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Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode

June 08, 2022 / 42:42

This episode discusses the case of Hannah Grete Donnelly, who was convicted of murdering her husband Christopher Donnelly after years of systemic abuse. Key topics include domestic violence, coercive control, and the psychological impact of abuse.

The episode details the seemingly normal life of the Donnelly family in Aylesbury, England, while revealing the dark reality of Hannah's abusive behavior towards Christopher. It highlights the control she exerted over him, including physical violence and emotional manipulation.

Listeners learn about the escalation of abuse leading to Christopher's death in 2017, with evidence of severe injuries and blood found throughout their home. The police investigation uncovered a pattern of violence that suggested a long history of domestic abuse.

The episode also covers Hannah's chilling police interviews, where she downplayed her actions as mere banter. Her lack of remorse and rationalization of the abuse provide insight into her psychological state.

Ultimately, Hannah was found guilty of murder in 2019, raising awareness about the often-overlooked issue of female perpetrators of domestic violence against men.

TLDR

Hannah Grete Donnelly was convicted of murdering her husband after years of systemic abuse and control.

Episode

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they appeared the perfect family living happily in the pretty english market town of aylesbury but behind the closed
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doors a different more sinister story years of systemic abuse and evidence of a long slow murder
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beatings with blunt objects blood spat is found on the ceiling there was blood found on the walls and blood found on
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furniture because i was so angry with him i punched him on his nose there's no emotion as far as she's
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concerned what she's done is rational reasonable and she's just giving a
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professional account of it did he cower away from you was he scared of you the donnelly marriage begins well but
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there's will be no small town fairy tale this was a totally callous woman who
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physically abused her husband abuse bullying and coercive control she was evil an abc of murder
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[Music] few pictures of the marriage of hannah donnelly and her husband christopher
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exist and none which have leaked into the public domain hanograft's image was though to become
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familiar to oxfordshire police as they probed what had happened within her marriage by
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2018. hannah grete was in her 50s and she was married to christopher they've
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been married since about 1992. they have four children they both have successful
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careers her as a midwife him as a musician he'd worked as a music teacher for a long time and performed as well he
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was around the same age a year older than his wife [Music] all the reports are that they lived a
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very insular existence and really didn't associate with neighbours or anything particularly such
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as that on paper christopher and hannah grete donnelly appeared to have what many long
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for so on the face of it it's a very normal almost wholesome family life but
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at the heart of it is this relationship that is far from healthy it's a relationship that is based on
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hanagrit's absolute power absolute power with an emphasis on religion they were a religious family with deeply
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held beliefs they apparently had some type of view around there being an end of day's
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existence they shunned modern technology theirs was a house with no phone no internet and a family that didn't need a
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school teaching was to be hannahgrant's job it is possible of course for families to be
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very happy and self-sufficient to homeschool their own children to avoid the evils of the internet and
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modern technology but it also makes it much much more difficult for any authorities to keep an eye on what's
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going on and to raise concerns if they see anything out of the ordinary so her children we hear very little of they are
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kept behind closed doors the donnelly household is a very unusual one hanagret has created
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a household that's almost like a separate land it's a land under her dominion it's a land where she hanagaret
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has absolute power and like any territory under absolute dictatorial control it's one where she keeps a very firm
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hold on the infiltration of of any external influences so there's there's no
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technology allowed the children are homeschooled it's not just a physical but it's actually a psychological
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fortress that she has created here within your family what would you say your role is
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a fortress was exactly what hannah grete wanted a dominion over which she had complete control
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i'd like to know what's going on to be informed as to what is going on i
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don't like like my people talk behind my back and a bit upset when i feel that there's
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some sort of things going on that that i'm not told about and when she got upset hannahgrant
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became abusive violently so to her husband what is clear here is that the level of control
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and the level of abuse made this an almost everyday occurrence a level of abuse that had simply become
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accepted the actions here are unquestionably the actions of an abuser what's unusual is that that abuse does
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not seem to be motivated as we might expect by any kind of anger or hatred of her victim but rather by an
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unquestioning belief in her own absolute authority that absolute authority would cost
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christopher dearly hanagret waged a campaign of violence which intensified between 2017 and 2018
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when christopher became disabled unable to walk and increasingly dependent on his violent wife
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a fact which appears to have triggered hannahgret to further abuse christopher i punched him on his nose
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severely because i was so angry with him but he didn't have such a big cut he
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took he had just a small cut we know that christopher stopped working as a music teacher in 2015 due to ill health
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and we can only assume that some of that ill health was as a result of hanagaret's treatment of him his mental
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health began to suffer and what's particularly distressing about this case is the knowledge that hanagret
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was abusing her husband at the very time when he needed her support so gradually
