have people called pluggers
00:57:10
that come in yes and their job is to basically speak to the radio they do that yeah I believe so yeah so they'll
00:57:16
they'll come in and they'll be you'll be like what's known as a priority artist
00:57:19
yeah yeah so they'll be like oh you know Warners will come and say they'll be
00:57:22
like oh new Ean song new DOA song and if you edit the King song and they'll they'll they'll be like a you know like
00:57:27
a squeaky wheel that gets the oil they'll push you hard I do remember that that I I wondered if that was still
00:57:33
thing now just because of Spotify but it probably is um yeah so during during the label days
00:57:42
you have everything taken care of I don't know if you've probably done this
00:57:45
all yourself for the most part right yeah so the label would do it I'll would
00:57:49
just be like I want two microphones this I want two cameras they'll be like gotcha and they would do it whereas
00:57:54
dependent you're the one [ __ ] hanging up the chain you're the one getting the
00:57:57
sign writer emailing so it's literally having a team that's really the benefit
00:58:04
um also the the downfall is you're paying that team so you're paying them
00:58:09
you know yeah and often you don't yeah I mean it's a trick for young artists
00:58:13
isn't it like you don't realize but it's like the advance that you get it's not
00:58:17
it's not a gift it's coming out of your potential future earnings for sure and
00:58:21
so that as well when I realized when I had successful six and a couple other solo songs um I
00:58:28
realized the work that goes into it but I also realized the revenue that comes from it um I almost like texed my money
00:58:35
I honestly just from that one move yeah wow my royalty checks changed they a lot
00:58:40
bigger my you everything changed like yeah was was it um was it a you know a blood bath at the time was it a nasty
00:58:47
split or was it no man no and that's why I say i' love to war it because yeah it
00:58:51
was kind of this thing where it was like well I'm going to stay here and be miserable you're going to hate me or we
00:58:56
can just end this and it was it was amicable I still talked to Phil who who's part of Warner and I got love for
00:59:01
him man he's man who's that Phil howling yeah yeah good dude they all they're all
00:59:05
nice people everyone's just doing their best and doing a job bu and and um so
00:59:10
did they have the rights to don't worry about it I think they still do now or it
00:59:14
might just be up now so I it should be back in my ownership right yeah yeah was was was that a tussle to get it back or
00:59:20
oh just contract in the contract yeah so now I could yeah re-release it with the
00:59:24
who knows might just hold it for a little bit and just like ah come back baby welcome home otherwise otherwise
00:59:30
you could have you could have let them have it and done like um King's version
00:59:33
like Taylor yeah yeah yeah true that reminds me so you what so that song don't worry about it what so um you
00:59:41
you played it to your dad when you first wrote it and your dad was like H the lyrics are a bit [ __ ] or something like
00:59:45
that no no no so we're in um we're in fakat and it was just a Christmas thing
00:59:52
and this the story that that is kind of the most common story and it it's the right story but there
00:59:58
was another part to I had I was sitting on the beat for months from I just love the beat I was like the beat sick cuz
01:00:05
you know the O as that that's the song in itself makes you feel a certain way
01:00:09
as soon as it starts yeah yeah there's a few songs like that like another one
01:00:12
that Springs to mind like for me personally music so subjective is um would be clocks from Coldplay as soon as
01:00:17
you hear that piano at the begin D D D D D just makes you feel a certain way your
01:00:21
your song has the exact same effect on MEC how that's another yeah sick yeah
01:00:26
the guitar ding ding ding ding yeah so that was it for me I was like the beat I'm sold um and then as I was writing
01:00:32
the lyrics uh we just had no cash I had no money at the time and it was kind of like a don't worry about it like my dad
01:00:40
was just like oh don't worry about it it's going to be cool and my daughter's
01:00:43
on the playground and run free boy runfree that's what I would have said to the young me was literally the lyric as
01:00:50
I'm looking at her on the playground um that's what started it um um yeah bro
01:00:56
and like I said you never know it's going to be you never know maybe there are people like maybe Michael Jackson
01:01:01
knew he was going to be a hit record guy but I I you just don't know like I still
01:01:05
release songs now that get a lot of love and I'll be like [ __ ] cool so that's the
01:01:09
one like you can never really know since then have you had like a had a thing where you write a song and
01:01:17
you're like is this going to be is this going to be another don't worry about it
01:01:21
ah right you mean like the um like almost like chasing chasing that game prob you know what I feel like I've
01:01:27
done it like I've done it enough times to not be scared to release what I want
01:01:33
now like uh six figers had massive success you you do which was another single um helped me out yeah help me out
01:01:41
