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Talking Dateline: Deadly Entanglement

March 19, 2025 /

This episode covers the 2013 murder of Desiree Sunford in Yakima County, Washington, the complicated relationships involved, and the investigation that followed. Guests include Blaine Alexander and producer Susan Leibowitz.

Josh Mankiewicz and Blaine Alexander discuss the case, focusing on the suspicious behavior of Desiree's husband, Scott, who was military trained and present at the crime scene. They analyze his actions and the implications of his military background on his behavior during the investigation.

The conversation shifts to the intricate relationships surrounding Desiree, including her friendship with Paige Blades and the dynamics of a throuple involving Scott. Blaine shares insights from interviews with friends of Desiree, revealing concerns about her marriage and the role of infidelity in the case.

They also touch on the text messages exchanged between Paige and Desiree, which hint at deeper connections and possible motives. The episode raises questions about Paige's involvement and her relationship with Marty, who was implicated in Desiree's murder.

Finally, producer Susan Leibowitz joins to answer audience questions about the investigation, the Alford plea taken by Marty, and the evidence that led to the case's resolution.

TLDR

The episode discusses Desiree Sunford's murder, her complex relationships, and the investigation's twists involving her husband and friends.

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Hi, everybody. I'm Josh Mankiewicz, and we are talking Dateline today with Blaine Alexander.
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Hi, Blaine. Hello, hello. So this episode is called Deadly Entanglement. It's about the 2013 murder of a woman named
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Desiree Sunford in her home in Yakima County, Washington, and the very, very complicated
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relationship that ultimately led to her murder. Now, if you haven't listened to the broadcast
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yet. It is the episode right below this one on the list of podcasts that you just chose from.
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So you can go there, you can listen to it. You can also stream it on Peacock, or you can look at it on your DVR, which is what you should be doing,
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is watching the episode in addition to listening to the podcast and then listening to Talking
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Dateline. And if you don't have any time for the other things in your life, like your family,
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that's your problem. So go there, listen to it, and then come back here. Now, when we come back,
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Blaine has an extra clip that she's going to play for us with her interview with the woman who's
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absolutely at the center of this page, Blaine. Later, I'm going to be joined by Dateline producer
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Susan Leibowitz, who will help answer some of your questions about the broadcast from social media.
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So stick around for that. And now let's talk Dateline. All right. So one of the great things
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about this story is that from the get go, you're like, all right, well, it's pretty clearly the
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husband, right? I mean, that guy's a liar. He's acting like out of a textbook, like how to make
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the police suspicious of you right after something is happening. I don't want to go in the house,
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but I want the cops to find the body, right? I don't want to be in there. And then it turns out
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there's a whole other subterranean thing beneath the surface. You know, we kind of commented at
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some point that viewers will need literally a notepad to write down all of the people and how
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they're related and arrows and kind of like a playbook, right? Because once we get into this,
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and once we really start diving into this marriage, and then there is another woman,
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and then there's another man, and how are all these people connected? It takes a lot since it's
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kind of pulled together this very convoluted motive. But yes, from the very beginning,
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investigators looked at Scott and said, what in the world is up with this guy? I mean, this man
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was somebody who is military trained. He's a tall gentleman. He was carrying a firearm at the time.
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Not only is he proficient in firearm use, but he had a gun on him. And they're wondering,
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why not go into the house? And when I spoke with Detective Johnson, and a number of people were
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saying, listen, if I thought that there was something wrong with somebody that I cared
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about in the house, there's not a force on earth that would stop me from going inside.
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Particularly if I were armed. And yes, and military trained, right? So that screamed suspicion from the second they got.
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to the crime scene. And then the suspicion only grew. There was the scene, and I think that
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this was something that really struck with a lot of people, but where he was talking to himself in
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the interview room and telling himself to stay calm and keep cool. You know, the red flags were
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just piling up, right? Moment after moment, everyone's looking at him. In the Jodi Arias
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case in Arizona, the cops leave the interview room for a few minutes and she starts doing yoga poses.
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And I was thinking about that when I watched him because I'm like, man, you know, the talking to yourself and all the body language.
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You do think to yourself if this guy did it, he didn't think this part out terribly well.
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Yeah, it's interesting because nobody knows how you're going to act if you find yourself in a police interrogation room.
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Right. Hopefully you or I never find ourselves in that situation. But if we did and we didn't do it, you would think that you wouldn't have to kind of whisper to yourself to stay calm and to keep it together.
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I think that, you know, if you're in that kind of traumatic situation and you had absolutely nothing to do with it, the natural reaction is you're going to be anguished.
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You're going to seem anguished and upset and miserable and scared and horrified and realizing, you know, one, that this person you loved is gone.
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And second, like they're looking at you for it when you had absolutely nothing to do with it.
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I think there are some very natural reactions, but what he exhibited are not among that selection of natural reactions.
