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June 17, 2026 / 50:33

This episode of Grit in the Boardroom features Professor Tariq Modood discussing diversity, identity, and leadership. Key topics include the evolution of inclusion in Britain, the impact of social media on public discourse, and the importance of standing by one's values in leadership.

Professor Modood reflects on his early experiences in the anti-apartheid movement and his role as an equal opportunities officer in the 1980s. He emphasizes the need for a more nuanced understanding of British identity that goes beyond racial dualism.

He shares insights from his upbringing, particularly the influence of his father, who encouraged him to embrace both his Muslim identity and the broader British culture. Modood discusses the challenges leaders face in maintaining their values while navigating diverse perspectives.

The conversation also touches on the detrimental effects of social media on dialogue and the importance of recognizing the limitations of perceived achievements in diversity, using Gareth Southgate's England football team as an example.

Overall, Modood advocates for a values-based approach to leadership that fosters inclusion and dialogue, urging leaders to remain aware of the cultural dynamics within their organizations.

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Professor Tariq Modood discusses diversity, identity, and leadership challenges in Britain, emphasizing values-based dialogue and the impact of social media.

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winning them over through talking and persuading and consensus building, that's better
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than neutral aloofness or hiding behind some bureaucratic rules. I have a a kind of self-confidence
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and a certain amount [music] of self-discipline or control that allows me to focus
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more intellectually rather than emotionally on the issues. Standing by your values is always
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what you should do, but one has to be pragmatic. >> Welcome to Grit in the Boardroom. I'm
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Erica Ilias and Norris and today I'm joined by Professor Tariq Modood, one of Britain's most respected thinkers on
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diversity, identity and leadership. Tariq, your journey began in the 1980s when Britain looked very different from
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the country we live in today. What first made you realize that inclusion was not
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simply a moral issue, but it was a leadership challenge? >> When I was a a student, uh this was at
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Durham University, I was active in the anti-apartheid movement as you know, quite a lot of students were at the
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time. And then um later, when I was working in Oxford, I was involved in community relations work. I
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um the area I lived in had a Pakistani community and I worked with them and with the community relations council.
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But I would say that um I about 1986 it was that I I noticed that there was a a public
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debate, a general um debate taking place um that was beginning to characterize the country in
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terms of what I call racial dualism, meaning thinking of the country and its people
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in terms of black and white. And that wasn't my experience and it wasn't how I thought of myself. It
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wasn't at all apparent in the uh communities that I I lived with, worked with, and and so on.
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But it was becoming quite a big issue, mainly on the center left, and so the Labour Party got involved and so on.
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And um by the end of that year, 1986, I became an equal opportunities officer in
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the personnel or now as we might say human resources department of the London Borough of Hillingdon.
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And I began to argue against this idea. I thought that Britain is a much more um plural and complex society and can't
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be reduced to black and white. Um for instance, I don't And I said that at the time, I didn't think as black, so
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and I didn't think as white. So, what were they What would this view say about myself?
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And I began to argue for uh an alternative view. And it I think it's around that time
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that I realized that um I had to get involved in something that required some campaigning.
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Um and that I wanted to have some national influence. I wanted to make a difference.
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And so, I set up an organization. Um and uh wrote to lots of people. Uh some kind of, you know, well-known uh
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senior public figures, political figures, others, community activists that I knew and so on.
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And so if you like, I started playing a leadership role um because I cared about the issues. They were
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my issues. They were existential to me. I cared about my country and what direction it should go in and shouldn't
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go in. And I thought that the the kind of the activists that said it's all about
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black and white were taking us in the wrong direction. We weren't like the United States and we shouldn't try to
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copy that. Um and so yeah, I guess it's about then that I thought, "Look, I'm not just um
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an academic or an ex-academic cuz I was actually working in local government that I needed to
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rise up to what I saw as a political challenge for people like me and for the country
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as a whole and began campaigning and both offering certain leadership, you know, obviously
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at a quite low low level, but also um writing to, engaging with, trying to meet and influence
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national leaders like senior people in the Labour Party and so on because the Labour Party was probably at the center
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of this of this kind of political contestation. >> And looking back to your earlier years,
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I was listening to an interview that you gave um in Canada, actually. Um and it was talking about your upbringing and
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how your father influenced some of uh some of your kind of formative years. Can you talk a little bit about that? I
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was really intrigued by the assembly story, for instance. >> Yeah. Yeah, so I don't know how unusual this is. I
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suppose it's fairly unusual, but not unique. I have come across one or two people who have similar experiences.