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christopher became weaker not just physically but mentally until he wasn't able to defend himself at all
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her husband initially was a talented musician but quite clearly over time became more and
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more and more weak and became a shadow of his former self it very much seems that she was the one in charge whether
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at the beginning of their relationship there was ever any evenness is difficult to know but certainly by the end he was
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nothing more than a punching bag for her what's interesting in this case is it
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seems to me towards the end of his life christopher became very very ill and required an awful lot of care from his
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wife it's often the case that when that happens the dynamic between a married
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couple will change significantly the fact that their health has failed to so much that they're having to do
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everything for them can cause an enormous amount of resentment violence within an abusive relationship rarely
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stays the same experts agree that once a line is crossed the violent partner often tests how far they can push it
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either escalating the ferocity of the violence or the frequency of the attacks creating a new and deeper level of power
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and control over their victim hanagaret's behaviour clearly escalated over the years
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and and in conjunction with that her husband became weaker both physically and mentally which meant that the effect
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of what she was doing was exacerbated during police interviews hannahgret dismissed a lot of her behaviour as as
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just banter she talked about chasing her husband around a table she talked about
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playfully hitting him with a rolling pin it's arguable whether any of that is
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indeed banter or playful behavior but what is certain is that her abuse got significantly worse towards um towards
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the end first of all i tried to sort of sort things out with him in in sort of a
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angering sort of way and so yeah if i hit you with a rolling pin maybe you come out of your trance also
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[Music] rolling pins are heavy objects and they come down with very considerable force
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they could easily break bones they could easily break a skull and even cause bleeding inside the brain with every
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subsequent act of violence that she inflicted upon her husband he was weakened and therefore the next act of
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violence became even more impactful was even more uh powerful had an even more powerful effect she reduced him over
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time almost to the state of a wounded animal after 32 years of marriage christopher
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was wounded weakened and trapped in a house cut off from the outside world there was nothing to stop hannahgret's
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violence from intensifying it hit him a bit harder sometimes for christopher a 55 year old man
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to have been subjected to such abuse which led to so much scar tissue that even a home office pathologist was
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shocked march 31 2017 and oxfordshire emergency services receive a call the first that the emergency services
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knew about christopher's death was when they received a call from hannahgratt
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using her neighbor's phone to say that her husband had died the night before when they attended they
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found christopher clearly dead on the bathroom floor with a significant number of injuries
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the post-mortem revealed that he'd almost certainly died around 12 hours previously but hannah grete hadn't
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called the police until the following day police and ambulance i think turned up at the same time
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and she admitted that she had assaulted him at some point in the past and as a result of that she was arrested
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there was a head injury and there were i think suggestions that there was evidence of other injuries
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that were perhaps slightly more historic hanagrat told them that she had attempted to revive her husband
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there was a mystery here for the police to solve this was not a natural death although
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that is exactly what hannah gretz had implied when she called the ambulance in the first phase of the investigation
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it was not clear that christopher had been murdered the challenge for detectives was to
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uncover what had happened to christopher donnelly there was a number of crucial findings within the home which actually
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did point towards this being a long-running systemic abuse there was blood spatters found on the ceiling
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there was blood found on the walls and blood found on furniture which clearly indicated this isn't just
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somebody who's got ill and died once inside the home police found evidence of barbarity seasoned experts
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were horrified by what they saw the pathologist said after the postmortem that he'd never seen a case
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with so many injuries having been received over such a long period of time he was found to have 78 separate and
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identifiable injuries and they were some serious head injuries ear injuries his voice boxer
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cartilage had been fractured really a terrible litany of awful awful injuries there was evidence of a pressure point a
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single thumb to his windpipe that indicated that he had been partially strangulated the sheer number
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of injuries tell me that the violence was sustained but was part of their ongoing interaction it was the way in
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which she related to her husband it was becoming clear to police that violence was normal within this home so
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normal that hannah grete thought nothing of admitting her assaults to the authorities
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these times that you've hit him um they weren't a result of him being violent to you
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no or was he or being aggressive towards you no hannahgren then mentioned to the
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police almost casually that she'd hit christopher with a rolling pin some weeks previously and it was at that
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point that the police grew suspicious of her behavior and arrested her in fact the extent of his injuries was such that
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his body just couldn't cope with it officially christopher had died from what can be natural causes he basically
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died of pneumonia which meant that his body was in such a physically weakened position
