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Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode

June 08, 2022 / 42:54

This episode covers the tragic story of Andrew and Janae Parsons, focusing on their tumultuous marriage, Andrew's controlling behavior, and the events leading to Janae's murder.

Andrew Parsons and Janae Brady met in Oklahoma in 2002, quickly falling in love and marrying in Las Vegas in 2004. They seemed to have a perfect life, but financial difficulties and personal differences began to strain their relationship.

By 2012, Janae expressed her desire for separation, revealing she had started a relationship with another man named Daniel. Andrew's reaction was calm initially, but he soon displayed controlling and paranoid behavior, including secretly recording her conversations.

The situation escalated on December 1, 2012, when an argument turned violent. Andrew stabbed Janae multiple times, leading to her death. The audio recording of the incident became crucial evidence in his trial.

Andrew Parsons was ultimately convicted of murder, receiving a 20-year sentence. The episode highlights the psychological impact of the case on their children and the community's remembrance of Janae as a vibrant individual.

TLDR

Andrew Parsons murdered his wife Janae after their marriage fell apart, revealing deep psychological issues and controlling behavior.

Episode

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janae and andrew parsons beautiful ambitious the perfect couple she always seemed very happy with andrew
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and he seemed to adore her until their marriage begins to fall apart she was telling her friends
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on the telephone how weak he was how docile he was weak and docile may be but not when he faces rejection
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it's like outrage and humiliation all mixed together in one big angry ball were those ingredients enough to
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convince a jury that andrew parsons had not been guilty of the murder of his wife
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or would an extraordinary piece of evidence condemn him what he had forgotten was that it was going to record what
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happened between them [Music] [Music] meeting in oklahoma in 2002 andrew parsons and janae brady instantly hit it
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off andrew um met jeannie when he went to the united states to coach football a chance meeting between andrew and
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janey leads to a very quick whirlwind romance andrew was working in the small town of
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yukon on the eastern edge of oklahoma city janae also known as janie was a student at the city's university for
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englishman andrew parsons janie was the compensation that he needed after a string of disappointments he was
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somebody who was very keen to make it in the football world and when it didn't
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work for him here well he took that talent and took it over to america and hope it would work over there
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unfortunately for him it didn't accepting his dream of making it big as a footballer was over 28 year old andro
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was coaching kids soccer in the yukon while seeking a long-term career plan he became qualified in the plumbing
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industry as a plumbing engineer and that's where he started building his business and while he was building that
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business over in america that's when he met janie the 21 year old oaky native and the
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older brit quickly fell for one another janae was such a warm happy person inside and out she was just genuinely
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kind happy enthusiastic and seemed to just love life she had lots of plans of things that she wanted to do with her
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life she was [Music] gorgeous new boyfriend's personality couldn't have been more different from
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her own andrew was one paced he was mr nice guy he was dependable quiet david hislop would one day become a
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trusted confidant of andrew parsons he was known as being docile gentle good-natured
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a likable chap very early on in their relationship the couple spent time in the uk so that janie could pursue a
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dream of her own i first met janae in 2002 when she enrolled to do one of our advanced
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beauty therapy courses heidi sylvester is the director of the oxford international college of beauty
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in oxfordshire england so she came to have a look around the college and loved it and then she came signed up to our
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full-time international beauty course janie instantly earned a glowing reputation at college
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janae was an excellent student because she had really fantastic customer skills she was so friendly and welcoming and
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she was excellent at actually performing aesthetic treatments she picked things up very quickly and she was also very
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smart so she did very well in her theory exams so she did pass her course with flying colors
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they'd been together just a few months but andrew parsons was keen to support
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janie brady's and missions he was her rock absolute rock when janae started the course with us
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she was living locally with her boyfriend and his family she commuted into college each day it's something
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that she was passionate about qualifications under her belt it was time for janie and andrew to take the
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next step in their relationship after janae graduated um i believe they went back to america in 2004 they
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married in las vegas a glamorous start to life as mr and mrs parsons they settled in oklahoma where
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janie set out to turn her passion and skills into a successful business she opened up a sponge she called it the
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oxford spa after her college and she had a fantastic business and her and andrew
