The REAL Reason Young Men Are (Quietly) Giving Up...
- Mar 31, 2025
- 2:26:14
- Full Episode
Are we raising a lost generation of men? Is society failing young boys? In this emergency discussion, Steven sits down with expert guests to explore the recently published ‘Lost Boys Report’.
The Diary Of A CEO’s masculinity discussion is joined by Scott Galloway and Logan Ury. Scott Galloway is a member of the advisory council for the American Institute for Boys and Men and Professor of Marketing at the New York Stern School of Business. Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge.
00:00 Intro 02:03 The Lost Boys Report 06:02 How Did This Happen? 10:27 Fatherless Homes 14:29 Are Boys Mentally Weaker? 16:41 Is the Education System the Problem? 22:39 Where Are Male Role Models? 29:58 What the Stats Say About Dating 34:32 Dating Standards 44:13 Do Women Really Want Emotionally Attuned Men? 46:06 If They're Okay, Always Go on a Second Date 47:56 Men's Groups: Should We Have Them and What Are the Benefits? 54:46 Ads 55:40 Steve's Supportive Group of Friends 01:02:32 The Dangers of Porn for Young Boys 01:07:51 How Scott Helps Men With Porn Addiction 01:13:01 Men Approaching Women in a Post-MeToo Era 01:15:17 Teens Don’t Know How to Ask Girls Out in Person 01:25:11 Do Successful Women Struggle to Find a Partner? 01:28:00 Ads 01:30:13 The Rise of Feminism 01:31:53 Money Equals Identity for Men 01:37:08 Does Money Give Self-Worth to Women? 01:39:41 The Human Dating Boot Camp 01:48:32 How Is the Left Going to Get Men Back? 01:53:15 Advice for Parents of Young Boys 01:56:11 What Scott and Steve Had to Unlearn About Being a Man 02:11:01 Closing Message for the Lost Boys
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Brief Summary
The episode addresses the crisis of lonely, struggling young men and the need for emotional intelligence and support systems.
Key points
- The Role of Male Role Models. The absence of male role models significantly impacts boys' emotional and social development.
- The Absence of Male Role Models. A discussion on the lack of male figures in boys' lives and its implications.
- The Gender Pay Gap Reversed. Highlighting the shift where young women are out-earning young men, but with caveats.
- The Emotional Support Paradox. Women seek emotional support from men, yet often struggle with men's emotional openness.
- Men's Groups as a Solution. Creating supportive spaces for men can help address emotional challenges and loneliness.
- The Crisis of Connection. Young men are struggling with relational skills and resilience, impacting their dating lives.
Episode highlights
- The Role of Male Role ModelsThe absence of male role models significantly impacts boys' emotional and social development.“The loss of a male role model is the first point of failure.”6:57Mar 31, 2025
- The Absence of Male Role ModelsA discussion on the lack of male figures in boys' lives and its implications.“Where are the men?”22:32Mar 31, 2025
- The Gender Pay Gap ReversedHighlighting the shift where young women are out-earning young men, but with caveats.“Young women are out earning young men.”26:34Mar 31, 2025
- The Emotional Support ParadoxWomen seek emotional support from men, yet often struggle with men's emotional openness.“We beg guys to open up, then we can't stomach it.”42:57Mar 31, 2025
- Men's Groups as a SolutionCreating supportive spaces for men can help address emotional challenges and loneliness.“Men need to be solving this problem within themselves.”53:05Mar 31, 2025
- The Crisis of ConnectionYoung men are struggling with relational skills and resilience, impacting their dating lives.“If you don't develop those skills, it impacts your life across a bunch of dimensions.”1:06:36Mar 31, 2025
- The Role of Alcohol in DatingA controversial take on how drinking can facilitate social interactions and relationships.“I think one of the enemies of mating is that there's too little drinking.”1:17:53Mar 31, 2025
- Rethinking MasculinityDiscussion on how masculinity is tied to economic viability and societal expectations.“You have a responsibility to be economically viable.”1:33:20Mar 31, 2025