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that his immune system simply could not fight it off domestic violence can be very difficult
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to prove but in cases of unexplained deaths within the home police always look to the spouse
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detectives in the case of crown v hanogrant donnelly faced a tough challenge to gain a successful
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prosecution death by pneumonia is not usually associated with murder early on in the interview with hannah
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grete detectives realized they needed to link christopher's pneumonia to the
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violence that he'd suffered do you feel that hitting him over the head with a rolling
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pin with a hairbrush using your hands and fists is a appropriate reaction to him
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acting in that way being in his strange moods it's it's more like this helping him
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to come out of some sort of peculiar trans translation no i can't say it's a trance
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but it's sort of peculiar yeah feeling feeling strangely i don't know hannah talks about
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her husband going into a trance i think that's really very likely i think it's
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very likely that he learnt to disassociate himself once the violence started the trance that hannah grete talks about
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trying to knock him out of is actually one that she has brought about by the violence itself
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hannah grete was candid with detectives she was arguing that she had not intended any harm to her husband she
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wanted to just shake him up from what she saw as laziness she was very open she fully admitted that you know she
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often should punch him she admitted hitting him with with a rolling pin she admitted pushing
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him down the stairs neil lancaster spent 25 years as a detective in the metropolitan police
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leading investigations into some of the country's most heinous crimes what does
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he think hannahgrad's police interview reveals it was um it was quite disturbing to
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watch she was incredibly calm not visibly distressed and almost matter-of-fact in
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she actually described what had happened at the house in almost a forensic level
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of detail she came across as incredibly cold and detached did he cower away from
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you was he scared of you do you see what i mean it was more like something had a chase
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around the kitchen table or something it was more yeah sometimes just uh yeah sorry when you say it around the kitchen
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table it's in in a more sort of light-hearted we okay and how did that end up with you
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i don't know it was just feeling offended that he didn't take take what i said to him seriously
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as the interview goes on detectives uncovered a diary one which documented the abuse after the police arrested
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hanagaret they seized her diary and among the entries in there was clear evidence of abuse not least the fact
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that hannah grete had refused to let her husband go to the toilet this withholding of a basic human need is
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particularly cruel it's not just controlling but it's um it's dehumanizing and it's a
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particularly shocking part of this case this keeping of a diary is just another facet of the control of maintaining the
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control this documenting this it's as if providing the proof of what she's had to
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do bolsters her authority do you feel that you you're justified in hitting him
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like that still no there isn't justification for that but it was um like trying to
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sort of reset something in him hannahgret donnelly's police interviews are truly chilling i don't think i've
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ever heard a criminal talk in such a dispassionate way about such a horrific crime she dismisses her actions as as
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banter and as normal behavior in a relationship and really shows no sign of compassion or
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love for the man that she's killed we had a chase around the kitchen table in a more sort of light-hearted way okay
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and how did that end up with you i don't know it was just feeling offended that she didn't take
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take what i said to him seriously hanagrat was admitting to being violent but she was down playing it it was just
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banter between husband and wife to succeed in proving this was murder could police prove this was not a
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light-hearted banter to prove that she intended to cause real harm to her husband and by doing so considerably
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weaken his condition so leaving him prey to something like pneumonia what was her beef with her husband
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christopher what was her motive within your family what would you say your role is
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i'd like to know what's going on so to be informed as to what is going on i
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don't like like when people talk behind my back bit upset when i feel that there's
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some sort of things going on that that i'm not told about it sounds very much as if this woman was
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paranoid she was absolutely determined to be in control at all times and she didn't like
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any secrets going on now that paranoia might have meant that she felt that people were scheming behind her back
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heaven knows they had reason to try and scheme and get away so it was all part of this idea of keeping control this was
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clearly a woman who was terrified of losing control hannahgret had clearly lost touch with any shred of common
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decency she would beat christopher if he didn't answer a question quickly enough or if
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she felt he was in some kind of trance she was evil she terrified him and she ran that house
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through fear and intimidation within the fortress hannahgrade had created in the donnelly's home
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she was in charge for christopher there was no hope of escape but was there hope for justice
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barely a third of domestic abuse cases attended by the police end with the abuser being charged would hanagret
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donnelly get away with murder once you arrest someone you've only got initially
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24 hours with which to deal with them you've either got to charge them or you've got to release them they need to
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prove that she caused really serious harm to him and she intended to cause really serious harm to him