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were both very proactive in running the business at first janie's business was a success
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and as a couple she and andrew seemed to be in perfect harmony andrew and janae did support our work
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experience scheme where we send students to gain two weeks of work experience in a
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spa and so we had our students go over to oklahoma and do their work placements with janae and the oxford spa the couple
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had two children together both boys her career was important to her but so was her family so she really did work well
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to get a good balance between looking after her young children and following her passions and
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really did manage to get a great career alongside being a great mother now they moved into a really normal happy family
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life the boys were active they were sporty they were doing martial arts and rugby and it seemed like they were the
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perfect married couple andrew was very supportive with her running her own business and also having young children
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at the time for almost six years the parsons appeared to be living in wedded bliss
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janae had a lovely life and i'm sure she was very happy she had a very close
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relationship with andrew and her own children looking in i think you would certainly think that they were the
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perfect family he really enjoyed taking his children out and playing football with them taking
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them to watch games and he was a very good father but in 2009 the first signs of stress and tension began to creep
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into their life janie's beloved business was failing she's put everything into it and it gets
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into financial difficulty so she decides to sell it it was a devastating blow for
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janie but her husband as always was by her side for a long time andrew had been janie's rock
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and when her business failed he was always there he picked the pieces up he built up a
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confidence he was forever praising her [Music] in 2010 andrew suggested a fresh start
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for the family jenny was happy to agree they thought they would come back to the united
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kingdom they thought it was a better life for their boys in the united kingdom janie was full of
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enthusiasm for their new life when she came back to the uk she came in to see us she was very happy very optimistic
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about starting up her business in the uk and seemed to be you know very happy at
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that time in may 2010 the family settled in andrew's hometown of bista renting a
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three-bedroom home on a modern estate the historic market town surrendered by rolling green hills was a million miles
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from the skyscrapers in the urban buzz of oklahoma city it was clear that janae was very happy
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to be back in the uk and was raising her family locally six years into their marriage janie and
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andrew parsons were making a new life in oxfordshire england but would it be the perfect dream they
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were hoping for instead of being his rock cheney decided to move on [Music] mr and mrs parsons both had big plans
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for making a living in the uk she was moving into more medical aesthetics when she came back to the uk
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it's where you specialize more in facial treatments that may involve things like
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injectables any fillers and also chemical peels and more of the advanced treatments that help with
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keeping people to look younger and natural beauty andrew started his own business in the
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plumbing industry parsons was more of a job man really a jobbing builder plumber
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those early months living in oxfordshire became a tense time for the couple so they had this lovely family that they
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had managed to build they had potential domestic bliss but both of these people were driven by the need to succeed both
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of them pumped every resource every penny they had in to trying to make these businesses work
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both janie and andrew put in their all but it was janie's beauty business that
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thrived and she was getting stronger and stronger and sadly at that time um andrew who was a pump engineer
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um his business started to fail it started to fail through no real fault of his own
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it was the recession at the time and his specialist area was swimming balls well there wasn't too much call
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for a pump engineer during those times he was doing a bit of plumbing here and a
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bit of building there but i again they got into financial difficulties the parsons relationship
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began to crumble under the strain of multitasking and business startups it could be
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that that was the start of the the problems in their marriage but it's probably more likely that there were big
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personality differences in in these two people and the financial difficulties was more like a straw that broke the
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camel's back she was a driven go-getter good mum brilliant businesswoman she was
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very very out there in a sort of perhaps an american way but that's because she was
