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Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode

June 08, 2022 / 43:34

This episode covers the disappearance of Debbie Griggs, the troubled marriage with Andrew Griggs, and the eventual murder investigation. Key discussions include Andrew's abusive behavior, Debbie's struggles with mental health, and the police investigation that took 20 years to bring charges against Andrew.

Debbie Griggs went missing in May 1999, shortly after revealing her pregnancy to Andrew. Her family and friends were concerned about her mental state, which Andrew exploited to portray her as unstable. He reported her missing, claiming she left after an argument.

Investigators found inconsistencies in Andrew's story, leading to suspicions about his involvement. Evidence, including a smear of Debbie's blood in her car, shifted the case from a missing person investigation to a murder investigation.

Despite a lack of a body, the case against Andrew strengthened over the years, culminating in his arrest in 2019. The trial revealed Andrew's long history of abuse and manipulation, ultimately leading to his conviction for Debbie's murder.

Debbie's family expressed relief at the verdict but faced the emotional turmoil of knowing their children were raised by their mother's killer. The episode highlights the complexities of domestic abuse and the long fight for justice.

TLDR

Debbie Griggs vanished in 1999; her husband Andrew was later convicted of her murder after years of investigation.

Episode

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[Applause] [Music] depression we've got three little boys and she's just
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wound up too much how long she been missing for andrew griggs reports that his pregnant
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wife debbie has vanished into the night there's something else 20 years later mr griggs was arrested on
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suspicion of his wife's murder [Music] she talks about the fact that he's
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threatening her she talks about the fact that she's scared i asked my mum what has he done to her what secrets has
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he been hiding where is debbie griggs does andrew griggs know more about his wife's disappearance than he's letting
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on and why has it taken 20 years for police to make their case the best lie is you know a 90 truth and he was pretty
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good at doing that [Music] [Music] the third of six children and the eldest girl deborah elizabeth cameron big
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sister big bundle of fun big trouble she got me into a lot of trouble she was there when i needed her
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she'd bully me she'd pick on me she would fight we'd argue but if anyone else picked on me
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she'd be there protecting me debbie's younger sister wendy remembers an idyllic childhood in
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the seaside resort of deal in kent england where the cameron family had lived for generations it was fun
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a bunch of friends all over the place and forever cycling everywhere i remember debbie scooping me up when i
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sliced my leg open i remember her picking me up when i cut my head open carrying me
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home kissing me better debbie would tell her siblings that hers was the kind of childhood she imagined
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for her children when she became a mum and when in her mid-twenties she met andrew griggs she took her first steps
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to making that a reality debbie and andrew met through mutual friends um they uh
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andrew had a boat uh in uh which is a trawler that used to fish from that was at ramsgate and it was his
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birthday party and debbie came to the party and they hit it off and their relationship started like
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debbie andrew griggs was from a family that really made up the fabric of the community in dill they both came from
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these these staunch long-term generation after generation after generation deal families
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his particular family were fishermen theirs was the happy union of two well-known local families but debbie
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soon discovered life hadn't always been plain sailing for her future husband
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it wasn't until debbie was engaged to andrew that there was a conversation between her parents and andrew's parents
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and they disclosed that andrew had previously had a business um in favisham and which failed
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and also a relationship that failed as well this had caused him an awful lot of stress and anxiety to the extent they'd
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had to seek treatment for it if debbie minded that her fiance hadn't been immediately upfront about his past
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struggles it didn't seem to change her feelings for him in 1990 debbie and andrew were living together in walmar
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road in deal later on in september they got married i think to to start off with it was they
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were happy in 1992 their first son is born followed three years later by their second son parenthood came naturally to
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mrs griggs adored those boys did everything anything with them for them took them everywhere just
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she was so proud of them things were not all plain sailing though after her first child she did suffer
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from postnatal depression and was treated for five months after that but she managed through
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and it was quite clear that she was a loving mum but needed a bit of support from family and also from the doctors as
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well with the second child she got it again but it wasn't so severe detective paul fatheringham would soon
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develop an intimate knowledge of the greg's marriage i would use the term quite an old-fashioned relationship in
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terms of andrew's expectations about working hard and his wife being at home
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looking after the children as uh making sure that a meal was on the table for him he was often at sea whether that was
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sailing as a hobby or whether that was for work for the fisheries business and he was very very focused on building
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the business he would come home for an hour and a half maximum have dinner prepared for him ready on the table but
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never eat as a family together or very rarely and then he would go out and he would go
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to his um boat club he'd play squash he'd go swimming he would do social activities little pub
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griggs is out all the time she's working hard at home with the kids andrew's absences became a source of
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conflict between him and debbie but he did not change his routine or expectations
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in 1997 their third son was born and for the first seven or eight years of their