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So, my father was a devout Muslim. And he thought that faith and religion and the the discipline that religion
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offers, and especially I suppose in in growing up, um was important. But, we we came to Britain in 1961 and
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obviously I went into read to school as as as eight at the time. And uh in my secondary school,
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there was a possibility of being excused from morning assembly if your parents sent in a note. And the
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main people who did that were Jewish children. And so, I think maybe the school gave me a letter to
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take to my to my dad. And I showed it to him. When he looked at it, he said, "What do these children
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do that don't go into morning assembly?" which was, you know, a Christian assembly.
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I said, "Well, some arrive late. There's a special room allocated for them. They sit and chat or read comics
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or catch up on homework." And he said, "Oh, no. You won't be doing any of that."
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He said, "Go into assembly. Um Christians more or less believe what we believe. But,
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whenever it is said that Jesus is the son of God, without making any kind of fuss, just
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quietly say to yourself, 'No, he's not.' But, otherwise, join in all all the um worship. And indeed, I did very um
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enthusiastically and over all the years. And by the time I was in my sixth form,
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I was the um one of the leading readers of what you might call the lesson. I used
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pick things and read things from say the Old Testament, sometimes the New Testament as well.
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Um because I don't know how many people are aware of this, but but Jesus is one of the most important prophets of Islam.
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Um and um I organized um the carol singing in the streets at Christmas to raise money for charity.
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Um and so yeah, so my dad had this very unusual view that if you like, putting it very
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simply, some religion is better than none. But more sophisticatedly than that, he
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had a a sense of uh Islam and Christianity being very close religions with certain theological differences,
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but the theological differences uh didn't mean that we didn't share uh not only a lot of beliefs in common, but
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a lot of values like respect for people, um uh compassion for people worse off than ourselves, uh
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social justice, um you know, equality and um uh individual um freedom of conscience and so on. So um
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yeah, it's quite interesting for me that I was brought up with the kind of a Muslim home background,
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>> Yeah. >> but quite steeped in school Christianity. >> Mm. And looking back, what did you learn
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about helping people feel that they belong? And how do you think leaders today can help build that sense,
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particularly in the tough times that we're in? >> Um I suppose um as a a child, I
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I was given a sense at home that we are somebody. We have an identity. We're not just anybody. So,
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we came from Pakistan and we were Muslims. And these were identities that that were very important to my dad. The
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reason I keep emphasizing my dad is because very, very unusually, it was my dad that brought us up. My parents
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divorced and my dad that brought us up. So, actually this is in the 1960s. This is an absolute
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statistical freak that I was brought up by a single parent who was an Asian Muslim
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man. And so, we brought up with that that sense of identity that we shouldn't allow people to insult or rob us of that
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identity. But at the same time, my dad wanted us to learn everything that we could about
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well, from school and life in Britain and through friends and so on and television. I think television is one of
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one of the biggest sources of learning for us as children and where I think I got my
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accent, English accent. And the other thing So, that was home, but more than that,
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as a child, all children want to belong. Um you know, they don't like to be pushed out of out of groups and left
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marginal, left friendless. And so, of course, I wanted that. But I also wanted, which again I don't
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think is is unique to me, a sense of belonging to the country in which I'm now setting up
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setting down roots. And so, I think a sense of being British and and being accepted as British,
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um, goes quite a long way back for me, to my childhood and certainly my teenage years.
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And I used to find it very odd because the kinds of, um, person I was, the kinds of issues I was
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involved in, and I got very interested in politics at a very early age, and this was, you
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know, very much left-of-center politics. I was always kind of surprised and disappointed
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that people on the left in the '60s, '70s, '80s, always kind of ran down the idea of Britain and people having
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pride in Britain. And I I could see this wasn't true for other countries, certainly wasn't true
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for France or the United States or Pakistan, for that matter. And yet, um, you know, there there is a
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a burden of history, a burden of, um, historical guilt as well as historical pride.
