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all right all right all right we are
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back in the ex- homeschoolers Club I am
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your host jakeob good and today I am
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joined with the wonderful lovely Julia
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uh we have known each other for a long
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long time uh I met her gosh I what did I
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say before I it was like a couple weeks
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after you moved here from Russia and uh
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we like were Sim grade in school we
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graduated together we went to prom
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together we were bands together we uh we
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did all of all of school together
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basically um so anyway uh thank you for
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coming on the show it's wonderful to
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have you yeah honored to be here it's
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really cool that you're doing the
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podcast well tell me a little bit about
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your homeschool Journey because uh from
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what I remember uh the first time I met
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you you hardly spoke any English uh you
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had just gotten here from Russia and you
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had we had one friend Luda who had also
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moved here from Russia and you guys yeah
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spoke able to talk to each other but to
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the rest of us like it was a foreign
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language um but I remember meeting you
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at group Solutions and uh and you just
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kind of like getting thrown in the group
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with everybody um and having to figure
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it out but tell me a little bit about
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that and like what that all look like
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yeah I think uh it's exactly like you
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said everything was going so fast too
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when um when I was younger because we
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were being moved uh from place to place
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being adopted and all that and not
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knowing the language um but it was also
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very exciting because we were in a
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different country and um nobody spoke
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our language and uh it was it was just
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so cool to have um friends and like it's
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it was sort of like a secret language
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you know because nobody else could
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understand us so that was kind of cool
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to look back on now and um I have a lot
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of great memories I think being
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homeschooled as well the one thing I
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think that a lot of people didn't get to
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experience is uh because being
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homeschooled usually like your parent is
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your teacher with it was not the case
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with my parents at all okay um my
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teacher was Mrs Sanchez you know and I
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don't think without her I would have
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ever done it like she she was she got me
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through it all so that was really cool
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yeah I was gonna ask you because I mean
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I've known your family for a long time
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and yeah your mom was always was sick
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she was battling cancer for a long long
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time and um and yeah I know that Mrs
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Sanchez was like heavily involved in
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your guys' schooling but I didn't know
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that she was basically she was teacher
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for you guys right for me that's how I
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remember it yeah for me she was teacher
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even when when I was like in a bad mood
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or whatever she would always like push
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me to do really really well in school
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and uh back then I totally hated it and
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I didn't like her for doing that to me
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was like you're a bad you're mean or
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something I don't know like being
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immature or whatever and stupid and
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dramatic but now I'm like looking back
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on it now and I'm so grateful and I'm so
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like I would never been able to push
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through that without her and I'm like
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forever grateful to her for sure was she
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also like doing that for your sisters as
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well not so much for
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Elena but defin a little bit for Christa
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here and there because like
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um uh Christa k kind of were like
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friends and stuff like that so me and
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Luda were friends so that's kind of uh
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how it worked out and sometimes like
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Kristal would go with me I think I don't
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know yeah so were you basically going to
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their house every day for school or or a
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couple days a week kind of a thing I
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think it was three times a week or
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something like that and then we would go
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to group
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Solutions and do like outside classes
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with other parents that were teaching
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and stuff like that yeah absolutely cu
