00:00:00
This is exactly right. Isn't some far off concept? It's already here. Next starts now.
00:00:33
Hyundai, an official partner of FIFA. Goodbye. When a charming neurosurgeon rode into Frontier Town
00:00:39
selling a persona of confidence and care, patients trusted him. He wore cowboy boots in the operating room
00:00:45
and became sought after by patients. He promised to heal them. Instead, he left a trail of broken bodies.
00:00:51
This is a story of greed, betrayal, and a fight for justice. Listen to Dr. Death the Cowboy wherever you get your podcasts
00:00:58
or binge the entire series right now only with Audible. Goodbye. Pandora Jewelry brings the sparkle to summer, now with even better prices.
00:01:07
Shop now for up to 50% off select jewelry featuring personalized pieces to must-have summer favorites.
00:01:13
Timeless jewelry made to move with you through every moment. Shop in-store or online now through July 5th.
00:01:18
Terms and conditions apply. See Pandora.net for more details. Goodbye. My favorite murder
00:01:32
Hello! And welcome. To My Favorite Murder. The mini-sode. Episode number... Three!
00:01:48
A hundred! A hundred! Three hundred. Sorry, I had to do victory trumpets. What did we call them that time?
00:01:56
Something trumpet? Oh, yeah. Remember, we talked about it. Right. We did. Trumpets.
00:02:02
Someone knows out there. Someone's screaming it in their car. That's right. Also, you can watch this on the Fan Cult if you want to see what we looked like when we just yelled 300.
00:02:11
It was pretty great. 300 episodes of you guys sending us your stories. 300 episodes of your stories that you generously donated to this podcast so we can all entertain each other.
00:02:22
We really can't thank you enough. It's honestly, it's one of my favorite things to do.
00:02:28
Truly. It's so fun. Should I go first? Do it. Okay. This is about a bear. Oh, fuck.
00:02:35
I just ruined it. Okay. This is not about anything lighthearted. Hello, folks. Growing up in rural poverty will inspire a lot of creative problem solving.
00:02:45
And when my dad heard that there were a couple five-gallon buckets of bananas destined for the trash at the local fruit stand,
00:02:52
he would hear none of it. telling the fruit stand folks they would be great for our pigs.
00:02:57
We didn't have pigs. He brought them home and got the kids to work peeling and mashing every single one of those little guys
00:03:04
so we could freeze the banana mash in bags and use it for banana bread for the rest of our natural lives.
00:03:11
So that's a great idea. Yeah, because old bananas are, the older the better for banana bread.
00:03:17
That's right, that's right. But God, how sick of banana bread would you become eventually?
00:03:21
Oh, you'd be just like never again. ever again. When the child labor peeling and mashing line finished with its work,
00:03:27
we were left with two buckets worth of banana peels in the kitchen. Dad said he would bring
00:03:32
them to the dump the following day. So we left the buckets, lids on in the kitchen and went to bed.
00:03:38
Sometime in the middle of the night, my sister heard our cat pawing at the screen door on the
00:03:43
porch. This was a pretty regular occurrence. So the fact that my sister turned on the porch light
00:03:47
before opening the door is pure luck. She must have thought at least subconsciously,
00:03:53
man, that cat sounds huge all of a sudden. As she flipped on the porch light, she was greeted
00:03:59
not by our cat, but by a fucking bear. A black bear had smelled the literal buckets of bananas
00:04:07
in our house and ripped through our screen door trying to get in. Oh my God. Long story short,
00:04:13
we scared the bear away with some yelling and a gunshot. And my mom had some words with my dad
00:04:18
about his frugality going a little too far. Stay sexy and leave that bucket of bananas
00:04:24
right where you found it. Not worth it, Grace, she, her. I don't know why I love it so much.
00:04:32
It's good. It's a dad, it's such a dad thing, you know, is really what it comes down to it.
