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[music playing] NARRATOR: Faye Williams
was young, beautiful, and someone who loved life.
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But one thing was missing-- She just wanted a secure,
safe, normal family home as such--
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like a fairytale. It's what we all want, isn't it? NARRATOR: When she
married Marian Caliman,
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she thought her fairy
tale had come true. You could just
see it in her eyes, like she got the partner
that she'd always wanted.
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NARRATOR: But Caliman
was no Prince Charming. I do know that they had
some fights along the way--
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verbally, and she told me
that he had hit her once. She was saying all sorts
just to get out of it.
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You know, begging him. NARRATOR: Would her husband
of three years heed her pleas
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and leave her alone? Or was Faye Caliman's
life truly in danger? [theme music] Bestwood in Nottingham,
a former Pitt
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village now home to a close-knit
community of young parents and their children. Among them-- single
mom Faye Williams.
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She was really, really pretty. She was beautiful. She had a beautiful soul
and a beautiful appearance.
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She was lovely. We came from
Kirkby-in-Ashfield, which is like a pit village,
and she went to school there.
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She had lots of
friends there, and she kept those friendships right the
way through to her adult life.
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If someone had run out
of sugar or something, or if someone needed
something from the shop,
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you'd pass their house, so you
could always drop something in. It's really nice, really.
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Quite old fashioned
to live there, yeah. NARRATOR: Faye had
settled down young and had
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a steady boyfriend,
barely out of her teens when she had her
first child, putting
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her party days behind her. She soon had another. Both were daughters. Everything that
a mother should be.
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She was there for
her children, and she adopted the way of motherhood. I think she became me.
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The kids wasn't allowed to
do this, that, and the other, and yeah, she fell
into it really well.
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Changed her completely. An amazing mom. She really was. Her girls meant
the world to her.
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They always did. They come first every time. NARRATOR: Separated from
the children's father,
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Faye lived happily enough. But there was, as she
saw it, something wrong. Faye wanted a family.
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That's all Faye
ever wanted, and she used to say to me and my
partner, I want a family.
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I want a family like
what you've got. She just wanted
that family routine. She wanted the girls to
have mom and dad at home
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and be the family that
she always wanted. NARRATOR: And in
2013 she met someone.
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She said that
she'd met this guy, and she said that he was
nice, and they was going out
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for drinks and they
was going to Nottingham and they was going
to meet some friends.
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NARRATOR: The guy was
27-year-old construction worker Marian Caliman, known
to his friends as Mario.
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She said, I like him,
and I really do like him. And she was telling
me things that they'd
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been getting up on, on
the dates and things what they've been up to. She told me she'd
met him on a night out,
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and she said she
really liked him. And she didn't really
say much because I think
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it was just texting at first. Like the odd meeting up. NARRATOR: Caliman was new to the
UK, having moved from Romania.
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There were issues for
the couple to overcome. She told me, obviously,
when they first got together
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it was very up and down. Obviously, they didn't
understand each other with the language barrier.
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But I think she saw
that as a challenge. She liked challenges NARRATOR: Professor
Jane Monckton Smith
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understands the appeal that
Faye will have held for a man who was living far from home.
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It's quite possible that that
ready made family would give him that-- that
feeling of permanency,
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of stability, of actually
having formed an instant life in a new country. NARRATOR: Although Faye
was clearly smitten,
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the more Stella learned about
Mario the more concerned she became. And I didn't like him.
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I didn't want to meet him. Apparently there'd been
some arguments at a flat where he was bunking
down with his friends,
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and there must have
been about eight people in this small flat. And there was sleeping on
the mattresses and things.
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And I'm thinking,
well, that's not something I want my daughter
to be associated with.
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NARRATOR: But Faye
was falling in love. Me and my partner
went out with them. We went out for
something to eat,
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and she was besotted with him. She was just-- you could
just see it in her eyes.
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Like she'd got the partner
that she'd always wanted, and he wasn't too much and
she wasn't too much for him,
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and you could just see the
connection between them. There was a connection
between them.
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Faye, when she
met Caliman, would describe him as Mr. Popular. He was charming. He was the man of her dreams.