some mess for yeah yeah so I've had some I've had that success enough times for
01:01:45
me to go like cool now what do I want to release like now I've done the commercial success route um as an artist
01:01:52
whatever I want to say and I think that's where where I've been at for that
01:01:54
album anyway this the most recent one yeah yeah and um oh there there's another really good song which um had a
01:02:00
little bit of radio play it's probably my favorite song for you like the rebound one rebound oh oh um with the
01:02:05
whistle I feel bad for your rebound temporary me temporary me yeah that's right that's a great how did you
01:02:11
not remember a couple a couple songs yeah how many you're quite a prolific songwriter right yeah bro over a
01:02:18
thousand man for sure wow yeah but that's in this span of how many years we've been doing long time yeah so so
01:02:25
yesterday when you couldn't come over and do the podcast because you were writing do you is it because you're like
01:02:30
I've got something I need to I need to put pin to paper or do you like have no
01:02:34
tomorrow at 10:00 to midday I'm writing and you just sit down with a blank what
01:02:38
are youing it's a it's just in and out yeah yeah it's like bro like it's a bad thing actually
01:02:46
I think so like when inspiration hits I'll kind of just hit it like on like straight away and sometimes that will
01:02:52
take me out of being a dad you know like I'll have a commitment that I'm like
01:02:57
[ __ ] and I'll get stressed and feel things so it's like that's like an ADHD
01:03:02
thing Hy yeah I wonder if it is I wonder if like yeah my mom was like yeah you you were diagnosed and I was like [ __ ] I
01:03:10
don't know because the way I understand ad ADH is you can't focus but then I can
01:03:16
very I can hyper Focus yeah well that's a that's the confusing thing about it I
01:03:20
I reckon I've got it as well but these things were never diagnosed when I was
01:03:23
when I was a um but yeah you find it hard to focus but then you can you can hyperfixate on
01:03:28
something when you hyper fixate on something apparently it's you're like a
01:03:31
dog with aw toy and you just want to get it done and you lose hours that's another form of yeah yeah it's a maybe I
01:03:39
got it bro [ __ ] I know what does it matter it doesn't matter oh you so so what what were the original lyrics that
01:03:46
you d challenge you on I wasn't that he CH it was just that I was writing it in
01:03:49
here he just he came up with the he was just like oh don't like don't worry
01:03:52
about it it was literally the lyric that stuck like don't worry about that we didn't
01:03:56
have money don't worry about that everything's going to be okay and that
01:03:59
was the thought that stuck with me right but I was I was writing just just writing yeah and how
01:04:06
did how did you sort of meend your relationship with your dad it was it was quite badly fra today it was bad I feel
01:04:12
like you you were quite like burned or scarred from the experience for sure yeah I think I think any young boy is
01:04:18
you know uh who doesn't have a a male role model um we how did we start that I was still doing counseling and I
01:04:31
did a course called have you heard of landmark bro landmark forum no I don't
01:04:37
think I have okay so it's like a communication course or like a tools of course and
01:04:43
um that really helped me heal a lot of that relationship like just that course um the course kind of
01:04:53
forces you to to to do things that have always been on your mind a good example is like if I
01:04:59
ask you is there someone in your life right now that you you need to have a conversation with and if whoever the
01:05:03
person is that just came to mind call them so that's kind of what the C oh my
01:05:07
god there so many people yeah and so that that's what the course does it's
01:05:10
like gives you a list and it's like call them all and say exactly what that thing
01:05:14
is like boom boom boom so I call my dad in the course I'm like I [ __ ] hate
01:05:18
you you know you you were never there blah blah blah blah blah and and then I call my mom and I'm like
01:05:24
don't hurt me please don't beat me up but I don't like you either you
01:05:29
know is that kind of I know you're kind of joking but is that sort of like the
01:05:32
tone of the convers a bit of that you know of course you're always going to be
01:05:35
especially when you're kind of I was 15 around then yeah yeah supposed you had a
01:05:39
lot of stuff to get out for sure and so yeah so I called my dad and I'm like you
01:05:43
know you were never there and all these things and then he just replied like it's all good I love you and so it was
01:05:51
gone like kind of in that phone call like obviously there was a lot more to heal but that
01:05:56
initial bridge that we couldn't cross for so long was was obliterated yeah and
01:06:01
from there just cuz he sort of like neutralized it he didn't come back and say well [ __ ] you you don't know this
01:06:05
[ __ ] story your mom didn't let me do this it wasn't competitive it was very
01:06:09
like understanding it was a it was a man listening to a kid crying yeah it wasn't
01:06:16
like a dad telling a son it was just like a man listening to a kid and and that was really the the starting point
01:06:22