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That looks like somebody basically coaching himself. And this might be a good time to mention it.
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Never charged. Yeah, never charged. Never charged. This, I think, I'm sure that Susan Nall, who is the keeper of the official Dateline Institutional Memory, will inform me that I am wrong.
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But I do not remember a story in which previous military service and trauma experienced on the battlefield came back, in which that was a factor in determining how someone might behave in a stressful situation.
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Yeah, it came up in several ways. And so he was deployed to Iraq. He spent time in Iraq, served in Iraq.
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And afterwards, one of Desiree's friends said, you know, this is somebody that she had known since middle school.
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And she said that he seemed to be acting different. But also, when I asked one of the friends about perhaps, you know, he's seen a lot of things that you or I or most of us have never seen on the battlefield. Was his response just kind of a downplayed response when he found out that his wife was killed because he had seen so many things? Was this a defense mechanism? Was this somebody who was just naturally stoic? And she said that she believed that, yeah, that's kind of who he was to a degree.
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Yeah I mean I think that one of the things that we sort of don know a lot about is how that kind of trauma and that kind of stress affects people when they leave military service and return to private life Despite that there are clearly people in this story who think he knew what had happened
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Maybe he didn't do it, but he knew what had happened. Yeah. We spoke to three friends who have known Desiree through almost her entire lifespan, going back from middle school through high school to early marriage to, I mean, the day she was killed, right?
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Some think that, yes, there was a conspiracy to get her out of the way. Like others are just like, you brought this woman and who brought this man into Desiree's life and all of it ended with her dead.
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So you bear some responsibility as well. But again, never charged. I mean, when he says, you know, I decided not to come back until the next morning.
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I think, oh, and then I stayed the night with a friend. Who was it? Well, it was a friend of mine named.
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Well, let's see. We go through my Rolodex. I mean, yeah, come on, dude. When I asked the investigator about that moment, of course, that was a big turning point for them, right? Because it was, okay, you're out with family, you're staying with family. Wait, now we have a new name. Okay, and wait, it's a woman's name. Okay, and wait, you stayed at her house, right? So suddenly this kind of kicks things into a whole different level. And as you know, investigators then have to spin off on, let's dig deeper into this marriage.
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We've had throuples on Dateline before. This is not the first time that's come up. But it certainly added to the intrigue. And when you start hearing about that, that's when I think like, oh, wait, everything I thought I understood about this maybe is a little bit wrong because now there's somebody else involved. But then it turns out there's a whole layer beyond that.
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And one of the big pieces in this whole thing, Josh, is what exactly was this relationship, right? Scott and Paige made it seem as though everybody's happy. This is kind of a cozy little throuple, if you will. But then when you look at those text messages, it was very clear. Desiree at some point grew tired of Paige being in their relationship. She was very concerned about her marriage to Scott.
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When I spoke with her friend Michelle, they would go on walks around the school, and that was something that came up often in their walks, just concerns about the health of her relationship and not being able to talk to her husband about it.
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And I should mention, too, we reached out to Scott. We tried a number of ways to get him to talk with us.
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He would not. He's remarried now and didn't want to talk to us for this episode.
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I'm asking you this, admitting beforehand that without talking to Scott or Desiree, we might not know the answer here.
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But you think Desiree's infidelity maybe gave Scott what he thought. I got to pass now.
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Well, and this is an important nuance. And so Scott was in basic training when Desiree had her infidelity.
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It was before he was deployed to Iraq. It was also before they were married. And so I put that in there because it's not apples to apples.
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Nobody should cheat on anybody. Not a great idea, but certainly not while they were married is when that happened.
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Which is an important distinction to some people. When we return, we will have an extra clip from Blaine's interview with the woman at the center of this extremely complicated, weird case, Paige Blades.
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Paige texts Desiree, I'm fairly convinced that in the event of your demise, I would be the chosen one.
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First of all, when you're that age, right, you don't talk to your friends about like, you know, if you die, what is going to die at that?
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What are you talking about? That's not an age where you think about people dying and you replacing them.
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I just thought that was really weird. And the other thing I thought was really weird was Paige's text saying, I've been wanting to do away with you because she was done away with.
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She ultimately was. You know, the text messages, I have to say what Paige said. One, she said that she didn't remember it clearly, but she said what she believes was that they were talking about life insurance or arrangements or something like that.
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And then I pushed her on that. I said, you know, we have all of the 40 pages of text messages or something.
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The context before, the context after has nothing to do with life insurance or anything like that.
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It kind of goes on to talk about Desiree saying she would be upset if there were anything sexual that were to happen between her husband and Paige or if they were together.
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In talking to Paige, Paige says that it was actually Desiree who invited her to live with them.
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I think that diving into those text messages, there was a portion in there where, though they never explicitly said it, certainly kind of alludes to the fact that there was a more than platonic interaction between Paige and Desiree at some point.
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But it's also very clear that this wasn't an ongoing, long-lasting relationship between the two of them.
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There were people you interviewed who clearly suspect that Paige either knew more than she was telling or was involved to a greater extent than she is sort of given credit for by law enforcement.