00:04:36
Wasn't that call out for like dirtbag dads or something we said? I think it was trash dads was the thing of like,
00:04:43
shit your dad does. I have a dad prank one coming up that I'm pretty impressed with.
00:04:48
Well, you know, what's funny is I do too, but it's not a prank. Okay. I won't read you the subject line.
00:04:55
Well, it starts, my dad's boss almost, and then I'll just say dot, dot, dot. Okay.
00:05:00
Hello, murder troop. Oh, that's fun. This isn't a murder and it isn't set in my hometown, but it's a family classic that will never not be retold.
00:05:09
When I was 16, my friend Rachel and I tagged along on my parents' trip to Cuba with some of their friends.
00:05:15
My aunt and uncle, my dad's boss, Scott, and his wife. Yes, they were all friends.
00:05:20
And it's a little odd. Let's move on. It's not odd. Yeah. While there, Rachel and I mostly hung on our own, usually only joining the adults for meals.
00:05:30
One afternoon, we were sitting alone at the pool bar when a very pretty woman in her mid-20s
00:05:35
came up and started chatting to us. She seemed like a local, which is somewhat unusual at resorts.
00:05:40
And she was also joined by two very big and very scary looking dudes who hung back and
00:05:45
didn't talk at all. I mean, I understand that this is a true crime podcast, but this could
00:05:49
have been like Katy Perry. You don't know. She was on vacation. Those are just her bodyguards.
00:05:54
Okay That what I was thinking Same thought right Yeah Okay Consensus She asked us a lot of questions about how old we were and where we were from Right away we both felt that something was off
00:06:06
She seemed a little strung out and invited us to go clubbing with her and her friends,
00:06:10
the scary dudes, later that evening. Trying to be polite, we said no thank you and told her our parents would definitely not let us go.
00:06:18
Never mind that there was 100% no fucking way. Yeah, right. Exactly. Yeah, going clubbing in Cuba, mom and dad.
00:06:25
See you later. Yeah, peace. Also, did she, oh, she was 16. Okay. Yeah. She tried to convince us that it was fine and that we'd have fun.
00:06:35
And again, we politely said, no, we wouldn't be allowed. And they eventually left.
00:06:40
Later on, we met up with my parents and everyone else. And we told them about this encounter.
00:06:44
And they all shrugged it off, thinking it was nothing. And we were exaggerating about how sketchy the whole situation was.
00:06:49
That evening, Rachel and I were sitting alone by the pool in a dimly lit area, far from most of the other guests, when the woman and her creepy friends came up to us again,
00:06:58
this time basically telling us we were going with them off resort to a nearby club.
00:07:03
Again, we said, no, thank you. But the woman started getting very pushy, taking advantage of the fact that we were young and not well-practiced in fucking politeness.
00:07:11
Thankfully, the rest of our group was nearby enough that they noticed we were talking to these sketch bags.
00:07:17
sketch bags. Good. That's a good one. These sketch bags and quickly came over. Not deterred,
00:07:25
the woman turned on the charm and started trying to convince my parents that we would be safe with
00:07:30
her and her friends. And they just wanted to take us out to have some fun. My parents, aunt, uncle,
00:07:35
and Scott's wife all too nicely told them, no, we were too young, that we would not leave the
00:07:40
resort without them, etc. Then in comes a daiquiri-soaked Scott. Oh, just let them go.
00:07:47
Let them have fun. And practically starts pushing us into the arms of these obvious kidnappers
00:07:53
while we were now begging not to go. They jumped at this opportunity, the woman trying to grab our
00:07:59
hands and lead us away. All while Scott slurs, go on, you'll have a great day. Oh, thank you so much for reading it that way.
00:08:06
I love acting. Okay, now everyone is yelling at Scott and pulling us back while he drunkenly says
00:08:14
we're all just boring. That's actually so me. Say it, do it. You have to have the chaos person
00:08:21
on vacation. Chaos person, I love it. You're boring. Finally, hotel staff came to see what
00:08:26
the commotion was, and despite Scott and the creepos saying everything was fine,
00:08:30
they were thankfully escorted out. Scott, still thinking it was not a big deal at all,
00:08:35
could not be convinced that he nearly aided and abetted in human trafficking. Now, 15 plus years later, it's just a funny story my parents remind Scott of whenever they see him.
