This Statistically Is The Best Age To Get Married So You Don't Get A Divorce!
- Mar 11, 2024
- 1:49:07
- Full Episode
Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and a bestselling author, she is also the co-host of the ‘Dear Therapists’ podcast. Her New York Times bestselling books include, ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone’ and ‘Mr Good Enough’.
00:00 Intro 02:42 How to Live the Life You Want 05:40 Lack of Human Connections Leads to Relationship Pressure 06:55 Why the Majority Aren't Satisfied with Their Relationships 08:35 The Need to Be Understood 10:21 Why Men Struggle More Opening Up in the Relationship 17:08 Setting Unreal Expectations When Looking for a Partner 20:14 We're Too Picky on Dating Apps 25:33 High Expectations, Can They Be Lowered? 29:40 Gender Differences in Dating 34:18 The Type of People That Seek Bad Partners 35:45 How to Help Those People 37:23 Financial Differences in Dating 43:27 People Are Choosing Not to Have Kids and Get Married 49:36 What Happens When a Woman Earns More in the Relationship 51:42 The Big Debate on a First Date 57:09 Red Flags in First Dates 01:00:27 The Age You Marry Is Linked to Divorce Risk 01:04:08 You Need to Learn to Unknow Yourself 01:06:11 The Impact of Seeking Approval 01:12:56 When Your Friends Sabotage You When You Try to Change 01:21:20 Do Women Express More Emotion Than Men? 01:23:12 Do Our Dreams Have True Meanings? 01:25:44 The Safety of Self-Compassion 01:27:31 The Opposite of Depression Isn't Happiness 01:30:22 The Grief of Heartbreak and How to Recover 01:38:27 How to Help Someone Going Through Heartbreak 01:45:38 The Last Guest Question
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Brief Summary
Lori Gottlieb discusses marriage statistics, dating expectations, and the importance of emotional maturity in relationships.
Key points
- Expectations in Relationships. Exploring how expectations in relationships have evolved and the challenges they create.
- The Illusion of Choice in Dating. People juggle multiple dates, missing opportunities to connect deeply. 'If you keep juggling people, you’ll never get to know anybody.'
- Expectations in Dating. Men and women have different expectations in dating, influenced by societal changes. 'Men have high standards around physical appearance.'
- The Satisficer vs. Maximizer Debate. Choosing a partner can be overwhelming; satisficers are happier than maximizers. 'Maximizers think they're putting in all the research to find happiness.'
- The High Expectations Dilemma. Expectations for men in relationships are soaring, but the reality often falls short. 'Expectations for what a man can offer are really high but reality is really low.'
- The Gender Pay Gap in Dating. Women often seek partners who earn more, leading to resentment and relationship challenges. 'Women sometimes feel resentful; they want to be with someone who makes more.'
Episode highlights
- Expectations in RelationshipsExploring how expectations in relationships have evolved and the challenges they create.“Now your partner has to be your best friend, fulfilling all emotional needs.”5:51Mar 11, 2024
- The Illusion of Choice in DatingPeople juggle multiple dates, missing opportunities to connect deeply. 'If you keep juggling people, you’ll never get to know anybody.'“If you just keep juggling people, you're never going to get to know anybody”24:38Mar 11, 2024
- Expectations in DatingMen and women have different expectations in dating, influenced by societal changes. 'Men have high standards around physical appearance.'“Expectations are higher in different areas”25:43Mar 11, 2024
- The Satisficer vs. Maximizer DebateChoosing a partner can be overwhelming; satisficers are happier than maximizers. 'Maximizers think they're putting in all the research to find happiness.'“Maximizers think that they're putting in all the research to find the thing that's going to make them happiest”29:14Mar 11, 2024
- The High Expectations DilemmaExpectations for men in relationships are soaring, but the reality often falls short. 'Expectations for what a man can offer are really high but reality is really low.'43:49Mar 11, 2024
- The Gender Pay Gap in DatingWomen often seek partners who earn more, leading to resentment and relationship challenges. 'Women sometimes feel resentful; they want to be with someone who makes more.'47:00Mar 11, 2024
- Communication in RelationshipsDiscussing expectations early in a relationship can prevent future conflicts. 'If you don't like something in the beginning, you might want to bring it up.'59:16Mar 11, 2024
- Self-Worth Beyond WorkFinding self-worth outside of work is crucial for healthy relationships.“You're not always going to get it from your work.”1:08:44Mar 11, 2024
