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Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79

November 16, 2023 / 01:10:16

This episode covers the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting, the life of Adam Lanza, and the impact of mental health and gun control. The hosts, Nick and Captain, discuss the events leading up to the tragedy, including Adam's childhood, his mental health struggles, and the relationship with his mother, Nancy Lanza.

Nick and Captain provide a detailed account of Adam's early life in Newtown, Connecticut, highlighting his diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome and sensory processing disorder. They discuss his isolation, lack of social interaction, and the concerning drawings he created throughout his youth.

The episode also touches on Nancy Lanza's attempts to support Adam, her struggles with his mental health, and the eventual breakdown of their relationship. The hosts reflect on the warning signs that were present and the societal issues surrounding gun control and mental health awareness.

As the narrative progresses, the hosts build up to the tragic events of December 14, 2012, when Adam Lanza committed the horrific act at Sandy Hook Elementary School. They emphasize the importance of understanding the complexities of such tragedies and the need for ongoing discussions about prevention.

Listeners are reminded of the emotional weight of the topic and the necessity of approaching it with sensitivity. The episode concludes with a recommendation for further reading related to true crime and psychological suspense.

TLDR

This episode discusses the Sandy Hook shooting, Adam Lanza's life, and mental health issues.

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[Music] [Music] crime [Music] the worst grade school shooting in US history at least 27 dead 20 children
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seven adults including the principal and the gunman killed himself and all over this town in churches like the United
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Methodist Church behind us well the lights are on and they are still open for prayer tonight it will be all night
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people have been Gathering here for prayer to lean on each other and lean on a belief in something bigger than
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themselves to help get through what is just impossible to believe here or anywhere else the sentiment here echoed
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in what you're seeing now down by the Washington Monument in DC uh M members of the Connecticut delegation was there
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but this story is really about their home here New Town Connecticut just 27,000 people this is a place where
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where people know each other families know each other and what happened today is known by all and it's not just about
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how many were lost it's about the age what is hitting everyone so hard is the reality of these being children that
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were targeted by a Madman we now know his name we know he's 20 years old Adam Lanza we know that before he came to
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this school he shot his own mother Nancy in the face killing her at her home the
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looming question is why this man then decided to come to this school he shows up at a place where they're making
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gingerbread houses and preparation for the holidays and Christmas presents just kids a man in Black enters with a vest
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and multiple weapons and begins a [Music] massacre [Music] Coline was not the first school shooting
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in history but if you ask people my age that's the first school massacre that we
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remember and you hate to force yourself to rank these tragedies but Sandy Hook certainly is one of the worst these
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stories are becoming a common occurrence we won't say it out loud but we are becoming a little numb to these horrible
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events mhm we used to kiss our kid and send them off hoping that they would learn something and make us proud but
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these days we kiss our kids and we hope that they come back once we shake off the shock and try to comprehend these
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tragic stories we must know why we seek out to answer every question one can think of but even after we have done so
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we are still confused we have we have to blame someone that part is easy as usually the guilty party is found close
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to his victims with a bullet in his head but that's just not enough that's not good enough because kids are not
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supposed to die parents are not supposed to bury their children and children and
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young adults are supposed to have too many exciting things to look forward to in their lives to ever think or consider
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of carrying out these plans that end lives ruin families destroy communities and break the hearts of a Nation why do
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these things happen is the problem our gun control laws is the problem mind altering Pharmaceuticals that treat our
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troubled youth or is it the bullies we simply may never know but we're not going to stop asking why and we're not
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going to stop looking into these events to try to prevent them from happening again yeah I believe most people our age
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or maybe a little younger uh the the times of high school or middle school or Elementary School being a place of
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safety a place of Education a place of where you had so many first experiences maybe your first best friend your first
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first girlfriend your first kiss who knows what it was schools were a place of safety a place that you would
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reminisce on once you left school you know the the Glory Days and now schools when you see a School flash on the news
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screen you don't think oh something positive you immediately assume oh no another school shooting happen again and
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with Sandy Hook it's more heinous because the victims were of age six and seven yeah and the the hard thing here
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Captain was you know when we met in the garage last week and we left saying okay
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next week is Sandy Hook we're very quickly thrown into the mix when we dive into these cases and this one especially
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where where we're you know it's so difficult to to research because of the tragic events it's so difficult to
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report on this because it's such it's such a horrible crime that happened the key thing here though is that at the end
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of the day this story is about not about the monster that carried out this crime
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but about the this story is about the school of Sandy Hook and its wonderful teachers and students by examining a
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case like this we might be able to see what some of the causes were and that might be able to put us on higher alert
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so we could prevent a tragedy like this happening again in another school in your town but it also is a reminder that
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life is short and life is precious and while we're here on Earth that maybe we should have more respect for each other
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and more love for each other Sandy Hook Elementary School is in the town of New Town Connecticut New Town is part of the
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Danberry metropolitan area and the New York metropolitan area one person that everyone probably knows is Caitlyn
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Jenner who of course back then would have gone by the name of Bruce attending New Town High School the population of
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New Town is about 27 28,000 people so this is not a big town this is more of what I would call a sleepy town this is
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an ex extremely Safe Community very very low crime rate it's like a modern Mayberry two of the residents in this
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community in 200 12 are Adam Lanza and his mother Nancy now let's go back here a little bit we have Adam Lanza was the
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second of two children of Peter and Nancy Lanza their first son is Ryan Lanza who is four years older than Adam
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the L of family moved to New Town when Adam was only 6 years old back in 1992 this is when became the VP of
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Finance for General Electric which is one of the more prestigious companies in the new town area Peter is described as
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a workaholic often getting into work very early in the day and then staying until 10: p.m. or even later Nancy took