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marriage debbie appeared happy she was always seen with the boys she'd take the eldest to school she'd take the two
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younger ones to their play group she'd collect them she'd come up at least once
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a week the children would play um she was the party girl if there was ever there was a family party it was around
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at debbie's house debbie's time was spoken for with family and work where
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she helped andrew andrew's time was much more of his own he worked hard played hard and he saw who he liked
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in the summer of 1998 his wife began to question who he was keeping company with
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debbie started becoming concerned about an infatuation that he seemed to have with a with a 14 year old child that was
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known to the family debbie had suspicions that something was going on and she had suspicions that he was
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having some kind of relationship with this young girl andrew seemed quite focused
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on the child wanting to spend time with her to teach her to swim to teach her to
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sail and also when the child was at the house some of the activity and messing around with their own children
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seemed to be over familiar is how debbie described it and he was really quite blatant about it he began
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to flirt with again a child under his wife's nose in front of debbie debbie kept a notebook jotting down her
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fears about andrew's behavior it describes the relationship the one-sided relationship
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it describes how he works comes home for an hour and a half and then goes off never has meals
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with the children he spends more time with her than with us she wrote she had suspicions but she had no proof
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of wrongdoing was mrs griggs reading all of this wrong and if she was not reading it wrong
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what sort of a man had she married good evening [Applause] [Music] eight years into their marriage debbie
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griggs suspected her 37 year old husband andrew of being a pedophile as it turned out
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she was not imagining things griggs met a young 14 year old girl he groomed that young girl
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into having a sexual relationship with him and at one point she actually did confront them both
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accused them of having a relationship but they they both denied it andrew griggs controls this vulnerable child by
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lying to her he basically says that when she's questioned by his wife and asked
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whether she's having a sexual relationship with him to lie but the reason that he says she has to lie is
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because if people find out people will hate her this girl was told in no uncertain terms if anyone finds out
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about our relationship well your life will effectively be over so it wasn't a
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threat of death it wasn't a violent threat but it was everyone will hate you
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that's what predators do they convince the victim that it's their fault that
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they're the one responsible and at 14 you haven't the mental capacity and you
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haven't the understanding of how wrong this is and how innocent you are you feel like you're to blame we can start
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to get a window into grigg's head this isn't a nice man the relationship
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with the young girl carries on over a number of years and he apparently became obsessed with her he was spending
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all his time with us you know like five days a week that was the reality but debbie had no proof and they had both
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denied that they were having sex debbie desperately wanted to believe her husband
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debbie just about accepted it she wanted the marriage to work debbie didn't confide in anyone
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about anything that was going on in the marriage as far as the family was concerned
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everything was perfect and you know smelling her roses loyal to andrew debbie persevered with the marriage and
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early in 1999 she got some news that gave her hope that they could start afresh in the middle of january 1999
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she was pregnant with her fourth child she told andrew and she was quite happy to give him the
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good news she wanted to complete the family with a girl she was very excited about being pregnant again
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andrew's response was not what she expected he was really quite dismissive back to say it's not mine i don't want
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to get rid of it he told her that the youngest boy wasn't his he told her the baby she was carrying
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wasn't his she was devastated absolutely devastated his reaction and and she admits that she slapped him
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around the face and burst into tears and ran out of the house and got in a car drove 50 yards around
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the corner sat in a car and sobbed having another child with debbie was not in andrew griggs's plan but this
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incident gave him his first opportunity to do something that was in his plan to convince everybody who knew her that his
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wife was unstable on the 1st of march 1999 the relationship is coming to a breaking
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point debbie wants him out the whole business with the fourth child him rejecting it and him accusing her of
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having an affair is the straw that broke the camel's back she wants him out of
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the family home she goes to the place of work his shop and demands the keys to the house
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she grabs the keys and there is an incident that occurs andrew recounts it as being how she violently attacked him
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and he ended up having a bite to his finger that he needed medical treatment for
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later debbie describes in in a in a legal document that she did try and get the keys but actually she was grabbed
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she was needing the stomach considering she was pregnant by andrew and that she did bite him and
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to to make sure that she could be released and leave the premises debbie was playing into her husband's hands he
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began spreading tales around town that were patently untrue andrew seems to be pretty consistent in his um