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american but that was how she was in contrast i think parsons was seen as a little bit of a
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a lazy man who didn't really didn't have a huge amount of ambition and didn't really seem in comparison to
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jamie especially have a huge amount of energy she told him to get his act together he
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would come home from work and instead of doing anything sit on the sofa and watch
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telly rather than help whereas she would run the household run a business and look after her two little boys
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for months tensions built in the parsons household by the autumn of 2012 their relationship was at an all-time low
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janie seemed to be desperately unhappy they had children there were constant worries and problems i don't think that
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they got on particularly well and i think janie was very frustrated there came a time when she realized that
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the marriage was failing in october 2012 janie told andrew that she wanted a separation
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his reaction she told her friends was unnervingly calm the response of andrew was
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okay if that's what's happening but let's stay in the same house let's stay
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under the same roof so they were going to stay together till christmas get christmas out of the way for the boys
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and then go their separate ways she thought reasonably amicably parsons talks her into staying
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living with him and the children all together as a family for the whole of december to cover the christmas period
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for the children but it's far more likely that what he was doing was using that to buy himself
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some time to try and change what was happening dr moncton smith thinks andrew had an
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ulterior motive in persuading jaini to stay mentally at this stage parsons is probably panicking
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thinking how can i get this all back together how can i pull this back what what can i do what's worked in the
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past what can i try how do i get her back on side it's probably where his head was
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in fact from october 2012 onwards andrew showed a sudden escalation of paranoid controlling behavior he started to be
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quite cunning and clandestine about the way that he was handling this so what i mean by that is he started
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stalking janie and that that's quite a dangerous behavior he took her laptop or ipad off her and
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wanted to have a look through it he took her phone and wanted to have a look through that
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miranda moore has developed a detailed picture of the deterioration of the parsons marriage in the autumn of 2012.
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he was convinced at the start that there was somebody else towards the middle of
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november janie had a confession for andrew his fears had in fact been realized there was somebody else janae
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had fallen for somebody she'd met called daniel jenny told andrew about daniel
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she didn't tell him everything about daniel she certainly didn't tell him about her
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depths of feeling and plans in relation to daniel she wanted to spend the rest of her life
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with him but she was a realist and realized that she'd have to do this carefully because
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she had two little boys daniel was a belgian businessman a divorcee with a family of his own he and janie had met
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in a bar they'd known each other just a few weeks but it confirmed in her mind
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that she no longer saw a future with andrew she informed andrew that the marriage was coming to an end there was
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a future with somebody else she was going to pursue it their marriage was over she wanted to get out and best she
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wanted to go to london she had moved on she wanted to go to the next milestone in her life and that
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didn't include andrew this time andrew's reaction was much more extreme as soon as she told him that she wanted
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a divorce he entered the bank account there is a violent confrontation at the house that she tells a friend about
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whereby he drags her out of the bed he pulled her out out of bed by her hair and pulled her downstairs and talked for
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hours with her not letting her go she was his jenae she told him she wanted to leave she was quite
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upfront she didn't try and hide it she was honest if you like and i think he was
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shocked he was shocked that this was happening he was probably panic-stricken that this
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was happening i don't think he wanted this family unit to break down at all had in this moment andrew realized that
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the situation was out of his hands his wife was going to divorce him and there seemed to be nothing he could do about
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it desperate to maintain some kind of control over what his wife was thinking and doing andrew took an extraordinary
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step he decided that he would record her conversations with people on the telephone
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the setup when janae and andrew separated but lived in the same house was that janae had her own bedroom i
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think it might have been the former matrimonial bedroom where she kept her things
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andrew had his own bedroom the boys shared he got a recording device taped it under the marital bed in her
