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November 10, 2022 / 26:44

This episode discusses the life and crimes of Michael Bruce Ross, featuring insights from journalist Martha Elliott. Key topics include Ross's troubled childhood, his time at Cornell University, and his eventual conviction for multiple rapes and murders.

Martha Elliott recounts Ross's early life on a farm in Connecticut, where he learned to care for chicks and faced a dysfunctional family. His desire to escape led him to Cornell, where he began stalking women, culminating in his first murder.

The episode details Ross's criminal activities, including the rape and murder of several women, and how he was eventually caught. Elliott discusses her long-term investigation into Ross's psyche, revealing his struggles with mental illness and sexual sadism.

As the narrative progresses, the episode covers Ross's trial, his sentencing to death, and the complexities of his relationship with Elliott, who interviewed him extensively. Their conversations reveal Ross's conflicting feelings about his crimes and his desire for redemption.

The episode concludes with the details of Ross's execution in 2005 and Elliott's reflections on the moral implications of capital punishment, especially in light of Connecticut's eventual repeal of the death penalty.

TLDR

Michael Bruce Ross's life, crimes, and execution are examined through journalist Martha Elliott's perspective and experiences with him.

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Phoebe Judge: This episode contains violent  content that may not be appropriate for everyone.
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Please use discretion. Martha Elliott: He grew up with farm life. And at the age of  about 8, he was called on to start taking care
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of the chicks that were delivered, one-day-old, to  the farm each day. Which involved getting up early
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in the morning, turning on the water, making sure  they're fed, checking on them, caring for them,
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until one would show signs of having some disease  or might not be developing right or had signs that
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it wasn't going to be a good layer. And then his  job was to take that little chick who he'd been
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caring for and wring its neck and kill it. Phoebe Judge: Michael Bruce Ross was born in
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July of 1959 to an egg farmer and his wife  in Brooklyn, Connecticut. We're hearing
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his story from journalist Martha Elliott. Martha Elliott: He really didn't like that.
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I mean, he didn't like killing the chicks at  all at first, but he did it because that was
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part of his job. And he did that, and he became  a very hard working farm boy who did everything,
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learned to fix everything on the  farm, cleaned out the chicken manure. Just about every job that you could  think of Michael did. And he wanted to be a
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farmer more than anything, and he wanted  to go to Cornell more than anything. Phoebe Judge: He applied to Cornell and  was accepted. He planned to study in their
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School of Agriculture. But he wasn't just  excited about college, he was very eager
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to get away from his family. Martha Elliott: His family was extremely dysfunctional. And his mother had  some mental problems. And he, in high school,
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was really not allowed to date. He was not  allowed to really do much of anything and
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getting off — out of her grip was just his goal. Phoebe Judge: He did escape his mother's grip,
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moving to Ithaca, New York, in 1977, where he  tried to fit in. He joined a fraternity, he tried
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to date. But it didn't work. And it was at Cornell  that the aspiring chicken farmer from rural
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Connecticut began to stalk women. By the time he was 28, he was on death row and seemed to believe
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he deserved to be there. Martha Elliott would  spend 20 years of her life trying to figure
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out how he got there, and whether Michael Ross  really did believe that he deserved to die.
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I'm Phoebe Judge, this is Criminal. Martha Elliott: He would just walk behind them, lone women.  And he said he fed off knowing that they knew
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he was behind them and feeling their fear.  And then that escalated, and he finally
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grabs somebody and eventually he rapes someone.  And then just a few days before he graduated,
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he raped and murdered his first victim. Phoebe Judge: The woman's name was Dzung Ngoc Tu,
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a 25-year-old graduate student,  at Cornell to study economics. Michael Ross was not caught, and after  graduation, he got a job as an insurance salesman,
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and he continued to rape and murder women. Martha Elliott: Often he would try to gain
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the upper hand with a woman, come up from them  from behind, and put a belt around their neck
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or something else around their neck, and gain  control of them. That didn't always happen,
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sometimes he just gave somebody a ride and then  drove them to someplace where he killed them. But
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he would grab them and then tell them to take off  their clothes, and then he would rape them. But
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according to the psychiatrist who I talked to,  it was not the rape that gave him the orgasmic
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release, it was the actual murder. And that was  how he had sexual pleasure, which is — when your
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sex drive gets connected to the wrong thing, you  sometimes do things that are not within the norm