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debbie's depressed also that she's a poor mum i think he was trying to set her up as somebody with
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serious mental illness i think you know she she had suffered with with depression so all you know the
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groundwork has already done for him he told a number of her very close friends that she was um a bad mother
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difficult to live with not devoted to the children not caring of the children on the 25th of february
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andrew speaks to his solicitor to instigate divorce proceedings over the preceding weeks the couple had
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argued about who would get what if they were to separate griggs wanted to maintain absolutely everything he had
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but get rid of debbie he didn't want any of his entitlements being taken away he
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didn't want his life being messed up in any way debbie's got no money um he's
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not giving her any housekeeping to pay the kids and she goes in and grabs the checkbooks and then there is an
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incident where he is seems to be speaking to her and then she gets very agitated
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witnesses to this row would later report that griggs had goaded debbie by accusing her of turning their sons
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against him now actually that happens in front of a cctv camera so so i believe and actually the judge
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believed the court that he'd set that up because an incident occurs where he she
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bites him and after she leaves he actually lifts his arm up to the camera to show it off andrew griggs was
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gathering the ammunition that he needed for his next step it's noticeable after that incident
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then andrew gets his solicitors to apply for a non-molestation order where somebody's
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of fear of violence within a marriage there's insufficient evidence for police
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to prosecute a member of a family can actually go to a court through a solicitor and ask the court to put an
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order on the other person that they have to undertake that they're not allowed to
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commit assault against somebody the order enshrined in court on police records the idea that debbie was either
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mad or bad so andrew was putting this in place my view is not to protect himself my
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view is he did the non-molestation order to try and evidence his divorce proceedings thinking about
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what's going to happen in the future if so he was also placing debbie's perspective on the court records
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[Music] andrew griggs was making his wife's life a living hell he withheld money she
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couldn't afford to buy a pair of shoes for a boy [Music] he followed her if she went to a
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friend's house he followed her and he'd sit outside to make sure she didn't go
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anywhere else he told her she was a bad mother [Music] that she was just useless and mad debbie's diary kept on
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the advice of her solicitor provides another insight into what happened within the four walls of the griggs home
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she describes him as bombastic and bullying and that she genuinely fears he will seek to do her harm it seems that
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she really felt that her life was at risk she talks about the fact that he's
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threatening her he talks about the fact that she's scared so we know this is an
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abusive and hostile environment andrew griggs was bullying aggressive threatening he was cutting off his wife
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from her assets andrew had already started rearranging at the end of february rearranging the finances and
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wrote his bank to say i want a soul account because the arrangement they'd had is that no money could go in and out
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of the business without debbie being a signatory to it so he applied to the bank to have a sole
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account and the bank later agreed to that as long as his parents were guarantors to me this feels like he's
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seeking to protect his financial assets against any future divorce settlements she has an absolute entitlement to have
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access to that business but it shows the control level this is about money she's
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a problem she's an expensive problem but out of the blue on the 18th of march
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1999 andrew had a change of heart andrew phones his solicitors to say hold the divorce
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do not go ahead with the divorce we know there was a phone call between andrew and debbie
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almost immediately afterwards we don't know what that conversation is but the
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following day one of debbie's friends visits knowing that debbie is divorcing
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andrew and is really surprised to see that andrews back in the house debbie's family were
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equally surprised at this u-turn in the couple's relationship all these divorce papers were sort of
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ready to go and he kept going around there to take the boys out and taken her flowers and started
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getting romantic with her and begged for another chance i can only assume that andrew has persuaded debbie that he can
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move back in and then within a week or so he's formally moved back into the house i'm guessing because debbie was
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pregnant thought this was you know well why not he's promised not to have another affair
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it's going to work so we will if that's what you want to do if you can trust him then go for it
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because you know three boys she loved him you you gotta try so yeah we understood
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debbie was relieved to have her husband back to put her mind at ease he promised
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to see less of his teenage friend was the greg's marriage back on track if so
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why did debbie suddenly disappear i asked my mum what has he done to her yeah it counter makes it quite clear to them
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that um debbie's targets are half of everything she's suffering from depression
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um personal depression we've got three little boys and she's just wound up too much