00:08:45
You almost got our daughter taken, LOL. In all seriousness, it's one of the scariest things that's ever happened to me,
00:08:52
and I will forever think of Scott as a colossal dumbass. That is so stupid. What a dick.
00:09:00
He's just buzzed up. I love her. Daiquiri soaked is my favorite description of a drunk person.
00:09:06
Daiquiri soaked is awesome because that's very specific. It is. But also, you know, it's that kind of thing.
00:09:11
I wonder if he had really strict parents. He was never allowed to do anything. And so he was like, I'm going to be the one that's cool.
00:09:19
And yeah, not reading the situation. And here's the ending. Thank you for being my companions on long walks while I smile to myself like an absolute weirdo.
00:09:29
I hope to see you live the next time you're on my neck of the woods, Toronto, pronounced
00:09:33
to-ron-o, or in traditional Mohawk, tuckeronto. Oh. Stay sexy and don't go on vacation with your dad's boss, Jess from Ontario, Canada.
00:09:45
Oh. Nice one. Good one. Good one. Everyone's real concerned with humic trafficking these days.
00:09:51
Oh, for sure. It's constant. As they should be, Scott. What? This podcast is brought to you by Squarespace.
00:09:59
It's 2026. And if you have an alternative career like food photography or professional mixtape making
00:10:04
or witchcraft, you're going to need an online presence. Whatever your thing is, Squarespace helps you build a website that's as unique as you
00:10:12
are. Squarespace provides you everything you need to offer services and get paid all in one
00:10:16
place. From consultations to events and experiences, you can showcase your offerings with a customizable
00:10:21
website designed to attract clients and grow your business. Get paid on time with professional invoices and online payments.
00:10:28
Plus, streamline your workflow with built-in appointment scheduling and email marketing tools.
00:10:32
With Squarespace's collection of cutting-edge design tools, anyone can build a beautiful professional online presence that perfectly fits their brand or business.
00:10:40
Head to squarespace.com slash murder for a free trial. And when you're ready to launch, use offer code MURDER to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.
00:10:47
Goodbye. When you're young, you don't really buy furniture. you either inherit something from your parents or you just drag something in from the street like
00:10:57
you're some kind of hipster raccoon. When you're ready for furniture that you actually like,
00:11:01
check out Article. Article offers the style and durability you want at a price that actually
00:11:06
makes sense. They take great care in curating their collection, focusing on pieces that stand
00:11:10
the test of time. There's no filler. Every item is chosen for craftsmanship, design, and lasting
00:11:15
value. And with Article's 30-day satisfaction guarantee, you can shop with confidence,
00:11:20
knowing that if you're not completely in love with your new furniture, you can easily return it.
00:11:24
Plus, Article's customer care team is available seven days a week, offering knowledgeable support
00:11:28
and even free interior design services to help you get your home just right. Yes, please.
00:11:34
Don't we all kind of need that? Like the eye of an expert? Yeah. Where should I put this? And also, what should I move here and there?
00:11:40
And what should I even get? But Article has it all, so you can get whatever there.
00:11:43
That's right. You could be like, I have this thing. Should I get this one or that one?
00:11:46
Totally. Am I Scandi or am I mid-century? Help me be boho chic, please. If you in the market for a beautiful new sofa dining table or bed head over to article Goodbye Summer is fun but it can also completely destroy your routine Between days at the beach recovering from days at the beach and then remembering you don even like the beach it can really mess up your day
00:12:07
That's why it's helpful to have something like cachava that makes it easy to stick to one healthy habit.
00:12:12
Cachava is an all-in-one nutrition shake, and now it comes in new travel packs. Every packet gives you a simple shake with protein, fiber, vitamins and minerals, greens, probiotics, omegas, electrolytes, and more.