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And I think that the left in those days, and I'd say that to them, had an unbalanced view
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about about Britain, and they had a very superficial view about, um, belonging. They all did feel British in
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an important way, and certainly other people looking at them would say, "Well, you're
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very British." But, they thought the best way of expressing national pride was to not talk about it,
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that it should be unstated, it should be implicit, and we shouldn't have flag-waving and so on.
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And I thought that wasn't good enough, especially as when in the 19 '70s, we saw the rise of groups like the
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National Front that were marching down our streets waving the Union Jack. And I thought, "Well, no, that's my
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flag. We should stand up for that flag." Whereas a lot of the protesters and the
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demonstrators, and I went to some of these protests and demonstrations, um their view was
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"No one should be flying this flag." That there was something slightly um dirty about this flag.
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And I said, "Well, no, we have to stop them flying our flag. We have to um own it and, as it were, win it from
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them." Uh and I found myself, you know, in a very small minority holding that view of
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any of any, you know, color or background till finally I began to get some resonance in the 1990s. I think one of
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the first major figures who began to think like I did, you know, in a public way was Tony Blair.
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And he said, "No, you know." He wanted a Labour Party, which of course he transformed, called it New Labour, and
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so on. But he wanted to be a patriotic party that wasn't ashamed of its flags, other symbols, and of history.
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There are things uh in British history um that we should critically examine. And of course, people like me who were,
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as it were, the rough end, at the bottom end of the British Imperial uh history and experience,
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uh want that examined. But it doesn't mean that I want to throw away the idea of being British because I feel I became
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part of the British story when the British came to India. Um and, you know, made some
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Indians [snorts] um as much like the the as possible, at least in certain ways. And so,
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I think we need to think a lot more about British imperial history, uh rather than dismiss it or pretend um it
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never happened, and just be [snorts] focused on the island story or Europe or whatever.
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Um And so, yeah. So, I think those kinds of um currents of belonging, both in terms of
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home and community identity, but also in terms of national inclusion, active national
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inclusion, um not just waiting for it to happen passively, and certainly not allowing
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the divisive figures to wave our flag as if they had a bigger right to it than we do.
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>> That's very interesting, and obviously it's quite topical at the moment as well.
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>> is. >> When we talk about leadership, and we talk about influence or strategy,
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um sometimes there can be opposing views. Um but showing that respect um for all different perspectives is something
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that is probably one of the hardest tests, I think, of leadership or of leaders in organizations today.
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You've challenged both sides um of the debate over the years. Um and I'm just interested to hear from you on what's
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your What do you think the personal cost is of standing in one camp as opposed to
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another? And how do you stay grounded in those particular values if you were a leader
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in an organization, you obviously have your own views, but then the organization has their own potential
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views, or they want to be apolitical, or whatever, um themselves. How How do you
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manage that? Because you've been there. You've experienced it. >> Yes. Um you are right. Uh I have had to
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stand up for um unpopular things, you know, unpopular in the group I belong to as it were,
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that I'm, you know, institutionally part of, >> Mhm. >> um working with and so on.
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Um So, I mean, when I was an anti-apartheid activist at Durham University, um you know, there'd be people who'd be
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jeering and so on. But, I think I But, that was more at the mass, you know, like a
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demonstration. I think the first time I began to experience um some hostility aimed at me personally because I was
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arguing for something personally, um probably goes back to when I said to you that I became kind of
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politically uh energized and the thought that I had to myself even set up an organization
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and try and influence things nationally when I opposed the idea of racial dualism, a kind of black-white
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dualism. So, I was working in um Hillingdon, um London Borough, as an equal options
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officer, meeting others who were working in the same position in other London Boroughs,
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and also just in my own organization, there were people who were very committed to anti-racism, which was a
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good thing. But, unfortunately, quite a lot of people saw their anti-racism in exactly this kind of black-white way
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that I was opposing. And so, they'd get quite annoyed with me and say how divisive I was.
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Um so that kind of began then. And perhaps it um, one of the most extreme cases was at
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the time of the the Muslim anger against Salman Rushdie's novel The Satanic Verses. And
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obviously there was a big big uh, controversy battle and even an international crisis
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with um, the leader of Iran intervening and so on. And I thought and you mentioned my dad's influence.
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Mhm. So I was you know, caught up with this obviously as uh, someone working in equality issues at the time.
