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Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer

December 13, 2024 / 43:19

This episode discusses the life and crimes of Robert Toy, who was convicted of murdering philanthropist Mark Jones during a robbery. Key topics include Robert's troubled upbringing, his drug addiction, and the impact of his actions on his family.

Robert Toy was sentenced to death for the murder of Mark Jones, which occurred in 1991. The episode features Christine Toy, Robert's sister, who shares her experiences of growing up in an abusive household and the emotional turmoil surrounding her brother's actions.

Christine describes the bond she shared with Robert despite his criminal behavior and the pain of witnessing his decline into drug addiction. The episode also covers Robert's clemency hearing in 2012, where he expressed remorse for his actions.

As the episode progresses, listeners hear about Robert's execution and the complex emotions felt by Christine, who struggled with her love for her brother and the horror of his crimes.

The episode concludes with Christine reflecting on her relationship with Robert and the shared grief with the victim's family, highlighting the lasting effects of trauma on both sides.

TLDR

Robert Toy's life of crime leads to the murder of Mark Jones and his eventual execution, revealing family trauma and complex emotions.

Episode

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Robert T was convicted in Maricopa County of murdering philanthropist Mark Jones during an armed robbery the
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prosecution is seeking the death penalty Robert to putting the zip tie around Mark Jones's
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neck and listening to the noises that Mark Jones made and he tightened it until was
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dead Robert to was a killer we didn't need to kill this man but he did anyway that was a drug addicted wild
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crazed human that I don't recognize the day before this murder took place he and his girlfriend had
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robbed a restaurant so he was on a bender Robert was convicted of murder and sentenced to death when the judge
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said I sentenced you to death I had this urge to just jump over the railing and hug
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him my name is Christine toy mlan there's my brother my sober non-addicted brother and then there's the monster
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they killed the man [Music] [Music] in 2012 47-year-old killer Robert toy was on death row in
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Arizona when a date was set for his execution he made one final plea for clemency good morning there are two
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things that we'll be considering today and they would be number one Mr T's
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request for a commutation of his sentence after which we will then take a vote on whether or not a reprieve uh of
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Mr T's schedule of execution should be recommended to the governor Mr to go ahead
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[Music] first and foremost I'd like to apologize to Mark's family I have the deepest regrets for
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what I did and then and I'm truly sorry for their loss for what I did to them I truly wish with my heart that I
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had not taken Mark's life and it's a terrible thing that I did and I should never have it should
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never have happened to said that he knew he didn't need to kill this man but he did anyway
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he put a zip tie around the man's neck and just pulled it tight until the man
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was dead Robert Tower's sister attended in support of her brother and to testify
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about the abuse she and Robert had suffered at the hands of their mother um I'm Robert's
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sister it wasn't mile Che abuse that we went through and post-traumatic stress
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syndrome has affected all of our lives a member of the clemency board stated their
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opinion he thought quite rationally that a gun makes noise and zip ties don't
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that to me is a rational thought product I'm not convinced that he was under the
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the dire influence of all these evil things that had occurred to the man in a in a in a very
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wretched environment up to through [Music] childhood I would like to apologize to
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my family for being such a train wreck for so many years I'm sorry that my actions 20 years
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ago is bringing back all the pain of our pass Robert toy was born on July 20th 1964 Christine was 2 and 1/2 years old I
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remember feeling this sense of excitement about having a little brother coming to the
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family this picture is from August of 1965 and he was born in July so he was about a year old
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I'm looking like I'm not very happy in this his mother was very abusive physically
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abusive emotionally abusive Robert had no Father Figure in his life his birth father left shortly
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after he was born Robert and Christine's mother was left alone to raise her young
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children in 1966 the family left Florida and moved to Arizona this picture might have been
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right after he moved to Arizona because there's no dad in the picture so I think
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this was after my mom left it's crazy to me cuz I look at these pictures and when they said smile
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we smiled I think we just obeyed everything because if I look at her face now and I think back on seeing that
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woman there was just so much violence happening to all of us at that time we were beaten regularly we were
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screamed at all the time one of the things I remember is her continually telling Bobby you're going to end up in
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prison for the rest of your life you're no good you're [Music] awful I was in fear for my life I was
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always afraid that she was going to kill me you know I've got scars on my body that some of them I know are her
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doing when their mother was on a rampage they would hide there Robbie as they called him would
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bear the brunt of that and and you know usually be be beaten savagely it's unbelievable how much
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distress and disturbance and violence those children would have experienced in the family environment that Christine is
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describing it sounds horrific absolutely horrific even away from his mother Robert wasn't
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safe by the time he was six he had been raped by a neighbor he had been accidentally
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shot and I don't know the exact circumstances of how he was shot but he had experience all of this abuse the
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only people Robert and Christine felt they could count on on were each other he and I were very
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close growing up throughout it all like he and I always just had each other's back like
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there was just this connection there when we were little and we'd get banished to our rooms his was right
