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Why does it matter to improve my memory?
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And in what way does improving my memory
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help me to connect with other people?
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So, we've gotten to the point where we
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don't need our memory, right? A lot of
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people don't know how to drive to a
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place, a city next door. They literally
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with if GPS went out, good luck, right?
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You don't know anyone's phone numbers.
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How many people's phone numbers do you
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have memorized?
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Mhm.
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Few and far between.
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One.
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Exactly. I think memory is a superpower
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because no one expects you to have it
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anymore. Any stage of life you are,
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you're going to meet new people at some
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point soon. You meet them, you shake
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their hand, you say hello, you just
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forgot their name. Literally, they just
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said it to you, and you forgot it. How
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many times this occurred to you? I'm
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guessing numerous. And now you can't
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enjoy that conversation because all you
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do is feel dread. Listen, repeat, reply.
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Listen, repeat, reply. So easy. The
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first step sounds silly. It's comical.
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Why am I even saying this? The first
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step is what 95% of us do wrong. We
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don't actually listen.
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When you hear that person's name, it's
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not a memory issue. You never even knew
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the name to begin with because right
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when you walked up to them, you were
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thinking of what you were going to say
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back to them in most instances. So, at
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that moment, the number one thing to do
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is actually listen. Quiet your mind. So
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simple, so easy, but that's we screw up.
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Right when I walk up to you, I make sure
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that I've heard your name because I
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instantly repeat it twice. Stephen, is
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it Steve or Steven? I want to make sure.
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I've just said your name three times
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already. your chance of forgetting it
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have gone down dramatically. The last
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one is reply, which is use one of the
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three following tactics. One, you could
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learn how to spell it. You have a name
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that can be spelled. So, I is it Steven
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with a V or a PH? If it's not a name
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like that, if it's, you know, Jacob,
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you're not going to spell that. I'm
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going to say to you, uh uh I might
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comment. I go, Jacob, I love that shirt.
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Where'd you get that from? The V-necks.
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Jacob, really sharp. So, now I've
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created a visual hook. You're Jacob with
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the V-neck shirt. Now, I remember you.
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Third one is is if you want you can do
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something that's a connector to someone
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else you know. So if I know a Stephen
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it's so funny you know my sister's
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dating a guy named Stephen. Small world.
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So you've really quickly connected it.
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That happens in 5 seconds what I just
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said. Everyone likes a compliment.
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Everyone likes a hook. You will not
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forget that person's name for the rest
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of the party. I promise you. And this
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works on people of all ages. It's not a
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memory issue. If you can remember your
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best friend's name, you can remember the
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name of somebody you met at a party
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after five seconds if you practice and
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do exactly what I just said.