00:12:24
They're easy to toss into a bag, easy to take on the road, and a simple way to stick with your normal wellness habits, even when your schedule changes.
00:12:31
Cachava is a clean, simple option for staying fueled when life gets busy. I am so excited about this because Vince is the crazy person who packs all his vitamins whenever we go somewhere.
00:12:41
And I'm like, I don't have room for that. And I also will just ignore them the entire trip.
00:12:46
So this is like how I'm going to get it all in. And then you have a satisfying shake.
00:12:50
So you have a breakfast or an emergency lunch. Like they're making it so convenient.
00:12:54
Oh my God, I'm so excited. Take your daily ritual with you. Go to cachava.com and use code MFM for 15% off your first order.
00:13:01
That's cachava, K-A-C-H-A-V-A.com, code MFM. Goodbye. Hello, all amazing furry companions, murder queens, and Stephen.
00:13:14
Long-time fan, first time writing in, here's a story for the books, My Hero Dog.
00:13:19
Not murder, but definitely worth a read. last night i get a call around 11 30 p.m on the other end of the phone i hear a distraught voice
00:13:27
asking me if i own a dog named captain yes i do i said confused because both dogs are supposed to
00:13:33
be in my backyard safe and sound she proceeded to tell me that she had him at her house and he had
00:13:39
just saved her life i was like what at this point i'm a little concerned and even more confused
00:13:46
She said she was walking to the gas station, pocket knife in hand, because Battle Creek.
00:13:51
And a man came out of nowhere and started attacking her and attempted to steal her purse.
00:13:57
No time to pull the pocket knife out. So then this dog, Captain, came out of nowhere and started attacking the man aggressively.
00:14:05
Apparently so much that the man ran away screaming. And then it says, that's right, motherfucker.
00:14:11
She then proceeded to walk home. And apparently the little runaway escape artist Guardian Angel Dog walked next to her all the way to her house.
00:14:20
Oh, no. Which is about five blocks from ours. Which is also weird because he runs off any chance he gets when not on a leash.
00:14:29
She sent me pictures of her busted lip and scratches. She said she had gone through some traumatic experiences before and was so afraid.
00:14:36
But my dog saved her life. Oh, my God. When she called, she was still panicking, but oh so thankful for his unexpected appearance.
00:14:44
So here I am thinking my dogs are safely in the backyard, and I thank God that he wasn't at that exact moment.
00:14:50
I'm a true believer that everything happens for a reason. The craziest thing is that Captain, being roughly eight months old, loves every single person and is super social.
00:14:59
But his protective instincts kicked in in that moment, and I'm so glad they did.
00:15:03
Captain knows. I know. He knows what he's doing. She says this little cutie is living up to his superhero name.
00:15:10
Last thing, I know this is overstated, but thank you so much for being so perfectly you.
00:15:15
You have gotten me through some of the hardest times and I am so thankful for your podcast.
00:15:19
Yours truly, Leslie. Well, Leslie, you're welcome because you and your dog are the coolest.
00:15:26
Yeah. How about that? Give Captain some extra treats for us. How about the walk home afterwards?
00:15:32
Yeah. That dog wasn't letting that woman go anywhere. No, he escorted her home. I kind of need to see a picture of Captain.
00:15:41
I know. Please send us a picture of Captain. Please, we're begging you. Leslie. If you're going to tell a story, just FYI, here on the 300th episode.
00:15:50
Yeah. If you're going to tell a story about your dog that literally saved someone's life,
00:15:56
you absolutely need to send a picture. Yeah. That goes for grandparents too. If you're going to send us an awesome story about your fucked up grandparents, photo.
00:16:04
If you're going to tell us about your dad who did something fucked up in the 80s, your 80s dad.
00:16:08
We need these things. And also always their names. Always. Always first names, please.