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across from mine and we would use these little hot wheel cars we would put notes on that little
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car and like scooted across the hallway to each other and then communicate back and forth like that I remember going and
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sitting in your room a lot sometimes when you weren't even there it was like
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the only place I felt safe I guess for mom I always felt as so you'd protect me
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even when you told on me and I got in trouble I know you never told on me to get me
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hurt they do have a sense of loving one another as siblings but also they had something in common which was there was
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a monster in the home who was the mother figure who was supposed to be loving and taking care of
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them and she was the antagonist so they banded together to support each other that's a sensible survival
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method as Robert and Christine grew up their mother had a number of Partners In 1976 she started a new relationship with
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a man who would play a pivotal role in Robert's life he would come and work on
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my mom's car and Robbie was probably 12 years old and so they would be out there working
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on the cars together or so we thought it turns out he was teaching him how to steal cars and how to rob
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people our neighbors had this Volkswagen that they parked in front of their house
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and one morning I looked out there and I'm like their tires are gone where are
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their tires for their car Robbie goes he taught me how to do that so that was like his
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mentorship this is the most loving figure of a parental nature that Robert had so that's what he did he's found a
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way to function in a world because he had no other alternative out of the blue Christine
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and Robert's mom decided to leave Arizona and went to live with her sister and brother-in-law in
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Louisiana my brother moved with my mother to Louisiana he was probably 15 or 16 I didn't go with because I was like
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oh heck no I've had enough of this I'm going to stay here and live my life and
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I had already had a job I felt bad when he left because I knew that that he was going to be alone
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with her and that was kind of scary to think about in Louisiana teenage Robert continued his life of
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crime and he also found a new Vice that's when he was first introduced to the hard drugs my aunt and uncle tell
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me the story about how you know he'd show up and they would kick him off the
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property because he was just Wildey and crazy Robert increasingly got involved in
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crime he worked both sides of being a mechanic fixing cars and knowing how to steal them and how to steal the
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parts he was a monster he was fueled by methamphetamines and anger and a a wretched hor
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[Music] upbringing Robert to had been living in Louisiana for 2 years he was now 177 a
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drug addict and committing crimes to feed his habit my aunt called me one day and said okay your brother's off he's
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off to jail we had him arrested because he's been stealing from us he's been stealing
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from the neighbors and he's not doing [Music] okay when he was arrested they searched
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the house that they lived in they found money stashed in the walls when the cops put him in the car
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they were standing behind the patrol car and he turned around and looked at them
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through the back window and they described this look on his face that scared them and they called it like it
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bone chilling they were literally afraid that if he ever got out that he would hurt
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them Robert to was sent to a juvenile detention center when my brother got arrested and was put
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in juvenile detention I we may have written some letters because I have some memory of knowing that he was very
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afraid talking about Louisiana you know it's humid it's hot the cells were
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filthy the food was moldy Robert's previous crimes committed in his home state of Arizona eventually
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caught up with him and around 2 years later he was suddenly transferred to an adult prison back in Arizona he had
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committed crimes while he was here before he left to Louisiana and they brought him back the crimes were
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committed before he was [Music] 18 with her brother now closer to home Christine went to visit
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him I visited him probably once or twice a month for sure we developed our closest Bond he
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was sober and that's I think when our adult relation ship probably was most developed during that time that I was
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visiting him in prison it was just so good to have him in my life again and he was my best friend and
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somebody that I cared deeply [Music] about after 5 years in perville state prison Robert toy now 24 was released
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and placed on parole when he was released from perville I had this Camaro and I put champagne and ice bucket in
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the back trunk I picked him up we got in the car and I said I have some champagne in the back we're going
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to celebrate when we took these pictures he's fresh out of prison he looks very
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calm and soft but when he's doing like the full body pose you know he's he's
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posturing the look on his face is so different and dark when he's with my mom
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than the contrast than when he's with me Robert got work as a mechanic he was living the good life he
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was working he had a woman in his life he was so excited just having a normal life he was
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doing well a year later Christine began to notice a change in her brother's behavior that worried
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her there were times when he'd show up and he was perfectly fine and there were
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times when he would show up and I would be like I'm smelling it again he and I
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were so close that I could feel his mood and feel him kind of like is this the Good Robbie is this the evil
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Robbie I've seen the scared Robbie I've seen the evil Robbie I've seen the good
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Robbie Robert was back on drugs he was doing so much methamphetamine that he could how he didn't die is
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beyond me how he didn't overdose is beyond me this is what I need to do as a