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But I thought, well, should we really be fighting about a novel? And so I said to my dad, you know, what
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do you think? And he you know, he was crying just thinking about it and so on. And I realized then that if my dad could
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feel this that this was going to be a big issue. It wasn't going to be something that
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will just blow away. And it was going to actually be a feature in some ways mark
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um, Muslim British society relations. Um, and he said you are very lucky. You've
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are privileged to have of education. You know, I had a PhD. Um, you speak well and you
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seem to acquired a confidence to speak in public and say unpopular things. Um, you should use your
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talents and opportunities to help British society understand why Muslims are angry, but
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more generally understand Muslims and you should help Muslims understand why British society thinks
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about their behavior as they do as it does or other features and you know, you are very well suited
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to be this cross-cultural figure a bridge-building figure and I must say so that would have been
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um 19 uh 80 early 1980 and um no sorry 90 that's right the book [snorts] came out in 1989 and I must say
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that I took that on board and did participate quite publicly in discussions about the Satanic Verses
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um trying to argue a very unpopular middle position saying that Muslims had a a grievance and we should hear it
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without necessarily agreeing to it we should we should engage in dialogue with it rather than dismiss it saying oh
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they're all backward they don't know how to read a novel they're illiterate uh they're
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religious fanatics and on the other hand um we obviously should protect protect the
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author we should protect the life of the author we should be seriously committed
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to uh intellectual freedoms um but quite a lot of people including some friends thought I was being far too
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sympathetic to the fundamentalists >> Right. >> and I lost friendships so there are personal costs
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um >> How did that How did that make you feel? Because that was your view your perspective which is as valid as anybody
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else's, whether it contradicts or doesn't. How How do you deal with that? Because that's that's personal.
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>> Yeah. So, >> [sighs] >> how do do I deal with it? I mean, first of all, of course,
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you know, it hurts. I don't like it. There are people I don't want to lose as friends, people I I like, people I I've
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thought of as friends. Um sometimes they just say it to your face, and sometimes you can just feel a new a
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new coldness has entered a relationship. Uh they don't get in touch with you, for
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instance. They don't invite you to certain things. Um and even when I became a professor of
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sociology, a lot of people thought, "Oh, going on about ethnicity, and above all,
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going on about religious minorities, that's so superficial, and big issues are all to do with class and
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gender. Why are you going on about these minor, marginal issues?" Um and the sociology tradition is
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actually a tradition based around socioeconomic structures. So, to to talk about people's identities and people's
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cultures is quite dominant in British sociology now, but when I, you know, started
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saying in the 1990s, um it was quite marginal, but luckily, anti-racism and uh gender equality
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issues had become quite important in British sociology, so I could kind of show what I was doing by relating it to
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those issues. But, to answer your question about how do I deal with it, it's I'm kind of struggling to answer it,
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because I don't know whether I have a particular formula or way of dealing with it.
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I would say that I have a a kind of self-confidence and a certain amount of um self-discipline or control
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self-control, that's probably the right word that allows me to focus more intellectually rather than
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emotionally on the issues. So, one of the things that my wife says to me is that when I'm on a program, you
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know, like say Newsnight or a studio debate um defending my point of view she says
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"You always stay calm when the other side gets angry and st- starts losing their temper.
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You never reply in kind. You're always still dissecting their arguments and telling them
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for instance, that it's not consistent. They started off saying one thing and now saying another and so on." And I
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said, "Yeah, I I kind of feel that's that's not good on TV." And she said, "No." I mean, she may be right or
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wrong, but she said, "No, most people watching will say, 'Oh, this man's worth listening to because
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he's carrying on talking calmly and coherently when other people are just getting
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aggressive.'" So, I I guess it's just a certain kind of mix between self-confidence
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and self-control and just carrying on under fire. >> It sounds like you're quite reflective
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in the moment. Um I presume that that comes from your upbringing and your father.