00:16:12
Always. All right. And social security numbers. It just makes me think of when my dog, George, here on the 300th episode, let's look back
00:16:21
at my dead dog, George, RIP to all the greats from this podcast that have passed away.
00:16:27
George used to escape my backyard all the time, but then she would get out because I
00:16:31
would be at work. So I think she thought she was going to go find me. Yeah. But then she'd just walk around the neighborhood randomly until people found her.
00:16:38
and they would be panicked when they, I would pick up the phone and be like, is this George's mother or whatever? And I'd be like, oh, God damn it. And that,
00:16:48
I know I've told the story, but I couldn't figure out what was going on until the day that she
00:16:53
climbed the fence, flipped over it into the hedge and then walked down my neighbor's driveway.
00:16:58
And he was like, if I wasn't standing there, Karen, I would have never believed it.
00:17:03
I watched a dog climb a fence, throw her, like flip, do a somersault into the hedge, roll off the hedge and then go out into the neighborhood.
00:17:11
She knew the hedge would catch her. Oh, my God. What a good girl. She was just like, I got to get out of here.
00:17:17
All right. The subject line is maybe a kind of funny hometown. Hey, y'all. I just listened to a recent hometown about the guy playing dead to avoid a door to door person.
00:17:27
And I thought, oh, I have one. I was in Tennessee visiting my family in October 2020, a little background. They live in a very
00:17:35
small town about 45 minutes outside Nashville, literally one red light town. My sister, a nurse,
00:17:42
and I were driving down their very rural, barely two lane, almost dirt road when I yell,
00:17:47
was that a guy laying in the yard? My sister, oh, it's just Halloween decor. Me, no, I don't think
00:17:54
so So we make a not so quick U and yep it a guy face down in the yard My sister jumps out in nurse mode yelling sir are you okay
00:18:05
Over and over. Sir, are you okay? I'm preparing to dial 911 when the front door opens and this very small lady starts yelling at us.
00:18:14
He's just drunk. Leave him alone. Oh my God. We drove by several times that day just to see how long he stayed there.
00:18:25
Oh, my God. Oh, did I mention that this was at 2 p.m.? Oh, no. Well, we still laugh about it every time I visit, which is often now,
00:18:35
thanks to my dad and I being diagnosed with cancer. And then in parentheses, it says prostate and breast cancer within five months of each other.
00:18:42
me two weeks after this event and then get ready we're both survivors now yay life is too short not to visit each other monthly now and i live in wisconsin sorry this is so long
00:18:56
amanda this is like amanda caught us on the phone right as she was running out the door
00:19:03
yeah and she's like i just got to tell you this thing really quick yeah you guys are going to
00:19:06
Great. I got to go. I love it. I love it. We need more fake dead people in our lives.
00:19:12
Sir, are you okay? Sir. Sir. Sometimes the hardest part of therapy is just getting started. For real. Which is why having
00:19:20
help that's flexible, accessible, and easy to fit into your life matters. And that's exactly
00:19:25
what Talkspace is designed for. Talkspace therapy and psychiatry is covered by most insurers and
00:19:30
most insured members pay a copay of zero dollars. Part of the mission of Talkspace is to provide
00:19:35
quality care that is accessible and affordable, whether or not you're insured. Talkspace has really made it just a kind of no-brainer to try therapy. If you're nervous
00:19:45
about talking to someone, if you're nervous about the money, if you're nervous about leaving the
00:19:49
house, you don't have to deal with any of that. They have covered it. And for me, that is the best
00:19:55
way to get into therapy. Take all the what-ifs out. You know you got to do it. You know you do.
00:19:59
As a listener of this podcast, you'll get $80 off of your first month with Talkspace when you
00:20:04
go to Talkspace.com slash MFM and enter promo code SPACE80. That's S-P-A-C-E-8-0. To match with
00:20:11
a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com slash MFM and enter promo code SPACE80. Goodbye.
00:20:19
If you spend all day waiting to take your bra off, it might be time for Third Love.