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survival mechanism this is who I am this is how I live it just goes into this massive vicious cycle of drug abuse
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crime that's the path he's taken as an adult he was going down a darker Road
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and I knew that and there was just a disconnect I don't think we talked very
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much at all during that time I knew that he had started his own business he was an auto mechanic so he
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was doing like this mobile service so I knew that he was working I think that was kind of why I just didn't really
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worry about it too much so he was busy having his life and doing his thing and I was busy doing
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mine Robert Tower needed to fund his drug addiction and went to rob a local restaurant he had gone to a restaurant
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to steal money from the till when he went in he had a gun he Shot the Jukebox to scare everybody to
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stop them and then there was only like five or six people I guess in there he tied them all up with zip ties and they
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robbed it his girlfriend was waiting in the car for him they sped away from the scene of the
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[Music] crime in the evening of September 4th 1991 27-year-old Robert to and his
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friend Randy Barker waved down a cab and told the driver to take them to Paradise
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Valley and to the house of a well-known local philanthropist Mark Jones Paradise Valley is a very richy
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area the houses tend to be large you know they're far enough away from each other that uh you wouldn't necessarily
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hear anything you wouldn't necessarily notice anything Robert had done business with
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Mark Jones before he had borrowed money from him and he had done mechanical work
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for him so he knew that he he knew that he had cash he knew that he he knew that
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he had a a well apportioned home their story was that uh the car broke down and they wanted to use the
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phone Robert had said you remember me and Mark Jones let them in they both knew the victim they had
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been to his home on a number of occasions on this particular day uh they they went there uh to Rob
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him Robert pulled a gun on him and made him lay down in the bed so he could be more comfortable and then
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had brought large long zip ties uh one of which he put around uh uh Mark Jones's
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neck while my brother was ran in the house and stealing things Randy was holding a gun on Mark to keep him from
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getting away from keeping him from escaping and then at some point in time my brother came into the room and ended
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up using zip ties to choke Mark to death and pulling it tight and listening to the noises that Mark Jones
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made at a point where he thought that Mark Jones was dead he had stop making noises and then
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realized he was not dead and he did it again and he tightened it until Jones was
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[Music] dead 24 hours after the drug fueled robbery and murder the body of Mark Jones was found by police after a
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neighbor had called to ask them to do a welfare check on Mark as Mark Jones's house became an active
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crime scene Towery was visited by police who were questioning him about the armed
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robbery he recently committed one of the waitresses that he had not tied up he whispered in her ear you're going to get
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out soon you'll be fine just give me five so he had not tied her up he just wanted the
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money they got into a fight long enough that they didn't drive away the waitress
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and all the people got free and they came outside and got the license plate the license plate had led the
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police to Robert Tower's door as the police searched his home they made a shocking
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Discovery they found equipment stereo equipment and other stuff that belong to Mark and that's how they found out that
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he had been there and stolen all that stuff from him Robert to was immediately arrested and charged with four counts of
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robbery and four counts of kidnapping and the murder of Mark Jones when my brother first got caught
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he was still using he was still the typical meth liar he denied it denied it he was pleading not guilty to everybody
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including me when I found out that he killed a man I was mad and how selfish of you to like go
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down this road and get this screwed up and take somebody's life an innocent man's life what a wretched human you
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are I felt like you know what whatever he gets he deserves seriously and also I remember being worried about people
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finding out that it was my brother because I was [Music] ashamed 27-year-old Robert to had been
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arrested and charged for the murder of of Mark Jones and for armed robbery and kidnapping at a local restaurant was
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found guilty of robbing and kidnapping the only communication that we had during that time was just through
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phone calls and letters on May 1st 1992 to was sentenced to life imprisonment 3 months later on August
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3rd Robert toy went on trial for the murder of Mark Jones he plad not guilty Christine was called to the
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witness stand by her brother's defense lawyer how do you defend somebody who
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did something like that but the defense attorney had said you need to take the stand because they were really going to
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push on this abuse the child abuse the drug abuse all that when I took the stand I was so callous in the beginning
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because I was angry with him I guess I said whatever he did there's no excuse
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for it doesn't matter how you're brought up it doesn't matter if you're on drugs
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or what you're on drugs you still make these choices the Jud said I'm looking at two
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women who seem to have come from the same place and they fine they're not murderers they're not thieves they're
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not drug addicts they're fine Robert toy was found guilty of the murder of Mark Jones and on November
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20th was sentenced to [Music] death when the judge said I sentenc you to death I had this urge to just jump
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over the railing and hug him and I didn't for two reasons I didn't want to
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get in trouble my second thought was what if he grabs you and like I'm going to kill her
