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Buteau and Jordan Carlos, featuring a guest you know and love, Georgia Hartstark.
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gross, and we gave some incredible life-changing adulting advice to a few listeners.
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Goodbye. Welcome. Welcome to Adulting. You made it. You crossed the burning sands. I'm Jordan Carlos.
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I'm here, as always, with my co-from-go, Michelle Vito. Hello, Michelle. You look
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beauteous as always. What in the Casey Kasem is going on? Is this bandstand or is this adulting?
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American bandstand. Yeah, like I like to, I always wanted to be that guy. I wanted to be that guy.
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I wanted to be like, you know, Mad Cow in the Morning or Casey Kasem with the Top 40 Countdown.
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And yes, and sometimes I bring a dollop and a dab of that to our show. Okay? And now, Michael Bolton.
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Now I know why Jordan stopped drinking caffeine. Oh my God. Otis said fuck the other day.
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What? We were watching this movie Elemental. Okay. And the little fire girl goes,
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what the? And then Otis goes, fuck. And I was like, what? And then Heist was like,
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he just said fuck. I was like, no, he didn't. And he goes, Otis, what'd you say?
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He goes, fuck. What the fuck? And I was like, oh, but the movie was so good. were like, you shouldn't say it because it's a really, he's like, oh, and he was just watching
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the movie. I'm like, I don't even know how to talk to a four-year-old because their mind is
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everywhere. Yeah. They're a little too cute to correct. Like he doesn't know what a bad word is
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yet. I mean, my son, he'll remind me that I'm cursing in front of him. Okay. He'll be like,
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dad, you're using bad words. So I'm like, okay, I won't do it. Do you? Yeah. Yeah. I love that.
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He's a New York city kid. He's bound to find these words out anyway. And if anything, that
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story just tells me that the african-american diasporatic caribbean in him is strong because
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the call and response was right there what the fuck he joined in you know i'm saying the ancestors
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were speaking out look get with the rhythm the rhyme um yeah you know the other day hazel's
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teacher told me that she called him something mean but you couldn't remember because we're all
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so tired i was like okay and i asked her later and she said a dummy head and i was like oh whoa
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his feelings were hurt and he was like yeah she was laughing like it was funny and when she told
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me i was like it's kind of funny because i'm a stand-up comedian you know and so how do i talk
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to her you know obviously yes be nice but like what did you tell her what was the substance of
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what you told her sometimes we say things that hurt someone's feelings and we don't do that we
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don't hurt feelings we lift people up oh but if someone's being mean to you then you can tell them
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to fuck off i mean i'm trying but i don't want to be like like i'm not a goop mom right you know
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what i mean but i want to do you know what i mean how would you describe your mo your motherhood mo
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in three words three words how fucking dare you those are my three words it's four words but like it's hard to know it's hard to know you're doing the right things they're
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good kids yeah and you know what it's gonna compassion structure hey oh my gosh compassion
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structure joy the csj i love that that's really good yeah what about you um four words more fun
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why do you get four and i get three i just asked for them it's it's we're just making i can't do it
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Okay, fine. Three words. Funner than mom. That's it. Those are the three words. If there was an air horn to blast in someone's little ear pods right now, I'd fucking do it.
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Papa Pia! Michelle, you have no idea. On election day? Yeah. Chala took over. I took over.
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Jordan came alive. Really? Jumped off the bench like my name was MJ. She was like, Jesus, take the wheel.
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Or Tom Cruise on Oprah. Yes. So typically in New York or I guess around the country in the U.S., the kids stay home because a lot of these schools are where you can go vote, right?
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Yep. That's what it is. They're called voting polls. Is that what they're called?
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Right. And so the kids are home and you decide to be father of the year. No, it's just that you could see the thousand yard stairs from mom.
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You know, like you could see that you could just it wasn't the it was the miles.
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You know what I'm saying? Like moms are just so tired. and like we have a this really great kind of web of like parents and like they call if they need
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like a play date just some time off but it was like the lines were getting jammed you see what
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i'm saying it's like because everybody was off at the same time so i was like let's just do this
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thing so we went to the city butterflies boom butterflies yeah invisible world boom squid and
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the whale boom then we go across town serendipity three boom hit them yeah kids you want to go on
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the ski lift across the Roosevelt Island. What is that? What's that get in the ski lift? I got my
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kids and another kid and we don't come back till they ask for us. You see what I'm saying?
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I love that. I love that you make core memories. Yeah. You know, and it's really great that you
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step in and make a great day. We got to do it all the time as parents for each other. Yeah. It's all
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the time It like we got to do it all the time Yeah man At 5 PM sometimes I get I feel a little anxious because I like there so much more to the day And I just want to crawl up on the couch and just watch TV and have a glass of wine
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And you should, you should be able to do that. But I don't have time for that. I got to make the dinner. He makes the dinner and we like hang out and then we eat the dinner and then we bathe and go to bed. And then you get this like half hour to yourself. But it really isn't to yourself. Right. And then like for me, if I have an event that night or a show, I do all that before.
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I do this show or the event. And then I wake up in the morning and do the same thing. So like,
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but I also, you know me, I'm a big planner. That's why I'm just like, hey, y'all,
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what you doing this date? We got to have a party because I like to also plan fun. Yeah.
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Yeah. You're a great host. That's where you shine and you love it. Yeah. But I wonder, could you ever, and I know you do take naps for yourself, but do you make a routine
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or a habit of just like being like these 30 minutes, no matter what, rain or shine or mine?
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I mean, when they're not home or like on the weekend. Yeah. But when they're back from school, no, it's hard.
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Yeah, I feel you. It's blood sport. Yeah, it is. You have the three or four hours before.
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Yeah, no. What do you even mean? Are they at least bringing their dish to the sink at the end of dinner?
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No. No! I try. I try. It's very hard. It's very hard. At this point, it's more work for me to ask them to take their dish to the sink.
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Right. What a time to be alive. What a boring fucking podcast. It's not boring. Michelle is tired.
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No, Michelle, this is real. This is like what people want to know. They want the BTS.
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Oh, please. They want the Butoh behind the scenes. Oh, my God. Well, I'm living.
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Well, here's what I will say. Get it out. Get it out. Right. Here's what I will say.
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At the end of the day, when I sit in my bed or I lay down in my bed and I run it all back,
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I'm just like, I wouldn't have done it differently. Like, I'd rather be tired and present than like rested and missing stuff.
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Like I take my spa days With my friends I have my little boozy brunches And I have a really fun
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Fucking job Yeah But Yeah man I feel you I'm gonna be tired either way So it's just like
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I must be tired Doing something I love And be with someone I love You know what I mean
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Yeah Yeah But ooh baby It's the price Yeah And I don't wanna be like I don't wanna
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I don't wanna be that bitch That's always out in public And just like I'm tired You know what I mean
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Like well what did you do It's always a competition And I'm always just like Winning
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because I'm better and I'm more tired. You know, I don't want to be that bitch. Right, right, right, right.
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I haven't slept in days. Yeah, like. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But I also don't know how to be high with my kids.