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that would then prove murder he tripped over and and fell and he fell against the crate
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there was a crate and the crate got broken and then he cut himself in the head quite badly
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for police in oxfordshire england a question had they been called to the scene of a man who had died from
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pneumonia or had he perished because of weakness caused by years of abuse at the
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hands of his wife was this developing story emerging from an ordinary english home on a standard
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housing estate one of repeated violence by wife on husband one of murder when police looked in more
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detail at the donnelly's house they found blood spatters in almost every room they were on the window dressings
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on furniture on the walls and all that blood came from christopher donnelly evidence of violence itself may not be
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conclusive enough for a murder charge but detectives felt that it was enough to make a move against hannah donnelly
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she was charged with a wounding which is contrary to section 18 of the offences against the persons act
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what that essentially means is that she caused a really serious injury to him with intent and she meant to do it
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investigators felt that a confession was the most reliable route to a murder charge and so provide justice for
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christopher donnelly they began putting all of their evidence on the table and probing why mysterious things had
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happened like when christopher allegedly fell down the stairs but if you're on
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the landing and you've obviously had to reach to push him does that mean he's fallen down the hole
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pretty much the whole flight of stairs no no as i said he he walked a bit faster than sort of pushed him on the
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back and he walked a bit faster then and then he he tripped over and and fell and he fell against the crate
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there was a crate and the crate got broken and then he cut himself forensic criminal psychologist donna youngs
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watched the police interview to see what hanagret's body language might reveal to
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detectives what's striking here is the way in which she's talking about what's happened as if
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she's talking one professional to another she's just giving the technical
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details to as if she's giving a report to another professional so it was a bantering kind
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of an interaction and i then i used the rolling pin that there's no emotion it's
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a as far as she's concerned what she's done is is rational reasonable and she's just
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giving a a professional account of it do you feel that hitting him over the head with a rolling
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pin with a hairbrush using your hands and fists and this is this is incredible she's she
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doesn't flinch when she's asked about about hitting him on the head with a
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rolling a rolling pin doesn't flinch just just maintains this very neutral expression we get a glimpse i
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think of the way in which she conducted herself within within her household this sort of
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unquestioning authority and she's trying to carry that through here to this stressful situation
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she was very open she fully admitted that you know she often should punch him she admitted hitting him with uh with a
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rolling pin she admitted pushing him down the stairs her explanation for this was that her
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husband would go into a trance and this was her trying to snap him out of a chance
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unbelievable to see and to see her speaking about this in such matter of fact tones
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and it it took me back a little bit to their level of religiosity was that this was almost like casting out demons it
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seemed to be that's where she was coming from these times that you've hit him
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um they weren't a result of him being violent to you no or was he being aggressive towards you as the
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interview carries on i think we see that it's actually starting to become a bit
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of a struggle for her um the word the words remain not defensive but the body language starts to to sit
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in contrast to the words that are coming out of her mouth so actually we start to
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see a body language that is much more defensive so she starts to cower the shoulders are slumping and
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she's leaning forward she starts to look like your typical suspect rather than a woman
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in charge as she starts talking about what happened we see her use over-gesticulating
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we see her over-gesticulating this is someone who's starting whatever she's
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saying who's starting to feel a little bit uncomfortable a little bit threatened
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to donna young's hannah shows clear signs of a psychological abuser and declare macintosh too a former
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policewoman it's possible to divide hannahgret's behavior into two different types of
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abuse so on the one hand there was very strong evidence of systemic physical abuse beatings with blunt objects uh
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punching jabbing in in christopher's throat but on the other hand there was what would now be termed as coercive
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control um and and legislation that's come in very recently means that coercive control is being taken very
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seriously now by the justice system and so that type of control was down to hanagret's desire for
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knowledge of everything that christopher was doing where he was going what he was
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thinking withholding trips to the toilet withholding medical treatment complete control of somebody else's life what was
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interesting in her interview is when she was asked about how she saw her role within the family the way she spoke
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about it was quite significant and she said that she didn't like to feel that
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anyone was hiding anything from her that she wanted to know what was going on at
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all times and it seemed like she was incredibly controlling of her husband and of her family as a whole what would
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you say your role is i don't know i'd like to know what's going on donnelly remained resolute throughout
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her interview she denied murder a relatively slight woman a mother not the typical profile of an abuser