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bedroom he had secreted sort of gaffer taped under the bed a voice activated digital recorder
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he could then download from that to his computer and listen to any conversations
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that this little machine had picked up if andrew was still harboring fantasies of changing his wife's mind the
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recordings that he heard of her phone calls with friends made it clear she had no such intentions
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miranda moore has also listened to those recordings she set out the way the marriage was deteriorating
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she set out the fact that andrew was behaving badly she set out to one of the people that
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she thought that one of them might kill the other one she set out the way he was being needy
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he was effectively setting up a torture device for himself she was telling her friends
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on the telephone how weak he was how docile he was she thought he was hopeless and eventually
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those conversations were all recorded through the recordings he heard these things
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and one can imagine how hurtful they were he doted on this woman for david hislock the revelation that
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his estranged wife despised him was all the more hurtful because andrew had been
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in denial he adored her he really his was a case of love was blind and he couldn't see
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that gradually that she started to loathe being in the relationship she was with him was shattering from andrew
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parsons was devastated desperate and increasingly angry what lengths would he go to to stop his wife leaving him for
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another man janae messaged someone saying that things got so bad that he'll probably kill me
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though agonizing over janie's relationship with another man andrew parsons eye was also wandering the
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picture that andrew parsons was painting which was that he was devastated by the
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breakdown of the marriage and hadn't wanted it to happen was somewhat undermined by what we found on his
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computer he had been on a chat room with two separate eastern european ladies firstly
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chatting to them then there was obviously the exchange of pictures because he'd said oh you're beautiful
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are you single are you looking for a new relationship and he'd explain that he
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was looking for a new relationship following the breakdown of his marriage he had obviously been in contact with
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both of them for some time increasingly at odds with one another living under the same roof as a separate couple
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created a toxic atmosphere unsurprisingly this was not a scenario that was healthy for anyone
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and unsurprisingly the relationship deteriorated enormously it began with janie complaining to
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friends that andrew was picking fights that he seemed to be finding any reason for them to have an argument friends
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were worried about janie but she brushed off their concerns after the incident where andrew had dragged her out of the
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bed by her janie's friend lee advised her to leave the family home lee had said to janae that you know he's
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dangerous and you know you need to be careful and janae had laughed it off i think it was the sort of person she was
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i imagine that janey didn't leave the marital home when her relationship had
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broken down with her husband because like most homicide victims she didn't imagine for one minute that he was going
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to harm her that way there was an element of possessiveness about andrew parsons behaviour she was his janae
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and janae messaged someone saying that things got so bad that he'll probably kill me and marry somebody else
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and make a janae suit out of my skin in other words he'd want this other person
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to be like janae she has a conversation with her her new romantic interest where he says to her
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don't be on your own with him i don't trust him janae had said to daniel that
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andrew was docile and she could manage him she i recall had told daniel in one of her calls that she'd thrown a
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glass at andrew's face during the course of an argument and i remember [Music]
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her telling daniel that she could be really tough when it came to it janae was a very confident woman
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she told andrew parsons that he needed to get a grip and get on with things and get on with life
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this was something andrew parsons was not prepared to do in the last week of november 2012 he tried a new tactic to
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win back his wife now despite the deterioration of the relationship it does seem that andrew is
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still in some way deluding himself about what can be achieved in this time they have together
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forget daniel daniel doesn't matter he can do this and ignoring all of the fights he was having ignoring
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all the physicality he still thought he could buy his way back in and he spent what little money
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he had left on a very expensive dress for janie days later the dress was to become the flash point that brought all
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of andrew's raging jealousy and helplessness to her head on the day of the 1st of december