to yeah SH now and and You' got a great relationship with both your parents now
01:06:27
yeah I love them both man yeah very grateful man do you know how hard it is to be a parent bro it sucks I
01:06:34
don't yeah yeah no I kind of do like when joj and uh myself were together we
01:06:39
had like family adoption yes um one of her nephews came to live with us from the age of like four years and 11 months
01:06:44
I thought you had kids yeah no I know you have kids I had a tumor I've been unable to have kids oh [ __ ] [ __ ]
01:06:52
weird it's quite it's quite funny so I had this I had this tumor which was um
01:06:57
diagnosed and then taken out probably in my early 30s I guess and it was just around about the time that JJ and I we'
01:07:02
married a couple of years and we were starting to have a family like you start to wait for everything to be perfect
01:07:07
like and then um the way it worked out for you like you're being like a teenage
01:07:11
Dad it's probably there's never the perfect time no no that wasn't the
01:07:16
perfect time I just you know that's not the one yeah I don't know if you know I
01:07:21
I think of people I almost get slightly envious of like parents who have done it
01:07:27
you know the way that you you and JJ were going to do it like thought and and carefully thought out um my mind was
01:07:33
literally like a a thing in a park you know and I I I almost don't like that um
01:07:39
because my daughter's legacy is so much bigger than that and yeah it's like a
01:07:45
damn I wish I took more thought into it you know sometimes I wish I was a [ __ ] virgin bro honestly I'm like man
01:07:50
the amount of people I've been with that have like we' given each other energy
01:07:53
and gross like I feel like how many what's your number you nothing orgon one
01:08:00
just the one on the like your song six figers yeah oh no I'm definitely walking out
01:08:08
yeah all right this is a a bit umit maybe a bit sort of woo woo but like yeah do you think when you've when
01:08:14
you've slept with someone you like you give like party your soul now I do bro
01:08:18
do you yeah I think back in the day of course not I was just flanging everywhere but now it's like and even
01:08:24
before now it's important bro like let's say I come into your house right and I I
01:08:30
just have a shitty day and I'm [ __ ] energy up as soon as I leave it stays it
01:08:34
lingers I believe that you know and you might have a bad attitude and then the next person you interact with you [ __ ]
01:08:41
them off and I believe that and so if you're doing something as intimate as engaging and [ __ ]
01:08:49
six surely that leaves something bro like that can't just be like sweet art TI next week like there's something that
01:08:55
we've left in that space and I I just don't like that I was so oblivious to
01:09:00
who that was growing up yeah but I think I think that's that's good though way if
01:09:05
you can grow if like if you get to your mid-30s and you don't have any regrets
01:09:10
then I think that's a little bit sad yeah um as long as as long as as long as
01:09:13
you do stuff and you learn oh for sure oh yeah sorry yeah no yeah for sure yeah I guess I said that in a negative way I
01:09:18
mean no no no no you didn't said in a negative way I'm glad I'm glad I've done
01:09:22
it for sure like I I the the people that I met are beautiful as well you know um
01:09:26
but yeah that is that's it's I don't know bro just sex is [ __ ] weird and well and is it something that
01:09:36
you've thought more about I mean you're you're you're very content in a
01:09:39
long-term relationship at the moment but also I've always been bro having always
01:09:43
been I've always wanted long-term relationships yeah like I'm always in them but but but are you has your like
01:09:48
opinion or thoughts on sex changed like as your daughter gets older and older and you're like that's a probably a big
01:09:53
part of it too I think that's probably the main part of it you're freaking out
01:09:56
right now like oh my God yeah and like and yeah bro like yeah exactly I I think as I mature you know I realize these
01:10:04
things and yeah yeah how yeah how are you going to how are you going to navigate that like are you going to be
01:10:09
protective or you just going to be like a good communicator and conversationalist and yeah I is the
01:10:15
angry the angry Kingdom going to come back it's it's already come up you know
01:10:19
to a degree like she's had um more like she's 12 13 so she's said I've got a
01:10:24
boyfriend and like they're kind of young in thing and I I have for the most part
01:10:30
not been what I thought I'd be which was like this angry dad with a shotgun kind
01:10:35
of thingy yeah if anything I'm just like oh how's that Bob like I'm like just
01:10:40
encouragement encouraging her to be happy um so yeah I mean there's nothing Sinister happening yet I think maybe at
01:10:47
18 when some guy takes advantage of it then maybe I'll lose it but um for now
01:10:52
it's it's love Andy happy and light and exciting yeah yeah I can't imagine what
01:10:57
that'll be like like when like if someone breaks her heart like just as as a dead because it's like I mean you
01:11:05
there's Proby part of you that thinks well I'll go and I'll go and smash him
01:11:08
but the reality is you won't like you just want to fix your broken daughter for sure for sure I even think that