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care of the kids Nancy grew up on a farm in New Hampshire and from a young age hunting was a hobby of hers she would
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often go hunting with her older brothers uh she did work for John Hancock before
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she decided to stay home home with her two boys if you watch the documentary New Town you'll notice that these are
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larger Siz houses normally like two to four car garages and their lots are bigger so the average lot I would say
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and I'm not I don't know the whole area but I'd say there's a lot of lots in this area that they're small communities
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but they have about 2 acres per lot yeah quite a bit of space between the homes there um at a very young age Adam seems
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different um and this is noticeable by his parents and his loved ones when he is 5 years old he is diagnosed with
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Asperger syndrome which is a form of autism with a significant difficulties in the realm of social interaction uh
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shortly after that he is diagnosed with sensory processing disorder this affects
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the body's sensory signals the SPD Center describes this as signals that are not organized into appropriate
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responses creating a neurological traffic jam that prevents certain parts of the brain from receiving information
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needed to correctly integrate sensor data Adam displays all of the common symptoms of this of this SPD uh avoiding
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groups of people and kids recoiling from touch flinching at sudden movements seeking seclusion and he also prefers to
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be in the dark Adam definitely seemed a little different and with his Aspergers obviously we we know why some of those
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things would make him seem different but it didn't seem like he was that interested into fitting into any gr no
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he never seemed to speak much or to try to make friends he just never seemed interested in making friends or
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relationships with other people his age um at home he also didn't seem to want to have much of a relationship with
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anyone in the lands of Home other than his mother Nancy was very much a helicopter mom when it came to Adam
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Nancy and Adam built a bond through target shooting this starts when Adam is very young uh he shoots his first gun
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when he's 4 years old Nancy encouraged their shared hobby for target shooting and an interest in Firearms this was
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really the only outdoor activity that Adam seems to enjoy because of Adam's disorders Nancy was overly concerned
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that Adam would become the target of bullies Adam's peers would often describe Adam as picked on occasionally
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but really for the most part Adam was really he really wasn't bullied he was was just kind of ignored with Adam's SPD
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his anxiety grew a lot more at home he would have these temper tantrums which would grow with age and so every time
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he'd have these temper tantrums it would like he become more violent and the number of these fits as well they
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increased yeah and this was getting worse for Adam in his middle school years yeah and it's around this time
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that one of his middle school teachers would discover some of Adam's drawings now these are images depicting people in
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various states of death at home Nancy is finding similar drawings of Adams as well as printouts showing scenes of
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death and violence that he had found on the internet uh Nancy does seek help from a professional regarding these
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images that she's finding and concern about Adam's well-being and maybe where his head's at right but she does not
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feel that Adam's needs were being met by that professional and this would be difficult for any parent to deal with
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with a typical kid but in Adam's case his his communication skills are not the best regardless this is a difficult
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thing to to experience and to deal with because your your son is roughly let's say 14 at the time and you know I can
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remember being a kid and I'm not going to pretend that to be some kind of expert parent nor do I fully understand
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this disorder uh or either of these disorders that he has but you know when you're a young teenager you know
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especially for me you're listening to Metallica and things like that and you doodle at school while you're trying to
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pass time and SC s creep their way onto uh you know my my notebooks and my journals and things like that now did I
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have any fantasies about going out and and collecting skulls or or or you know creating Havoc or death well a side note
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we once were called to the principal's office cuz we had a band in high school and uh our buddies made a poster and
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they called us into the principal's office cuz they thought that the drawings were satanic now we didn't make
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those drawings but we didn't disapprove of those drawings either were we satanic
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kids no we were not we just happened to be in a band and we just you know whatever we thought it was creative well
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of course it raised a red flag for the the principal or vice principal or whoever called us down there and then
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then they notify parents and then parents have to to be concerned because here's the issue too you know and I
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understand Adam you know they found these drawings at school as well as at home MH uh which makes it you know that
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more troubling but in our situation it was I think my parents kind of reacted like well maybe I should treat this like
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it's some kind of big deal because the school thought it was a big deal they didn't they they saw it and really
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didn't didn't really didn't get it either yeah I don't think my father ever got why I was in a band now in Adam
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situation it's different it causes more of a red flag if you will because he has
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lack of social skills and lack of social life and he just doesn't even talk to anybody I mean he doesn't talk to his
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family he doesn't talk to his classmates he just doesn't talk period but to her benefit she seeks professional help for
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Adam yes she does and she ultimately ends up removing him from that situation it's reported by her friends that her
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complaint was she was so sick of hearing people tell her that Adam's just going to grow out of this situation but but
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again here that's where I kind of take a bit of problem with the situation because yeah all these maybe the
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teachers and the school counselors and this professional that you've sought out are telling you he will probably grow
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out of this if you're feeling that his needs are not being met maybe stick with it a little bit longer but what a scary
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situation to be in as a parent and maybe she had this gut intuition that maybe there was something a little more
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Sinister going on with her child around this same time Adam's parents well their
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marriage starts having problems and Peter and Nancy they would separate a couple of times before Nancy would file
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for divorce in 2008 uh Adam's temper tantrums are getting worse and this isn't example of one there's there's
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actually one day before school this is when Adam is in eth grade Adam is actually taken to the hospital due to an
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anxiety attack that he's experiencing this is primarily because of his SPD he was afraid of going to school and it's
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not because of the kids you know he wasn't afraid of going to school because he was bullied or because he wasn't