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she was going to london and she told andrew that she was going to london at to an awards event
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and she was going to stay with her girlfriend lee that wasn't true and andrew knew that because
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um he had heard the recordings of her telephone conversations with daniel henson
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setting up the weekend together in london andrew's secret recording device would
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become incredibly important when police and prosecutors later pieced together the events of saturday december 1st
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2012. she was going to drive down to london spend the night in a hotel attend an awards ceremony for the beauty
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industry you could hear her trying to do her nails and the little boys coming in
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and her shoeing them out and saying mommy's got to get ready you then hear andrew parsons
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sort of fussing and bothering her and keep coming in at this point around 9 30 in
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the morning andrew was doing his utmost to hide his true feelings about janie's
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weekend away janie and andrew had a conversation that began well andrew told janie that she looked
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fabulous the way she was dressed as she was getting ready to go it soon degenerates though he didn't wanted to
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take the car even though he had another vehicle he was sort of moaning about things
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andrew was trying his best to engage janie in a row she had packed her bag and it seems that
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andrew knew what was in that bag the dress that he had bought her in the hope of buying back her affection
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soon he was accusing her how could she do this how so soon after finishing their relationship she's going with
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someone new andrew is picking this fight despite the fact that there is in the house a very young witness
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at this time the five-year-old child was still in the house one of the children has been
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gone out for the day there's one child in the house but they start arguing together
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about what's happening andrew told janie i can't believe that you're going away i
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can't believe that you're going for straight from me to this man to which jenny replied look i am seeing
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someone else that get over it and piss off so janae eventually had enough and shut the door on him she sent a text
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message to her new man friend saying something along the lines of andrew's starting again or andrew's
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starting this was the last text message jenny parsons ever sent to daniel hansen's
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she shut the door on him and that appears to be the thing that tipped him over andrew parsons has his own story about
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what happened next but the 15 minutes of violence recorded on the device that he
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had hidden in janie's bedroom tells its own tale the next thing you hear is the door
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opening parsons becomes violent very violent quite quickly he punches her multiple times knocks her to the floor
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makes her dizzy she's disorientated and we can tell from the recording that she
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was dazed confused and very badly hurt janae as far as we could tell was still lying on the carpet
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between the door of the bedroom and the landing on the first floor of the house andrew said something like
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i'm going to get something when you listen to the recording we can realize that this is the point at which he makes
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the decision to kill the audio of what happens next was too disturbing to be heard outside of a
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culture we then heard on the tape andrew parsons going downstairs and we heard the
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bum he went downstairs to get a towel but what we then heard was a kitchen drawer
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opening and then you hurt him when andrew returns to the first floor landing the recording picks up janie's
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terrified reaction he approaches janie who asks him andrew are you going to kill me because what we
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know happened is that andrew parsons armed himself with an enormous kitchen knife despite the fact his little boy
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was there shouting mummy daddy and don't and janae was shouting don't kill me and
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words to that effect he proceeded to stab her numerous times it was a frenzied attack when he stops
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janey tells him you're killing me in front of our son then his son asks is mummy dead and andrew says no she'll
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be okay he asked whether mummy was going to be taken to hospital and he asked whether mummy was all right
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and mr parsons said he wasn't going to take her to hospital and she was fine
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andrew parsons did not call the emergency services after stabbing janae had a period and unusually you knew
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exactly how long it was because it was on the tape of about seven minutes before andrew parsons left the house he
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picked up his heavily bleeding wife he uh i put janae in the bath he then got changed from what he was wearing
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because when all this happened he was wearing pajama bottoms and a t-shirt which were heavily blood stained
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andrew parsons put on gloves to hide a small wound on his left hand then he and his five-year-old boy left the house
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what was so distressing was that when he left the house janae was still alive lying in the bath no water but just in