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Like, I see some parents like, and they figured it out. I'm like, how are you in such a good mood?
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They're like, shrooms. And they have like a little twinkle in their eye. I'm like, do you just hug a tree with your kid?
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How did you do that? Oh my God. Like, I'm just trying to fucking get a straight line
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down my kid's head for pigtails. But you become more like kid-like when you get high.
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You're fun already, but you get even more like childlike and fun. You do. No, you do.
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Oh, I do. Like one does or I do. Yo, you do, Michelle Buteau. When you get nice, you seem to like...
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Wait, like tipsy or high? It's hard because they feel the same with you. So I feel...
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No, when I'm high, it's giving... Are we okay? I'm like, am I talking too much? last time I got high with you was in Maine
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and we were at your friend's house that was on the side of a mountain and I was like
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we're all gonna roll down and they had a really sweet huge German shepherd whose face was
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just up in my children's face I'm like I'm cool I'm cool and it was a sweet dog alright so I understand
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I would suggest 2.5 milligrams THC that's like taking an Excedrin and then you're just like
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you're chill and you can read one more Dr. Seuss book or not because he's been cancelled
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it's up to you you know what I'm saying like I've done it it's not my it's not my bag I want it to
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be like it's not like I'm fighting it yeah like I've tried it are you like timetables do you like
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get them in bed by a certain time every night like dinner's on the table this time baths at this time
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yeah yeah yeah yeah okay yeah I got you give or take 15 minutes please please do you know come on
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that's life yeah but i understand dinner's usually around six bath around 7 30 bed eight
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it used to be dinner at five that's a lot of pressure it is a lot of pressure because your
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day is shorter but i'm just like how do people do this oh yeah they did do it because they didn't
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do anything all day just like clean their tupperware and have like a fucking like mary k
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meeting you know what i mean they weren't doing like five different projects on a big fucking
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platform, you know? That's what they call the second shift. Like you're doing another job,
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you know, and you're already doing like the job that you already have is like two jobs.
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It is. I'll tell you what, man, when I do these shows and I see these people from all walks of
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life, they are young 20s up to like late 70s, enjoying the words that come out of my mouth.
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It's so weird to actually be this thing that brings people together. But it's always been
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that way anyways, right? Like whether it's a meatball party or a comedy show or a TV show and I'm just like
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god damn, this is really, really nice. Sometimes I think about you loving to fall asleep at
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a party. I do. And I love the way you described it. You're just like, I just hear like the
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little ambient sounds of people having great conversations. And that's often how I feel when I'm awake.
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Like I'm taking a moment for me, but I'm also just like look at all these people like still having fun.
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It's giving like an emotional weekend at Bernie's whatever you think that is. I understand all of that.
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You know, I love the fact that it's sold out seats to see Mishibi speak. I'm here for that.
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You know, like you seem to get up and do it all every day. You're like maximum poor.
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Yeah. Don you I think I probably at 80 battery power every day Okay But I feel like I do a lot
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I do a lot. I have my little list of wins and everything like that on my phone. I do a lot.
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I am always impressed by you, friend. You know that. Oh, thank you. I just want you to know that if it ever too much, you know, always call.
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You know what I'm saying? Thank you, baby face. Because you make it look easy, but there's this old picture of like a ballet dancer.
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You see the shoe on point. You see the shoe on point, right? Then they take the shoe off and you see all the…
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Yeah. You see what I'm saying? Yeah. Oh, my God. Am I a ballerina's foot? I'm not.
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It's like I try to have these sweet moments. I know. I'm just kidding. I do. I do feel…
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Yes. I do feel like a plus-size ballerina though sometimes. I'm just tiptoeing around.
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In a tutu. trying to make it all happen. Being busy is wild. Being successful is different than being busy
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because you don't have to be busy to be successful, if that makes sense. But you also can be.
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It really is one of those weird things. My dad always said, work smart, not hard.
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And that's what I do love about our guest for this episode. I mean, she's a motherfucking powerhouse.
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Yes. And so sweet. Truly. I mean, she gave us a job. She gave us a jab when no one else would.
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And we're just two lowly interns. Yes, she is. She's the co-host of My Favorite Murder.
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Yes. And she's also the co-owner of Exactly Right Media. Exactly Right Podcast Network.
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I'm so sorry. Don't at me. We'll fix it in post. And I'm so happy that she is available to sit down and talk to us because Georgia and Karen are really fucking cool.
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and they're really fucking smart and they're also really fucking busy. And so speaking about how busy and tired,
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well, at least I am all the time because I'm at 100% and you're at 80. I'm really glad that she has just like found the time
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to fucking hang with us. So you guys, please enjoy this episode of... It's adulting.
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I was like, what's the name of the show? It's adulting. Please enjoy this episode.
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With our guest, Georgia Hardstark. Georgia Hardstark. Oh my God. Put her on the charging station.
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Good Lord. Ahoy. Hi. Hi. Oh my God. It's so good to see you guys. It's been so long.
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I know. Yeah. I don't even know when in person, especially with the COVID and such.
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We were kids. I know. Children. We're different people. I really was. I believed in the elders that they would take care of us.
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Let's see. And then I realized I had to take care of myself. Woo! Yeah. Was that the journey?
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Look, not to get into it, but here the fuck we are, everyone. I know. Yeah. How many friends and or family members do you think you have, like, stopped talking to,
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aka lost, since Trump and COVID? Unfortunately, mine is, like, my mom and dad. Oh.
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So I'm not there yet to like totally cut off, but I have worked very hard with boundaries.
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Yes. And how to turn myself into a gray rock and not engage. Wow. Oh my God. A gray rock.
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Gray rock. Yeah. Wow. Do we call that the great shedding? Is that what it is, people?
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I don't know. The great shedding. That's wild. I think it's like you almost quietly quit the people.
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I mean, I'm such a like little Aquarius nice guy that I'm like, I'm going to quietly quit you.
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And that's been it. And I'm just kind of burrowing a tunnel like Tim Robbins in Shawshank Redemption to get away from certain family members and things like that.
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But here we are, you know? I remember Jordan said something like years ago because like one of the questions we got for adulting years ago was how do you like get rid of a friend or how do you stop being friends with someone?
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And Jordan was like, friends are like garbage cans. like you never really get rid of them.
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They just roll around and roll back or some shit you said. And every time I take my trash out, I'm like, which friend is this?
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Right. Some have maggots in them and some need to be hosed down every once in a while.
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Yeah. Some are Rubbermaids. Honestly, you have to talk to the trash guy and be like,
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and slip him a fucking 20 to take it away. Or some like you're hoping your neighbor will steal.
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So like you don't have to deal with it anymore. Oh, truly. Oh, please. Oh my goodness.
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Yeah. That's a good analogy. I mean, come on. It's happening again. Yeah. With the whole discussion about trans and non-binary people.
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And I'm like, I don't, I just, how many waves of people in my life am I really going to cut off?
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Yeah. Ending Facebook has helped. Ending Facebook has, I don't need to know everyone's birthday.
