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like, Mhm. Yeah. Yeah. Uh-huh. Right. Go ahead. And you go, I don't want this.
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You let go because it's like, this isn't real connection. This string is going to
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represent the connection between the two of us. I'm going to ask questions throughout this. Don't think about how
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what the right answer is. Just go with what your gut instinct of how it feels. Stephen, how's it going, man?
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>> It's going good. Yeah. >> Yeah. What was something that frustrated
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you yesterday? >> My haircut didn't go to plan. >> Tell me about it.
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>> It's just not It's not good. I don't like it. >> Do you find that some of the the biggest
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struggles you had yesterday was mostly with business or personal or tell me something with business?
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>> Um struggles with business yesterday. >> Yeah. >> Oh, go ahead.
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>> Okay. So, you're on your phone now. >> And what did you feel in the line?
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>> I felt like the tightness went it went loose. >> Yeah. It went slack. All right. But
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that's the physical. What was emotionally? How did that feel? >> It felt disrespectful.
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>> Yeah. Now, let's put it taught again. And I'm talking to you and I say, "So,
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what's what are you looking forward to this weekend?" >> I'm looking forward to
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>> No, go ahead. And this is me just turn. It's still tight. Don't worry. It's I
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still am connected to you. No. Don't worry about it. I'm I'm right here. Go
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ahead. Yeah. Exactly. You see how all of a sudden you wanted to let go now. >> Yeah. Yeah.
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>> Somebody gets on theirs and you don't want to look awkward or odd. So, what
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you you get out yours and next thing you know, both of you are on your phones at
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dinner. We were supposed to be communicating with each other and you're just staring at your phone. Let's say
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you and I were having lunch and I'm talking like this to you and I put my phone right here. Do you feel a
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difference? >> Yeah, I do. Yeah. >> Do you feel I'm more connected or less
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connected? >> Less connected. >> Yeah. And if I >> am priorities, not the priority.
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>> Do you feel any different if I flip it over? >> Yes, I do. >> And my face is it's it's down.
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>> Yes, I do. It's a signal >> of >> that you think this is more important
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and you don't want to be distracted. Imagine what would you feel like if you
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just said, "Hey, where's your phone?" You said, "Oh, I just left it in the
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car. I just want to sit with you." >> Yeah. It's incredible. >> Does anybody do that?
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>> No. >> No. Nobody does that. But if I have it here, even if I put it face down on the
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table and I'm talking to you, I'm at least still having my world, my business, my stress, my chaos. It's my
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it's my pacifier. It's still there in the conversation with us. So, even if I
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put it down or I put it between my legs or I put it in my pocket, which I think is much better of not letting it come
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out at all, what's the strength of the connection? Because we've all been that
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person like we just showed with the string where they get out their phone while you're talking and they're like,
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"Mhm, yeah, yeah. Uh-huh." Right. Go ahead. And you go, "I don't want this."
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You let go because it's like, "This isn't real connection." So, if you want
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to be a better communicator, you have to understand the definition of true connection. It's keeping it taught.