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You will not find the perfect person because you're not perfect. A lot of people will be listening now and they're
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thinking, you know what, my partner isn't all that supportive and think their partner is actually against
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[music] their ambition. What do you say to those people? Figure out what you want. We have to make trades. Arthur
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Brooks has this just this amazing visual example that I love, which is imagine two scenarios. One of them is that you
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drive your brand new Ferrari to a three-star Michelin restaurant and you have the corner corner booth eating the
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best food in the world looking out of view alone. or piling into your beat up, you know,
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Camry, going to a Denny's with your five best friends. Which one is the one you think you're going to enjoy more? It's
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obvious. It's obvious [music] it's the second one, but we live our life like the first. It comes down to what you
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want. You will not find the perfect person cuz you're not perfect. And so, it's just [music] what on the stats of
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this person am I willing to make trades on? Am I willing to have somebody who's maybe not the most supportive of my
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career, but maybe they're supportive of my subjective well-being? Maybe they're supportive of my of my extracurriculars,
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maybe they're supportive of my spiritual journey. They might just be supportive in different ways. And so again, it's
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what do you want? My first boss said this thing to me and it's really stuck with me. She said, "Figuring out what
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you want is 99% [music] of the work. The easy part is getting it." And I thought
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about that a lot because I was like, "No, the hard part is getting it." And it was it's like, "No, [music] how many
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layers deep did you figure out what you really want?" When you really know what you want, then you just align the world
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to go get