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What is this? Like, what do I need to know your birthday? Yeah. I honestly thought you were saying Facebook had ended.
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I was like, what? I know. Yay! Why don't we celebrate? I was like, what? Ding dong, the witch is dead.
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Like, why are the munchkins not dancing? I see what you're saying, getting off of social media,
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because it's only a divisive thing. Yeah. I wish it was just my family that I could,
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because I can yell at my family and tell them what they're doing wrong. Yeah. But I can't do that, like, on social media to strangers.
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Yeah. So it's hard. Like, I almost, like, wish I could keep Facebook. Not really, but that style.
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and not deal with the strangers on like Instagram, you know? Yeah. How do you maintain a healthy relationship with social media?
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Because it's going to be in our lives forever and all the time. I don't. I try. I don't know.
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You know, everyone's like, don't read the comments. And it just so hard for me because I do get that hit of dopamine when it like good Yeah But I also get it when it bad because I get all fired up Yeah Wow And then someone will defend me because I can say anything And then I get fired up from that person
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It's just like, I don't post really anymore on Instagram because I just like, I don't know,
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I got sick of sharing. It just felt like content after a while instead of my actual life.
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And every time I'd go out somewhere, I'd be like, I got to get content. It's like, why don't you just fucking enjoy yourself?
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Yeah. Well, because I mean, we all work for Instagram. I got my W2 last year. I'm really excited about it.
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But like, do you ever feel like I sometimes think like I'm going to go on a limb and just
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say like, Michelle, Georgia, you're both like straight A students. Me? Yeah, I wasn't.
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I was in rehab. You were not? Okay. What would this double chin get out of here?
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No, it's just that. I barely graduated high school and I dropped out of college.
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Oh, that part. Okay, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. So fuck me my theory. I am a perfectionist though
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you're right about that that's what I mean what you're getting is instinct and truth
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that's what you're getting and sometimes that's all you fucking need to really survive
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I mean Tick Notaro dropped out of high school too and she's one of the smartest people I fucking know
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she did? yeah that's why when people are like where are your kids going to school
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wherever they feel like it or they don't have to wherever they thrive is fine exactly
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I love that word I feel the same way as long as my kids either go to Smith or Brown.
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But go ahead. Yes. But I am a perfectionist and I want to do everything right. Like I saw a meme recently that was like, when I get to the TSA line, I have to be the best at it.
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And I want the security guards to be like, that girl is a legend. She's so good at going.
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Like I want to do it all correctly and the best. Driving, everything. So there is a part of me that goes to social media.
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Like this has to be the best post every time. And it's exhausting. I'm just so hung up on TSA.
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But like, do you ever get a high five from a TSA officer that's like, you did that the best?
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I should. I really should. Oh, my gosh. You know that thing of like, I'm doing it all right.
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So I can complain about other people. Well, you hope that people like will watch you and be like, that's how it's done.
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Right. You guys like, I raise my arms up and do that little, like, whatever, the diamond side.
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I do the Jay-Z sign above my head. Perfect diamond and a smile. and they're still like,
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we're going to have to pat you down. I'm like, but I did the diamond with a smile, you know?
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Yeah. And it just hurts my heart. And I feel as though... But don't you have metal in your body?
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Don't you have like something... Oh, you do? Yeah, he's had like a back surgery.
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Oh. Yeah, okay. Metal in my body. Yeah. When I wear a bra with a wire, they're like, call in backup.
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I'm like, it's just double D's, bitch. The right one's bigger if you must know. Do you know what I mean?
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Like, it's fucked him up. The other day they had to check my daughter's hair. And I'm like, how fucking dare you?
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I would put drugs in my booty hole before I put it in my little daughter's hair.
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Fuck that noise. Yeah. She can't stay still anyways when I do her hair. That's wild.
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Sometimes there's like a family in front of me. And if I'm flying solo, then I'll just switch lines.
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And then like they'll look at me like, oh, you know, the disrespect. You know, but I'm like, you've got a three-year-old.
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You got a toddler. Oh, yeah. And like, leave me alone. Like, I have to do this. or when you're behind like old people.
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Like that's, oh my gosh. Am I an angel? Because I sit and I watch and I wait for when they need help.
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And I'm like, I got you. What meds are you on? Because I need those. Yeah. I'm looking for some now.
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I'm not on any. Oh, mine aren't working. I mean, I straight up chew my jaw off and I've definitely have made my ass clench so hard.
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I don't have an ass anymore. I should get a Brazilian butt lift at some point for Kwanzaa.
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But you know, I'm going to ride it out, LOL, and see if tired mom working booties are going to come back,
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just like crinoline. So, you know, or bell bottoms. Everything finds its way back.
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Crinoline, I love it. Yeah, I mean, I try to be as patient as possible with people in the airport
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because I do realize this is like a big undertaking for them. I know. They booked the trip.
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They left their house. This isn't something they do often. Yeah. And so I just wait, watch, and see
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because even my parents are really good travelers. They always like make jokes to my mom.
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and my dad. And I'm just like, if you would have believed in me the way Matthew Knowles
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believed in Beyonce and Solange. Right. We could have been flying private, bitch.
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That part. No. Take your little orthopedic shoe off and put it in a fucking tray.
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I don't think I could travel with children or my parents. Like, I would help people.
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Mm-hmm. Yeah. I don't want to seem like a total asshole, but... No, that's okay.
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It is like an episode of The Amazing Race with no fucking pride. So that's why I'm just like,
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I can't read a map. My brain goes cuckoo, but I can travel with these dummies And also one time I traveled with my friend's cat
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Because she has so many pets She went from New York to LA And her cat Olivia Newton-John
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Who like gained weight and didn't even fit in the bag I was like I don't want a cat shame
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But bitch you gain weight And we had a stuffer in the bag I was like what in the southwest is going on
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This is not okay And I've never traveled with a cat before They make you take it out right
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How are there not more cats running around the airport That have gotten loose You go in a private room
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and then the cat runs under like a fucking piece of equipment yeah that was the cat
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I like the one where like the cat is like stuck in a ball like it's like this space ball that they can look out of
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have you ever traveled that way with your kitty? no I don't do I thankfully don't do
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that travel with animals but I can't imagine the cat wants to see the outside world
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that much right? Yeah. Right. Like the confusion of it seems a little intense. Right, right.
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I have two questions, you guys. Okay. Have you guys met and or worked with a person who is not necessarily at the top of their
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game, but very talented, like really talented, but just still talented? so fucking miserable.
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Oh my God. Yes. Okay. Why are you looking at me like that? Okay. What? No. But I'm just,
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okay, I got way too personal. But seriously, like I am starting to run into people where I'm just like,
00:24:13
is it trauma? Yeah. What the fuck is it? Like I can understand someone who hasn't figured it out.
00:24:19
And they're like, I know everything because they don't. And you figured them out.
00:24:23
Or like, you know, I don't know anything and I'm miserable because people have found me at
00:24:26
whatever it is, but like someone who's actually good. Yeah. That brings the bad energy.