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It was quite a quick, intense
start to the relationship. NARRATOR: Whilst
Faye's infatuation
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ran deep, Jane
Monckton Smith believes that Mario's apparent
feelings masked something more sinister--
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a practice known
as "love bombing." Love bombing is
very, very common in the early stages of a
relationship with somebody
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who's very controlling
and very possessive. They will present themselves
as Prince Charming almost.
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I am your perfect man. Every clue that they pick
up from what you are saying to them, they will
come back with a reason
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why they think that's wonderful. They think that's great, and
you can come away with the idea
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that you have met
the perfect person. NARRATOR: And Faye wanted
everything to be perfect.
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I think she always
wanted the family home. She always wanted
to settle down-- have her kids, a marriage.
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She wanted that
life as much as she liked to be with her
friends and that, but they were family as well.
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So she just wanted that
fairytale, I think, and she did search for that. NARRATOR: Marian Caliman
presented as Mr. Right.
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He was happy to become
partners to Faye. Father to her girls. Something that would have
shown him in a good light
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Oh, he must be
a really good guy. He's willing to come and
help me with my children.
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He's not put off by that. And of course, these
things can actually be the opposite of what we think.
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NARRATOR: However, Faye's
friends noticed that Mario made little effort with them.
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He wasn't very sociable
around Faye's friends. You never really got much of
a conversation out of him.
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NARRATOR: Jealousy played a
part in the relationship, too. Yeah, I mean, when you
first get with people,
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you've got exes and things
can be very turbulent anyway. But I do know that she told
me he was involved with his ex
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and she found messages
and things like that. And I think she was just
always worried that it was--
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he was going to go back there. NARRATOR: But Faye was committed
and eventually her mother
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understood that Mario
was here to stay. And then there was
talking about you taking things further, and I
thought, oh, I better meet him.
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So they had this barbecue, and
I went round and I met him. And he was nothing
what I expected.
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And I thought, well, if
it's going to be serious, I need to now step up
my game and be there.
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And so I went round. We had a good night. He was very polite. Very, well, charming,
really, and nothing
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was too much problems,
too much trouble for me. He'd kiss me on the cheek,
and, hello, how are you?
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Yeah, it was very, very
pleasant, and he made it-- he made it his mission
to make me like him.
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NARRATOR: Mario moved
into Faye's neat red brick terrace in Millbrook Place. Faye was a single mom.
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She'd had a relationship
before that hadn't worked out. She had two daughters. Clearly, she still had
this very clear vision
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about the fairy tale romance-- this idea of a
nuclear family where you have a father and
a mother and you bring
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your children up together. NARRATOR: Faye's
children took to Mario, and the couple tried for
a child of their own.
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After many
unsuccessful attempts, in 2014 Faye became pregnant. She finally managed to
conceive with this guy.
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And she wanted to
make it work, and she wanted the father to be there. NARRATOR: With the arrival
of her third child,
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Faye and Mario's
family seemed complete. Inevitably, talk
turned to marriage. She told friends that
a ring on her finger
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would complete her fairytale. Things started moving so
quickly and with such power,
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and there was this
whirlwind around him-- almost like, oh, thank goodness. Somebody has come
to rescue Faye.
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NARRATOR: Talk of an
engagement continued. Faye had no idea how wrong her
Mr. Right would turn out to be.
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Mr. Charming.
Mr. Perfect. Mr. Wonderful. There's a phrase, if it sounds
too good and it is too good,
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perhaps it is too good. He spat in her face. She told me that
he's hit her once.
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She leaned over, grabbed
some tissues, wiped her face, and it was like
nothing had happened.
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She just put a brave
face on all the time. NARRATOR: Was this a fairy
tale or a horror story?
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Faye Williams became
engaged to Marian Caliman, the father of her child. By now, he did seem to be
perfect son-in-law material.
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He tiled my kitchen. When I had a new fitted
kitchen, he did all the tiling. And he was good
with construction,
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so he did laminate flooring. He painted for me. And I'd say, aw, let
me give you something.
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Oh no.
No. No. This is fine. NARRATOR: And Faye's
family were delighted when the couple announced
they were indeed to marry.