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But it's Paige who points the finger at Marty, right? I mean, so you got to ask yourself, I mean, if she did this, if she wants Scott all for herself and says to her friend Marty, who will do anything for her, hey, you need to get rid of Desiree for me, it's kind of counterproductive to call up the tip line anonymously and say, you know, here's Marty.
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Because if you're going to do it to save yourself, then you go in with an attorney and you say to the district attorney, I need a deal here, which is I don't have any charges and I'm going to tell you who it was.
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But she doesn do that She just calls the tip line and hopes that the cops will focus on Marty And that suggests a lack of any responsibility and a desire to have somebody brought to justice
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Good point. One, not everybody is as savvy as you are, Josh Mankiewicz. Not many people might have thought to go in and say, hey, I need an attorney.
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First squeal gets the deal. Very true. Go ahead. That is very true. But, you know, in talking with Paige about this and questioning her a number of different ways about this, she says and maintains and believes that she put her safety on the line to essentially help bring Desiree's killer to justice.
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That because she ratted on Marty, spoke about Marty, turned him in, that he has reason to be angry with her.
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He's going to be getting out of prison in a few years. And so, you know, she is concerned about that.
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This feels like a good time to listen to your extra sound that you brought up that did not make our episode.
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This is your interview with Paige, and let's listen to that. Considering the fact that he will be out in several years, are you concerned personally about Marty getting out of prison?
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Absolutely. That has been a concern since day one. You felt like he could possibly hurt you?
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Absolutely. Even though he was doing so many things for you, even though he was a friend, he was helping you in so many ways.
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Was your savior in many ways. Any amount of safety that I felt surrounding Marty or any of the assistance that he had given me was shattered when it turned out that the information that I had was helpful to detectives.
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It was life changing. It was shattering. Very, very odd relationship between Paige and Marty.
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Paige, I asked her about this, right? I said, what would you describe him as? Friend?
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I mean, they were coworkers. They worked at the same place. Her mother had actually set her up on a blind date with Marty.
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Thought that this was a stable guy. He's making money. Might be a good guy for you.
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She said, okay. She was doing her daughterly duty, as she put it. went out on a date and then kind of thought, okay, great, it's over. Bye. Marty didn't see it that way,
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according to Paige. And so that plus the fact that they worked together, she said she was trying to
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make things not awkward. And so when he would say hi, she'd kind of keep going and talking with him.
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But that kept growing. But what's interesting is Paige said that at some point she was in a very
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difficult situation that she was trying to leave, whether it was a relationship, I'm not sure,
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but just a difficult situation. And Marty was giving her the money to do that, right?
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Like helping her financially, helping her make a deposit on a new apartment, helping her with gas money, helping with groceries, with a car, things that she couldn't have done on her own.
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And she said because she was so desperate. At first, she was uncomfortable with it.
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But, you know, always the arrangement was, hey, I'll pay you back. She said she did pay him back for some of that.
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But again, all of it goes beyond the normal kind of scale of a friendship. Well, it's this sort of odd devotional relationship in which he's making, he's probably made it clear to her a hundred times, you're the only woman for me, even though you're not interested.
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And even though he was married, even though he got married. I'm going to always carry this torch for you, even though, right, I'm in another relationship.
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It doesn't matter. You're the one for me forever. I can only imagine that taking advantage of that, you know, to get out of some terrible relationship that you were in, which is the situation Paige describes, and sort of encouraging the Marty in that relationship, you know, to sort of like, okay, well, now I am leaning on you for something, right?
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That's a very awkward, that's a difficult choice to make. And I'm sure Paige is probably looking back on that.
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Well, she is. I mean, it's, you know, I wondered if there was any point at which she was disturbed with this relationship.
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And she said, I mean, he would say things like, you know, I would do anything for you or, you know, his undying love.
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He professed his undying love for her, those types of things. I said, how did that make you feel?
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Yeah. She said something like he worships the ground I walk on or something like that.
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She said that's a police. And so, you know, that brings forth just the questions of how did you feel in all of that?
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And she said, yes, it was awkward. It was weird. But at some time, I mean, at many times, he was literally the only person she had to turn to.
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You know, she was a single mom at this point. She says she didn't have many friends, any other friends.
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So that was kind of her resource. I felt bad for Marty's wife, Beth. I did. Who just sort of was a kind of an unwitting passenger in this story.
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Yeah, I did, too. From the beginning, she was very concerned about Paige. And by concerned, I mean, Marty made Paige the best man, quote unquote, in the wedding.
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Beth didn't like that. Didn't like it any more than Desiree did, probably. Didn't like it any more than Desiree did.
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And she was already kind of seeing, okay, there's this other woman. But amidst all of those things, never did Beth, and in her telling to me, never did she think that police were going to show up on her doorstep and say, hey, we're arresting your husband for murder.
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Or we're questioning him, then arresting him for murder, right? So that was something that completely caught her off guard, understandably.
