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Talking Dateline: Finding Rita

March 15, 2023 /

This episode of Talking Dateline features hosts Josh Bankowitz and Keith discussing the episode "Finding Rita." Key topics include the investigation into Rita's disappearance, the role of survivor K.K., and the impact of domestic violence.

Keith explains that "Finding Rita" centers on a woman who vanished after a night out with family. The investigation faced challenges until a connection was made with another case involving K.K., a survivor of a brutal attack who provided crucial information.

The conversation highlights the emotional interviews with Rita's mother and the police detective, emphasizing their importance in the storytelling. Keith reflects on the challenges of getting K.K. to share her story, noting the online hate campaign against her.

Josh and Keith discuss the storytelling techniques used in the episode, including drone footage and foreshadowing, which enhance the narrative. They also touch on the emotional toll of covering such stories and the resilience of families affected by violence.

In closing, they hint at upcoming stories, including a "Black Widow" case, while acknowledging the complexities of justice and the emotional weight of their work.

TLDR

Josh and Keith discuss the "Finding Rita" episode, focusing on Rita's disappearance and K.K.'s survival story amid domestic violence themes.

Episode

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okay well i just gonna hope that works all right i'm not rolling uh on the sound too
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yeah but you see right you sound perfect i do yes you do you sound oh so it's where it's working
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yeah okay all right let's begin sure hey it's josh bankowitz and this is talking dateline
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something new we're offering here on Dateline Podcasts. Today, we're going to be talking with Keith.
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Oh, hallelujah. Say hello. Keith's not really in a talkative mood today, which could be a problem for today's little chat.
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No, it'll be fine. It'll be fine. Yeah, I'm sure it will. And we're here to talk about Finding Rita, which is Keith's episode,
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which is available on podcasts, probably right below this episode that you've just clicked on.
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And I think it's also available on Peacock if you want to watch it and stream it.
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For our audience, just tell me a little about what Finding Rita is about. Well, Finding Rita is about finding Rita for one thing, which took a long time and was very difficult.
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But here's a story about a woman who went out with her family, with cousins, for a drink one night.
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And afterwards, when they said goodnight to each other, she vanished. The investigation kind of plodded along.
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They talked to all the usual potential suspects, couldn't find anybody who might be responsible for whatever happened to Rita.
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And then sometime into the investigation, the lead detective got a knock on the door from a colleague who walked down the hall to say, this sounds an awful lot like what happened in a case that I'm investigating.
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A woman who was attacked by a man was raped, was beaten horribly, came close to death, but survived and can tell the story and potentially help us find the perpetrator.
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And so these two cases worked really hand in glove to solve the question of what happened to Rita.
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A couple of interesting things about this tale. For one thing, it was the last story produced, not completed, but certainly filmed and started by producing a partner named Robert Dean, who you, of course, know well and who we've worked with for many years.
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Robert Dean is a veteran producer who has just decided to, I don't know if you'd say go into retirement, but at least semi-retirement, and he has left Dateline.
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And he's a very, very talented guy. I've done a couple of stories with him. Keith's done many more than I have.
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And I know that you and Robert were very good working partners, and I imagine that you were going to miss him a lot.
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Already do, yeah. So let's talk a little bit more about finding Rita. I thought that the cop in this was a really good interview, and I thought that Rita's mom was a really good interview.
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I thought those were both essential to the reason why this story worked as well as it did.
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True in both cases. And one of the reasons why I was so happy to be able to do this story was KK, who you will, if you've seen the story or when you see the story, you will soon recognize that name.
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K.K. or Kayleen was the young woman who was attacked by a rapist and who survived to tell the story.
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It was a horrible attack. She came close to death on a number of occasions. She wound up with severe bruising and petechia and indications of asphyxiation.
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She was unconscious several times during the attack and finally had to kind of run screaming away for her just to get away from the man.
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So her story is extremely dramatic and doesn't take anything away from Rita, who the story is named after, or the search for her.
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But it gives you some kind of an idea of what both women had to deal with. It's really KK's story, too.
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How hard was it to persuade her to appear on Dateline? Because clearly, that's not something that she's going to do easily or without thinking about it.
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Right. Right. Well, I don't, you know, and maybe it's the reason why other people are much more helpful than I am when it comes to having guests in our program, because I don't like to persuade people to appear on our show.
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I don't want them to come on because they want to. For the uninitiated, we don't pay anybody. We don't have any subpoena power.
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People are on Dateline because they want to, because they feel like their story will add to the to the depth of the story that we're telling.