01:11:14
traditionally like if you think about marriage that that whole ideas doesn't
01:11:18
seem that that prominent today like I feel like marriage we what was the stats it was like
01:11:24
it's a decline in marriages oh I heard that the other day yeah but like um 40
01:11:27
years ago or something by the time a woman was um 25 over 50% of the population was married and now it's [ __ ]
01:11:33
off that's none bro yeah and that's where she's growing up where I've I've
01:11:37
kind of always been traditional like I I like the the role of like male female marriage kind of thing so my daughter's
01:11:45
in just a whole new environment so I I wonder polyg polygamy polygamy like that's where you can have more than like
01:11:54
four Partners or some [ __ ] and I'm like man what if she turns into a polygamy
01:11:58
I'm like oh [ __ ] I don't even know how to doal with that Jesus and do you
01:12:03
um do you want to get married at some point yourself I bro I would I think I think it's what we got to do
01:12:10
right to vote how do you but how do you know when how do you know when when it's
01:12:15
the right one man I don't think you can is it just a case of doing it and then just making
01:12:21
it the right one like doing it and then making it yeah [ __ ] I probably sound like a old
01:12:27
dude but like BR I've read so many books on like woman and and trying to be not so many
01:12:35
books I've read books on on relationships and and it is kind of a matter of picking someone and just choosing them
01:12:44
um as opposed to finding the perfect one that that just does it's a myth isn't it
01:12:48
it's a unicorn yeah BR you change every 3 years I think it's three four years is
01:12:51
like a Cadian bro I'm getting too [ __ ] technical but every couple years you change your interest like you run
01:12:57
now and you've been running forever but there'll be a year where you have a
01:13:01
different interest and then you're a different person from that interest you
01:13:04
just your mind changes yeah I'd agree with that I haven't I hadn't thought
01:13:07
about it from a psychical perspective like the amount of time or years but yeah you're you're changing and evolving
01:13:12
all the time for sure um yeah or you're hitting the gym you know when you know
01:13:17
when you hit the gym and you have a good stint of it and you go for like six months heart out and then there's a
01:13:20
stint where you eat [ __ ] for six months yeah totally different person oh yes speaking of eating eating eating [ __ ]
01:13:27
eating [ __ ] I your album oh no no no no no your music is unquestionable but um I
01:13:34
don't know if you want to get into this or not CU it's it's very personal but
01:13:37
yeah yeah what happened with um quite big for a while I don't worry about it yeah yeah I put on she my heav
01:13:44
was like 189 kgs yeah big bro what are you now uh [ __ ] I don't know 120 140 130 yeah sh
01:13:53
what what what happened was it a psychological psychological eating or I think kind of what we're talking about
01:13:58
the isolation yeah um when you hit this like huge strike of Fame early or not early but quite
01:14:07
fast do you have to like release the stress somehow and so for me it was eating I just would eat um also
01:14:14
celebrating which was kind of funny cuz in our culture M you celebrate um you eat when you celebrate you eat when
01:14:20
you're at a tongy you eat all the time like it's kind of this is what you do
01:14:24
you're eating a lot and so you know I'm winning these Awards so I'll celebrate I
01:14:29
open for TLC I celebrate and and then when I'm feeling low I I eat and it's
01:14:33
just this vicious cycle of [ __ ] eating bro and um yeah it got to the point where was just too big I was too
01:14:39
big I was struggling to bend and do things and uh so I actually got a um the operation the um oh like a gestri sleeve
01:14:48
or something gestri bypass sleeve yeah sleeve the one where it's cut in half
01:14:52
you you so so what do they what do they do they they make your stomach smaller yeah there's three different versions of
01:14:58
it this I'm I always confused there's like a sleeve where it's like they cut
01:15:02
half of your stomach off there's a bypass where they remove your stomach and there's another one where they rub a
01:15:07
tire rubber band to it um so I'm pretty sure I got the sleeve and essentially it's half your
01:15:15
stomach so you can't eat as much you so you just have like a little snack and
01:15:18
you feel full kind of or the alternative is what I was doing for a long time time
01:15:23
still kind of struggle with today is you purge uh you vomit because it's it's too
01:15:28
big unreal yeah so my my mind will still be like you're hungry because of the the
01:15:34
way I am and my stomach's like you can't eat so then that message to my brain to
01:15:39
my stomach sometimes doesn't match and I I'll end up having a vomit yeah did you
01:15:44
have to pay for that or was that uh yeah yeah I pay for that price how much like
01:15:48
20 20 yeah 23 20 yeah was it was that a big decision or sort of a no-brainer it was a no-brainer for me because I
01:15:55
couldn't [ __ ] bend like I couldn't do [ __ ] I was like this sucks and going to
01:15:59
the gym was was definitely a viable option but it was also I had money at the time and there