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The wedding would be proof
of Mario's commitment. But whilst Faye threw herself
into planning the big day,
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her future husband
seemed less enthusiastic I got the impression that
he wasn't really into it
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but Faye was. I said, do you
want to marry her? Yeah. Yeah, of course, yeah. I said, right, OK.
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I said, well, you
don't seem excited. And he says, well, it's a
bit overwhelming for him.
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He said, that's girls
talk, so he left us to it. NARRATOR: And on
August the 4th, 2015,
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the sun shone in Nottingham. The beach fair was in
town and the children enjoyed going on the
fairground rides when Faye
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Williams became Mrs. Caliman. She was-- a lace dress. Very flattering. Beautiful hairstyle.
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Makeup was done, and
it was the first time that she'd been and had her
hair done professionally,
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so she took pleasure
on the day and time, and she looked beautiful, yeah. NARRATOR: It was her mission
to make her husband happy.
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She's devoted. A devoted wife. Always wanted
everything to be perfect for him and for her family.
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She'd bend over
backwards for him. Just a perfect-- perfect life. NARRATOR: It seemed Faye had
everything that she'd ever
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wanted, but those
closest to her soon became concerned about the
man that she had married.
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It didn't come
to light at first. It was just snippets of things. It wasn't the whole
package straightaway.
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It was-- he'd control over how
many smokes that she'd had. So they'd visit and
she'd say, I'm just
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going to go out for a smoke. Can I have a smoke? Oh no. You've had enough. And she's, well, they're mine--
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I bought them. No, you're not having one. And I didn't like that. NARRATOR: There
was other evidence
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of controlling behavior. He was offered to come around
and then didn't come around.
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But again, Faye would still come
over, and then you could start. Her phone would
never stop going.
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When she walked in once,
she picked up her phone and she had to FaceTime him to
prove that she was in our house
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and not elsewhere. NARRATOR: Her friends noticed
a difference in her demeanor. She'd be quite sheepish,
like if we just met on our own
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or like at school with all the
girls or the moms and stuff, she'd be a totally
different person than when
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he was in her presence. And it was kind of
like you couldn't really make a
conversation with her
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because it was a bit awkward. So then at that, from seeing him
like that, being really quiet,
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and just seeing her
change of behavior, I thought, well, yeah,
it don't seem very nice.
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NARRATOR: Setting off on
a rare girls' night out, Fran Bailey would
witness another side
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to her friend's husband. We got to the top of the
street, and as we was leaving,
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Mario was walking down the
street and she pulled over and she said, I'm
just nipping out.
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And he says, what
about my dinner? And she was like, you'll
have to sort yourself out
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because I'm going out. And he said something
in Romanian. She knew what it was. I didn't, because obviously
I didn't have a clue.
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And he spat in her face. She told me that he'd hit
her once, and that to me was enough, and I said that
that shouldn't happen anyway.
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If this is the first time
she's experienced violence from Caliman, then the dynamics
have changed and that's a real
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concern as a high-risk factor. If Caliman's managed
to control her by words alone and
behavior, but now he's
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happened to step up to
violence to get the control, then that is a real
warning high-risk indicator
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about future violence. I did the school
run with Faye one morning and was walking up to
school and she was limping.
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And I was like,
what have you done there, because she
was starting work after we dropped the kids off.
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And she says, oh,
I've twisted my ankle. And then I was like, oh,
how you managed to do that?
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And she was like,
oh, just running down the stairs I twisted my ankle. And then I looked down.
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I thought because she had
like these little ballerina shoes on, and the top
of her foot was bruised.
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And I said, if you
twisted your ankle, while why you got a bruise
on the top of your foot?
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And she was like, oh, I
didn't twist my ankle. I trapped it. I trapped it in the door.
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NARRATOR: Faye was quick to
forgive her husband's actions, even to blame herself.
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She'd always try and
see a reason behind it. I don't know, if they
fell out she'd tell, yeah,
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but I'd done that. You know, she would make an
excuse to cover up something that he has done,
and no matter how
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many times you say to
someone, no, but it's not, they don't see that. You don't see it yourself.