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performing well in school no he was afraid because of this disorder he was afraid of like loud noises and the
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crowded hallways the slamming doors the lockers the loud kids all of this was making it much harder for him to go to
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school or to navigate through the hallways in the classrooms yeah and I have a longtime friend that is an
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educator and his specialty is autistic kids or kids with aspergers and this is a common um symptom is that they really
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are Disturbed uh by loud noises and by a lot of commotion well on this one situation where he's taken to the
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hospital Nancy talks to the doctor and she wants to try to get a note from the doctor stating that Adam should be
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homeschooled she wants to keep him home for the remainder of his eighth grade year so that he can kind of settle in he
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can he can focus on schoolwork and not have to go to this place that's causing him this massive anxiety and a bit of
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trauma so to speak uh she wants to keep him home from eth grade before he enters
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high school but this does not end up happening she doesn't get a note from the from the hospital and she doesn't
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keep him home yeah and in hdand sight you wonder if this would have helped his disorder helped what he was going
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through um but I guess we'll never know and it's in eth grade that we start to see an increase in the troubles with
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Adam as well as the disorders that are preventing him from wanting to go to school well now that he's in high school
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you would think that you know the kids before weren't so there weren't necessarily mean but they weren't really
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attentive of him he was just kind of invisible the invisible kid but I wonder if that that bullying uh or being picked
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on ramped up much in high school well you're exactly right he is kind of the invisible kid it's we're going to see
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that same underlining sentence that we had said earlier where he's not he has picked on occasionally it's described as
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picked on occasionally but no one ever called it bullying my right my only problem with this though is this is
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coming from all outside sources right and so I had a really good friend in middle school that actually switch
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schools going into high school did not go to our high school he was picked on so much that his family everybody
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decided hey he's going to a different high school now I knew that because I was one of his best friends but people
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around didn't really understand well why is he not going to our high school and I'm going well you didn't understand how
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bad it was now the difference between my friend and Adam was my friend talked to
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his parents told counselors what was going on I wonder if in Adam's case there was a lot of bullying or being
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picked on and and some other things going on that just never were reported well you have you have two arguments
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here um Nancy would Nancy believed that he was being picked on that he was bullied where you have the school
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children and his peers saying that no that wasn't the case he just he we knew he was different uh he didn't fit in
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that's that's easy to see but he never tried with us he didn't want to talk to any of us he didn't want to have a
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relationship with any of the kids here and therefore I don't think any of the kids made an effort on their end either
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well Nancy wasn't helping out Adam at all with giving him that Lloyd Christmas haircut it's strange that you say that
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because there's actually a story by the the man that cut his hair for years and he described the situation as strange
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because you know you go to a barber shop or you go to get your hair cut and it's
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usually a place where the the person cutting your hair is trying to make small talk with you and usually it make
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talk back and sometimes it it Sparks up conversations and whatnot this was not the situation for Adam or for Nancy and
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I and I bring ny's name into this because the man specifically says that on every time that Adam went to get his
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hair cut he was he was with his mother his mother would come in and basically tell Adam where to go to sit down uh
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Adam would go to the the barber chair and rather than you know the barber says I constantly try to to make jokes or to
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talk about things that were going on to spark up conversation with the boy yeah try to ease his mind when he put that
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metal bow on his head to give him the haircut and and I think a lot of that too is that you know these Barbers
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usually are are are people people people person yeah and he probably saw that there there was some anxiety with this
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young man and he was trying to make ease the ease the trip for him but he said that Adam would just stare at the tiled
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floor and it was it was strange that the boy never really interacted with any body at the shop there it was all of his
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mom kind of telling him where to go okay Adam we're done now let's leave um you know like I said a bit of that
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helicopter mom again I think the whole uh hindrance you know hindsight of the whole thing is maybe she was enabling
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him too much and holding his hand too much and not not enabling him to grow mhm and you worry that that might have
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been the situation had she been successful taking him out of eighth grade maybe sometimes sometimes these
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fears we have to face them to to overcome them um once Adam starts High School uh they started off by they put
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together a plan to kind of ease him into the school uh this plan was devised by Nancy working with the school and the
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school's officials he started off the year in a private setting and once he got used to the new school to the high
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school he was slowly introduced into the traditional classes with other kids and
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he was taking a lot of honors classes again even though he had these disorders he was not he was not a dumb kid you
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know he was he was bright and he he excelled at academics and oddly enough um Adam seems like a little bit of a
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cartoon character yeah his peers in the school officials would later recall that
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Adam wore the same outfit to school every day he wore baggy khaki pants and the same blue polo shirt and he carried
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a briefcase uh and I wonder if it's not the actual same Polo or if it was was just like we have multiple of the same
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outfit but maybe Adam didn't really give a [ __ ] so then his parents were like you
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know what we'll just you kind of give him a uniform yeah I don't think that you know he he's not communicating well
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with anybody I don't know that he's able to communicate or desires to communicate
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to his parents what he wants to wear to school so maybe they just buy some things that he seems comfortable with
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but yeah he could have created his own uniform wearing that same blue polo shirt and khaki pants the weird thing
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about the briefcase first of all that's a strange thing to carry in high school uh but the thing about this too is a lot
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of people when they saw the briefcase opened they said it was practically empty so it seemed even more strange
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that he would carry this briefcase it sounds to me there's a lot of accounts that when he was trying to navigate
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through those hallways that he was using the briefcase as kind of a buffer between him and the other kids that he