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but in the united kingdom more than two and a half million adults experience domestic violence each year
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abusers come in all shapes and sizes tragically abuse in a domestic setting is all too
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common usually it is a man who is abusing a woman who is grinding her down making her
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believe that she is not good enough making her believe that she has to be reliant on him
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and that is the way in many respects that society has tended to see men but of course there are situations where
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the tables are turned they are more unusual not least because a woman is less likely to be physically more
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powerful than a man but if you take a woman who is particularly big and strong or a man who
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is particularly small and weak compared to other men or both or if you take a man who has deep
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religious beliefs and does not believe in fighting back believes very strongly that you should never hit a woman and a
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woman who has absolutely no compunction about hitting a man then it is entirely possible that you
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set up a scenario where the woman becomes the abuser women abusing men is not uncommon
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just under 800 000 men were victims of domestic violence in the uk last year it's dreadful
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for a woman who was abused to feel she's hopeless to feel she's helpless to feel
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she's completely worthless but as a man who comes from a very traditional background where perhaps he
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was brought up to believe that the man should be the breadwinner the man of the house to find himself gradually ground
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down to the stage where he is completely reliant on her and does not even feel able to escape the abuse
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the impact on his self-esteem on his morale on his mental well-being must have been devastating
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alex skeel was trapped in a long-term abusive relationship he was only saved when police intervened and his wife and
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mother of his two children was jailed she would say oh i deserved it and say things like that which is really common
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and it would be the same for christopher it would be the same for thousands of men that are going through this probably
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now as i speak they just always say well you deserve it it's your fault it always puts the blame
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onto them she doesn't see her victim as fully human so that actually they're not
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that relevant to her as an individual in any kind of emotional sense there's
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always the same cycle with these things the first incident occurs they say sorry then it happens again and
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they sort of fantasize about it and then it happens and then the cycle begins and
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it's until someone externally breaks that cycle nothing's going to change it'll just
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keep going and going and going and that's what happened with me and it most likely was the same for christopher
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as well like the vast majority of cases of domestic violence the abuse meted out
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onto christopher over years took place behind closed doors without any independent witnesses it's just so
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lonely and dark and you don't have anyone to talk to i could imagine there was probably no
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conversations that went on between them other than arguments it's the way it is and it's just
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a really horrible way to live and it was the daily existence of christopher donnelly
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i know how he was feeling at that time i knew that my body was shutting down and
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i was waiting to die i just thought well the next time i get stabbed the next time i get hit it's
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going to be in the wrong place or the knife is going to go a little bit deeper or going the wrong way
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and eventually i just my body will shut down wife on husband abuse may appear to get
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little publicity but oxford detectives felt they had a chilling example of it on their hands
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in march 2019 would they secure a murder conviction against hannahgret donnelly her defense in court i
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think was quite clearly that the assault she carried out which he fully admitted
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carrying out were not the resultant cause of his death [Music] and that he died of an illness
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police had hannah grete donnelly in custody but prosecutions for murder are seldom straightforward
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investigators needed to prove that there was a direct link from the pneumonia that had killed christopher and the
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violence that he had suffered at the hands of his wife and what lawyers call men's reya in layman's terms that she
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had meant to hurt her husband that the former midwife mother of his four children had known
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what she was doing over the years of apparent systemic abuse an interview in a murder case such as
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this will be there'll be a formal strategy which will be agreed with the senior investigating officer
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and the strategy would have been these are what we need to work we need to find out
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what's going on we need to get her talking that didn't seem to be a problem
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she seemed eager to talk to prove murder they need to prove that she caused really serious harm to him and she
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intended to cause really serious harm to him other evidence available to the prosecution was the initial reason they
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had suspected hannahgret of murder the delay in the time that she had taken to call the police after she claimed she
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had found her husband inexplicably dead leaving somebody that at some point you have presumably loved regardless of
00:33:05
what's happened in your relationship to die on their own on a bathroom floor
00:33:11
and not to call the authorities until some 12 hours after life is extinct indicates a lack of any moral fiber a
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lack of any compassion it is not a normal response to somebody's death and it's one of the most chilling things
00:33:30
about this woman a jury would hear her maintain that any violence to christopher had been for his
00:33:37
own sake it's it's more like this helping him to come out of some sort of
00:33:50
peculiar trans translation no i can't say it's a trance but it's sort of peculiar
00:33:56
i have read some reports where hannahgre suggested that christopher almost invited these
00:34:03
beatings well i struggle to think of anybody who would like a whack over the head
00:34:09
with a rolling pin i also struggle to think that a relationship that plumbed the depths