01:16:05
was an opportunity and I was like see seiz the day you know and get it done yeah no no regrets about it no bro my my
01:16:14
only my only regret is that I didn't get the mental sorted because like I say the
01:16:18
purging stuff is is difficult oh so have have you still got like a complex relationship with food yeah yeah yeah
01:16:24
yeah yeah still now um what is it what what's your weakness is it like K fried
01:16:28
or [ __ ] no it's actually like bro I love Asian food e Asian food Japanese food is
01:16:34
actually my favorite food so it's handy that she's Japanese always eating out ah that was
01:16:43
stupid and a snacker a violent snacker so when I'm in the studio I I I'll have something hand
01:16:52
like Packa chips or right right yeah well I mean what other viic did you ever lean on like alcohol or drugs no bro no
01:16:59
no never been much of a party dude no like I've had fun for sure but like no
01:17:04
it was always food and punishing myself with like no sleep so like I'd work I'd
01:17:11
work like till late hours of sometimes two days straight I'd work yeah that's have you seen the um aichi
01:17:20
doco no yeah it's it's on I mean it's sad demise of a V and the end he took
01:17:26
his own life but um same same sort of thing like he's just on his computer working and it has people around him are
01:17:32
bringing him forward and he's just he's just head down yeah there's some some
01:17:36
parallels there for sure that's that's got to be an ADHD thing yeah [ __ ] I
01:17:41
fixating okay um well have I'll take it have you got any um therapy about the
01:17:47
food or anything or have you talked to anyone about it where's yeah like well
01:17:50
during the during the operation you have to eat jelly bro it's kind of like this jelly
01:17:57
[ __ ] that's [ __ ] horrible um and during that time you kind of have to manage your food because you actually
01:18:04
don't you can't Purge it because it's like your vitamins and minerals like
01:18:07
everything um in these small packets so um I got good at one point and then I went
01:18:15
through an adjusting period and then slowly it just started to to get worse again um yeah so
01:18:24
yeah I I don't know if I've done the work but I definitely I know what it
01:18:27
takes to do it the right way um and it's a matter of doing that God life's exhausting hey there's
01:18:33
always something to work on I love it bro do yeah for sure man yeah has your mental health meanly you're in a good
01:18:40
spot good bro yeah has it always been I yeah yeah I want to say yeah I think I have a lot of tools from all the
01:18:48
from all the um all the angry management all the therapy uh I think the hardest time was
01:18:54
Co but I think that was everyone like it was just kind of like a big thing for everyone you you're probably in a better
01:19:00
position the most because of all that work you've done I mean the like the teens suicide rates in New Zealand are
01:19:05
like just alarmingly high and I think it's because people get angry and frustrated they don't know how to
01:19:09
communicate um yes if if if you weren't forced to do all that work during those
01:19:14
years I mean who knows who knows where you'd be or even if you'd be today bro I
01:19:18
was going to say it's like a catch 22 I talk about it heaps like you know there's like 8 hours of sleep there's
01:19:23
all these rules to have this perfect kind of life and it's like bro if I didn't punish myself and stay up two
01:19:29
nights in a row I wouldn't be here so there's a level of like responsible talk
01:19:34
to your friends and then there's a level of shut the [ __ ] up and get busy like
01:19:39
it's it's a double thing yeah you can't have too much like oh today I had a
01:19:43
yogurt and like you can't be too that and you can't be too aichi you have to
01:19:47
kind of find the balance find that sort of happy medium yeah yeah and so what about the traitors so the trailers is a
01:19:53
a TV show uh it was on um early in 2023 can ask yeah grab Bott water out of the out of the
01:20:03
fridge SP like one of these one of these bottles um you see on the on the the Traders which is the reality TV show
01:20:09
hosted by Paul Henry um given the stage you're at in your your life now where
01:20:13
you're living with Integrity um why did you go on a a show like that oh like the Traders yeah why yeah like
01:20:21
it's it's basically all about lying a who who's got the best poker face
01:20:26
really bro I I actually got so I got pitched at um I want to say by Warner actually it was like a Warner TV show
01:20:35
and the concept was so cool I've been I've been pitched for like celebrity Tre
01:20:39
Island and all those other ones I've just turned them down I don't know like
01:20:42
do you it's all good do what you want to do but for me I just felt like I I didn't want to be on those shows this
01:20:48
one was the first one I was like this is interesting like what a cool concert um and that's a that's what got me on it
01:20:55
and um I did it and I kind of it was hard bro it was very hard thinking it's
01:20:59
hard to sit there knowing people are lying to you you got people like Brook Smith who's talking 100 miles an hour
01:21:05
and then you got like Colin Colin who's like always Smokey looking you and like all these personalities so
01:21:13