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>> and I think it comes also actually from you know being a migrant because when you're an outsider of any kind, and
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I think this applies especially of course to children and young people, you work harder
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to um make sure that you're not setting people and make sure that you're not doing
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anything that will make you stick out as "Oh, what's wrong with him?" Um so, I suspect
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And also, I I said to you that um I I was brought up by just my dad, and so I lost my mom,
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you know, through divorce. I lost my mom at a very early age, and I think that also leads to a certain kind of
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toughening up. And so, I kind of learned self-control at a very early age, both in personal context, but then as I
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became more involved in public things, I just took it into that level as well. >> And boards often try to stay neutral
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when the pressure builds, when when things go wrong, or when the organization doesn't potentially perform
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or act in a way that they should do. Um but sometimes that neutrality can look like or feel like avoidance of
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whatever that particular issue is. Do you think that from your experience that playing it safe is potentially a
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failure of leadership in that sort of situation? Should people be standing by their principles and their values, or is
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the neutral approach sometimes at the best option? >> Um I think standing by your values is
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always um what you should do. But one has to be pragmatic. So, standing by your values can be done in a inflexible
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way, and it can be done in a more kind of contextual way, and in a more consensual way, i.e.
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carrying people with you, explaining yourself, and explaining why you think certain things need to be done. But
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also, I mean, I imagine, you know, management is a little bit different to life at a university or in public
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debates and so on. But trying to be dialogical, so not just saying sticking by your values doesn't
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mean I've made a decision, I'm now telling you how it's got to be done. I mean, I'm not saying there aren't some
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contexts where we don't do this, and as I say, I might not fully understand how some
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business organizations work. But I think drawing people into a values-based dialogue,
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and explaining, but also asking them what they think, and um winning them over through
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talking and persuading, and consensus building, um I think that's that's better than than a
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kind of neutral aloofness or hiding behind some bureaucratic rules. Um so I mean, as as as you can see from the
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story I'm telling about myself and my perhaps my demeanor, I'm not a kind of gung-ho person like, you know, calling
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things out and denouncing people and exposing people and firing [snorts] people and canceling people and so on. I
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I think that generates quite a lot of um counterproductive responses. So I, very
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much following up what my dad's said in 1980 about being dialogical and carrying people with you.
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But recognizing that there are victims cuz I could see in the Satanic Verses affair
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that Muslims were really upset and were not being treated at all respectfully. And as I said to you
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earlier, I mean my dad was crying when he was talking to me about this. Now it may be that there were levels of
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misunderstanding. You know, that people had taken offense >> [snorts] >> from a novel
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and perhaps, you know, they shouldn't have done. And that other people, what you might call certain kinds of
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activists or propagandists, had exaggerated certain things for effect. But that's
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that always happens in politics and life. That wasn't by any means unique to that controversy or to to Muslims.
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But nevertheless I I think that um trying to have what I call would call sensible
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but sensitive dialogues, you know, so you are trying to be sensitive to other people's feelings even where you
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don't agree and even where you're going to ultimately have to say to them that you don't agree and you recommend some
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other way. Um so whether that works in all business organizations a university is one place it can work.
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And though I think actually universities are becoming far too managerial over the
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last couple of decades, they really have. Um and you may say, well, how can we have a
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public debate with, you know, very right-wing people or for that matter, very left-wing people, when when they're
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kind of shouting and we and we see how terrible um social media's become. I mean, it's
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destroying the idea of dialogue because it's just a matter of um aggression and abuse and denouncing
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people and um trying to big up your own side and undermine other people or the other
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side. Um so, I think social media's done a lot of harm um to our public conversations.
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And I'm now seeing um public expressions of racism that I last saw in the 1970s. It's
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absolutely amazing. We've gone so backward because as a country, we had actually been making
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fairly good progress. Um certainly if we compare ourselves to our our neighboring countries, for
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instance. But, I think in general, we obviously hadn't done everything right and there was more
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to do and we could have even done more, but nevertheless, I think we were moving
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in a um racially egalitarian, multicultural direction. Um and yes, to some extent, there will be a
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backlash because people have an alternative view. But, the form that it's currently taking in Britain,
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um much of of it um leaking out, as it were, from the social media and all the misinformation
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campaigns that are leading to anxiety and alarm and confrontation in the streets and
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and shouting and flag-waving in completely the wrong way, divisive flag-waving, rather than
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unifying flag-waving. Um I think social media has a a lot to answer for, and so I find
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my, you know, engagement in social media is becoming less and less because it's not a place
00:34:41
for for dialogue and learning, learning about what other people think and widening your sensibilities. It's It's
00:34:50
just the opposite. It's It's narrowing narrowing you down into, well, I must stand up for this because I'm being
00:34:56
attacked just on this. Um >> Do you think that some of that is to do with how faceless social media can be?