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But yeah, she did used
to blame herself a lot. Maybe Faye herself couldn't
see the fact that what was
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happening to her was abusive. If that's how normal-- if that is her every day-- and it could be
that the belief is
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that that's just who he is
and things aren't that bad and minimizing it. NARRATOR: Why had Faye
become so submissive?
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Very often, people will
stay in a relationship with somebody who's controlling
because they believe
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that the control stems
from some vulnerability that this person has. And I hear quite a lot people
say things like, if he was just
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loved enough to
feel stable, to feel secure in the relationship-- if
I can prove to him that there's
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nothing to worry about,
that I'm not going to leave, that will cure him
of this behavior.
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But they never change. In Faye's mind, the
guy she met in the pub is the real Caliman.
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Actually, the real Caliman
is the abusive, nasty, controlling, violent man. NARRATOR: By the end of 2015,
things were coming to a head.
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So on Christmas Eve
2016, Caliman goes out with his friends and then he
comes back presumably stinking
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drunk, and there's a big row. She's not happy that he's this
drunk around the children.
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It starts a big, violent
confrontation during which he throws her down the stairs.
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NARRATOR: Caliman walked
out, leaving the family to spend Christmas day alone. Faye was devastated.
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He know how much
Christmas was. To her it meant a lot,
especially the girls waking up
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on Christmas morning
was everything and he managed to steal
that from her because he'd
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put her through that. Within a couple
of days he's back saying that he misses his
baby, and she takes him back.
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And this is something we often
see, even after very, very violent encounters like this.
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A wife in these
situations will sometimes take the husband back. We hear Caliman is referred
to like Jekyll and Hyde.
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Can be nice one minute,
not nice the next, and that's really common. And if you've got a baby and
you've been with this man
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for a long while, you want
to invest in the nice. You want to think
that, actually,
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the bad days are not that bad. NARRATOR: Caliman might
be back in the family home
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but his mask was slipping. In April 2017 things
start to change. The evidence of her abuse starts
to become visible on her face.
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There's one particular occasion
when her mother reported seeing her with a black eye
with strangulation marks
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around her neck. As a relationship goes
on and the abuse continues, the good days get less,
the bad days get more.
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NARRATOR: Until now, Faye had
managed to hide the violence, but in April 2017 that changed.
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And this time, Faye
has injuries to her face. But more importantly
and more dangerously,
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she has bruising to her throat. So she has strangulation marks. One of the things we know
about strangulation assaults
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is that they raise the risk
of homicide by eight times. If somebody has
strangulation marks,
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they are at much higher
risk than most people in similar situations of
ending up dead at the end.
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NARRATOR: Stella
grew increasingly worried about her daughter,
a daughter who was battered
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and bruised and seemingly
had the weight of the world on her shoulders. I knew something was
wrong and I said to her,
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I said, I'm a bit
worried about you. And I said, you know, you need
to tell me what's happening.
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So she said she'd got
debts, the household debts, and a Barclay card that
belonged to him, and catalogs.
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And I said, well,
tell me how much. And it turned out that she was
nearly 5,000 pounds in debt.
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NARRATOR: With Mario
and Faye both working, their finances should
have been in hand.
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Her one time Mr. Perfect, the
doting father and stepfather, the hardworking provider,
was taking considerably
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more than he gave in every way. He never paid a penny
into the household, so the bills were racking up.
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But he was working but he never
gave her a penny for anything, so she was getting more
unhappier and unhappier,
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and as time went
on, she was just going through a bigger hole. The weight started dropping off
and, yes, it just looks like it
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just spiralled into nothing. NARRATOR: After three
years of marriage in 2018, Faye took the decision to
separate from her husband.
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Even friends who had
been worried about her had no idea how toxic the
marriage had really become.
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I just thought that she'd
fell out of love with him. She tried to tell him in
the best way possible,
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but still wanted a father
there for her daughter. And that was the
main thing for her.
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She didn't want to lose
him in that side of things, but couldn't be
with him anymore.
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NARRATOR: Ending
the relationship seemed like Faye's only
option, but it was a decision
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that came with risks. The point of separation
is the most dangerous time for somebody in a relationship
with a controlling
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person like Marian Caliman. Faye probably did not recognize
the danger she was in.