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of what we would expect of Homo sapiens. Phoebe Judge: Over the course of her research,
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Martha Elliott came to believe that Michael  Ross was suffering from an extreme form of
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sexual sadism disorder. And Martha thinks  he knew he was sick. He said he'd been
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struggling with excessive masturbation and  violent fantasies since he was a child.
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Martha Elliott: I think he wanted to be caught.  He had been trying to come up with a way to kill
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himself. He couldn't turn himself in because  that would be too humiliating for him. And so
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he finally, one day, in broad daylight, saw a girl  walking down the road and turned his car around in
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a almost screechy, tire-squealing manner. Stopped  it, ran across the road, grabbed her, pulled her
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into the woods, and raped and murdered her. Twelve  people came forward who had seen him or seen his
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car, and then it was easy for the detective to  narrow down who could it possibly be based on
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proximity and where the cars were parked. Phoebe Judge: The police searched through
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thousands of DMV records before they tracked down  a car registered to Michael Ross and arrested him.
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He eventually confessed to killing  eight women and raping most of them. Dzung Ngoc Tu, Tammy Williams, Paula Perrera,  Debra Smith Taylor, Robin Dawn Stavinksy,
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Wendy Baribeault, and his two youngest victims,  Leslie Shelley and her friend, April Brunias.
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They were only 14 years old. [Somber music.] The trial lasted almost six months. The jury  deliberated for 87 minutes before returning
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a guilty verdict. The next step would be for  the jury to decide Michael Ross's punishment.
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The death penalty was on the books in Connecticut,  and so would be an option for the jury,
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but it hadn't been used in decades. The defense  argued that Michael Ross could not be executed
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because he was mentally ill, a sexual sadist  suffering from borderline personality disorder.
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Psychiatrists for the defense testified to this,  and Michael Ross's father and sisters described
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his disturbed childhood. The prosecution argued  simply that Ross was a brutal rapist who tortured
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women and murdered them to cover up his crimes. Martha Elliott: I had moved to Connecticut in the
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fall of 1983, and he was arrested in June of 1984.  There were no reports of serial killers out on the
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loose, but of course, when you see a headline that  says a serial killer was apprehended, you're sort
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of relieved. And I didn't really give him any more  thought till I heard the verdict in his trial,
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which was that he would be executed by electric  chair. And that very much upset me, because I
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didn't even know Connecticut had a death penalty,  and I was brought up believing that all killing is
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wrong no matter who does it, including the state  of Connecticut. And I really did not want my state
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to be using my tax dollars to execute somebody. Phoebe Judge: But Connecticut requires all death
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sentences to be appealed to the state Supreme  Court. And the defense argued that big mistakes
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had been made during the trial. Most importantly,  the prosecution psychiatrist had actually agreed
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with the defense that Ross was mentally ill, but  that was hidden from the jury. In 1994, the state
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Supreme Court ordered a new penalty trial, not to  address whether or not Michael Ross was guilty,
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but whether or not he should be on death row. Martha Elliott: He then wrote a long piece for
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the Hartford Courant Magazine in which he said  that he didn't want the families of his victims
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to have to go through another trial and he was willing to accept the death penalty. And I read
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that piece, and then I wrote to him and asked if  he'd be interviewed, thinking, "Well, is this guy
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serious? Is he depressed? What's he really up  to?" And also, I think, in the back of my mind,
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wishing that he wasn't going to do that because  I didn't want Connecticut to execute anybody.
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And I was the editor and publisher of the  Connecticut Law Tribune at the time, and
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this was a great story. I mean, who says "kill me"  when you get a reprieve from a death sentence?
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[Music.] Phoebe Judge: The first time she saw Michael Ross face-to-face  was September 28th, 1995, in a courtroom.
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He turned around, smiled at her and  mouthed, "Are you Martha?" She nodded yes. Death row inmates were only allowed to make phone  calls in the evenings and only to landlines,
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not cellphones, which meant Martha would  have to give her home phone number, which she didn't really want to do. She  had a teenage daughter and year-old twins,
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so she gave him her fax line  number to avoid the possibility of her children answering his call by mistake. Martha Elliott: It took me from the fall until the