00:24:31
I'm like, where is this coming from? That's childhood trauma. I think perfectionism is a great way to be miserable no matter what you achieve.
00:24:43
I think that is a hard one to get past. Yeah. I mean, sometimes it's kind of like, I understand it's so cautionary,
00:24:51
but it's like, I recently went to this big old celeb's apartment. Yeah. A flex. A flex.
00:24:58
And it was Pino's apartment. And they were just like, yeah, man, I don't know. I don't know about stuff.
00:25:05
And I'm just like, oh, wow. You know, like, that's really cool. We're never going to hang out.
00:25:09
But this is really cool. And to see this is like dope. You look, you remind me of Batman.
00:25:13
And I got to go. You know, like, it was like. Who was, name names. Give us the visual.
00:25:17
No, can't do that. Can't do that. Were they not happy with what they had? They were, they were just, they were not happy with what they had.
00:25:22
And they wanted more. Oh. But this person is like so successful, so powerful in the game.
00:25:28
and they just still, it's still not good enough. Like, I think my wildest dreams are their lowest expectations.
00:25:36
And I'm just like, this is crazy. Like, I guess I don't totally understand. What's the word when you try really hard for things?
00:25:44
You know, ambition. I don't get ambition at all. I'm like, when people are super ambitious
00:25:50
and I'm like, don't you like taking a nap? Like, have you heard of naps? Oh, I love naps.
00:25:56
You guys, I don't nap. I nap. I have to. What is so great about naps? You feel refreshed, don't you?
00:26:03
It's a reset on your entire day. Yes. You feel refreshed. You have the whole rest of the day to like, it's like having two days in one.
00:26:10
It is. And it's like, it's the same thing as like the way your first cup of coffee works for you.
00:26:15
You're just like, let's go. It just feels like cold eye patches. You're just like, mama, mama, mama.
00:26:22
I'm ready. That's so true. Right? Okay. The napping order in my house is like tied between my dog and my wife.
00:26:29
And so like, who naps the longest? And she just wakes up pissed all the time. Oh, no.
00:26:36
She's like, I'm taking 20 minutes. I'm going to go for a nap. Go ahead. Comes down.
00:26:40
What the fuck is all this shit? Is it two hours later? Does she like… No, she comes down 20 minutes later.
00:26:46
Maybe she needs two hours. Yeah. She can have them. I'm just like, let it go into a deep rim sleep.
00:26:54
just like let mama go. You ever had those naps where you're just like, I'm gonna go all the way all night.
00:27:00
Yeah. You don't have to set an alarm nap. That's amazing. Yeah. Oh, wow. To me, that's my ambition is success to me means
00:27:07
I'm able to take a nap in the middle of the day. Like there was a long time in my life that I couldn't,
00:27:12
you know, I worked day jobs, so I could never do that. Yeah. I didn't think that would ever end.
00:27:15
And so back then I'd be like, if I can take a nap every day, I'm successful. Yeah.
00:27:20
You can full on take naps at the job. I've done that. I've done it. The naps and also having a car pick me up
00:27:27
And go to like an event Or to a show or the airport Okay, that's a good nap That's a good nap
00:27:34
But that's also like a sign of success for me Where I'm just like I can take a nap in this car
00:27:38
That somebody else booked me Totally A booked car for you Or a I'm getting picked up
00:27:45
There'll be no time in my life We're seeing my name or my husband's name When we walk off the airplane
00:27:51
And someone's holding up a sign to be like here's your car ma'am yeah the best I almost want to take a picture every time
00:27:59
but I'm like I'm not going to me too like pretend you belong and they're like what in the first rodeo is going on
00:28:07
and I'm way too friendly to the drivers I'm like how is your weight me too do you have to carry my bag
00:28:11
I can carry my bag I know stop being a hero here you go did you wash your hands yuck
00:28:16
yuck I know I do that all the time I'm like no no I'm from Brooklyn so I take my own bags
00:28:22
You know, they're like, okay. Oh, no. You give him a dad joke. Okay. Yeah. Okay.
00:28:30
Oh, my goodness. Who saved who, ladies and gentlemen? Non-binary royalty. Who saved who?
00:28:39
Dad jokes with the drivers. I have an uncle that's a driver, and he la la la dad jokes.
00:28:44
He was driving me years ago. Somebody jumped in front of, like, try to make the light in New York.
00:28:50
Yeah, baby. And it was a green light. And he said just like very gently out the window, he's like, you never see a car in a hospital bed.
00:28:58
And I was like, okay, okay. What? Okay. I like that. Yeah, but he also said like when I ordered her drinks, sex on the beach, he's like, you know what happens when you have sex on the beach?
00:29:08
I was like, what, uncle? Yeah, like I don't want to know. He's like, you get sand in your ass.
00:29:14
I was like, I am leaving now. Not just the restaurant, the family, just the family.
00:29:21
The Facebook. The family Facebook. Yeah. I'll see you on 23andMe. Bye-bye. What was your grandma's name?
00:29:32
I love grandma names. I do too. And this one's a good one. Thelma. Grandma Thelma.
00:29:36
Oh my God. I love my grandma name. I know. And Molly. Grandma Thelma and Molly. Like classic.
00:29:43
Wish I wanted kids because that would be their names. But I made my character my grandma's name, which is Mavis.
00:29:48
Yes. I love it. She was my person. Yeah, but Thelma, ooh baby, Thelma. My grandma name is Eunice Beautiful Look I mean that is of a time That is vintage That is a vintage blend
00:30:05
It is. And my great-grandmother's name was Elbefa. What? Her sister, her favorite sister's name was Elretha.
00:30:13
And my auntie's name is Sabetha. So you better write it in. What in the girl group that will never happen is going on?
00:30:23
Oh my goodness That is the SWV of the 1800s What do you even mean? The Mississippi Delta
00:30:31
Was pumping out some names Truly Where is my tambourine bitch I didn't know we were going to church
00:30:38
Where is Viola Davis for the reboot? Have you ever met anyone with Like in the wild
00:30:43
People with those names? Hell no That was a time They've made them up That was like
00:30:48
Color purple era names Look Not unless I ran into somebody On Rumspringer Yeah. Doesn't know.
00:30:55
No. And no one's copied him since. Oh my God. Yeah. What does Beyonce say? I am one of one.
00:31:01
Yes. I am the only one. Love it. Those are those names and they are forever. We love them etched in time.
00:31:07
It's beautiful. Oh, wow. What in the smuckers happy birthday is going on, El Roco?
00:31:12
We need it. Did I never tell you that? I never told you that. I'm sorry, Michelle.
00:31:15
You never told me and this is the thing. I learn something new every day. I was at eight years old
00:31:19
when truths are coming out. My dad's mom, was a twin. And they were named Cleo and Clironor.
00:31:26
And I'm like, huh, how come no one took the time? I love the name Cleo. Same. But what is the other one?
00:31:35
Clironor. I've never heard that. It's the same name. Yeah. It's the longer version of the first one.
00:31:41
Yeah, it's the actual version of the other thing. People were wild back then. They were.