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debbie griggs said reconciled with husband andrew she told her family that despite it all she still loved him she
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thought his motivations were the same in fact something else had prompted his change of heart debbie's title to half
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of everything so there's going to be a significant financial impact on andrew
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at this point andrew of course had to find an alternative he didn't want debbie in his life
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anymore he wanted her gone however he didn't want to pay for her to be gone he
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didn't want to court order that would say she would have half of his assets how was he going to create a life with
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this other girl if this was all going on and what if she was going to make it difficult with his children so
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he he didn't want any of his entitlements being taken away he didn't want his life
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being messed up in any way having decided divorce was not an option andrew griggs had moved back in with his wife
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whilst in secret he formulated another plan andrew continued to make arrangements
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over the coming weeks to to financially cut debbie off from the the business even though he was now back
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living with her in mid-april griggs began dropping hints to friends as to what this alternative
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solution might be griggs told a business contact that his wife now wanted half of
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the business he was very rude in terms of what he described her as and actually said i want her dead
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three weeks later andrew griggs betrayed his wife once again unto be known to debbie on the 2nd of may um andrew went
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to look at a a boat that he was considering buying took his children out which is quite unusual for him to do and
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debbie was clearly not happy with the fact that she then found that later that the
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the other child also attended as well the other child was the now 15 year old girl he had groomed and was abusing the
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next day he chatted with her on the phone after school before taking her swimming
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he was able to break the law without turning her hair groom a child to be in a sexual
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relationship with him going against everything he absolutely knows is wrong in his community in his society he's
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also got no regard whatsoever for debbie and he was determined to make sure that
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she couldn't get her hands on what he saw as his cash on the 4th of may we know that andrew went to the bank
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with his parents and they were guarantors for the accounts and that's effectively when
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debbie was cut off but during that day she actually bumped into a friend and was
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in a really positive mood i was talking about the fact that she's working through things with with andrew and then
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talked about arrangements for the evening of the sixth where this friend was having a body shop
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evening and debbie committed to go debbie never made it to her friend's gathering at
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around nine o'clock on the evening of the sixth andrew griggs dialed 999 good evening
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to help yeah i'd like to report this in person and how old is the missing person yeah
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54 34 yeah my wife right has she been missing before yeah [Applause] we've got three little boys and she's
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just wound up too much all right greeks had spent the day spreading the same story debbie was
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mentally unravelling and she'd run off into the night on the morning of the 6th
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of may griggs takes his children to school whilst there he speaks to some of the other parents and tells them that
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debbie has gone and that she's left him how long has she been missing for since
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late last night late last night yeah she's always gone yeah four five six hours griggs claimed
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that his wife had walked out late the previous evening after a brief argument a claim he would repeat again and again
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when you fall asleep she's in the kitchen what is the next thing you recall uh debbie's shouting and screaming
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and saying what um it's right for you to come home and fall asleep um let's see how you keep doing 24 hours
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ago seven days a week i'm here all day with them andrew reports that at um and the story
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changes and the time changes to be honest but certainly after nine o'clock that they have a row and debbie um
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storms out says something like see how you like looking after the children 24 7.
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and uh and i'll i'll be back in a week has she taken any money with her yes
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she's got must be about 250 pounds again griggs pressed home the message that his wife was unstable
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unpredictable you're going to be asked when we get a patrol round there has there been any domestic problems yes
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the story griggs had been telling friends and family for months had all been leading up to this moment his wife
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angry depressed a terrible mother had left of her own accord but after a bit of a row about how she
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felt put upon with looking after those three boys constantly without much help from him
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she just simply said well you have the children now you see what it's like i will leave so she just simply left in
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the middle of the night so your main concern is a depression i take here she is pregnant as well
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she's been under the doctor for depression um for a while and i think you've contacted all family
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members yeah family members all friends in fact riggs had only been in touch with his wife's family and friends late
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on the afternoon of the sixth almost 24 hours after he claimed to have last seen
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her nobody had heard from debbie i asked my mum what has he done to her he's got to have done something to her
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because debbie just would not have left those children kent police launched a search
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at the same time they were building a timeline of the previous evening on the fifth of may we know that andrew