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end of April to gather all the information that  I thought I needed and write the piece. And I
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really wanted to be done with it then, because  I had these nightmares of rape and murder,
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and I just was ready to move on. Phoebe Judge: When Martha talks about nightmares of rape and murder, she wasn't  only thinking of Michael Ross's victims.
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She herself was attacked when she was a student  at Williams College. During her junior year, she
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went into a friend's dorm room, heard a noise, and  found a man standing in the closet behind her.
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Martha Elliott: And I backed up, took a step  backwards. And I forgot that there was a
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ottoman in the middle of the floor, and I tripped  over it and I found myself in a prone position.
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And for the next hour I fought him off, and I  was almost ready to give up. And by that time I
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really thought he was going to kill me, because  he was not responding to anything I said. But
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her roommate came in, and with that he just let  me go and ran out the door and he was caught.
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Phoebe Judge: Martha said she went through a  period of being afraid, afraid of someone in the
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closet, someone under the bed. And that it went  on for a number of years before she got married.
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She says she had buried that traumatic memory  for the most part, until she started working
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on this magazine piece about Michael  Ross. And her husband brought it up, and basically said, "What are you doing?" Martha Elliott: And said that I was chasing
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demons. And when he said that, I knew exactly  what he was talking about. And it then made me
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fearful and agonized. And I finally decided I had  to tell Michael — and this was before I'd finished
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the story and why I decided I had to tell him —  because I didn't want him to think I had an ax to
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grind, if he ever found out somehow. And I told  him, and that actually was important because it
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made it so that every time I talked to him, I  didn't think about this experience. If I hadn't,
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it would've been in the back of my mind  every time I picked up the phone. Phoebe Judge: What did he say when you told him? Martha Elliott: He said, "I've caused enough pain.
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If this is causing you pain, you never have to  speak to me again, and forget about writing this
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story. And I'll just never call you." Phoebe Judge: So he was respectful of the experience you had gone through? Martha Elliott: Extremely, and really caring,
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and we never spoke of it again. It was like,  it was mine to bring up and if I wanted to talk
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about it I could, but I didn't. Phoebe Judge: You were really in it thick with him, it sounds like. Martha Elliott: I was no longer terrified of him
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or even the idea of him. And so I felt comfortable  saying whatever I thought with him, and he knew
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that. One time he said to me, "I forgive Mr.  Shelley," who is a father of one of the victims.
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And I just got very upset and I said, "Who do you  think you are, forgiving Mr. Shelley? You have no
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right to be talking about forgiving Mr. Shelley.  Mr. Shelley may want you dead, but you have
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nothing to forgive him about. He has everything  made to forgive you. And, forget about that."
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And he totally backed off of that sentiment. Phoebe Judge: In 1996, Martha published her
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article about Michael's wish to be executed. But  Michael kept calling and calling every week.
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Martha Elliott: I didn't have the heart not  to take his calls, because I knew there are
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very few people in the world he could call. And  he became my kind of community service. I was
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listening to his problems and issues and legal  concerns, et cetera. And just being there on
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the other end of the phone, I figured it was the  least I could do for this lonely man on death row,
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who was likely to lose his life. Phoebe Judge: Martha says it took her a long time to admit to anyone, even herself,  that the two of them had become friends.
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And from her point of view,  his remorse was very real. Martha Elliott: He didn't want to be remembered  for the worst thing he ever did. He wanted to
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somehow make his last act one that, in his mind,  was noble, that he was saying, "End this now. End
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their nightmare, just let's go. Kill me and make  it all stop." And that was his way of trying to
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explain to the families that he was sorry for what  he had done to their loved ones and to them.
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[Intense music.] Phoebe Judge: But if he had so much compassion for the families and didn't want to make them  endure another trial, why was he publishing essays
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with dramatic titles like "Why I choose death  rather than to fight for life" in publications
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ranging from the Utne Reader to the Journal of  Psychiatry and the Law? For years, he wrote a