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would typically walk right on the edge of the hallway right up against the wall and keep that briefcase either right out
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in front of him or to the side of him that would kind of block him from the other children yeah well with the
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Asbergers it would you know that makes a lot of sense because he does not want to
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be touched most uh people with Asbergers have a real issue with personal space and it was not uncommon for Adam to
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require an escort to help him navigate through the hallways of the high school and we'll get right back to the case
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2023 cheers everybody where we left off Adam Lanza was entering High School his mother is concerned Nancy is concerned
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with his uh mental state and kind of what's going on in his head and she's having a very difficult time
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communicating with Adam yeah and at the start of his sophomore year uh we do see
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a little bit of progress uh from from Adam as far as the social aspects concerned uh he surprises everybody and
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he signs up for an after school program uh this is one of those AV Tech clubs uh
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where he is the he's video recording the school's foot basketball games um so what we're seeing here Captain I believe
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is that we have this Young Troubled Man right this this boy who has trouble fitting in and he doesn't want to be at
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school because of his anxieties and his disorders however he's very smart and I think that when he's starting to see
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classes that challenge him a little more that he's able to dive into that and this might Peak his interest and he's
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coming out of his shell a bit here uh he's he's in a way opening up and like we said a lot of his classes at this
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point are honor classes yeah and he's taking things that seem a little little more fun to him like shop class and then
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he's involved in this AV tech club um he does trade in the blue polo shirt uh for
00:29:46
a green one and he will wear that shirt for the remainder of his sophomore year uh he does lose the briefcase and he he
00:29:54
gets a more traditional bag m uh that you would be used to seeing um yeah I always Rock the two straps it's around
00:30:02
this time that Nancy starts adding to her collection she's purchasing more guns more Firearms again she is
00:30:09
encouraging her son's hobby of target shooting because other than this AV tech club he Adam still doesn't have any
00:30:17
hobbies other than video games and target shooting uh It is believed that she kept some of the guns for herself
00:30:24
but that she also gave some of the guns to ad now this has been a topic of of discussion quite a bit that that were
00:30:32
the guns you know the guns were obviously hers and maybe she should have kept them locked up better but there's
00:30:38
plenty of evidence here that we will see going forward that these guns were purchased for Adam mhm now remember we
00:30:46
have this divorce that the parents and the family have just gone through recently and it's Adam's classmates that
00:30:53
say that Adam was greatly affected by his parents divorce and that while he did not talk to most of the other kids
00:31:00
he did seem to write about the separation often mhm in September of 2009 Adam starts playing and becomes
00:31:07
obsessed with a video game called combat arms this is a multi-player game it's a
00:31:13
modern style firstperson shooter game the player is in control of a gun and the object of this game is to kill the
00:31:21
most enemy players in this game there is a form of gam playay where whomever kill
00:31:27
KS the most players in the shortest amount of time is the winner and you can also increase your kill number by
00:31:34
killing yourself this situation is quite different from real life obviously in the game world he would fit in he would
00:31:41
fit in you know they would have these forums and these groups that you could talk to he was accepted into these
00:31:47
groups where he would discuss game strategies and occasionally joke around uh Adam creates an online and gaming
00:31:55
Persona in which he calls himself self cane breed this becomes a positive social experience for Adam yeah for I
00:32:03
think a lot of parents you might go well this is a little odd but the fact I mean
00:32:08
the fact that he is talking to anybody or he's excited about anything that he is social with uh that's a positive step
00:32:17
in the right direction and it's probably because of these games that he's playing
00:32:21
but he's also having an increasing military Obsession and fascination Adam also becomes involved in an online
00:32:29
community for gun enthusiast uh he knows his stuff too from from his interactions
00:32:35
on this form again he fits in very well and he's knowledgeable about Firearms yeah and what we're also seeing with
00:32:41
Adam is that he's not very good with social situations but it seems like when he's behind a computer screen or a TV
00:32:49
screen when he's playing these games that he's kind of excelling more so than he ever has as far as the social
00:32:57
communication and it seems like he's definitely willing to yeah he's fitting in and he's reaching out to other people
00:33:03
and communicating with them I do want to point out that this you know I mentioned
00:33:07
the game combat arms that this is only one of many games that Adam was playing uh most of these games were very violent
00:33:15
games yeah I've never actually heard of that game before I had not either so I and I don't know where to like rank
00:33:22
these games as far as violence go it sounds to me like all of them were pretty violent one of the games that was
00:33:27
playing is a situation where the shooter was even killing women and children in the game yeah which is awful but in this
00:33:34
case in this conversation if you will the big conversation always is with these violent g games are kids more
00:33:42
likely to commit violent acts I don't personally have an answer or a stance on that I don't have an answer either and I
00:33:49
don't want anybody saying well Nick saying take away the violent video games because I think there there is a place
00:33:54
for them uh but one thing that we see see time and time again in these situations where you have a mass shooter
00:34:01
especially one that's a younger person that we are seeing a common it's a common occurrence that these guys are
00:34:08
playing violent video games and I say guys because almost all of these crimes are committed by young males right but
00:34:15
then the question becomes did the violent game you know in you know did the violent game cause the person to
00:34:21
become more violent or was this person already a sociopath or psychopath and they were drawn to the violent games I
00:34:29
think each situation is probably different um I don't think that we can say that it's the violent video games
00:34:35
100% I do think that what it does do though is that it desensitizes them you know when you're logging 500 hour you
00:34:43
know there there was one of these games I'm not sure if it was the combat arms game or not but we talked about how
00:34:48
violent that game is but there was one of these violent games that Adam had logged over over 500 uh times that he
00:34:55
had played the game I think in defense of his mother on this I mean Adam is in honor you know in honor programs and
00:35:03
he's doing well in school academically not socially and his only social Avenue are these games so maybe she thought
00:35:12
this was you know this would help his uh social skills outside you know in the real world and not just the virtual
00:35:18
world well is it kind of an easy way of being a parent that when you have a son that likes to lock himself in the
00:35:24
basement and he's taped off off all the windows so that he remember he likes to be in the dark he prefers to be in the
00:35:31
dark is it an easy way to be a parent when when you're your troubled son just goes off into the basement for hours
00:35:37
upon hours and you don't have to deal with him you don't have to put up with the temper tantrums because he's happy
00:35:43
he's entertaining himself and you're not really fully aware nor seem to care what
00:35:49
he does in that room because you know he's safe and you know that he's he's entertained and he's not disturbing you
00:35:56
well and in nany's defense I mean you have a child that has a lot more challenges faces probably more
00:36:02
challenges than the typical kid um but we see this time and time again with just typical kids you know the parents
00:36:09
just go oh well you're on a phone or you're on an iPad or whatever do you know who cares if it's healthy for you
00:36:16
uh I just don't have to deal with you right now I do think though that it again it desensitizes these kids to that
00:36:22
certain level of violence even though it's just onscreen violence uh but again if he's if he's logging over 500 games
00:36:29
on this one particular game that's thousands upon thousands of hours spending watching those violent images
00:36:36
over and over again and we do know from studies that if if a kid is young enough
00:36:41
that they almost cannot separate the the the reality you know real life reality from what they're seeing on the screen
00:36:49
and I right and I don't know much I don't know a lot about Asbergers but I've also heard that you know they can
00:36:55
get hyperfocused on something and so do you really want your kid that can get super hyperfocused on something to be
00:37:02
hyperfocused on killing people or you know what I mean or or violence in general well it's around the same time