00:35:06
So, you're behind a computer screen, behind a phone, in the security of your home or wherever else you might be, and
00:35:14
you don't see that as another person you're really interacting with. You just send a message out, and whereas if that
00:35:20
was a face-to-face conversation, I think potentially people wouldn't act or say some of the things that they say.
00:35:27
>> Yes, I think um that's absolutely right, America. Um people act uh on social media
00:35:35
in um with a rudeness and an abruptness that they wouldn't in an ordinary human interaction, in a conversation. You
00:35:45
know, it's like people say uh a person behind the wheel of a car becomes a very different person to the
00:35:52
person that you that you knew when you was My wife, for instance, as she says, "You're so, you know, calm and
00:35:59
well-mannered, but when you're driving, you become a totally different person." I don't agree with her, but she seems to
00:36:04
notice it. And this point about social media is made worse by the fact that you can be anonymous.
00:36:13
I think that's so poisonous. Some of the worst um excesses are coming from anonym- anonymous accounts or fake
00:36:23
accounts, people pretending to be people that they're not. Um and of course the worst cases are those that that that
00:36:32
then lead to, you know, sexual grooming and sexual abuses and prob- probably also frauds and scams and
00:36:39
so on. But even in uh public conversations, public debates, I think there are quite a lot of um accounts
00:36:46
where people are pretending to be people they're not so they can s- put forward a view
00:36:55
that will to some extent look as a bit more acceptable because they'll put forward a view from, as it were, a
00:37:02
victim's point of view when they really aren't a victim at all. They're probably, you know, a middle-aged white
00:37:07
man pretending to be uh a young woman or uh a young black person or something. So
00:37:14
um social media, I mean, there's so many advantages to internet and the advance of our technologies,
00:37:22
but social media is really is quite not even mixed now at the moment. I think it's more of a curse than a
00:37:28
blessing. >> Mhm. And boards today, they fell they face a real tension between inclusion and
00:37:36
clarity. And they often want to hear every voice to take into account what that is. But by doing that, potentially,
00:37:45
they don't stand for anything um in particular. When do you think that trying to represent every viewpoint kind
00:37:53
of it waters down an organization potentially, but do you think that there's any um
00:37:59
I suppose positivity that comes out of that or do you think that standing for something and having those values and a
00:38:05
particular perspective on something is is really important? >> So I said to you before that I thought
00:38:13
standing for your values or for an institution's values uh is important. Um and sometimes
00:38:23
if we don't consciously think about that, we can lose our way and find ourselves
00:38:30
um, in a position we wouldn't have wished to be in, letting down some employees for
00:38:37
instance, or you know, damaging public reputation. Um, but we do need to, um, be
00:38:49
more aware of diversity of views and diversity of sensibilities. People don't all react to,
00:38:58
uh, in the same way. And I know businesses and so on obviously do a lot of market research,
00:39:04
you know, before they bring a product to market or to find out why people aren't buying
00:39:09
something or would they like it more [snorts] if it was packaged in a different way, called something
00:39:15
else, or associated with a a personality and so on. Um, So, I do think there's something right in that, um,
00:39:26
strategy, which means trying to find out what people think and how they react to
00:39:33
certain, um, stimuli. Whether it's to do with packaging or to do with a slogan uh, to sell a product
00:39:45
and so on. So, I I would say let's take that further, and especially not just for research, but in one's own
00:39:53
organization, and find out what people think, especially people who are relatively marginal, people who don't
00:40:01
normally get a chance to speak or be heard, apart from in, you know, small conversations in the corner.
00:40:11
So, yeah, we we do need a little bit more active viewpoint diversity identifying and bringing that into the
00:40:22
center. Um but that's not the opposite of standing for your values. That should be one of
00:40:28
your values. >> That's really interesting. And final question from me. I see culture within organizations as a
00:40:37
really early warning sign um of systems um that are about to fail. So, it gets allows you to see what's working. It
00:40:46
also allows you to see potentially what's about to break long before the headlines kind of reach that
00:40:52
organization. And if culture is part of governance, what signs do you think directors or
00:41:00
people that work in organizations can watch out for to notice that people, potentially people like you,
00:41:08
um that would be in organizations may there may be issues. There may be challenges in that culture way before
00:41:15
the headlines hit. I think that'll be really interesting for the people that are listening and watching.