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the Sanchez is really they were like the
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pioneers of group Solutions I remember
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that and uh yeah I'm hoping I'm hoping
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to get one or both of them on um at some
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point because like I would love to yeah
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I want to chat uh to them I'm going to
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do a whole season with just like parents
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um and get their perspective on on
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things as well um but yeah they group
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Solutions was fantastic because like it
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gave us kind of an outlet to be I don't
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know my first two years two three years
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of homeschooling were just so like stuck
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at home and no friends and like I had
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gone to public school before that and so
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it's just like I just needed friends and
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group Solutions like became that safe
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place of like it was like going to
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regular school for a day you know yeah I
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guess so I guess you're right I never
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wanted to go to real school my mom made
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me shadow like a private school somebody
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that went to private school and I
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actually went to visit I think it was
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Ventura High School and I was so afraid
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of going I was like no I'm GNA stick
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with homeschooling
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so that's what I did it's funny how that
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works too because like yeah by the time
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I was in high school I was like I can't
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imagine going to public high school like
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I my parents kind of gave me the option
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or at least it was like discussed a
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little bit and I was just like why would
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I want to do that I like make my own
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schedule I can I like work when I want
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to I can go see friends I can kind of
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like do whatever I was like an adult and
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especially once we got like old enough
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to like have driver's license and stuff
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it was like well you're just like you
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know you're in charge of your life go
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figure it out go get a job go do
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whatever you know I I can't imagine like
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giving that up I don't know to go to
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like a public high school I think it was
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more so like they were just giving me
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options yeah you know which they did
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with like extracurricular activities as
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well which was really cool to experience
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for me
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because um a lot of the things if you
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add up like kids sports and kids
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activities they can get really expensive
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over like
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a long period of time if especially if
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your kids are doing that you know and I
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don't know how my parents did it but we
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get to experience so many cool things it
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was insane what kind of like
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extracurricular stuff were you
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doing I did a lot of stuff I did like
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taekwan do I did uh ballet I did tap
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Jazz I did like the plays at the
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Mitchell's um uh which was was different
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but still I want to include that because
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it's so fun looking back on it no that
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was like its own it was that that was
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like its own thing and it's so funny
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because the the episode at the time of
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recording this the episode that just
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came out for the podcast was my
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interview with Nick and it briefly came
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up and I had someone comment who was not
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a part of our friend group at all just
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some Rando from the internet commented
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and was like these tell talk more about
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these backyard plays but um yeah it was
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basically like theater in the round
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their driveway in the in the middle of
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their driveway was like this dirt patch
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I think at one point it was grass but it
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became dirt because we were just walking
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all over it but yeah they did like
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Beauty and the Beast uh Lion King I
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remember you having a significant role
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in Lion King was that oh yeah oh yeah I
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had definitely a significant role I
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still remember to this day I was Rafiki
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the baboon you know and so I had like to
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chant in front of like a bunch of people
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and I remember like screwing up my lines
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pretty bad in the middle of all of that
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and then I was just like you know what
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screw it I already screwed up so I'm
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just going to keep going and then and
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the audience ended up lasing and it was
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such like a validating feeling for me