00:37:10
that the Adam would start to spend countless hours studying Mass Killers online he spent about seven months or so
00:37:19
just collecting information on these killers to the point where he was an expert on mass murders to the point
00:37:25
where he was going on to Wikipedia and he was correcting entries you know if people had put wrong dates on there he
00:37:33
would go in and correct them if somebody had put you know names of locations were
00:37:37
wrong but most of the time he was correcting the weapons that were used or descriptions of those weapons that were
00:37:44
used in those attacks yeah and at this point Lloyd Christmas is getting pretty creepy right and I think at this point I
00:37:51
can put point a finger at Nancy on the idea of if your kid that is hyperfocused on mass murders and going on Wikipedia
00:38:01
and changing dates and stuff this is something you should be aware of you're right yeah or or at least have a hint of
00:38:07
it right right if you're if he's spending hours and months on this project that he's created but well but
00:38:15
okay I'm going to play devil's advocate for myself okay but if he's not communicating it makes it tough how
00:38:22
would she know I mean you'd have to go the extra step and look at you know look here's a I'm not a parent but I think
00:38:29
all parents should do this I I was a parent for a time I was a stepfather and kids had cell phones and iPads but at
00:38:38
any time I would just go let me see your phone like they might be laughing a little too hard and I just go let me see
00:38:46
your phone and if they didn't want to give me their phone that phone was taken away for a week but it was constantly
00:38:52
checking their you know not constantly but you know just double- checking what is is their uh what are they searching
00:38:58
on the internet yeah and I and and I like these households where you see parents saying you know there's not a
00:39:04
closed door in this house this is an Open Door House you know that we're not going to hide behind closed doors so
00:39:10
that way everybody in the household kind of knows what's going on with the children I I do understand the older
00:39:16
that these kids get that gets a little tougher they do deserve some privacy well and it's harder in this community
00:39:22
as well because these houses were larger yeah so it wasn't like you know the shoe
00:39:28
boxes we live in I mean these were houses that you know a person over here you know on one side of the house and
00:39:35
the person on the other side of the house might not even hear each other not only larger but emptier I mean as Adam
00:39:41
has gotten older you know the parents get divorced the father moves away uh Ryan's four years older than him he
00:39:48
moves away as well uh that the house is big and it's and it's empty mhm you know
00:39:54
internet search is a side there's a lot lot of items that Adam had that his mother should have found well we talked
00:40:00
about him researching these Mass killers and wanting to know everything about them but he also kind of had some kind
00:40:07
of like memorabilia of them where he he had newspaper clippings and stories that
00:40:12
he had printed from the internet regarding these different Mass Shooters so those were would be physical items
00:40:19
that his mother could have found now one of the most disturbing probably the most
00:40:23
disturbing item that that we know of is a spreadsheet that he created now I'm not certain that this was a physical
00:40:31
spreadsheet I don't know that he actually printed this off and referenced it right but we do know that it was an
00:40:37
at least an electronic thing that he had stored on his computer now what was this
00:40:42
spreadsheet this was he had he had listed several hundreds of mass Shooters and just just to hear that sentence
00:40:49
alone is terrifying to remind yourself that there's been hundreds of these situations right but he had list listed
00:40:56
several hundreds of these Mass Shooters and created this spreadsheet that has been reported to have been approximately
00:41:05
7 foot long in length yeah so we don't know if it was actual physical or if it was digital but if you did print it then
00:41:12
it' be 7 foot in length you're right and it would be approximately 4 foot wide Jesus so this is a massive uh collection
00:41:20
of data here and this this appeared to be Adam had ranked them from you know number one to whatever however many
00:41:31
hundreds of these people he had researched but it seemed to be mostly based off of who had had the most kills
00:41:39
or created the most dramatic situation um you know so we we have that's some pretty extensive research there Captain
00:41:48
um some serious time that he spent diving into these these other people that that are creating Havoc yeah and
00:41:55
frankly this is becoming a lot more disturbing after some faculty changes at the high school Nancy started not to
00:42:02
believe that Adam's needs were being met remember we talked about when he started
00:42:07
his freshman year he she had worked with some school officials so that he could start off in a private setting yeah and
00:42:13
he could work his way into the general population of the school um one of those faculty members or I I don't know
00:42:20
exactly who she worked with to be honest with you but they were no longer there at the school as as the years G by and
00:42:27
at some point she feels that there are not there's nobody there that understands Adam that understands his
00:42:33
disorders and or his needs right she doesn't have an ally in the fight anymore correct so this would be uh his
00:42:41
junior year just after his junior year Nancy decides to take Adam out of New Town High School uh and it's it's
00:42:49
reported by people at the school that that Nancy seemed to be angry with the school but Adam also seemed to be angry
00:42:55
with the school because of this because he was leaving this place even though he
00:43:00
had this anxiety about going there we did see some progress while he was in high school and like you said you know
00:43:07
it's supposed to be a place that you look back on that that's of good memories um even though he had this
00:43:14
anxiety we don't know that maybe he didn't have good memories there you talk about a boy that that it his family's
00:43:21
moving away it's just him and his mother in a house other than violent video games and research about violent
00:43:28
criminals that maybe his only social interaction outside of those four walls was the school maybe the only thing he
00:43:37
was leaving the house for was to go to school I mean other than the shooting range and to go rent some video games
00:43:43
well and I wonder also at this point he was playing video games online um assuming and being in part of that
00:43:50
Community sometimes kids you know will find a couple buddies at school that also play so maybe had a couple people
00:43:57
that maybe just even said hi to him and maybe that was enough for him to enjoy that experience at school you're right
00:44:03
it could be a bit of a common ground give him something to talk to other kids about um so after high school after he's
00:44:10
taken out of high school of his junior year uh Adam is enrolled in Western Connecticut State University Nancy
00:44:17
believed that he would do better in a more adult environment where there would be less chaos um and well I feel for her
00:44:25
too because that at some point you're grasping at straws right yeah I don't the thing is what we're seeing is we're
00:44:32
seeing a a mother that cares she absolutely cares it's just she doesn't know what to do and I and I don't know
00:44:40
that every that most of us would know what to do in the situation but we're seeing her try some different things to
00:44:48
me I just question if she could have received a little more information from the people around her on on ways to cope
00:44:56
with this and to deal with this um I don't know that her answers were always the best and I know that I'm sitting in
00:45:03
a seat where I'm able to look back after this terrible tragedy and and go well she didn't she didn't do the right thing
00:45:10
did did Nancy love Adam yes 100% we see we see that we see a mother giving a lot
00:45:16
of effort here but uh you know we we also know that effort doesn't always take place of intelligence or or
00:45:24
informative decisions right and and I think sometimes uh we'll never know but I think sometimes people are lost causes
00:45:34
you know it's like you know the whole what came first to the chicken or the egg we don't know but I mean possibly in
00:45:41
this case he just had these Demons Inside him from the beginning yeah there's also some question with Adam
00:45:47
about on top of these disorders did he have any kind of anorexia um you know because he is a
00:45:53
very thin very thin young man MH um and so there there's been a lot of question about that I've heard different accounts
00:46:03
couldn't really put my thumb down on it if that was the actual case but I know that his size and his stature also led
00:46:10
her to believe that that he would be a even more so a target of bullying yeah I think when you see pictures of him and
00:46:17
some of the famous pictures of him you know he looks I mean he was 20 years old at the time of the attack he doesn't
00:46:26
look 20 at all no he looks almost 12 yeah and his his bone structure and his face is very prominent and and he almost
00:46:35
looks malnourished very pale uh but again we said he preferred the dark and and and you know we know he was in the
00:46:41
basement constantly at home with the with the windows taped up so that there was no light coming in yeah and then a
00:46:47
lot of these kids that get super focused on whether it's iPad or or video games or whatever it is that they lose track
00:46:55
of time and they they don't you know they forget to eat or they don't even care to eat academically he had no
00:47:02
problem with high school um and intelligence wise he had no problem with handling the classes or or the the
00:47:09
school um it's just I just really wonder here if that's the right thing to do to
00:47:16
remove a kid from high school and then place them in an adult setting in an adult environment such as a as a
00:47:22