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But sometimes, particularly when you're talking with somebody who's been through something awful and then went through something awful again, sometimes those people don't want to talk to us.
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And, you know, there's not a lot I can say when that happens. Understandably so.
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And in the end, she decided she wanted to talk to us partly, I think, as a kind of a cathartic experience, an example to others also that you have to be strong and get your own story out there.
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And I'm incredibly grateful that she did. And I think it would be helpful to a lot of people to know what her story was I totally agree with that I do have one question which I wrote down while I was watching the episode which is this online campaign of hate that was directed against KK
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Do we have any sense where that came from? I mean, is that people linked to the defendant or is that just, you know, people out there in the ether?
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Well, it can't be proved what the source of it was, but KK believed that it started with her attacker and a person who had a lot of friends and who was, as far as I can understand, a charming guy who got support from family, from friends, from people who were prepared to believe him because he was a good talker.
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And he got them to actually believe that she was lying and trying to get him accused of something he didn't do.
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But that's not uncommon. The thing is, you and I run into this sort of character all the time, the charmer who's really got a bad side and who does terrible things to women because that person will see them as vulnerable, especially if he can get them a little more vulnerable after they've been at a bar for a time.
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So this guy was hanging out around bars and fishing for a couple of women. After a long period of time, he finally made a deal to plead guilty and confess to what he had done.
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But this is something that has come up a number of times in stories, too. And it's a thing that every single time it does, I find myself furious about it because it's so kind of disreputable.
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And it besmirches the victims where someone will confess that he killed a woman, but he removes the venal, awful part of it.
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somehow it was a thing that happened or she hit her head or, you know. Yeah. And by the time that the remains of the victim are examined, much of the horror of those final moments can't be proven.
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Like there's no, there's no blood to test to see whether there's a date rape drug in there.
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There is no flesh left to see if there is bruising around the neck. So in a lot of these cases, you sort of have only the killer's word as to what happened in those final moments.
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And they naturally sugarcoat that as much as they possibly can. And it's like they know you can't prove it.
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And it's like one last indignity. Like they're they're cleaning up the crime scene like like, you know, verbally years later sometimes.
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Yeah. So that always it gets to me. It gets to me terribly. There was a I shouldn't let it get to me.
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I've told people for years, I never let these stories get to me. And I go home at night, I don't think about them.
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But sometimes you do. And it's when, and I'm afraid to say it, but as guys taking advantage of vulnerable women, when they do that, it just drives me nuts.
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We had a case in South Carolina, a story put on a couple of months ago, about a young woman who took years and years to solve her case.
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what happened to her and the fact that she was murdered by by habitual criminal a person who kind
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of did the same thing he's cruised around looking for women to attack and rape and it was the same
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when he finally made his confession uh that he kind of sanitized it removed all the truly awful
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stuff and just enough so he'd get away with you know he still had the same prison term but he
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didn't have that sort of specter hanging over him while he was there uh i know that's one of the
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things that sadly you see all the time in this job is sort of war um on women most of it by men
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and uh it's remarkable in its sameness i was thinking about this uh when i watched uh finding
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read is that you know domestic violence is so much in the background of so many of the stories
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that we tell. Yeah, really, truly it is. I mean, it's not always the exact precipitant event to the murder,
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but sometimes it is, and it's usually floating there somewhere out of sight sometimes.
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But one of the sad things about Rita's situation was that she, you know, enthusiastically got married as a young woman
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and then had to leave that marriage because of domestic violence. If that not occurred, you know, none of this would have happened.
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One of the things I wanted to talk about was your interview with her sons, because I'm going to let you tell the story.
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But this is something that almost never happens on Dateline, which is usually when we show up to cover a story.
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We know who's talking. We know who's not talking. We know who we have approached.
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We know who said yes. We know who said no. It's unusual that people decide sort of after we get there that they now want to participate.
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But that's what happened in this case, isn't it? So Rita had three sons and all very close. The middle son had decided he wanted to be the one to speak for his siblings. And so he came to our interview intending to talk to us. But the youngest son came along with his middle brother just to watch and see what happened. And as he saw us doing interviews, he changed his mind.