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if you don't let me out of here the moment was more full of Fear And Regret than anything else cuz I wanted
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to hug him and hold him he just got sentenced to death and I couldn't do that my name is Dale be I represented
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Robert towry when he was on death row in Arizona in order to be eligible for the
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death penalty in Arizona there has to be murder plus something more that would be what's called aggravating
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circumstances so for instance if a murder is committed uh in the course of a robbery uh that murder would be
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eligible for the death [Music] penalty there's two people there there's the
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murderer who nobody has any feelings for and then there's the human who's my
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brother who I've loved my whole life and I love him still I wasn't going to think about it every
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day I was going to make it like Define my life and what I was doing so I didn't visit him very much
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because when you when you go to visit it brings everything to the foreground in the beginning because I
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was so mad and honestly really kind of callous about it he was an imposition to me he had not owned it yet he had not
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apologized he didn't show remorse and throughout that time I had no respect for
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him Randy Barker Robert to's friend was also charged with murder but it did not
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go to trial Randy Barker entered into a plea agreement the second degree murder in exchange for his testimony against
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Robert toy he was sentenced then to 10 years in prison after 5 years behind bars
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Christine started to see a positive ch change in her brother everything changed when he admitted to me that he did it
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and I could see that he felt bad and had remorse for doing it that's when things
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shifted dramatically for me as far as my how I felt about him Christine continued
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to visit her brother over the next 20 years I didn't visit as much as I probably should have or could have but I
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wrote a lot of letters we had a lot of phone calls every time I went to see him I
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dreaded the experience because it made everything real again it brought everything to the
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foreground while I was in the visit itself I was perfectly fine we were we'd
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have good conversations and he'd play with the kids and we had good times but then I would get
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home and I'd be all messed up again because it was now real it was now in my
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face again that this was actually my life this is my brother's life and it was an inconvenience and I'm guilty I'm
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feeling guilty because I don't want to spend my time visiting him but yet there
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he is all alone 20 years after his conviction Robert to's execution date was set for
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March 8th 2012 I met Robert uh probably 6 months before he was scheduled to be executed I was very impressed with him
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as a person I saw uh a lot of uh remorse uh and Humanity in Robert he was approaching his scheduled
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execution date and we tried to put together a case uh asking for Robert's life to be
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spared on February 2nd 2012 48-year-old Robert how was moved to death watch 35 days before uh a
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scheduled execution date uh the prisoner is removed from his cell on death row and put in a special
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cell a person is watched at 24 hours a day 7 days a week it's a very restrictive
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environment if Robert needed toilet paper he would have to ask for it they're just watch they want to make
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sure that the person does not commit suicide you know which is which is ironic U that they want to
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make sure that the person is executed rather than um taking his own life a month later on March
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2nd Robert to and his team of lawyers including Dale Bach tried to get his death sentence commuted to life in
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prison Robert wanted a clemency hearing because Robert wanted to live Robert wanted to publicly uh
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Express uh the remorse uh for uh what he did and to apologize to the family of Mr
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Jones first and foremost I'd like to apologize to Mark's family I have the deepest regrets for what I
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[Music] did I was at the Clemy hearing the clency hearings are held in a big Auditorium where they had death rad it's
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the last chance uh that uh uh a condemned person can uh can possibly you know ask that their sentence be commuted
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that uh that the execution be stayed Robert wanted to live because he was able to build a life while he was on
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death row uh he was no longer using meth um he had sobered up uh and Robert grew uh as a person he rebuilt his
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relationship with his family he was mentoring his sister's son who did not have a father figure in his life so
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Robert had a lot to live for and he was willing to spend the rest of his life uh
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in prison he's a human being he wasn't sitting at a table Shackled or whatever
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he was literally in a cage like an animal I was like why why why is he in a cage it's
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ridiculous to's defense team spoke about the trauma Robert experienced at the
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hands of his mother Robert's about 6 years old in this Photograph this is the year that
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Robert almost lost his leg to his mother's discipline Robert's about 8 years old in this picture this is around
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the time that Robert's mother bound and gagged him and stuck him in the floorboard of the Family's
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car it was then the prosecutor's turn in the hearing your story is very similar to a
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lot of individuals we see in your situation they've come from horrendous backgrounds they're drug addicts and
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commit a crime that they terribly regret years later they've done well in prison
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but the issue is the crime why should we look at you any different than any of the other folks in the same
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situation all I know is that I've done my best to Chang my life 20 years I've
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spent getting it together and trying to be a good dad and good uncle that's all I can do and try to
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speak about the life destroying aspects of drugs I'm nothing special Robbie was pretty emotional