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Obviously, she's divorced him now. She's moved on. She's got a new boyfriend. But she said this was a very difficult thing for her to get through, to get over afterwards when she just kind of thought about her own judgment and all of this and how she was, like you said, unwittingly brought into all of this.
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Quite a story. Quite a story. This was an interesting one. Blaine, thank you. Absolutely.
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So good to be with you, my friend. And when we come back I will be joined by Dateline producer Susan Leibowitz and we will answer some of your questions from social media
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Okay, I'm back with the producer of this episode. Susan Leibowitz is here to answer
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some questions of yours from social media. Hi, Susan. Nice to see you. Hi, Josh. Always good to see you.
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This was a very complicated episode to put together. Tell me about how difficult this was.
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It was difficult because there were a lot of different players because this investigation went a lot of different directions.
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And we had to follow every direction it went in and get people to talk about each of those things.
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And even on social media, I saw people were just saying, there are so many people in this episode.
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All right. We have some audio questions from the audience. Let's listen to those.
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First is Wendy Barron on Facebook. Hi, Blaine and the rest of the Dateline family.
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I just wanted to say that the last part of the show, Blaine, when you stood with your arm around Kayla, I think that just brought the level of compassion and empathy in your show to a whole new level.
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And I thought it was amazing to see. My question this week is regarding the unknown DNA that was found under Desiree's fingernails.
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It was stated in the beginning that they had actually found unknown DNA that did not match any of the suspects.
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Was this followed up on at all? Does law enforcement have any theories as to where this unknown male DNA came from?
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they have no idea whose dna it is and they have no plans at this point to follow up on it she
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didn't go out that saturday on friday she was with her friend michelle who's in our episode
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they were running around trying to find a place where she could find a printer because she had to print out documents for insurance because they'd been broken into so
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she was running around on friday maybe she touched somehow picked up some male dna the
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cops at this point we asked them about that and they have no plans to follow up on that dna as
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now. Next question is from Latasha McClellan. Hi, Blaine. I'm wondering how did Desiree's family
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feel about the Alfred plea being taken? No one who knew and loved Desiree was happy about the
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Alfred plea. Their family was not happy, but they felt they had no choice. It's very rare
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that Alfred pleas are taken and frequently like no one's happy with the Alfred plea.
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Right. Lynn Wallace from Facebook says, did Marty mention anything about Paige putting him up to
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the murder of Desiree. I'm wondering why he wouldn't dime her out if she put him up to this.
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Also, did Scott go to any part of Marty's trial? Okay, answering the second part first, there was
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no trial. There was just that sentencing hearing, and Scott is sitting in the back with his dad. I
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looked at the footage, and there he was sitting in the back. So he definitely was at the sentencing
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hearing. He did not speak like her mom and aunt and other relatives. Marty never said Paige put
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him up to this. I mean, if he had, it would be, this case would have gone in a different direction.
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He just. Right. Because he would have been a witness against Page and she would have been
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charged. But he never admitted he did it either. So if he had, that would be sort of admitting it
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like, Hey, Page put me up to it. Because an Alford plea does not require admission of guilt,
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just that there is sufficient evidence to convict you. Correct. And I wrote to him to see if he'd
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tell me something. He did not want to tell me anything. You wrote to Marty. Yeah. Marty, I
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emailed through that jail email and he said to leave him alone and he wasn't going to say anything.
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He knew what the truth was, but he wasn't going to share it with me, basically. Felicia's 1908, who was a friend of mine in real life, writes in and says,
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Paige really wants us to believe that she can't remember telling a friend that she wants someone gone permanently.
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Well, you know, we can't fact check her memories. So, I mean, she did remember some things.
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She didn't remember some things. One of our producers who met with her thought, you know, that she legitimately doesn't remember things due to her own issues.
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But who knows? I don't know. Work Right Calm says hard to believe Scott and Page aren't mixed up in this.
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Somehow betting Scott and Page wanted Desiree dead. Page manipulated Marty into doing the dirty work.
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That's certainly the popular theory. And there isn't anything actually to support it beyond suspicion, right?
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That's correct. They couldn't find any evidence. I mean, when the digital evidence came in, they spent a long time pouring through every text, every bit of digital communication between those two, and they didn't find anything that in any way indicated they were tied to the murder.
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And the physical movement of their telephones around the area doesn't tell you anything either.
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The phones were where they were supposed to be. Susan, thank you very much. Thanks for coming on Talking Dayline.
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Thanks for having me. And thanks to everybody for listening. Now, remember, if you have any questions for us about our stories or any case you think we should be covering or pretty much anything else, you can reach out to us on social at Dateline NBC.
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You can also do it that way. And don't forget to tune in this Friday. Andrea takes us back to the very chilling murder of a doctor in central New York.
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It's a good story. Thanks. See you Fridays on Dateline on NBC. Thank you.