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We talked to his grandmother He saw what his grandmother was saying He saw what the atmosphere was and he decided he wanted to speak up on behalf of his mother So he had two young boys the middle child and the youngest child and they were well they were tremendously moving
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I mean, these are wonderful young men. I thought they really added a lot to the program.
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Yeah, it did too. Let me ask you a couple of things that are not exactly about the story, but more sort
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of about the storytelling. First of all, I love the drone shots in this. You know, using drones has sort of completely changed the way some of these stories are told because it's an extremely inexpensive way of getting aerial shots, particularly when you're talking about sometimes something that we talk about all the time, which is like some intrigue or some mystery that's enveloping a small town, which in this case was also the area where they were searching for Rita.
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So it was, it was, it was, it was doubly that. I thought the drone footage really worked great in this.
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And the other thing I love that you did was sort of the foreshadowing at the beginning,
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when you're talking about the guy hanging around the bar and you immediately, I mean,
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as a viewer, I immediately thought, okay, that's, that's the guy. That's what this is.
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This is, this is what this is all about. I want to listen. I want to hear everything about that guy.
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And I love that because it, it, it plants that in the back of your mind, even as you're
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hearing about what Rita did, what she was thinking. She'd just broken up. She wanted to go out and have fun.
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And meanwhile, you're aware as a viewer, you're aware of this sort of like danger lurking.
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I mean, it's a little like, you know, showing the shark, the shark fin at the beginning of a movie, you know, and then you know that that is going to strike eventually.
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And that's one of the things I think that you do really well, which is like sort of let people know something's coming.
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I'm not going to tell you what it is, but all is not normal. it's it is a version of a well-known storytelling technique which is kind of almost a rule of
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storytelling that always has been since probably the beginning of stories but it achieved the name
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checkoff's gun back 150 years ago or so because and the rule was according to checkoff if you
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introduce a gun in act two it has to be used by act three so the idea is if you're going to tell
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a story, you provide a little mysterious little hint that something's going to happen involving
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this person or this object, and then later on, it's revealed what that was. I must say, and I'm pretty sure you feel this way, the terrible part of this job is
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meeting those families because there's this myth out there that they somehow get over this after
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the person's locked up and then they don't terrible and but also life-affirming in a in a way too
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also sometimes you see people with enormous strength yeah yeah i mean it's just the fact
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of getting to spend time with people who've gone through these things is gift and uh i rarely come
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Even though the stories are often very, very sad and get to you, it is truly a gift to be given the right to hear such a personal story.
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And when that person knows that we're going to put the story on television and still entrust us with it, it's a great privilege.
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It is, and it's something that I know we all take very seriously. I know that I do. And, you know, in addition to sort of the sorrow that we witness, you also see tremendous stories of strength and resilience and faith.
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Sure. Frequently in these kinds of cases, so much depends on the determination of a family who keeps the pressure up, keeps the enthusiasm up for continuing to, you know, do something that's very, very difficult and time consuming and expensive for police departments.
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But they keep at it because they're doing it for the family. Well, the Longmont PD really, really delivered on this one. They really hung on there.
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Yeah, they did. Yeah. Without giving anything away, what do you got coming up? Well, I am working on a very interesting story, which I guess, for want of a better phrase at the moment, we'll call a Black Widow story.
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And it's fascinating. A woman who is currently awaiting for the justice system to have, you know, to have a go at her.
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But meanwhile, we're finding out more and more and more about her life and her past, and it will be on a future date line.
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Yeah, I'm working on a story very similar to that in which a woman's kind of at the center of this.
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She is alleged to have committed murder, although she has not been charged. She's alleged by the family of the victim to have committed murder, but she has not been charged by any law enforcement agency.
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And I'm not sure she will. There was a civil suit in the case and one of the things that jurors expressed in that civil suit after the verdict was in was why is this in a civil court room Why aren you trying this person for murder
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Yeah, different jurisdictions take a different approach to whether or not there's enough evidence to proceed.
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Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting because I'm doing one story right now in which prosecutors are arguing we don't have enough to go forward.