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NARRATOR: Marian
Caliman seemed in denial about the relationship. Caliman probably didn't
even think his behaviors--
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there's anything
wrong with them. That sense of entitlement, I can
behave like this in my house.
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You're my wife. That's my child. I can do what I want. And if I ask you to do
something, you will do it.
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Very many perpetrators don't
see that their violence is out of order. They believe that they have
a right to act in that way.
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They blame the victim. So until you take
accountability responsibility for your behavior, you
literally can't shift it.
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And what we know about
Caliman is that Caliman was quite happy with his behavior.
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NARRATOR: Faye believed that
leaving her violent husband would give her the
freedom to live again.
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She couldn't know the
danger she was in. 2018 and Faye Caliman had called
time on her abusive marriage.
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She planned to be independent
and to provide a better life for herself and her children.
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She got a new job
in a call center that she'd been
really, really wanting. It was her dream job.
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She was really
loving that, and it gave her that bit of a future
in a sense of independence.
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She really did enjoy it. She flourished. She was getting
out of the home more. She seemed to be building a
life for herself without him.
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I noticed a change
in her because she was coming out a lot more. I'd see her, she'd be
with other friends.
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Start socializing
more and I thought, you know what, she's
doing really well. I'm really, really
happy for her.
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NARRATOR: In spring 2018,
Faye was looking forward to her mom's 50th birthday,
and Mario was still part
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of the planned celebration. We was going to fly
out Fuerteventura, and there was going to
be me and my partner.
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There was going to be Faye,
Mario, and the three girls. Although they'd split up by that
time, he was still part of it,
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and I still classed
him as the son-in-law. And I said, would he
still like to come?
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He said yes, so he was
still down to come. And I thought, well, at
least if we get away,
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it's beautiful in Fuerteventura. It's sunny. They could go for a
walk on the beach.
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I can have the girls. They can have a romantic
meal, whatever they like, and try and
reconcile everything.
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She didn't tell me everything,
what was going off, you see. NARRATOR: Faye was
being bombarded
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with messages from Caliman. Her distress was
occasionally all too evident. On one such occasion she
was with her girlfriends
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when they got together
to watch the races. So we all went out
for the Grand National.
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She came around. She was very quiet that day, and
look, she's not a quiet person.
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So again that's when he'd
been sending her messages. The things he must
have been saying--
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they just got to her. And she didn't even
say much all night, and normally we'd confide in
each other with everything,
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but she didn't say anything. I didn't realize
that he was pestering her as such, so she was really,
really going through it.
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But she just put a brave
face on all the time. NARRATOR: It was on
Friday the 27th of April
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that Kirstie Newberry
saw her friend. She was not her usual self. She was outside the shop
and Mario went in the shop.
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And she'd got this puppy-- she had a puppy there
in the car with her. I had the same dog at the
time so I rang her up.
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Obviously, I'm,
poor little puppy. But she was very timid. And I was like, are you OK?
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And it's, like,
she couldn't talk. Yeah, it's like, I'll talk
to you later sort of thing.
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So that was the
last time I saw her. NARRATOR: The next
day matters escalated. Child care, again,
was the central issue.
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On the 28th of
April 2018 things had really come to a head. There's been a big argument
over childcare arrangements,
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and Faye phones her
mother in floods of tears saying that he's
kicking off, and Stella
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offers to go around to help. It was the 28th of April, and
I'd been to work in the morning
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till the afternoon, and the
night time was when I relaxed. So me and my partner
was planning a movie.
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Faye was at work and
she was coming around to collect some bikinis
and towels and things
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that I collected for the holiday
for the following Saturday. And she was a little bit
agitated when she came round.
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She finished at 6 o'clock
and I'd had rung her and I said, are
you still coming?
00:25:53
Yeah.
Yeah. I'm on my way. So she came. She was a bit agitated, and I
said to her, what's the matter?
00:26:01
She said, I've got to go. NARRATOR: Caliman
had previously agreed to look after their daughter.
00:26:07
Faye confided her
concerns to her mother. Might Mario simply
leave the child alone?
00:26:12
He's got the little one
and he's threatened to leave her in the house on her own.
00:26:19
I said, right, OK, so I
gave her the bags of things, she kissed me, hugged me,
see you later, love you lots.