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came home from work we know that between seven and eight in the evening debbie had a conversation with her a close
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friend and organised for the following morning that debbie would collect her trans
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children to take them to nursery that's the last contact that we know that we
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have with anyone other than than what andrew tells us that's happened andrew
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told police that debbie had driven off in her white peugeot at around 10 30 p.m on the 5th debbie's car
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was missing when the police turned up and they didn't find it so it fitted with andrew's story but reports from
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other residents of crossroad deal cast doubt on his version of events one of the neighbors reported seeing at about 2
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a.m her white peugeot reversing off the drive and being driven away there's another witness that comes much later
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but still says that actually they saw the car drive off the drive at four o'clock in the morning debbie's family
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found the idea of her walking out hard to believe with what we knew of debbie there's no way did she do that
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i myself as a mother think i could do with a break but to just walk out debbie would never
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she'd made arrangements to go to parties to go and see her mother it was her mother's birthday
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within a week of her disappearance this wasn't a woman who would simply just up and go where was debbie griggs
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was she the mentally unstable woman depicted by her husband andrew who had simply run off
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or was she as andrew had said privately that he would like to see her dead i know that the police
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searched debbie's house garage they even dug up the gardens detectives were putting pressure on
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andrew griggs but despite discrepancies he stuck to his story when she woke me up saying that oh you've fallen asleep
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[Music] you know and then started moaning about having the boys 24 hours a day seven days a week
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on may the 12th a discovery that threatened to blow the husband's story apart
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the police found debbie's car a week after her disappearance parked in a residential area
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of deal which is about a mile walk from the home address there was no trace of debbie but a search of the car yielded
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something sinister there was a smear of blood which later turns out to be we could prove it's debbie's blood diane
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ginova solicitor for the crown prosecution service says that this was the moment the case changed for police
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at first it was a missing person's investigation but it then quickly developed into a murder investigation
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debbie griggs four months pregnant with three little boys at home was feared dead
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and the number one suspect the man who had been feeding detectives his version of events
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from the start the police were very concerned that andrew griggs had almost set up his defense at the
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outset he told a number of people that debbie was a bad mother we had found absolutely no evidence of
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that quite the country he told the police that she had mental health problems that she was depressed
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almost suggesting that she was suicidal again the police found absolutely no evidence
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of her being depressed at that particular time and the police realized very quickly
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that he was telling lies he was being inconsistent griggs stuck to his story and denied any
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involvement with the child that he was abusing because of uh debbie's concerns
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about his uh inappropriate relationship with uh with a child um that was part of the investigation
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but there was no evidence to corroborate it um and and the young lady in question
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didn't provide any information that was that was able to support that despite andrew
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griggs's denials detectives were convinced he was their man but actual proof was thin on the ground i know that
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the police searched debbie's house garage they even dug up the gardens they searched the fields
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around it and obviously were searching the streets none of those excavations revealed
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anybody one of the core aspects of the murder investigation to take it forward is to have
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a body and we didn't have a body um so so actually we had a circumstantial case
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and even what andrew had told us had some truth in what he's saying the best
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lie is you know a 90 truth and he was pretty good at doing that she wrote me up you
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know and then started moaning about having the boys 24 hours a day seven days a week
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the police carried out a very intensive investigation at the time of the murder but at that time
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back in 1999 it was decided that there just wasn't sufficient evidence to prosecute
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it was a frustrating time for kent police and a heartbreaking one for debbie's loved ones we didn't believe
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he was walking away from it or walking getting away with it we couldn't understand why
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the police couldn't put everything together and break him down so that he would
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crack and tell us what had gone on months passed with no breakthroughs then months turned to years
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but in 2002 almost three years after debbie had vanished a possible in andrew's armor we know andrew is looking
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to move away and move away from the area down to dorset so the business goes up for sale
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and when the new owner comes in there's actually some documentation that they
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find and within the documentation is what some would describe as a love letter from
00:32:39
what turns out to be the 14 year old child saying how much um she loved him and actually there clearly was a
00:32:47
relationship so that's the first bit of solid evidence even though you know it
00:32:52
was it was in a letter that we would need to cooperate that andrew actually had been
00:32:57
in a relationship not only proof of griggs's abusive relationship with a child but also a potential motive for
00:33:04