00:31:46
It's like naming your twins Mish and Michelle. It's like, did we not? Yeah. I know it was probably really hard back in the day to be like,
00:31:54
oh my God, I didn't even know I was pregnant with two. Right. Quick, think of another one.
00:31:59
So you didn't even plan on a name right away. No. I get it, but still. Claire? Claire and all.
00:32:06
And you didn't know if it was a boy or a girl. But I do love pet names because those are real fun.
00:32:12
And I named my lab mastiff Lola Falana because she's a big, beautiful black bitch.
00:32:17
I named my most recent cat Moses So that's where I'm going with that Wow What in the first testament?
00:32:28
Genesis, Exodus Come on, Gwyneth Paltrow, let's go I'm not religious, I just like the name
00:32:34
And his name is now Mo So it's like not even that beautiful anymore Oh, it's great
00:32:37
Who doesn't love a Moses? Yeah Come on, give it up for Yahweh We doing it 40 days, 40 nights
00:32:43
Yeah And if you have another cat You can name him like Ramgillia or like Nebuchadnezzar
00:32:49
or something really deeply biblical. He could not wait to fucking say that. Someone finished college unlike me.
00:32:58
I adopted a boy and girl lab pit mix and named them Bobby and Whitney. Oh, that's all.
00:33:04
That's sweet. So this is the part of the show. Is this the show? It's a podcast,
00:33:09
but it's the podcast show, right? Did we start it? Did we start it? Oh my God, are we recording?
00:33:15
The plane's going down. Don't worry. I got you. Thank you. Some days I do wake up
00:33:19
and I do feel like Denzel Washington at the end of every movie. I'm like, can I bring the train back
00:33:23
on the tracks? I got to do it for my boy because he needs a new heart. You know what I mean?
00:33:28
He needs a new heart. Does that junk you? I don't know. Why were you watching junk
00:33:33
of all the Denzel movies? He's got to land the plane and go back to Rosario Dawson,
00:33:38
who's his wife. Now's the time. Yes. To get brave. Yes. And do the thing. Yeah. Get brave.
00:33:45
Do the thing. Yeah. And then when I got really tired, I turned to like Sam Jackson.
00:33:49
I'm like, what? What I say? No, I'm not going to do it. Because that's like, well, no one needs it.
00:33:56
Okay. Let's go. So we have fans, audience members. They ask us questions about adulting.
00:34:03
And we try to answer them because we're experts. Experts? Question mark. Adults.
00:34:09
Adults? In some circles. Adultish? In Terribang? It's 5 p.m. Okay, we're done. Do you want me to go first?
00:34:20
Yeah, you have the first question. Okay, so here it goes. So I am 28 and my mom got remarried.
00:34:26
Happy for her double exclamation point, but she is asking me to remove all of my belongings from her house.
00:34:32
I don't have space in my current living situation, but I don't want to get rid of all my childhood memories.
00:34:38
How do I talk to my mom about this? I understand she needs to make room for the new,
00:34:43
but I am hoping she can help me keep a little bit of the old until I figure out my next steps.
00:34:49
Hmm. 28, huh? Wow. I wonder how much it really is. Is it like hoarding situation or is it just like, it's like a box of my drawings, mom?
00:34:58
You know? Yeah. I mean, you want a little bit, little flavor of your children around.
00:35:05
Yeah. And 28 is, that's really riding the line because it's getting. Yeah, it is.
00:35:10
It depends on what kind of 28 year old. Yeah. I heard the question, but what I'm really feeling is you're uncomfortable with the next phase of your mom's life and being cut out.
00:35:20
And I don't know how old your mom is, but it also is time for her to live her life.
00:35:26
You know, I've always wanted to be a mom. And now that I'm a mom, I'm like, holy shit.
00:35:32
A lot of people should not be parent. Like, don't no one should be pressured into being a parent because it is so much.
00:35:38
It's so much work. Yeah. Like all the time. And like you just fight to have your own thoughts and peace sometimes, hence the naps.
00:35:47
And so like it has been all about you for a long time. Let this be all about her.
00:35:53
And don put some more shit on your mom You almost 30 Figure your shit out Get like a storage unit Sell some of your shit Have your mom have her space back to make a new life because you know what She ain gonna be
00:36:06
wet forever and she needs to sit and spin on something while she still can, boo-boo.
00:36:11
That is a very good point. It does feel like that this person's maybe a little afraid that their mom is replacing
00:36:17
them. Yes. So maybe the conversation is about that and not about your things because
00:36:24
your things don't matter. Like your pottery you made in high school. Like you can, it's not that
00:36:29
good. Throw it out. Take a picture, throw it out. Take a picture and throw it out. Yeah. Yeah. And
00:36:33
now you can start a new tradition. Like your lunch can be your thing or, you know, the gifts you give
00:36:38
each other, but it doesn't have to be about replacing you. It can be exactly what you said
00:36:43
about moving on with her life. But for me, the question that's not being answered is how evil
00:36:47
is this new husband. Right. And are you stopping him, you know, from pulling off his evil plan?
00:36:55
Okay, Black Ira Glass, let's go. No, I just feel, no one has asked the question.
00:37:02
Yeah. And I just feel like, you know, maybe this is a good thing. Maybe you want to keep a recording device
00:37:07
in the house. Sure. Oh, shit. Ask her, has he broached the topic of life insurance
00:37:13
one too many times with her? Mm-hmm. Oh, shit. is this a lifetime movie with Judith Light
00:37:18
and Sherry Shepard? Is she like Kiki Palmer? Does she need a camera in the living room
00:37:23
to see what's going on? Okay. Like the thing is too I hate to say it it's your mama's business.
00:37:29
It ain't yours. Right. Yeah. Like how many times have we told our mom to butt out?
00:37:35
Do you know what I mean? So like But we're right. We're right though. You know what I mean?
00:37:40
That's true. Like you had to figure it out. We had to figure it out. She got to figure it out.
00:37:44
Yeah, truly. That's all I'm saying. Yeah. I mean, that sucks, especially if you're like super, super close, but like bigger picture.
00:37:51
It's tough. Okay. Wow. We really answered that. You guys, welcome to the view. All the levels.
00:37:59
Next question. Oh my God. This is like a mom. This is like a very mom heavy. Go for it.
00:38:05
Okay. My single mom flirts with my guy friends. How do I get her to stop? It's so embarrassing.
00:38:10
Oh, wow. Yeah. Oh my God. I'm just thinking about Amy Poehler. in, oh my God, what's that movie?
00:38:17
Oh, in Mean Girls? Mean Girls, yeah. Yes. She's like, I'm cool. Yeah, I'm the cool mom.
00:38:23
I mean, maybe she is. Maybe she's the hot mom and the friends are like, cool, great.
00:38:26
We love it. You know what I mean? Yeah, that can be embarrassing so many ways. I mean, I didn't suffer from that,
00:38:32
but I do remember the really, the hot mom. And it was just like, hi, Mrs. Turkelson.
00:38:37
Like, you're just like, you know, you're just one of these feelings in my body. That is hilarious.