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the bath he takes his son next door and asks his neighbour to look after the child telling the friend that he and
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janae had some things to work out and could they mind him for a while these were close friends and they didn't think
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anything of it apart from the fact that he looked a little bit flustered even when andrew returned to the house he
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still didn't call an ambulance she is still alive at this point and it takes her several minutes to die
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when andrew parsons got back to the house after dropping his five-year-old at the friends
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we heard him clearing up he spent some time wandering around opening drawers we don't really know what he was doing
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moving things about he also rather cruelly sent a text message to daniel who was
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the gentleman friend saying something like i'm sorry but of course he sent it from janae's
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phone then came the part of the recording the courtroom staff jury members and janie's
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family would later find almost too heartbreaking to hear on the tape we hear janie's dying words
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she could be heard making her peace with god she was praying she was asking for forgiveness and she knew she was dying
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she says dear god forgive me for my sins the tape recording captured janie's
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gasps coughs and moans as her life drained away only after her death did janie's husband
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make the call ten minutes earlier might have saved her life he did call 999 and said that he'd hurt his wife
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real bad or really bad and that's what brought the police when the emergency services arrived at
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the parsons home the front door was open the first police officer to enter the home knew immediately what he was
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dealing with he said as soon as they walked into the house he could smell that horrible smell of blood
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as he came in the police find parsons lying at the top of the stairs his head in his hand wailing my wife my wife
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distraught at the terrible thing he's done and then they found her body obviously in the bath and they could see
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the blood splatter on the upstairs landing the paramedics attempt cpr but to no avail andrew parsons was arrested
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on the spot and charged with the murder of his 31 year old wife janie now at the scene it must have been
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entirely clear and there's no doubt as to what had happened it was right in front there for the police officers who
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attended here was a man who'd clearly killed his wife and wasn't denying it
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quite the opposite he was rushing to admit it he'd called the police it looked like a slam dunk case
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however in every murder inquiry you have to cover every single aspect off but just because he's killed his wife it
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doesn't mean that he may be found guilty of murder it could be manslaughter scene
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of crime officers scoured the house for clues about what had happened so when they did the search they were
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looking for weapons blood computers telephones all the things that are going to give you evidence in a
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trial now when the officers went there they did not immediately find the tape recording machine that was hidden under
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the bed i mean who would expect to find an electronic recording device under a double bed in a normal family home some
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days later parson's sister at his request had returned to the house to collect some
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things i think he wanted some trainers or something and i think he told her they were
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underneath the double bed which actually they couldn't have been she wasn't living there in that room at the
00:31:20
time when she was there she found the recording device she thought by handing it over to the police
00:31:27
she was going to exonerate her brother however she hadn't listened to it all
00:31:34
and so the police listened to it and it was one of those oh my goodness look what we've got moments
00:31:39
five months later parsons stood in court and pleaded guilty to manslaughter it was loss of control so that was the only
00:31:48
defense available to him and the question for the jury was what caused that loss of control
00:31:56
what was the cause now loss of control is a recognized uh partial defense to murder it changes murder to manslaughter
00:32:04
used to be called provocation but we now call it loss of control in other words something janae had said or done
00:32:11
which led to him losing control and would have led to someone in the same position as him losing control that was
00:32:17
andrew parsons claim the prosecution refused to accept his plea you obviously have to look very fairly and carefully
00:32:23
at any plea you're offered to see whether it suits the circumstances but we rejected it because there was nothing
00:32:29
that janae said or dirt did and we know what she said or did because it was on shape
00:32:34
that should or could have led to the ferocity of the attack the method of the attack and what happened thereafter we
00:32:41
were sure this wasn't a loss of control case before the trial began there were
00:32:45
legal wranglings over whether or not a jury should be allowed to hear the tape recording of the attack
00:32:50
it's never easy to get every piece of evidence that you've got before the jury
00:32:55
you need somebody who's got a good legal background has done a lot of these sorts
00:32:59
of cases knows how to phrase an argument and knows how to persuade a judge to allow you to let the jury hear what you
00:33:06
want the jury to hear andrew's defense believed it would be hard for him to get
00:33:10
a third trial once the jury had heard audio of janie's final moments nowadays we
00:33:16