murder all of a sudden the reason for wanting debbie dead is strengthened because of um not just the
00:33:11
financial aspect for debbie but also the fact that we may have evidence that he was a pedophile
00:33:18
that he had raped a child andrew's rearrested for the sexual offenses and and we do
00:33:25
get a disclosure at that stage uh from the uh from the young lady about what happened but hopes for a prosecution
00:33:31
were dashed once again the file was looked at by the cps and again it was decided that there
00:33:38
wasn't sufficient evidence devastating for the team devastating for the family
00:33:43
at that point um and uh and no obvious lines of inquiry at that time to to continue to
00:33:49
pursue andrew and his sons moved to dorset to begin a new life he remarried cutting
00:33:56
off all contact with debbie's family not only did we lose debbie the baby we lost those boys as well
00:34:09
years passed with no news her family never stopped looking for her though in their hearts they knew there was little
00:34:15
point mum went she searched the streets for hours upon end just looking for debbie she phoned
00:34:22
all of her contacts again no joy whatsoever she rang all the newspapers to try and
00:34:29
get the newspapers to write something just to bring debbie to the light so that somebody somewhere
00:34:36
may have heard or seen something everything goes on around you children are born
00:34:42
you laugh you joke you see a thing and suddenly deb is there she's in your head
00:34:50
and everything breaks again it leaves you empty leaves you devastated it leaves you
00:34:57
wandering hoping wishing in 2018 paul fatheringham was heading up kent police's cold cases team when a
00:35:04
colleague approached with a case he was keen to look at with fresh eyes the disappearance of debbie griggs we
00:35:11
started the cold case team working with him as well to start pulling out the old
00:35:15
files reviewing whether there's anything that we might have missed we also carried out a number of inquiries
00:35:21
we call them proof of life inquiries proof of life is something which can be use of bank accounts use of
00:35:27
her mobile phone use of the nhs registration of the birth of the baby that she was carrying at the
00:35:33
time she disappeared there was no evidence of debbie griggs's existence since the day that she
00:35:39
vanished in may 1999. for the third time the police took the case back to the cps
00:35:46
the crucial factors which changed between 2002 and 2018 was simply that there was no proof of
00:35:52
life for debbie that really strengthened the case the fact that 20 years had gone
00:35:57
past and there was absolutely no evidence whatsoever of this woman being alive certain by now that 34 year old deborah
00:36:06
elizabeth griggs had died in may 1999 the cps agreed to bring charges against her husband in march 2019 debbie's
00:36:14
sister wendy by then living in new zealand received a call that she'd almost given up hope of ever getting it
00:36:20
was from her younger brother wayne and i did a lot of skype and facetime and he was quite excited to be telling
00:36:29
me that dad had the police round this morning at 6 30 and he said that the police had to
00:36:36
be with dad to tell him that there were other police in dorset arresting andy police body cam footage
00:36:43
shows andrew griggs impassive as he's taken away in handcuffs almost 20 years
00:36:49
after his first wife's disappearance had he always expected this day to come
00:36:54
or by now did he think he was home and dry we go to dorset and we arrest him and produce him before
00:37:00
court and he gets formally charged with the offensive murder before we knew it there was just the flood of
00:37:09
everything going on at the same time with him being arrested charged um he was released out on bail which we
00:37:18
were a bit disappointed with but then we found the court case was only in a few months time
00:37:25
so it was okay we could cope with that in october 2019 andrew griggs stood trial at canterbury crown court
00:37:32
prosecutor diane ginova knew her task would not be an easy one legally it was a very difficult case circumstantial
00:37:40
evidence is evidence which shows which suggests that the defendant is guilty of a crime
00:37:51
in this case there are a number of strands of circumstantial evidence the body had not been found so there was
00:37:59
not direct evidence the prosecution could never at any point say how debbie was murdered
00:38:06
but the prosecution could say with conviction that she was murdered because her body had never been found
00:38:15
the evidence in this case was based on statements from her family and friends who knew that she just wouldn't simply
00:38:26
up and leave in the middle of the night and of course the major discrepancy in andrew greek's version of what happened
00:38:32
that night during the trial one of the critical aspects was the movement of the car at two o'clock in the morning at
00:38:38
four o'clock in the morning my view is that andrew's murdered debbie two o'clock in the morning he puts
00:38:44
debbie in the car takes her somewhere comes back and then four o'clock in the morning he
00:38:52
drives off to dump the car in his defense andrew griggs stuck to the same story that he'd been telling for 20
00:38:58
years throughout all his lengthy interviews which run to some 1500 pages andrew griggs has always denied
00:39:07
murdering his wife his defense has always been that she left she left in the middle of the night
00:39:14
never to be seen again he had nothing to do with her disappearance and he did not murder her
00:39:20
on a dry cold day at the end of october 2019 the jury retired to consider its verdict debbie's family's 20-year wait
00:39:28
was almost over would they finally see justice we were all sat in a little room waiting
00:39:34
for the outcome we were sat there bickering fighting crying i went outside and broke down for quite
00:39:45
a while this was never going to be an easy case to prove however we were satisfied that we had enough
00:39:52
evidence for the case to go before a jury and for a jury to conclude beyond a reasonable
00:39:58
doubt that andrew griggs was guilty of murdering his wife debbie the jury filed back it was the long-awaited moment of
00:40:05
truth a verdict was returned when i heard the jury unanimously say guilty and i saw his face
00:40:15
his shock on it it's just the feeling was everything i didn't know what to cry with to laugh
00:40:25
to scream to what we were just so elated that we'd finally got him after all that time
00:40:39
he was finally going down it was a moment of relief for debbie's loved ones after 20 years of anguish but
00:40:45
not all in the court felt the same there are probably very mixed emotions for the family on the one hand we have
00:40:53
three sons who were brought up by their father brought up having been led to believe
00:40:59
that their mother had just simply abandoned them walked off in the middle of the night
00:41:05
leaving them behind they've been brought up by the murderer of their mother on the other hand we have her family her
00:41:14
mother who unfortunately died before the decision to charge had been made her sisters
00:41:21
her family who have been deprived of seeing the three boys ultimately have justice
00:41:28
for debbie on handing down griggs's sentence the judge reflected the pain and confusion
00:41:33
that the killer's continued denials have caused when the judge sentenced mr griggs
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he commented upon the defendant having brought the children up but having deprived debbie their mother
00:41:50
of that opportunity to bring her own children up and also deprive the boys of knowing a
00:41:59
really loving devoted and caring mother who thought the world of them so the boys had been brought up to live a
00:42:08
lie and we all realized in the prosecution team how difficult it would be for those
00:42:14
boys to come to terms with not only the loss of their mother but now the loss and long-term
00:42:21
imprisonment of their own father it's a closure of sorts for her family but that
00:42:26
will never be complete until they can bury her it remains to be seen whether andrew griggs
00:42:31
will allow the family to have closure and bury debbie in the way that they would want
00:42:38
her to rest in peace [Applause] [Music] um [Music] you