it's um Colin loves that sort of stuff loves the game actually actually feel
01:21:18
like we became friends on the show yeah yeah yeah what what are your Recollections of that so tune up when do
01:21:24
you find out who the other contestants are on the day yeah right yeah yeah so we you you would have known of most
01:21:30
people I guess yeah yeah like um Mike Peru i' seen him I've seen everybody
01:21:35
around but I I didn't know them um so yeah now we're locked in this [ __ ]
01:21:39
cabin and we got to know each other so it was cool but again I'm getting to know a version of them that's highly
01:21:45
paranoid you know I'm not I'm not getting to know them um but like like we
01:21:49
we're still we we all talk now we all got a group chat and we all chat and talk [ __ ] to yeah well I mean yeah there
01:21:54
there's no animosity with you got to separate like a reality TV show to real
01:21:59
life you never know like like some of the stuff that was said like it felt real you know like there was a point
01:22:05
where I got real heated and they took it out of the edit which is probably the right thing to do but I was like GNA I
01:22:11
was angry man like properly angry and um yeah so it was real it was real there was a lot of emotions but we all came
01:22:20
out the other end happy I think yeah so yeah what other shows have you been asking on Celebrity Treasure Island
01:22:25
Dancing with the Stars Dancing with the Stars twice I've been ask that why um
01:22:28
why did you say no to that like celebrity trasure on I can understand because it can it can portray they can
01:22:33
portray you in a negative way or I think it was just the shows I was like I don't
01:22:37
want to do the shows CU tra is it's the first time it's been done where I feel
01:22:40
like I would have been like like the ninth version of any of those other shows so I was like I don't want to do
01:22:46
that um Dancing with the Stars also as well I like um I can't dance for [ __ ] so
01:22:50
I'm just like why do you guys want me I was like and I was big when they first
01:22:54
asked me I was like bro who's going to lift me up no one's Lifting me on the Tango
01:23:03
bro yeah yeah oh that's fun any um any regrets anything that you you've said
01:23:09
yes to or no to that you're like [ __ ] why did I do that nah no I mean there
01:23:14
was a time where I felt alienated with the um the E New Zealand video but to be honest now hey how do you mean uh the E
01:23:21
New Zealand video when it when it first came out yeah it's funny cuz sh was actually a flight attendant so she had
01:23:27
to watch that video over and over again and when we finally called up she was like yeah so you know how I [ __ ] hate
01:23:33
that video the safety video I'm have to re I forgot all about that I'm going to have
01:23:38
to rewatch it so so you rapping it yeah yeah did you write the rap or I wrote yeah we we all wrote a version of it
01:23:45
yeah what is it can you remember the lyrics oh no even if I did I'm not [ __ ] doing what were you raing like
01:23:52
like a safety thing like the put your Bel on and Stow your yeah so your bags on the high I can't
01:24:02
even remember the rules yeah why um why why do you regret that oh it's not that
01:24:07
I regret it was just that during that time it was um it was considered one of the worst like it got pulled down the
01:24:13
fastest that any other a new C video had been taken down oh because it was like unpopular or annoying or like 7 minutes
01:24:20
long I think it was like Ultra long right um there was a lot of things about it people didn't enjoy so it came down
01:24:26
quick but um yeah so there was a moment we went we going to Homegrown in Wellington and all of the artists are on
01:24:32
the plane and they all kind of turn around and look at me and they're like you [ __ ] dick and I was like oh no so
01:24:39
oh were they looking at you like your [ __ ] dick or there probably there's probably like a little bit of Envy there
01:24:45
a lot of them were like good on you for getting getting the bag on you for getting your work done but a lot of them
01:24:50
were looking at you like [ __ ] so um um you can't tell me that that anyone else
01:24:55
given the same opportunity would turn it down oh maybe they would I don't know I
01:24:58
I again I didn't have management so I I was doing that deal by myself bro just
01:25:02
like a Hy dude pulling up in this meeting with all these executive people and I'm like I want this amount of money
01:25:09
and they were like oh should we talk to your team I'm like I am the team like
01:25:13
you know so for me it was and that way it was like the coolest thing I've ever
01:25:18
done that's why I can't really I don't regret that I did it is it still on YouTube no no no from
01:25:26
what I hear it's totally all right thanks so much the the the lights are still on so
01:25:39
you have to remain seated so so your your relationship so we we we did you were you a fan of his music prior to
01:25:46
meeting how did you guys make you didn't really know my oh yeah I'm like&
01:25:57
yeah so she really just like knew you for for don't worry about it in the safety video Yeah
01:26:03
horrible I didn't even know oh really oh you just knew that you hated it and
01:26:11
then you found out yeah yeah how how did you guys meet uh yes it was during the co co pandemic
01:26:18