00:20:23
If you're looking for breathable, lightweight comfort this summer, you're gonna love Third Love. Third Love is built around getting the fit right instead of
00:20:29
expecting you to put up with something that doesn't work. And Third Love offers a full
00:20:33
range of sizes from AA to H, including their exclusive half cup sizes. So you can find a fit
00:20:39
that feels just right instead of close enough. Stop settling for bad bras. Whether you're looking
00:20:44
for more lift, back smoothing or straps that stay put, Third Love can find your fit fast.
00:20:49
Their virtual fitting room gets you in the right size and matches you with the best styles for your
00:20:53
shape. If you've ever been fitted for the right size bra, you are in for a treat. It actually
00:20:58
changes the whole game with bras. I thought I was like a something, something A cup. I'm a
00:21:03
something, something B cup. And it's just changed my bra game. I thought I just hated bras, but I
00:21:08
was wearing the wrong size. And with Third Love, they're so comfortable that it doesn't even feel
00:21:13
like I'm wearing a bra. Use code MFM15 for $15 off your first purchase at thirdlove.com.
00:21:19
Goodbye. A car isn't just transportation. It's freedom. It's your second office. And it's the
00:21:25
best place to scream, sing in private. Finding the right one matters and Cars.com can help you
00:21:30
find your perfect fit. Cars.com has the tools and expert advice to help you find exactly what you're
00:21:35
looking for. With more than 2 million new and used vehicles nationwide, it's easy to search,
00:21:40
compare and find the right fit for you. Cars.com has transparent deal ratings that make pricing
00:21:45
easier to understand. Their clear tools and badges help you see how a vehicle's price compares
00:21:49
so you can feel confident you're getting a fair deal. They have dealership reviews you can trust.
00:21:54
Every review on Cars.com is written by a real person sharing a real experience. So don't take any chances.
00:22:00
Do car shopping the easy way. Start your search with Cars.com. Where to next? Goodbye.
00:22:09
Okay. This one's called Dad's Evil Chucky Doll. Hi, MFM crew. Let's get to the story.
00:22:16
So for as long as I can remember, my dad has always loved to play pranks on me and my older sister.
00:22:21
Remember we asked for prank stories? I forgot how I got one. This usually leads to my sister getting really pissed off
00:22:28
because she was so jumpy and scared of everything. But we could usually laugh about it later, usually.
00:22:34
So my dad played several elaborate pranks on me as a child because he knew I didn't give a fuck, unlike my sister.
00:22:40
One in particular still amazes me to this day, and it involves a Chucky doll I had won out of a crane machine.
00:22:46
With all the pride in the world, I showed the doll to my dad, and his response was pure horror.
00:22:52
With a disgusted look on his face, he said, oh my God, you can't bring that thing home with us.
00:22:56
You'll curse the whole family. And proceeded to grab the doll and throw it in the trash right in front of me.
00:23:02
This would have probably traumatized most seven-year-olds, but at the time I believed every word my dad said.
00:23:06
So I thought, wow, my dad just saved the family. That was a close one. Then went on with my day without a care in the world.
00:23:14
Because- That's so sweet. Because that was your only option. Yeah. Because you were seven.
00:23:20
Exactly. There is nothing you can do. No. All right. Fast forward two months and I'm walking into my bedroom when I freeze at the sight of the Chucky doll sitting on my bed covered with trash.
00:23:34
I don't think I moved for at least five minutes until I started screaming for my dad who burst into the room, grabbed the doll and said, I told you we couldn't bring this thing home.
00:23:44
We're cursed now. We can never talk about this Chucky doll again or else. Then stormed out of the room.
00:23:50
He later told me that he took the Chucky to the landfill and that we never had to think of him again.
00:23:56
Now fast forward six years and I'm 13 walking down and in my basement to work out. When I flip on the lights, I'm shocked to see that same Chucky doll
00:24:05
sitting on the bench press. But this time I grabbed the doll and took it to my dad.
