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Trauma Isn’t the Event—It’s the Story You Tell Yourself

May 04, 2026 / 00:43

This episode discusses trauma, personal narratives, and healing. The conversation centers on how individuals interpret their experiences and the stories they create about themselves.

One key discussion involves the definition of trauma, emphasizing that it is not just the event but the personal narrative surrounding it. The speaker shares their own experience, highlighting feelings of inadequacy and self-judgment related to a research paper assignment.

The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own stories and consider how these narratives shape their understanding of self-worth and healing.

TL;DR

Trauma is shaped by personal narratives, not just events.

Episode

0:43
00:00:00
And people listening to this might be
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like, I mean, come on, that's [ __ ]
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ridiculous. You're going to call like
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being required to write a research paper
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traumatic. And I will counter with
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trauma is not the event that happens to
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you.
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Trauma is the story you tell yourself
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about yourself to make it through that
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experience.
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Right? So, the story that I told myself
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was, you're bad, you're evil, you're
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broken, there's something wrong with
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you, they had to dumb this assignment
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down for you
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because you couldn't do it, right? And
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that is the trauma, and that is what I
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can go back and heal.

Episode Highlights

  • Understanding Trauma
    Trauma isn't just the event; it's the narrative we create about ourselves.
    “Trauma is the story you tell yourself about yourself.”
    @ 00m 14s
    May 04, 2026

Episode Quotes

  • Trauma is the story you tell yourself about yourself.
    Trauma Isn’t the Event—It’s the Story You Tell Yourself
  • That is the trauma, and that is what I can go back and heal.
    Trauma Isn’t the Event—It’s the Story You Tell Yourself

Key Moments

  • Personal Narrative00:14
  • Healing Journey00:38

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