00:26:29
Then went and got in the car. Just settling down and she
rings about half past 7:00
00:26:37
and she said, Mom,
he's threatening now not to have the little one
tomorrow while I go to work.
00:26:45
She was on the weekend,
so I said, right, OK, I have her on a Monday anyway. By all means bring her
here and I'll have her.
00:26:54
NARRATOR: For Faye it was
a solution to a problem, but for Mario Caliman it
was a red rag to a bull.
00:27:00
She will go and have her
mother look after them. Now that means that even the
tiny bit of control that he
00:27:06
might have been able to
exert is now redundant, so he has nowhere to go. He is completely useless
in the relationship to her,
00:27:14
and that would have been
absolutely infuriating to him. NARRATOR: With arrangements
in place for her daughter,
00:27:19
Faye returned home
to find her youngest in bed and her estranged
husband in a state of rage.
00:27:26
In the sitting room he attacks. The next thing that is known
is that Caliman is violently
00:27:33
attacking his wife, and
even more shockingly, he's filming himself doing it. This was a particularly brutal
attack, absolutely rage filled,
00:27:44
and he was meting
out punishment. He hadn't lost
control of himself. This wasn't some
external reason.
00:27:53
This was self-generated rage. The video showed him
abusing her, assaulting her, pointing a knife
at her, telling her he
00:28:04
was going to kill her. We tend to think that
when two people break up there is heartbreak
and that people
00:28:13
are acting out of character. Somebody like Marian
Caliman is acting out of character because
his heart is broken
00:28:19
because he loved her so much. He is actually outraged that
she should dare to leave him.
00:28:28
For Faye, I imagine in the
initial stages of the attack she would have just considered
this another assault,
00:28:34
so she'd have been very scared. She'd have been afraid
of his behavior. She'd have obviously been
concerned about the fact he was
00:28:39
filming, but I
imagine contextually she wouldn't have imagined that
he was going to murder her.
00:28:43
He wanted to enjoy
that moment where he was getting his revenge on
Faye, and he filmed the attack.
00:28:53
He actually filmed the attack. He's abusing her. He's brandishing a knife at her.
00:28:58
He's threatening to kill her. He's assaulting her,
kicking her, punching her, pushing her over.
00:29:03
And then, tragically,
he stabs her 12 times. This is punishment. This is punishment.
00:29:11
He stabbed her
multiple times-- 12 times. In the neck, the head,
the chest with such force
00:29:19
that the knife is broken
and a piece of the knife is left in her body. The final stab wound
was into the heart
00:29:25
and that was the
one that killed her. More violence was used than
was necessary to kill Faye.
00:29:32
This wasn't about
just killing her. He could have done
that with one stab. No, this was rage--
00:29:39
overkill, punishment--
enjoyment at some level-- that he was finally
punishing her.
00:29:46
She knew she was being punished. This is about outrage. NARRATOR: Their two-year-old
still upstairs, Faye stabbed
00:29:56
12 times and bleeding heavily. Any delay in calling for
help would almost certainly
00:30:01
mean she would die. It was 20 minutes
after 10 o'clock on April 28th when
Marian Caliman called 999
00:30:10
and told them what he'd done. Emergency services mobilized. I'd gone out that night
and I was on my way home
00:30:19
in a taxi about 11
o'clock and there was just helicopters everywhere. And we were in a small village,
there's, like, literally,
00:30:27
one way in, one way out. So it's very weird to
have something go off and no one know about it.
00:30:34
No one knew what's
actually happened, but there was just helicopters,
police, ambulances.
00:30:40
It was just literally crazy. NARRATOR: For Stella
Williams, it was the moment every parent dreads.
00:30:45
Almost midnight and
a knock at the door. It was the police. He said-- he asked
me my name and if I
00:30:52
got a daughter called Faye. And I said yes. And he said, I've got some
really bad news for you.
00:31:02
I'm so sorry to tell
you that there's been a fatal incident
where Faye has been injured
00:31:09
and it was fatal. And he had to tell me
three times, because I was like, let me get dressed.
00:31:18
Is she OK? Is she in the hospital? Is she asking for me? Can you take me to her?