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during the clemency hearing he was speaking from his heart he had his statement prepared he choked up during
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it I truly wish with my heart that I had not taken Mark's life and it's a terrible thing that I
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did and I should never have it should never have happened the prosecution responded this
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individual that committed this crime but now he's cloaked as a victim I tell you
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that right is right and Justice is justice [Music] and I ask that you not buy into this
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notion that he's a victim and I ask you to not commute his sentence a decision
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on the fate of Robert toy was made Mr chairman I come down on the side of not favoring a commutation to Mr
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to this crime was one of the worst of the worst and when he perpetrated this crime Mr toy was one of the worst of the
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worst but it was just too late you know [Music] 4 days after the clemency hearing and
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the evening before Robert to's execution Christine and Dale went to visit him he hadn't had any human touch
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for 20 years and I hadn't hugged him in 20 years and he was about to be killed I said so when does that happen
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she goes well it doesn't Arizona doesn't allow for that that was the first time I broke down
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into tears because I had been planning on seeing him hugging him and and touching him for the first time in 20
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years before they did that I saw Robert the night before he was scheduled to be executed he was strong his Spirit was
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strong um he was preparing himself uh to die we went into VIs it and he had reconciled himself he knew
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this was coming he felt like he deserved what was coming and he's like I'm I'm
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good he called me Chris then he's like Chris I'm good and the guard says time's up and
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I'm like no not not yet they're like no you got to go and that's when everything
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kind of it it flipped in that moment I looked at him and as we were saying goodbye we put our hands up against the
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glass and he just started crying and I started crying and I can't to this day I can
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still see the agony in his face and it wasn't the fear of what was going to happen the next day it was the pain you
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know of like the reality the end of the story that is well it was really happening I didn't want to
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leave I didn't get to hug him I didn't get to talk to him without the glass
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between us the day of the execution had arrived Christine was at the prison to support her brother the day of the
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execution was very very strange we're standing there they file in the curtains open up and I was the
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biggest shock of my life he's laying on the table and I immediately can see in his face
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that the person I saw the night before is not the same person I'm looking at
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now something went wrong when I tell the story about when he was a little baby like a very young child and my mom had
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him on the floorboard and he was duct taped and he his hands were tied and he was like looking at me crying Help Me
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Help me that face was there again he was looking tortured he had clearly been crying
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I'm standing there like I'm 12 years old again and my mom is in charge and I
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can't move and here's my brother who needs my help and again I'm not saving
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him didn't save him the car didn't save him when he was drug addicted and I'm
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not able to save him again here he is strapped and I can't stop it I can't
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save him it was never Christine's job to raise her younger brother it's the
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primary caregivers that's their job it's your mom and dad or whoever is is there
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to take care of you it's the adults job to look after the children not the children's job to look after the other
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children Robert noted I feel like a true monster for putting my kids through this
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when I think about what I put Mar Jones's family through 20 years ago I'm
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right where I should be I literally destroy two families with what I did I wish I could take it all back I'm
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sorry so he closes his eyes and then he gas for air I continued to watch um as uh the
00:38:14
color left Robert's face a few minutes later there was an announcement that the
00:38:21
execution uh has been completed and the curtains closed I looked at my watch and I'm like it's
00:38:33
11:16 he's dead on March 8th 2012 Robert chry was executed by lisal injection she stayed afterwards and
00:38:56
later in the day they allowed her to to go see his body and as she described it to me she
00:39:07
went in and he was there and she just started to cry and she said Robbie you're finally
00:39:18
[Music] free the family members are so often the Forgotten victims we tend to forget that they have
00:39:32
also lost someone they're also related to the perpetrator they have to carry that
00:39:39
burden for the rest of their lives I want to make it really clear I'm not looking for sympathy on this we need
00:39:49
to help people that are on drugs we need to help people that have mental illnesses we need families to love each
00:39:56
other more to be more present to be more aware to be a little braver so when you
00:40:02
see something move forward move into it and don't give up don't give up on that
00:40:10
[Music] person in my heart when I think about my brother as a murderer I feel like I'm culpable in so
00:40:21
many ways because I didn't save him which was my goal as a child it was always my goal to save
00:40:30
him I wished I could have had him in my life when I needed him and me not doing more to stop
00:40:41
it which is so weird because what power did I have none she can see that what he did was
00:40:52
Dreadful but she also loved him it's so complex for her and I'm just in awe about the way
00:41:00
that she describes that those threads of trauma because that that is what she's
00:41:08
living with every single every single day when she thinks about her own life Christine often thinks back to the
00:41:18
day Robert was sentenced to death and to the moment she shared with the sister of her brother's victim Mark
00:41:26
Jones [Music] I got a sympathy card and I wrote on there I am so sorry for the loss of your
00:41:34
brother today I will lose mine [Music] too so I handed her the card the most incredible thing
00:41:44
happened there was a pathway magically there and she and I met in the center of the courtroom and we hugged each other
00:41:52
and we both cried and it was such a good feeling on the worst day of my life because I had somehow made it better
00:42:01
somehow made it I needed her to know I was as sad for her as as as I was the monster that he was if I look at
00:42:17
and think about that drug addicted violent [Music] monster I have no pain about his death
00:42:27
but that's not who they killed the person that ended up being executed was not the same
00:42:38
person I love him he's my brother [Music] [Music]