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that this did was ever a relationship built on equality it was according to hanagret the
00:34:25
victim's fault a suggestion faced by another man who'd suffered at the hands
00:34:29
of his wife i don't know if they just get into like some fantasy i don't really know but
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for them to keep doing that they've got to kind of take out their head what they're
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actually doing is wrong and they've got to try and somehow reason for what they're doing
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the case put to a jury centered on the causes of the pneumonia which led to the death of christopher donnelly broncon
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pneumonia can cause a wide variety of symptoms but of course it can have an impact on your mental state because if
00:35:00
you're lacking oxygen to the brain and if you have germs flooding around your
00:35:05
body you can feel light-headed you can feel dizzy you can feel confused and it's entirely possible that your
00:35:12
level of consciousness would drop so that you would enter what his wife described as a quote
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trance-like state no normal wife would dream of dealing with that by hitting him with the rolling pin to
00:35:29
knock it out of him but would the jury accept that his susceptibility to pneumonia was caused
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by his physical condition he had a cauliflower ear she had at some point either hit him across the throat
00:35:41
or perhaps tried to strangle him because he had damage there to his voice box there's no question that by the end this
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was a totally callous woman who systematically over months and years physically really dreadfully physically
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abused her husband until as the police said he was so weakened that he effectively succumbed to his injuries
00:36:08
from a complication although christopher was only 55 when he died a neighbor described him in court
00:36:15
as looking more like an 80 year old man so it's clear that the effect of hannahgratt's behavior was having a
00:36:22
profound impact on him it's it's almost as though the weaker he got the stronger hannahgret got as
00:36:29
though she was almost feeding on his weakness and by the time he died there was no doubt about it she had complete
00:36:36
control over that family particularly her husband found dead at the foot of the stairs in their family
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home she said because he had tripped if you're on the landing and you've obviously had to reach
00:36:51
to push him does that mean he's fallen down the hole pretty much the whole flight of stairs
00:36:55
no no as i said he he walked a bit faster then sort of pushed him on the back and he walked a bit faster than and
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then he he tripped over and and fell and she fell against the crate there was a crate and
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the crate got broken and then he cut himself in the head after years of building up that control
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of creating a fortress in which he was queen would it be hannahgret's own words
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that would eventually damn her the jury were offered a complete picture of hannah grete donnelly
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anna gret had clearly lost touch with any shred of common decency she would beat christopher
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if he didn't answer a question quickly enough she terrified him and she ran that house
00:37:44
through fear and intimidation this is a woman who clearly had absolutely no concept of right and
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wrong this is a woman who clearly believed that it was perfectly acceptable for her to beat her husband
00:37:59
regularly and systematically she beat him to control him she beat him to stop being irritating
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when the being irritating actually was him dying in front of her that is the sort of woman she was
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the trial of hannah grete donnelly took 13 days after weighing up the evidence the jury reached the verdict hannah
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grete donnelly was guilty of the murder of her husband she was found unanimously guilty by the
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jury on the 20th of march 2019 and sentenced a life imprisonment with a minimum term of 16 years
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they didn't take very long to decide at all in this case which must have been
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truly shocking to have heard not least for the family who had to hear all the evidence of abuse that she'd
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given to christopher over the years the judge did say that there was clearly evidence of happier times but he was
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appalled by the behaviour by her controlling behavior and by the severity and the longevity of the abuse that she
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had committed i would categorize hernigrette as a victim as object murderer these murderers see see their
00:39:15
victims not as fully human but as objects objects upon whom they can enact it can carry out any form of violent
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control and power the judge spoke of the horror at what she'd heard throughout the trial it was
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clear she said that christopher experienced real physical suffering for a long period before his death it was
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inconceivable that he didn't also suffer mentally hannahgret donnelly was pathologically
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controlling and that desire for control resulted in the most horrific abuse i've
00:39:49
ever heard of did he cower away from you was he scared of you it might be easy to assume that the the most
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shocking element of this case is that the offender is a woman we're perhaps very used to domestic violence being
00:40:04
committed by men but men are victims of domestic violence far too often and what this case shows is that this is
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a very real problem that that needs to be addressed regardless of the the genders of the people involved
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what shocked me the most was just how vulnerable christopher was and the fact that nobody noticed that here
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was a family with children who were living on a very ordinary estate in a very ordinary town and yet
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somehow they went under the radar and that's a truly shocking thing in today's society
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why did christopher donnelly not fight back we have to bear in mind that even though we are moving on in this
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direction we still live in a society where it's more difficult for a man to come forward and say that he is being
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abused in the home halagreat and christopher could have had the perfect life together the perfect
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marriage the perfect family instead for years away from prying eyes hannahgret donnelly waged a war against
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her husband a war he could not survive [Music] i've met lots of criminals over the
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course of my police career and i've researched even more as a result of my crime writing years
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i don't think i've ever come across such a terrifying figure as hannah donnelly
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the lack of compassion and the extent of her of her abuse is is truly horrific and arguably if i wrote a character that
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bad i'm not sure anyone would believe that she could exist [Music] you