00:41:20
>> Yeah. Well, I imagine that what I will say is probably even less knowledgeable than
00:41:29
the people watching, but I'll have a go. I mean, demoralization. If um people don't seem to be as enthusiastic
00:41:39
as they used to be or as that you wished them to be or that there's a particular
00:41:44
set of tasks that they don't seem to relish. Um obviously, you'd you'd want to know
00:41:51
why suddenly people are getting demoralized. And I mean, in the extreme case where where a certain amount of
00:41:58
absenteeism becomes apparent, you think, well, gosh, not everybody can have have the stomach bug. I mean,
00:42:05
what's happening? Um so, um possibly also if um um the workforce is breaking up into cliques, some people
00:42:19
>> Yes. >> not wanting to talk to other people, and some people only thinking these are my
00:42:23
buddies. Um that's obviously a sign that any manager would have to pick up and uh find out more
00:42:32
and um do something about. Um and it may be that they're part of the problem because of they're
00:42:39
implementing a policy or implementing a policy in the wrong way. >> Mhm. >> Badly and so on. So So it's not just,
00:42:46
"Oh, there's a problem with the employees." Because the manager is part of that situation, part of that
00:42:54
structure. So that's what they have to identify. What's happening here? Um what's What's the source?
00:43:02
Um And in a way if you had a culture that did those things, that that would be um
00:43:15
heading off some [snorts] of the problems. There will always be problems. I'm not talking
00:43:20
about perfect organizations or a perfect society. There will always be problems.
00:43:25
So what you need are um people who are encouraged to have some antennae for picking up
00:43:36
where something is not working, and especially is not working because some people feel um
00:43:46
their views are not being taken into account, or their experience, or their expertise, or
00:43:52
their loyalty um to the organization. Um so that kind of dissatisfaction Yeah, I think any good manager would
00:44:01
have to pick that up. Um and I hope they do. You know, I mean, I hope that's what
00:44:06
they're taught to do. I I feel very amateurish. Uh You know, because I'm very lucky.
00:44:14
I work in with very small research teams and so, you know, those things are much
00:44:21
easier to pick up than than someone who's in charge of quite a lot of people. One thing I will say
00:44:27
about an aspect of culture would be be careful about a certain kind of self-congratulation.
00:44:38
So, I'll mention an example because it's one that everyone will be able to pick up. But, it's not to do with business.
00:44:46
So, like many people, I'm a great admirer of Gareth Southgate. Former um England football manager who I think as
00:44:57
an individual and as a England manager um is a very admirable admirable person. And he said
00:45:08
I want a team that reflects the country. And many people, including me, said, "Yes, that's that's laudable. That's
00:45:16
that's good. That's what you should be doing." and so on. And and he was very, very caring about his players
00:45:26
and especially black players who were abused um and so on. But, the point I'm really
00:45:33
getting at is many people said to him and he came to think himself that he was achieving this
00:45:43
goal of having a country that reflected the country. And the term sometimes he used was that
00:45:54
he wanted a diverse team. But, the team was just black and white. It clearly was not diverse. And I'm not
00:46:05
saying Gareth Southgate was to blame for this. I mean, you know, these these would be big structural
00:46:11
issues, where players are coming from and what level they've got to, etc. So, I'm not saying that there's a
00:46:18
simple solution and that he was in any sense um leaving people out that he should be
00:46:27
including. I mean, it's not as simple as that. But, nevertheless, he and everybody, you know,
00:46:36
was congratulating him for having achieved a diverse team. And therefore, they were blind
00:46:45
to something. And I think um you know, sometimes self-congratulation is a good thing, especially if it's a
00:46:55
team effort, you're not congratulating yourself as an individual, you're congratulation congratulating
00:47:01
um your team. But, be careful of the blind spots that we all have and that we we can talk up one
00:47:11
particular thing up to a certain level, not realizing that actually um we're being blind to the limitations of
00:47:23
what we've achieved. Um and therefore, we should be careful about celebrating it.
00:47:30
Or the celebration should go hand in hand with trying to identify and address the limitations.