quite often have to defend people who are seen on cctv perhaps attacking another
00:33:26
person but that doesn't hold the same prejudicial effect as hearing a recording of a man
00:33:39
and stabbing his wife and she's screaming at him and he's screaming the child's screaming
00:33:48
um it the prejudicial impact on a jury is extraordinary as both sides anticipated hearing the
00:34:00
tape was tough for the jury to take they heard that recording more than once and the impact upon them
00:34:11
was considerable i think it went from shock to horror and certainly i recall a number of
00:34:22
um the jurors are crying as the tape unfolded um i i think from memory it was seven eight minutes long
00:34:35
and six minutes of that was the knife attack so the horror was extraordinary i personally in 20 years have never
00:34:49
conducted a trial with anything close to this kind of harrowing direct primary material
00:34:55
it's almost unheard of to have this material to be able to listen to what happened
00:35:01
i'm aware that during the trial several jurors broke down several police officers broke down
00:35:08
members of court staff had to leave the room then afterwards one of the ushers said to me goodness miss moore one of
00:35:13
the jurors was sick and two or three of them were obviously very distressed as with the court staff
00:35:19
in the face of this andrew's defence team worked hard to paint a different picture he took the stand to claim that
00:35:25
he had loved his wife but that her infidelity and her abuse had pushed him to the brink barrister david hislop had
00:35:33
first met andrew when he was on remand awaiting trial he was devoted he adored his children
00:35:40
and adored his wife good father good good husband as as best as he was able at trial mr hislop used andrew's own
00:35:51
testimony as well as the evidence of text messages and the conversations that andrew had covertly recorded to show how
00:35:58
he'd felt betrayed by the wife that once he had loved she wanted a better life and the better
00:36:04
life didn't include him in the weeks leading up to janie's death it was clear that
00:36:14
andrew had lapsed into considerable depression he was extremely vulnerable he had started to hear
00:36:27
of her relationship with daniel he'd started to hear because it was the recordings under the bed of what she was
00:36:34
saying about him and a lot of those things weren't very nice for all sorts of reasons his will was
00:36:43
overborn he had no control he lost total control on the morning of the 1st of december andrew said he had
00:36:52
been defending himself from further attack this time not verbal but physical what we do know is that they quarreled
00:37:01
badly on the 1st december about the fact that she was going up to london and it was during that quarrel
00:37:11
that on andrew's account she attacked him and hit him in the face with a mobile
00:37:17
telephone and that ignited i think the violence that followed and caused him the loss of
00:37:28
control andrew said that it was at this point he saw red they grappled on the ground
00:37:36
he hit her as she bled he said he was going downstairs to get a towel and when he returned
00:37:48
there was janie crouched with a knife ready to attack him and he always maintained that she did attack
00:37:56
him and indeed he had a a wound to the outside of his left hand and we called a pathologist to give evidence that
00:38:12
this was what's known as a defensive wound as this happened according to the
00:38:17
defense a switch flipped in andrew's head he took the knife and stabbed his wife to death
00:38:22
miranda moore and her team argued in court that this version of events was a complete fabrication
00:38:29
andrew parsons claimed that the violence started after he opened the bedroom door
00:38:33
when she'd shut him out and that she threw the phone at his face but on no occasion
00:38:40
on the tape do you hear that and on no occasion do you hear him say anything like
00:38:46
don't do that janae put the knife down janae this is stupid a home office pathologist confirmed the
00:38:53
injuries janie had sustained in andrew's initial attack the forensic evidence and the pathology
00:38:59
evidence showed that janae had been hit to the face once possibly twice and had fallen to
00:39:06
the floor she had the facial injuries there was a mark on her head consistent with hitting a part of the
00:39:13
wall and she had abrasion injuries consistent with having landed on the floor that
00:39:20
tape evidence was supported by forensic evidence which is always important in a murder case
00:39:27
jamie's autopsy also confirmed the injuries which had caused her death once andrew had armed himself with the knife
00:39:35
he came back upstairs and stabbed janae a number of times as many as 17 we thought the ferocity of
00:39:43
the attack was such that the tip of the knife broke off and was left behind in janae on the
00:39:51
witness stand andrew parsons claimed to have very little memory of the incident andrew claimed that he couldn't remember
00:39:58
stabbing janie he couldn't remember putting her in the bath to bleed out he didn't know why that he hadn't dialed
00:40:04
the emergency services sooner and when i cross-examined him he had great difficulty in
00:40:10
working out in his own mind at what point he couldn't remember anymore perhaps if you've had a clunk on the
00:40:16
head that could be explicable but when you've done a series of acts at what point does your memory stop and he
00:40:23
floundered rather under questioning to have this evidence and to have somebody fight a case in the
00:40:30
face of this evidence to have a defendant still try to say they're not guilty of this
00:40:35
offence in the face of this evidence it's hard to understand andrew parsons failed to convince the
00:40:42
jury at the conclusion of the trial the jury found parsons guilty of the murder of
00:40:49
his wife the judge selected 20 years as the tariff which means that andrew parsons will have to wait for 20 years
00:40:55
before he is considered for parole the judge at oxford crown court considered aggravating and mitigating factors in
00:41:01
deciding past and sentence that deliberate arming by him when she's on the floor already was an aggravating
00:41:09
feature having a five-year-old present is an aggravating feature handing down sentence on the 24th of may 2013 the
00:41:17
judge told parsons that he had killed in a jealous rage he said nobody could predict the degree of psychological harm
00:41:24
that he had caused to his son who had witnessed the attack the judge also reflected the tributes
00:41:30
that had poured in for janie after her death we choose to remember janae for the
00:41:35
amazing person that she was not the victim that she became when she sadly passed
00:41:41
she was regarded back at home in oklahoma as being i think they have the thing that the one most likely to
00:41:48
succeed she was away for a very long time and yet everyone still remembered her janae
00:41:53
was very charismatic she always brought a lot of laughter and a lot of fun into the room she really did
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love life and everybody loved janae [Music] [Music] so [Music] you