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you know yeah so I just kept going and
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it was great after that and oh man at
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the time I think I was a little bit
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embarrassed but now it's it's I'm so
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glad I got to experience it it's so cool
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it's so funny too because like I I don't
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know I feel like I've known you long
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enough that I feel like I've watched
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able to watch you like just become like
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a really confident person if that makes
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sense like yeah and like I I mean like
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and I mean this in the best way possible
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but like I remember you being very shy
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initially when you got here and I think
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it probably had a lot to do with like
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language barrier and stuff but like I
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remember you being very shy and not
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outgoing and then I don't know the
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longer I got to know you the the more
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more you just were you found like your
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voice as a person and um I don't know I
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just I don't know I'm remembering that
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play in particular and you had a lot of
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lines and yeah I remember you just like
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taking charge of them and being awesome
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at it so you know well thank you I
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appreciate that um yeah I think it's
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definitely the language barrier about
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the whole being shy thing because I feel
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like I was really annoying as like a
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younger kid I was very loud when I would
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go to
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aana and like stand on the tables and be
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very loud and scream a lot and like
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I don't know I mean to be honest like I
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feel like until about junior high high
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school we probably were a little bit
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more like surface level friends um I
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don't know I I don't know what the shift
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was where we became better friends but
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um the band was it the band it was
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theand it was the
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band that was you me and Derry right
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yeah it was I think it was just like I
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really wanted it to be a band but we
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weren't really gonna go anywhere you
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know but we were a band yeah I remember
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that and I remember like practicing at
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your house
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and I I yeah I don't know you would
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write songs I remember you'd send us
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songs and be like oh can you like put
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something put some music to this or
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whatever I'm sure they're probably
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somewhere I'm looking at my my guitar
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gear over in the corner it's probably
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somewhere buried in all that stuff um or
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saved on my computer or something but uh
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yeah you used to like write songs and I
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don't know we just like it was just fun
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we just noodled around on stuff you know
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if you have anything please send it to
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me oh my God I want to see because I
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don't remember it I do remember
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practicing like at at our house but it
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more turned into like we were just
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chatting about it you know and uh I
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still can't believe we had a band but I
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think that's what like brought our
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friendship closer you me and da started
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to like go out I think and I don't know
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we we had a lot of fun though it was
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cool and then also we went to church
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together yes yeah that's true as well
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yeah we all went to reality and so we
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were a youth group together and I don't
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know we just were around each other a
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lot I feel like it just kind of was one
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of those things it
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became I don't know we the same grade we
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graduated together um yeah which like
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that whole year too like what was cool
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with like achieve was that like we like
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our graduating class like they planned
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stuff for us to do like we got to have
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like senior ditch day and we got to have
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well I don't I don't know if we had
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senior ditch day but we had like events
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like I we go to people's houses and we
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do certain things and then we went to
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Disneyland all together and like just
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stuff like that we just got that was so
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that was so much fun I was looking at
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photos of that I I'm gonna proba you'll
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probably see it on Instagram but I had a
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photo of uh I want to say it was all of
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us but it was most of us at Disneyland I