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And I'm doing another story in which prosecutors did go forward and filed murder charges, and they really did not have a lot to back them up.
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And the jury was out about 45 minutes. And jurors, those jurors, when interviewed afterwards, were saying, how did this get in a courtroom?
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That's all you've got? I know. There are prosecutors you and I both have worked with and who we know take circumstantial cases like John Lewin in L.A.
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Loves cold cases, did cold cases for years and did them because he found that circumstantial cases where you can just tell a jury, look, we don't have maybe all the physical evidence you'd like to see.
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But just listen to this story and tell me if you can tell what happened. And of course, he gets convictions all the time.
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Yeah, I might as well say this out loud on a podcast, which is if I were guilty of some crime, John Lewin's about the last guy in the United States I would want coming after me.
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Not only did he convict Robert Durst, which was pretty difficult, but as any regular Dateline viewer knows, he's done a lot of other cases too.
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There's a prosecutor who I'm not going to name who calls me after almost every dateline, whether it's mine or not, even if it's your story or Andrea or Dennis's, calls me after the story to critique the work of that prosecutor.
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And I pick up the phone. I see it's him. I'm like, yeah, how are you doing? And he's like, yeah, somebody should ask that guy in North Carolina whether he filed a 608 motion.
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I'm like, I don't know what that is. I'm sure you're right. I don't know if the law is different where you are
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but I'm prepared to stipulate that that guy made a mistake because he's ready to critique
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every prosecutor's work it's pretty interesting, it's pretty entertaining just one of the joys of doing this odd thing we do
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for a living. Well you do meet a lot of interesting people and you meet some murderers which I
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wasn't expecting although I've said this before and I think you agree, that's not the hard part of this
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job, the hard part is talking to families Yeah, that's right. No, the murderers all want to be nice guys who've been wronged.
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Who've been wronged, exactly. Yeah, yeah. So I want to thank you for doing this, for this little talking day.
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It was a great pleasure, Josh. You were a far less annoying person today than you usually are.
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So it was a delight for me. Wow. All right. That's not really where I saw this going.
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But, you know, you were far more forthcoming than you normally are, which I think I appreciate.
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And I know that our listeners and Dateline viewers appreciate you. You've made me realize that if we do this again and I got some bad news for you, I'm pretty sure we are doing it again.
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Oh, boy. That it'll work out great. tell me uh josh all the little uh uh you put in there just now were they in the script we're
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gonna cut those out okay i like this being just sitting here and letting you ask the questions
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it's kind of fun well when we do one of these that's going to be my episode you're going to
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ask the questions because i can't really do everything around here can i keith you try
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God knows you try. So thanks for talking Dateline. And we'll see you Fridays on Dateline on NBC.
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Oh, hello. It's me again. A couple of things came up while we were talking Dateline that I wanted to follow up on.
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And now I will because I've gotten rid of Keith. That producer, Robert Dean, who we were talking about in the beginning.
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Well, Keith did not take advantage of an obvious opportunity there. So I will. Robert was the original producer of the story that's now Keith's hit podcast called The Girl in the Blue Mustang.
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It's great. And it's out now so you can find it and go listen. The South Carolina story that Keith brought up in which the killer sanitized the nature of his crime during the prison interview was the Brittany Drexel case.
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And Keith definitely called him on it. That episode is called The Last Walk, and you can listen to the podcast or you can watch the episode on Peacock.
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Also, as I mentioned earlier, domestic violence is often somewhere in the background of a lot of the stories we tell here at Dateline.
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So, if you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
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That's 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. Thanks again for listening.

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Episode Highlights

  • Finding Rita: A Mysterious Disappearance
    The story of Rita, who vanished after a night out with family, unfolds with unexpected connections to another case.
    “Finding Rita is about finding Rita for one thing, which took a long time and was very difficult.”
    @ 01m 07s
    March 15, 2023
  • KK's Dramatic Survival Story
    KK, a survivor of a brutal attack, shares her harrowing experience that intertwines with Rita's case.
    “It was a horrible attack. She came close to death on a number of occasions.”
    @ 03m 29s
    March 15, 2023
  • The Emotional Toll of Crime Stories
    The hosts discuss the emotional weight of covering tragic stories and the resilience of victims' families.
    “It's truly a gift to be given the right to hear such a personal story.”
    @ 14m 00s
    March 15, 2023

Episode Quotes

  • Sometimes you do.
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  • It drives me nuts.
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  • It's a great privilege to hear such a personal story.
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Key Moments

  • Finding Rita00:45
  • KK's Story03:21
  • Emotional Reflections14:00
  • Upcoming Stories14:58

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