SAS Psychologist Held Hostage, Forced To Walk Through Minefield
- Mar 28, 2026
- 2:17:46
- Full Episode
Dr. Alia Bojilova former SAS lead psychologist, and the author of The Resilience Toolkit.
She’s worked with elite special forces soldiers, athletes, CEOs, people operating at the absolute edge of human performance.
But her story goes far beyond that.
In this conversation, we talk about everything from growing up in post-communist Bulgaria, where simple things like toilet paper, cheese and chocolate were rationed, to moving to New Zealand at 17 without speaking English… all the way through to working inside one of the most elite military environments in the world.
And then, there’s the moment where everything changes. Alia shares, in incredible detail, the story of being taken hostage in Syria. A seven-hour ordeal involving armed militants, minefields, and the very real threat of an ugly execution.
But what’s remarkable isn’t just what happened: it’s how she processed it, what she learned from it, and how she’s used that experience to better understand human resilience.
Dr. Bojilova is a unique individual – she is a real breath of fresh air – smart, tough and very funny. I walked away from this one thinking differently. I hope you will too.
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Brief Summary
Dr. Alia Bojalova shares her harrowing kidnapping experience in Syria and discusses resilience, psychology, and human potential.
Key points
- Facing Fear. A discussion on how fear shapes our lives and decisions.
- The Resilience Toolkit. Exploring the ABCD of resilience: Awareness, Belonging, Curiosity, Drive.
- The Weight of Empathy. Exploring the dangers of empathy and interpersonal curiosity in human interactions.
- Childhood Adventures. Recollections of risky childhood activities that fostered deep connections and life lessons.
- Language Barriers. Navigating friendships and connections despite language difficulties after moving to New Zealand.
- Life Choices. Reflecting on the fear of choosing a safe path over a more adventurous life.
Episode highlights
- Facing FearA discussion on how fear shapes our lives and decisions.“Fear is just an indication that something matters.”11:57Mar 28, 2026
- The Resilience ToolkitExploring the ABCD of resilience: Awareness, Belonging, Curiosity, Drive.17:04Mar 28, 2026
- The Weight of EmpathyExploring the dangers of empathy and interpersonal curiosity in human interactions.“Imagine if I end up having to reach out to everyone.”34:12Mar 28, 2026
- Childhood AdventuresRecollections of risky childhood activities that fostered deep connections and life lessons.“You learn that you're not going to die if you roll down a hill.”42:14Mar 28, 2026
- Language BarriersNavigating friendships and connections despite language difficulties after moving to New Zealand.“I couldn't really understand what people were saying in full.”50:54Mar 28, 2026
- Life ChoicesReflecting on the fear of choosing a safe path over a more adventurous life.“The thought of going back frightens the be Jesus out of me.”1:00:09Mar 28, 2026
- The Complexity of Military EmotionsNavigating emotions in the military can be complex due to operational constraints.“It’s extremely difficult to be emotionally unavailable when you have complex emotions.”1:12:09Mar 28, 2026
- Surrounded by Armed MilitantsA small group of unarmed observers faces 38 armed militants, raising the stakes dramatically.“That's an intimidating amount of people.”1:27:23Mar 28, 2026