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think we're in line for Space Mountain
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um Al together but I have very fond
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memories of that and what's cool I don't
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know if you remember this or not but Mr
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and Mrs y were the ones who took us on
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the Disneyland trip and we got there
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and I think all of us were a little
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worried that they were going to just
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like stick with us the whole day and
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they just said like go have your own fun
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don't bug us we're going to go have our
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own Disneyland day just the two of us
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and uh we'll see you at the end of the
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day at the car and they just kind of let
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us like go do whatever we wanted for the
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whole day at Disneyland wow that's so
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cool of them I didn't know not until now
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at least and I that's amazing I would
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have never let my kids go online like
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that too terrifying the other major
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thing that happened uh with us we went
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to prom together which uh I don't know
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about you I went to two H school promps
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I went with Carrie um and then I went
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with you and
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uh we I think ours was on a fairy boat
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if I'm not
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mistaken yeah I think um wasn't some
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school put it on yeah I think it was
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Calvary Chapel um the Calvary Chapel
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School which was like kind of homeschool
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adjacent was resp
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and um yeah we went was really fun I
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thought that was a really cool song I
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yeah I remember it being a lot of fun
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and I remember yeah going out in the
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water I danced with a lot of like my
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girlfriends there I don't think I've
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ever danced in my life before so that
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was a that was a fun experience I've
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been to like a lot of proms too and I
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think um that one was probably the best
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one um I think I went to like three or
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three different Broms or something I
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don't know I don't remember also The
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Homeschool dances we have to talk about
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those because oh my gosh uh I feel like
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everybody else's parents made them go or
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is that wrong I don't know my mom made
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me take dance lessons I think when I was
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about 12 maybe 13 and I didn't like it
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at first the first dance I ever went to
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was at the pet house I danced with one
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girl and it was because it they dragged
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me to the dance floor um to do it um but
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but after that I think I was pretty sold
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on the whole thing um so yeah I mean my
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parents didn't have to drag me there
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because I wanted to go but I do know
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some kids that got dragged there were
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you one of those kids no but you know as
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growing up I the impression that I got
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from like majority of the family is like
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oh you have to be here or something or
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that their parents made them go whether
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it was church or or like
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or um a d a homeschool dance or
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something like that and then my mom
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would always joke about going to the
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dances break all of the dress codes
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she's like yeah I'm GNA show up with a
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spaghetti strap and see what the mom
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say and we would just laugh about it it
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was so great yeah your mom was
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definitely a a troublemaker type person
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yeah no for sure but you know that's
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what we love most about her yes
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absolutely absolutely so tell me a
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little bit about like post homeschool
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years and like what like what are you
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doing now what's life like I knew you're
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married you got kids you know what's
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like what's going on what's going on I'm
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a stay-at-home mom now which is
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crazy um from anybody that knows me at
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least it's crazy because I like
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basically never babysat in my
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life so uh I have about like six kids
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wow so it's a lot of kids we have like a
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little Frenchy dog too and um it's a
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really beautiful family all the little
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girls and they always want to like
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they're very affectionate and loving
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towards one another and towards like
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their
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siblings
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and and and to me and Dad obviously and
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and it's so cool to just watch because I
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I wasn't that I wasn't that little when