community college yeah in all fairness though I mean you know I school is not a huge step up you know going from high
00:47:29
school to college is not a huge step up so it's not like you know he would have been a senior the following year so he
00:47:35
only stepped up one year in advance he did take seven classes uh when he was at Western Connecticut State University uh
00:47:44
receiving a 3.28 grade average um so again academics is not a problem for this young man um in 2010 Adam's Father
00:47:54
Peter now let's talk about their divorce for a little bit okay Peter we had said
00:47:59
was very successful worked for General Electric uh was a vice president he he made approximately like half a million
00:48:06
dollars oh good for him well in the divorce uh how did you say that dores yeah Nancy received a lot of alimony or
00:48:16
a lot of child support right um but it was also agreed upon the two that they both understood that Adam had plenty of
00:48:26
issues needs and Peter understood that Adam needed to be cared for practically 247 even even as a young man and
00:48:37
probably as an adult as well and so he understood that his son that nobody could go off and work a full-time job
00:48:44
and care for him at the same time so I don't think that Peter fought any of anything that was decided in the divorce
00:48:51
he it was agreed upon that he he gave almost half of his salary to Nancy so that Nancy could stay home provide for
00:48:58
Adam and take care of him yeah and that's good on Peter right and and again this was not only for the time that Adam
00:49:05
was a child but as an adult as well Nancy would receive this amount of money for the rest of her life with steady
00:49:12
increases annually as well um so money is not the problem money is definitely not the problem but what is also decided
00:49:20
is that Nancy would have primary custody of the kids mhm and but Peter's going to
00:49:26
spend regular time with the children as far as visits go you know how these things work you take them on the
00:49:31
weekends or for holidays uh try to take the kids places so he's spending an ample amount of time with both of his
00:49:38
sons uh it's in 2010 that Adam's Father Peter begins dating again or at least to the point
00:49:46
that it's serious enough for Adam to recognize this and at this time Adam decides to stop seeing and communicating
00:49:53
with his father at the same time he also decides to do the same with his brother
00:49:59
as well as an uncle that he was close to Growing Up also in 2010 Adam receives his driver's license uh but again the
00:50:07
only places he's really interested in going to would be the shooting range and the video game store uh he also drops
00:50:14
out of school at this time he stops going to college so 2010 there's a there's a lot of things happening here
00:50:22
right uh we we see we see a boy that's taken of high school he goes into the college situation for one year and then
00:50:30
he shortly after that he's dropped communication with his father his brother his uncle collects his driver's
00:50:38
license practically just staying at home might as well not have a license at all
00:50:42
with the exception though it should be noted though he was going to the shooting range on occasions by himself
00:50:48
at this point once he had the dri's license um but then dropping out of college ultimately one could assume that
00:50:54
he's going to the driving range with his own guns as well but right of course you
00:50:59
mean the shooting range he's not going to the driving range and scaring the hell out of the golfers with his own
00:51:04
guns let's fast forward in time just a little bit to 2012 yeah Nancy Lanza starts getting out
00:51:11
of the house more we have to think about this situation here we have a we have this troubled child and it's probably
00:51:16
caused her obviously a lot of stress uh on her life and her situation and in 2012 she she developed some more
00:51:24
friendships with some of the locals she starts going to a local pizza place for a beer or two during happy hour a few
00:51:31
times a week um some of the information that we would later find out about the relationship between Nancy and Adam
00:51:39
would be from some of these friends that she created at at this happy hour yeah everybody needs somebody to vent to and
00:51:46
what better but what better way to vent than with some pizza and beer well she also starts going on overnight trips
00:51:53
with friends from time to time as well you know it Adam is very much an adult and even though he doesn't have any
00:51:59
hobbies or anything other than locking himself in the basement and playing violent video games he's fine with
00:52:05
inside of those four walls he's able to care for himself and she goes on these overnight trips I believe she went on a
00:52:12
dozen or so in uh the year of 2012 um remember we talked about Adam having this growing obsession with the
00:52:22
military well he had he wanted to become a marine and this was something that he
00:52:27
was only really being vocal about with his mother and he had posters all over the walls in the basement of different
00:52:35
combat situations you know things like tanks and aircraft carriers and things that you would heavy machinery that you
00:52:42
would see in the armed forces um at some point Nancy has to have a long talk with
00:52:49
Adam and explain to him that he's never going to be a marine um this obviously because of his disorders he could never
00:52:58
be a marine he I mean you're talking about a kid that had trouble leaving the home a person that had trouble going to
00:53:05
school which I have some uh trouble with because I think on some level she could
00:53:10
say well look you know we get you into some counseling and there are certain things that may you know maybe set it as
00:53:17
a goal maybe he won't reach that goal but it gives him something to kind of get out of bed get out of the basement
00:53:23
try to do something productive with his life she would also tell friends that she's hanging out with that Adam's time
00:53:29
in front of the computer screen or in front of a video game screen seems to be increasing now that he has less
00:53:35
responsibilities or obligations and he also seems to be turning away from her as well uh maybe this is just him
00:53:44
getting older or maybe this does have to do with his time spent with these video
00:53:48
games yeah or maybe like I said I I I believe on some level she has this Mother's intuition and maybe that she
00:53:56
knows that there's something more Sinister going on here Adam is 20 now and Nancy is still finding disturbing
00:54:03
drawings in his possession you know this thing that that all the experts the people at the school had told her he
00:54:10
would probably grow out of well now he's 20 he's a young man he's not a boy anymore and she's still finding these
00:54:17
disturbing drawings one of them and and these are drawings that he these are sketches he's making one such sketch is
00:54:23
of a woman holding a rosary and she is shot she's being shot by Machine Gun fire okay another one is an open field
00:54:32
and in the open field lie mutilated bodies of children scattered throughout the field their faces are so bloodied
00:54:40
that you couldn't discern any of their features yeah at this point this guy really needs to be seeking professional
00:54:46
help and there is also a drawing of a what appears to be a younger Adam with a with blood pouring from his forehead and
00:54:55
his arms are held up into the sky it's like a almost like a suicide picture that he's thrown of himself yeah and
00:55:02
Lloyd Christmas just keeps getting creepier and creepier well we had the talk about her explaining to Adam that
00:55:08
he couldn't become a Marine uh here's some added stress though to the situation because now Nancy starts
00:55:15
discussing the idea of moving to another state with Adam um and the plan was to move to Washington state which is quite
00:55:23
a bit of ways from connetic is this for a romantic no I I don't know the reasons
00:55:29
for the moving but it doesn't sound like she had developed any type of relationship that would have taken her
00:55:35
there um but but Adam was to go with her um so so that family portion would not be disrupted it would just be
00:55:43
transplanted um again Adam at first he seems pretty hip to the idea of moving but as it becomes closer to you know the
00:55:53
goal of moving and as these talks become more and more serious Adam starts to shut down even more now he now we're
00:56:00
seeing the opposite reaction from him he's not liking the idea of moving uh Nancy was planning on moving with Adam
00:56:07
to Washington State this probably would have taken place sometime in 2013 uh but also the other thing here
00:56:15
too that that has not been well reported in my opinion was that by this time nany's health is really starting to fail
00:56:22
her as well um this again is probably a lot of this is probably just due to stress yeah cuz she's only 52 years of
00:56:31
of age you know and a lot of her friends seem to think that she she appeared to be healthy but she did have some uh she
00:56:38
had some hidden health problems uh that that were coming about and really starting to take their toll on her uh as
00:56:46
she was still trying to care for her now adult son yeah and before we get to December of 2012 uh tell me again about
00:56:55
nany's Dream well this was a situation that happened this is something she told her friend about uh in September of 2012
00:57:03
that she had had a dream about Adam that she she in the dream she was outside with Adam they were enjoying like a
00:57:10
beautiful day right when all of a sudden a large gust of wind comes and it starts
00:57:15
to slowly lift Adam up into the air now Nancy runs over and grabs Adam's legs and she's trying to hold on to him but
00:57:24
the pull just starts to get stronger and stronger and then she loses her grip on her son
00:57:31
and Adam slowly lifts up into the air higher and higher into the sky Nancy watches Adam get smaller and smaller as
00:57:39
he gets further and further from him to the point where she cannot see him any longer it's kind a crazy dream when you
00:57:47
think about how involved she had to be and being that helicopter mom and always watching over him and even when she