00:38:44
is you know what I'll never be? The hot mom. I'll be the mom that teaches you how to use a tampon or a cup
00:38:50
or whatever the fuck we're using. But yeah. It was Texas in the early 80s. Oh, the hair.
00:38:56
Oh, yeah. Like Dallas. Yeah, I was like, Kyle Heidel's mom. You know, like every pool party
00:39:03
was like nails and iced tea and cigarettes, big curls and plastic surgery. And you're like,
00:39:09
Oh my God. Set it up. And tanning beds, probably. tanning beds before tanning beds oh god wait a minute can i ask georgia was there a hot dad no
00:39:21
hot brother yes yes yes you know yeah the older brother the older brother of a friend would be
00:39:30
that and they would just want us to leave them alone you know yeah but i will say that my mom
00:39:36
does like can only talk to dudes in a way that's like flirtatious yeah the waiter the fuck it you
00:39:42
You know, whatever it is, there's a flirtation. Is your dad okay? No, they're divorced.
00:39:47
No, they are divorced. So no, that didn't go over well. And it's creepy when you're young,
00:39:55
but again, you can't do anything about it. She's her own woman, right? That's true.
00:39:59
Yeah. Just don't bring your friends around her, I guess. I think telling her after she does it,
00:40:05
like if she does it and you're like, mom, when you do that, it makes me uncomfortable.
00:40:10
It really makes me uncomfortable. and I'd like it if you didn't do it, at least in my presence, you know?
00:40:15
That is the creating of a boundary, right? It's like, when I'm around, this is what it's going to be.
00:40:21
And I've let you do it, and now you've hit a point, and that's it. Yeah. I feel like you're within your rights to do that.
00:40:29
And bringing up specific things, too, is important. Like, when you said this, that was flirtation.
00:40:33
Like, sometimes people don't know that they're being flirty. You know what I mean?
00:40:37
Yeah. Yeah. Like, this thing that you said, or you touch his arm, and that was creepy.
00:40:42
Yeah, the arm touch, the unnecessary arm touch. Unnecessary arm touch. I don't know a lot of rich people,
00:40:47
but I went to like a comedian's wedding in South Pasadena, California. It was giving eyes wide shut,
00:40:53
but like at a barbecue and I had never been around that many rich white people before.
00:40:58
Everyone was named Taylor. And just like bangs. I've never seen so many people with face responsibility.
00:41:06
And my husband and I were like just married And this is like the first time I saw like really rich people just all kiss each other on the mouth.
00:41:16
Oh, ew. No. Do they do that? What are you talking about? Do you know like Jane Seymour in Wedding Crashers?
00:41:23
Oh, yes. Like the mom who's like, oh my God, I love this tie. And it's like, what?
00:41:28
And so none of that was to me. But like I remember I brought my husband. We were married for like six months.
00:41:34
We're still paying for the wedding. And yeah, women were like kissing him hello on his lips.
00:41:38
and like, or like on his cheek, like in the corner, like right near his lips. And I was like, what the fuck is this?
00:41:44
And my friend was like, this is how rich people do. And I'm like, what? Yeah. Holy shit.
00:41:50
Yeah. Oh, that would creep me out on so many. Like even when a, like a dude friend kisses me on the cheek,
00:41:55
it so I not okay with it It so inappropriate to me Like do an air kiss but I don want your fucking mouth on my face ew you know what I mean when you put it that way absolutely
00:42:05
get your mouth off my face yeah the title of this episode can I tell you in Holland
00:42:11
where my husband's from they kiss on the cheek three times wow oh my god yeah so like
00:42:18
when you walk into a party like it's just never ending and I'm like wow can we end
00:42:23
some and the first time I didn't know and I was pulling away and they were like,
00:42:27
and I was like, this is too much. My family, we do close cheek air kiss. So you get the in your ear essentially, but your faces don't touch.
00:42:38
It's very like hygienic, but loving, but also withholding. You know what I mean?
00:42:43
It's that perfect amount of like weirdness with comfort. I didn't mind before, but now I really mind because now I don't really know what people are doing with
00:42:53
their mouths. Yeah. Post COVID that's, that's over. It's disgusting. Yeah. The first time I
00:42:59
smelled bad breath out of COVID, I was like, no, this is how I get COVID. And I don't miss this at
00:43:05
all. That's, that's gone. Blowing out candles on a cake. That's should be gone completely. Yeah.
00:43:11
Has it been bad? Like a green flame shoots out of somebody's mouth? No, I just mean like you're
00:43:16
blowing your germs. Look, I have a little bit of OCD. Okay. Okay. It might be me a little bit.
00:43:20
Got you. No, I love this. It might be me and not COVID. Let's talk about it because there's a lot of people that don't take their shoes off when they come in my house.
00:43:29
And I'm just like, do you mind? And then like one person was like, I don't really do it.
00:43:33
I'm like, okay. And then they got dog shit that wasn't from my dog on my carpet.
00:43:39
And I was like, this is why you take your fucking shoes off. My God. Like that's how plagues start.
00:43:46
Literally. That's like so. I have such an issue with that. That's how the bubonic plague started?
00:43:52
Yes. People didn't take off their clogs? Is that what it was? You come into this house, you take off your clogs.
00:43:58
I feel like... Yes. Okay. Totally take your shoes off. Totally take your shoes off.
00:44:04
Sometimes, though, people's feet smells like that kind of like tang. And it's like, that's what they're scared that they're putting into the atmosphere.
00:44:13
I'm just putting it out there. I have to say... I will gladly take my shoes off.
00:44:16
I have great smelling feet. Good night. I don't mind. I don't mind. other people leaving their shoes on when they come over like i'm just not gonna make people do
00:44:23
that but if you're going to then like have a pair of socks for people available because i don't do
00:44:28
bare feet on the floor that grosses me out yeah right and i don't want people staring at my gross
00:44:32
feet you know yeah actually i really cute feet but they're not they don't need to be stared at
00:44:38
wiki feet come through it wiki feet i have a wiki feet i swear to god you do you must have a wiki
00:44:43
feet i didn't start it but there is a wiki feet um yeah socks i have guest socks and i have guest
00:44:49
slippers. Wow. And here's something that skews me out too. And then I have to get to the next question, but this really skews me out.
00:44:55
Okay. And let me know if I'm alone. Eating in an airport restaurant and using the fork.
00:45:01
Oh. Because I'm like, have they really cleaned this? How many people have gone through this fork? Absolutely not.
00:45:08
That's why I'm not mad at like a plastic fork. Sorry. I want to save the earth too, but
00:45:11
I also want to save my face. Yeah. You know what I won't do? I won't drink out of a
00:45:15
cup or like a glass in a hotel room. Never. They wipe it with the same towel that they use on the counters.
00:45:23
I've seen 20-20. Yeah, never. Don't put your mouth on anything in a hotel. Truly.
00:45:30
Okay? Just don't do it. Words to live by. Look, that's the name of this episode, guys.
00:45:37
Okay, next question. Okay. Yes. Ooh, this is the Saucy Santana question. Oh, my God.