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Episode Highlights

  • Debbie's Disappearance
    Debbie Griggs vanishes, leading to a 20-year mystery surrounding her husband Andrew.
    “Where is Debbie Griggs?”
    @ 00m 54s
    June 08, 2022
  • Andrew's Dark Secrets
    Andrew Griggs is suspected of grooming a young girl while married to Debbie.
    “Debbie suspected her husband of being a pedophile.”
    @ 08m 26s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Breaking Point
    Debbie confronts Andrew about their troubled marriage and his infidelity.
    “Debbie wants him out.”
    @ 11m 57s
    June 08, 2022
  • Debbie's Disappearance
    Debbie Griggs goes missing under mysterious circumstances, leading to a police investigation.
    “Where was Debbie Griggs?”
    @ 27m 42s
    June 08, 2022
  • Discovery of Blood
    A smear of blood found in Debbie's car turns the investigation into a murder case.
    “This was the moment the case changed for police.”
    @ 28m 57s
    June 08, 2022
  • Andrew Griggs Arrested
    After nearly 20 years, Andrew Griggs is arrested for the murder of his wife Debbie.
    “Police body cam footage shows Andrew Griggs impassive as he’s taken away in handcuffs.”
    @ 36m 46s
    June 08, 2022
  • Verdict of Guilt
    The jury finds Andrew Griggs guilty of murdering Debbie Griggs after a long trial.
    “When I heard the jury unanimously say guilty, I saw his shock.”
    @ 40m 13s
    June 08, 2022
  • Mixed Emotions
    Debbie's family faces mixed feelings after the verdict, knowing the impact on her sons.
    “They’ve been brought up by the murderer of their mother.”
    @ 40m 59s
    June 08, 2022

Episode Quotes

  • Debbie still loved him.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode
  • I want her dead.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode
  • Debbie would never just up and go.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode
  • Where was Debbie Griggs?
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode
  • It leaves you empty, leaves you devastated.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode
  • I didn’t know what to cry with, to laugh, to scream.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 45 - Griggs - Full Episode

Key Moments

  • Debbie's Childhood02:04
  • Suspicion of Infidelity06:40
  • Confrontation12:19
  • Divorce Proceedings13:29
  • Missing Person22:38
  • Family Suspicion25:51
  • Blood Discovery28:50
  • Guilty Verdict40:13

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