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Episode Highlights

  • Deadly Entanglement
    Exploring the complex relationships leading to Desiree Sunford's murder.
    “It's about the 2013 murder of a woman named Desiree Sunford.”
    @ 00m 11s
    March 19, 2025
  • Suspicion on the Husband
    Investigators immediately suspect the husband due to his suspicious behavior.
    “From the very beginning, investigators looked at Scott and said, what in the world is up with this guy?”
    @ 02m 14s
    March 19, 2025
  • Paige's Text Message
    A chilling text from Paige raises eyebrows about her intentions.
    “Paige texts Desiree, I'm fairly convinced that in the event of your demise, I would be the chosen one.”
    @ 08m 56s
    March 19, 2025
  • The Unknown DNA
    Questions arise about unidentified DNA found at the crime scene.
    “They have no idea whose DNA it is and they have no plans at this point to follow up on it.”
    @ 18m 14s
    March 19, 2025
  • Marty's Silence
    Marty refuses to implicate Paige, raising suspicions about their relationship.
    “Marty never said Paige put him up to this.”
    @ 19m 54s
    March 19, 2025
  • Chilling Murder of a Doctor
    Andrea revisits the unsettling murder of a doctor in central New York.
    @ 22m 23s
    March 19, 2025

Episode Quotes

  • This might be a good time to mention it. Never charged.
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  • What are you talking about?
    Talking Dateline: Deadly Entanglement
  • I thought that was really weird.
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  • It was life changing. It was shattering.
    Talking Dateline: Deadly Entanglement
  • I felt bad for Marty's wife, Beth.
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  • It's a good story.
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Key Moments

  • Suspicion Grows02:14
  • Chilling Text08:56
  • DNA Mystery18:14
  • Marty's Silence19:54
  • Dateline NBC21:57
  • Voicemail Invitation21:58
  • Social Media Interaction22:14
  • Doctor's Murder Story22:23

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