We Deconstructed Our Homeschool and Religious Experiences

Want to hear Liz's homeschool experience? Check out this episode: https://youtu.be/rvHUlhOM9hI?si=j7JGWwCJAMwtrChb

Liz is back in the clubhouse to explore the role religion played in our homeschool upbringings and how those beliefs shaped our identities long after childhood. Liz shares what it was like growing up in an intensely Catholic homeschool environment, from her involvement in the Legion of Mary to embracing modesty culture, purity culture, and the expectation that she might one day become a nun.

Together, we unpack the complicated process of questioning long-held beliefs, navigating religious trauma, and separating personal faith from the cultural expectations that surrounded us. We discuss purity culture, the lack of sex education in many homeschool environments, the experience of deconstruction, and the grief that can accompany rebuilding your worldview. Whether you're still religious, no longer religious, or somewhere in between, this conversation is about finding space to ask questions, heal, and better understand the stories that shaped us.

*Resources We Mentioned* • When Religion Hurts You: https://drlauraeanderson.com/book • Homeschooled: A Memoir: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=t • The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score • Interview with D.L. Mayfield: https://youtu.be/ohzrQqPq0Dw?si=vi3cp1QPt8fy3wfi

*Chapters* 00:00 Welcome Back Liz 01:07 Homeschooler Connection 03:32 Catholic Roots And Belonging 06:21 Evangelical Upbringing 08:33 Confirmation And Commitment 11:11 Legion Of Mary Explained 13:30 Conference Culture And War Talk 19:37 Performing Faith Publicly 21:29 Christian Mime And Evangelism 24:00 Modesty Purity And Shame 28:29 Deconstruction And Questioning 31:55 Where Beliefs Came From 33:11 Silence Around Sex And Expectations 34:56 Nunhood and Holiness 35:41 Purity Books Osmosis 36:40 Period Shame Lesson 37:51 Apple Pie Purity Talk 41:06 No Sex Ed Basics 43:27 Bridgerton Level Ignorance 45:20 Study Abroad Cracks Bubble 47:43 Grief and Quiet Deconstruction 54:34 Naming Religious Trauma 01:01:30 Inner Child Healing 01:04:20 Finding Community Through Stories 01:06:50 Closing Thoughts and Resources

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