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monthly newsletter called "Walking with Michael" that was mailed to a list of subscribers and
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later published online. If he was so sorry,  then why not disappear from public view?
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[Intense music.] In April 2000, a new jury convened to determine whether the death penalty was appropriate. They  deliberated for nine days, and like the jury
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before them, chose the death penalty. Michael  fired his lawyers and told the judge he wasn't
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going to fight anymore. He wanted to be executed.  But it didn't matter if Michael Ross didn't want
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to appeal. His lawyers intervened against his  wishes, arguing that he was not competent to
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make that decision because, they argued, he was  suffering from what's called "death row syndrome,"
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a suicidal level of despair thought to be caused  by long-term confinement. The appeals and hearings
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and psychiatric evaluations went on for years. Martha Elliott: Michael became needier and
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needier, and was calling every day  and all day. And I had not really understood the impact that it was having on  my family, until one morning. At this point,
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my two youngest children are twins and they were  in the fifth grade, and my son had the lead in
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the fifth grade play. And he couldn't find his  script, and they were required to have their
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script with him every day. And he's the type of  kid that always wants to do what he's told. And
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so he wanted me to make a copy of his sister's  script. So I was at the all-in-one printer,
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fax, copier, and I'm trying to make a copy  and the thing dies on me. And I say, "James,
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I can't do this now, I'm on the phone." And Michael is talking to me, telling me
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about being examined by a doctor to see if he's  healthy enough for execution. And he's very needy
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and wanting to talk. And James is saying, "Take  me to Kinko's and make a copy." And I'm saying,
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"James, I can't now. It's too late,  and I'm on the phone." And he just got hugely angry and he flounced across the  room, threw himself on the couch and said,
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"You are the worst mother in the entire world. You  like a serial killer better than your own son."
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And that cut through the heart. And I got the  message really clearly that I had abandoned
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my children to talk to this man. Phoebe Judge: That you were paying for, too. You were paying for all these phone calls. Martha Elliott: Oh, I was paying for it through
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the nose, because those calls that you get from  death row — or from any prison — costs you about
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15 bucks a call. And so, in one month — I had  three lines in my house. One was dedicated to the
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fax, and that was the line he normally called on,  but then I had two other lines. And in one month,
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just one of those lines had a bill of $900. Phoebe Judge: In May of 2005, the court found
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Michael Ross to be mentally competent and  scheduled his execution for May 13th. Martha
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took a red-eye from California so she could be  there to spend time with him before the execution.
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And just a few hours before he was set to die, she  was able to go in and see him one last time.
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Martha Elliott: And I said, "I wish  I could give you a hug." And he said, "Tell the kids..." Because he, by that time,  knew my children and knew about them and had
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been hearing about them for 10 years. He  had given them a book, Ferdinand the Bull,
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which as you probably know, is the story of a  bull who is very peaceful and who gets stung
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by a bee and then goes crazy. He said, "Tell  them to read Ferdinand and think of me."
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Phoebe Judge: An interesting choice for him to — Martha Elliott: Yeah, I thought so, too. Because I
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think it was a message of how he viewed himself,  that he had triggers that would make him act a
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certain way, but that he was really not that  person. And I told him I would miss him and I
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would miss our conversations. And that was it. Phoebe Judge: Just before 2 a.m.,
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the victims' families were escorted into  the viewing area of the execution chamber.
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The viewing area was separated into  three sections: the victims' families, the media, and then Michael's witnesses. Martha Elliott: What you looked at was this
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big window that behind it, on the other  side of the window was a blue curtain. And so it was reflective with the curtain  pulled. And I could see Mr. Shelly's face
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very clearly in the reflection on the  window. And I thought, "Oh my God, when they pull this curtain, Michael  is going to just totally freak out."
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And they do open the curtain, sort of  like a drama theater or a puppet show feeling to it. And there he's lying on the gurney,  and they had it positioned so that his head was
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looking at the people who were his witnesses so  he could see a friendly face before he died.