00:31:25
NARRATOR: But the
attack had been fatal. The call for help too late. And at 1/2 past 11,
paramedics pronounced
00:31:32
Faye dead at the scene. It didn't register
and I didn't believe it. So I took the phone
and I rung Stella
00:31:44
because I thought
I've got to ring. Not dead. If he's going to hurt her,
maybe he just beat her up
00:31:51
and but maybe she's admitted in
hospital, but not surely dead. And Stella told me
it was right, and I
00:32:01
just collapsed in the kitchen. NARRATOR: As the terrible
reality of Faye's death
00:32:08
sank in with
Stella, she then had to face the fact that
it was at the hands of her own son-in-law.
00:32:14
I said to them,
it's him, isn't it? And they said, well,
yes we do believe it is.
00:32:22
So they said that they
was looking for him, and apparently he'd gone
under the railway bridge
00:32:32
and he'd taken a knife. He was going to kill himself. NARRATOR: A cold-blooded killer
was armed and on the loose.
00:32:50
30-year-old Faye
Caliman was dead, her suspected
killer on the loose. For Stella Williams
grief led to confusion.
00:32:59
I was making excuses
for him in the beginning. It was like no, no, no. It's an accident.
00:33:03
He's gone wrong. It's not as bad as it seems
and they've got all this wrong. No.
No.
00:33:09
No.
No. This doesn't happen to me. This doesn't happen
in our family. You read about it, but
it doesn't happen here.
00:33:15
And it was. It was. So when I wasn't
believing it, I was still making excuses for him.
00:33:23
Looking back now, I
think, have I gone mad? He's done this to my daughter
but I'm still trying to make
00:33:32
excuse after excuse for him. Just could not take it on board. NARRATOR: A full-scale
manhunt was mounted,
00:33:38
and in the early
hours of the morning Caliman was found under a tree
by a nearby railway bridge.
00:33:44
Within 24 hours he was in
court and remanded in custody. When he pleaded not
guilty, he just looked smug.
00:33:54
You can't even
explain the feeling. Like, why would you want to-- you've took a daughter
away from her mother.
00:34:01
A mother-- a child
has been motherless now through your actions. Why would you want
to go to trial
00:34:08
and put them through everything? Why would you when you
know what you've done? He knew what he'd done.
00:34:13
NARRATOR: And the
day Stella should have flown out to Spain
was spent in a way she could never have foreseen.
00:34:18
Instead of us all
getting on a plane, I spent the morning in the
mortuary at her bedside.
00:34:28
NARRATOR: Two months later,
Nottingham Crown Court and the trial. Stella thought she
knew what to expect.
00:34:34
She was wrong. I expected him to
say, I was sorry-- he was sorry, and I expected
him to put his hands up and say,
00:34:42
I didn't mean it. And no, he didn't. He didn't even look at me. He wouldn't even
look at anybody.
00:34:52
He just stood with his
head down and nothing. No remorse, no
tears, no nothing. Just stood there as if
nothing had happened.
00:35:06
NARRATOR: He hoped for the
lesser charge of manslaughter, citing a momentary
loss of control.
00:35:10
Caliman had called a
friend after the murder to say that he'd lost control-- he saw black in his eyes.
00:35:16
However, this was entirely
rejected by the trial judge. He said that this wasn't
hot-tempered crime.
00:35:22
This was cold, hard,
and calculating. NARRATOR: Judge Jomba
just refused to believe
00:35:27
Caliman had simply snapped. Seasoned detective, Neil
Lancaster, explains why. Caliman went
there with a knife.
00:35:36
He had enough presence
of mind to get his mobile phone out to film
what he was going to do.
00:35:42
This isn't a loss of control. He knew what he wanted to do. This is cold. It's calculating,
and it's vicious.
00:35:49
He filmed himself killing
the mother of his child. NARRATOR: There would
be no drawn-out defense.
00:36:03
Prosecution had come
across vital evidence-- Caliman's own video
of the murder. We was asked if we could see
it because in court the judge
00:36:17
is saying quite a lot of things
that's happened in stabbings and domestic violence.