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I first came to America you know so and
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it's weird it's honestly weird having
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kids and it's like a little piece of you
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just walking out and about yeah and and
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um it's it's crazy to watch them grow up
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and I feel like I understand parents
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better now like my own parents and stuff
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and um there're it's so weird because
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like now I call my dad and ask him like
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oh what do you what do I do about this
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or what do you think and like ask him
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for real advice when I would never do
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that if I was like in high school or
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whatever you know yeah so it's something
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really special and yeah I got married in
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like February so that was really cool
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congratulations thank you um so that's
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what I'm doing now what are the what are
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the age ranges on your guys'
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kids so the oldest is 13 that's my
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stepson and um my other ones are both of
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them are eight
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so
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um two
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eight-year-olds and a five-year-old a
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three-year-old and a one-year-old wow
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wow you got you got the
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gamra yeah but you know what I just take
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them all to the park uh because they
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have some amazing Parks here in San
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Diego and I take them to like the
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swimming pool and there's so much fun
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there's so much fun to hang out with
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they we always play video games now and
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it's amazing I love it and I feel like
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it's it's so much fun that's so cool
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well and like I don't know what the what
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are what the school is looking like but
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you know I mean school is practically
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back in session if not in session at
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this point so but I'm sure like summer
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is like super fun where it's just like
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everybody's at home
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and man that sounds like so fun oh my
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gosh I'm I'm having flashbacks to I used
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to babysit for a family and they I think
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had eight kids if I'm not mistaken and
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my sister and I we would tag team baby
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sitting and she would handle the girls
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which there was only two of and then I
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got the boys which it was just like
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Legos and Star Wars and video games and
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movies and stuff but it was so much fun
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to to do that and so I I can only
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imagine um what your house be like we
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have four girls and two boys but all of
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them play video games nice we like all
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do it together as a family too sometimes
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that's so fun that's so fun do you guys
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have like a game in particular that's
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like the
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game uh Call of Duty okay zombies yeah I
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love that yeah we love it Call of Duty
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anything pretty much but mostly right
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now it's the zombies yeah that's awesome
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oh my gosh that's so much fun the last
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time my folks were in town uh we play we
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got them to play video games and we
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taught them how to play Mario Kart and
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how to play Mario Party and uh it was
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just so funny because they haven't
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played video games in like so long and
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so um we kind of got
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them yeah like we it's funny because so
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there's a retro arcade here that um we
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took them to and so it's like all of the
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old arcade games right and so they were
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like crushing at Pac-Man and centipede
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and like all of that stuff and I'm
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sitting there going oh my gosh how can
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you play these like they're so ancient
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um it's fun but I'm like no good at them
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and they're super good and then I was
00:19:07
like okay well now you got to play my
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video
00:19:09
games you know um and so yeah but once
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you put them into Mario Kart they're
00:19:13
like wait what do I do again how do I
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turn the wheel you know all that stuff
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but um no but video games are so much
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fun yeah it is it's definitely awesome I
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love it too I I'm so glad your parents
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played with you that's amazing
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so are you I'm assuming you're not
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homeschooling your kids but um but did
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you think about it or are you
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homeschooling your kids you know I me
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and my oldest daughter who is eight
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years old turning nine
00:19:43
soon we talked about homeschooling she's
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like I want to be homeschooled because I