I'd seen her on Flavor the radio station um tled my fancy I guess oh you present on
01:26:26
Flavor it was like a Sunday show right culture sep right yeah yeah yeah cool when when you
01:26:38
came into interviews with the edge you never cracked on to me it's the look The Look wasn't there for me though
01:26:46
oh that's cool and um so so what's next so you got this new album out dead son
01:26:51
your fifth album last what how can you say it's your last rap album uh when I
01:26:54
say I mean last rap project is in that took two years to write and it was really deep and there's
01:27:01
probably I want to say 40 songs on The Cutting Room floor that didn't make the
01:27:05
album so just to give you perspective of how long I I wrote it and um it was texting bro it was like really texting
01:27:13
to go back to my childhood and like remember like all this pain and try to write from it and on top of that I have
01:27:23
a new found relationship with God um quite recently and I I want to be able to bring light and positivity to my
01:27:31
music as opposed to not that it's negative just like I felt like I was in a negative space
01:27:36
writing it so um the the music from now on not that rap is negative either I shouldn't say that it's just the art
01:27:42
form of that for me was was hard hard to navigate um so the music that I'm doing now is just stuff
01:27:50
that makes you you can put put it on and listen to it with your family and like you just feel good just feel good music
01:27:56
um and put a bit of light in the world that is currently a very dark place yeah yeah I I agree I agree like if yeah if
01:28:05
you can make someone's Journey a bit easier yeah why the [ __ ] not for sure
01:28:09
and what was the what was the journey with God how did how did that come about were you were you ra raised religious no
01:28:15
no no I I I've always believed in a higher purpose would it be I used to call it the
01:28:24
Universe um but quite recently yeah I um I needed something to help make sense of
01:28:41
everything yeah um again so in terms of mental health I've never been that's
01:28:46
actually been fine for me but it was just something my daughter's at an age now where she can look after herself she
01:28:52
is you know talking to me normally she's not a baby anymore she's she's growing
01:28:56
and so I'm like what's my purpose now I've raised this beautiful young girl
01:29:01
and she's cool and we're financially in a cool place um what's next and so the relationship
01:29:08
with God is really something to keep my head firmly on my shoulders instead of like oh now I
01:29:17
want to go do something else or now I want to do something else just stay focused and stay being a great father be
01:29:22
a great partner be be a great man you how does that start as an adult like I can understand if you get into a
01:29:28
relationship and your partner's religious and you're like oh I might tag
01:29:30
along and see this or you got some friends yeah but do you do you you Google you know what is the church for
01:29:36
me or I see how did it actually come come to my you feel like I need something else in my life but then like
01:29:42
no no no so it was it was the relationship needed strengthening that's a bit we put yeah I knew I've always
01:29:47
believed in a God Like I said and it was just to strengthen that bond with something
01:29:52
uh that I believe is is um important you feel confident that you know we talked before about um you human beings like
01:30:00
changing and evolving every so often do you feel confident at this stage that this is going to be you like locked in
01:30:06
for you for life yeah bro yeah and like yeah I think it always has been um as I said my interest has always been there
01:30:14
um I'm not massive Drinker I'm not massive there's not too many challenges
01:30:19
I mean apart from Ramadan that I can see that changes my life and getting up at Early times to pray like it's a pretty
01:30:26
small price to pay for for love continuously yeah and and what about you like do you love yourself yeah yeah yeah
01:30:36
probably too much yeah probably too much no it's instilled in me now but I can say I I
01:30:45
struggled with that yeah but yeah bro I love myself I love I you can't love somebody properly until you love love
01:30:52
this stuff yeah yeah I I believe that this has been a hell of a chat [ __ ] yeah
01:30:56
it's it's it's quite cool and this is one thing I'm loving about doing this
01:30:59
podcast it's like I don't know how many times we've we've um interviewed before
01:31:03
like maybe 10 times never deep no no no each time it's um yeah that's like we
01:31:09
talked about some sexual relationships being transactional like a I feel like a radio interview is sort of transactional
01:31:14
it's like it's a five minute chat yeah we ask you some goofy questions you give
01:31:18
us short answers um but you don't get to like scratch beneath the Surf and you
01:31:22
know there's one one thing I remember with you at the edge is you were always
01:31:26
very nice to me bro you're always really nice to me and I even remember when you
01:31:29
left radio and we caught up kind of about just social socially and you always you always had the time of day
01:31:35
for me so I appreciate that bro yeah oh likewise likewise yeah I mean when I read that article about you earlier this
01:31:40