00:45:44
I don't even know how to... Here we go. Okay. it's problematic because I'm looking at it too.
00:45:52
Oh, no. Do you want to do it together? No, I don't. Together, Michelle? I don't want to say together,
00:45:56
and I don't want to do it together. Let me just do it. Okay. Do it. Okay. Ass play.
00:46:02
Oh. I want to get into it, but I don't know where to start. How do I begin? Like, first of all,
00:46:06
the fact that Jordan wanted to do that question with me troubles me. Together as friends,
00:46:11
to support you as your friend in this journey of ass play. That's what I do as a middle child.
00:46:16
I am solving everything, and I'm here for you. Oh, my God. And now the party can begin because I'm here.
00:46:22
So supportive. Yay. Oh, my God. I just got so thirsty. I just got so thirsty. Where's my Yeti?
00:46:32
I need my water. I am parched. Listen, I say nobody asked, but I'll start. Yes. I would go to a store and ask somebody that you sort of trust there, like, what are the good things to start with?
00:46:48
if you don't know. Because if you don't know, you don't want to start at like a very difficult course
00:46:54
if you need something a little bit more intermediate. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, you don't want to go in hot.
00:46:59
Essentially, you want to go in warm. I'm blushing right now. I'm the wrong person to ask this
00:47:05
because I just pretend that that part of my body doesn't exist. And his doesn't either.
00:47:09
In love. I love that we were just like, I don't like my feet to touch the floor.
00:47:14
But let's get into ass play Because I'm sweeping the floor with my ass. Listen, there's something for everyone.
00:47:21
100%. But I would say do that. Go to it. Yes. Once Jordan calms down. I'd say go to a store.
00:47:29
Also, like, watch some porn. Do some research. You know, see what you might be into.
00:47:37
Talk about it with your partner first. Yeah. Because that's not always on the menu.
00:47:41
That's something you should talk about before ordering. For sure. I think being curious together is a good one.
00:47:47
Yes. Where this person's like, I want to bring out all my stuff. And it's like, no, I want, I'm curious about it.
00:47:52
And it's like kind of a fun relationship thing to do is like, yeah, the porn thing is a great idea.
00:47:58
Like, let's watch and see what happens. when people do that. Yes. Yeah. Right? And I think exploring, like,
00:48:03
to what degree do you want to be penetrated? To what degree do you want to penetrate somebody else?
00:48:08
Right. In that kind of thing and what their comfort levels are. I love that he goes,
00:48:11
somebody else! You know, like... You don't want to be surprised by that. Hey! I had no idea!
00:48:20
I didn't know! Oh, my God! I can feel and hear the rollercoaster of emotions that is going on between those two moving blankets!
00:48:30
A surprise penetration is not good for anyone. Look, no. Not even if you yell like happy Kwanzaa.
00:48:40
It's never fun in any way. How dare you disrespect December 26? Like that. Kucha Chocolia!
00:48:49
All right. Oh my God. I feel like it's a conversation. Okay. I'm just saying like.
00:48:55
It's a conversation that, yeah, of course, like you should know those things about each other, right?
00:49:00
100%. Yeah. And if anything, start small with beads. There you go. Absolutely. Next question, Jordan.
00:49:08
Caller, what's your name? Where are you calling from? Okay. My husband say, excuse me.
00:49:13
You okay? Let's take a breath. Should we put our arms up? Let's just. The way this is written is very conversational.
00:49:21
My husband, let's say region, doesn't smell great. Oh. Maybe it's his body wash that leaves a scent that makes me feel like gagging.
00:49:33
How do I approach this topic? You've gotten this far in your life and relationship with them, and they don't know that.
00:49:39
Like, they're not like my new boyfriend. They're my husband. Yeah. You got to open up lines of communication.
00:49:45
Truly. Yeah, you got to talk about it. Because you know what? I bet your husband would have no problem telling you.
00:49:50
Right. You know what I mean? So I'm just like, what is it? Does he need to use a different soap, eat something different?
00:49:56
Is his pH balanced off? Like, well, the typical answer would be, why don't you try showering or taking a bath together?
00:50:04
But really, it's like, you don't need a tiptoe. No. This is your husband. This is your life partner.
00:50:09
Like, getting married, like, your partner's crotch is like your roommate. Like, I see that thing more than, like, my parents.
00:50:17
For sure. You could pick it out of a lineup. Yeah. So, it matters. It matters. Yeah.
00:50:23
Come on. Don't be a fucking hero. Don't do that to yourself. Totally. Save yourself.
00:50:27
I'm going to ask another question because we cannot end on someone's crotch. Can't end on someone's end and you can't end on someone's crotch.
00:50:34
You know what I mean? Yeah. I do. Okay. Here's the last question. And Georgia, you're a walking angel.
00:50:40
Okay. Thank you. How do I go about investing? I've been living paycheck to paycheck for most of my adulthood.
00:50:48
And now that I'm at a new company with a decent salary, I'm looking to maintain some financial
00:50:53
security. It's an intimidating hurdle and I don't know where to start. I love that. Yeah. That is
00:50:59
so important. It is. And I totally understand that one. I'll say high yield savings accounts
00:51:05
are a really good place to start. Yeah. Right now. What's that? High yield savings accounts.
00:51:09
So there savings accounts like at your bank or whatever and those give you like a teeny tiny percentage You not make any money off of that While you waiting to figure it out and learning go Google a high yield savings account at a safe banking institution and put your money in there
00:51:24
while you wait and listen to a bunch of podcasts about finances, right? Yeah. Yeah. The compounded interest right now, some of the highest right now are like
00:51:32
hovering at about four to 5%. Now, back in the day, I used to do that with my own money. And
00:51:37
it was like when I first started in comedy and then interest rates of course went down with the
00:51:41
recession and the COVID and all that. But now it's a good time to do it. Now it's a saving time and
00:51:48
banks are begging for people's money and their savings savings account. Not not the commercial
00:51:53
banks, but banks like ally and things like that. So you are so on the money. Amen to that Georgia.
00:52:00
Like, yeah, do that shit. And there's so many pot. That's how I learned. I don't know time,
00:52:04
but I know some basics and it's all from podcasts, like financial podcasts out there.
00:52:09
Oh, that's such a good piece of advice. Find the people you like, find the topics you like and learn.
00:52:15
But go slow. Yeah. Yeah. That's what I was just going to say. The emotional part of it is like, it is huge.
00:52:21
It's like waking up one day and just saying, I have to lose weight, right? And it feels overwhelming and daunting
00:52:28
because you think you're just supposed to like drop this weight and be super healthy within like weeks.
00:52:33
but it takes time. And so if you're overwhelmed by this, they use the word hurdle.
00:52:38
Just one day at a time, truly. You got this. Yeah, you got this. Yeah. Oh my goodness.
00:52:44
Well, I'm so glad we ended on our adult question, not about someone's stinky dick.
00:52:50
Funky spunk? We ask all our guests, what is the most adult thing you want to do for yourself
00:52:58
that you haven't had a chance to do yet? And it could be big or small or medium.