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want to spend more time with my family
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and I was like yeah that would be cool
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but and I think it would be great if I
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had the patience to do it I will do it
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because there was a period of time where
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I was frightful for my like for my kid
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and not that anything happened but like
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you know when there there was like a
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period where the shootings were
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happening and stuff like that and so
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sending your kid to public school and
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like having them um I don't know go
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through that that's fening and I don't
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want my kid to go through that too you
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know so I think that's when I was
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thinking about homeschooling but then I
00:20:29
was like I probably couldn't do it you
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know I don't know I maybe I'm just
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doubting myself though who
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knows I mean it's it's not for everybody
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but also it's like I don't know I I feel
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like it's so much different I remember
00:20:45
my mom I I was talking to her this week
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about it because it was like how did you
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pick curriculum like how did you decide
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on that and she was just like you just
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kind of you know you went to the the
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conf confence and they had all the
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different things and you just picked one
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and you just hoped it was okay and then
00:21:03
maybe the next year it was like this
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didn't really work let's try something
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different kind of a thing but then you
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you figure it out after a while you're
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like oh this particular math works and
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this science works and that you know
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what history lessons work or whatever um
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so I I don't know I mean I know she was
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she was kind of freaked out when she
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started home she started homeschooling
00:21:22
me I was 8 years old so I was your
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daughter's age when I was when I started
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and uh it was a rough couple years to
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begin with because we just had to figure
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it out
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but I don't know I think there's some
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pros to to public school as well and I
00:21:37
don't know you also it just seems like
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you guys are so involved in like your
00:21:41
kids lives that I think regardless of
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whether you homeschool them or public
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school or private school or any anything
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I think they're just going to remember
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like Mom and Dad like loved us and were
00:21:52
involved and wanted to know what was
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going on and like help us with homework
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and stuff like that and I think that's I
00:21:57
don't know I like that's what goes the
00:22:01
distance you know what I mean like you
00:22:02
were talking about with Mrs Sanchez like
00:22:03
you just remember her pushing you to be
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better yeah Mrs Sanchez was the one one
00:22:08
of the reasons why I went to Mrs Sanchez
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and when my mom like
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or I guess they made an arrangement or
00:22:16
something where she was my my teacher I
00:22:18
don't know um one of the reasons was
00:22:21
because me and my mom were
00:22:24
bickering oh okay yeah exactly and
00:22:28
that's probably cuz she didn't have no
00:22:29
patience for
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me so I'm like relatable I feel you
00:22:36
there do you feel like uh do you feel
00:22:39
like you guys fought because I don't
00:22:41
know I hear this all the time where it's
00:22:42
like the people who don't get along
00:22:44
typically it's because they're so
00:22:46
similar that they like they Clash a
00:22:49
little bit like they kind of have I I
00:22:52
don't know well what what let me explain
00:22:54
this okay so like I'm whether you
00:22:57
believe in star sign not I'm a Leo which
00:23:00
means certain things yeah and I know our
00:23:02
birthdays are really close to each other
00:23:04
but yeah so like you kind of have those
00:23:06
like dominant leadership personas like
00:23:09
kind of exist within you which can make
00:23:10
you kind of strong willed hard-headed
00:23:13
kind of a person and uh and you pair
00:23:16
that with another Leo and sometimes it's
00:23:19
just like o it's bad or like even my
00:23:23
wife my wife is a Scorpio and like it is
00:23:26
it sometimes is head-on coll with that
00:23:29
one um but we love each other it's just
00:23:32
sometimes sometimes it's just you know
00:23:34
it's just those Wills you know get you
00:23:36
know they get in the way do you feel
00:23:37
like maybe that was like why you and
00:23:39
your mom were kind of like at each other
00:23:42
it's weird it's weird that you say that
00:23:44
and bring that up because like a lot of
00:23:46
her friends have mentioned the
00:23:48
similarities I never really
00:23:51
seen like I've never seen that before
00:23:55
but I have gotten that before from some
00:23:57
of her friends like they seen they have
00:24:00
seen certain similarities between me and
00:24:02
my mom even though we're not you know
00:24:04
I'm adopted
00:24:06
and and I take it as a compliment though
00:24:10
I think that there's definitely where I
00:24:13
can relate with my mom is the rebellious
00:24:17
side of her yeah that's where we connect
00:24:20
I think I don't
00:24:22
know I feel that where we have bonded
00:24:25
actually when I was
00:24:27
younger one of the ways that we bonded
00:24:30
was
00:24:31
um was we played a game called uh well
00:24:37
we called it it was just our own little
00:24:39
game we called it top that sin okay and
00:24:44
uh that was where she would tell me like
00:24:46
her stuff when she did when she was
00:24:50
younger like her rebellious phase or
00:24:53
whatever the stories that she would tell
00:24:56
me and then that was my way of telling
00:24:58
her what I did wrong like during the
00:25:00
week or whatever and that's how I would
00:25:03
confess to her so we would play this
00:25:05
game called top that soon I don't know
00:25:07
if that makes sense but no that totally
00:25:09
makes sense oh my gosh that's that's
00:25:12
hilarious I it's really weird that's so
00:25:15
fun so like if your mom was like oh I
00:25:17
don't know I snuck out when I was 16 and
00:25:20
went to my boyfriend's house then you
00:25:21
had to like top it somehow and be like
00:25:24
well I did that and did
00:25:27
this pretty much pretty much yeah it was
00:25:31
kind of
00:25:32