00:47:38
>> That's really interesting. Thank you so much for joining me today in Grace in
00:47:44
the Boardroom. >> Thank you, Erica. >> I think the conversation with Tariq today was really interesting. He had a
00:47:53
number of points to raise about where he'd had to stand in the face of adversity. He'd also had to face into
00:48:03
friendship losses and other relationship breakdowns as a result of his own values and his own
00:48:09
views and perspectives, which was definitely something that leaders face quite often.
00:48:15
There was also a conversation about faceless social media and we spoke [music] a bit about what that was like
00:48:23
and why people feel that they can air their perspectives, judgments, views potentially more openly than they would
00:48:30
do face-to-face. [music] And I think it was telling that he said that it brought back some memories for
00:48:38
him of what it was like at the beginning of of his career with some of the interactions that he
00:48:42
sees on social media now and he thought that the world and England, Britain had moved on since then and potentially
00:48:49
[music] it hasn't at least social media potentially has brought some of that back. And finally the
00:48:56
self-congratulatory piece that he brought out about Gareth Southgate, that was really interesting
00:49:02
in terms of the perspective that people have on that approach to saying well done for what we've achieved because the
00:49:12
reality is that the people that are in society at large may well not feel that that particular [music] perspective has
00:49:21
been taken into account. They might feel that whatever changes are suggested haven't actually been
00:49:29
adjusted or changed [music] enough for them and for their own personality fit. I know it's something that Tariq
00:49:35
mentioned about the fact that there were white and black people on the team, but
00:49:39
that was it and that was seen to be a win. And of course it is to a certain extent,
00:49:44
but if you don't see someone that looks like you in those particular roles or situations, then it can be quite
00:49:50
alienating and ostracizing for those particular individuals. Um, so, a note to leadership to think about what it
00:49:57
means, um, when you are saying well done and patting yourself or the organization
00:50:01
on the back for doing a job well done. Is it really a job well done, um, in [music] the eyes of other people outside
00:50:08
the organization and perhaps people from different ethnic backgrounds? That's it for this episode of Written in
00:50:14
the Boardroom. Thank you to Tariq for sharing his story with honesty and insight, [music] and thank you for
00:50:19
listening.

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Episode Highlights

  • The Leadership Challenge of Inclusion
    Tariq Modood discusses how inclusion is a leadership challenge, not just a moral issue.
    “Inclusion was not simply a moral issue, but it was a leadership challenge.”
    @ 01m 03s
    June 17, 2026
  • A Unique Upbringing
    Tariq shares how his father's views shaped his identity and approach to faith.
    “My dad thought that faith and religion was important.”
    @ 06m 12s
    June 17, 2026
  • The Cost of Standing Up
    Tariq reflects on the personal costs of standing for his beliefs, especially in divisive times.
    “There are personal costs.”
    @ 22m 54s
    June 17, 2026
  • The Power of Calmness
    Staying calm during heated debates can enhance credibility and respect.
    “You always stay calm when the other side gets angry.”
    @ 25m 39s
    June 17, 2026
  • The Curse of Social Media
    Social media has become a toxic space for dialogue, leading to aggression.
    “Social media is really quite not even mixed now at the moment.”
    @ 37m 25s
    June 17, 2026
  • Blind Spots in Self-Congratulation
    Celebrating achievements can lead to overlooking critical limitations.
    “Self-congratulation can blind us to our limitations.”
    @ 47m 20s
    June 17, 2026
  • The Importance of Representation
    Leadership must consider the feelings of those not represented in decision-making roles.
    “If you don't see someone that looks like you, it can be quite alienating.”
    @ 49m 44s
    June 17, 2026
  • Reflecting on Achievements
    A call to evaluate if organizational successes are truly recognized by all communities.
    “Is it really a job well done in the eyes of other people?”
    @ 50m 06s
    June 17, 2026

Episode Quotes

  • I wanted to make a difference.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom
  • We should own our flag.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom
  • It hurts. I don't like it.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom
  • You always stay calm when the other side gets angry.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom
  • Social media is really quite not even mixed now at the moment.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom
  • Self-congratulation can blind us to our limitations.
    When Doing the Right Thing Costs You Everything | Grit in the Boardroom

Key Moments

  • Leadership and Inclusion01:03
  • Father's Influence06:12
  • Personal Costs22:54
  • Self-Control25:14
  • Calm Under Fire26:14
  • Cultural Awareness26:51
  • Blind Spots47:20
  • Questioning Success50:06

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