00:57:54
couldn't be there trying to make sure others were watching out for him as well and as he's growing older you know this
00:58:01
this is the dream that she has that that at some point he's a man and on top of that if her health gets
00:58:07
worse who's going to be around to to watch after him well and maybe some kind of metaphor for the fact that he was
00:58:14
withdrawing anyways or like I said and what I've been saying from the get-go I I really believe that she had a gut
00:58:22
feeling uh uh about her and and and a a gut feeling that she didn't want to have well what should
00:58:30
have happened here Captain is that gut feeling you got to use that and talk to some other people again I my complaint
00:58:38
here is not that Nancy didn't care for Adam I think she cared for him an unbelievable amount um I just don't
00:58:45
think that she even though she thought she did I don't think she knew what was best for him well thank you Captain
00:58:51
Obvious I also want to talk about a few other things that were taking place leading up to December 2012 mhm so Nancy
00:59:00
these are all things that Nancy had told friends of hers um now keep in mind we the neighbors would describe Nancy and
00:59:08
AD Adam as kind of like ghost like they were just not there you know this was a community where people went out and they
00:59:15
spoke to their neighbors and they did things in the community well Adam we know obviously didn't do that and other
00:59:21
than some friendships that that Nancy had we don't see a lot of that either and a lot of that's probably her being
00:59:27
home with her son caring for for her son yeah or just the extra stress of it um but she would tell friends that leading
00:59:36
up this is just a couple weeks before uh the event took place that she had had an
00:59:43
experience with Adam that this was he was not leaving the home by this point 3 months before December he was basically
00:59:51
on lockdown and he had locked himself up and he not leaving the house self locked
00:59:56
down right he he's not going to the video game store he's not going to the shooting range anymore he's not going to
01:00:02
the driving range either yeah he's not doing anything with this driver's license and things got so strange that
01:00:09
he at some point started only communicating with his mother through email they live in the same in the same
01:00:16
home the two of them are in the same home and he's only communicating with her through email now one thing that
01:00:24
happened too was that Nancy was planning a you know we talked about these overnight trips that she started to do
01:00:30
well those were just that just over one night they were just short trips well late that year she was planning to take
01:00:37
a much longer trip she wanted to go to London and this would be a bit of a household experiment if you will this
01:00:45
would be a point for her to go off and have some Leisure Time and get away from the stresses of home and to see if Adam
01:00:53
could handle himself for more than one night on his own yeah cuz normally at this point as a parent you know your
01:00:59
your child is 20 years old sometimes moves away to go to college or if they're still living at home they're in
01:01:07
school they probably have a job they're just not around the house that much and it becomes back it gets back to me time
01:01:14
right and she doesn't have that luxury now Adam bumps his head she reports this to some of her friends that there's some
01:01:22
kind of accident in the home and she she states that he bumped his head pretty badly and he was taking it very badly as
01:01:30
well so he's he's injured somehow we don't know the details of this but for whatever reason and it's probably this
01:01:37
situation she states that she canell her London trip and simply just states to friends that it's because of things
01:01:45
going on at home that she's no longer going to go on this London trip and I'm sure she's talking to Adam about this
01:01:51
trip so maybe you know maybe it's this elabor plan cuz he doesn't want her to leave mhm and she I mean she's really
01:01:58
backed in a corner here right I mean she he's no longer communicating with his father and or brother or uncle and now
01:02:07
he's only communicating with you through email yeah and now you can't go somewhere you can't take this trip
01:02:12
because he he probably does need somebody to look after him he might not be able to handle uh being alone for
01:02:19
that amount of time right but there's also there's probably something going on through her head right nany's head MH
01:02:26
he's 20 years old she wants to she wants to get on with her life she wants to have a life right I wonder at
01:02:35
this point it's she going okay well now am I because he's my son am I am I locked down forever am I you know
01:02:44
handicapped by his handicaps basically um it's really tough spot for her to be in yeah and she can't get the father
01:02:53
involved she can't push Adam off onto the father to to get away for a week because he's broken communication with
01:03:00
him and and now only communicating through to you through email if you if you attempt something like that he might
01:03:08
break off communication with you as well and might be lost completely oh yeah right right this brings us to Friday
01:03:13
December 14th 2012 MH now sometime between or sometime before 9:30 that morning Adam got up and he's planning
01:03:24
something and he's doing some things in the house we're a little unclear of what
01:03:28
those movements are and we'll come to those later however what we do know that takes place that morning before 9:30 is
01:03:35
that Nancy at only 15 52 years of age she's shot dead MH and this is the situation she's found in her bed still
01:03:47
wearing her pajamas she's lying on her back and she's shot four times in the head with a 22 caliber Savage
01:03:56
mk2f bolt action rifle mhm now she's shot at such a close distance that they are almost certain that the barrel of
01:04:07
the gun would have been touching her head meaning that even if she was still asleep when this took place she probably
01:04:16
there was probably enough time that from the time that it was pointed to her head
01:04:20
that she may have opened her eyes just in time to see her son shoting her right um the hopefully not she was shot so
01:04:28
badly and at such a close range four times that it almost took off her head uh to to to put it you know bluntly yeah
01:04:37
obviously we don't we don't fully know if he took her hostage for any length of time or if she was aware of what was
01:04:44
going on all we can go off of is the evidence that we see afterwards and that of her being in her bed still in her
01:04:50
pajamas so it is assumed that she was probably attacked act in her sleep that morning mhm this all took place uh just
01:04:59
before 9:30 and right afterwards uh if if he killed her at 9:30 then immediately afterwards he got into her
01:05:08
car and he drove away and the problem with covering these shows or these cases is we all know what is next and that's
01:05:18
what we're going to dive into tomorrow cuz I I I just can't do yeah I think it's been enough for one day well it's
01:05:26
been enough for the whole week you know I you I can't iterate as we we put cases
01:05:32
on there then you dive in and it physically affects you and it's and and this one uh more so than anything
01:05:40
watching the documentary uh new town which you know at the end of it has it has no informational value really other
01:05:50
than the pain and the suffering that these families go through and but we you know we sign up to do a
01:05:57
show every week on True Crime and we it was too almost too late to back out yeah
01:06:04
um but just for anybody that's concerned about listening tomorrow we will be um as respectful as we can and and very
01:06:15
aware of you know we don't want to cause anybody emotional uh Trauma from listening to The Show by any means if
01:06:24
it's something you don't think you can handle by all means don't listen to that show um but we will not be graphic about
01:06:31
that right or anything we want to be respectful to the victims and the victim's family on a lighter note I do
01:06:38
have some recommended reading for today um this week recommending the spider in the fly by Claudia row uh in this superb
01:06:47
work of literature True Crime a uh spellbinding combination of a memoir and a psychologic iCal suspense we have a
01:06:55
situation where we have a female journalist who Chronicles her unusual connection with a con convicted serial
01:07:03
killer and her search to understand the darkness inside of him and what might lie inside of all of us now I'm
01:07:11
recommending this one not only because it's a fantastic book but because last week I misspoke when we were talking
01:07:18
about the National Force serial killer oh you or me Miss speak never happens I last week I was referring to a uh
01:07:28
another serial killer and I call I said Joseph fris and his actual name is Kendall franois and I was actually just
01:07:35
going off of off of my poor memory there but uh this book is about uh the journalist having a relationship with
01:07:44
Kendall Francois that serial killer that I talked about briefly in our last episode was it just a friendship or was
01:07:49
it sexual no no no she she was a journalist and she was uh reporting on his story once he was already in prison
01:07:58
so she went to meet with him on multiple occasions now she's a young attractive journalist so this is very kind of
01:08:05
Silence of the lambish you know where you have the young woman meeting with the the the psychopath yeah and there I
01:08:12
want to read a little quick caption from the book to you uh it goes like this well well Claudia can I call you Claudia
01:08:20
I have to give it to you when confronted at least you're honest as honest as any
01:08:26
reporter you want to go into the depths of my mind and into my past I want to peek into yours it's only fair isn't it
01:08:36
and that was by the serial killer Kendall Fran W that and that really comes off as that Silence of the Lambs
01:08:42
type feel yeah so check out the spider in the fly by Claudia row and you can do that by going to our website we have a
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Episode Highlights

