Professional Negotiator: How To Ask For More Money - And What To Do When They Say No
Episode Description
Amy Gardiner is a negotiation expert.
All of us negotiate every single day: With our boss. Our partner. Our kids. Buying a house. Selling something. Asking for more money. Even trying to convince your mates where to go for dinner. But most of us hear the word “negotiation” and immediately think confrontation. Amy Gardiner says that’s bullshit.
Amy is a negotiation specialist who has spent decades in sales, real estate and high-pressure negotiations, and she believes negotiating is a skill that anyone can learn. And there is so much practical stuff in this conversation. + How to ask your boss for a pay rise. + What to do when someone simply says no. + Why you should stop deciding how a conversation is going to go before it even starts. + How to work out why someone is resisting you. + And why some of the best negotiations are actually supposed to feel uncomfortable. We also get into relationships, confidence, men versus women, knowing when to walk away, and much more.
This is one of those episodes where you’ll hopefully hear something and immediately be able to implement it in your own day to day life.
Brief Summary
Amy Gardner shares negotiation tips, emphasizing preparation, self-awareness, and overcoming gender biases in everyday negotiations.
Key points
- Negotiation Skills for Everyone. Negotiation is a vital skill in daily life, not just in business.
- Negotiation Confidence. Women often feel they must prove themselves more than men in negotiations.
- Wage Gap Insights. The wage gap is a byproduct of deeper inequalities, not just negotiation skills.
- The Importance of Preparation. Successful negotiation relies heavily on thorough preparation and understanding.
- Negotiating with Kids. Negotiation skills are essential even in parenting, as kids become adept negotiators.
- Emergent Negotiations. Unexpected negotiations can arise, requiring adaptability and preparation.
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Episode highlights
- Negotiation Skills for EveryoneNegotiation is a vital skill in daily life, not just in business.“Negotiation is actually something we do in all relationships...”2:36Sep 29, 2026
- Negotiation ConfidenceWomen often feel they must prove themselves more than men in negotiations.“Women naturally feel like they have to get to a certain level.”19:33Sep 29, 2026
- Wage Gap InsightsThe wage gap is a byproduct of deeper inequalities, not just negotiation skills.“I think that the wage is just a byproduct of a lot of other inequalities.”21:39Sep 29, 2026
- The Importance of PreparationSuccessful negotiation relies heavily on thorough preparation and understanding.“Preparation is everything.”29:08Sep 29, 2026
- Negotiating with KidsNegotiation skills are essential even in parenting, as kids become adept negotiators.“Kids will do that. They're a great leveler.”32:39Sep 29, 2026
- Emergent NegotiationsUnexpected negotiations can arise, requiring adaptability and preparation.“I thought I was going in for a raise and... I’m getting my contract cut.”40:35Sep 29, 2026
- Emotional Intelligence in NegotiationEmotional intelligence plays a crucial role in successful negotiations.“Emotional connection is going to be so important.”53:04Sep 29, 2026
- Anchoring in NegotiationSetting anchors can help guide the negotiation process and outcomes.“You can anchor in time, you can anchor in price.”56:03Sep 29, 2026