00:24:10
What the hell is this? I thought you got rid of it. And his response was, oh God,
00:24:15
not again, snatching the doll from me and rushing to his car. I don't know why, but I never asked
00:24:21
what he did with it that time. I think I might've been so scared to even say Chucky, so I just let
00:24:26
it be? But now I'm 24 and was recently going through my dad's closet when I found, you guessed
00:24:32
it, the Chucky doll sitting at the back of my dad's closet. Everything clicked at that moment.
00:24:38
I thought to myself, dad, you sick son of a bitch, you got me. He still thought it was real. He didn't
00:24:45
question it. Now that my dad's been battling dementia for the past five years. Oh God,
00:24:51
I didn't read this part. Oh my God. Now that my dad's been battling dementia for the past five
00:24:55
years. My family loves to retell him the story along with all the other crazy shit he's done.
00:25:00
These stories usually bring him to tears of laughter and he's always amazed how normal me
00:25:05
and my sister turned out. SSDGM, Brett. How fucking sweet. Your dad's a genius. Like long con. A long con, years long pranks saying, I just, I know there's some people that
00:25:25
would argue. I'm sure many child psychologists would argue it. But this idea that he was like,
00:25:31
I'm going to do a thing that's going to engage you constantly for your entire life.
00:25:36
Yeah. The years between is impressive to me. It's so impressive. And hilarious. The trash around the Chucky doll because he threw it in the trash.
00:25:48
And it fought its way out and back to his bed. It's brilliant. More prank stories, please. My favorite murder at Gmail. You have one more?
00:25:57
The subject line of this one is 80s mom shares family secret. Hello, girls. It's me, one of those 80s moms you so love to complain about.
00:26:07
Oh, no, I feel like we just got in trouble. I'm standing by it. Our complaints are legitimate, 80s mom.
00:26:14
It's true. Janet. My daughter is a big fan of yours and I an increasingly committed drag along listener That right That right 80s mom That how we get you What you have to remember about us 80s moms Oh my God First of all my heart just skipped a beat
00:26:30
There's an 80s mom talking to us right now. I'm thrilled. I am too. This is legit thrilled.
00:26:35
We're going to learn. We will entertain anyone else's point of view by the by. Absolutely.
00:26:39
If you want to write in as the drunk guy that was face down in the front lawn to say,
00:26:46
Hey, what you have to remember about us guys that like to start drinking at 9 a.m. is, we'll read it.
00:26:52
Absolutely. What you have to remember about us 80s mom who parented during a time when a little gentle child neglect was the equivalent of self-care.
00:27:01
Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Keep going. This is killing me. This is the best. Who parented during a time when a little gentle child neglect was the equivalent of self-care.
00:27:15
So true, is that some of us were raised by 50s moms. And now a story about a family secret my mom kept from me and how it changed my life.
00:27:26
I got married young to my teenage sweetheart, Rick. Rick's dad had passed away when we were both little kids and I didn't remember him,
00:27:34
although possibly from seeing a picture at some point. I had a hazy idea that both our dads had known each other.
00:27:41
My dad passed away from cancer while I was in high school. and this shared absence was something Rick and I bonded over. After we got married, Rick's mom,
00:27:50
my mother-in-law, was exceedingly cold and distant to me and always seemed to go out of her way
00:27:55
to subtly express very polite disapproval of everything I did, and I never understood why.
00:28:02
Fast forward two children and 10 years later, I found out from a cashier at the local supermarket
00:28:08
that my dad and my husband's father had apparently been close friends until one night
00:28:13
they engaged in a drunken argument that became violent and Rick's father died. Even after a long search for the full details, there's some lack of clarity around exactly what
00:28:26
happened that night and how much of it was an accident. I did learn that it was a fistfight
00:28:31
without weapons involved and that Rick's dad fell onto a stone terrace and ended up dying after a
00:28:36
short coma What Right This bonkers thing to me was that my mother and whiter family friends all knew and never once even hinted that it happened Guys Our marriage eventually didn survive the subsequent grief anger confusion
00:28:56
and search for answers that this revelation sparked. But Rick and I remain friends.