00:36:25
And it was just if we
could play it in court, then the judge could
actually see it
00:36:30
and he could make his
judgment from there. So we went ahead with that. NARRATOR: It was something
no parent should see.
00:36:42
And never, never
seen her like that. She knew. She knew she was going to die. She was saying all sorts just
to get out of it, you know,
00:36:54
and begging him. And that on my worst
days, my lowest days-- that haunts me. That's all I can hear.
00:37:11
But because I was told
there was a video, I knew what the video
would look like.
00:37:23
But seeing it and hearing it-- you just don't understand the
feelings that run through you,
00:37:32
and I saw exactly where
the knife was positioned. The phone. Can you imagine how
that must have felt?
00:37:41
To see her pleading
in her pajamas, almost begging for her life as
the blows rained down on her.
00:37:48
Can we all imagine
what that must be like to see your child
being killed on film
00:37:53
during a criminal trial. The only thing I didn't
know was what she was wearing and what she would be saying.
00:38:04
I hadn't taken
that into account. But I knew exactly where
she would be sitting--
00:38:08
in her chair. But to see the footage-- that's crippling. NARRATOR: Finally, Caliman
had been seen for the monster
00:38:18
that he was. Few believed he
felt any remorse. The most common emotion
felt after these homicides is
00:38:25
relief, not remorse
or shame or guilt. And Caliman was a very
manipulative person.
00:38:32
He would possibly
have feigned remorse. But somebody who films the
violent murder of their wife
00:38:40
isn't that type of person. They're callous. There is no remorse there. NARRATOR: Caliman eventually
pleaded guilty to the murder
00:38:48
of his wife. On the 28th of September
in Nottingham Crown Court he was sentenced.
00:38:54
That day will never leave me--
in court when he got sentenced, because it was just the
sheer-- you could hear
00:39:00
the sheer pain in
everybody, not just her family or her close friends. There was newspaper
reporters in there.
00:39:08
There was police officers
and there was all in bits. You could just-- it
affected everybody.
00:39:15
It affected everybody
and it was just-- it was just like he didn't care. It's just-- there was never--
00:39:27
sorry would never cut it, but
there was never no remorse or there was never a look on his
face to say, what have I done?
00:39:36
NARRATOR: His guilty
plea meant his sentence was reduced by three years. He got 19 years.
00:39:41
He got 21, but
because he finally and eventually he pleaded
guilty, they gave him 19.
00:39:50
But they gave him
a life sentence, which he will have to serve-- 19 years before he
gets any parole so--
00:39:59
I wanted him, you know. But that's not in this
country now, is it? We don't do hanging.
00:40:06
NARRATOR: Her friends
and family can do nothing to bring Faye back but they
have learned of the dangers
00:40:11
of ignoring signs of abuse. If I even noticed
anything little like that, then I would--
00:40:19
I'd be straight there, because
I would never want anyone to go through what Faye went through.
00:40:24
Ever. For what Faye's girls are
going to have to go through for the rest of their life.
00:40:30
For Faye's family not having
their daughter with them. Just everything. You don't-- it
doesn't get easier.
00:40:39
You just learn to live with it
because you can't change it. Being a mother I
would have been there,
00:40:44
you know, and it would have been
a lot different had I known. But I don't know why she
didn't tell me and that is
00:40:52
one of the things
that I ask myself-- why don't-- why didn't you? NARRATOR: Faye was a beautiful
and bright young woman.
00:41:03
A friend, a mother, a daughter,
and a wife to the wrong man. He was described as
a devil with two faces,
00:41:11
and in some ways that's quite
accurate, because he had this face that he
used to manipulate
00:41:18
everybody around Faye
to represent himself as this wonderful person. The other face was
actually just the real him,
00:41:28
who was somebody
who was entitled and controlling and
possessive and unstable. I just remember her
being fun, loving,
00:41:38
and I'll never find
a friend like her. I never will. She was the best person
I've ever met in my life
00:41:46
and we had so much plans. So much to do. And it just-- it was just robbed
and she didn't deserve it.
00:41:54
She was very caring, very
loyal, loved her family, loved her friends and if you was
in her little corner, you know,
00:42:08
you'll know that
she was a person-- she'd got your back. So yes, she was. She was lovely.
00:42:13
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