00:53:02
Medium. Let me think. I have completely lost the plot when it comes to being in shape in a way that like makes me feel old.
00:53:11
You know what I mean? Yeah. Like I'm 43. I think that's not old at all. No. But somehow I'm like, well, that time's over for me taking care of myself in that way.
00:53:20
Aw. I know. And I need to remember like people run marathons in their 60s and, you know,
00:53:28
and I just need to get that in my head because I'm such a like, I'm such a napper that I'm like,
00:53:33
well, I'm going to go take a nap. No, I need to like discipline myself. And I talk about this in
00:53:36
therapy all the time where it's like, if you didn't have a lot of discipline as a child,
00:53:39
you don't know how to do it to yourself as an adult. But you have to be, you have to parent
00:53:43
yourself and be like, okay, Georgia, I know you want to nap right now, but a 30 minute walk is
00:53:47
going to make you feel better in so many ways. Yeah. You know what really worked for me? And I
00:53:53
don't know if it will work for you, but making plans with my friends to go for a walk or a jog
00:53:58
or like a dance class or like whatever kind of thing. Because I was like, I'm not going to let my friend down.
00:54:04
I'll cancel all day long. I have a Peloton at home. Are you kidding me? It's just...
00:54:08
Oh my God, yes. Like I'm hanging shit on it at this point. Of course. But if I had a friend meet me at my bike every day,
00:54:13
I'd be like, I'm coming because I don't want to let those motherfuckers down. Totally.
00:54:17
Right. So I don't know, maybe that would work. And then also I bought like new workout clothes at Target.
00:54:22
That's a good one. Right. Because I just like this shit looks like I mad at myself Yeah And so I just got like a new black one You know what I mean No that a really great point because the pants the stretch pants I have I love them but the elastic is gone
00:54:36
Yep. Yep. They fall off while I, you know, work out. To like have a cute new outfit
00:54:41
to like work out in? It's everything. For sure. Yeah. Especially like in California,
00:54:45
everyone loves to hike. Yes. Oh my God. Bring some juices, go on a hike, do the little hot goss.
00:54:52
That's a good one. Spill the tea. I haven't done that in years. It's a great idea.
00:54:55
If I was there, I would do it with you. I would love that. What's one kind of exercise routine you've never really done before, but like wanted to try?
00:55:03
Ooh. There is an aerial gymnastic place by my house, but I think it's only for children.
00:55:12
Wow. I know. That is so cool. But I'm determined. That's a leap. Oh my gosh. That's cool.
00:55:17
It's giving Steve Corral realness. I want it. Yeah. There is a pole dancing studio that I've never done that.
00:55:24
I can't imagine. I could barely do a push-up. I can't imagine I can do that. But it's a no for me.
00:55:29
I'm just too top heavy. That's like, what am I, a hero? That's insane. The fact that I can tie my own shoelace on camera and not always go, like, give me an Oscar.
00:55:39
Michelle. What's up? I could see you like with Tanning Chatham, whatever his name is.
00:55:45
Yes. His name is Channing, but that's hilarious. Tanning. Tanning Chatham. Tanning Chatham.
00:55:50
I don't really watch a lot of his films, but I could see you doing a little something in the NZ.
00:55:57
Yeah. Yeah. What are we talking about? I could see it for her in a film. I could see that for you.
00:56:02
On a pole, for sure. Something. I'm just saying, if that is what you wish or want.
00:56:07
I think you should try it. Nobody said that. Like, literally, you said it. No one said it.
00:56:12
I was talking about hiking. I can see it. Well, stop seeing it. That's on you. What about pole hiking?
00:56:19
is pole hiking the new trend in LA pole hiking that's what old people do oh you're right
00:56:25
it's just a walker it's just a walking stick oh I thought you guys were talking about
00:56:28
like strip pole I was like the strip pole and hiking at the same time I was she was
00:56:34
she was but then there's like an actual pole that you take hiking right right oh my goodness
00:56:39
this has been amazing it was so fun hanging out with you thank you so much for doing this
00:56:44
silly little show thank you guys so much I adore you both I love this show. Oh. Thank you so much.
00:56:52
Thank you, Georgia. Thanks, you guys. Wow. We learned a lot. Yeah. About each other.
00:57:03
About people's holes, their wishes, their wants, questions, answers. More questions than answers.
00:57:08
More questions than answers? Yeah, more questions than answers is what people have.
00:57:12
Yeah. I think the world would be a better place if we asked more questions. like what?
00:57:19
I mean whether it comes to like federal funding or like who's running for what or like
00:57:23
you know civil rights like fucking anything like even like your body and like expectations
00:57:29
what your mom is doing or not like fucking anything to be honest yeah thank you oh my goodness my lovely
00:57:37
assistant Abby just gave me a seltzer oh yeah that refreshing shout out to Abby Did you just wish for that and she brought it or did you text her
00:57:50
Like what happened? I texted her because I am. I'm not lying. I got really thirsty when I read the ass plate question.
00:57:56
I understand. Do you? I get it. Someone I'm trying to imagine. No, come on now. Michelle, stay with us, Michelle.
00:58:06
Michelle has been locked in a battle with this microphone for the entirety of the podcast recording.
00:58:13
No, Michelle. This microphone is like that white kid in Lord of the Flies. Shut the fuck up and sit down.
00:58:21
Oh, my God. For the record, all the kids in Lord of the Flies were white. But that's...
00:58:27
It tried to enter my mouth. No microphone. No. Maybe get a sandbag. I don't know.
00:58:35
I'm just trying to help. A sandbag? A sandbag. What did you call me? I just want one normal interaction.
00:58:46
What do you mean? This is so us. Forget it. Forget it. That was so fun. Yeah. Georgia was so cool.
00:58:54
So cool. I love anybody that can conduct an interview whilst also like with a pet.
00:58:59
Love it. Because I can't do it with my dog. I can't do that. I can. Yeah. You have cool dogs.
00:59:04
You have very cool dogs. My dog is a little more high energy. you know is he he always hides i wouldn't know well he's scared i mean they they say that the
00:59:12
owner's energy vibrates through the dog so that's probably he gets it from me unfortunately but um
00:59:19
you know it is what it is it is what it is okay i don't know how this got sad thank you so much
00:59:25
for listening holy shit god like can you is this is this this is really you right i mean i've known
00:59:33
for so long. I'm like, this really isn't how you possibly think of yourself, is it? Thank you so much.
00:59:39
What are you getting now? I got a roll of toilet paper because I can't find my tissues
00:59:43
and I have to blow my nose. Abby's just going on a worldwide scavenger hunt from the shop.
00:59:53
Give me my cherry seltzer and give me a whole thing of toilet paper, girl. Sorry, everyone. I love it.
01:00:01
Alright, listen. It's about that time too. You got to get your kids soon. It is. Yeah. You know. Great. Good talk, man. See you later.
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Okay. Bye. What the fuck? I think I love the show, but I think I'm done. I think I'm just done
01:00:15
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