00:29:01
As a result, I've tried to always be honest with my children and sometimes perhaps erred on the brutal side.
00:29:08
Now that I'm a grandmother and I'm reevaluating once again how to connect with young people,
00:29:13
I am learning more about continuing to be honest, but also kind. It's a journey, but I'm lucky to have two daughters who chose to see the best in me
00:29:22
and trust me with the hearts of their own kids. Marjorie. Marjorie is such an 80s mom name.
00:29:29
And what a family secret that you kept. Like, it's pretty incredible that the mother-in-law never said anything.
00:29:37
If she was that upset about it, like that's pretty incredible. It's a horror all around. And I really appreciate Marjorie's larger point, which is the generational trauma has in many ways lightened over the years.
00:29:57
Yeah, that's true. And we don't really understand, many of us do not understand how fucking intense it was back then.
00:30:07
Right. That basically a little light child neglect as a form of self-care really isn't as big of a deal as some shit.
00:30:16
That's very true. Oh, my God. From back then. Send us the lessons you learned from your mothers.
00:30:21
We want those, guys. Please. Please. Also, Marjorie, thanks for being one of the good 80s moms.
00:30:28
Yeah. We appreciate it. Yeah. If your adult children still want to hang out with you, then you did okay parenting.
00:30:33
That's what my dad always says. Yeah. Thank you guys for listening to 300 episodes and for being here with us and giving us content.
00:30:41
We really appreciate it. Also, don't you think Marjorie's email is kind of the most perfect final button on the 300th episode?
00:30:49
Absolutely. It's kind of like giving us a little bit of everything that we always ask for.
00:30:54
It's a throwback. It's a continuation. It's participation. It's everything that this podcast aims to be and then aspires to continue to be.
00:31:05
Treasure. Exactly. Thanks, everybody. Thanks, guys. Stay sexy And don get murdered Goodbye Elvis do you want a cookie Ah
00:31:39
the show on Instagram and Facebook at My Favorite Murder and Twitter at MyFaveMurder. Goodbye.
00:31:53
Running a business shouldn't feel like surviving a software group project. One app for accounting, another for inventory, another for sales, and somehow none of them talk
00:32:04
to each other. That's where Odoo comes in, an all-in-one business management software
00:32:08
that brings every part of your business together. From sales and accounting to inventory and marketing,
00:32:14
all in one powerful platform. No messy integrations, no bouncing between tabs. And best of all, no spreadsheets.
00:32:23
Stop managing software and start managing your business with one unified system.
00:32:28
Try for free today at odoo.com slash iHeartRadio. That's O-D-O-O-O dot com slash iHeartRadio.
00:32:36
This episode is brought to you in part by Vital Farms. Have you noticed that the egg section at the grocery store has gotten very complicated lately?
00:32:42
But Vital Farms makes it simple. Pasture-raised eggs traceable to the farm. Their hens have outdoor access year-round with fresh air and sunshine and forage on rotated pastures with local grasses.
00:32:53
Every carton can be traced back to the farm it came from so you can see the pasture where the hens live by visiting vitalfarms.com.
00:33:00
Look for the black carton in the egg aisle and visit vitalfarms.com to learn more.
00:33:04
Vital Farms. Good eggs, no shortcuts. Goodbye. Goodbye. identity theft can cost more than you think drained investment accounts stolen tax returns
00:33:13
lost wages expenses for lawyers it's a lot that's why lifelock is backed by the million dollar
00:33:19
protection package which covers up to one million dollars each for stolen funds fees for experts and
00:33:24
lawyers and out-of-pocket expenses don't face the burden of identity theft alone protect your future
00:33:30
and finances with lifelock join now and save up to 30 percent your first year at lifelock.com
00:33:36
slash iheart. Terms apply.