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However, he did not open his eyes. He  kept them shut while he was lying there. He refused to give a final statement because I  knew he probably wouldn't do it because he was
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afraid he would break down and cry during it.  And he didn't want to insult anybody or have it
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misconstrued or have people quoting him and  make it sound like he was self-centered. He
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just knew that whatever he said, it wouldn't be  enough. How do you say "I'm sorry" when you've
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done such dastardly things? So he just said,  "No, thank you," when the warden asked him.
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And there's three drugs that you get. The first  one is supposed to anesthetize you and make it so
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you're unconscious. The second drug paralyzes you  so you couldn't blink an eyelash if you wanted to
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or tell anybody that you were still conscious.  And the third drug basically burns through your
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veins and then stops your heart, and basically  would feel like you were being choked to death
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because you couldn't breathe and... Et cetera. Phoebe Judge: How close were you to him?
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Martha Elliott: Maybe 7 feet away, something  like that. Not too far. And it was totally
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quiet. And it took several minutes, maybe 15  or 18 minutes. And then finally they pulled the
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curtain and then announced that he was dead. Phoebe Judge: He died at 2:25 a.m. on May 13th,
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2005, at the Osborn Correctional Institution  in Somers, Connecticut. He was 45 years old.
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Martha Elliott: I held it all together until I  walked out of that room. And the head priest for
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the whole correctional system of Connecticut,  Father Bruno, was standing there and he goes,
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"Martha, I don't know how you did that. I could  not have stood there and watched that." And that
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of course was all I needed to start crying. Phoebe Judge: After the execution, Martha drove straight to the  airport and flew home to her family in California.
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She walked into her house, exhausted and  overwhelmed, and greeted her children.
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They tried to take her to Disneyland to cheer  her up. Her feelings about Michael Ross are
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as complicated today as they were when she  first met him, wondering whether Michael
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Ross's wish to die was an act of atonement  or, along with the many essays he published,
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an attempt to tell the world how to view him. Martha Elliott: There's no emotion that we have
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that is completely pure, I don't think. I  mean, he had never read A Tale of Two Cities,
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but to me, that was exactly the way he  thought of himself. Like Sydney Carton, the unscrupulous lawyer who goes to the guillotine  saying, "It is a far, far better thing I do today
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than I've ever done before," because this was  his act of redemption and will make people
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realize that I'm not so bad as everybody says I  am. Now, did it have that effect? Not really.
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[Percussive music.] Phoebe Judge: Connecticut repealed it's death penalty  statute in 2012. And last year, the state
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Supreme Court said it was unconstitutional to  execute the remaining inmates on death row.
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Michael Ross was the first person  executed in Connecticut since 1960. And barring any legislative  changes, he'll also be the last.
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Criminal is produced by Lauren Spohrer and  me. Audio engineering help from Rob Byers.
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Special thanks to Jack Hitt. Julienne Alexander  makes original illustrations for each episode of
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Criminal. You can see them at thisiscriminal.com,  where we also have a link to Martha Elliott's book
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about Michael Ross, The Man in The Monster. Criminal is recorded in the studios of North
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Carolina Public Radio, WUNC. We're a  proud member of Radiotopia from PRX, a collective of the 13 best podcasts around. Radiotopia from PRX is supported by the Knight
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Foundation and MailChimp, celebrating  creativity, chaos, and teamwork. I'm Phoebe Judge, this is Criminal. Jingle: Radiotopia. From PRX.

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Episode Highlights

  • The Life of Michael Ross
    Michael Bruce Ross, born to an egg farmer, struggled with his family's dysfunction and his dark impulses.
    “He wanted to be a farmer more than anything.”
    @ 01m 29s
    November 10, 2022
  • The Transformation
    From aspiring farmer to death row inmate, Michael Ross's life took a dark turn at Cornell.
    “He began to stalk women.”
    @ 02m 18s
    November 10, 2022
  • A Complicated Relationship
    Martha Elliott navigates her complex friendship with Michael Ross, a man on death row.
    “I didn't have the heart not to take his calls.”
    @ 14m 18s
    November 10, 2022
  • The Execution
    Michael Ross was executed in 2005, leaving behind a complicated legacy and emotional turmoil.
    “He died at 2:25 a.m. on May 13th, 2005.”
    @ 23m 31s
    November 10, 2022

Episode Quotes

  • How do you say 'I'm sorry' when you've done such dastardly things?
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  • There's no emotion that we have that is completely pure, I don't think.
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Key Moments

  • Childhood Trauma01:46
  • Dysfunctional Family01:46
  • Cornell Stalking02:25
  • Death Row Confessions06:09
  • Final Moments20:49
  • Emotional Complexity24:40

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