year and you talked about living with more Integrity it was a bit of a head scratcher for me because I thought oh
01:31:45
the the the the kingdom that I've got to know which is only very briefly over the
01:31:49
years um was always like a like a standup guy very obliging that's why I asked if you had a problem saying no to
01:31:56
things we'd ask you to come in and judge some stupid [ __ ] parody song contest
01:32:01
or whatever and you'd come was really good at you well bro I love that stuff
01:32:05
like that was a that was one thing that never fit me with the rap thing like there's an element of really coolness to
01:32:12
to hip-hop and I'm a dad first so like I'm going to be a clown to my daughter
01:32:19
on the swing and like I'm going to be the goofy first so hip-hop was always secondary to that so when I do a Jon and
01:32:25
Ben skit or something I did used to feel like hip-hop would be like that's corny
01:32:30
bro and i' be like bro my daughter means more to me than all you [ __ ] and that was what
01:32:36
the vibe was I love that geez your mom must be really proud of the son she's
01:32:41
raised I hope so yeah has she said I don't think yeah I think no I think she
01:32:46
said but I also don't she's a woman who I don't think she needs to say it it
01:32:51
comes out in just you know what I mean yeah actions rather than words yeah for sure yeah yeah and by by saying that I'm
01:32:57
I'm I'm meaning nothing about the music at all yeah yeah absolutely nothing
01:33:02
about the music or the success or any of the trappings that have come as a result
01:33:05
of that I'm just of the the boy that she's raised yeah I hope so man yeah
01:33:10
that's cool hey thank you so much for coming around and being on the podcast
01:33:12
man epic man thanks for having me love your work and you as a person thanks oh

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Episode Highlights

  • The Journey to Music Success
    The artist reflects on his long path to success in music, revealing struggles and triumphs.
    “I need to do music, you know?”
    @ 04m 45s
    December 17, 2023
  • The Role of Therapy
    The artist shares his experiences with therapy from a young age and its impact on his life.
    “I was diagnosed by the school person...”
    @ 10m 10s
    December 17, 2023
  • The Power of No
    Learning to say no is a crucial lesson in balancing personal and professional life.
    “The power of no is actually a lot stronger than yes.”
    @ 19m 44s
    December 17, 2023
  • Finding Integrity
    The speaker discusses his journey towards living with integrity in his personal and professional life.
    “I’m done with that; I’m going to just be who I am.”
    @ 27m 42s
    December 17, 2023
  • Fame's Impact on Family
    The speaker shares a moment that made him reconsider sharing his daughter publicly.
    “I was very, very nervous to have her out and about.”
    @ 33m 45s
    December 17, 2023
  • The Weight of Sudden Fame
    Navigating newfound fame can be isolating, even when surrounded by people.
    “I felt alone in a time where I was surrounded by people.”
    @ 39m 54s
    December 17, 2023
  • The Impact of Co on Life Choices
    A pivotal moment that forced reflection on life and career choices.
    “If Co didn't happen, I probably would be in China right now.”
    @ 54m 18s
    December 17, 2023
  • Breaking Free from Contracts
    He discusses his decision to leave Warner and pursue independence.
    “I want to take complete ownership.”
    @ 56m 48s
    December 17, 2023
  • Navigating Parenthood
    He reflects on the challenges and joys of being a parent.
    “It’s hard to be a parent, bro.”
    @ 01h 06m 30s
    December 17, 2023
  • Food and Mental Health Struggles
    Exploring the relationship with food and the impact of fame on mental health, including the challenges of purging.
    “It’s just this vicious cycle of eating, bro.”
    @ 01h 14m 35s
    December 17, 2023
  • Finding Purpose Through Faith
    A conversation about the newfound relationship with God and its impact on personal purpose and mental health.
    “I needed something to help make sense of everything.”
    @ 01h 28m 41s
    December 17, 2023
  • Gratitude for Friendship
    Expressing appreciation for past support and friendship.
    “You were always really nice to me, bro.”
    @ 01h 31m 26s
    December 17, 2023

Episode Quotes

  • I feel like I did manifest this, didn’t you?
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster
  • I was doing stupid [ __ ] for sure when I was young.
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster
  • I remember not being sure who to trust.
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster
  • I probably would be in China right now.
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster
  • You change every 3 years, it's a myth to find the perfect one.
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster
  • You can't love somebody properly until you love yourself.
    Kings on ‘Don’t Worry Bout' It', Fatherhood, Weight Loss & Air NZ Safety Video Disaster

Key Moments

  • Navigating Music Production01:54
  • Parenting Challenges25:15
  • Young Fatherhood28:44
  • Sudden Fame39:54
  • Independence56:48
  • Family Healing1:05:51
  • Reality TV Experience1:20:21
  • Integrity Discussion1:31:40

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