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Episode Highlights

  • The Perfect Couple
    Janae and Andrew Parsons seemed like the ideal couple until their marriage began to unravel.
    “They appeared to be living in wedded bliss for almost six years.”
    @ 05m 58s
    June 08, 2022
  • A Devastating Blow
    Janae's business fails, leading to stress in their relationship.
    “Janie's beloved business was failing.”
    @ 06m 28s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Calm Before the Storm
    Andrew's calm reaction to Janae's desire for separation masks deeper issues.
    “His reaction was unnervingly calm.”
    @ 11m 43s
    June 08, 2022
  • Escalating Tensions
    Andrew's controlling behavior escalates as Janae seeks independence.
    “He started stalking Janae.”
    @ 13m 02s
    June 08, 2022
  • A Dangerous Confession
    Janae confesses to Andrew about her feelings for another man, Daniel.
    “She informed Andrew that the marriage was coming to an end.”
    @ 14m 30s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Tipping Point
    Janie sends a final text to her new boyfriend, signaling the end of her relationship with Andrew.
    “Andrew's starting again or Andrew's starting.”
    @ 24m 36s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Violent Turn
    Andrew's hidden recording captures the shocking moment of violence against Janie.
    “The audio of what happens next was too disturbing to be heard.”
    @ 25m 45s
    June 08, 2022
  • The Courtroom Impact
    The jury hears the harrowing tape of Janie's final moments, leading to emotional distress.
    “The horror was extraordinary.”
    @ 34m 44s
    June 08, 2022
  • A Life Remembered
    Tributes pour in for Janie, highlighting her vibrant personality and legacy.
    “We choose to remember Janae for the amazing person that she was.”
    @ 41m 33s
    June 08, 2022

Episode Quotes

  • He was her rock, absolute rock.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode
  • He was shocked that this was happening.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode
  • Things got so bad that he'll probably kill me.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode
  • I can't believe that you're going away.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode
  • Dear God, forgive me for my sins.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode
  • Nobody could predict the degree of psychological harm.
    Meet, Marry, Murder - Season 1, Episode 34 - Parsons - Full Episode

Key Moments

  • Whirlwind Romance01:37
  • Separation Talks11:38
  • Controlling Behavior12:59
  • Dangerous Confession13:42
  • Final Text24:36
  • Violence Erupts25:45
  • Courtroom Distress34:44
  • Legacy of Janie41:33

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