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You Didn’t Do a Bad Thing—You Are Bad

July 03, 2026 / 00:34

This episode discusses the impact of spanking on childhood development, the concept of total depravity in the PCA church, and the implications of feeling fundamentally bad.

The guest shares personal experiences growing up in the PCA church, highlighting how the belief in total depravity shaped their self-perception. They explain how this belief led to the understanding that being punished meant being inherently bad.

Furthermore, the conversation touches on the idea that children learn their bodies do not belong to them and that their voices are often disregarded. The guest emphasizes that silence becomes a means of safety in such environments.

TLDR

The episode discusses the psychological effects of spanking and total depravity in childhood.

Episode

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What I learned was spanking was that I am fundamentally bad. Um and I grew up in the PCA church, so we
00:00:09
um the Presbyterians, um they believe in total depravity. So it was like, you didn't do a bad thing, you are bad, and
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that's how your little child brain interprets it. And you also learn that your body isn't your own. Um and that
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your voice um doesn't mean anything. Um so your silence is your safety in that situation.

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Episode Highlights

  • Understanding Total Depravity
    Exploring the concept of total depravity in the PCA church and its impact on self-perception.
    “You didn't do a bad thing, you are bad.”
    @ 00m 13s
    July 03, 2026

Episode Quotes

  • Your body isn't your own.
    You Didn’t Do a Bad Thing—You Are Bad
  • Silence is your safety in that situation.
    You Didn’t Do a Bad Thing—You Are Bad

Key Moments

  • Childhood Beliefs00:03
  • Total Depravity00:09
  • Loss of Autonomy00:19
  • Coping Mechanisms00:30