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Episode Highlights

  • The Donnelly Marriage: A Dark Reality
    On the surface, the Donnelly family appeared perfect, but behind closed doors lay years of abuse.
    “They appeared the perfect family living happily in the pretty English market town.”
    @ 00m 09s
    June 08, 2022
  • A Sinister Transformation
    Hannah Grete's control over her husband escalated as he became increasingly dependent on her.
    “Hannah Grete waged a campaign of violence which intensified between 2017 and 2018.”
    @ 05m 28s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Shocking Discovery
    Emergency services found Christopher Donnelly dead, revealing a history of systemic abuse.
    “The first that the emergency services knew about Christopher's death was when they received a call.”
    @ 09m 48s
    June 08, 2022
  • A Chilling Confession
    Hannah Grete casually admitted to her abusive actions during police interviews, raising suspicions.
    “She mentioned to the police almost casually that she'd hit Christopher with a rolling pin.”
    @ 12m 48s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Diary of Abuse
    Hannah Grete's diary revealed clear evidence of her abusive behavior towards her husband.
    “Among the entries in there was clear evidence of abuse.”
    @ 16m 27s
    June 08, 2022
  • Hannah's Admission of Abuse
    Hannah openly admits to hitting her husband with a rolling pin and pushing him down the stairs.
    “She admitted hitting him with a rolling pin.”
    @ 23m 50s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Cycle of Abuse
    The cycle of domestic violence is highlighted, showing how it perpetuates without intervention.
    “It's until someone externally breaks that cycle.”
    @ 30m 12s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Verdict
    Hannah Grete Donnelly is found guilty of murder after a trial that revealed horrific abuse.
    “Hannah Grete Donnelly was guilty of the murder of her husband.”
    @ 38m 19s
    June 08, 2022

Episode Quotes

  • The level of control and the level of abuse made this an almost everyday occurrence.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode
  • Hannahgrete's police interviews are truly chilling.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode
  • She terrified him and she ran that house through fear and intimidation.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode
  • It's almost like casting out demons.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode
  • It's a really horrible way to live.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode
  • A war he could not survive.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 7 - Donnelly - Full Episode

Key Moments

  • Perfect Family Illusion00:09
  • Systemic Abuse Revealed00:16
  • Callous Behavior00:51
  • Chilling Police Interview17:25
  • Neutral Expression23:29
  • Systemic Control25:56
  • Chilling Indifference33:22
  • Guilty Verdict38:19

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