Badges

This episode stands out for the following:

  • 90
    Most heartbreaking
  • 85
    Most emotional
  • 80
    Most dramatic
  • 80
    Best overall

Episode Highlights

  • Robert Toy's Conviction
    Robert Toy was convicted of murdering philanthropist Mark Jones during an armed robbery.
    ā€œRobert was convicted of murder and sentenced to death.ā€
    @ 00m 07s
    December 13, 2024
  • The Impact of Childhood Abuse
    Christine shares the traumatic childhood experiences that shaped her and Robert's lives.
    ā€œIt sounds horrific, absolutely horrific.ā€
    @ 07m 03s
    December 13, 2024
  • Robert's Life of Crime
    Robert's descent into crime and drug addiction led to his eventual arrest.
    ā€œHe was a monster fueled by methamphetamines and anger.ā€
    @ 11m 15s
    December 13, 2024
  • The Trial and Sentencing
    Robert Toy was found guilty of murder and sentenced to death.
    ā€œRobert Toy was found guilty of the murder of Mark Jones.ā€
    @ 23m 43s
    December 13, 2024
  • Christine's Emotional Plea
    Christine expresses her conflicting feelings towards her brother after his sentencing.
    ā€œI had this urge to just jump over the railing and hug him.ā€
    @ 24m 02s
    December 13, 2024
  • The Day of Execution
    Christine witnesses her brother's execution and reflects on their complex relationship.
    ā€œIt was the biggest shock of my life.ā€
    @ 36m 24s
    December 13, 2024
  • A Moment of Connection
    Christine shares a poignant moment with the victim's sister in court.
    ā€œWe hugged each other and we both cried.ā€
    @ 41m 53s
    December 13, 2024

Episode Quotes

  • I was mad and how selfish of you to like go down this road.
    Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer
  • I had this urge to just jump over the railing and hug him.
    Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer
  • I love him still.
    Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer
  • I wish I could take it all back.
    Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer
  • I’m sorry for the loss of your brother; today I will lose mine too.
    Robert Towery | I’m Related To A Killer

Key Moments

  • Conviction00:07
  • Death Penalty00:14
  • Life of Crime11:15
  • Trial and Sentencing23:43
  • Facing Reality27:26
  • Clemency Hearing30:03
  • Execution Day36:04
  • Shared Grief41:32

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