funny funny looking back I was totally I
00:25:36
think at the time I it was my my way of
00:25:41
like confessing to her and like feeling
00:25:44
safe like oh this is where I did
00:25:46
something wrong or I think it's wrong
00:25:49
like um what I don't know what do you
00:25:53
think or what do I do I didn't know what
00:25:55
to do so I was like panicking yeah well
00:25:58
that's interesting too cuz it was it
00:26:01
like what obviously I mean nobody wants
00:26:04
to tell their parent that they like did
00:26:05
something wrong especially because like
00:26:08
fear of punishment but like what did
00:26:10
like was there punishment involved after
00:26:12
that or was it like no this is like a
00:26:13
safe place and then we're going to like
00:26:14
talk about it and maybe how you could
00:26:16
have handled it differently like what
00:26:18
what was that like that's a good
00:26:19
question so another thing is with my
00:26:21
parents I didn't really get grounded I
00:26:23
feel like a lot even when I would do
00:26:26
something bad which I don't understand
00:26:28
but it was more so like let's sit down
00:26:32
and talk about it all together which
00:26:34
would would make me even more nervous
00:26:36
you know because then my dad would be
00:26:38
like Julia and then let's come in my
00:26:41
room and let's talk and then we talk
00:26:43
about the problem and it would be so
00:26:45
like awkward and we would all be sitting
00:26:48
there and actually like confronting the
00:26:50
issue and I was so not not used to that
00:26:54
you know yeah dang that's so that's so
00:26:57
different
00:26:59
my man I my family we talked but like I
00:27:03
don't know I just I have more memories
00:27:04
of like my getting in trouble and my dad
00:27:07
being like you're coming to work with me
00:27:09
and then he would hand me to like the
00:27:11
janitor or like uh one of like the guys
00:27:13
who worked in the mail room or something
00:27:14
and be like I don't know give him some
00:27:16
job to do and I would like scrub out the
00:27:18
the refrigerator at work that was like
00:27:20
caked and soda and moldy food and stuff
00:27:22
like that like there was like I don't
00:27:25
know like it's just so it's so different
00:27:27
I don't know like I love it though I
00:27:29
love it like I'm very like Pro open
00:27:32
communication and like hey let's discuss
00:27:33
it let's figure out like you know is it
00:27:37
makes a kid nervous yeah for sure if
00:27:41
both parents are like come sit down and
00:27:42
talk to me I think it definitely makes
00:27:44
it K
00:27:46
nervous oh yeah absolutely I can't
00:27:49
imagine I still get nervous my parents
00:27:51
are like oh we need to have a talk I'm
00:27:52
like about what like I know I can't even
00:27:56
say a bad word in front of my dad I
00:27:58
can't I just can't do it yeah the it's
00:28:02
oh my gosh my the first time I cussed in
00:28:04
front of my parents
00:28:06
like post I don't know being as being an
00:28:08
adult I remember kind of being like just
00:28:10
subtly like slipping like in there
00:28:13
just kind of you just test the waters a
00:28:15
little bit and then it was like they
00:28:17
didn't really say anything about it and
00:28:19
I was like okay okay and then the first
00:28:21
time I used the f word around them I was
00:28:23
like and and it just kind of test
00:28:26
the waters a little bit and and what's
00:28:27
funny is uh my mom my mom cussed at us
00:28:31
when we were kids um quite a bit and um
00:28:35
so I so I was like she's like I can't
00:28:37
deny like you learned it from me it's
00:28:39
not like it's not like we went out and
00:28:43
you know and then we came back and she's
00:28:45
like where did you learn this language
00:28:46
it's like she's like I know where you
00:28:47
learned how to talk like this um but uh
00:28:51
yeah so it's funny it's just one of
00:28:52
those things now we as a family we talk
00:28:54
about we're like hey sometimes you just
00:28:55
got to let it out you know you just got
00:28:57
to you know also there's studies that
00:28:59
show that uh more intelligent people
00:29:01
actually use cuss wordss so you know I
00:29:04
just tell people I'm a genius
00:29:08
so so using that next time that's
00:29:12
hilarious oh man I I do that too though
00:29:15
it's hard not to nowadays you know
00:29:17
because I feel like everybody does so
00:29:20
it's hard to avoid it it is hard it is
00:29:22
hard to avoid it but yeah you can just
00:29:25
yeah tell people you're a genius and
00:29:27
it's harder with little kids I'm sure
00:29:28
because you know we don't want
00:29:30
three-year-olds necessarily always
00:29:31
walking around saying certain things but
00:29:34
yeah but you know um anyway oh my gosh
00:29:38
well I I'm so like it's so great to
00:29:40
catch up with you because like I've
00:29:41
missed you it's been a long time since
00:29:43
we've seen each other I want to say the
00:29:44
last time I saw you was your your
00:29:48
8-year-old was like a baby like just
00:29:51
born kind of yeah yeah that's Jazzy was
00:29:55
like I don't know yeah she was probably
00:29:58
just like born huh probably I mean I
00:30:00
remember her being in like a stroller
00:30:03
wasn't your mom at my baby shower I
00:30:05
think so it's possible cuz you had her I
00:30:09
was in college when you had her and so
00:30:11
funny enough I remember when after my
00:30:14
freshman year talking to you on the
00:30:16
phone you I had texted you to be like
00:30:18
hey I'm going to be home for like the
00:30:19
summer or something and uh we should
00:30:21
like hang out and you were like I have
00:30:24
something like I'm excited to see you
00:30:25
and like I have something to tell you
00:30:27
and I was like okay and then and I was
00:30:30
like well what is it and you're like you
00:30:31
have to wait till you get here and uh
00:30:33
and I was like okay and then a couple
00:30:35
minutes later you text me and you're
00:30:36
like can I just call you I can't I can't
00:30:38
wait to tell you or whatever and then
00:30:40
you called me and you were like I'm
00:30:41
pregnant and I was like oh wow I was
00:30:43
like okay um and uh I don't know it was
00:30:46
so exciting and um you know I know that
00:30:49
was like its own uh thing of itself but
00:30:54
but I'm you know I I don't know I love I
00:30:57
love that you became a mom and you know
00:31:00
and you're a great mom so thank you H
00:31:04
thank you so much I really appreciate
00:31:05
that I'm
00:31:08
definitely uh still learning it's a
00:31:11
learning thing I swear and also
00:31:14
like oh man I'm so I'm it's so it's s so
00:31:18
challenging too it's crazy yeah yeah
00:31:22
people don't warn you about this at all
00:31:26
it's it's wild they're just talk about
00:31:27
about how cute babies are and stuff like
00:31:29
that but they don't warn you about
00:31:31
motherhood it's really the
00:31:36
hood yeah for real part of the uh yeah
00:31:39
the the motherhood gang um man that's so
00:31:42
funny um yeah I mean I I I answer I
00:31:48
asked all the questions I had for you I
00:31:49
didn't know if there was any stories
00:31:52
that you had thought of to to share or
00:31:54
anything like that but um yeah I no I
00:31:58
think I think we covered all the bases
00:32:00
yeah very cool well thank you so much
00:32:02
for coming on I've I've loved catching
00:32:04
up with you and I promise uh I Won't
00:32:07
Wait Another like nineish years to uh
00:32:10
Nish years to reach out um because yeah
00:32:14
and uh I know we were talking at one
00:32:15
point about doing a reunion um so
00:32:18
hopefully we can get enough
00:32:19
homeschoolers and do some kind of
00:32:20
reunion at some point and uh catch up
00:32:23
with everybody cuz that's like I would
00:32:25
love that I think that' be so much fun
00:32:27
but again thank you so much for coming
00:32:29
on and being just like open to to
00:32:31
talking and sharing and yeah you know no
00:32:34
of course of course it's an honor to be
00:32:36
part of your cool podcast seriously I'm
00:32:39
excited and um I can't wait to see where
00:32:42
it goes
00:32:43
seriously and I'm honored to be a part
00:32:45
of it it's a big deal of course you had
00:32:47
to be you had to be uh well yeah this
00:32:51
has been the XOM scho pod uh if you
00:32:53
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00:33:01
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00:33:04
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00:33:08
[email protected] uh all that stuff will be
00:33:11
in the show notes of course but yeah um
00:33:13
Julia once again thank you so much for
00:33:14
coming on and until next time later
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