  • A True Crime of Design
    Maya discovers an off-brand font in a presentation and resolves it with Canva.
    “I thought it was fun!”
    @ 00m 43s
    November 16, 2023
  • Sandy Hook Tragedy
    Reflecting on the devastating school shooting that claimed the lives of 27 individuals.
    “These kids were targeted by a madman.”
    @ 06m 14s
    November 16, 2023
  • The Invisible Kid
    Exploring Adam Lanza's struggles with social interaction and his experiences in school.
    “He just never seemed interested in making friends.”
    @ 13m 35s
    November 16, 2023
  • Adam's Struggles to Fit In
    Adam faced bullying and isolation at school, struggling to connect with peers.
    “He was different, he didn't fit in.”
    @ 21m 49s
    November 16, 2023
  • A Bright Student
    Despite his challenges, Adam excelled academically and participated in school activities.
    “He was a bright kid, excelling at academics.”
    @ 24m 32s
    November 16, 2023
  • Gaming as a Social Outlet
    Adam found a sense of belonging in online gaming communities, which helped him socially.
    “This is a little odd, but it's a positive step.”
    @ 32m 17s
    November 16, 2023
  • Obsession with Mass Killers
    Adam spent months studying mass murders, becoming knowledgeable about their details.
    “He was an expert on mass murders.”
    @ 37m 16s
    November 16, 2023
  • Massive Collection of Data
    A spreadsheet of hundreds of mass shooters, ranked by kills and dramatic situations.
    “Jesus so this is a massive uh collection of data here”
    @ 41m 17s
    November 16, 2023
  • Nancy's Dream
    Nancy dreams of Adam being lifted away, symbolizing her fears of losing him.
    “This is a crazy dream when you think about how involved she had to be”
    @ 57m 47s
    November 16, 2023
  • A Mother's Dilemma
    A mother feels trapped between her son's needs and her own desire for freedom.
    “She's really backed in a corner here.”
    @ 01h 01m 58s
    November 16, 2023
  • Nancy's Tragic Fate
    Nancy was shot dead in her bed, a victim of a horrific act.
    “She was shot four times in the head.”
    @ 01h 03m 40s
    November 16, 2023
  • Respectful Discussion
    The hosts emphasize their commitment to sensitivity in discussing the case.
    “We will be as respectful as we can.”
    @ 01h 06m 05s
    November 16, 2023

Episode Quotes

  • Why do these things happen?
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79
  • He was different, he didn't fit in.
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79
  • This is a little odd, but it's a positive step.
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79
  • Jesus so this is a massive uh collection of data here.
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79
  • This is a crazy dream when you think about how involved she had to be.
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79
  • It almost took off her head to put it bluntly.
    Sandy Hook /// Part 1 /// 79

Key Moments

  • Sandy Hook05:12
  • Mental Health12:35
  • Isolation21:49
  • Online Community32:17
  • Parental Challenges48:37
  • Lockdown Behavior59:51
  • Tragic fate1:03:40
  • Respectful approach1:06:05

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